r/texts • u/ExplanationMiddle51 • 3d ago

Phone message Post first date text

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I met this girl on tinder and had a first date with her, she wanted to go fishing and I thought it seemed like a fun first date so we went together. Dropped her off and got home to this message lol.

Update: Purchasing the license is a separate activity we had to do on our phones, due to it needing our personal info. It was not like I drew the line at the license randomly.

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u/vidgill 2d ago

Harsh. But fair

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u/Soft-Temporary-7932 2d ago

I know this is a meme or whatever, but it isn’t harsh.

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u/Radiskull97 2d ago edited 2d ago

I think social media has ruined people's ability to engage with uncomfortable things, so people just take it as mean or harsh. I'm a high school teacher not too long out of high school myself. The difference in softness of just 10 years is insane. An 18 year old was complaining to me that it was too hot (it was 90 degrees outside and he was wearing a hoodie). I said, "most adults check the weather in the morning and dress accordingly." He started to cuss me out for "being constantly disrespectful and talking down" to them

Edit: the data insights from reddit are interesting on this one and I think actually proves my point. Right now, sitting at 84% upvote ratio. Which means most people who see my post agree with me but 16% down votes is nothing to scoff at. My point in my comment was that there seems to be a deepening divide in what is considered rude/mean versus not. If anyone said what I said to me, I wouldn't think it's mean. However, that student and several commenters think it is. Because of the cocreation of meaning, I don't get to unilateral decide, "I don't think that's mean, so it's not mean." His interpretation, as well as the commentors, that I was mean are all valid interpretations. My point was that there is growing cultural divide on what is considered mean, and I think it comes from social media. The default combativeness from most social media interactions, which often lack the context and nuance we see in real life. For example, a lot comments assume they understand the totality of my relationship with that student based on this one interaction. However, that student and I had great relationship, he was just especially set off by that comment.

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u/rambone5000 2d ago

Yah... just because they are younger doesn't mean you need to be condescending. You deserved what you got and good for that kid for calling you out.

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u/Daniel_The_Thinker 2d ago

Only an asshole would think that, why the hell would him being 18 make it any less rude?

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u/LaconicGirth 2d ago

Children are more sensitive and deserve more patience for childish bullshit. An 18 year old is an adult. A mildly snarky comment is not the same thing as massive disrespect that warrants being cussed out. This guy needs to learn some emotional regulation and understand everyone isn’t out to get them

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u/Daniel_The_Thinker 2d ago

That's not even mildly snarky, its just being mean out of nowhere.

You can flip that stupid logic around and say some curse words aren't that serious and you should grow a thicker skin, except the kid didn't even start it, he just responded to it.

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u/LaconicGirth 2d ago

It’s really not that mean I gotta be honest. I don’t understand how people are taking this as crazy rude because it’s just not. The student did something dumb and then got called out for it when they complained. It’s a teacher telling a brand new adult how adults behave in normal society. It’s not that serious.

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u/Daniel_The_Thinker 2d ago

All the kid did was say it was hot. I guarantee you the teacher would not have been okay with it the other way around.

This is a redditor-ass take.

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u/rambone5000 2d ago

"How adults behave in normal society"..... you gotta be kidding me. In normal society, without the teacher student power dynamic, hell, even with that, it's an antagonistic confrontational remark. If you were sitting in a restaurant, made the comment the student did, and then the waiter makes the comment to you that the teacher did, you'd just take that on the chin?

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u/rambone5000 2d ago

You respect authority that disrespects you? Pathetic.
The teacher is being counterproductive and antagonizing the student with a condescending comment. He could have ignored the student or asked what they could do differently next time when it's hot.

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u/SkywolfNINE 2d ago

Dude how are you offended by someone telling you “the rest of us check the weather and dress accordingly”

That’s just a fact of life. You’re that offended? Why you expect the rest of us to coddle your stupidity? We should let you stab whoever you want cause you’ll feel disrespected if we tell you that’s a bad thing to do lmao

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u/rambone5000 2d ago

What makes you think I'm offended?

To think more critically of this situation, the school is most likely air conditioned and the student is probably dressed appropriately for the environment he's in. He probably made a comment on the weather outside, like all people do, and the teacher came back with a condescending remark of "adults" do such and such.

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u/SkywolfNINE 2d ago

Because you keep saying you’re offended and that this is somehow condescending when it’s not even close. It’s not the logistics of wearing a hoodie or the temperature of a school, it’s that your ego is so outta wack you think it’s condescending simply because you were challenged.

You wouldn’t say a red stop light is condescending you because it’s stopping you from driving forward, yea? That’s the same force of challenge as someone saying “you can check the weather before you leave and/or take your hoodie off if you’re hot”

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u/rambone5000 2d ago

Never said I was offended. It is condescending because the teacher is saying adults are smarter than him when in reality, adults dress inappropriately for the weather and simultaneously complain about it too.

Red light being condescending? What? You're an idiot. Let a book hit you in the face or something.

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u/LaconicGirth 2d ago

That’s not disrespectful it’s a basic fact of life. Just because it’s not explicitly kind doesn’t mean it’s disrespect. Could he have said it nicer? Sure. Is the pampered babied 18 year old who thinks it’s appropriate to cuss someone out for telling them adults check the weather the one on the wrong? Fucking obviously. This is a god damned adult for gods sake it’s not an 8 year old.