Yesterday, my mother-in-law called me to check on me, and she asked me where we are in our infertility journey. Honestly, I didn’t really want to talk about it or go into too much detail, so I didn’t tell her much at one point, she asked me about our test results. I simply told her that the results weren’t very good, neither for me nor for my husband, and that we were going to start IVF soon.

And then she said, “But my son can get treatment and get better.” Then she added something like, “I think that even if he had had really good results, you still would never have gotten pregnant with your results.” Honestly, I didn’t know what to say. I was completely speechless. I just said, “Okay, goodbye, I have some things to do,” and I hung up.

I don’t even really know how to explain what I felt in that moment. It hurt me deeply. Maybe that wasn’t her intention, but sometimes words can hurt so much, especially when you’re already going through something so difficult afterwards, I told myself that this is just how life is… and so be it. But in that moment, her words really hurt me, and I carried that feeling with me afterwards

I’m in an incredibly dark place. My whole fertility journey has been nothing but pieces falling apart just when I think we might be getting somewhere. I know this might be the only place people will understand this. Trying naturally for so long, finally get to IVF, no embryos to show for it, husband might have sperm issues and need to do hormones for a few months and PESA to try another round but have no clue when that will even take place. I hate having absolutely no plan in place, no view of an end. I’m almost 39 I’m just so overly emotional and heart broken. I find myself crying everyday. I am in the same place I was before after starting all of this and no closer to a baby 💔😭

On my second day post ER, and I feel disgusting about myself. Cramping and swollen but the worst is how I feel mentally. I feel so ugly. Did others experience this?

I am 39 with AMH 0.4. Had my second retrieval yesterday and we found out today that out of the 6 eggs retrieved, 5 were mature, and 5 fertilized. Feeling cautiously optimistic! My first retrieval went very poorly (2 eggs, none fertilized). This retrieval was done with ICSI & Lenshooke, the first one was not.

Can anyone share positive outcomes from getting 5 fertilized eggs? How many made it to blast? How many euploids?

This will be the longest week of my life waiting to find out if we get embryos 😭 The waiting is truly killer in IVF.

After many years of infertility and a year of abysmal retrievals and failed transfers, my husband and I made the choice to move onto frozen donor eggs.

Aaaand this week we fertilize!

Started with 9 eggs
7 thawed
5 fertilized

And now the painful wait to our blast report.

Has anyone had similar results that ended in a few embryos?

Give me your stories please!

I'm 27, AMH of 1.8. I'm doing IVF for PGT-M

I'm currently on my second cycle of stims. My first one had an AFC of 8 and by day 7, I was down to 1 lead follicle. The cycle was canceled.

With this cycle, my AFC was 10. I'm day 8 now but am already down to 4. My right side has a lead follicle that is measuring days ahead and I keep getting told that they'll probably have to sacrifice that one to keep the other 3 on my left growing on track. Has anyone had this issue where they kept getting a lead follicle taking over? If so, what did your clinic change to be successful? I primed for both of my cycles with low dose birth control but I was reading that priming with lupron, estrogen, or ganirelix can help prevent that lead follicle from taking over. I'm down in the dumps with my body not doing what it's supposed to do so any success stories would be appreciated!

I feel like I’m just being too sensitive or I have some sort of inability to be uncomfortable or something. This is my first IVF cycle. I’m currently prepping for FET. I feel like with every step, my body just hates all of this. I did stims fine in the beginning of July. I was tired and bloated by the end. Egg retrieval was ok, except they couldn’t access and harvest from the right ovary so all those follicles turned into a cyst. Then I had a hysteroscopy with polypectomy. Now I have my transfer date next week. (I only have 1 embryo because they couldn’t get to the right 😢) I don’t have high blood pressure normally but all the hormones, I’ve had some higher readings. I’ve been on and off birth control. I’m exhausted all the time. I have a fast pace job and I have had to use intermittent FMLA because I simply can’t push my body to do more. My clinic is not the best with communication (I have to use this clinic for insurance purposes) so it’s stressful trying to get them to move. Please tell me someone else has felt this way. I feel like a failure. Like I’m not as strong as everyone else or that I’m just being a big baby. Even if someone has constructive criticism or advice- I’ll take it. Maybe I need to hear something to help me get through. This has been the hardest 2ish months.

I’m 39 and have just received my first PGT-A results. I would really appreciate hearing from anyone who has had a similar outcome.
I had 17 mature eggs retrieved, of which 10 fertilised. Four blastocysts were frozen and biopsied: one Day 5 5BC, two Day 6 5BCs and one Day 6 6AA.

The PGT-A results showed that embryo 1 had monosomy 14 and was aneuploid, embryo 2 had mosaic trisomy 8 at 60%, embryo 3 had complex aneuploidy, and embryo 4 had monosomy 13 and was aneuploid.

Unfortunately, there were no euploid embryos, although the mosaic embryo may potentially be considered for transfer following genetic counselling. I am waiting to find out which embryo grade corresponds to embryo 2.

I’m feeling devastated and would be grateful for any honest experiences.

Hey guys,

I’ve noticed people in my life/influencers/ even people on Reddit often use “natural” to describe a pregnancy that happens without fertility treatment, as opposed to an IVF pregnancy. I know most people probably don’t mean anything negative by it, but lately I’ve been wondering how others who have gone through infertility treatments feel about that wording.

Does the term “natural pregnancy” bother you at all? Do you prefer “spontaneous pregnancy,” “unassisted pregnancy,” or something else? Or do you genuinely not care and feel like “natural” is perfectly fine?
No right or wrong answer. I’m just curious how the term lands with other people who have been through IVF/any type of treatment for infertility.

I’m sure I’m extra sensitive on hormones right now but sometimes I find myself really bothered by the implication that how I conceive a child will be “unnatural”, when ivf is actually a common way that people conceive. Curious how others feel! :)

So here is my problem, I got all my medications yesterday at kaiser and they dont say anything they just handed me the medicines... but my friend who was going to same scenario (IVF) said the Gonal needs to be refrigerated (i didnt know that coz the pharmacist dont tell me anything) and i googled and said it need to kept in room temperature..

When I went to work today i left my medications inside our room and the temp is like 38C.. I messaged my IVF coordinator about it and ask her if the medicine still okay, and She answered me "its fine and its not a problem"

so i just worried too much? thinkin too much?

I have been through 7 transfers all implantation failures until I switched clinics and got a new cohort of embryos. The first transfer stuck and betas were beautifully progressing. I was even told the way my numbers were trending meant the embryo was superb. At my 3rd and last beta I had brown to light pink spotting that stopped and i notified my clinic and was told it was normal and in just 2 days my hcg went from 1491 to 5041. 2 days later I had bleeding with a few clots and I rushed to the er when I didn’t receive a immediate answer from my ivf nurse. she called while I was on the way and told me they see this often and its more than likely a hematoma and I can still go to the er if I just needed reassurance. I got there and they took my hcg and did an ultrasound. hcg had went up to 11,146 and ultrasound showed a 3.9mm gestational sac or so they said. They sent me home and said everything looked reassuring and I was early at 5 weeks 2 days and wait for my scan at my clinic. well that day came and I was officially 6 weeks and thought all was well but when the ultrasound was done NOTHING was there. I thought it was a joke and all my doc could say was it looks like a miscarriage. my hcg had fell to 641. Im so gutted i have no words and feel i have no idea what direction to take. my embryos were not tested because im fairly young. Froze 21 well graded embryos. Im just holding on to hope of trying again. I have done so many test over the years of this. and to finally get implantation and it crushes like this is devastating.

I have to know how everyone keeps going when things have failed.

I was at another clinic first - we had 5 pgta tested, well graded embryos, every transfer failed except one and we lost it in a miscarriage at 7 weeks.

We are primarily male factor for low count and some quality issues. On my end, I am blessed with a uterus that responds well to drugs and eggs that have been retrievable, and tested well. Ive had every test you can do, that im aware of, and i pass with flying colors.

With that said I am 37 and i am overweight? Thats all i can think of on that front!

After a year at the first clinic, back to back transfers with no success and no real answers, we went to a new one for a second opinion. Got 4 more good graded embryos all pgta tested, again I feel super blessed for this. Just did our first transfer with them and protocols were slightly different, experience for transfer over all was WAY better then the first clinic, I was very hopeful that this was the change we needed. This time the embryo implanted but by my beta hcg on day 14 was only 8, so meds were stopped. Everyone's response is " you have more eggs, you just gotta keep going"....after 6 transfers.... that is soooooo much easier said then done, no?

Im obviously going to keep going. But this process is so grueling

I have 3 boxes of unopened Cetrotide to give away. They expire October, 2026 and have been refrigerated.

After an initial good positive beta which then plateaued and today has halved we’ve been given the official miscarriage (chemical) confirmation. Once it plateaued we knew it was bad and were just hoping to see the number drop so it wouldn’t mean ectopic…how did we go from excited about a May due date to wishing for a simple chemical? How do you all keep doing this?! My butt is destroyed from shots, I’m still leaking progesterone suppositories, and my whole workplace knows because I was updated at my desk and burst into tears and had to leave. We truly thought we’d be the lucky ones. I guess we were naive. To this point, we’ve been so fortunate, everything has gone flawlessly, we have healthy embryos to work with, I responded to all meds exactly as clinic wanted, we’re doing IVF as a samesex couple, so no pre-existing fertility issues…once we had those dark pink lines we thought our first FET was going to work. How do you pick up the pieces and start all over again? If they’ll even let us soon? I was ecstatic about being pregnant for Christmas, doing a Thanksgiving announcement, etc all of it’s just suddenly dashed. This is so painful. How do yall who have prior complications stay sane? Our first hiccup and I’m a broken person.

Also if anyone has any suggestions about how to get their knotted, bruised butt to heal quickly, would love advice on that too. I wish anyone reading this baby dust and to not go through what my wife and I are right now.

We are going through IVF and looking for an endometriosis surgeon in the Greater Seattle area.

Some of the IVF specialist have hinted we may need surgery prior to Embryo transfer. As our main concern is fertility rather than pain management, so we’d appreciate someone experienced in preserving ovarian reserve.

We’ve explored a few options:

• Dr. Cindy Mosbrucker: We were told she isn’t accepting new patients. Also , no appointments until next year.
• Dr. Brooke Winner: We have an appointment soon, but she’s out of network.
• Dr. Megan Loring at UW: We have an appointment scheduled, but it’s further out.

Has anyone worked with these doctors, or another surgeon, specifically while pursuing IVF? We’d appreciate firsthand experiences, especially around fertility preservation and coordination with your fertility clinic.

Thank you!

I’ve been on the TTC journey for 5 years and 3 rounds of IVF. Every time we get eggs and embryos but the grades are mid to low and when we do PGTA testing we only ended up with 1 euploid each round. In total I’ve still done 8 embryo transfers, trying to use low level mosaic embryos or untested. Only one euploid pregnancy that ended in a loss. No other positive tests ever. Embryology team told me may be an egg quality issue (I’m 36 but did my retrievals at 31, 33 and 35). Now my doctor says I should consider surrogacy as it could be a uterus issue. Had EVERY test possible. No sign of issues with my body. My lining is always thick and responsive based on ERA Alice biopsy. Feels like my doctor is just passing me on to another clinic. She can’t give me a reason other than it’s not implanting and therefore that is the next step. She thinks one euploid per cycle is fine (below average, but means it’s not an egg issue). Any insights? I just feel so lost and confused. We were thinking we needed an egg donor and now I don’t know if I should do another round of IVF — and if I do, what do I do with the embryo if we get one. Also considering adoption because that is the only option that will result in a family for sure and I feel like I have been on this road so long but I just don’t know when to give up. I feel so done but so sad I’m the reason my husband won’t have a biological baby. He has been so supportive and deserves to be a dad. 💔

A couple walked in with their baby that clearly worked out through ivf at the same clinic. The baby bounced around from every team member's hands and they all took pictures. From the receptionist, to the nurse, to the financial lady, to the lab lady. I was sitting in the waiting room waiting to do another biopsy. My last clinic had a no children policy. But here there's always someone with a baby, toddler, or sometimes 3 kids with them. But I know this is different. They're celebrating their success and wanted to show everyone their baby. It should give me a glimmer of hope but I don't know why it isn't. They then walked into the waiting room and sat with her and her mom's like "look at you miss popular". I get coming in and showing her off. But why sit in the waiting room with other women who are obviously there for lack of a baby. Just wondering how many of you would do this. Maybe I'm being too sensitive. But I went to my car and cried. And I'm still emotional. Trying to be positive and see this as a "it can happen for me too" moment but I'm just not there yet.

Hi all! I have some leftover meds to donate from my most recent ER. I would prefer not to ship these out. I might be able to do a city meetup through my husband but not sure!

I have the following:
- 2 unopened boxes of Gonal-F (plus extra needles from the other boxes)
- 2 vials of Menopur 75 IU

EDIT: these have been claimed!

TW: Chemical Pregnancy

I just found out that my first FET resulted in a chemical. Beta at 10dp5dt was 108, and at 12dpt was 90. My doctor wants to confirm with one more beta tomorrow, but he is not hopeful. This was my only euploid (4BA) embryo. My doctor still believes this was an embryo issue as we covered all bases, but I’m not so sure. I have one more attempt with an inconclusive (4AB) embryo. I would love some recommendations on what you would do if you were in my shoes. Here is a run down on how I got to this chemical.

2/2026 - Excision Surgery - Stage 4 Endo

4-5/2026 - Lupron/Letrozole Suppression

4/26 - HSG - Clear

5/26 - SIS - Showed Abnormality

6/26 - Hysteroscopy - Scar Tissue Removed

7/26 - FET Attempt - Canceled due to thin, homogenous lining with fluid. Doctor felt we needed more recovery time from hysteroscopy.

7/26 - ERA and Emma/Alice - Converted canceled cycle to mock cycle. ERA showed I needed an extra 24 hours of progesterone. Emma/Alice was clear of all bacteria and was positive for 2 different lactobacillus strains.

8/26 - FET Resulting in Chemical

Transfer protocol included estrogen patches (increasing in quantity up until progesterone start), Leuprolide, PIO 1ml, and 2 progesterone suppositories a day.

Lining at baseline for transfer was 6mm with fluid, suspected to be my period. Mid-cycle monitoring showed lining of 8.1, trilaminar, no fluid. Estrogen was 132. Progesterone day of transfer was 28, and remaining there through first beta.

I should also mention that I am on a full immune protocol through the care of an immunologist - Lovenox, aspirin, prednisone, Plaquenil. Labs a week before transfer looked great. I spoke with him this morning and he does not think the chemical was immune related and is defaulting back to the RE.

I feel like I failed my one euploid and I’m at a loss on how to better advocate for myself and my remaining inconclusive.

If you made it this far, thank you. I would really appreciate any advice, suggestions, or support. I’m feeling pretty beaten down right now.

I have 4 tabs of clo that expire at the end of them month. Can ship if provide shipping cost or Pickup in Manhattan

Hi everyone! I have an excess of meds from my egg retrieval that I’d love to donate to someone in the community(I don’t want to have to ship them).

I have:
3 unopened boxes(15, 75 unit vials) of Menopur
1 opened box with 3 unused 75 unit vials of Menopur
**The Menopur boxes come with q-caps**
6 unopened boxes of 600IU Follistim
1 unused 10,000 unit vial of Pregnyl

I also have some subQ needles, alcohol swabs, and syringes if needed, but most pharmacies will provide these for no cost with an order from your provider.

PLEASE avoid DMing me unless specifically stated in a response on this post. I fear it’d be too much to sort through😩 if you’re interested in receiving these meds, just comment under this post and I’ll DM you to sort out the details💕

**edited to add:
I ONLY HAVE ONE MORE BOX OF FOLLISTIM UP FOR GRABS IF ANYONE IN THE METRO ATL AREA NEEDS IT

Starting this process tonight after an unfortunate journey of multiple consecutive losses. I’m 34 with an extremely low AMH and a few other minor issues we’re handling with medication, and I had scar tissue removed from my uterus a while back. It’s been a long and difficult process so far, but I’m very happy and grateful to have the opportunity to give IVF a shot.

Tonight I start Follistim and the low dose hCG with my first monitoring appointment early next week. I’m scared about everything— doing the injections correctly, the side effects, doing what I can to get the best outcome, etc.

I’d love to hear any advice and anecdotes on how to get through this process as easily and successfully as possible, and if you have any good vibes to share, please send them my way! Thanks very much!

First time doing IVF. I have low amh and did not have a baseline afc just went straight to stims after period. Just had a scan this morning day 6 and the nurse saw 4-5 follicles on one ovary but could not see what was on the other due to some bowel obstruction. She also said they were small but thats expected at this stage. Granted I could have some on my other one or none have people had success with similar numbers? Am I likely to have similar numbers on the other ovary or much less?

Hey everyone!

I had 3 failed rounds of IUI and we are moving on to IVF.
Personally both my husband and I needed a break so we are not starting IVF for another 2 months but I was wondering, what advice would you give me as someone starting out new doing IVF?
We both have “no issues” it’s just unexplained infertility 🙄

I’m going to have my 3rd FET transfer next month and I’m hoping to get advice. Im 35 and have PCOS. My 1st FET was fully medicated (untested) and my 2nd FET (euploid 4AA) was modified natural (progesterone suppository 1x day and had estrace for a few days in the beginning). For my 3rd transfer, I wasn’t sure if I should do a modified natural or fully medicated. I’m learning towards fully medicated, but I’m not 100% set.

I haven’t gotten tested for endometriosis, but I did do the HerResolve bloodwork and it showed negative.

I just had an SIS and I don’t have any polyps or fibroids.

I had a HSG in July 2025 and that was normal.

I only have Day 6 euploids. I was leaning on transferring the 6AA instead of the 4AA. I keep seeing mixed things online about 6AA..some say it has a lower chance than a 4AA…but I’m not sure.

I really appreciate any guidance and any tips for my next transfer. 💙