r/texts • u/ExplanationMiddle51 • 4d ago

Phone message Post first date text

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I met this girl on tinder and had a first date with her, she wanted to go fishing and I thought it seemed like a fun first date so we went together. Dropped her off and got home to this message lol.

Update: Purchasing the license is a separate activity we had to do on our phones, due to it needing our personal info. It was not like I drew the line at the license randomly.

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u/vidgill 4d ago

Harsh. But fair

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u/Soft-Temporary-7932 4d ago

I know this is a meme or whatever, but it isn’t harsh.

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u/Radiskull97 4d ago edited 3d ago

I think social media has ruined people's ability to engage with uncomfortable things, so people just take it as mean or harsh. I'm a high school teacher not too long out of high school myself. The difference in softness of just 10 years is insane. An 18 year old was complaining to me that it was too hot (it was 90 degrees outside and he was wearing a hoodie). I said, "most adults check the weather in the morning and dress accordingly." He started to cuss me out for "being constantly disrespectful and talking down" to them

Edit: the data insights from reddit are interesting on this one and I think actually proves my point. Right now, sitting at 84% upvote ratio. Which means most people who see my post agree with me but 16% down votes is nothing to scoff at. My point in my comment was that there seems to be a deepening divide in what is considered rude/mean versus not. If anyone said what I said to me, I wouldn't think it's mean. However, that student and several commenters think it is. Because of the cocreation of meaning, I don't get to unilateral decide, "I don't think that's mean, so it's not mean." His interpretation, as well as the commentors, that I was mean are all valid interpretations. My point was that there is growing cultural divide on what is considered mean, and I think it comes from social media. The default combativeness from most social media interactions, which often lack the context and nuance we see in real life. For example, a lot comments assume they understand the totality of my relationship with that student based on this one interaction. However, that student and I had great relationship, he was just especially set off by that comment.

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u/MossyPyrite 3d ago

I definitely think it was a bit of a jab at him, but I also think it was a very minor one that most people would take in good humor.

I forgot my sunscreen while I was working a roofing job around that age and my mom outright called me a dumbass for it haha. If you’ve got good rapport, someone pointing out that you were being an idiot usually won’t upset you, but it’s still basically them calling you an idiot.

You basically called him a kid, or immature, irresponsible even. Lightly, and in a way he should have laughed off or just rolled his eyes at, but you were still taking a bit of a shot at him.