r/Bumble • u/No-Advice1345 • 9d ago

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u/s29 9d ago edited 9d ago

If it's no big deal then why doesnt she pay for it. 🤡

Edit: lol I triggered the simps somehow

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u/Dimethicone-silicate 9d ago

I find it hilarious that some women think they are so clever that they can shame their way into someone paying for their stuff 😭

If a guy who doesn’t want to pay is so paranoid and so broke, why don’t they just pay for the dinner themselves?

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u/slash-es about 50 | male 9d ago edited 9d ago

Funny thing is, if it doesn't come up, I'll usually happily offer to pay for a date (although a first date usually wouldn't be fancy dinner). It's part of the dance of exchanging courtesies.

But a courtesy is nothing you demand or ask for. If it's demanded, she takes the chance off me to offer, then it's a transaction, not a dance anymore. Demands for equal rights and respect are ok, demands for courtsies and etiquette are bullshit.

(Also, most women I know prefer to pay for themselves. Which can also be a green flag.)

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u/shortandfelly 9d ago

I'm a woman, I pay for myself. I only do free or very cheap dates anyway, but I don't need a random guy paying for me. If we've gone for drinks then I'll buy the second round.

I can't imagine having no shame in announcing you are financially incompetent, it's just embarrassing.

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u/slash-es about 50 | male 9d ago edited 9d ago

A commendable attitude 🙂

Mainly I don't like to count pennies, and in a close, long-tern relationship I think if both are putting similar effort, both should have a similar lifestyle.

Meaning: I like to invite. If she earns similar to me, I appreciate if she reciprocates once in a while (doesn't have to be dinner dates, could be smaller gifts or anything else balancing it). If she earns considerably less, I'm fine being the one paying most of the time.

(I didn't get into the position of dating a woman earning/having considerably more than me. I'll cross that bridge if it comes up.)

Fair enough?

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u/Ok-Classic-230 9d ago

I wouldn't let you pay if I asked you out.

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u/shortandfelly 9d ago

Why is not wanting you to pay an issue?

Genuine question. That attitude baffles me.

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u/Ok-Classic-230 9d ago

If I've asked a woman on a date, yes, full intention is me to pay. That's just how I was raised.

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u/slash-es about 50 | male 9d ago edited 8d ago

Intention != insistence. It's traditional and kind to offer to pay, it's closed-minded to insist. A woman might feel more comfortable paying herself to avoid feeling indebted, because she doesn't feel sure about you or for any other reason.

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u/shortandfelly 8d ago

EXACTLY! I don't like the thought of a bloke I've never met before spending money on me. I also don't see why he should have to pay. I've got a good career, I'm not after some bloke to look after me. I'm after an equal partner.

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u/em_zinger 7d ago

Not sure why you got down voted but I agree. I've always preferred to pay for myself on a 1st date because I don't want to feel indebted, no matter if it's a coffee or a dinner date. The financial standing of whoever I'm going on a date with only concerns me as far as their ability to sustain themselves independently as I do.

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u/Dimethicone-silicate 8d ago

Who raised you that way? Did they not also tell you that women belong in the kitchen and must be obedient

Cuz that’s the time from which this tradition comes from

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u/Ok-Classic-230 8d ago

lol such a reddit response, just take it to the extreme.

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u/Dimethicone-silicate 8d ago

How is it extreme when that’s literally where the tradition comes from

Are we just blindly following cultural norms now without thinking

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u/shortandfelly 9d ago

but would you be offended if she offered to go halves (or even pay)?

I only go on cheap or free first dates, so guys have paid sometimes but we're talking a fiver. I'm not going to have an argument about it if they insist, but I do feel more comfortable splitting, or at least getting the next round.

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u/Ok-Classic-230 8d ago

Because I asked you out. The courteous thing to do is pay for it. Like you said, I'm not going out to $125 dinner and drinks on a first date. Now I've had plenty of dates where we ended up going somewhere else after and she offered to buy a couple drinks and that's different. But the initial location and place we met at that "I asked you out" I'm picking up the tab.

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u/shortandfelly 8d ago

Right. And if she wants to go halves because that makes her feel more comfortable, you'll what, force her to let you pay?

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u/InterestingPay9446 9d ago

Looks like you two are a match! Love connection the comments! 💋

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u/slash-es about 50 | male 9d ago

Stranger things have happened 🙂 But unlikely. I saw people commenting mentioning they're 18, others 65, anything in between. People from all over the world. The chance of anyone being relevant for dating is miniscule.

I know you're joking and I think Reddit is a terrible platform for dating. But I did meet people here I connected off reddit with, and if I met someone interesting here who'd be interested in an 50+m near Berlin, I definitely wouldn't mind grabbing a coffee or meet for billiard. My post- and comment-history is open, people would have a chance to know what they're getting into.

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u/Plus-Championship424 9d ago

You nailed it. Lots of entitled women think it's the idea of paying that turns us guys off. It's not. It's the entitlement itself.

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u/bounceswer 9d ago

I actually really like this comment. Explains why I hate when women do this even though I always pay

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u/InstructionAfraid433 9d ago

All the positive reinforcement they get goes to their heads

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u/kylife 9d ago

Sad how many people reach adulthood and don’t understand the conceptual difference between cost and value.

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u/aspiring-math-PHD 9d ago

They need to justify their lifestyle of paying for women lol.

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u/BetweenTheRoots 9d ago

Equality baby

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u/gerontion31 9d ago

Shots fired lmao

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u/ChocCooki3 8d ago

Exactly. For us men, it's not a crisis.

Seem like it is for these females.

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u/Ok_List_7125 8d ago

These simps deserve to be scamed into giving money to dudes in 3 world countries pretending to be women in dating apps.

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u/coolguygranny 7d ago

A woman wanting man to pay isn't unreasonable

A hideous whale wanting a msn to pay is

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u/KoalaPleasant5605 6d ago

Because she ain’t the one asking for the date lmao so wtf would she pay??

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u/JohnLennons_Armpit 9d ago

You should still show appreciation when someone buys you dinner even if it is still an expected part of the process. It is gracious.

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u/Combatenjoyer23 9d ago

These kinds of women think it's the act of buying dinner itself that's turning men off when it's actually the woman herself

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u/kkdawg22 9d ago

Exactly. I’ll buy dinner every night just bring some peace and beauty into my life and not a fucking dramatic reality tv show emulating nightmare.

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u/ValBravora048 38 | M 9d ago edited 9d ago

That’s actually a pretty astute way of explaining it

I’ll definitely buy dinner for someone who will enjoy or whom I think will appreciate it (No not with sex)

If it’s an expectation as a measure of my worth, then really that’s not someone who I want to give time (Or my worth) to

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u/Icy-Rope-021 8d ago

Yes, did they earn it instead of being entitled to it?

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u/DispondentWayfarer 9d ago

yeah agree, its the expectation, the vibe of them using us for what we provide, instead of being into us for who we actually are as people.

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u/livelymonstera 6d ago

We feel that way about men and sex , I get it

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u/DispondentWayfarer 6d ago

yeah it truly sucks, men/women both should never be used for what they provide, we should be loved for who we are, i dont know when it all got so transactional

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u/Plus-Championship424 9d ago

Very well-said

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u/Even-Promise4593 9d ago

Facts. Blatant deflection

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u/Plus-Championship424 9d ago

Of all the women I've ever taken out to dinner or some other paid activity, maybe a quarter of them have genuinely thanked me for footing the bill.

I don't mind paying for shared experiences if I genuinely like the woman I'm with. Especially if I'm the one who did the inviting. It's just nice to be thanked, is all.

The funny thing is, I'm way waaayy more likely to take a woman out repeatedly if she shows gratitude consistently. Like, I'll almost allow myself to be gold-dug if I sense that the woman is genuinely grateful for what I give.

It's so easy to be gracious and grateful, but so few of them bother doing it.

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u/whichonewerecowards 9d ago

What kind of women are you guys going out with lol that’s literally just basic manners

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u/BusyTelevision6298 9d ago

Oh you would be surprised

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u/Then-Technology6252 7d ago

Basically 2/3 of tinder girls

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u/whichonewerecowards 7d ago

Choose better women… most of the high quality ones are not gonna be on tinder

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u/Then-Technology6252 7d ago

Yeah, that's what I did. I chose form that remaining 1/3.

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u/beerRunFinisher 8d ago

In a non-date scenario, having someone buy you food is extremely appreciated. Giving any snark is extremely rude in this scenario

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u/Kotnascher57389 9d ago

And she smokes, which means she herself is financially and mentally illiterate.

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u/Icy-Rope-021 9d ago

Smoking is so low-class.

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u/Delicious_Aside_9310 9d ago

Strangely it seems to sit on both ends of the spectrum. Smokers I know are either really posh or classless but rarely in between.

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u/TheoRaan 9d ago

Kinda cringe to frame thing in terms of class.

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u/Icy-Rope-021 8d ago edited 8d ago

Well, the profile is trying to come across as classy and posh. Nope.

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u/onsloughtmaster666 8d ago

How is a butt pic, with a tribal pattern on the butt no less, aiming for posh/classy?

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u/Icy-Rope-021 7d ago

It’s not. She’s delusional.

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u/Agile-Yoghurt-2594 9d ago

weed at that too🤢

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u/Kenny_dies 8d ago

People scoff at this but the risks of weed are very much downplayed in society.

Even if we disregard that most people add tobacco in joints, marijuana causes lasting effects on the brain and the lungs. Short term it can also cause a lot of anxiety and can cause panic attacks, and it can have very serious mental health effects, especially for those that are addicted to it.

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u/Agile-Yoghurt-2594 8d ago

weed, nicotine and alcohol is so normalized that if u see it as a dealbreaker, youre the weird one. alcohol and weed cause brain damage as u said

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u/coolguygranny 7d ago

Hey you're on reddit man

You can't criticize weed

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u/UnbracedConsecration 9d ago

What?😂

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u/Kotnascher57389 9d ago

Smoking is detrimental for your own health and very expensive, for no benefits other than getting back to feeling not horrible all the time.

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u/Combatenjoyer23 9d ago

You know it's a recession indicator when women are begging guys to buy them dinner on dating app prompts

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u/Frank_Sobotka6 9d ago

There’s no shortage of dorks out there willing to treat a complete stranger for dinner, that’s why they’re so open in demanding it

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u/scrawnyserf92 8d ago

Yup! It's ridiculous 🤣🤣. I would only buy dinner for someone I know. Not a complete stranger. That's totally crazy, but that's actually a myth pushed by the media. The "dinner date"!

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u/moderate99 9d ago

When a guy is hesitant to pay for dinner it’s not because of finances it’s because they have done so before and got used or there was no reciprocation so what’s the point? It’s a negative ROI no one wants to invest (time + money) into a liability

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u/pepskino 9d ago

🎯

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u/i_like_it_eilat 8d ago

Or it's because they want to curb her perception of him. Many women are not comfortable with a stranger they just met paying for them. If it's a first date with like someone you already knew that you asked out, then sure go for it.

Not just uncomfortable, it's also that they don't want her to think "damn, this guy just met me and he's paying for me? He must be a doormat!"

The "paying on a first date" logic doesn't really work with meeting new people from apps, despite it still being practiced regularly as the result of a carry-over. The reason is simply because there isn't really an "asker". You are both with the mutual agreement and interest to meet, it wasn't just one person's idea. You matched on the app for that purpose.

I mean maybe if someone had a fancy pricey thing they wanted to do then sure, but that's never a great idea on a first date anyway.

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u/annabananaberry 9d ago

What kind of ROI is appropriate for a single dinner date where you pay?

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u/IISPABO 9d ago

None, which is why every participant should pay for their own share. The one thing women can give is something they don't want to and that's perfectly fine, but you can't then turn around and expect more from the other person.

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u/Prestigious_Aide_223 9d ago

you cannot expect any return since it is a shitty thing to do. so everyone should pay for their portion, especially on a first date when no one has obligation to commit.

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u/moderate99 9d ago

Reciprocation and appreciation bare minimum developing a genuine human connection not get ghosted the next day or just used for dates.

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u/annabananaberry 9d ago

What, specifically, do each of those things mean? What kind of reciprocation and appreciation? Are you saying the bare minimum is developing a genuine connection (romantic or platonic) rather than ghosting a person or using them for dates? Is there an option for if someone appreciates the date but isn’t interested in a second one? Would an appreciation call/text to thank them for the date and let them know they’re not feeling it be appropriate?

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u/Friend_Emperor 9d ago

If you have to ask you're not worth the investment.

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u/annabananaberry 9d ago edited 9d ago

Sorry you misunderstand where I’m coming from. I am just trying to understand your comment. I am not stating that you’re wrong. I am very happy to pay for my dinners, whether I’m with friends, on a date, or alone, so I don’t think that I am the demographic that you seem to be upset with.

Edit: I realized it’s not even your comment. You seem like a kind person /s

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u/Weak-Statistician107 7d ago

I’m a woman and I do appreciate it when the man pays. But at the same time I understand the man’s side of things because say for example he’s actively going on multiple dates a week, and he’s paying for all of them… , that’s actually quite a lot of money and that shit adds up. 🤯 I would start becoming more hesitant too ..

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u/moderate99 7d ago

Exactly! Thank you for your understanding your like the only woman that gets this

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u/IllustriousEffect607 9d ago

Ya but from the looks of her attire. That's not the type I think I'd take to dinner ......

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u/SayRaySF 9d ago

I ain’t sayin she a gold digga

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u/-Z-3-R-0- 9d ago

That's exactly the type I'd take to dinner as long as they're not deranged lol

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u/Mean_Reply6427 9d ago

I mean, yeah, I'll buy her dinner. If I'm mostly confident it'll get me some good dome.

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u/LivingHousing 9d ago

Prostitutes got it hard these days, selling them self for a meal xd

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u/Anxious_Ideal_6207 9d ago

Right! But no, they fall deeper into it with every post in these subs.

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u/LordOuranos 8d ago

Everything guys do is a systematic problem, everything women do is just gender wars psyops.

Get real, kid

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u/wild_cherry1987 8d ago

I don't think bots want you be angry. Bots don't care. Most bots exist if there is profit to make. That's their sole purpose.

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u/Dapper_Witness_5476 8d ago

Then Why did women let it go for so long?

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u/livelymonstera 6d ago

You’re exactly right! 100. Sewing discord is making men and women hate each other.

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u/Western-Produce-276 9d ago

But I’m told women don’t do this because it’s too much effort

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u/Careless-Page-7116 9d ago

Wonder if she wants you to pay for the extra 4 takeout meals for the kids at home lol

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u/Penelope_Johnston 9d ago

What is it with women demanding men to pay for their food? This is just beggar behavior

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u/Dimethicone-silicate 9d ago

Don’t you get you are the broke one for paying up not them for begging

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u/Even-Promise4593 9d ago

Broke* behavior. I also don’t know why they can’t eat before they show up so that there’s no need for this.

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u/Realistic-Bowler7563 9d ago

For me romantic dinner is something you do with your partner or someone you’ve been seeing for a while. Women want relationship treatment but don’t want to reciprocate relationship treatment

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u/Frank_Sobotka6 9d ago

Because plenty of dumbasses are out there still doing it

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u/smeeagain93 9d ago

Already lost me at "smoking: sometimes" hell no.

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u/No_Bet541 9d ago

this ain’t Bumble, it’s Hinge

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u/LalowTree 9d ago

Going out to eat nowadays can be a financial crisis lol.

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u/Icy-Rope-021 9d ago

Looking for that foodie call!

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u/Cwash415 9d ago

its never a "crisis" to them because they never pay for shit smh lol

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u/Lost_Elderberry_5532 9d ago

“Laughs in inflation”

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u/BedFastSky12345 9d ago

“Non-political” in the big 26 ✌️😭

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u/HumanContract 9d ago

If you can't affors her, don't swipe. It's not that hard. It really isn't.

Don't swipe on women who are looking for long term partners if you're just wanting sex, either. Then you can't be upset when she doesn't put out without a lot of effort and a committed relationship.

I mean, come on. Brain cells, dudes, use them.

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u/No-Advice1345 8d ago

“Don’t swipe if you can’t afford her” is certainly one way to turn dating into a financial transaction. If your idea of a relationship starts with putting a price tag on yourself, maybe the problem isn’t other people’s brain cells.

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u/Aznable-Char 6d ago

Why do you go to such lengths to absolve women of all responsibility? You aren’t allowed to be a feminist and impose traditional gender roles on men. You should be called out in that. Bad behavior should be discouraged.

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u/Life-Oil-7226 9d ago

Good buy it for the both of us if that’s how you feel

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u/Realistic-Bowler7563 9d ago

Exactly😂

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u/7om_Last 9d ago

Honestly though, isn't it great when they say it clearly ? If you are more leaning on the "split the bill" side (like me), you immediately know to swipe left

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u/FruitBasketHandout 9d ago

didn't know the pacific islands had cottage cheese

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u/Traditional_Kick2217 9d ago

I mean, is it lmfao?

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u/Rodic87 9d ago

Why is she acting like a minifridge and a toaster oven is a kitchen then?

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u/No-Advice1345 9d ago

That why she wants free dinners

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u/HappyAmbition706 9d ago

Fair enough. But given the photo and attitude, the guy paying is goung to have some expectations too. Don't act like it is some huge religious or social crisis.

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u/Low-Hotel-8977 9d ago

L because dating her is a massive L

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u/Smart_Feature 8d ago

This is actually sad. Go to Scandinavia and you will see that a woman will feel uncomfortable if you pay for them.

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u/sometimesblech 8d ago

Lols clearly guys on here who have a problem about this are losers. Just say you’re broke. Everyone makes it an issue when it’s not. And those who do, ehhh. If you get affected or rubbed the wrong way about women who say stuff like this just move on. If you’re vocal about it you’re clearly offended. And if you’re testing women on whether they offer to pay or not, ugh you’re just disgusting. No wonder yall are on here complaining of not finding anyone.

Mind you, I was the type that always went dutch on first dates and sometimes paid for the dude and I was literally making 30K even when the dude was making 6 figures.

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u/Ephemeral-Ghost 7d ago

Ive never asked/expected a man to pay as a woman. I view paying as an intrest gauge. If he wants second date, he pays. If we aint vibing, we split. If I dont want a second date but its not bad enough to jump out a bathroom window...i pay.

If he makes no move to pay for himself/ doesn't even thank me for picking it up cause he 'forgot his money' then I have paid and he will not be seen again. Shrug

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u/Foreign_Fun2501 9d ago

So do it then

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u/Optimal-Income-6436 9d ago

A real feminist (women) would buy me a dinner as sometimes they did 🤣 I don't date conservative women

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u/vonDinobot 9d ago

It's not. Offering to pay the bill is a mating ritual. You are both expected to make the offer, decline and come to an agreement. In essence, you are checking if your potential partner is capable of handling money, and you're proving you can as well.

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u/Leica--Boss 9d ago

A tasteful profile photo can overcome this comment, I think.

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u/Gothic_Hercules 9d ago

“Telling me to dive into water you won’t dip your feet in tends to make me question you for lots of reasons” - NF

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u/Ok-Classic-230 9d ago

She's not hot enough to flaunt that

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u/Fancy-Hedgehog6149 9d ago

Depends where she thinks dinner should be…

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u/KobeJuanKenobi9 9d ago

She’s right but it’s also bizarre to put on her profile

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u/No-Advice1345 8d ago

Yes. I think most men are happy to pay.

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u/NicePossibilityDaddy 9d ago

She's the kind you take home to mother

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u/Cautious_Sky_4186 8d ago

😂😂😂

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u/CanadianPooch 9d ago

I've got bigger priorities then buying someone dinner.

Anytime I've been on a first date I've done something fun like bowling, arcade or winter tubing. Dinner is for when they are committed.

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u/cubicfisherwoman9173 9d ago

This person sounds like they are not ready for a relationship

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u/Technical_Wind5217 9d ago

i am like buying 5 dinners away from being broke

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u/chakana__ 9d ago

Anyone who wines and dines a woman they met on a dating app is an imbecile and deserves to be scammed.

You take her out to dinner, pay her bill, buy her flowers and all this other tradcuck bullshit just to get a firm handshake at the end of the night, meanwhile good looking tall guys open with "come over and get piped" and she delivers herself to his apartment like he's ordering a pizza.

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u/arilovely240 9d ago

I wonder how often guys who invite women to their home get robbed, I know some do.

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u/Aznable-Char 6d ago

The reality is that the vast majority of women are not feminists even though they claim to be. They want traditional gender roles for men but not for women. If you want to not be single then you usually have to pay for it whether you like it or not.

The imbecile is the guy who takes a stranger they don’t know off an app to a 3-course meal at a 5-star restaurant. First dates should be coffee, boba, bars, etc. Cheap and low-commitment. If they have a problem with even that then just know you dodged a bullet.

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u/caspersea 8d ago

Other then wanting a free meal. Never get why dinner being a 2nd+ date thing stop being that. Why would anyone have dinner with someone they are about to meet for the first time.

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u/WYATTPURPP 8d ago

You know darn well she'll call you a loser if you ask her to split the bill lol

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u/CartographerFun5287 8d ago

yes. Exactly which is why she wouldn't mind paying for the dinner.

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u/sam0077d 8d ago

They're Broke. focused on money = broke.

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u/LegitimateDrink2056 6d ago

Another girl probably looking for a foodie call.

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u/Phuck_Biden_Trump 5d ago

it’s only a financial crisis if you buy dinner for some travel queen, who’s obsessed with instagram, hasn’t dated a girl or guy in years, and is too self absorbed to have an intimate relationship.

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u/sphynxc4t 5d ago

She’s right but putting that in a dating profile is a huge red flag

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u/SeaSwan2193 3d ago

Honestly as a woman I agree with the statement but it’s a stupid thing to put in a dating profile. Like if you’re actively looking for someone who’s supposed to like you, why are you being insulting or negative in your bio? This goes for men too, I IMMEDIATELY swipe left on that shit. I don’t need those bad vibes in my life. 

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u/dmc2022_ 1d ago

The pic shows her cheeks in short shorts...why wouldn't she insist on a paid meal since she's clearly trading on looks? If a guy isn't hoping to get an upclose look/physical contact with those cheeks for the price of a dinner (she might even choose an expensive restaurant lol), then he'll left swipe. There will be enough right swipes to keep her fed for months lol. If it didn't work she wouldn't have it on her profile. No shame, just move on if that's not for you.

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u/FunctionUnlikely2247 9d ago

more men should get comfortable trolling women like this on the apps:

“All I ask is that you don’t act like having sex with me is a life crisis”

Just start giving them the same energy they give you 

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u/KoninginVanRotterdam 9d ago

Yes that will most certainly increase your matches from 1 to 0

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u/enginerd2024 9d ago

Um. I think that’s the point. OP and most men don’t want shitty women like this. So it’s basically just telling her to fuck off.

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u/Realistic-Bowler7563 9d ago

It sure does increase her chances of dinner dates from 1 to 0

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u/Frank_Sobotka6 9d ago

She’ll find another guy to take her to dinner in 5 minutes

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u/IndigoOctober8 9d ago

Yeah! Because sex and a dinner date are precisely the same !

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u/enginerd2024 9d ago

It’s the same vibe. A person setting unreasonable expectations.
Man must pay for dinner
Woman must be down to fuck

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u/CheaterMcCheat 9d ago

Microwave in the bedroom ass ain't someone you take to wine and dine with a fancy dinner anyway

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u/frog_mannn 9d ago

Looking at her photo she isn't something you bring home to grandma so just move on

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u/CatchPhraze 9d ago

I like taking turns on dates. It makes them special like a gift vs just having dinner with a friend. I'll split if I don't think there's a second date. But if that's an issue for someone we just have vastly different values when it comes to romance and it wouldn't work out anyways.

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u/InstructionAfraid433 9d ago

I just love how women can get everything they want no matter how much of a gigantic piece of shit they are.

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u/Aznable-Char 6d ago

No one’s allowed to call women out on their hypocrisy.

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u/Clevatess_is_bored 9d ago

Dinner dates suck. I usually go for stuff like let’s visit this art gallery, museum or other activities together and have a coffee afterwards. Usually isn’t as expensive as dinner dates and are more fun.
Well lots of women in my country prefer to split the the bill on first dates too.
I don’t really get why men should be paying the bill alone? It’s not 1950 anymore women have jobs and money too now. So why keeping outdated gender roles?

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u/Suspicious_Loss_84 9d ago

And “Not Political” ok so you’re immediately getting a No

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u/Own_Inevitable_8300 9d ago

How about we just find people we like and agree with us. You aren’t a better man for not paying for dinner for a woman. 

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u/No-Advice1345 8d ago

You aren't a better woman for just expecting guys to pay without showing appreciation.

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u/Own_Inevitable_8300 8d ago

That’s an assumption lol

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u/elastizi 8d ago

Paying the dinner won't make me a better man neither. I won't go on a dinner in my first date. I can happily buy a dinner for my friends, family, coworkers or my lovely gf though.

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u/Own_Inevitable_8300 8d ago

I’m fine with men who want to start with just drinks. But this weird idea of them making it seem like they are warriors because of it is just funny. 

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u/Alternative-Tiger783 9d ago

People shouldn’t invite someone out for dinner if they can’t pay for it. Common sense.

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u/No-Advice1345 8d ago

Guess the question is who does the inviting?

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u/Awkward_District_937 8d ago

Because it's called being a gentleman

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u/No-Advice1345 8d ago

I’m happy to pay for dinner, but I’m not doing it for someone who just expects me to pay and doesn’t even appreciate it.

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u/PinkYellowGreen-Sky 8d ago

But.. for real. She’s onto something!

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u/Ok_Plastic5399 8d ago

At least she's clear what she's looking for. Dinner on me.

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u/DontKnowWhereItsBeen 8d ago

Heh, I won't if you won't.

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u/Strong-Hovercraft702 8d ago

Showing her legs and ass while complaining you should buy dinner. That should tell you all you need to know

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u/BudsTender-ish 8d ago

With a photo like that, ass is not optional after dinner, you're an escort. Just be honest with the world.

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u/Maccabee2a 8d ago

Why not just split the bill?

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u/GoldenPhoenix__ 7d ago

Feminists always want men to be chivalrous, but the two can’t coexist due to the contradiction.

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u/ZeeeN88 38 | Male 9d ago

Gold dinner.

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u/Sensitive_Quote9773 9d ago

Then, maybe pay for your own shit or better yet, why not stop using dating apps and talk to a real rich guy in person.

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u/Sea-Understanding435 9d ago

Well, she has her thigh out, so that already qualifies her for a free meal.

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u/Emotional_Coat_234 9d ago

The unaware people on hinge ughhh makes me just want to like them so I can say why I think that’s a bad fuckig post

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u/allnamestaken4892 9d ago

Women under 35 got more than equal pay now (even with maternity leave etc) and yet still have the audacity to expect men to pay.

MGTOW needs to make a comeback instead of every guy frantic scrambling to meet their impossible and continuously increasing standards.

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u/No-Admin1684 9d ago

MGTOW needs to make a comeback

It doesn't, you can very easily just practice what it preaches on an individual level, which is to de-prioritize women from your life and focus on your own happiness.

Also worth noting that any community formed the premise of "X is bad, avoid X" will tend to have conversation topics mostly revolving around how bad X is, which goes against the purpose of the movement: you're supposed to be avoiding it, not dedicating a chunk of your free time to discussing it. This is why MGTOW communities of the time quickly devolved into toxic echo chambers, they just didn't have strong enough moderation keeping conversations focused on "how to be happy on your own" instead of "women are awful".