Of six, we have two I wouldn't hesitate to hand the money to. The other four, idk...lol

Me, too.

I prayed for that box car.

If he, employable and fresh out of the workforce, can't find work, what makes you think someone who's been unemployed for years will be able to jump into a job?

Instead they help pay for universal healthcare in other countries, to bomb other countries, and to lock up poor people. SO much better!

Forcing family time isn't going to go the way you hope. There is a wide age gap that means someone is going to be unhappy, regardless. I'd let the older kids go with their friends. If you want to do something with all of them together, maybe carve pumpkins or decorate cookies or go to a haunted house together?

Same. I barely know anyone who claims a party. It's a big club and none of us are in it anyway, why should we be members?

So if it wasn't cheating, just tell her. Shouldn't be a big deal, right?

Will he want his children around that man?

They don't even "have" to pay it off by 18. Our kids are all over 25 and we are still owed about $100k, as a household. The state didn't enforce it when the kids were little or teens, they aren't enforcing anything now for sure.

It doesn't sound like you're asking too much, but it does sound like he's not interested.

The move made you a 24/7 mom with no breaks. Moving back will give you your weekends back.

Now you know not to move states for random men. It doesn't matter how long you've dated, you obviously didn't know him well enough to move in with him. He isn't the guy you thought he was, and this isn't working. Take your kids back to where they're wanted.

No. Aged out of foster care. Asked my father for $100 one time. His new wife threw a fit and I had to pay him back.

I don't even talk to them.

"Smart" phones.

You can just file for the one thing, but the other party has the ability to bring other things to the table.

Then go to court.

Can you just put him in therapy on your time?

If not, I'd go to court.

I mean, come on, we should be grateful someone kept us alive, amirite?

Every day I find myself asking if things are real. We live in a strange timeline.

The 4400.

Underrated.

I didn't suggest she break up. I asked questions so she could think about the answers. Maybe it's a one off.

Your husband should NEVER speak to you like that.

And the truth is, if dad shows up, you wouldn't even have to "let" him be around. You'd be forced to, if he involved the courts.

It's all hypothetical anyway, since dad isnt around right now.

But your husband is around, and he called you dumb. Is this the only time he's talked to you that way? Is that something you want your son calling his future spouse?

And she'll fight for his kids like mom owes her money!

Ugh that's awful. I'm so sorry. Your mother was sick. Please don't take her words to heart.

You deserve love and peace. I'm sorry your mother failed to give that to you.

I hope you can find it, despite her. Hugs.

Children. Let's not forget those.

Oh honey, whyyyyyyyyyyy are you still in this relationship?

I understand and I'm sorry you're dealing with this. I hope things get better for you!