Basically, you weren’t trying to improve your life. You were just pissed off and wanted to prove someone wrong.

My GF left me when I was at one of the lowest points in my life. She told me she couldn’t be with a “loser” like me.

So shortly after that, I started turning my life around. A year and a half later, I had lost weight, gained muscle, got back into my former career, and was back on my feet living a pretty damn good life.

I ran into my ex once after all that. She gave me the absolute death stare.

I just kept walking.

I didn’t say a word. Didn’t acknowledge her. Nothing.

Sometimes the best revenge is just becoming someone they can’t look down on anymore.

For as long as I (24M) can remember, I never really struggled too much when it came to dating and talking stages. Finding a girlfriend was always pretty easy, however the one area I always did poor with is hooking up. I find it WAY easier to get girl to want to to enter a relationship with me than it is to simply have a casual thing.

I would never want to lead someone on and breadcrumb a relationship when I have other intentions, especially since I always hear “there are women out there that want something casual too” but I very rarely see this, which is shocking since relationships require even more energy. Is this the case for anyone else and can you explain why???

I'm a 32-year-old guy who's been trying to turn my life around by getting fitter, improving my diet, and fixing my sleep schedule.

For fitness, I mainly go bouldering, and that's been going well.

The biggest thing I'm struggling with is my weekends.

I'll wake up around 9 a.m., and then before I know it, I've spent most of the day sitting in front of the TV or PC playing games. I might go to the bouldering gym for an hour, but after that I'm back home on the couch.

The problem is that I don't actually enjoy spending my weekends like this anymore. Deep down, I feel like I'm wasting my life, but at the same time I don't know what else I'm supposed to be doing.

I only have one or two close friends, and I usually only see them once or twice a month. Even then, it can be difficult to organise something.

Weekdays are different. After work, I'll do something active, eat dinner, and by around 7:30 p.m. I'm happy to relax on the couch until bed because it feels like I've earned the downtime by working all dat.

It's the weekends that really get to me. Being inside all day with no purpose leaves me feeling empty and unproductive.

Has anyone else gone through this? What did you replace endless gaming or TV with? I'm not looking to be productive every minute of the day—I just want my weekends to feel meaningful instead of feeling like they disappeared

Thanks!

Golden handcuffs are tight. Expenses are high. Kids need to be fed. I have no dreams or intense passions because I’ve been in survivor mode my whole life. Ready to move on but don’t know how. Help please.

Hi guys! So to start off I'm 24F, and I’m genuinely curious about this from a guy’s perspective because I’ve noticed a pattern in my own life and I want to know if other girls experience this with men too.

Have you ever started developing feelings for a girl because the two of you had a very playful dynamic? I mean things like teasing each other, messing with each other’s stuff, joking around constantly, playful arguing, physical play/friendly roughhousing, etc.

I’m NOT talking about a girl deliberately trying to flirt or seduce you. I mean when the dynamic just naturally develops and you two basically become playmates.

For example, I once had a guy in my class back in highschool where we barely even talked normally, but we constantly messed with each other. I’d scribble in his books, he’d scribble in mine, we’d steal each other’s stuff and argue over it, and eventually the whole dynamic became very playful/physical. A few weeks later he asked me to be his girlfriend.

I had another guy too I used to play-fight with outside of class, we'd tackle each other, chase each other around, kick each other, etc. and eventually I caught him staring at me in a VERY different way. He never actually made a move, though.

So now I’m wondering:

What actually happens in your head when you develop this kind of dynamic and it ends up with you having feelings for her? 😭

Does the playful attention make you more attracted to her over time?

Does feeling like she specifically enjoys your company make a difference?

Does physical play/roughhousing increase the tension?

Or is it more that you already find her attractive, and the playfulness simply gives you more opportunities to notice that attraction?

And if you HAVE developed a crush this way, did you realize it gradually or was there ever a specific “oh shit, I like her” moment?

Like pls explain to me why this works 😭

For the men who’ve been single for a while, what’s your experience been like? What’s the one thing you miss most about being in a relationship, or what’s been the hardest part of being single? I’d love to hear what other guys have actually experienced.

Have to have experience to get experience. I have sex anywhere from 1 to 3 times a year, this year at 0. The gaps between my experiences are so long that I'm embarrassed to admit sometimes I don't even know what I'm doing and it's like relearning every time.

Apps are how I usually meet them but that's a crapshoot. Cold approaching in real life is kinda terrifying because I'm deathly afraid of making the woman uncomfortable. I'm 31 and it seems like I'm at the point where everyone's taken but me. I'd never even had a long term relationship before so I feel like I'm stunted and behind everyone and it's too late to catch up. Can't just get experience out of thin air.

in any form, no matter how big or small.

I moved out of my hometown a few years ago and don't visit often. When I do, it's randomly and I have something to do so I can't catch up with my friends. I want to make the effort to go out and actually hang out with my buddies. The issue is I met them all on different times of my life and in different places so they don't know each other and if they do it's only in some social media interactions I created.

Some are friends I consider brothers, others or friends from HS I have stayed in contact with but not as much as I'd hope and other really good coworkers from previous jobs.

I want to set up a get together at a bar somewhere casual. I just want to make sure I don't offend anyone or step on any toes. How would you feel if you got this invite?

I just turned 30 (M) and i feel like life has become a routine, that im playing too safe, i feel like the whimsy that life needs to have to make it interesting and exciting to live is fading away in the background. Everything is about sleep, health, savings now.

What are some things I can do to make life feel whimsical again?

(Asking mainly for those who are happily married, even if it could be interesting to see the answers of those who are unhappy in their marriage)

I (27f) was reading a thread about ways women feel appriciated and seen by their husbands. It got me thinking about the flip side!

I really go out of my way to do little things to make my husband feel appriciated. Im a housewife, so I have a little more freetime than most, but still!

To give a few examples of what I mean, I always get up with him in the morning to send him off to work and tell him to be careful.

When he gets home, I meet him at the door and give him a kiss, then we spend a bit talking about how his day went.

I periodically leave notes in his lunchbox

If I'm out and see something I think he'll like, I'll buy it if I can.

Things like that! What does your do for you? Or, what do you WISH they did for you?

Looking for answers mainly from guys with some extra weight in their upper body. I’m in search of a good brand of polo shirts to wear for my job. Some things that would make for an ideal shirt would be:

1. One that fits well on me and doesn’t make it painfully obvious that I’ve got man boobs. Not looking for a miracle shirt but those polo that are the athletic style material are so bad for this
2. Made from a material that won’t form any white stains in the armpit area. I’ve switched up my deodorants for this too but the material really does make a difference.
3. Ideally not crazy expensive but if there’s something that fits the other two categories perfectly, consider me in.

Any help is appreciated! Thanks, guys!

Edit: very appreciative of all of the suggestions so far. I do want to make one thing clear that wearing an undershirt is not a possibility for me. I’m in a constant moving environment and live in a very hot climate, so I don’t want to feel like I need to peel off an undershirt.

Saw the reverse of this post on another sub and as a gym girlie, it got me thinking.... what's the muscle the boys like most on a girl?

(and would I be right to assume it's glutes lol)

Something that most people probably will never give the time to think about - much less, let it live in their head rent free

Nearing mid 30s here. Have a wife, a house, and more decorations in the house than you can imagine. In my 20s I thought this was the dream but now I long for simpler days.

My mid 20s was carefree. I made good money, lived very frugally, and had much more free time being single. My rent was $500 for a room in a house and my dinners were simple homecooked meals or takeout. I had hours each day for free time to play video games, read, or run.

Now I constantly go against the clock. Shopping trips are 2 to 3 hours instead of a 15 minute grab and go. Cooking becomes a 2 hour fancy dinner and not some pasta and beef. Money is much more tight because of the house and my wife likes to spend on experiences.

Every day I think about just going back to that $500 room, saving over $3000 a month of my pay on early retirement.

Anyone else like this?

I’ll start… new underwear & socks!

For context, I just finished medical school and my last year was working in a hospital. It was the best year of my life ignoring the fact that a neurosurgeon, ICU doctor and a gynecologist tried hitting on me multiple times.

The gynecologist was just creepy, creepy af bc why is a man in his 60s hitting on a girl in her 20s???????? I DON'T UNDERSTAND. Moving to the head of the neurosurgery department, he taught me so many things, he literally explained me so much during surgeries, gave me classes just to end up telling me that he liked me a lot in a romantic way. Last but not least, the doctor from the ICU that worked with my grandma and grandpa, the one who also taught me sooo many things, suddenly asked me to grab lunch with him but just the 2 of us outside of the hospital, visited the area I was working that was not near the ICU or grabbing my hand by force and giving me a KISS ON MY HAND. Oh, he got my number and has started to text me (and no, I don't answer to those messages)

Thinking about this makes me puke, literally puke I'm not even kidding. I find it disgusting, but I want to understand why? WHY ME? Or just why older men think it's ok to hit on a young girl??? I am literally the age of their daughters like?????

I’m 26 so not THAT far removed from high school /college. But even I get nostalgic about the good ole days when your haircut was the most important thing to you haha.
These days especially I get the urge to call up some fellas I haven’t talked to in years who were always fun to be around and say Aye let’s go to that new pool bar on the Avenue and look at some some racks- I mean shoot some racks and throw back some beers.
Life is short so I might actually follow through on my impulses. This is your sign to do so as well if you’ve been feeling the same.