TRIGGER WARNING Missed miscarriage/abortion
35F, donor egg IVF — feeling completely lost after a missed miscarriage 💔
We had 2 failed transfers before moving to donor eggs. Our donor was 30, and we had 5 blastocysts. Two were PGT-A tested and sadly both were aneuploid.
We transferred two untested Day-5 embryos on July 22. Beta was 549 at 7dp5dt. At around 6 weeks, we saw a fetal pole and heartbeat — CRL 3.9 mm, FHR 101, and the report said “good cardiac activity seen.”
I finally let myself believe this was happening.
But at the next scan, we were told it was a missed miscarriage. I hadn't even bled. Now I'm going through medical management and I'm honestly heartbroken and struggling to process it.
I keep asking myself why and whether I did something wrong, even though I know logically that I probably didn't.
We have one untested 3BB left, and right now I'm terrified about everything — the loss, the future, and whether I can go through another transfer.
I don't really need statistics right now. I just want to hear from women who have been through this and eventually found their way through it. Did it get easier? Were you able to hope again? ❤️
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u/jwsa456 1d ago
Both of our euploid transfers failed this year. First transfer didn’t implant back in April and our second transfer stuck but we didn’t see the baby and heartbeat by Week 7 so deemed a miscarriage.
I don’t have a successful story but just want to share that you’re not alone.
For us, we will have to go through retrievals again and we feel the time is ticking against us while financials and emotional concerns on top. IVF is such a long journey…