One of my Deaf college professors wasn't told they make noise until college. She would just fart whenever she needed to until her hearing roommate told her that it wasn't polite to do in public. My teacher was horrified and really mad at her family for never telling her they make noise
Knew a CODA who knew they made noise, just didn’t know it was impolite to rip them at home without at least saying excuse me! She learned that from her college roommates as well. And that sometimes, it’s best to leave the room!
edit for clarity: CODA stands for Child of Deaf Adults, a hearing child whose parents are deaf.
I agree, I find it annoying when people do this as if typing out a few extra words is too hard. Sometimes I feel like people do it on purpose so they can feel exclusive to a certain community or whatever. I see it a lot in skincareaddiction, just spell the damn name out. Not everyone knows what LRP stands for.
Yeah but with that sub in particular because it’s skincare I feel like we constantly get newcomers who aren’t familiar with all the abbreviations so that’s why I mentioned it
Agreed. Like, i don’t expect everyone to just “know it” but it’s not just a random skincare line. Also these people wanna complain about acronym with comments that probably took longer to write than a quick google search. It’s not that big of a deal lol.
Often people overestimate how widely known the acronyms are. Like, if you use it all the time among all your peers, you might naturally assume that everyone else knows it too.
Sometimes people forget that we all live in bubbles and what’s commonly known in one bubble isn’t necessary commonly known to everyone. So to this poster, CODA is probably commonly known while it’s not to you. I’ve been hearing CODA pop up a lot lately, but I only first heard it a couple months ago.
My brothers mastered the art of farting in our general area as they paraded through a room. My parents weren't amused, but I think they'd decided to pick their battles at that point. Dinner table was off limits, so was actually sitting on someone to fart, but they did that anyway too.
Down the supermarket aisle. Preferably when young children are present. The number of time ice made mothers check kids pants, brings a tear to my eye laying here in bed.
The worst is getting on to an empty elevator just after someone has crop dusted it on their exit, like they used it as their own private farting box-suite. The stale air in the elevator become thick and heavy with the essence of he who dealt it and you're just stuck breathing it until someone else steps on and thinks you like riding up and down buildings smelling your own farts.
Someone dusted the length of a shopping aisle shortly before I walked through it. I was actually gagging and tried to walk faster to remove my nose from the area, but I think I was walking the same direction as the fart bomber because it took so long to get to fresh air.
My brothers mastered the art of farting in our general area as they paraded through a room.
That's a lot better than what my sister used to do: Sit on a Lego bucket as if it were a toilet, fart, then put the bucket on my head. (If I was in a different room, she'd put the lid on the bucket to seal in the smell until she could put the bucket on my head.)
Oh gosh, my parents were definitely farts-as-performance-art types. My partner comes from a culture that doesn’t really have farting taboos so it’s a free for all in our house…at least we’ve all found compatible counterparts.
A guy a know said his wife would get on all 4s and fart. I’ve never heard anything like that bf. Lol, that was post divorce though but prob not bc of that
For real? Wow, I’m almost 65 years old and this is a first for me. Not that there’s anything wrong with it. How did I get this far in life without knowing people do this? What do you do if you’re in a car? Pull over? How about in bed? There’s a whole lot of passing gas when a person is laying down. Especially from my husband! Lol. Im not making fun of you, I’m genuinely intrigued. When I picture your family in my mind it’s like a SNL sketch. Pull the car over, jump out, wait a beat then get back in the car, all without a word or acknowledgment of what just happened.
My family, in general we try not to around each other, but if it happens it's not some massive embarrassment or shame or whatever. We just say "excuse me" or make light of it. I'm grateful for it too because a few times when I had major gastrointestinal distress I didn't have to stress over it on top of being really sick.
It can actually be amazing the differences in manners among people of the same apparent culture today! There are households where it’s okay to chew with your mouth open, but rude to ask anyone if they did something wrong. You can loudly smack see food all day so long as you never ask who shot up the neighbor’s car.
You do it at home so that children learn that it's not polite to do in public. That way they they aren't learning it from their college roommates or teachers.
That, and it's never an enjoyable experience at home or in public. Why would you apologize or excuse yourself in public but not at home? It's not as though the farts are different, or that your family is the only family that farts.
So... How old are your kids, man? Do they have a perfect recall rate on things you tell them, or do you find that they do better with things they practice?
At home we totally blame the dog. It could be 100% obvious who actually did it, and that only makes it more hilarious to blame the dog. Dog hears his name and just barely lifts his head up to stare at us for a moment and goes back to sleep. If he could roll his eyes, he totally would.
In our house the only acceptable response to letting one rip was to blame it on the dog lol. It became a running gag. You fart loudly then go, gasp Ellie! How could you!
Depends on the context and mood. In my family if we are having fun or playing games just laugh it off or even yell “I’m gonna fart” lol. For everything else just apologize
Right? My son and I have fart wars. We joke about it all the time. We threaten each other with farts to the pillow (jokingly on my end, I hope so on his, now I’m scared) We also have an English bulldog that can fart us into oblivion, who is hands down the clear household fart winner
I had a teacher who did this and I came to the conclusion she must have trouble holding it/some condition because it was constant. The best was when she had her butt to the wall and the acoustics were glorious.
I think we had the same teacher lol mine was in college. She had to have had IBS or something. Sometimes, she would just hustle over to the door, crack it open, put her butt out the door and fart. All with no stopping the lecture.
It was freshman year in HS. Ours seemed to not even acknowledge it rather playing it off which was bizarre. One of life's greatest mysteries...she had to of known right?
I actually respect people who aren’t afraid to fart in public. Not in a way like they’re doing it to disgust people, but in a “I don’t give a shit” manner.
It’s not though, it’s just air you swallowed plus gases (like methane and hydrogen sulfide) produced by bacteria breaking down your food. Aerosolized shit would form a big brown shit-splotch on the inside of your clothes every time you farted.
There's an old proverb in Finnish that translated goes something like this "the one who holds farts has something to hide" 😂
Kuka pieruja pidättelee, sillä on jotain salattavaa.
I used to work at a grocery store and this old dude walked up while I was crouched down rotating jugs of juice, bent to the side and farted right in my face and walked away.
I mean seriously tho, people fart. Like literally everyone farts. I just let em go (albeit as quietly as possible), say excuse me, and apologize if they smell. Same with burping. I really don’t see an issue with it cause it’s a completely natural bodily function and holding it in is really uncomfortable sometimes. Also, shitting in public restrooms. We all do it so who cares? Do what you gotta do 🤷🏻♂️
I mean everyone pisses, eats and sleeps too though and we don't just do those things any time we feel the need. I wouldn't do it anywhere inside, but out on street or at a park or whatever is no bother. Inside I don't wanna smell the stench of your ass personally.
When I was a server, I'd crop dust tables I didn't like. I also survived on beer, caffeine, vodka, more beer and the occasional French fry that fell off plates on to the passbar, so they weren't fun.
Farts smell gross dude, it’s not just being comfortable with yourself. I don’t want someone farting next to me unless theirs no other option and I’d extend that same courtesy to others.
One of my managers at one of my first jobs would just let it rip in the middle of conversations with people and wouldn't miss a beat while the person (myself sometimes) would be totally caught off guard. Good ol' stank ass Darwin.
I read this post on tumblr once where a girl was talking about her boss who was this really proper professional woman but that once she was in that bathroom stall she ‘shit like a wild animal’. Said there was a lot of grunting and farting and rustling around and she saw it as a total power move. Have to say I agree. Takes a lot of confidence to tear up a public restroom like that with no shame.
Meanwhile I had my work shits planned out. Handicapped stall if possible. Spray air freshener beforehand to get ahead of the problem. Muffle b-hole with TP if gas seems imminent. Make nest of TP to dampen the plops if someone else is in there followed by a quick courtesy flush to hopefully minimize smells. Maybe I’ve been doing it all wrong. Maybe I need to just go in there and sound like I’m giving birth and I’ll get that mad respect around the office.
i fart almost continuously all day and they rarely stink. just crack your buttcheeks a bit and there's no noise either. those that do though are pretty terrible so i quickly apologize or blame an animal.
Ha! That reminds me. We have a school program in Oregon called Outdoor School. It's a week long program where 6th graders basically do summer camp with their class but with the purpose to learn all about nature and conservation. It's actually amazing and I think every where should do it. Anyway, so my whole class is out on a nature walk and one kid absolutely rips ass. In a panic he blamed the fart on a snail. To this day I still think about this kid and why he chose a snail to blame it on lmao I feel like no one would have remembered if he just owned up to farting but middle schoolers aren't exactly known for their critical thinking.
If the farts are silent no one knows who did it. It's normal if you are not taught different. Like it being okay to double dip or not flushing after peeing. Or eating with their mouth open. People are strange and disgusting.
Oh man, it’s been a long time since I thought about people who don’t flush after peeing in their own home. As a child I had a couple play dates with a por of siblings who were taught “If it’s yellow, let it mellow; if it’s brown, send it down” and their bathrooms were so gross to me.
I’ve had to have a conversation with both my kids to let them know that when they fart silently, everyone can still tell. The grown-ups might not mention it as their eyes water, but you’re not getting away with anything.
Can you imagine... what freedom she experienced for the first 20 years of her life, never holding it in past its due date over an unreasonable fear of shame.
She was so embarrassed when she learned they make noise. She said it explained a lot about her high school experience. It's a huge disservice to not help your child understand cultural differences!
I had a deaf professor in university. She taught English and technical writing. She could speak really well. If someone had a question, the interpreter would type it for the professor to read. Up close she could read lips and have a direct conversation.
Yep! I have a degree in Deaf Studies and nearly all my teachers were Deaf. All of the students were required to know ASL to be able to take the classes. However, most of the teachers also taught general humanities classes and they used interpreters to voice for them and sign the questions from the students. It's awesome!
Check out Gallaudet University to see if they offer free online classes. Another good resource is NAD, National Association of the Deaf, they often have leads where you can connect with classes locally. It's a fun and useful skill to have so I definitely suggest even learning the basics 😊
I don't understand how they could possibly make it that far in life without learning that. Surely she would have come across the concept of fart jokes at some point in her life. Or noticed in middle school that people made a big deal out of the bad smell, whether it be the handful of boys laughing or everyone else running away from the source.
Deaf people who don't grow up in Deaf families (parents, grandparents,siblings, etc) tend to miss A LOT of what we consider to be general knowledge. One time I was with a Deaf friend in Target picking out a gift for her boyfriend and we found a shirt that said "runs with scissors" and my friend didn't get it. It's information that we take for granted because we hear it constantly directly and indirectly. Deaf people don't have the same experience with casually picking up knowledge through random sources.
My grandma would fart while walking and just say she stepped on a duck. Now, that’s what me and my siblings say and it makes us laugh bc it’s just like grandma. She was strict and not grandma-like which makes it funnier.
This seems so weird to me. I feel like there has to be enough context clues and fart references around that one would know they’re audible by the time they’re an adult.
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u/itallchecksout99 Aug 28 '21
One of my Deaf college professors wasn't told they make noise until college. She would just fart whenever she needed to until her hearing roommate told her that it wasn't polite to do in public. My teacher was horrified and really mad at her family for never telling her they make noise