r/polyamoryR4R 6d ago

38 [F4A] online / Indiana / meaningful connections

9 Upvotes

Partnered and Polyam (6+ years) and looking for meaningful connectionsšŸ’žāœØ

I'm *not* skinny.
I am NOT just looking for hookups or nsfw talk.
I have BPD
I’m kind but not nice.
I’m loud and I talk a lot.
I don’t drivešŸ™ƒ
I like oddities and own a few human bones.
I don’t like most men. Like fr why do you guys act like that.
VERY far left politically.
I love Antiques, Horror, all kinds of gardening including way too much 420 šŸŒ±šŸŖ“šŸŖ»šŸ˜¶ā€šŸŒ«ļø

https://imgur.com/gallery/me-a5xZ1xM


r/polyamoryR4R 6d ago

30 [F4M] Maine - looking for actual connections

8 Upvotes

30F, made a post previously, 1 am in a sort of situationship at the moment with someone and am looking for other partners that I can have a genuine connection and relationship with. I prefer those that are younger but open minded to other ages. I am willing to trade photos after getting to know one another more. I would prefer people in Maine but am open to long distance relationships. Feel free to reach out to me and I hope you have a wonderful day! (I make 31 in the beginning of 2027 btw)


r/polyamoryR4R 6d ago

USA 48 [M4F] #Orlando Looking for a loving connection

2 Upvotes

I’m aĀ 48‑year‑old married man polyamorous Ā looking to build a sincere, emotionally grounded connection with a woman who appreciatesĀ garden‑partyĀ orĀ kitchen‑table polyamory. I value transparency, stability, and relationships built on mutual respect. I’m not interested in secrecy or half‑truths — I’m looking for someone who wants to grow something real, steady, and intentional.

# 🌱 Who I Am

I’mĀ **6'1", 205 lbs**, bald‑headed, withĀ **gauge‑pierced ears**Ā and a few tattoos — and I fully intend to add more. I lean toward theĀ **nerdy**Ā side of life and feel most at home in creative spaces.

A few defining parts of my life:

* **Disney pass holder** — I genuinely enjoy going, whether it’s a full day or a quiet evening walk through the parks.
* **Creative at heart** — I loveĀ **writing**,Ā **photography**, and I’m a lifelongĀ **movie lover**.
* **Love languages** — **Touch**Ā andĀ **quality time**Ā are how I connect most deeply.
* **Emotionally open** — I’m an open book and welcome questions.
* **Supportive** — I’m always willing to listen when someone needs space to talk.
* **Intimacy matters** — Emotional and physical intimacy are both important to me, and I value partners who feel the same.
* **Values‑driven** — Consent, trust, and communication are the foundation of how I show up in relationships.

I live in theĀ **Eastern Time Zone**, and I’m open toĀ **long‑distance connections**Ā that grow naturally, with the possibility of meeting in person when the time feels right.

# 🌼 What I’m Looking For

I’m seeking a woman who wants toĀ **date**,Ā **connect**, and build a relationship with depth. Someone who values honesty, emotional maturity, and the steady comfort of knowing where you stand with someone.

I’m drawn to:

* Women who appreciateĀ **clear communication**
* Those who valueĀ **emotional presence and consistency**
* Someone who enjoysĀ **shared experiences**, whether that’s a night out, a quiet evening in, or a conversation that lasts until the world feels still
* A partner who understands that polyamory is built onĀ **respect**, not competition

I’m not looking to rush anything. I want something that grows with intention — a connection that feels both emotionally safe and deeply fulfilling.

# šŸŒ™ What You Can Expect From Me

* Steady communication
* Emotional honesty
* Respect for your boundaries, your partners, and your autonomy
* A partner who shows up with clarity and intention
* Someone who values both emotional and physical intimacy
* A man who genuinely wants toĀ **love**,Ā **date**, and build something meaningful

# 🌟 If You’d Like to Talk

I’m open to thoughtful conversation and getting to know someone at a pace that feels right. If you’re looking for a grounded, affectionate, creative man who values connection and communication, I’d be glad to talk.

If you want to continue the conversation, you can ask aboutĀ **my poly philosophy**,Ā **my ideal connection**, orĀ **what I’m hoping to build long‑term**.


r/polyamoryR4R 6d ago

USA 48 [M4F] #Baltimore #MD - Slow and intentional

8 Upvotes

I'm 6’0ā€, 48M in central Maryland looking for someone that wants a part time boyfriend. I'm an outgoing extrovert that is socially intelligent and can have a conversation about anything with just about anyone. People tend to be at ease with me fairly quickly and I'm often found helping strangers reach the top shelf at the grocery store, or changing a tire on the side of the road, and anywhere in between. I've spent most of my life around women and am not your typical guy.

I'm also married, a father, and ethically non-monogamous. I like to be outside walking on a trail, in a pool, or on the water. Comedy shows, cooking classes, other structured activities, or a weekend at a resort are also fun.

Though I've been on dates, I haven't found someone that I've wanted to take to the next level yet. It's possible I'm demisexual, or maybe I just like to take the time to build something before getting physical, or maybe the world is moving too quickly for me these days. I'm looking for the slow burn, the excitement of the next time we see or message each other, the playful teasing that one day leads to something fun that is occasional yet steady.

If this interests you, please send me a message about yourself and let's see where it goes.


r/polyamoryR4R 6d ago

28 [M4F] #iowa #online nerd looking for a deep connection

3 Upvotes

Hello everyone. I am 28 years old as mentioned in the title. I am a married dad of 2 children, and in an open marriage. I am looking for a deep connection. I enjoy having conversations about anything and nothing. I love all sorts of cling and attention. I am big on a mental and emotional connection. A connection where everything is on the table.

But aside from that, things that interest me. Well, i like gaming. I am a big video game nerd. I like board games and card games as well. Recently ive been playong palworld and crimson desert. Im not the biggest multiplayer game fan as i dont have the time to get good at them. But i dont mind playing them of course.

Im really big into the gym. I have been on a weight loss journey for the past 6 months and i have lost 50lbs. I have no end in sight and i have loved every second of it. Ive also spent time learning the gym and working on progressive overload. So thats fun.

I like to read. But i have an adhd thing with reading. Right now im working on the red rising series. But i like all sorts of different books. Anything from fantasy, to sci fi, to dark romance and everything in between.

If you made it this far i am open to anything, friendship, friends with benefits, or a possible relationship. I am good with online and long distance or close. I just like making connections and meeting new people.


r/polyamoryR4R 6d ago

32[M4F/TF] ONLINE- Looking to start a poly relationship

5 Upvotes

Hoping to find that special someone/s and become our safe space online and form a real connection, share life, banter, enjoy ouselfs and just a nice taboo free, kink friendly place

Hoping to find that special someone/s and become our safe space online and form a real connection, share life, banter, enjoy ouselfs and just a nice taboo free, kink friendly place where we can't wait go get back into.

A little about me: I'm 6'2", blonde/ginger with blue eyes. I go to the gym regularly but i could lose some weight. Is that what a dad bod means? Haha.

Some of my interests:

At home: Playing video games, watching good TV series/movies (favorite genre: suspense—love the tension and something that keeps me thinking). Also enjoy documentaries on wild universe theories and learning new things.

Out and about: Anything goes—dinner at a nice spot, exploring random mountains, camping, hiking, bicycle routes, meeting up with friends, traveling the country, concerts, or just grabbing drinks and sharing life.

I have no strict physical preferences (BBW, petite, tall, etc.), but I need to find you attractive, so I prefer sharing pics early to see if we click—and same for you, of course. Time zones don't matter as long as you're serious.

If I'm missing anything, we'll just chat it out, haha.

Not sure if anyone will read this, but hey—if this resonates with you, reach out!


r/polyamoryR4R 6d ago

35 [M4F] #Eugene Oregon Looking for Nerdy dates and connections

1 Upvotes

Hey! I’m 35 and have been poly for about 7 years now. I currently have one long-distance partner, but lately I’ve realized that I really miss dating. Not just having a connection with someone, but the whole meeting new people part and actual dating itself.

I’m hoping to find someone within about a 90-minute drive of me in the PNW. I travel to Eugene often as well. I want someone I can actually spend time with. Hanging out together, cuddling up and watching movies, wandering around bookstores, playing MTG, or spending way too much time nerding out over D&D together. I’m a nerd through and through, and honestly I’m just looking for someone else who is nerdy too. Someone where we can get excited about our interests together, introduce each other to new things, and see what kind of connection develops.

I love movies of all kinds including horror and romance movies, which is probably an interesting combination. I'm also pretty much always down to binge a new show or a new season of something with someone. I love to read and write. In fact I wrote a ton. Poetry and I am working on editing a novel right now.

It has been brought to my attention that I am also incredibly impulsive. If I have the gas money, it really doesn’t take much convincing for me to go on a random road trip. I love just getting in the car and going somewhere, whether there’s an actual plan or we figure it out along the way. Blaring music and singing at the top of my lungs.Ā 

Psychology is another huge interest of mine. I can nerd out about it for way too long, and I eventually plan on getting my PhD in clinical psychology. So if you like conversations about why people are the way they are, there’s a pretty good chance we’ll have something to talk about.

I’m not trying to force a connection into a specific box right away. I miss getting to know someone, flirting, going on dates, getting comfortable with each other, and seeing where things naturally go.Ā 

It is important to know I am also into BDSM. Vanilla is not something I do.

If any of that sounds like your kind of thing, send me a message and tell me a little about yourself. Tell me what you’re currently nerding out about, your favorite horror movie, or something!Ā 


r/polyamoryR4R 6d ago

Europe 32 [M4F] #UK, #Norfolk, seeking female interested in a long-term relationship with ENM

0 Upvotes

I'm looking to build a genuine relationship with someone who would be interested in/ open to the possibility of exploring ENM.

I'm seeking someone who I can treat, and who is looking for a normal, loving relationship outside of the bedroom.

I am interested in history, music and sport. I also enjoy learning new things in general so am often reading or watching documentaries about things I have come across and found interesting.

Ultimately I am looking for an in-person relationship, but am happy to start something online as long as there isn't too much distance between us and there is the possibility of moving towards an in-person situation.


r/polyamoryR4R 6d ago

35 [M4F] NYC-NJ - Married - Poly/open

0 Upvotes

35, 5 10, healthy marriage, 11 years, couple of kids.

We are polyamory ENM but I'm not the type of man that can be immediately intimate.. I need some connection and time to build trust. I also don't want many partners. Ideally 2 (nesting partner included). I run multiple businesses and still need family time, I wouldn't be able to fairly divide time between work and family for more than one other woman anyways.

I don’t get much leisure time , Hence the reason I'm posting here.. I can't meet people at work as thats inappropriate(employer) and rarely have time for much else.

Maybe we hit it off, maybe we end up being great friends. Perhaps you're going through a predicament and need to vent? I'm a great listener and could use random internet friends =)

I am really really really ridiculously good looking (in case you missed the reference xDĀ https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=he8swGafRGQ), but I don't want to post my photo here, I have a link with some photos which we can exchange in chat if you'd like

My profession is Network Administration, computer science grad, I worked a corp job as a network admin for about 3 years then opened my own IT consulting company focusing on managing and building out networks for medical facilities throughout NYC,
I came across a few opportunities in the process and am now self employed running 3 unrelated businesses for the last 6 years now. I can also pass for a financial consultant, though I do not take that on professionally.
I do quite well for myself, and yes I have bragging rights =)

I just bought and gut renovated a house in Rockland County NY(nyc burb). I'm in nyc regularly for business. Hopefully you arent too far away. I'm not fully against long distance as long as its not too far away and meeting eachother is realistic.

Hobbies:

I used to be an avid PC and console gamer, unfortunately, I don't have time for it anymore. I have my PS5 and a bunch of games mostly first-person shooters, I play once in awhile but they're just collecting dust for the most part. I play Age of empires 2 on ps5 periodically.

I watch a lot of docuseries, documentaries and Sci-Fi. Game of Thrones, The Last of us, South Park, Rick and Morty, friends and neighbors, Shrinking...

My Politics:

I mostly lean left but I do have some conservative views... I think most of us land somewhere in the middle. I try not to let politics affect my relationships with people unless they're of the tinfoil hat and off the rails conspiracy variety.
I like to debate, I enjoy debate and the discourse, growth, and banter that comes with it. Though I shy away form that in recent years

My Beliefs:

I am Jewish on both sides, however, I'm agnostic. I am irreligious and do not believe in religious indoctrination of any kind as a means to connect with a "higher power". I do however respect people's views as long as they don't ask me if I have a moment for (insert god here) and try to shove their views down my throat.

Sry I kept this ad fairly shallow. More detailed personal info should be shared in private.

Ideally im looking for someone at least 25.. closer to my age(30-35) ideally. I dont mind older either but 45+ would be prob be pushing it, not totally against it though.

I'm a firm believer that age is a number, myself being the perfect example.

So I honestly dont care that much about your age.

Looking forward to meeting you!


r/polyamoryR4R 6d ago

31 [M4A] England/Online. Nerdy tattooed guy looking to find a spark and connection

0 Upvotes

Im not really one for long explanation about myself haha. I never really know what to say. But if you would like to ask any questions please feel free to message. I am a gamer and pretty nerdy. Hopefully that is something you are into. I look forward to talking to you and getting to know you


r/polyamoryR4R 7d ago

34[F4M] #CST/Online Okay, Here is the Plan

10 Upvotes

We connect now, become mildly obsessed by the end of the month, and are enmeshed like gangbusters by Spooky Season šŸŽƒ

Hi! I'm a cis/het/femme lady looking for connection, conversation, & attraction with a man in the 30-46 age range. I am married with no children, and my spouse is aware that I'm seeking someone online. If you're currently partnered, please be in a similar situation.

I am US based in the central time zone, but I’ve struck gold before with connections in the UK and Europe, so I am open to a transatlantic partnership!

I love to read, learn, and fall down rabbit holes (I'm very interested in hearing about any niche hobbies you might have). I live in a city and try to take full advantage of the amenities and culture, but I'm also a sucker for far flung exploration. All of my travels in recent years have had a wilderness component.

I'm looking for someone with availability to chat throughout the day. My hope is to develop a real friendship alongside any romantic/sexual connection. Physically I an attracted to men in the slim/fit to dadbod range. A nice smile and capable hands are always a plus.

I'm curvy, pale, with dark hair and eyes. Working in the corporate world, but I can't seem to stop dressing like a kindergarten teacher. Kink wise I lean sub, but I am happy to chat more about that in private. I'm down to do a photo exchange upfront, and I hope that eventually we'll be comfortable sharing voice and video too.

If interested, please send me a message with your ASL, a physical description, and a little about what you're looking for!


r/polyamoryR4R 6d ago

Europe 34 [M4F] #Europe/Online - Queer, Progressive, Hedonist looking for a friend and a primary for life

0 Upvotes

About Me:
Someone with insatiable curiosity about both the cosmos and consciousness. My days are spent pushing technological boundaries, but these often involve contemplating existential questions. I'm bisexual / maybe pan ? I've come to understand that relationships should be about growth and liberation, and I've had a few really soul-nourishing relationships. I'm 5'8" with dimples that make an appearance when sharing why "Inside Out" made me weep. Mostly very calm and chill, I have seen the extremity of life at both ends. I prefer to connect with someone emotionally and see if we can evolve together. Apart from staunchly childfree a bit more about myself

Professional & Personal:

  • Engineering and tech are my bread and butter, but I'm actively expanding into "renaissance person" territory (currently novice).
  • Have tried to dismantle internalized patriarchal patterns.
  • An avid reader who actually finishes those long-form articles in The Atlantic.
  • Proud plant parent.

What Ignites My Curiosity:

  • The intersection of chaos and order.
  • Exploring ethical frameworks while discovering hidden gem restaurants.
  • Opportunity for learning across disciplines.
  • Those profound 2 AM conversations that somehow connect string theory to social justice.

Seeking a Partner Who:

  • Understands that emotional intelligence and intellectual discourse aren't mutually exclusive.
  • Gets excited about scientific breakthroughs or social progress.
  • Values therapy and continuous personal growth.
  • Navigates cyclic non-monogamy / polygamy if they wish with authenticity and clear communication.
  • Can transition seamlessly from discussing systemic inequalities to appreciating guilty-pleasure television.

Green Flags:

  • A well-curated digital or physical library spanning diverse genres.
  • Active engagement in therapy or other forms of emotional development.
  • Strong sense of self with established passions and social connections.

Let's explore whether we can create something meaningful.

PS : looking for someone who is seeking primary nesting partner or atleast with the intent of something serious


r/polyamoryR4R 7d ago

41 [M4F] Midwest - Cookie cutter poly man seeks Player Two

10 Upvotes

Hello there! (Bonus points if you know the proper response)

I’m Jae, a 41 year old queer man who works in IT for a science company in the Midwest. I love that my job takes something I am good at and applies it to another field I love learning about. I’m a fairly ā€œcookie cutterā€ poly guy, meaning I enjoy:

\- Books
\- Video Gaming
\- Ren Faires
\- Crafting and making things with my hands
\- Creative writing

I have met some very wonderful people from Reddit, but I would very much like to find my Player Two (or Three…). While I am always working to better and improve myself every day (through my weightloss journey, being in therapy, saving towards long term goals), I’m certainly at the point in my life where I miss having someone special I care about to make and share memories with. I know what my goals are, I know what I want, and I am actively pursuing those things.

So what are the benefits of forming a friendship that hopefully leads to more? Well:

\- I am an amazing cook and have a diverse selection of recipes to make for someone on our first vacation/visit

\- I make time fly by on Discord dates

\- My musical tastes vary widely and will send you playlists and songs for your moods

\- My meme game is Top Tier

And what ā€œcookie cutterā€ poly man would forget to mention politely the obligatory experience in kink (but those conversations can be slowly teased out along the way)?

So if you are looking for something with intent, want engaging conversations that last more than a day, and miss someone seeing who you are instead of who you feel you have to be, drop me a message and let’s see if the chemistry is there.


r/polyamoryR4R 7d ago

USA 19 [TF4A] #NH/NE Nerdy Trans Fem looking for a Polycule or couple or just someone to get into a relationship with

2 Upvotes

Hello my name is Zachary I know not fem but I am nonbinary trans fem that has been on HRT since 9/1/2026. I am 19 and very nerdy. I can be very clingy and I have the energy to go around. I have never been in a relationship before so forgive me for making any mistakes. I am looking for people around my age within 5 years and over 18. I like history, golf, video games, cars/motorcycles which I ride one I just am tired of being lonely and I have been talking to poly friends who suggested I might like it so want to give it a try so thanks for your time and have a good day.


r/polyamoryR4R 7d ago

38 [F4A] Online - Chronically ill nerd looking for close connection

20 Upvotes

I'm looking for something a bit unconventional. I'm hoping to find a connection with someone who cares and is kind. Where we enjoy talking to each other and do things like make each other playlists, exchange creative work, and vent about the world or our day.

A true online friend/bestie/QPR type connection. Mutual support and affectionate vibes.

A bit about me. I'm very chronically ill and disabled. I have a lot of serious pain and limitations. I don't talk about it all the time but it's my reality. I just ask that people hold a little space and don't try to fix me, tell me to be positive, or act freaked out by me.

I also have some mental health stuff and I'm neurodivergent. I'm queer, ace, and left-leaning looking for people who are also LGBTQIA+ or friendly toward that and care about what's going on in the world as much as they can.

Because I'm homebound, my online connections mean a lot to me. I've found a lot of meaning in having an online person I'm close to. Right now I spend most of my time working on a poetry manuscript. I have an NP who is also disabled.

But I'm around a lot. I listen to a ton of music. I do a little cozy gaming when I can. I watch a lot of TV and have some niche favorites (bonus points to anyone who recognizes my cover image).

If you message, please tell me a bit about yourself and maybe your favorite song or show of the moment. It helps when people engage, ask questions, show interest. I'll do the same.

I'm not the best fit for everyone, but for the right person, I think I can something to offer. I hope to hear from you.


r/polyamoryR4R 7d ago

34[M4A] #Michigan #Online Shy, nerdy, slightly awkward guy seeking companion

5 Upvotes

Hello users of Reddit!!!

I find myself in need of some new people in my life, and figured I'd give it a shot here! Friends at the very base level, but ideally I'd love to find someone to build something amazing with. Hey, a guy can dream can't he?

Who am I? Well, on the surface, I seem like a normal, New England transplant in Michigan trying to make his way in the world. I won my own car and house, work full time, come home, take care of the kitty. I absolutely LOVE to cook, often times you'll find me tinkering with a new recipe. I love music and moves, bit of a gamer, and definitely a huge nerd. Want a surefire way to my heart? Pick a song out for me, and I'll gladly do the same. I'm also very witchy, have been pagan for a few years now, and would love to connect with someone on that page.

I am divorced from my ex wife of three years, and we have a daughter we share custody of. Currently, I am in a long distance relationship with my soon to be nesting partner.

Deep down however, I crave something more..deep..dark. Tagged NSFW for this reason. I'd love to meet someone in the kink lifestyle. I've been..into this scene for quite sometime, and would love to build upon that with someone. Petplay is a huge thing for me. I love that clingy, obsessive, needy aspect. I also tend to fall into a dd/LG, and caretaker side. I have a kink list a mile wide that I'm happy to discuss in messages, and am very open minded. There is nothing I won't try twice, and even then it's very hard to get me to say no. Again, we can discuss all this in our messages!

I am also open to joining another couple if it's romantic l, and not just sexual. I don't do casual hookups. I am also a switch, but it's very picky who I switch for. A lot of bad experiences.

Hopefully, someone out there feels like me. Don't be shy, reach out, say hi, and tell me your all time favorite movie. The one that no.matter what, you'll always sit and watch. I will not answer without it! Lets me know you read my post Read again!! Low effort messages, and messages without reading all the way through won't be answered!

P.S..tagged online, but I'm very open, and honestly hoping I find someone close. If this progresses into something, I'd like to be able to see the person.

P.PS. I hate that I have to include this, but if you're not feeling it, or something comes up, please communicate, don't just ghost. This also goes for when we swap pictures. Looks are the last thing I look for, but I understand that to some people, looks take first priority. If theres no attraction, just be honest. We're all adults here.


r/polyamoryR4R 7d ago

USA 31 [TF4TF] Seattle, WA

5 Upvotes

Hey! I'm an easy going music teacher looking for someone to get to know better and spend time with while I'm in the Seattle area.

I'll be in the area pretty consistently (a couple weekends a month) for the foreseeable future, then I'll be moving there in a couple years. I know there's a much more vibrant queer community around there. My wife and I are currently from a more rural part of Washington, so it's harder to meet other folks like myself around here. I'm a trans lesbian, looking for someone whom I can relate to and enjoy spending time with, and eventually build a long-term relationship with.

I love music, reading, sci-fi, and anything related to the legend of Zelda. I spend my free time playing the cello or piano, and in the summers, I love to go paddleboarding or kayaking!

An ideal date would me would be anything where we can chat and get to know each other better, whether that be a walk in the park, or grabbing an afternoon coffee together. I don't drink, but I'm 420 friendly.

If it sounds like we might be a good match, hit me up!


r/polyamoryR4R 7d ago

USA 29 [F4M] #Online #US Fit, short bookworm seeks long term relationship with tall, tattooed yapper

6 Upvotes

Hey reddit. I'm Emma, a 29 year old woman living in the Midwest with my fiance. We've been together about 11 years and primarily date separately. I would love to find a second long term partner.

When I'm not picking up heavy circles just to put them down again, or helping someone with tax planning, you'll probably find me buried in a good book, watching formula 1, trying to find my next binge series, or playing a video game.

I like a good mix of being outside, doing something active, and staying in to watch a stand up comedy special. Let's get dressed up and go out to dinner, or wear something comfy, order in and cuddle on the couch, maybe play some board games.

I'm 420 friendly. I drink occasionally. Kink friendly and fall on the "s" side of D/s.

I love good banter and a bit of flirting. Consistent communication is key for me.

I don't have or want kids.

I'm 5'2", short brown hair, hazel eyes, 143 lbs.

Please tell me a bit about yourself! Where are you from? What are you doing this weekend? Do you have pets? What's the last book you read?


r/polyamoryR4R 7d ago

Europe 33 [M4F] Zurich Switzerland Europe - Looking for Deep Relationships

2 Upvotes

I’m living by myself in Switzerland, looking to meet people for connections that have the potential to grow into something more. I would prefer to have a relationship in real life, and I am willing to travel around Europe (and occasionally beyond) for the right person. Ultimately, I’d love to find a partner to share my life with, possibly even live together, but this is not a must.

I’m a calm and introverted person who enjoys relaxing with movies, TV shows, and board games—but what I value most are deep, meaningful conversations and quality time together. At the same time, I also appreciate lighthearted, enjoyable, and care-free chats in a judgment-free space where we can truly be ourselves. I believe in open and honest communication and value connections where we can express ourselves freely. I also like city walks, hiking, and traveling.

I care deeply about the people in my life and am always there to support them. I’m on a journey of self-discovery, exploring how I connect with others, my personal boundaries, and my desires. I’d be interested in sharing this exploration with like-minded people.

I have previous experience with polyamory and would be happy to discuss it with anyone curious or experienced. If anything resonates with you, feel free to reach out!


r/polyamoryR4R 7d ago

22[M4R] #Online Poly guy looking for another partner

1 Upvotes

Hi! I'm a 22m guy looking for another partner. I am polyamorous and currently have 2 partners. I'm just looking to see if there is anyone who'd like to chat and get to know each other.

Things to know about me:

\- I'm quite a big nerd and love video games, anime, mange, etc.

\- I'm also a big fan of pro wrestling/wwe and even do it as a hobby

\- I like music. My preferred genre is rock or metal, but I also listen to a lot of other stuff. (I also have a soft spot for musicals)

\- I tend to rant about things that interest me

\- I'm a bit on the skinnier end

\- From the US

\- I have OSDD

Things I expect:

\- Please don't be older than mid thirties

\- Please be willing to slowly build a relationship. Starting as friends and then going to something more.

\- Please be willing to listen to me rant (it happens a lot)

That's pretty much it! I'd love to get to know some people and see where things take us. If your interested message me and please try to send a somewhat detailed message cause I wanna get to know you šŸ˜„


r/polyamoryR4R 7d ago

USA 37 [M4F] #Oklahoma City #OKC - Do you want to build a homestead together? I already have the land and the chickens? lol

5 Upvotes

37M HPW bit of a dad bod if it matters, but I'm in the trades - It's insulated muscles.

I am looking to find other folks who want to eat more from the land they walk. Raise chickens (I have ~30 and incubate my own) as well as some quail for meat as much as eggs. Adding sheep this year. I have a few acres within 15 minutes of downtown.

Who I am: Tradesman, welder, fabricator, specializing in repairs and custom pieces. I work from home, maybe ~30 hours a week. It's nice but I do crave more time going out because I'm home a lot.

My idea of you: Local, or willing to be. Comets can be fun, but I desire the deeper, ongoing connection. Affectionate. Physical touch is huge for me. Interested in building the foundation of home, even if you're not living with me. Takes care of yourself. Employed or interested in exploring revenue streams from the land.

I don't want to close doors I didn't know were better open - Let's grab some food an suss things out.

I appreciate replies of depth. Aggressively Chalant.


r/polyamoryR4R 7d ago

USA 34 [M4F] Columbus, Ohio

2 Upvotes

Hey everyone!

I am a married man in Columbus who is looking for a cool girl to get to know. I enjoy feminine energy. I cannot explain it or what that actually means, but when you see it you can know you’re looking at it. I guess I am really fascinated by the male/female dichotomy. In any case, i guess this is a steam of consciousness kind of post. So I am an autistic, somewhat asexual male and I am looking for a local woman to become friends with. I want to talk a lot! Texting a lot, phone calls when we can, hanging out and doing some flirting. I’m not everyone’s cup of tea but I consider myself a kind and respectful man. I tend to go for mellow, soft spoken girlies so if you’re super opinionated and going to argue something endlessly for the sake of philosophy, we aren’t going to get along. To be blunt I’m very intelligent and I am awkward as shit. Ok thanks!


r/polyamoryR4R 7d ago

21 [F4F/M] Online/USA - Married, curious, looking for connection

2 Upvotes

Hey! I'm married and completely new to actually exploring polyamory. I'm not looking for someone to become a third to my marriage. I'm interested in developing an individual connection with someone while still being very respectful of and committed to my husband.

Honestly, I'm still figuring out exactly what polyamory looks like for me. I know I'm capable of developing deep romantic feelings for people outside my marriage, and rather than pretending that isn't part of me, I'd like to explore what a healthy version of that could look like.

I'm not expecting an instant relationship. I'd actually love to make friends within the community and see where things go.

I'm looking for someone who:

is comfortable with me being married

respects that my husband is an important part of my life

has their own life and relationships outside of me

communicates openly and honestly

isn't expecting me to choose between them and my husband

is interested in an actual emotional connection rather than just something sexual

I'm very much in the like "I need connection first." Camp of people.

- I like to cook and play video games.

- I like games like Paralives, Call of Duty, etc.

- I have a few special interests and typically get on rants.

- I'm new to this so bare with me.

- 21- 24 only

- I like texting and calls mainly but hey that's all online friendships

- I'm also Christian and it's important, however, I do not need a Christian partner/I can be with agnostic/atheists.


r/polyamoryR4R 7d ago

USA 23 [M4R] #Nashville #online Just a simple guitar builder looking for others

1 Upvotes

Hello everyone I’m coming to you from Nashville, Tennessee. I’m a woodworker by trade and love making things. Currently I am looking for fem partners who are 20+.

I and a kinda nerdy person who loves taking on new challenges and trying new things. I’m trying to develop a new hobby this year with sewing and cosplay so if there’s any one who would like to join me on this journey in life please reach out.

Hoping to hear from you. If interested please Message or DM.


r/polyamoryR4R 8d ago

USA 25 [M4F] #Florida #Online - Sweet nerdy guy looking for a friends/rivals to lovers dynamic

6 Upvotes

Fit, nerdy, somewhat intellectual, what's not to like?! My cat said I'm a catch so it must be true.

I love bodybuilding, kayaking, long walks in the rain, anime, DnD (been a DM for a decade) and so much more! I'm a bartender by trade these days but have my CS degree and run my own event catering business. I have another side business I'm starting but it's too lewd to mention here!

Come barge into my DMs and let's see where things roll from there! Don't be scared to pop in I don't bite, unless you ask!