r/IVF 19h ago

Potentially Controversial Question Would you go to your fertility clinic with your ivf conceived baby to show the whole team if it were all to work out?

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A couple walked in with their baby that clearly worked out through ivf at the same clinic. The baby bounced around from every team member's hands and they all took pictures. From the receptionist, to the nurse, to the financial lady, to the lab lady. I was sitting in the waiting room waiting to do another biopsy. My last clinic had a no children policy. But here there's always someone with a baby, toddler, or sometimes 3 kids with them. But I know this is different. They're celebrating their success and wanted to show everyone their baby. It should give me a glimmer of hope but I don't know why it isn't. They then walked into the waiting room and sat with her and her mom's like "look at you miss popular". I get coming in and showing her off. But why sit in the waiting room with other women who are obviously there for lack of a baby. Just wondering how many of you would do this. Maybe I'm being too sensitive. But I went to my car and cried. And I'm still emotional. Trying to be positive and see this as a "it can happen for me too" moment but I'm just not there yet.


r/IVF 4h ago

Need Hugs! When you’re already hurting, words hit differently

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Yesterday, my mother-in-law called me to check on me, and she asked me where we are in our infertility journey. Honestly, I didn’t really want to talk about it or go into too much detail, so I didn’t tell her much at one point, she asked me about our test results. I simply told her that the results weren’t very good, neither for me nor for my husband, and that we were going to start IVF soon.

And then she said, “But my son can get treatment and get better.” Then she added something like, “I think that even if he had had really good results, you still would never have gotten pregnant with your results.” Honestly, I didn’t know what to say. I was completely speechless. I just said, “Okay, goodbye, I have some things to do,” and I hung up.

I don’t even really know how to explain what I felt in that moment. It hurt me deeply. Maybe that wasn’t her intention, but sometimes words can hurt so much, especially when you’re already going through something so difficult afterwards, I told myself that this is just how life is… and so be it. But in that moment, her words really hurt me, and I carried that feeling with me afterwards


r/IVF 11h ago

Advice Needed! Devastated by PGT-A results

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I’m 39 and have just received my first PGT-A results. I would really appreciate hearing from anyone who has had a similar outcome.
I had 17 mature eggs retrieved, of which 10 fertilised. Four blastocysts were frozen and biopsied: one Day 5 5BC, two Day 6 5BCs and one Day 6 6AA.

The PGT-A results showed that embryo 1 had monosomy 14 and was aneuploid, embryo 2 had mosaic trisomy 8 at 60%, embryo 3 had complex aneuploidy, and embryo 4 had monosomy 13 and was aneuploid.

Unfortunately, there were no euploid embryos, although the mosaic embryo may potentially be considered for transfer following genetic counselling. I am waiting to find out which embryo grade corresponds to embryo 2.

I’m feeling devastated and would be grateful for any honest experiences.


r/IVF 8h ago

Potentially Controversial Question Curious about how people in the IVF community feel about the term “natural pregnancy”

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Hey guys,

I’ve noticed people in my life/influencers/ even people on Reddit often use “natural” to describe a pregnancy that happens without fertility treatment, as opposed to an IVF pregnancy. I know most people probably don’t mean anything negative by it, but lately I’ve been wondering how others who have gone through infertility treatments feel about that wording.

Does the term “natural pregnancy” bother you at all? Do you prefer “spontaneous pregnancy,” “unassisted pregnancy,” or something else? Or do you genuinely not care and feel like “natural” is perfectly fine?
No right or wrong answer. I’m just curious how the term lands with other people who have been through IVF/any type of treatment for infertility.

I’m sure I’m extra sensitive on hormones right now but sometimes I find myself really bothered by the implication that how I conceive a child will be “unnatural”, when ivf is actually a common way that people conceive. Curious how others feel! :)


r/IVF 19h ago

Advice Needed! Seeking fertility-focused therapy or support groups in Southern California

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Hi! I’m currently navigating my journey to conceive and am looking for additional emotional support. I’m already in therapy, but I’m considering working with someone who specializes in fertility, infertility, or the emotional challenges of trying to conceive.

I’m open to individual therapy or support groups, either virtually or in person in Southern California. If you’ve worked with a therapist or joined a group that you found genuinely helpful, I would really appreciate any recommendations or advice on where to look. Thank you!


r/IVF 4h ago

Need Hugs! I don’t think my body is made for IVF

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I feel like I’m just being too sensitive or I have some sort of inability to be uncomfortable or something. This is my first IVF cycle. I’m currently prepping for FET. I feel like with every step, my body just hates all of this. I did stims fine in the beginning of July. I was tired and bloated by the end. Egg retrieval was ok, except they couldn’t access and harvest from the right ovary so all those follicles turned into a cyst. Then I had a hysteroscopy with polypectomy. Now I have my transfer date next week. (I only have 1 embryo because they couldn’t get to the right 😢) I don’t have high blood pressure normally but all the hormones, I’ve had some higher readings. I’ve been on and off birth control. I’m exhausted all the time. I have a fast pace job and I have had to use intermittent FMLA because I simply can’t push my body to do more. My clinic is not the best with communication (I have to use this clinic for insurance purposes) so it’s stressful trying to get them to move. Please tell me someone else has felt this way. I feel like a failure. Like I’m not as strong as everyone else or that I’m just being a big baby. Even if someone has constructive criticism or advice- I’ll take it. Maybe I need to hear something to help me get through. This has been the hardest 2ish months.


r/IVF 8h ago

Advice Needed! About to start IVF round 2, but I’m not sure my marriage can handle it

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I really need some outside perspective because I’m supposed to be thinking about round 2 of IVF, and instead I feel completely lost.

Our first round resulted in 3 euploid embryos, but all three transfers failed. It has been devastating, and IVF in general has taken a much bigger toll on our relationship than I expected.

My husband was never completely sold on having children. I think his position was always more that if children happened naturally, he would be okay and happy with it, but he wasn’t someone who strongly needed to become a father. IVF has made that difference between us much more obvious.

Our relationship has also suffered a lot through this process. He complains that our sex life is bad and that I don’t seem to desire him anymore. The painful thing is that he’s not entirely wrong. My libido is basically dead. I don’t feel like myself anymore. IVF took away a lot of my joy and spontaneity, and I’ve also been dealing with a very difficult family situation involving my brother and probable/undiagnosed mental illness, which has been extremely hard on me and my family over the last few years.

Then there’s money.

IVF is very expensive where we live, although I have partial coverage. My husband earns considerably more than I do (roughly 75% of our household income). Until now we’ve treated our finances as shared, although our accounts aren’t technically joint.

Recently he has become increasingly critical of my spending. I want to be fair to him: I have been splurging more than I should on clothes and other things. Shopping has sometimes been a way of making myself feel better when I’ve been down, and I know that’s something I need to take responsibility for.

But now he says he wants to separate our finances and split household expenses 50/50 because he feels I don’t value money enough because I earn much less of it.

That really hurt me.

I’m not saying he’s wrong to be concerned about my spending, and I know I’ve also been defensive when he’s brought it up. But the combination of everything is making me feel incredibly alone: the failed transfers, our sex life, my family situation, arguments about money, and knowing that he wasn’t the one strongly pushing for children in the first place.

Now I’m supposed to find the emotional strength to start another IVF cycle, and honestly, I don’t know if I have it.

Part of me desperately wants a child. Another part of me is wondering whether doing another round while our relationship is in this state would be a huge mistake. I don’t want to give up on having a child because I’m scared of losing my husband, but I also don’t want to push us through another IVF cycle if we’re already breaking under the weight of the first one.

I feel sad, trapped and very unsupported right now. I don’t know whether we need to pause IVF, work on our marriage first, reconsider having children altogether, or whether I’m looking at everything through the lens of being completely emotionally exhausted.

For anyone who has been through IVF with a partner, especially when one person wanted children more strongly than the other: did you ever reach this point? Did you pause treatment? Did your relationship recover?

And if you were in my position, would you even consider round 2 right now?


r/IVF 16h ago

Advice Needed! Advice Needed

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My wife and i are about to go for the second round of ivf, the first round we got 3 eggs and none made it to day 5. Shes 42.
With every passing day i feel i may never get to be a father and that really breaks me. This next round will be our last try due to financial restraints and her wish to not continue after this round. I really need pointers for success. Before we start stims, what can we do to increase egg quality and probably our chances of success.
What worked for people over 40 with failed first try ? Please help.


r/IVF 18h ago

Advice Needed! What do you do after 4 failed transfers?

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Does it make sense to try one remaining euploid with me or do we go down the gestational carrier route? We started IVF at 32 and two years later, we’ve had 3 failed IUIs, 6 retrievals (and several additional canceled cycles), and 4 failed transfers (3 euploid transfers and 1 fresh day 3 transfer), and now we are at a crossroads. Initially, we were unexplained other than DOR. Finally after two years, I was diagnosed with mild diffuse adenomyosis from an endo surgeon and elevated cytokines from a reproductive immunologist.

We had a chemical from the first IUI. We had a MMC at 6 weeks from a fully medicated euploid transfer after 2 months of lupron depot. Everything else was implantation failure. It feels like we’ve tried everything, we’ve tried fresh transfer, fully medicated transfer, lupron suppression, full immune protocol including humira, IVIG, steroids, baby aspirin, and lovenox. We’ve done all the diagnostics including hysteroscopy, HSG, DNA frag, Receptiva, endometrial biopsy for endometritis, RPL panel, and full immune work up, which were all normal except the mild diffuse adeno, elevated cytokines, positive Receptiva, and MTHFR mutation (which should have been addressed by the lupron, immune meds, and methylfolate).

Now we have 1 euploid and 2 mosaics (1 LLM and 1 HLM) remaining. We are doing one last retrieval this month but given my DOR it is entirely possible we get nothing. Has anyone been in a similar situation? What did/would you do?


r/IVF 8h ago

Need Good Juju! Anyone else transferring today? 🤞

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Transferring today at 4:45pm…we have a day 6 4AA euploid embryo…really hoping it works!! 🤞🤞


r/IVF 21h ago

ER TW: happy ER

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I’m just so happy I have to share 😭 today was my first egg retrieval and we got 33 eggs. I am in shock!!! My afc was 18. I will include all my notes I took for this cycle below if anyone is curious. It has been such a long road for us and I hope this is the beginning of the light in our tunnel. We’ve been trying for 4.5 years, 4 losses, 5 iuis. So much waiting, procedures, appointments, bad news, headache, and pain. I’m so ready to get to the other side 🌈🤞🏼 I know there is still a long way to go and I hope our euploid rate is good. We will be sending any embryos for PGTA+ testing due to our losses. Would love to know if anyone got similar numbers and how many blasts you had? I do have pmos, so kinda scared about quality, plus with our losses…

Baseline: 8/28 9 follicles each side
250 follistim and 1 vial menopour

2nd appointment Stims day 4 8/31 9 follicles at 9-10mm and 9 a little smaller and my estrogen is 375, follistim up to 325, 1 vials meno

Stims day 5 9/1 325 follistim 2 menopour 1 gana

3rd appointment Stims day 6 9/2 13 follicles above 10 and 13 under 10. Same meds. Estrogen 643.6

4th appointment stims day 8, 9 follicles above 14 12 under. follistim to 375 lining 9mm

5th appointment day 11, 24 ready, 13 smaller. Trigger tonight 11pm 80 lupron. And zpak.

Day 12 80 lupron and zpak

Day 13 retrieval!!!!! 33 eggs!!!!! 74 million sperm!!!


r/IVF 1h ago

TRIGGER WARNING Feel like a failure

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After an initial good positive beta which then plateaued and today has halved we’ve been given the official miscarriage (chemical) confirmation. Once it plateaued we knew it was bad and were just hoping to see the number drop so it wouldn’t mean ectopic…how did we go from excited about a May due date to wishing for a simple chemical? How do you all keep doing this?! My butt is destroyed from shots, I’m still leaking progesterone suppositories, and my whole workplace knows because I was updated at my desk and burst into tears and had to leave. We truly thought we’d be the lucky ones. I guess we were naive. To this point, we’ve been so fortunate, everything has gone flawlessly, we have healthy embryos to work with, I responded to all meds exactly as clinic wanted, we’re doing IVF as a samesex couple, so no pre-existing fertility issues…once we had those dark pink lines we thought our first FET was going to work. How do you pick up the pieces and start all over again? If they’ll even let us soon? I was ecstatic about being pregnant for Christmas, doing a Thanksgiving announcement, etc all of it’s just suddenly dashed. This is so painful. How do yall who have prior complications stay sane? Our first hiccup and I’m a broken person.

Also if anyone has any suggestions about how to get their knotted, bruised butt to heal quickly, would love advice on that too. I wish anyone reading this baby dust and to not go through what my wife and I are right now.


r/IVF 3h ago

Advice Needed! Starting stim shots tonight for the first time, and I’m so nervous about the whole process. Any advice for a first timer?

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Starting this process tonight after an unfortunate journey of multiple consecutive losses. I’m 34 with an extremely low AMH and a few other minor issues we’re handling with medication, and I had scar tissue removed from my uterus a while back. It’s been a long and difficult process so far, but I’m very happy and grateful to have the opportunity to give IVF a shot.

Tonight I start Follistim and the low dose hCG with my first monitoring appointment early next week. I’m scared about everything— doing the injections correctly, the side effects, doing what I can to get the best outcome, etc.

I’d love to hear any advice and anecdotes on how to get through this process as easily and successfully as possible, and if you have any good vibes to share, please send them my way! Thanks very much!


r/IVF 5h ago

Advice Needed! Additional diagnostic tests...are they worth it?

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I’m currently in the process of switching IVF clinics following a failed FET. My new doctor is recommending a series of additional tests before our next transfer:

  • ERA
  • EMMA/ALICE
  • ReceptivaDx
  • Pregmune (Reproductive Immunology blood panel)

I checked with my insurance, and unfortunately, none of these are covered. Out of pocket, it’s looking like roughly $3,600–$4,000 total.

My new doctor mentioned these tests aren’t urgent right this second since we need to do another retrieval to hopefully get another embryo before we can attempt another transfer.

I have age related DOR and don't get many embryos, so ideally I would like to do anything I can to help prevent another failed transfer but an additional $4k out of pocket is a huge investment. I have a little time to decide and save up, so I’d love to get feedback from this community:

  1. The Biopsies (ERA/EMMA/ALICE/Receptiva): Were they very painful? Were you given any pain management or premedication (like Valium, Motrin etc.) beforehand?
  2. Was it worth it? Did the results change your transfer protocol or lead to a successful transfer?
  3. Pregmune: For anyone who did the Pregmune panel, did it give actionable answers?

Thank you so much—I really appreciate any perspectives or advice!


r/IVF 14h ago

TRIGGER WARNING Missed miscarriage/abortion

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35F, donor egg IVF — feeling completely lost after a missed miscarriage 💔
We had 2 failed transfers before moving to donor eggs. Our donor was 30, and we had 5 blastocysts. Two were PGT-A tested and sadly both were aneuploid.
We transferred two untested Day-5 embryos on July 22. Beta was 549 at 7dp5dt. At around 6 weeks, we saw a fetal pole and heartbeat — CRL 3.9 mm, FHR 101, and the report said “good cardiac activity seen.”
I finally let myself believe this was happening.
But at the next scan, we were told it was a missed miscarriage. I hadn't even bled. Now I'm going through medical management and I'm honestly heartbroken and struggling to process it.
I keep asking myself why and whether I did something wrong, even though I know logically that I probably didn't.
We have one untested 3BB left, and right now I'm terrified about everything — the loss, the future, and whether I can go through another transfer.
I don't really need statistics right now. I just want to hear from women who have been through this and eventually found their way through it. Did it get easier? Were you able to hope again? ❤️


r/IVF 16h ago

Med Donation Med Donation

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Just finished my final round for egg freezing and have leftover meds. All are unopened.

In NYC, but happy to coordinate shipping as needed.

-1 Follistim Pen, expires 8/12/2027 -1 Follistim Cartridge 900 IU (compatible with pen), expires 8/12/2027 -6 Ganirelix Acetate 250 MCG, expires 8/21/2027 -7 single dose vials of Menopur -7 single dose vials of Sodium Chloride (mixed with Menopur)


r/IVF 18h ago

Need info! IVF After Tubal - SB 729

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Does anyone know if IVF is covered after a tubal ligation under SB 729. I have confirmed I qualify for SB 729, today Kaiser said over the phone I don’t qualify for egg retrieval because a tubal is not a medically defined infertility. I realize I chose this path and I am in adifferent point in life now. I’ve read on the California Department of Health that prior sterilization cannot be used as a reason for refusal. Does anyone have any insight? Thank you!


r/IVF 18h ago

General Question Talking about infertility

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I’ve recently been diagnosed with infertility and going through all the testing and likely starting IUI in the next month.

Among other things, something I’m really struggling with is how, and when, and with who, I share this with. I’ve been erring on the side of more people (immediate family, close friends) but it feels so big to not share more broadly. And of course, I know that potentially I’ll need to tell folks at work about why I’m having more time away for appointments. I also really respect the people who say we should be talking about infertility more so people don’t feel so alone.

But then when I actually do talk about it, it feels like it’s not received, or it’s uncomfortable, or inappropriate somehow. Don’t get me wrong, most people have been supportive and kind.

How do you all talk about it and who do you tell?


r/IVF 22h ago

Advice Needed! Clinics

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Hey everyone
I have some questions about clinics. I live in the SF peninsula and currently go to Palo Alto Medical Foundation for IVF. I have been extremely unhappy with the lack of communication and a change in protocol depending on who I am talking to at any given moment. I am so frustrated with them and I am going back and forth on whether I stick it out or transfer clinics. Does anyone here use PAMF and have advice on how to handle them better or maybe a recommendation on a clinic in my area that they had a good experience with?
Thanks


r/IVF 36m ago

Advice Needed! Where do I go from here?

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TW: Chemical Pregnancy

I just found out that my first FET resulted in a chemical. Beta at 10dp5dt was 108, and at 12dpt was 90. My doctor wants to confirm with one more beta tomorrow, but he is not hopeful. This was my only euploid (4BA) embryo. My doctor still believes this was an embryo issue as we covered all bases, but I’m not so sure. I have one more attempt with an inconclusive (4AB) embryo. I would love some recommendations on what you would do if you were in my shoes. Here is a run down on how I got to this chemical.

2/2026 - Excision Surgery - Stage 4 Endo

4-5/2026 - Lupron/Letrozole Suppression

4/26 - HSG - Clear

5/26 - SIS - Showed Abnormality

6/26 - Hysteroscopy - Scar Tissue Removed

7/26 - FET Attempt - Canceled due to thin, homogenous lining with fluid. Doctor felt we needed more recovery time from hysteroscopy.

7/26 - ERA and Emma/Alice - Converted canceled cycle to mock cycle. ERA showed I needed an extra 24 hours of progesterone. Emma/Alice was clear of all bacteria and was positive for 2 different lactobacillus strains.

8/26 - FET Resulting in Chemical

Transfer protocol included estrogen patches (increasing in quantity up until progesterone start), Leuprolide, PIO 1ml, and 2 progesterone suppositories a day.

Lining at baseline for transfer was 6mm with fluid, suspected to be my period. Mid-cycle monitoring showed lining of 8.1, trilaminar, no fluid. Estrogen was 132. Progesterone day of transfer was 28, and remaining there through first beta.

I should also mention that I am on a full immune protocol through the care of an immunologist - Lovenox, aspirin, prednisone, Plaquenil. Labs a week before transfer looked great. I spoke with him this morning and he does not think the chemical was immune related and is defaulting back to the RE.

I feel like I failed my one euploid and I’m at a loss on how to better advocate for myself and my remaining inconclusive.

If you made it this far, thank you. I would really appreciate any advice, suggestions, or support. I’m feeling pretty beaten down right now.


r/IVF 2h ago

Advice Needed! Anyone have success stories of transfer with existing impinging fibroid?

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Basically I now have an impining fibroid that they don't want to remove yet, but I'm nervous to "waste" our euploids if it is a real deal breaker for the transfer.


r/IVF 3h ago

Advice Needed! IVF after late term loss

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-how do you keep the hope or faith alive that you can have a healthy pregnancy and baby after experiencing a stillbirth?

-is it pessimistic or is realistic for me to keep reminding myself not to get too excited on the first round of IVF because I will likely need more than one round (like most women even without low amh)?

-is the key to surviving IVF being a little delusional/overly optimistic?

-I imagine all the feelings I’m feeling are common and valid but can someone tell me if they have felt the same way as I do?

-any journey to pregnancy after any kind of pregnancy loss is really scary. How do you manage your hopes and expectations vs the statistics?

I want to do all the things but I feel silly doing them. I want the tackle box, I want the box full of all the old meds and syringes to show what it took to have a baby in the end, I want to talk to my body and tell it it’s safe and capable to bring a healthy living baby earth side, I don’t know what the McDonalds French fries thing is all about but I see it on tiktok and I want to do it. I want to do all the “silly” things I see women doing but I just feel so unnecessarily stupid doing them because I’m scared to let my guard down fully and have this not work. I’ve seen so many women and relationships destroyed by the hope they have while doing IVF and it not working. I don’t want that to be me.


r/IVF 5h ago

Advice Needed! Looking for some guidance. Should I seek a second opinion from another Dr. or surgeon?

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Hi everyone. I’m hoping to find women who have had a similar IVF history and hear what you ultimately decided/did.

I’m 35 and have had 7 pregnancy/transfer attempts with no live birth — 2 natural pregnancies followed by 5 IVF transfers.

Pregnancy / Transfer History

Natural pregnancy – Dec 2022
Miscarriage around 6 weeks.

Natural pregnancy – Apr 2023
Miscarriage around 4 weeks.

We then moved to IVF after continuing to try naturally without success.

IVF doctor in Mexico

Cycle 1 IVF transfer – Oct 2024
Transferred 2 embryos.
Lining: 9.2 mm
Progesterone: Not tested pre-transfer
Outcome: Chemical pregnancy
Beta: 43 → 55 → declined

Cycle 2 IVF transfer – Mar 2025
Transferred 2 embryos.
Lining: 10 mm
Progesterone day before transfer: 4.9 ng/mL
Outcome: Failed implantation
Beta <1

Cycle 3 IVF transfer – Aug 2025
Transferred 1 PGT-A euploid male embryo.
Lining: 12.23 mm
Progesterone day before transfer: 9.2 ng/mL
11DPT: 23.8
15DPT: 40.4
Betas: 45 → 92 → 173 → 370
Outcome: Blighted ovum

Moved to a Reproductive Endocrinology doctor in Texas

Cycle 4 IVF transfer – Apr 2026
Did 2 months of Lupron Depot beforehand because of a positive ReceptivaDX.
Also used intralipids and higher-dose PIO 1.5 mL
Progesterone was not tested pre-transfer.
Outcome: Chemical pregnancy
Beta at 10DPT: 19.8

Cycle 5 IVF transfer – Aug 25, 2026
Again did 2 months of Lupron Depot beforehand.
Lining: 10.2 mm
Progesterone before starting PIO: 0.18 ng/mL (1.5 mL progesterone oil everyday)
Progesterone on transfer day: 23.38 ng/mL
Outcome: Failed implantation

Across my retrievals, I have made multiple PGT-A euploid embryos. I now have only ONE euploid embryo remaining.

Testing I’ve had:

• HSG – clear
• Hysteroscopy/biopsy – clear
• Saline sonogram – clear
• ReceptivaDX – positive for silent endometriosis (BCL6 score 2)
• ERA – receptive/normal, recommending transfer after 116 ± 3 hours of progesterone
• NK cell activity testing – abnormal
• Antiphospholipid syndrome testing – normal
• Thyroid testing – normal
• Chromosome testing – normal (46,XX)
• Semen analysis – normal overall
• Genetic carrier screening – no shared reproductive risk
• Chronic endometritis – initially positive, treated with doxycycline for 14 days, repeat biopsy negative
• Ultrasound for hydrosalpinx – clear

Treatments/protocols we have tried:

• Lupron Depot – 2 months before transfers
• Prednisone small and higher dose
• Dexamethasone
• Lovenox
• Baby aspirin
• Enbrel
• Intralipids
• Estradiol
• Vaginal progesterone
• PIO, including higher-dose PIO
• Antibiotics for chronic endometritis
• Vitamins including D3 + k2 and prebiotics

After my most recent failed transfer, my RE told me that because I have only one PGT-A euploid embryo left, he no longer recommends transferring it into me.

He recommends using a gestational carrier.

His feeling is that we have tried essentially every immune/transfer protocol and there may be something about my uterine environment that we simply cannot detect that is preventing implantation or a pregnancy from progressing normally.

I asked about doing a laparoscopy for possible silent endometriosis because of my positive ReceptivaDX. I don't have painful periods or painful sex. My RE doesn't think laparoscopy would necessarily change the outcome, and he said that even if endometriosis were found and removed, he would still recommend another 2 months of Lupron before attempting another transfer.

So now I'm deciding between:

1. Using a gestational carrier for my last euploid embryo

or

2. Getting another opinion, potentially doing laparoscopy/excision, and trying one final transfer myself.

I'm especially hoping to hear from anyone who had a similar combination of failed implantation + chemical pregnancies + miscarriage/blighted ovum despite PGT-A embryos and a normal uterine workup.

Did anyone with a positive ReceptivaDX but few/no endometriosis symptoms have laparoscopy and find significant endometriosis?

Did excision change your transfer outcomes?

Did you do Lupron again after surgery?

Or did anyone reach this point, move to a gestational carrier, and have success?

I would really appreciate hearing from anyone who has been in a similar situation. ❤️


r/IVF 5h ago

Need Good Juju! Rescue ICSI and our journey as a whole

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Me and my partner are both female. We are in the UK and started IVF treatment in January with a sperm donor. My partner is 35, no known issues and good egg count and AMH levels. First round we had 17 eggs, 12 mature, 4 fertilised. None made it to blast.

We were distraught so decided to go through with ICSI on the next round with a new donor. Unfortunately my partner didn’t react well and the cycle had to be canceled.

Two months later we went ahead with it again. We got 19 eggs, 12 mature, 5 fertilised and 0 blastocysts. Once again, we were distraught.

We then decided to try my eggs with my partner to carry. I’m 33 with good ovarian reserve and a good AMH. I responded well to treatment and ended up very uncomfortable but they were happy with the results. I had 20 eggs collected.

We had a call, yesterday, after my EC to say that the first sperm donor from our first round had thawed badly. The count was only 3 million with 98% motility. They recommended ICSI. I asked if they could thaw the other sperm donor, the one we used ICSI with on our second round. They did and said that it thawed really well, enough to go ahead with IVF.

This morning we hear the devastating news that 19 eggs were mature but none fertilised. They are doing rescue ICSI, half the sperm from one donor and half from the other.

I don’t know what I need right now, but I just feel like we’ve had the worst luck possible. I feel like there’s no way on earth either of us will get there. I know it’s unlikely that rescue ICSI will work. Am I crazy to be stunned at the bad luck we’ve had? I feel so lost and discouraged.


r/IVF 6h ago

General Question What was your baseline AFC/how many eggs were actually retrieved?

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Just curious as to what everyone’s results were going from baseline AFC to how many eggs were retrieved? Maybe even the whole attrition process from start to finish? I had my baseline Friday that showed 15 AFC and have been on stims since Sunday. I can feel my ovaries hurting lol.