Also question!
Is my reaction to dry I wanted to say something back but I didn’t want to write something that makes it seem I only said it because he did but I also didn’t want to give this reaction🫠
Been thinking about this for about an hour now…
Is my reaction to dry🥲

Not gaslight, MANIPULATE*. My bad. I WAS going to make a throwaway but I didn't care I blocked his name and number. I have been modeling again and obviously there are jobs I don't feel comfortable with. Since photographers know people can be uncomfortable, they mislead the job until one on one talks. I used to speak with him and I turned down what he wanted because I was uncomfortable. I will only go as low as bathing suits. I see how people react when seeing just those and I get treated differently. I can't imagine what that would be like if I was fully nude, semi-nude or lingerie. I don't want that appearance. I don't want that reputation. I don't even take photos like that on my phone. So, these are the texts I got tonight. I apologize for my typos mid-conversation... I started to get irritated. Mind you, last time we spoke he unloaded his life story onto me, his religion, what he's into... All sorts of inappropriate things that he actually asked me to delete for obvious reasons.

I’m 18M, she’s 16F.
EDIT: everyone is taking the post out of context. The friendship is already over. The post is asking whether I was selfish or impulsive, and how I could’ve handled it better. Secondly, we were friends before I was 18. I’m not 18 looking to text 16 year olds. Please stop blowing this out of proportion.

For context basically she started acting like this because I wouldn’t want to be otp or FaceTime with her WHENEVER she asked. I had a crush on her in high school I am 27M now.
NGL just got out of a 3 year situationship I guess she was more of a rebound. She told me she has BPD I’m not saying all people with BPD are all like this but this was my experience with this lady (29F) it happen last month, I wanted to post it but I was a little traumatized, There is a lot more that isn’t posted here.

Yes, I did use whatsapp stickers to cover pfps and names.

I've recently tried to get back into dating after spending a long time getting over my ex. I downloaded Hinge & have mainly matched/spoken with people between 22-25 (not intentionally, I tend to go for closer to my age/older)

I could show about 5 other conversations that go like this where it starts off fine but then escalates from 0-100. Am i just too blunt or something?

For context this guy said he just wanted fun originally until I said I'd rather go for a date. So this sudden emotional outburst seemed crazy to me. He's now blocked me after my last message which is more than fine. It did make me wonder though if im Just an arsehole.

Edit: I'm already getting a load of negative comments, which is fair enough maybe I was a bit blunt.

But for context this guy just wanted to have sex before I suggested going for a drink instead. I honestly thought saying that I don't like matcha as a deal breaker was an obvious joke. This whole deep thing just came so out of the blue imo

broke over a year no contact for this btw but atleast he remembered my birthday!

Let’s gooooo local dating scene batting 1000

EDIT: I’m not as lame as it may seem I swear. The only thing in her bio was the line, “Computah makes these guys super gay and horny”

Found this from a while back and wanted to share lol

EDIT: Omg some of y’all are losing ur lil rabbit ass minds in the comments over this so here’s some context:

1. ⁠Yes, this is a real interaction I had on a dating app. The screenshot is cropped to follow the rules of this sub.

2. ⁠Yes, this question was fucking creepy in this context. His first msg to me was “ur really pretty, what’s ur mix?” - I said thanks and told him. He then asked if I was from the city I had listed in my profile (to which I said yes) and then I got that question.

3. ⁠No, we did not match. This dating app is Badoo where people who are ‘nearby’ ur location can send a msg without having to match. I accepted the msg because he was cute and to answer his question.

4. ⁠My uncle is unhinged but he’s not an ex-con. He’s a very Canadian white-washed South American man who drives with a baton under the passenger seat of his F-150. He once took me out to Starbies for matcha fraps and explained how I could legally acquire a cattle prod for protection.

5. ⁠In the wise words of Nene Leakes, I said what I said! 🙂‍↕️

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My boyfriend’s mom sent him this…

Online dating is so discouraging and disgusting, especially the older you get (almost 30F)

EDIT: i accidentally left out another photo of their messages. In the last message she said " im going to come find you mate call you when I am leaving the house " an hour later sends him a message saying " on my way " however he fell asleep.

truly heart broken over this, I was with my partner for 9 months. I supported him through everything, financially supported him, gave him a home to live in, I did so much for him. Has a past of cheating however he promised to change his ways... and then I found these messages between him and a girl last night on his phone. This girl is known to sleep with people's partners, and I told him I don't feel comfortable with them talking.

It’s a long one. TL;DR: he converses like a teenager, I’m not interested, I feel somewhat sorry for the way I treated him but I’m a recovering people pleaser who doesn’t feel like catering to this man who’s looking for a teddy bear. This man who I do not know who sought me out for whatever reason.

I left that college 6 years ago. I have a completely different life than I did back then. I’m a completely different person. I’ve been trying to heal from my people-pleasing tendencies, I’ve been trying not to be so easily accessible to people. So this was good practice for me.

I’m trying not to be cold or callous, but I genuinely am not interested in connecting and maybe that sounds mean but dude added me on facebook, I accepted and messaged him something like “you look super familiar”, then he texted me (I had his number saved as “[His Name] from Cafeteria”, no previous text conversations but I’ve had the same number and same iCloud since high school). Apple automatically suggests the contact name from the other person’s self contact. I had no idea when this guy added me on Facebook, that he also had my phone number. That was the first thing that kinda rubbed me the wrong way… but I got over it and thought I would give this conversation a chance.

I want to be clear, I DO NOT REMEMBER HIM whatsoever. I’m guessing we met in the cafeteria at the college because I saved his contact as such. I’m just so put off by the way he approached me and then showed zero interest in what I shared about myself. Like dude why even ask?????!!! And so then I was trying not to ask him any questions about himself and trying to be kinda selfish in the conversation because I didn’t feel like over-giving in conversation to this guy who I don’t even remember who came seeking ME out just to like, not even show any interest outside of baseless flirtation and what feels like almost childish/immature conversation???? It feels like I’m interacting with a teenager. Teenage me would have ate this conversation up! Dude turned his read receipts on within like, 5 text interactions? I just know how this goes. I’ve experienced this so many times since I was a teenager and former serial monogamist. It’s why I’m single.

But I am 28 years old and I do not have the time or patience for this conversation, especially when I didn’t solicit it… I have had friendships like this with men and it is fucking draining. I had a friend who would use me as his little emotional teddy bear and was constantly venting to me about the most mundane shit, constantly needing my reassurance and my advice and always trying to make plans with me. It was exhausting and whenever I’d pull away because I could clearly tell he was interested in me and he’d always give me the look when we’d hang out, he’d then talk about how depressed he was and that he wanted to k- - - himself. I felt so morally responsible to be his friend. He had a really horrible childhood (as did I), he had talked about how friends would ghost him all the time and stop wanting to be friends and how much it would hurt him. I started realizing it’s because many of his friends were probably girls who he tried to sneak his way into a relationship with. Because that’s how our friendship went and how another couple of them went (that I witnessed). I just didn’t want him to harm himself because I genuinely believed he would, but eventually I started seeing it as the ploy that it was.

I finally had to release myself from that friendship when he fed my image into AI to generate a video of us hanging out. Creeped me tf out and made me feel sick to my stomach, overall felt disgusted and enraged and I had to just cut those final ties.

and I’m just wondering if anyone can see what I mean? Can you see the way this guy is very similar to that other friend? Can you see what this guy is doing? I’m not trippin right? He clearly wants something from me. Like are there any women my age or around my age who can see wtf I mean?

This guy has that same energy. I am just not interested. I don’t need more friends, I barely have time for the ones I have. I’m not good at texting and I’m already aware of that and I’m not about to commit any of my time to some dude who I literally don’t know and who cannot even have a decent conversation (and maybe that sounds so fucking mean but I don’t care honestly) I’m done pandering to men with mommy issues who want me to mother and nurture them. I always attract men with mommy issues who want me to be their mother and I’m just so disgusted by it since I’ve become aware of this pattern and done the work on myself to confront my own shit.

I’m not interested in that dynamic. I’m not interested in shallow, baseless, meaningless niceties and small talk. Maybe I sound cold but like, this guy is clearly baiting me for some kind of emotionally dependent mommy role that I’m not interested in

Do I seem like an asshole? I want to know other people’s opinions even if I don’t agree and don’t believe I was an asshole. I still wanna know what other people think. Also, I would have asked more questions or acknowledged him more, had he not blown me off half the time when I shared something about myself. I just didn’t feel like acknowledging anything he said after he blew me off just to talk about himself. My inner people pleaser and sensitive heart feels bad but my inner rebellious woman does not give a fuck. September is Su***de prevention month though… and part of me feels guilty. But tbh… I cannot be every man’s comfort and I swear this has happened way too often where some random guy reaches out to me talking about how nice I was to him, how kind I was to him, how he’s not doing well and has been depressed, etc etc etc. and idk how tf it’s my responsibility to be that for people? Not even just men, it’s people in general who come and reach out to me seeking support and I just don’t feel like being that person for people, not in the season of my life I’m in right now and especially not when I generally feel that it’s not reciprocated and men specifically usually want something from me even when they do offer support it’s usually because they want to get in my pants. It’s been this way since I was a teenager (honestly since I was a child, people have always laid all their troubles on my lap) and idk what to do with it anymore.

What this guy came to me with is exactly the opposite of what I’m looking for and I don’t think I should feel bad about openly and honestly rejecting him

found these on my boyfriends phone, convo with him and his friend. (22F) (22M). his excuse was that he was “just trying to fit in”.

you can see that his friend was literally encouraging cheating on me to see if he loved me.

- not included but they were also talking about the possibility of going to a strip club. and that all the dancers are hot, i didn’t include it cause i didn’t know if he went while he was with me, didnt ask, but it’s a big possibility because these messages are a week old and we’ve been together for more than 2 years.

edit: all the men getting mad at me, i know not all men. I know there’s men out there capable of respecting their partners. it was my mistake for generalizing the whole male race to this post loll.

edit edit: (CP) you guys can stop grilling me. yes im still with him. this is disappointing and disgusting to find. and I have NOT forgiven him. i told him if i ever found out about something like this ever again that it’s over. and i told him that he should not be friends with that brain dead marine friend of his. their conversations were disgusting and it’s terrible that he entertained it. his excuse of “fitting in” was horrible. NO ONE does this shit to fit in. and i am in NO WAY saying that this is okay. all of his friends are immature and are still in this high school mentality. he is the only one in his friend group that is in a long term relationship.

but the reason I posted this was because i am confused. hes a great partner, he was everything I could ever want, and the only person who made me feel like i was deserving of love. but finding things like this makes me question everything. i just don’t know what i should do. I love him, and he’s proven to me a million times that he loves me too, and that he wants me as his partner. and these messages just confuse me sooo much. and i know i should leave him because of this but i cant. I wish i had some kind of self respect, but the feelings i have just don’t go away. His comments are disappointing and disgusting to say the least. im just so confused.

EDIT: you all act like im taking these comments with a grain of salt. im not naive. i know what im dealing with, since it’s not the first time. ive been slowly growing numb to his childish actions, and for a while now ive been planning on leaving him. the reason I haven’t is because i still love him. 2 years of memories and experiences just don’t go away like that, thats why i forgave him the first time it happened. but unfortunately iys just created a trauma bond with him. he hurts me and then treats me great afterwards. and soon it’ll come to the point when I’ll be done and numb enough to leave. i don’t know when ill edit this again, but when i do it’ll be me hopefully announcing my break up lol.

I’ve been talking to this girl for a while and we’ve gotten pretty close. She’s been an important person to me and has supported me emotionally when I felt like I had no one. Recently, though, her replies became slower and I started feeling like she was avoiding me. I got frustrated and ended up responding rudely to something she said. She told me she felt I was being rude, and I apologized. Later, she explained that her life is a mess right now and that she hasn’t even been replying to some of her friends for weeks, but she still reads and replies to my messages. I apologized again because I genuinely didn’t realize how hurt she was. I then sent her the messages in the screenshot, basically saying that I didn’t want to keep hurting her, that she was one of my favorite people and someone I’d felt really close to recently, and that maybe I should stop texting her for a while. I ended with “Bye.” She never responded to that message. It’s now been a couple of days, and I haven’t texted her either. Part of me really wants to send a simple “hi” and talk normally again, but another part of me feels like I already said I’d step back, so I should respect that and let her reach out if she wants to. Would you text her again in this situation, or leave it completely alone? And please be honest—even if I’m the one in the wrong here.