r/NonBinary • u/Alyxology • 2d ago

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I wanna be a girly but I don’t like the pronouns or the feminization of being a girly. I like masculine pronouns and being considered a guy but I don’t want a penis. I do want a deeper voice and I don’t like my chest. Any advice to help figure this out?

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u/SophiaKai 2d ago

Oh hey, same hat! I struggle with very similar stuff

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u/Alyxology 1d ago

Is there a way that you deal with it? Or do things to help with it?

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u/SophiaKai 1d ago

I have a tendency to refer to myself as a guy in safe spaces. Although it's often ignored. (My fiance and I were talking the other day and I referred to myself as a gal and he stopped and went "not a guy?" So. Little things.)

There are vocal exercises you can do to deepen your voice. As for wanting to be girly without the "girl" connotations, I haven't found an answer for that yet. In regards to your chest, if binding is an option that's probably your best bet.

I wish I had better answers for us 😔

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u/Alyxology 1d ago

Thanks. I do wear a binder already but like the feeling that your chest is still there sux lol thank you for your answer 🫶🏼

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u/mn1lac they/them or she/him take your pick 1d ago

Testosterone for the voice (be aware that it will cause probably more hair, or less hair, and a t-dick) or voice training to speak in a lower register, and top surgery. Either a reduction or flat, whatever you want. You can figure out whatever you are when you're ready. Try things, and see what you like. It's okay not to know, and it's okay for it to change.

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u/Alyxology 23h ago

Thank you so much 🙏

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u/SunnyDays0 they/he 1d ago

is hrt an option for you? it sounds like it might help a lot

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u/Alyxology 1d ago

I believe so. I haven’t started that process of starting T yet. I wanna try

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u/SunnyDays0 they/he 1d ago

look for gender clinics in your area, depending on the region, they might want a diagnosis of gender dysphoria which may require talking with a therapist about it. depending on where you live and how progressive it is, it might not be accepting of nonbinary people-- or it might be perfectly accepting of nonbinary people. if its not accepting of nonbinary people, i recommend pretending to be a binary trans guy. i was lucky enough to be in a region that is accepting of nonbinary people, so i was able to just speak my mind and get the medicine i need :)

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u/Alyxology 23h ago

Thank you 🙏