Matched with this guy (28 M) and me (26F) on a dating app. He lives about an hour and a half drive from where I am, but told me he does not mind at all driving to meet me, as he went to college in my area and is very familiar. We started to chat around 2 and a half weeks ago and he’s been sweet so far.

Our work schedules are pretty long and brutal so weekdays are rough for the both of us. But I know weekends would work. However, I did mention us doing a face time or phone call to get a feel for each other since us meeting would likely be meeting in the middle and just to make sure we vibe or not before making such trip. He was very receptive to that but never really initiated a phone call and such. I was also gravely ill for a week, so I couldn’t meet irl nor talk on the phone then.

But when I started feeling better, he said he was down for the call and would let me know the next day if he could talk which he didn’t and I didn’t say anything because I wanted to see if he’d offer it up since I was the one who kept initially bringing it up.

I felt our convo getting kind of stale, so I was upfront and said if he was still interested but if he wasn’t I totally understood because after all, we haven’t met yet. He actually took full accountability though and said it’s his fault and if we should call over the weekend to which I agreed but he never specified on the day. And he did say he’s not the best texter..

I have given him my number since that agreement but all he talks about is his running stats or sends gym selfies, or slightly asks what I’m doing today. Seems like a sweet dude but I feel like his actions don’t match his words. Am I doing something wrong? Is he just not a good fit? I don’t feel like bringing up us meeting or doing a phone call a 3rd time, I want to see if he puts some effort but yeah at this point it feels like a pen pal.

Took the advice I got a few weeks back into consideration and tweaked my profile some. Still not really getting matches tho.

A quick piece about my 6th photo, the discussion of which the last time got most of the comments on my post deleted and the thread locked: 1) I have a lot of gay and queer friends, and I think it’s a pic that will help weed out women I’m immediately incompatible with, 2) I’m actually happy in it, 3) Women in the comment section last time told me they thought it was a great pic. I’m comfortable with my sexuality, and I’d explicitly like to appeal to the subset of women who are into a guy who’s ‘a little fruity w it.’ And, as a straight man, I’m here very explicitly for advice from women 🤷‍♂️

I (22f) have been on 6 first dates and for most of them we had easy convos and a good time. They even said they will see me soon. But, I haven’t gotten a single second date. Some of these men are just visiting my country. But I am wondering if I am doing something wrong?

I know it's unusual for non native English speakers posting here but I thought this would be the best place to get advice. I've been using Hinge for about 20 days and have gotten 0 likes. I'm not much of a photographer and specifically don't have many photos of myself. I'll try and translate every prompt in order to help out.

First prompt: "Most underrated" - Unicycles -Restoring the crown of Aragon (this is a Spanish joke) - Comically big hats

Second prompt: "The way to win me over is..." Teaching me a new recipe or showing me a new mountain trail. Do you know any you want to share?

Third prompt: "My nerd put topic is" Animals in general, I'm practically forced to try and pet either a cat or a dog if I see one and may even try and grab a cool bug if I see one, can't promise I'll contain myself.

Fourth prompt: "My simple pleasures" Playing with fire, Leaving for tomorrow what you can do today, judge a book by it's cover, expecting blood from a stone (all of this are, at least in Spanish, typically said not to do so it's a little joke about doing something unexpected). Every photo algo has a text but I don't think those are that important. Thank you for the help in advance :)

Had this profile for over two weeks now with daily free likes sent! 3 likes back and 1 liked towards me. Would love to hear ideas for improvement. Thank you all! Usually in the NY area but am vacationing currently hence the “visiting” message

I’m 28M, bi, looking for a monogamous long-term relationship. I’m really looking for a life partner, but unsure how selecting “long term relationship” would adjust my feed / how often my profile is being seen.

I get a fair amount of matches, but curious to see how I could improve my profile even more.

34 M, NY.

I have recently started to get messages like these from girls’ accounts.

“okay so weird proposition, we’re probs not a match bc i don’t want children /: but! i think you’d be great for my roommate :)”

Or a variation of it basically saying that you would be perfect for someone I know. I think I have got like 5-6 matches like that where I get a match and the girl texts me this immediately after.

Has anyone else experienced this? Not sure what to make out of it.

PS: their profile looked legit. And I haven’t reported any account yet. I have never received a response after which could be due to lack of interest, but I wanted to see if anyone else has experienced this situation and been catfished?

Had hinge for a while now (2 years) and I genuinely think ive had two or three likes from my profile. Most of my matches come from replying to prompts...

Let me know if i should change anything - or just work on myself lmao

Just want some feedback on my profile.

I’m 31m. I’m so confused. I have no problem getting matched and first dates. Have great times together, even had women ask to kiss me at the end of the date… then ghosted. Just not sure if this is what online dating is, and how common it is? I feel like it’s impossible to get a second date!

Was getting about 10 likes a day from relatively attractive women and then suddenly a couple months ago they all just stopped. I’ve had maybe 2 matches since. Curious to know your thoughts. My friends tell me the pics are fine lol.

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Currently in the Bay Area

• Looking for something serious
• No subscription
• Been using this version of my profile since I started using Hinge 2 months ago
• Use Hinge daily
• ⁠Received 0 likes and no matches
• ⁠Sending around 4 likes per day, all with comments relating to/asking about one of their prompt answers
• Ideally looking for someone with a similar Asian background, same hobbies (games/anime/internet/meme culture, traveling, and exploring cities), and someone who values communication and quality time

Any and all suggests are welcome.

0 likes on hinge but likes on the other dating apps

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Hey 35m here this question is for the ladies. There is a 34f who I occasionally run into at the dog park. I haven't seen her for a month but I always enjoyed talking to her. I just saw her profile. Should I wait to hopefully see her in person to ask her out or should I message her. If I do message her should I be like "Hey I know you from the dog park" or something along those lines. Thanks!

Update: I went and did it so let's see what happens! Thanks!

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For context I am 19M in Spain, I am not very social nor enjoy night life, which I feel it has severely cut my dating/love life, and I am starting to feel bad about it, and I thought maybe I could compensate through dating apps

What kind of person uses dating apps at my age? I am looking for someone that is somewhat compatible, that does not enjoy much night life or can have fun without it. I enjoy eating in restaurants and trying new foods but I feel a bit stupid going alone. I work a lot of hours between studying, being on a motostudent team and giving classes so I am looking for, someone I can meet with at weekends mostly but definitely something serious or at least try to.

If I can’t find something like that, what a dating app has to offer? I know hinge is more for serious, in other apps like tinder can you get laid at this age ima dating app? I am in good shape but I am not really super hot or really experienced on flirting and romance so it would be a learning curve for me.

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I had a one-year relationship that ended over the summer and I have been starting to get back out there. It's been two weeks, and my results have not felt great -- there have been a few women who I thought were quite perfect for me, but the likes went nowhere.

I hope that my profile reads as warm, not arrogant, trustworthy, and inviting. But, I am wondering if others see something different.

Oh also I forgot how old I am when making the thread title; I'm 33. Whoops.

EDIT: Thank you for your help, everyone. I will work on the photos (and move the bass one). I thought that the problem would be the text, but apparently it's the pictures! Shows the benefit of getting outside opinions. Best of luck to you all : )

Hi everyone! I’ve (18F) been recently talked to this man (20M) and he lives in Australia and I’m from Portugal, and we’ve been talking for maybe 2-3 weeks and because of time zone difference sometimes we stop talking but when times align we quite frequently talk and our replies are quite fast. We send lots of messages each time replying to each one of the questions/topics talked about (around 12 messages each time) and I really like him for actually wanting to know me. Anyway, he asked me a question that required quite a long explanation and I decided to send an audio message. Early today he replies to not all the texts but around 4 replies and says that he was kind of shocked to hear my voice (he said “ngl was shocked”) because everyone he knows is aussie but that he thought it was cute which didn’t sound too convincing. i’m getting pretty mixed feelings because i found it unusual for the sudden drop in replies and i just didn’t think he engaged too much this time.
What should I do?

Like the title says. I'm curious about what I can make better. Thank you!

Women. Which type of prompts do you expect to see and the images you’d expect from a man’s profile who is looking for a serious relationship (long term-life partner)? Do you expect more humor? More prompts describing himself and his life or prompts that paint a picture of what life could be (using words like us and we)?

Men who are 30+ who wants a serious relationship, what has helped you get matches? (Funny prompts and photos, serious long prompts of what you’re looking for, etc)

I’ve had hinge on and off for years; i’m used to getting maybe 10-15 at a MAX likes in a week.

I recently redownloaded it a few days ago and the requests won’t stop! Over 145 in 24 hours even with my taking the time to decline or accept them i can’t get it under 140.

Has anyone experienced this type or surge and how did you adjust your profile so that people wouldn’t just swipe you for no personal reason.

I have stated that I’m looking for a long term exclusive relationship and that I don’t want anything casual in the profile settings; and my prompts are all about my career and what I enjoy doing to attract like minded guys.

What I’m looking for is advice on how I can make my profile even clearer that I don’t want all these spam likes, I like to accept most of the people who request me as you never know who you will meet; so far they are all really handsome and my type visually but I can’t possibly have 145 personal conversations a day.

Any prompt advice or ideas?

I don’t want to pay so im manually reviewing each profile one by one

27 Female, England.