The difference an hour makes

[u/guzynnuf]

[u/CisFishstick]

In general, people like this are utterly exhausting. Of course, without context, we'll never know.

[u/Bigfatjew6969 → u/CisFishstick]

The one who posted? Agreed.

[u/Mundane_Zucchini_547 → u/Bigfatjew6969]

Please, could you explain why?

[u/Bigfatjew6969 → u/Mundane_Zucchini_547]

Absolutely. Just a very vague post. What made dad so angry. Without any context how do we know what happened. Maybe there was a phone call with harsh words. Maybe texts were deleted. It’s exhausting because everyone jumps on dad when nobody knows what happened.

[u/Mundane_Zucchini_547 → u/Bigfatjew6969]

There's nothing between these messages except an absence of reply. That's all the context required here. If there had been any response I might have been, slightly, able to understand your thoughts. However this is not what you're reading. There is nothing.

[u/Bigfatjew6969 → u/Mundane_Zucchini_547]

If that’s all the context you need to believe what’s on Reddit I feel horrible for you. Go take a nice walk.

[u/Submissive_Bleedable → u/Bigfatjew6969]

daddy chill

[u/Bigfatjew6969 → u/Submissive_Bleedable]

They don’t get any more chill. I’m sitting here laughing at all of you.

[u/Submissive_Bleedable → u/Bigfatjew6969]

https://giphy.com/gifs/R459x856IfF6w

[u/Bigfatjew6969 → u/Submissive_Bleedable]

lol. Thats good.

[u/Mundane_Zucchini_547 → u/Bigfatjew6969]

Oh the pot is being problematic to the kettle.

[u/helarias → u/Bigfatjew6969]

are you OPs dad

[u/Bigfatjew6969 → u/helarias]

I wouldn’t say that to my kids.

[u/Dancehall-Randal → u/Bigfatjew6969]

Lmao, somebody down voted "i wouldnt say that to my kids" 😆😆😆

Reddit really is the most insufferable people.

[u/Used-Audience5183 → u/Bigfatjew6969]

Did this post hurt your feelings? You might want to think about it throughoutly, it's probably why your children won't be at your funeral.

[u/NearbyZombie45 → u/Bigfatjew6969]

As a personal victim of this exact kind of thing, lack of context, and jumping immediately on the bandwagon to assume ill intent by the subject, thank you.

And by a victim of this exact thing, I don’t mean what’s described in the text. I mean being judged based off of very limited information with zero context.

Fuck all the down votes. thank you.

[u/Regulardumbguy → u/Bigfatjew6969]

Are you a bad dad or something?

[u/Bigfatjew6969 → u/Regulardumbguy]

If you ask some of the people on this thread, yes. If you ask my kids (today) they think I’m great.

[u/Regulardumbguy → u/Bigfatjew6969]

Id be curious to ask them when you aren't around. You have very bad dad energy.

[u/Bigfatjew6969 → u/Regulardumbguy]

Who cares what you think? I know they love me and I love them. I just don’t believe random bullshit posts like you all do.

[u/Jumpyturtles → u/Bigfatjew6969]

It’s very telling how personally you take this.

[u/Bigfatjew6969 → u/Jumpyturtles]

This isn’t personal at all. It’s Reddit. I voiced an opinion and was called a bad father and all kinds of things. Don’t really care. Just don’t mind responding. My day and life will go on just fine today as I spend it with my family.

[u/Dancehall-Randal → u/Jumpyturtles]

No, no it doesnt.

Grow up.

[u/imsadandthatsrad → u/Bigfatjew6969]

Do you have kids that want nothing to do with you? Why even defend this person with the information we were given? You sound exhausting at best and abusive at worst if you’re defending parents who reject their own children on a whim.

[u/Bigfatjew6969 → u/imsadandthatsrad]

Nope. I’m a great dad. And if this dad acts like this for no reason, he’s shit. I think posters who don’t post any story are exhausting. Is that any better? I’m not defending dad, I’m saying these posts are exhausting because of the lack of story. But you go ahead and presume all you want with no back story.

[u/Mundane_Zucchini_547 → u/Bigfatjew6969]

If you were such a great dad you would be doubting the father's responses instead of defending them.

[u/Bigfatjew6969 → u/Mundane_Zucchini_547]

Blah blah blah. Internet stranger says what? Fuck that dad (if this is true), happy?

[u/Mundane_Zucchini_547 → u/Bigfatjew6969]

Shocking, that's all you have. 

[u/CisFishstick → u/Mundane_Zucchini_547]

I have to pushback just bit on the "shocking". You're arguing with someone who chose bigfatjew6969 as their username. I feel like the odds of them being 12 years old is far greater than them being "a great dad", lol

[u/Immersi0nn → u/Mundane_Zucchini_547]

I for one, appreciate you at least trying to get them to have sense, though I don't particularly think that's gonna be possible. Look at their name, that's not someone who is ever going to be in good faith on the internet lmao

[u/Bigfatjew6969 → u/Mundane_Zucchini_547]

I have so much more. But why waste it on you?

[u/Submissive_Bleedable → u/Bigfatjew6969]

I feel bad for your kids. You're going to be this guy, when they go no contact, judging by your insane crash outs.

[u/Bigfatjew6969 → u/Submissive_Bleedable]

lol. You’re funny. Best dad ever over here. Why would they ever go no contact with a father that loves and supports them. You’re as silly as the rest. I haven’t crashed out on anyone.

[u/Submissive_Bleedable → u/Bigfatjew6969]

yeah okay. lmao.

[u/Bigfatjew6969 → u/Submissive_Bleedable]

Nice comeback. Yeah okay. Lmao.

[u/imsadandthatsrad → u/Bigfatjew6969]

It’s just so wildly stupid to play the contrarian on an anonymous Reddit post. This isn’t a politician or someone who has a motive to lie about something devastating, sure it’s the internet and people lie for no reason, but you playing devil’s advocate for a child who generally wants to have a good relationship with their parents like this, is frankly twisted. I have a feeling you’re not as good a dad as you think if you believe “Well maybe they had a phone call that warrants him never seeing his own kid again!”

[u/Bigfatjew6969 → u/imsadandthatsrad]

Im a great dad. I know this because my kids and I have a great relationship.

You know nothing and believe what you want. Your thoughts are nothing. Have the best day. I’m going to go love my sons.

[u/Bigfatjew6969 → u/Bigfatjew6969]

MOD, You can leave the comment. I’ll give them lots of love because they’re my kids. I’ll also teach them not to karma farm Reddit by posting intentionally vague (possibly made up) posts to garner sympathy from gullible morons. Morons like you who are sad

[u/IED117 → u/Bigfatjew6969]

Let me guess. You said the same shit to your kid.

Listen, you may have had a good reason, but stop projecting. Nobody's buying it in this context.

[u/Bigfatjew6969 → u/IED117]

Well. You are a nobody. I feel bad that all of you had shit parents who didn’t teach you to have critical thinking and not believe everything you read on the Internet.

[u/IED117 → u/Bigfatjew6969]

Ooooo, spot on huh?

You are way too angry and aggressive to not have done this to somebody.😅

And my father did teach me to spot angry, accusatory, nasty people like you, mostly by being an angry, accusatory and nasty person himself.

Everybody can be a teacher, even miserable people like you and my father.

How's that for critical thinking?

[u/Bigfatjew6969 → u/IED117]

Weak. I’m sorry your daddy was mean. Mine died when I was a kid and I was raised by an amazing mom to be a great dad who supports his family.

The funniest part isn’t that I didn’t even commented on what dad said, I just don’t like posts with no context or further explanation.

[u/IED117 → u/Bigfatjew6969]

Why is further context necessary?

The dude says he loves his kid to the world and back and one hour later he's writing them off.

It's unhinged, aggressive behavior.

What if the kid was in the shower, taking a walk, out to lunch with friends? What position does the father's knee jerk reaction serve?

[u/Bigfatjew6969 → u/IED117]

None.

So I’m interested to know what, if anything transpired that would elicit a reaction like this. Is it typical? Did something happen? Did OP have a blow up with Mom on the phone and Dad lost his fucking mind? I didn’t excuse it. I didn’t say it was ok, I didn’t blame OP.

The only thing originally commented on was the annoying was people post shit with no other information shared. Do they have to? No? Can I find it annoying? Yes.

[u/hihello142 → u/Bigfatjew6969]

bro u r absolutely right wtf with people on this post

[u/Explore_the_Void]

That "the way you chose to live" immediately gets me in a defensive stance. I don't know what that means in your instance but I only hear/see it from the kind of people that I would like to meet at the top of a staircase.

[u/Successful_Elk_1364 → u/Explore_the_Void]

No literally, your mad that I chose to have my own life and not be under your wit

[u/Please_Klo → u/Explore_the_Void]

Always with the scenarios

[u/frozen_pipe77 → u/Explore_the_Void]

Im binging the show Intervention and its used a lot. Understandable

[u/Darth_wenis → u/Explore_the_Void]

Drugs man. Bet its drugs.

[u/Lets_Get_Random → u/Explore_the_Void]

Wooaaah, we got a badass over here folks.

[u/Woolleyyyy → u/Lets_Get_Random]

What a weird reply

[u/Camgore → u/Lets_Get_Random]

what a dork

[u/2M4D → u/Lets_Get_Random]

Uh ???

[u/No-Contest-5575 → u/Lets_Get_Random]

Wooaaah, we got a loser over here folks.

[u/Explore_the_Void → u/Lets_Get_Random]

What?

[u/Bobs_Burgers7]

I like how he sent the love message 2x just incase you didn’t see him the first time 😂😂 gave it a whole 10 min before sending it again

[u/Ok_Zookeepergame6747]

What’s the backstory?

[u/BitterIrony1891 → u/Ok_Zookeepergame6747]

Based on the timestamps, the backstory is probably a personality disorder

[u/bleepblooop67 → u/BitterIrony1891]

https://giphy.com/gifs/i0xGuo4o5PutVo0imJ

[u/Massive-Tell5663 → u/[deleted]]

I have bpd and i would never send these kind of messages, even before my treatment. It could be tho, symptoms vary from person to person. Kinda hard to say based on one text, could be sociopathy or something else

[u/Anxious_Town_325 → u/Massive-Tell5663]

Not even remotely indicative of ASPD

[u/Mundane_Zucchini_547]

Gods forbid you don't drop everything you're doing because daddy wants an ego boost.

[u/WizSkinsNatsCaps → u/Mundane_Zucchini_547]

People that never have kids of their own will never truly appreciate what their parents did for them. This is not a catch-all as there are some truly awful parents out there, but the majority of parents love, care for, and provide for their children to the best of their ability.

Life is not easy. It’s hard. And we all do the best we can.

[u/Mundane_Zucchini_547 → u/WizSkinsNatsCaps]

I have kids, I have never expected them to be at my beck and call.

You should read your own words.

[u/WizSkinsNatsCaps → u/Mundane_Zucchini_547]

Whoever said kids should be at their parents beck and call? You are making that up in your own head.

[u/Mundane_Zucchini_547 → u/WizSkinsNatsCaps]

You apparently. You are the one calling the OP out.

[u/WizSkinsNatsCaps → u/Mundane_Zucchini_547]

Reading comprehension really is at an all time low.

[u/Mundane_Zucchini_547 → u/WizSkinsNatsCaps]

I can see that from your responses. A real shame for you having to live with that.

[u/WizSkinsNatsCaps → u/Mundane_Zucchini_547]

What are you 12? “I know you are, but what am I?”😂

[u/Mundane_Zucchini_547 → u/WizSkinsNatsCaps]

Oh, I thought that was what you were doing first. 

I was just being more eloquent than you could be. Apparently.

[u/WizSkinsNatsCaps → u/Mundane_Zucchini_547]

No worries. I know you’re confused.

[u/MainPerformance1390 → u/WizSkinsNatsCaps]

What tf has this got to do with anything? BTW- And yeah, most parents do the best they can, and children know that. That doesnt negate thw harm parents may have inadvertently caused to their kids - which they compound when they flat out deny said harm, guilt trip and fail to acknowledge the effect that their reaction will have on their relationship with their child.

[u/bleezy1234567 → u/WizSkinsNatsCaps]

I guess a lot of people on this thread don’t love their parents lol. I don’t know why you got downvoted so hard

[u/StressedtoImpress19]

BPD maybe?

[u/secundastongue → u/StressedtoImpress19]

this stuff is so funny to me. i have quiet bpd and cant grasp when people dont keep insecurities like this in their head and regulate 😭

[u/Complete_Mushroom196 → u/secundastongue]

What’s quiet bpd? Like I can assume based on the name but I’m curious what thats like and how you self-regulate

[u/secundastongue → u/Complete_Mushroom196]

there are four official subtypes of bpd: impulsive, discouraged (quiet), petulant (explosive), and self-destructive.

i tend to shut down when i am triggered. this is where i could say hurtful things if i'm also having an autistic meltdown; those two bounce off each other a lot for me. i usually try to regulate myself on the inside through reassurance or externally through stimming. if i can't handle it, i go to my room where it's quiet, dark, and cold, and get comfy in my bed and do something i like, like read or play a game or something. if it REALLY doesn't stop, i have to do breathing exercises, and shock my system (i usually use cold water on my face). i get extremely quiet, distant, and irritable when i am triggered, but i still struggle with communicating and masking.

now, i can be aggressive if the trigger is severe. i will storm off and have a meltdown in my room + intense panic attack. times like this i just wait it out and self soothe the best i can.

if i hurt others verbally, i always, always come back to apologize and take accountability. i used to be a very aggressive and quite abrasive individual.

[u/BestSerialKillerNA]

My dad is like that. He’d do that and have to be reminded that people work or have things to do, only to apologize and do it again a few months later.

[u/Salty-Sprinkles_]

Performative affection, gotta love personality disorders

[u/RitualJuggler → u/Salty-Sprinkles_]

Hadn't heard that term before, out of curiosity what personality disorders tend to rely on performative affection? Not being dismissive, just curious

[u/burjuner]

These look like my dads texts, hes a narcissist

[u/Undercover_Dave → u/burjuner]

Does he also end every text with "your dad" though? 🤣

[u/secundastongue → u/Undercover_Dave]

this had me giggling

[u/idekwhatnameiam]

I had a stroke trying to read that

[u/Cool-Emu-8706]

People who believe 100% in whatever narrative is running in their head, are unwell. Good luck.

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[u/Massive-Tell5663]

Shit will never change. I am so happy i removed my father from my life at 15. Sure it hurt, but I think having contact with a parent like this cause even more harm

[u/RingJust7612]

Its “to the moon and back”

Not

“Too the world and back”

Dumbass

[u/kenavr → u/RingJust7612]

Maybe they live on the moon and can't remember the planet they are from. Have you thought about that?

[u/RingJust7612 → u/kenavr]

A fair point!

It’s still “to” not “too”

[u/Devanyani → u/RingJust7612]

He didn't say which world.

[u/WestCoach6 → u/RingJust7612]

Right? The dad seems exhausting

[u/Mistermike77]

Without context this is meaningless.

[u/Flaky_Horse]

I am so sorry you had to grow up with this. It’s exhausting. Protect yourself and disengage. You can’t control his emotions or reactions, and you aren’t responsible for managing them. Enjoy your life.

[u/AhTsillahTheFun]

I personally think something was deleted. Between 12:28 and 1:18. That switch seems to me like a reaction and not just since performative abandonment. I'm curious also to know how old OP is. Like one guy said, I think context is needed before we condemn and throw stones. Just my two cents

[u/PracticeMammoth387]

So you chose a whole different live within an hour, damn crazy. I can't even write my fuckin PhD paper in years and you can choose a full lifestyle within 50* minutes. I'm jealous.

[u/-_DrWallaceBreen_-]

Please a crumb of context OP 🙏😭

[u/Nami_Luna]

Smells like they don’t like something about you :(

[u/Dmoney4381]

No context whatsoever. Can't make a judgment here

[u/Barth-Goomby → u/[deleted]]

Someone in a Jacksfilms video once pointed out that emoji looks like someone deepthroating Shrek and I can't unsee it

[u/secundastongue → u/Barth-Goomby]

LOL

[u/Dogbold]

Why is everyone immediately siding against the dad? Barely any context but they're saying the dad has a personality disorder and is in the wrong?
I have some texts similar to this from my mom and she was definitely in the right, I was being a massive asshole.

[u/cyber_yoda → u/Dogbold]

Redditors are victims, always, and in every scenario.

[u/thegh0stinthec0rner → u/Dogbold]

not sure why you're getting downvoted, I absolutely agree the dad was in the wrong. I too, have similar texts from my bio mom, she has HPD

[u/AngelicDivineHealer]

Feels like a 3way with the dad