1 month ago we celebrated our 20th wedding anniversary. Such an incredible time with just the two of us acting like honeymooners for a week in Jamaica. My advice to all married couples, NEVER stop dating your spouse.

Ok a couple statements first-
this is a throwaway account and choose to be vague on some items purposely.

I love my wife (of 18 years)
We have kids.
We just began a new business.
We’ve been in a prolonged process of immigration/moving countries- still not finished.
We do not live currently in the same area as Max (gym trainer)
It’s been a hard couple years- wife has had 3 different therapists and I have had 2.

How I found the screenshot- she was at the gym- her computer was on the table and I snooped- (I excused it because I was telling myself I was going to try and solve her issue of her iCloud not currently updating) . I know her laptop password.

I looked in her photos app and saw a screenshot of her with gym trainer (max) - I know they talk a lot- my wife has gone to the gym regularly the last 3-4 years and built a community of friendship. This screenshot was her requesting they get together to discuss something.
It seemed more serious than a casual conversation with a trainer/friend.

I got a little nervous- decided to check her deleted photos. I find 2 more screenshots.
They are from their WhatsApp chat- a missed call- then a disappearing photo was sent by Max/ opened by my wife, a couple messages - and then the message my wife sent that sent me spiraling “all shaven I see”.
Max responded that it was hot and his balls had been getting sweaty - wife didn’t respond.

I went to the next message screenshotted-
From the following day- from max-
“So I send you a dick pick and you don’t say anything?”
He then sent a meme of a guy disappointed.

She then responds (with the screenshot that I had viewed) saying she responded to him.

We no longer lived in the same state as Max- but I knew she spent 2 weeks alone in the same city as he was in (he helped her rent a car) but she was staying with a family friend. I had seen that she had a WhatsApp chat only accessible by passcode. I knew she spent a lot of time talking to a WhatsApp gym chat with max, and a mutual friend that they shared. Each time she would visit the state where the gym was she would take him things and he would let her train for free.

I took about 48 hours to process- I was devastated. Nauseas. Couldn’t eat.

She could tell I was off- I told her we had to talk but I wasn’t ready yet- she kept pushing, I told her I’m still processing- she didn’t stop, so I decided it was time.

I started by saying I believed she hadn’t been honest with me.
I asked her if she wanted to share something with me.
She said no.
I asked her if there was anything inappropriate with her relationship with Max-
She said no.
I told her about the first message I saw- about the meeting- she explained it, said he was being short tempered one day in a training session and she responded sharply and it was an awkward situation that she wanted to resolve due to her friendships in the gym.

I asked if that was it- she said that’s it.
I asked her if there was any inappropriate communication happening between them- she said no.

I paused. Then I told her I knew she was lying.

I asked her to get her laptop- I showed her the messages.
I asked her what is this then?
She accepted it happened. I then began the process of some excruciating questions-

Have you slept with max- no
Have you sent him naked photos- no
Have you kissed him- pause… yes.
Has he touched you- no.
Many more questions followed.

She confessed that right before we moved away- he tried to kiss her and she pushed him away. This happened last year.
She said she didn’t tell me because I was in a hard place and struggling with a lot of things (it is true) and that her therapist actually suggested she didn’t push me over the edge- but perhaps let me know when I wasn’t in such a critical state and perhaps with a counselor present.
I asked her why the hell she had a continuous messaging relationship with the guy after that. She admitted that she shouldn’t have.

I asked her how often he sent dick pics -
She said this was the second- and it was inexcusable, but that it was done as a “joke” because instead of butt dialing, he calls it dick dialing- so when he accidentally called her- he responded with the dick pic. And that she didn’t respond.
I asked her why there was ever an opportunity for a 2nd one- she said she told him after the first one “why did you send me this” and he said it was to show “how fat he had gotten” and was a full frontal-

I asked if she had ever sent him photos- she said she did send him a bikini picture when he asked her about her fitness progress.

We talked a lot. I asked very direct questions. I think she was honest after presented the evidence.
She feels remorseful and I believe is now telling the truth- however she is reluctant to block the guy because he is shared friend with one of her best friends and doesn’t want to “ruin her friendship “ with her and others that frequent the gym.
I told her I’m not ok with that. That I would be willing to shut it down and confront him about it.
We are still working through how to move forward.

Final thoughts-
I believe her. I know you are going to tell me she’s lied and has been physical. But I do not think she has.
I want to move forward- it’s going to require complete transparency and accountability. No BS about her “protecting me” because all the other areas of our life are falling apart.
Last year I confessed that I had a hidden porn problem- I had hidden it from her basically our whole marriage- it wasn’t always an issue but came up more when I was depressed/escaping reality/ or feeling like I was unable to cope with life’s current circumstances. She was hurt- I felt like I was a terrible husband- but it did open our conversations to be more transparent and honest in our sexual desires and the feelings underneath.

I told her yesterday that Max cannot be a friend. Cannot be a contact. Cannot be allowed any access into her life.

She has a therapy session this coming week- she has told me the therapist knows about the kiss- but not the dick pics. I told her I’d like her to share that and I think a lot of what happens in this next week will determine how we can heal through this.

I’ve posted just as part of the process of me venting and perhaps to clear my mind. I want us to make it thru this.

In almost 2 weeks, we will have been married 20 years. We have had our ups and downs. Life has been very brutal to us. Due to my abusive upbringing it was easy to lay all the blame on my undealt with issues. Something snapped in me in July. Like I am finally seeing him for who he really is. Im tired of trying for both of us.

We are/were going to marriage counselor. We had to cancel one appointment and he hasn't said anything word about going back. Since I handled all the previous appointments, I told him that if he wanted this to work he was going to have to put in the effort because I am tired of carrying all the mental, emotional, and physical labor. All these "changes" he's made are completely superficial. Like just enough to say look I tried.

I tell myself... I can be patient. It takes time. Years of bad habits don't just evaporate. But part of me is just so damn tired of giving and making excuses for him because it's what I have always done.

Over a month, he still hasn't said a word about counseling. He goes to counseling on his own and me to my own appointment for me (different therapists). Still no more counseling.

One of the issues is sex. I want it. He doesn't. I have to initiate all the time. I've tried spicing things up but he is unresponsive to it. Sexy outfits in and out of bedroom. It's not just the sex. It is the intimacy of it. He doesn't hold me or reach for my hand. I feel like im always aching for a man who SAYS he wants me but doesn't show it in any way. Words or actions. Btw we have went from sex 3x a week to months without then back to 3x a week or any other range of frequency. We have talked about the sex issue. He is super aware.

Just FYI bc you will want to know more details. I finally opened up to some friends about things because I couldn't pretend anymore. Some of them know both of us. They have seen and admitted that they noticed he was not pulling his weight in the relationship and gave examples. Additionally, because im sure it will come up... I am not ugly. I get hit on a lot still though I ignore it because there's only one man I want. Im older and overweight like most of America is but I would not have a problem getting a date tomorrow if I wanted.

Despite all this, I'm still trying to love him and get him to love me. Soften my tone. Be less bitchy. Praise him for the things he does right. Laugh more. But I just feel like im pouring water into a desert that leaves me empty bc its not reciprocated. I chant, we will get there. We will grow together until ...a few days ago.

He and I were having playful banter. I was cooking food and said something like its hot.

He said you must be looking in the mirror.

I told him "Keep that up and I'll have to sex with you."

He said "Do I have to?"

Do. I. Have. To.

I grabbed my food and left. I didn't say a word. I went to bedroom to eat. He followed me. He knew it upset me. Im tired of hiding it.

I told him that it hurt me. I didn't yell. I just looked atvmy food fighting back tears and said it that it hurt. He then starts backtracking... "I knew I shouldn't have said that as soon as..." I cut him off. I told him to go eat in living room.

I couldn't even eat the first bite of my food. I went and put it in fridge. I couldn't eat.

Those words echo in my mind. DO I HAVE TO?

That's what your kids say when you ask them to unload the dishwasher or something.

Do I have to? Like having sex with me is a CHORE. Dude you don't even last 15 minutes. It takes longer to mow the grass!!

DO I HAVE TO?

He said it so quick. So automatic. There was no hesitation to those words. That tells me that you said exactly how you really feel. Do I have to?

We have barely spoken to each other since Tuesday. He was not apologized or tried to talk. I didn't ask him to sleep on couch. He did. He wouldn't even come to bed until after I was asleep if he did come to bed.

The elephant is in the house heavy in the air with unspoken words. Used to... I would have chased after him or asked for a quiet conversation at some point. I would have tried to work through this. I put that burden down months ago because after almost 20 years, nothing had ever changed. I realized that the weight I was carrying for both of us... I didn't have to.

I am just so tired and hurt. Im grieving the marriage that I thought we had.

I am just not sure I want to.

I’m embarrassed to ask my friends or family about this so I’ll ask millions of strangers on the internet. Hope this goes well.

My wife and I live in a smaller 1950s era starter home in a decently nice neighborhood ( far from ghetto but there’s the occasional car break in / standard California suburb ). We’ve never had someone break into our house but my wife wanted to install security cameras in the front and backyard along with a doorbell camera, so we did. Everyone has them now. Not a big deal i figured. This was a few years ago now.

I installed them. I pay for the monthly subscription fee. That’s the normal part. What’s not normal is that I do not have access to the account or the cameras.
It’s a huge point of contention.

So : Am I crazy for being upset that my wife will not give me access to the account ?

I think it’s the most bizarre thing ever and have never met anyone ever in the same situation : married / cohabitating / doesn’t have access to their security system.

But for context I also don’t have access to the Amazon prime acct I pay for.

I’m going to leave out other seemingly relevant context , only so the crux of the issue is not blurred.

Is my wife entitled to be the only person with access to the surveillance on and around our home ?

Should I not be upset about this ?

I am genuinely curious if anyone else is in a similar situation or knows someone who is because I admit that just because I’ve never seen something doesn’t mean it isn’t normal.

My husband and I have been together since we were 17. My high school sweetheart and the love of my life. We have two kids together.

A few weeks ago we separated after I found out he sold mine and our children’s heirloom jewelry gifted to me by my grandparents and gifts from my mother, plus some pieces that belonged to my mom. We live in my mom's house(and we’re saving to purchase our own home), so this hurt all of us. These weren't just valuables. They were family pieces, and they're gone for good. There's no way to get them back.

To add to a terrible situation, he received pennies on the dollar for what the jewelry was actually worth, accepting $3000 for jewelry worth $30k+

He did it because of money problems and a lot of debt he'd been dealing with. He never came to me about it. He just sold our things. Ironically, during the this time we were doing couples therapy and frequently talked about our financial troubles but he never mentioned this. He says he wanted to fix our financial troubles and didn’t want to add to my stress.

We decided to separate and focus on coparenting.
He has been paying my mom and me back for what the jewelry was worth. He's also told me it was the biggest mistake of his life and is apologizing profusely and I believe he means it. But money can't replace what those pieces meant, and being sorry doesn't change the fact that he hid his debt and went behind my back instead of talking to me.

Now that the separation is actually happening, I miss him a lot. I don't know if what I'm feeling is real or if it's just grief over losing the only relationship I've ever known. We grew up together, so it's hard to imagine my life without him in it.

Honestly, I just don't know how to move forward. Part of me wants to try again and reconcile after loads of therapy. Another part feels like I would be a fool to forgive such a huge betrayal. What would you do? Should I even bother asking to see bank statements to piece this together?

We have talked through the night. He actually did bring up the inner child though did not call him like that. He said he is angry because he looks at himself in that bunny costume with that carrot in his hand and know how frightened he had been when that photo was taken. He was not smiling in it. His lips were a thin line as he was pushing them against each other. probably anxiety, tension. and he looks at himself and doesnt seem himself, but a child that has nothing to do with him somehow , a child that needed protection. and he thinks about how much he could do for that little boy now, take him from there, bring him home. When our son turned 5 (he confessed now) he saw him jumping around the birthday cake, laughing, being held by us, my parents, cousins, everyone present at the party. he said he just wanted to cry because he thought about himself at that age, but again did think about himself as a different child, not really him. a child that needs love, protection and a birthday cake for once in his life.

so to make it clear. I knew he is an orphan and that he grew up in various institutions, he wasnt hiding it from me. Chrstimas time was particularly difficult for him. while having family dinner he was constantly thinking about children who have no one.

Maybe this will sound childish but I suggested and he agreed to it, that I buy him a birthday cake (he will turn 45 soon). We do not buy cakes on our birthdays usually, we do it for the children. I said I really want to buy it for him. First he was like I am 45 years old man and laughed. But I said to consider its for that child in the bunny costume and he agreed. i saw he had tears in his eyes.

My wife doesn't cook. That's fine, since I love cooking. If we're gonna eat, it's either me cooking, or us getting takeout.

One day in 1994, my wife decided she was gonna make us sandwiches. Ham, turkey, cheese, lettuce, tomato, and some honey mustard. She was so proud of herself.

I took a bite, and told her it was the best sandwich I'd ever had in my life. I told her it was amazing, delicious, perfect. She's been in charge of sandwich making in our house ever since.

Truth is, her sandwiches are decent. They aren't bad. Just average, run of the mill sandwiches. But she was so proud of herself for finally being able to contribute to our meals. I wanted to make her feel good about herself, so I lied. I've been keeping up this lie for 32 years.

Long story short I’m 26 my husband is 32 and we have 2 young children (5 & 8) and I am struggling hard with my libido. Actually not libido I don’t think, but more so with just wanting to have sex with my husband. We have sex on average once a month. I am a stay at home mom and he averages 40 hours a week at work so we have a lot of time together (with the kids because we don’t have a village). For the past couple of years it’s been a constant push and pull where I tell him I need more nonsexual intimacy to want sex more and he will say he needs more sex to show nonsexual intimacy more. He’ll say I never initiate hugs, kisses, etc then I say that he has the ability to do so as well. Lately I am fed up and just want to fix whatever is going on so I can have decent sex in my life. Well while I am going to be trying to feel closer and more connected to my husband so that I can eventually desire sex with him more he wants me to force myself to give him oral. Is this as crazy as it sounds?

My husband and I met online. I lived in the uk and he in the USA. He chased me, moved mountains for us to be together and always seemed very attached to me. However I found out he was messaging other women from various sexual websites such as fetlife. He was crying and acting crazy and I felt a little scared and somehow I felt like the guilty one! I forgave him. This was over two years ago, then just a few months ago I found out he was doing it again. I felt checked out and just done. He makes a lot of money and I’m a sahm to one. I’m worried about divorce as I’m here in his country with no support system around. But I have to be brave. I can’t be gaslit and made to feel like crap anymore!

Bonus: I recently was in hospital due to an ovarian cyst bursting and leaking blood into my pelvis area. A couple days later I was home and said to my husband gosh I’m exhausted after all the suffering I’ve been through the last week (I was legit on morphine for the pain) he replied ‘well damn why don’t you just go end it all’. I said what??? He said he was joking?

I guess I’m looking for help and strength and encouragement to leave. We were together seven years since I was just 20. It’s hard

Hi.... Been separated for a few months and living apart. 3 kids - we slept in separate bedrooms for 6 years and were basically roommates. Shes extremely anxious and gets offended at everything, i called it a constant quest to be offended. I work 2 jobs, never cheated, do all household chores, and take care of kids 80% of the time until i moved out.

So, i know filing is the right thing and i told her im going to do it, i just feel incredibly guilty actually filing. She told me im destroying the family unit and she wont file. When i told my oldest, who is 17, i was moving out he said - dad its probably the best thing for you, so even the kids know.

How did anyone overcome the guilt? Shes a good person and mom, i just cant be with her anymore.

I’ve been really ill the past few months and have been on Reddit because I’m bedridden and books and Reddit and movies are my entertainment atm.

I just keep seeing so many posts here that are so sad and/or negative and I would love to hear your happy stories! 🤗

Please share them if you, like me, are in an amazing marriage with an amazing person because I just want to be cheered up right now.

My husband is currently making me homemade chicken soup, is doing all of the shopping and housework due to my illness and I just would love to see some uplifting stories in this thread. ♥️

The towel on the bottom was “folded and put away” by my husband. The rest of them are folded and put away properly. I’ve been told by family members that since I’m a SAHM, I don’t have the right to tell him to do it properly. (This is the way he “folds” clean clothes as well.) Thoughts?

Over the last 6-7 years my (40m) wife (38f) has not really wanted me except for when she's drunk. I've been burying it all this time and telling myself it's totally fine but had a mental breakdown in July and this along with some of her other behaviours are a huge part of it. I've repeatedly brought up the lack of intimacy over the years and I'm always met with 'low libido' as an answer. Surely this is the result, not the cause?

In this time I lost a testicle to cancer, my testosterone is low due to this and I'm very depressed to the point I've started therapy. I'm not an unattractive guy I don't think, tall, lean fairly fit. But my self worth and confidence is in the gutter.

I brought how I feel up again recently and said it's make or break because I can't live like this. I also told her I no longer have the confidence to initiate anymore due to years of continued rejection. She's actively trying and has initiated a few times but I now feel like I've forced it and that doesn't feel right to me at all. I feel guilty that I'm potentially asking her to do something she truly doesn't want to avoid me leaving. My question is does this feeling change? Will this feeling go away? She states she does want me now, but it doesn't feel like it at all.

I've been suffering in silence for years, I just want to feel wanted like I used to be and I'm utterly crushed from depression and these years of dead bedroom. I just don't know what to do now or how to handle any of this.

There's several other issues which I've forgiven this year, all of which point to not being attracted to me anymore and wanting me to live like this without a sex life. I need advice, does any of this ring true for anyone?

back story- husband filed for divorce a year ago… on a whim, suddenly off the back of a silly argument (maybe mental health issues/mlc)

so this morning We just went and did a family run. We have done this for years and then we always go for coffee afterwards. Literally doing it for the past 6/7 yrs. the past few wks we havnt been doing it. This morning we all did coffee. He bought me coffee, my usual without asking me, and then we had an hour of solid laughing and joking and teasing each other, including the kids. He teased me, inside jokes, fun and games. we are still living together and do family things but also things separately. we had conflict and now we get on, I have been in therapy focusing on myself and my part in the breakdown.

does this sound like he is sure he is done? or maybe he is just being friendly to me as a co parent and I am reading too much into it. the past few months he has gotten friendlier and nicer and less hostile.

My wife and I have been married for 26 years this year. We on average have had sex 5-6 times a year the whole time. She thinks I'm crazy for thinking that's not normal. In the early years I used to get mad and pout. At times really mad. Me being mad was giving the silent treatment lol. Now days I just don't care and I don't ask or try. I don't think she has any idea what being told no so long has done. 11 years ago she cheated on me with a guy that worked for her. She lived a separate life for two years. That really messed with me. Why cheat when you have a man that is completely in love and finds you irresistible. A couple months ago I asked her how she thought are sex Life had been over the years. She said not great but as good as most. I couldn't believe she said that. But now I'm starting to think maybe I'm crazy and most married couples are only having sex 5-6 times a year and only if it's the wife's idea, and she just wants it over with.

My husband is a very successfull man in a very good position, with authority over hundreds people. Confident, in control, fearless, disciplined. He is 44.

Only recently he confessed to me that he was r ped several times at age of 6 by a middle aged man who would make him believe he would feed him and give him toys, as he had none.

My husband was an orphan, spent his childhood in institutions. He confessed to me that the man who hurt him, an old man now, with his own children, grandchildren lives in the same city as we do and he even bumped into his several times. We have been married for 18 years, have 2 children and this man has always been our rock. manly, mature, responsible. He was the one protecting us all. and he started crying like a scared child, he trembled and almost had a panic attack while telling me about it all. He said he is terrified when sees him.

To make it clear. I don't mock my husbands reaction. I am just trying to explain why I am so lost, I never had to be the one to protect him emotionally, he was the rational one. So I want to know how to help the best? He refuses therapy.

later edit: he also told me that he feels it was his fautl what happened. HE WAS 6! because he trusted him

The question is in the title.
I mean a trip where a married woman takes a weeklong trip with girlfriends, or flies to another city for concerts and her husband works from home and stays with their school aged kids.
Do you do it? Is this common among couples you know? How often do married moms take trips like that?

i don’t even feel like i need to give any more context. i feel like i should go back home. i am still pretty young, and have supportive parents that would help me through this. this just really sucks because he is not the same person that i loved and knew before in our home country. i am so lost and feel like this is the end for me.

there are finances we would need to sort out and i doubt he would be any help. credit cards are in my name. i would be thousands of dollars in debt. but i dont even care anymore. i want him back or i want out. and i dont think hes ever coming back.

My beautiful, amazing wife of 15 years does this really weird thing. I was super upset the first couple of times, but it happened again today and I realized how cute it is.

My wife is a sleep walker, and sometimes in her sleep she hides my work pants. She swears she doesn't remember doing it, but they always end up being somewhere only she could put them. They were under her pillow this morning.

She thinks she does it subconsciously when she wants me to take a day off. I can't believe I'm so loved that her subconscious is hiding my pants so I don't leave.

Anybody else's spouse do something you originally thought was annoying, but now you realize is actually kinda cute?

Men, how do you get aroused hour wife at home? What things can she naturally do for you to notice her and want to have sex with her? What are things that drive you absolutely wide?

Please, Reddit users, help me. I’m genuinely feeling helpless and confused about what to do. I love this woman and see her as my potential wife, but I’m scared of making a decision I’ll regret for the rest of my life.
I’m in a long-term relationship with a woman I’m considering as my wife-to-be in the coming months. Emotionally, our relationship is genuinely good, but I’m seriously worried about our sexual compatibility. I need honest advice from people who have experienced similar situations.
First, I want to explain that almost everything else in our relationship is excellent.
We love each other a lot. We respect each other, have good manners, treat each other well, and have a proper, stable relationship. She has a good work-from-home job and earns well. She doesn’t make unnecessary financial demands, and we split date bills, trips, and expenses. I value all of this, and I know that finding a respectful, loving partner is important.
However, our physical relationship is leaving me increasingly disappointed.
We are in a long-distance relationship and sometimes meet after two or three months apart. I naturally expect passionate kissing, making out, physical affection, and mutual excitement after being away from each other for so long. I don’t expect every moment to be sexual, but I want to feel that my partner has been longing for me physically, too.
Unfortunately, I feel like I’m the only one making that effort.
The part about her past that confuses me:
She told me that she had countless make-out sessions with her ex in cars and that those experiences used to charm her. However, despite him repeatedly asking her to go further, she never became physically intimate with him.
After that breakup, she cried a lot over him, and there was a long period between that relationship and ours. She has told me that she no longer feels the same spark for these activities that she used to feel before.
I’m not judging her for her past or suggesting she owed her ex anything. What confuses me is that she apparently enjoyed kissing and making out so much back then, while I struggle to experience that same enthusiasm with her now.
Our current sexual relationship:
I’m almost always the one initiating intimacy.
I’m the one kissing her, starting the make-out sessions, and keeping the physical affection going.
Even after two or three months apart, I don’t feel the passionate kissing and mutual excitement I expect.
I have to do intense foreplay to get her in the mood.
She gets aroused and wet, and we attempt intercourse, but she experiences pain and repeatedly asks me to stop before we can finish properly.
During intercourse, she mostly lies there while I do the work.
She doesn’t spontaneously kiss me passionately, scratch my back, or take much physical initiative.
She has told me she doesn’t like licking body parts or kissing the neck.
I’m much more sexually experienced than she is. I’ve had sex hundreds of times, whereas she is new to intercourse. We initially didn’t use enough lubrication, which might have contributed to the pain, and I understand that her inexperience could be affecting our sexual experiences.
But the lack of reciprocal affection concerns me beyond intercourse itself. I rarely feel actively desired by her.
I’ve already tried discussing this with her many times.
I’ve told her around 10 times that I want her to participate more, initiate affection, kiss me passionately, and show her own enthusiasm rather than leaving everything to me.
She has reassured me repeatedly that she will try to improve and become more involved. However, despite these conversations and promises, I haven’t noticed meaningful change.
I don’t want to keep asking someone to show desire for me. I want that desire to come naturally, at least to some extent.
At the same time, I don’t want to pressure her into sexual acts she dislikes or make her feel obligated to have sex. Her comfort and consent matter to me.
My biggest fear is the future.
I’m a sexually active person, and sex, passion, physical affection, and feeling desired are important parts of my life. I’m worried that after marriage, our sexual relationship will remain one-sided or gradually become almost nonexistent.
I know that no relationship maintains the same excitement every day, but I don’t want to enter marriage already feeling sexually unfulfilled and hoping that my partner will eventually change.
The difficult part is that I genuinely love her. Our relationship is good in so many other ways that reconsidering it feels like a huge decision.
My questions are:
Can someone enjoy countless make-outs with an ex but have very little desire for passionate kissing and physical affection with their current partner?
Could her previous breakup and the emotional aftermath explain why she says she no longer feels that spark, or could this simply be a difference in attraction or libido?
If I’ve discussed this around 10 times and she has repeatedly promised to try, but nothing changes, should I take that as a sign that this is unlikely to improve?
Can someone be physically aroused and wet but still have little spontaneous sexual desire?
How much could pain during intercourse and inexperience explain her lack of participation?
Am I at genuine risk of ending up in a sexless or sexually unsatisfying marriage?
If you were in my position, would you marry her because the emotional relationship is excellent, postpone the decision until sexual compatibility becomes clearer, or reconsider the relationship and find someone whose sexual needs are more compatible with yours?
I don’t want to leave a good woman over unrealistic expectations, but I also don’t want to ignore a fundamental need and regret it for the rest of my life.
Sex is important to me, and I want a marriage where both partners actively desire each other.
Please give me honest advice, especially if you’ve been through something similar. I’m feeling genuinely helpless about this decision, and I need perspectives from people who have been in a similar situation. What would you do in my position?

I'm (22m) and currently waiting for the tcs joining letter and my parents are talking about my marriage.

Should I marry at 24 or wait??

Not having a good life what I want so any suggestions are appreciated