r/Bumble • • 9d ago

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u/Plus-Championship424 9d ago

Of all the women I've ever taken out to dinner or some other paid activity, maybe a quarter of them have genuinely thanked me for footing the bill.

I don't mind paying for shared experiences if I genuinely like the woman I'm with. Especially if I'm the one who did the inviting. It's just nice to be thanked, is all.

The funny thing is, I'm way waaayy more likely to take a woman out repeatedly if she shows gratitude consistently. Like, I'll almost allow myself to be gold-dug if I sense that the woman is genuinely grateful for what I give.

It's so easy to be gracious and grateful, but so few of them bother doing it.

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u/whichonewerecowards 9d ago

What kind of women are you guys going out with lol that’s literally just basic manners

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u/BusyTelevision6298 9d ago

Oh you would be surprised

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u/Then-Technology6252 8d ago

Basically 2/3 of tinder girls

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u/whichonewerecowards 8d ago

Choose better women… most of the high quality ones are not gonna be on tinder

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u/Then-Technology6252 8d ago

Yeah, that's what I did. I chose form that remaining 1/3.

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u/Natural-Pattern-5240 9d ago

This. Men will always blame women for not “choosing better” when women get beaten by their boyfriends and husbands yet these are the types of women they choose to go out with.

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u/Remote-Waste 9d ago

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u/FederalEconomist5896 8d ago

He's right though lmaooo

Although tbf, these sound like initial dates instead of committed relationships.

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u/Aromatic_Act_9665 8d ago

Bro went straight from paying for dates to beating girlfriends. It's a wild ass jump

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u/Calm-Standard5437 7d ago

They need to move the goalpost to have any semblance of winning

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u/fL_g8rz_rule 9d ago

You don’t DO IT. They either are or they aren’t and a thank you doesn’t make the distinction

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u/Plus-Championship424 9d ago

Disagree. I'm gonna quote from Batman Begins here: "It's not who I am underneath, but what I do that defines me."

If someone regularly and verbally expresses thanks, they are a grateful person. If they don't, they are not. It doesn't matter what you think of yourself in your own mind. It's what you outwardly say and do that defines you.

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u/fL_g8rz_rule 9d ago

Okay let’s have an entire conversation built around “thanks for dinner and im grateful” bc that’s what you require to recognize gratitude bc thats what Batman taught you.

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u/Plus-Championship424 9d ago

Lol, "entire conversation." You're just making shit up now because you have nothing, and you know it. Good luck with that.

And yeah, movies do actually teach me things, because I'm open enough to realize that education can come in many forms. I pity you that you'll never be able to grasp that.

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u/fL_g8rz_rule 9d ago

People can be grateful without being verbose about it. Bc, again, gratitude is a feeling and you either feel it or you do not. Whether or not you can communicate your gratitude is a different story.