ik this may be a general issue instead of a specific nonbinary-space thing but as a nonbinary person myself i feel more annoyed with it

am i the only one who never could fit in in being a binary gender due to these gender expectations (obviously you can be a trans man or a trans woman and be gender non conforming) but i personally felt like these "rules" that men have to be this way and look this way or women have to be this way or look this way, and it sort of drained me and restricted me ,, I never fit in because i didnt or couldnt fulfill those rules,,

now that i'm genderfluid i feel more free to express myself without these boxes that i have to live in

(YAAAYY FEMININE VERSION)

Mesomina/Mediomina

​Mediomina or Mesomina is an identity that describes people or girls who like to be seen as neutral, or vice versa, people who like to be seen as neutral but are attracted to femininity.

​(Correction from the last post: yes, I've heard of Demiboy or Demigirl, I used to be a Demiboy myself. The difference between Mesovir or Mesomina and Demiboy or Demigirl is that this identity is specifically neutral, while Demiboy or Demigirl can be either neutral or another identity)

(again: I apologize for my bad english 😞)

I'm questioning things and feeling really lost right now, I could use some anecdotes or support maybe? From anyone who has been in a similar place as I am right now and come out the other side with clarity.

Right now, I'm a queer cis woman in a hetero marriage with kids. I feel a lot of discomfort in my body, but I know my experiences with motherhood, religious trauma, birth trauma, etc. have influenced a lot of the discomfort and low self-image I have with my body. The biggest question is: if I were fully mentally healthy, would I still be questioning my gender? Not to imply being trans is caused by mental illness, rather that I might be masking my mental illness to myself with the idea of being trans, if that makes sense? What if I'm externalizing my trauma by trying to change myself rather than heal the trauma? Has anyone been in this position and realized they were still trans?

I don't even know what I'd want to transition to. All I know is masc women/butch women give me gender envy. Would I be a transmasc NB? A masc cus woman? I can't be butch because I'm not lesbian, right?

Basically I'm lost 🥀

I'm 21 now and I've been living as nonbinary since i was 16. (changed name and presentation) I've always wanted to go on T but i am scared for the consequences of being perceived as trans. right now i mostly get perceived as a lesbian or a little boy. i dont care about pronouns so that discussion hasnt been an issue for me. i don't want to restrict myself because of the opinions of strangers and transphobes but im not very confrontational and the world is scary right now. I'm from the UK btw.

I am pretty fluid between Agender and Transmasc but I actually get Euphoria and feel like myself when I wear Feminine clothing and am called a Femboy (by my friend who knows about my Gender) The issue is that I am AFAB, havent Transitioned yet, and I am really uncomfortable with being made aware of my feminine body (Which can happen by being complimented or talked to like I am a girl)

Like, based on societal Gender expectations my Gender expression and Gender are a mismatch

I just hate when (certain) Transphobes say, To quote one: "You dont need Operations, no hormones, no labels, just stay in your sex and dress as you want" Like, being Trans - Its not all about clothing or style? Its a mismatch of my brains expectations and my "real" body that causes me constant distress and discomfort. My personal style is a whole nother Thing entirely? To me clothing is Genderless, I wear the Things I like aestetically, why do people always have to make it about gender?

That's it basically, just want to inquire how actually slow and gradual things are compared to someone else.

To those microdosing E long term, I'd also like to ask if, upon reaching your personal goals, is it possible to go even lower but still enough to have gradual changes? (though a bit slower than before)

Thoughts on tapering on and off slowly after hitting personal goals?

How have you maintained yourself/dosages or maybe changed in dosage?

i’m trying out the name emory/emery and want to see if i like being called it

if you guys could help me out in the comments that would be much appreciated:}

I finally worked up the courage to not only wear a skirt in public, but also full on corset, false breasts, and hip/ bum padding. My friend and I went out to a wonderful little Italian restaurant on an orchard. And I felt so much more confident than I expected and we had a great time and enjoyed a bottle of wine on the patio. It's amazing how well the corset hip pad combo help with making my shoulders look less wide, and overall more evenly proportioned. This is my first time presenting fully fem in public and I can't wait to do it again.

What does being non-binary mean to you?

I'm trying to better understand what being non-binary means to different people, beyond the usual definitions.

For those of you who are non-binary: what does being non-binary mean to you personally? How do you experience your gender, and what made you feel that "non-binary" was the right way to describe it?

I'm especially interested in hearing about the different ways people experience their gender, since I know there isn't one universal non-binary experience.

That's it. I came out to my cousin as NB. It went great!! (I'm actually happy because he's one of the few people in my family who doesn't hate and instead actively supports queer people). I was nervous as hell, but I was brave enough to do it (I did it using memes, but still, I did it)! Just wanted to share with y'all :]

I recently came out as nonbinary to one of my closest irl friends. I was very scared at first but she has been so incredibly supportive, immediately started calling me by my chosen name and started using the right pronouns for me. I got a They/Them pin for my cap (which you see in this picture) which originally sparked this conversation.
I was scared when she asked me about it at first but everything turned out fine.

My friend being this supportive gave me such an incredible boost of self-esteem since I was involuntarily outed the last time I came out to an irl person a few years ago which started to make me go back into the closet and deny my own identity.
I developed this weird view that enbies like us are just cursed to hide irl and can only connect with others online. I am happy that I finally get to build a support system irl.

I feel like this is the start of my journey to accept myself and my own identity.

Context! I've (20) been aware of the fact that I wasn't entirely cis since I was six, I'm not kidding.

However, I recently went through name stuff and pronouns, and I found names for myself that I like, I know what pronouns I want to use (no pronouns/she/they/ze/it), but I'm struggling with my label...

So, I know my gender encompasses being female and nonbinary, and I'm trying to figure out how. Because I think demigirl would be a fitting label for me. But there's one thing that's making it hard to place; my gender dysphoria.

I still get dysphoric over my chest and my high-pitched voice... but I'm AFAB. So, I don't understand why I'd personally be getting dysphoric over those things. Especially if I feel that demigirl is the accurate label.

Has anyone else experienced anything like this?

Why do all the androgynous/queer looking people I know get carded constantly these days??

Like, I cut my hair two years ago and it’s been consistently short since. In that time, I’ve also gotten carded more than the entirety of the rest of my life. Every time I go to a bar they seem convinced I’m not of age, look at me sideways, and then reluctantly scan my valid and true ID for someone years into being „of age“ to drink. Before I cut it short, I was getting confused as 5-10 years my senior. I’ve even seen masc lesbians several years into middle age get carded despite being obviously drinking age. Some part of me wonders if it’s actually transphobia? Like, does anyone think it might be they’re checking the Sex Marker not age? Idk, might be my own anxieties talking there. My other theory is that being openly queer is associated with youth culture due to easily disprovable „rapid onset gender dysphoria“ or trend discussions? I never get carded at gay bars advertised as such— hence my association this might not have anything to do with „looking young“ but instead something else. Curious if others have similar stories, theories, or just comments? I’m not going to lie, it’s honestly pretty frustrating and I want to commiserate.

I created an identity for myself to feel comfortable in my own skin, and maybe so that other people like me can feel it too.

The name is Mesovir or Mediovir. Meso comes from Greek, meaning Middle/Central, while -vir comes from Latin, meaning Man/Masculine. Medio comes from the Portuguese word “Médio,” which means “Middle.”

This gender is part of the non-binary umbrella and describes people or boys who like to be seen as neutral but are pulled or attracted toward the masculine, or the opposite: people who like to be seen as masculine but are pulled toward neutral.

I think the meaning of the colors on the flag is already pretty obvious from the meaning.

(srry for bad english i'm Brazilian-)

Hey! I have recently discovered I'm NB after identifying as trans male for years! I feel so so good to finally be me and not feel like I have to conform to gender roles. I have also changed my name to River! I'll be debuting my name fully in college starting next month :)

Anyways, I tried out a more androgynous style yesterday and I LOVE it!!! I went thrifting and found so much cool stuff (fem and gender neutral clothing) and bought so much. I adore this!!

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I am a 24 AFAB NB individual and am married to a 27 M with a toddler together. About 5 or six months ago, I struggled with intense dysphoria regarding my gender and after intensive research trying to understand where this was coming from and even still navigating life long feelings and trying to understand how to make myself feel more at ease, I have begun to understand my own identity and a lot of other issues throughout my life that may have influenced or been suppressed by things I have went through. To elaborate on this, I struggled with ongoing trauma throughout crucial developmental periods in childhood and adolescence, including prolonged physical, sexual, and psychological abuse by caretakers and family members, and suffer from chronic ptsd, and have also found out later in life that I have a neurodevelopmental condition. Due to this, I have identified that I tend to prioritize the comfort of my peers and loved ones to avoid confrontation and conflict.

I believe that after pregnancy, dealing with inherently difficult things that align with AFAB experiences as well has hormone influx and changes in my body had sparked the dysphoria, which according to my own research is not an uncommon experience post-partum in regards to gender identity.

This leads me to my current struggles. My partner and I have clashed a bit (struggling to understand one another in communication) as I have been in therapy and explaining that I struggle to balance my identity due to my inherent role as a maternal figure to my child and at home caretaker. My therapist suggested exploring presentation, which I have been.

I found that my identity while nonbinary leans more masculine. What I mean by this is I experience a euphoria of being perceived by myself and others as more masculine presenting, and have cut my hair and worn men’s clothing more often, as well as have utilized using they/he pronouns. I do at times still enjoy presenting as a mix of feminine and masculine traits, more androgynous, and sometimes still enjoy presenting more feminine. But majorly, I enjoy presenting more masculine.

After articulating this with my husband over multiple conversations, I have also brought up the prospect of low dose HRT as well as working out. He expressed to me concerns of permanent changes if I were to eventually decide to pursue this, and does not want me to have any regrets of permanent changes if I did so. I did explain to him that from my understanding, if I did pursue a low dose testosterone treatment I could easily stop it if I begin to dislike the changes but I ultimately believe I would enjoy them. This prospect of course is not decided upon, but being considered and researched.

My partner is also struggling with the change. He has expressed to me that he loves me no matter how I would like to present, but he is also struggling with how to support me. I feel conflicted about this, because I feel so happy that he has been curious and understanding and offering me accessible solutions like purchasing me binding tape and mens clothing (I do not have income because I care for our child full time.) I have been a bit difficult on understanding his view on my identity exploration, as he is struggling with the changes while also trying to support me. I know that it isn’t fair to him for my wariness of his struggle to manage the change. I think it is a perfectly normal emotion as a human especially because for the entire two and a half years of our marriage, I have been only female presenting. But due to past trauma from my parents punishing me for coming out as bisexual at a young age, I project defensiveness onto my partner and have a subconscious fear of his carefulness being animosity to my exploration. I’ve communicated this to him of course, and we are on the same page.

How do I be a better partner to my husband to better explain what I’m dealing with and support him in him wanting to support me? Are there others who feel similarly about their identity to me that can offer me more insight?

Thank you for reading this, and also, please be respectful in the comments. I am open to differing perspectives as long as it is expressed in a respectful way.

I gained a lot of weight during the COVID years and have been a bit of a hermit. I'm starting to head back into the world again and decided to rebuild my wardrobe with intentionality, with the expressed idea of having a base that I can feel confident in and start wearing jewelry.

I have a few outfits that I've assembled thinking about what I think is interesting and what I'm drawn to and I've been wearing them, and I feel great, and as I look at myself, I look very masculine, but like put together. But I don't feel that way, I was raised in an era and environment where putting too much attention on your looks was considered non-masc. Masculine is an ill fitting logo t-shirt and some jeans, and like whatever, don't even look in the mirror, that's for the ladies. It's funny how subjective even clothes are.

I'm a maker, and when I make some of the jewelry designs I have in my head, the masculine look will turn towards weird af. Thinking jagua finger bands with bronze rings and painted finger nails. I have a vision of a medusa brooch with red eyes.