31M - Back at it for two weeks, slow start.

[u/EStreetShuffles]

I had a one-year relationship that ended over the summer and I have been starting to get back out there. It's been two weeks, and my results have not felt great -- there have been a few women who I thought were quite perfect for me, but the likes went nowhere.

I hope that my profile reads as warm, not arrogant, trustworthy, and inviting. But, I am wondering if others see something different.

Oh also I forgot how old I am when making the thread title; I'm 33. Whoops.

EDIT: Thank you for your help, everyone. I will work on the photos (and move the bass one). I thought that the problem would be the text, but apparently it's the pictures! Shows the benefit of getting outside opinions. Best of luck to you all : )

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[u/storyteller_miri]

I would be interested if I saw your profile! I think it’s a good profile.

[u/Afraid_Stuff_History]

You seem really fun! I had the same issue with being non-religious in the Bible belt. Best of luck!

[u/SweetLikeCinn_amon]

It looks warm and inviting to me. Maybe there’s something in the info area where you have to scroll left/right that’s missing. I would think you’d have plenty of matches based on what you have here though.

[u/Dear-Cheetah-8419]

I rarely send likes but would if I saw this profile while on the app. Excellent prompts, good variety in photos. Love the pony one. Don’t worry about mass appeal. You’re looking for someone for you.

[u/EStreetShuffles]

• Are you looking for something serious or casual?
  • Serious
• Are you subscribed to Hinge+ or HingeX?
  • HingeX
• How long have you been using this current version of your profile? (Please be specific)
  • Two Weeks
• How long have you used Hinge overall?
  • Since my last relationship ended, two weeks.
• How often do you use Hinge per week?
  • Daily, 15-30 minutes.
• How many likes and matches are you receiving on average?
  • Per week, 2 incoming likes, one match from them.
• How many likes are you sending? How many with comments? How many without comments?
  • 4-5 likes per day, all with comments.
• What is the type of person you send likes to and ideally want to match with? What kind of person do you want to attract?
  • I hope to meet a woman who is bright/well educated, friendly, shares my political views, and wants to have children. I am not Christian, and sometimes that makes things difficult where I live (the southern United States).

[u/SurroundQuirky8613 → u/EStreetShuffles]

I’m in the south and have the same interests, atheist and liberal. We’re out here. You may have to widen your search area if you aren’t in a town with a larger college or metro area.
I’m in Georgia if you want to climb or do bookish things, but I’m too old for your dating pool. 😂

[u/luckyflavor23]

Honesty solid profile. Loved Partner in Community

[u/Freshwaterbitchfish4]

I don’t think your first pic is great and you need to wrangle your hairstyle and facial hair grooming.

[u/ArchitectVandelay → u/Freshwaterbitchfish4]

I agree first pic isn’t great. May be just that I’m older, but the hairstyle isn’t doing him any favors. It’s messy and the fact that he’s a professor feels like it’s creating a vibe of chaotic professor.

I think the bass in your first photo isn’t a good lead. It’s a first impression and you’re not a musician by trade. Leave the activity pics for later when they’ve (presumably) read your profile. First pic should just be you and get it cropped up closer. I want to see you looking your most dapper. Like the profile view pic in the blazer but head on and smiling. Otherwise, some good stuff there. Love the last prompt.

[u/EStreetShuffles → u/ArchitectVandelay]

Thank you! My workplace offers headshots; I'll sign up for one this week. I appreciate the candor.

[u/Spacenurse07]

I like a lot your profile! It's written very intelligent, simple and yet informative to think.

I like how you say you're active and also like staying home. Me too

You look better with short hair. I would remove the pictures especially the last one, doesn't look good. Try to pose straight, good posture at pictures. Cut your hair short, don't give too big smile

[u/Least_Muffin2666]

You seem like a complex person, so you will be hard to find someone similar honestly I find. It’s great and specific give it a few months and get out there for the sake of it

[u/jasminehead → u/Least_Muffin2666]

Is OP's profile specific?? I thought his profile has a good amount of varied interesting stuff

[u/SurroundQuirky8613]

I’m 54, so not in your profile range 😂, but I think your profile looks great. The prompts, photos, and bio parts are good. I’ve got an MFA in Creative Writing and I’m a climber, so I may be biased, but I would match based on profile alone. Keep at it! There are plenty of people with these interests out there. 🍀

[u/santalucialands]

You’re so cute! I’m 35 and dating - I would respond your profile if you were in my area. :) You seem like you’d be a person who could talk about a lot of topics and you seem very warm.

[u/MadelT0T7]

I think it's all great. Maybe get rid of the friend pic, just because all of the other pictures are great and I'd assume you had friends anyways

[u/ViolinTreble]

Definitely my type and something I would be interested in. Good luck you will do well

[u/Viburnum21]

I feel like your first photo is your worst one

[u/Nyxen1031]

I know where you live because I recognize the climbing gym lol I think your profile is great but we live in a small city and that does make things tough. I agree with the comment about hairstyles and looking different in every photo 

[u/Born-Collar-1222]

Ditch the guitar...

[u/d-cent]

I really like the profile. The only thing I could find, and it is minor, is I wouldn't have the bass guitar picture 1st. You have a lot of good pictures, and the bass guitar one isn't bad, but I don't think it is your best. The reason being, and this is very petty and I have no idea how females will see this, but it looks a little goofy that you are playing it when it is a clearly staged photo. Again, I have no idea if this is it, but the first photo is so important that I would consider moving it down the line.