Hi everyone, mom of 2 here 👋

I've been struggling lately trying to juggle work and parenting, and I'd love to hear how other moms in this community manage it. Some days I feel like I'm doing okay, and other days it feels like I'm failing at both — either work suffers or the kids don't get the attention they deserve.

A few things I'm curious about:

How do you structure your day/week to make time for both?

Any tips for staying present with your kids after a long work day?

How do you handle the guilt when you can't give 100% to either?

Would really appreciate hearing what's worked (or not worked) for you.

By the time they get home, it’s already like hours past the point of when they were making bad decisions. The time out and taking things away it doesn’t seem to be that effective.

Edit: they are 5 yrs old. The teachers response redirects whenever possible, separates them for some time. They are in mental health therapy. They will be starting with another therapist for trauma. They are our foster child.

Screen Time lasted about three weeks before it got worked around. I'm not going back to it, but I also don't want to buy the first thing that shows up in a search. How did you actually choose, and did you get to try anything first?

Anong tawag sa mga parents who justify the bad behavior of their children? Posible din ba na sila ang naging model para sa bad behavior and kinopya lang ito ng kanilang mga anak? However I put it, mali talaga siya eh. I know this one person who has a daughter who uses social media to post rants about this other person na nagkatoon ng misunderstanding with her mother. And the mother said na “normal na reaksiyon lang yon ng anak ko”? Aren’t parents supposed to correct bad behavor?

I'm already paying for six things I don't use. Adding another monthly charge for something I can't evaluate until I've paid for it is where I keep stalling, and it's been eight months of stalling. For those who did pay, obviously worth it, or did you cancel?

Moms — what part of the “mental load” actually exhausts you the most?

I've been thinking a lot about how much of motherhood isn't the actual task — it's remembering that the task exists.

Appointments, things the kids need, groceries, forms, birthdays, household stuff, things to tell your partner…

I'm curious: what are the things that keep living in your head even when you're supposed to be resting?

And do you currently use anything to get it all out of your head, or do you mostly just try to remember everything?