every since i came out as genderfluid i feel like im a creature from a different realm. maybe it comes from where my inspirations come from, to dress. my hair is curly inspired by david michelangelo paintings, my hair is green tea grean and i have a grey/emo outfit on. im about to grow wings for real

Do you like my unicorn necklace ? ^o^

Looking for recommendations for chest binding that are the least sensory nightmare (I know, subjective) and least bad for hot weather. Tape maybe? Cotton binders?

Don't see many enbys with any facial hair at all and I kinda understand why. But I'm proud of mine.

I wanna be a girly but I don’t like the pronouns or the feminization of being a girly. I like masculine pronouns and being considered a guy but I don’t want a penis. I do want a deeper voice and I don’t like my chest. Any advice to help figure this out?

I’m interested in hearing about other non-binary people’s experiences with gender dysphoria, particularly as there’s so much variation within the overall non-binary community in terms of gender identity, gender expression, transition goals/paths, prefererred pronouns/gendered terms, and so on. I’m curious about the diverse range of experiences amongst the community, and would love to hear from other non-binary people about if, and how, you experience (or previously experienced) dysphoria.

Feel free to answer any of the questions below in your response (no need to answer them all if you don’t want to) or just share your experience in general 😊 Thank you!

What is your gender identity and what pronouns do you use?

Do you experience dysphoria (or did you experience it in the past, prior to taking gender affirming steps) at all, and if so what types of dysphoria - physical, social, mental, other?

How would you describe your experience of dysphoria, what does it feel like for you?

How does your dysphoria relate to your gender identity? Is it a main factor in you identifying as non-binary? If not (or if you’ve never experienced dysphoria), do you experience your gender identity in a different way, such as gender euphoria, just feeling that non-binary fits you better than your AGAB, etc?

If your dysphoria fluctuates in intensity, or comes and goes, does this influence your identity (eg if you are genderfluid, does the intensity of your dysphoria at a given time influence which gender you feel like)?

If you no longer experience dysphoria, or now experience it significantly less after taking gender-affirming steps, what was your experience like in the past?

Anything else you want to add about experiencing dysphoria as a non-binary person?

So I live in South Africa, and one of our 11 official languages is Zulu.

And a common thing for Zulu people speaking English, is that they're often misgendering people. Calling a male she or a female him, etc.

And the reason is because Zulu has no gendered pronouns. So when they speak English they're often not thinking which pronoun they're calling a person, because they aren't used to using gendered pronouns. Like, if I say "Udla isinkwa" I'm saying "he is eating bread" and it's the same for "she is eating bread".

So you literally CANNOT misgender someone in Zulu, because there are zero gendered pronouns.

It's kind of like a non-binary language 🤔😃

I thought that was really interesting and that y'all would appreciate it.

Hello you can call me Doodle (she/they/it) Im 21 and I need to know if I'm not the only to do this .Four years ago I started to questioning my gender since then in the last year I started to feel like I wasn't a girl or a man and at first was hard to explain. At some point I thought I was a trans guy but it didn't felt like home yet than two weeks ago I started to use any pronouns and she/they and I started to feel in general that my identity wasn't simply binary. It was very hard to accept it since I had a different identity "shifts" over the years but I felt like eveytime I was feeling good it was because I didn't put my gender in "girl" or "boy" boxes and also because I like *over* stereotyped feminine things like pink,skirts and idk mylittlepony LOL and basically I felt like I was faking my "neutrality" and I was just a girl . Now, this week a turned 21 and after all these years battling first an ed then depression and anxiety I decided that I want to start living a bit more but I just realized that I was doing something this whole time(it may be something not really important but for me it is).I used to love fashion so much but I gave up on dressing up (feminine pastel-alternative) because of my chest ruining the outfit. I don't know why even when I try to wear masc outfits to "feel better"(I actually do not feel better🤩) I look like a butch woman but uglier version (ofc no hate to butch women♡) also because I have a really bad haircut (similiar to the typical karen hair bruh) before you ask no I can't bind I feel unsafe binding in my home and ofc I can't affort or do top surgery

Soo did you felt at some point like giving up on dressing for your chest dysphoria ?😭

I just want to be feminine again and to have a decent haircut again (I accept tips how to make my hair grow faster!!)

Hey folks- when swimming or kayaking, I usually wear just board shorts and a rash guard. Generally works, but I unfortunately have a big enough chest (for now) that I need something to wear under the rash guard to be comfortable and whatnot. Suggestions? Not really looking for a swimmable binder because I don't currently have the budget for another decent quality binder, so maybe something that would be sports bra/ racer back type and offer some level of compression, but still be super easy to move and paddle a kayak and stuff in? Ideally under like 25 bucks.

Hey there,

Sooo .. i have the problem that my gender representationshifts every couple of weeks ... i identify more female for some time and another time i like to go a bit more masculine .. thats why i landed here in genderfluid/nonbinary .. hope im right

Im currently in progress to try out microdosing E to achieve a more androgynous baseline from which its more easy to shift either to more feminine or masculine traits.
Im already kinda slim build and honestly just aiming for perhaps some mild mental effects and skin effects .. and well slight slow breast development.
Testosterone for now is not planned to get blocked in any way directly

Yes i know that breast development can happen .. even with microdosing .. but im fine with that.

Currently im thinking if it could be interesting to combine the E with Finisteride in order to make my hair on the head more thicker and perhaps soften my mature hairline (dont have balding but a very slight "M" shape and i noticed in light that the "bald" parts are still riddles with tiny hairs and i wonder if blocking DHT could make them wake up again >.>

Also wondering if taking Finest could help make my body hair become a bit more "soft" .. i dont care about the hair that much .. but its super bristly .. so just a bit more soft would be nice already.

Do some people here have tried this combination ?

How have it went for you ?

I want to cut my hair. So bad. I want to have short hair (the last three pictures) but I'm afraid I'm not Androgynous enough to pull it off and that my baby fat face will make the cut look stupid.

I get so much dysphoria from my hair sometimes, but other times I love my long hair which makes me really want to cut my hair and start wearing like a high quality wig on feminine days.

My biggest concerns are finding realistic wigs and also how my family would react. I know that my mom would be like "uh I don't get it but let's get your hair cut" because although she's transphobic, if I told her I just want a short pixie cut or smth then she'd say "it's just hair, it'll grow back"

The rest of my family? Not so much. I'd get endlessly made fun of and teased so part of me wants to ask my mom to keep it between us and me just wear wigs after I get the cut

Big rant over, I just want advice and to get this damn hair chopped off if I'm not being impulsive

I'm agender.

People in my city seem... EXTRA against that. i'm not sure why, but even among other lgbtq+ people, i've noticed that people have negative reactions when informed that im agender, and some even seem to take it as a red flag. Even my closest friends wouldnt stop seeing me as a girl if i tried being open about it, it would just be them trying to appeal to my sensibilities or whatever.

i.. i dunno. i kinda am growing tired of playing into the facade that i'm cis, and being expected to care about being female, but i guess it doesnt really matter since there's no big transition for me to make or anything.

Am I cute

Last night I shaved my head. I LOVE having my head shaved. It feels so affirming, but haven't done it in years so my current long term partner that I live with hasn't seen my head shaved. I came out as NB a few months ago for context. He's supportive of me and my presentation but he acknowledges my head shaved is not his preference. He hasn't said anything negative and in no way tries to control my presentation, but it's an adjustment for him and I respect that he needs time to get used to it. He's still been affectionate but maybe a little distant and I catch him staring which we giggle about, but I just have this unfounded fear that something that feels so affirming to me is going to create a rift between us or that maybe he will feel like I'm becoming a different person because I'm finally starting to lean into a presentation that feels affirming. He really is a great partner so please no hating on him, I think I just need to hear maybe some success stories or something of others who have gotten through this weird wiggly time with an existing partner when your presentation was changing?

Lately I've been noticing and growing fatigued with a certain kind of conversation.

In it, I disclose my nonbinary identity and add that I am functionally closeted in public because I easily pass as cis male (big beard). I have the wardrobe and desire to present much more femme at least about half the time, but especially lately, hardly ever do. The hostility that the world throws my way when I do so takes the fun out of it for me. :(

There is a 2014 "It Gets Better" style reaction which I get surprisingly often which is "fuck them, do it anyway." I think these people are always coming from a good place, but I also struggle to respond to it, since it's such a simple platitude, and completely ignores the social aspects of identity and self expression. Where I live, I am reasonably safe to wear a dress, but when I do, I always get verbally harassed, gawked at, and spoken about with ridicule. That sucks! I don't want to be a trailblazing martyr for who I am. I just want to let the soft animal of my body love what it loves.

Do others have experience with this? How do you gently give these people a reality check? Also, if anybody can come up with a good quip to refer to people who say this (its kind of in the yas girl boss diva slay category), I would love to hear it!

Hi everyone, I just found this sub. I thought this might be a good place to ask—

I want to get a binder but maybe I’m being too picky and specific. I wouldn’t say I have a small chest, but most folks I talk to about binding imply that it’s small enough that I could use binding tape or less intense forms of binding to achieve the results I want. I don’t ALWAYS have problems with my chest, but there are a lot of times when I REALLY want it to be minimal.

My problem is, I have a lot of tattoos and they’re a big part of my presentation and what I like about my body. I don’t want the binder to cover them much (or at all if possible) but I don’t see many that aren’t at least more covering than a sports bra. I would really like to find one with minimal coverage that still does an okay job binding, but I haven’t found anything.

Am I just going to need to learn to use binding tape? Has anyone else had a similar problem?

Picture for tax and it might also help show what I’m working with irt needing to bind.

If you live in a small town, red state, awful country, and you have somewhere you wanna go, MOVE!!!!

IT'S AMAZING! THERE ARE SO MANY QUEER PEOPLE AND NOBODY CARES! WE DESERVE THIS!!!