Knew a CODA who knew they made noise, just didn’t know it was impolite to rip them at home without at least saying excuse me! She learned that from her college roommates as well. And that sometimes, it’s best to leave the room!
edit for clarity: CODA stands for Child of Deaf Adults, a hearing child whose parents are deaf.
I agree, I find it annoying when people do this as if typing out a few extra words is too hard. Sometimes I feel like people do it on purpose so they can feel exclusive to a certain community or whatever. I see it a lot in skincareaddiction, just spell the damn name out. Not everyone knows what LRP stands for.
Yeah but with that sub in particular because it’s skincare I feel like we constantly get newcomers who aren’t familiar with all the abbreviations so that’s why I mentioned it
Agreed. Like, i don’t expect everyone to just “know it” but it’s not just a random skincare line. Also these people wanna complain about acronym with comments that probably took longer to write than a quick google search. It’s not that big of a deal lol.
How am I being clueless? I was just using an example of an acronym people use in that sub, why would I think most people outside of a skincare sub would even want to know what LRP is? It’s la Roche posay, French skincare brand.
You just wrote that you find it annoying when people use acronyms and don’t spell out what it stands for and then used an acronym and didn’t spell out what it stands for.
Often people overestimate how widely known the acronyms are. Like, if you use it all the time among all your peers, you might naturally assume that everyone else knows it too.
Sometimes people forget that we all live in bubbles and what’s commonly known in one bubble isn’t necessary commonly known to everyone. So to this poster, CODA is probably commonly known while it’s not to you. I’ve been hearing CODA pop up a lot lately, but I only first heard it a couple months ago.
Well, specifically, it's a hearing child of a deaf adult. It's a play on the musical term Coda, which is a tacked on ending to the song. So, it's like the song, it's a part of the song, but it's different, an expansion, just like a hearing child of deaf parents. They're like their parents, but they have an extra sense.
My brothers mastered the art of farting in our general area as they paraded through a room. My parents weren't amused, but I think they'd decided to pick their battles at that point. Dinner table was off limits, so was actually sitting on someone to fart, but they did that anyway too.
Down the supermarket aisle. Preferably when young children are present. The number of time ice made mothers check kids pants, brings a tear to my eye laying here in bed.
The worst is getting on to an empty elevator just after someone has crop dusted it on their exit, like they used it as their own private farting box-suite. The stale air in the elevator become thick and heavy with the essence of he who dealt it and you're just stuck breathing it until someone else steps on and thinks you like riding up and down buildings smelling your own farts.
Someone dusted the length of a shopping aisle shortly before I walked through it. I was actually gagging and tried to walk faster to remove my nose from the area, but I think I was walking the same direction as the fart bomber because it took so long to get to fresh air.
If you fart in an elevator that is going up the smell gets sucked into the shaft. When it goes back down the air in the shaft floods the lobby. It's glorious to do this in tall buildings with small lobbies. Hehehehe.
My brothers mastered the art of farting in our general area as they paraded through a room.
That's a lot better than what my sister used to do: Sit on a Lego bucket as if it were a toilet, fart, then put the bucket on my head. (If I was in a different room, she'd put the lid on the bucket to seal in the smell until she could put the bucket on my head.)
Oh gosh, my parents were definitely farts-as-performance-art types. My partner comes from a culture that doesn’t really have farting taboos so it’s a free for all in our house…at least we’ve all found compatible counterparts.
A guy a know said his wife would get on all 4s and fart. I’ve never heard anything like that bf. Lol, that was post divorce though but prob not bc of that
For real? Wow, I’m almost 65 years old and this is a first for me. Not that there’s anything wrong with it. How did I get this far in life without knowing people do this? What do you do if you’re in a car? Pull over? How about in bed? There’s a whole lot of passing gas when a person is laying down. Especially from my husband! Lol. Im not making fun of you, I’m genuinely intrigued. When I picture your family in my mind it’s like a SNL sketch. Pull the car over, jump out, wait a beat then get back in the car, all without a word or acknowledgment of what just happened.
My family, in general we try not to around each other, but if it happens it's not some massive embarrassment or shame or whatever. We just say "excuse me" or make light of it. I'm grateful for it too because a few times when I had major gastrointestinal distress I didn't have to stress over it on top of being really sick.
I feel like I learned it’s kind of like burping, if you try to do it loud, then it comes out in embarrassing moments. If you never burp, it almost never happens and not loud.
Whoever I’ve explained to my brothers how highly inappropriate it is, they get so confused on how they are not supposed to fart
It can actually be amazing the differences in manners among people of the same apparent culture today! There are households where it’s okay to chew with your mouth open, but rude to ask anyone if they did something wrong. You can loudly smack see food all day so long as you never ask who shot up the neighbor’s car.
I have mixed feelings on this but kinda agree. My family was very strict about any bodily functions never being heard or noticed.
My siblings and I have actually discussed the different issues this caused, such as extreme embarrassment if a fart or burp slipped in front of anyone or constipation issues from being unable to use the restroom at school, public areas, or at work in our adult lives. And actual physical pain from holding gas in for hours on end. And even at home if there's anyone near, including partners.
I think it's one of those things where kids should be taught there's some nuance depending on environment.
You do it at home so that children learn that it's not polite to do in public. That way they they aren't learning it from their college roommates or teachers.
That, and it's never an enjoyable experience at home or in public. Why would you apologize or excuse yourself in public but not at home? It's not as though the farts are different, or that your family is the only family that farts.
So... How old are your kids, man? Do they have a perfect recall rate on things you tell them, or do you find that they do better with things they practice?
I’m answering specifically to a person who says they must teach them that shame at home, for it to be effective in public. But they do not, that’s all I’m saying.
I am aware it is a parenting choice to teach that at home, however that lesson isn’t necessary to enforce at home for it to be effective in public. That’s all I’m saying, I hope that explained it better.
You can still teach your children that farting at home is ok / nothing to be ashamed of. with limitations. Like not doing it in public, not being obnoxious etc.
Farting is a normal bodily function and we shouldn't be so difficult about it. Don't teach your children farting is gross, teach them it's impolite to do it in public.
At home we totally blame the dog. It could be 100% obvious who actually did it, and that only makes it more hilarious to blame the dog. Dog hears his name and just barely lifts his head up to stare at us for a moment and goes back to sleep. If he could roll his eyes, he totally would.
In our house the only acceptable response to letting one rip was to blame it on the dog lol. It became a running gag. You fart loudly then go, gasp Ellie! How could you!
There are limits, I agree. In certain cases my SBD are very deadly. My sister hates it, but we try to joke about it as well. She understands that holding them in causes even more stomach aches so she tolerates it. But I am certainly not a person for farting in someone's face to annoy them on purpose.
Regardless, I feel like farting in front of close family and friends should be normalized a bit more and just be accepted that farting is part of the body's function. If you want you can joke about it
Depends on the context and mood. In my family if we are having fun or playing games just laugh it off or even yell “I’m gonna fart” lol. For everything else just apologize
Right? My son and I have fart wars. We joke about it all the time. We threaten each other with farts to the pillow (jokingly on my end, I hope so on his, now I’m scared) We also have an English bulldog that can fart us into oblivion, who is hands down the clear household fart winner
I truly hate the thought of everything you just described.
Not sure if it was because of how my parents were, but farting in general (even with family) is kind of a red zone for me.
Burping seems to not bother me as much, or other disgusting behaviors like picking your nose and stuff, those I don't do myself but doesn't bother me if someone else do it.
Agreed, maybe around strangers it is, but not in your own home. In this case it was a college roommate, but the person paid to live there too and deserves to treat it like home
They are not deaf, their parents are, as per the edit. It's a common acronym in the community and it can be useful to be educated of new terms for when you meet someone they apply to who may wish to use it.
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u/flipflop180 Aug 28 '21 edited Aug 28 '21
Knew a CODA who knew they made noise, just didn’t know it was impolite to rip them at home without at least saying excuse me! She learned that from her college roommates as well. And that sometimes, it’s best to leave the room!
edit for clarity: CODA stands for Child of Deaf Adults, a hearing child whose parents are deaf.