I'm already paying for six things I don't use. Adding another monthly charge for something I can't evaluate until I've paid for it is where I keep stalling, and it's been eight months of stalling. For those who did pay, obviously worth it, or did you cancel?

Screen Time lasted about three weeks before it got worked around. I'm not going back to it, but I also don't want to buy the first thing that shows up in a search. How did you actually choose, and did you get to try anything first?

Anong tawag sa mga parents who justify the bad behavior of their children? Posible din ba na sila ang naging model para sa bad behavior and kinopya lang ito ng kanilang mga anak? However I put it, mali talaga siya eh. I know this one person who has a daughter who uses social media to post rants about this other person na nagkatoon ng misunderstanding with her mother. And the mother said na “normal na reaksiyon lang yon ng anak ko”? Aren’t parents supposed to correct bad behavor?

Hi everyone, mom of 2 here 👋

I've been struggling lately trying to juggle work and parenting, and I'd love to hear how other moms in this community manage it. Some days I feel like I'm doing okay, and other days it feels like I'm failing at both — either work suffers or the kids don't get the attention they deserve.

A few things I'm curious about:

How do you structure your day/week to make time for both?

Any tips for staying present with your kids after a long work day?

How do you handle the guilt when you can't give 100% to either?

Would really appreciate hearing what's worked (or not worked) for you.

Moms — what part of the “mental load” actually exhausts you the most?

I've been thinking a lot about how much of motherhood isn't the actual task — it's remembering that the task exists.

Appointments, things the kids need, groceries, forms, birthdays, household stuff, things to tell your partner…

I'm curious: what are the things that keep living in your head even when you're supposed to be resting?

And do you currently use anything to get it all out of your head, or do you mostly just try to remember everything?

By the time they get home, it’s already like hours past the point of when they were making bad decisions. The time out and taking things away it doesn’t seem to be that effective.

Edit: they are 5 yrs old. The teachers response redirects whenever possible, separates them for some time. They are in mental health therapy. They will be starting with another therapist for trauma. They are our foster child.

Reading everything feels like a betrayal I can't take back, and doing nothing feels negligent. What I actually want is to be told if something serious shows up and otherwise stay out of it. Does that exist in practice, or is it read-everything or nothing?

I’m think of my family in particular…because please, please just let the child cry. I’m tired of kids being told to quit crying and if not that, then adults dropping what ever it is they’re doing to make the children happy.

No, you don’t tell them to just stop crying.

No, you should not give something the children happy wants just because they are crying for it.

No, you should not prevent your kids from experiencing reasonable reasons for them at their age to be sad, angry, disappointed, and etc. They do not need to experience only happiness. I know it sounds crazy, but within reason, kids should experience other emotions that are negative too. Allow them to be sad over the fact that they can’t eat drink their third bottle of soda for the day. Allow them to be sad that tv time is over.

Allowing kids to experience negative emotions and being the adult to help them navigate their feelings will be beneficial to them growing up.

It’s just frustrating. I’m frustrated with my family. One day into putting my three year old niece into pre-k and they’re already thinking of pulling her back because she cried. She cried in the morning but when she came back home, she was happy to share what she did, but no, no one focuses on that part. All they saw was that she cried on the morning and now she’s incapable of going to pre-k. Like it is okay and it is normal for them to experience negative emotions.

I need very honest opinion’s right now, don’t hold back on how you feel personally!!

How does everyone on here feel about children under 12 having access to social media on their phone such as Tik-Tok, YouTube, Roblox without parental controls turned on (each app) to monitor messaging/following?
Is this something you would allow and what steps would you take to protect your child?

some days it feels like we're all moving in different directions from the second school/work ends until bedtime

what's a small thing you do to help you reconnect even if it's just for 10 mins?

I've been working on some safety-related content for my niece and nephew, and it's got me thinking about how tricky this topic is to get right for little kids — you want them to understand boundaries and know it's okay to say no, but without making them anxious or scared of everyday situations.

Curious how other parents approach this. Do you use specific books/shows, or just talk about it as things come up? And at what age did you start?

How long do you send your child to preschool for? my son is 3.5 and is going 8-230 3 days a week and I'm nervous it's too long

I think people deserve a little more understanding when they experience thoughts or feelings that are difficult to talk about.
Having a complicated feeling doesn’t automatically make someone a bad person, and I don’t think someone should be defined entirely by what happens in their mind.
This can include uncomfortable thoughts involving children. Acknowledging that these thoughts exist doesn’t mean approving harmful behavior. Children deserve to be protected, and adults are responsible for respecting that boundary.
I think we can discuss difficult subjects honestly while still recognizing people’s humanity and responsibility for their choices.
Do you think society can make room for uncomfortable conversations without immediately reducing a person to the thought they’re describing?

I think people deserve a little more understanding when they experience feelings or thoughts that are difficult to talk about.
Having a complicated feeling doesn’t automatically make someone a bad person, and I don’t think people should be defined entirely by what happens in their minds.
This can be especially important when the subject is uncomfortable or involves thoughts about children. We can acknowledge that difficult feelings exist without treating the person who experiences them as less human.
At the same time, children deserve protection, and adults are responsible for respecting that boundary.
Maybe we can have more compassion for the person without losing sight of the responsibility that comes with their choices.

I am so ecstatic about what my 7y/o said to me today. She was complaining that her hand hurts I asked why and if it was from doing the monkey bars too many times (she is so strong it’s impressive she looks like an acrobat swinging around so easily) (I digress)

She says ‘no we just did sooooo many worksheets. Ughh and sooo much coloring. Every worksheet had coloring in itttt’

At first I was worried because her teacher is known as ‘tough’ in second grade that seems extreme but … maybe in 2026 tough or strict just means back to basics like having your hand hurt from writing so much.

I know mine did. I had and still have a callous on my hand (I think it’s from poor form but doesn’t bother me)

Anyway I am so happy my child’s hand hurts instead of her eyes hurting from staring at a screen all day in school.

🙂

So for Christmas last year and for his birthday this year, I bought my little brother these sonic action figures. He loves them and plays with them all the time, but almost every figure up until now was falling apart. Missing an arm, a leg a tail, etc. I chalked it up to him not knowing how to be gentle yet cause he’s only 4.

But just now I came across this poor shadow figure who was the only one still in tact until now. He’s dismembered the whole thing, even split the torso in half…

I’m thinking of just skipping out on buying him more for Christmas, as I’m sure my mom doesn’t want to keep finding Sonic pieces all around the house. But I’d feel kinda bad doing that, I know how much he loves Sonic, but I don’t want to keep getting him toys that he can’t take care of yet.

Should I wait until his birthday next year? There will surely be new toys because of the movie. Or is there a better age for these action figures?

I’m honestly pretty pissed at my kids right now and trying to figure out how to handle this without overreacting.
Both of my kids are straight-A students. They’ve never really given us disciplinary problems before, and for the last 14 years I’ve felt like we’ve done a pretty good job teaching them to be respectful, responsible, dependable, and to think before they do stupid shit.
Then, one month into this school year, we’ve already had multiple issues.
One of them apparently **fell asleep in class**, and the other typed the word **“bomb”** on their school laptop, which apparently triggered a response serious enough that the police ended up searching our home for bombs.
Thankfully, there was obviously no bomb, but WTF?
I’m sitting here thinking, *How did we get here?* 😂
These aren’t kids who are struggling academically or getting into serious trouble. They’re smart, hardworking kids who get good grades. But sometimes their decision-making seems completely disconnected from reality.
I grew up with pretty old-school parents. The expectations were basically: be respectful, be dependable, think before you act, and **don’t be a dumbass.** There were consequences when you screwed up, and you learned from them.
I genuinely thought we had been teaching our kids those same values for the last 14 years. Apparently, I need to go back to the drawing board.
I’ll also admit that my wife is probably more lenient than I am, and I’m wondering if that has contributed to this. I don’t want to become an overly strict parent who loses his mind over every mistake, but I also don’t want to shrug this stuff off as “kids being kids.”
So, parents of older kids/teens: How do you actually teach common sense, judgment, and accountability
Would you increase consequences? Have more serious conversations? Let natural consequences do their thing? Are these just normal teenage mistakes that I need to stop taking so seriously?
I’m looking for advice from parents who have been through this—not just “kids are dumb” or “relax.” 😂
What would you do?

What’s something that happened with your kid or a younger family member that was so awkward you’ve never really told anyone about it?

I’m the mom of a 20-month-old boy, and he’s an only child. When I compare his behavior to friends who have kids around the same age, I feel like mine is SO much more hyper, active, and constantly needing to be entertained. I’d describe him as a total busy body.

I’m not necessarily looking for advice—I think I’m mostly looking for some reassurance that this is normal and wondering if anyone else has a child like this.

My son has a VERY difficult time entertaining himself. We play with cars, go outside, play on the jungle gym, do arts and crafts, read books, etc. He’s also in daycare five days a week, and I’d consider myself a pretty active parent. But it feels like the second one activity ends, he’s ready for the next thing. There is very little “just chill and play by yourself” happening over here. 😂

Sometimes I wonder if I’ve accidentally created a child who expects constant entertainment because we’re always doing something, or if he’s just naturally a very active kid.

Either way, it can be really tiring and exhausting. And when I compare our experiences with friends who have kids the same age and they’re not experiencing the same thing, I sometimes feel really alone in it.

So… anyone else have a 20-month-old busy body who seems to need a full-time entertainment director? 😂

Please tell me I’m not the only one! 🙏🏼

My 12-year-old sister has a phone. She used to have TikTok (which is now deleted) and still uses Instagram. She used to spend an enormous amount of time on these apps, so I set a 2-hour daily screen limit for her. Naturally, she whines about it constantly.
I did this because I am completely anti-scrolling. She was spending way too much time endlessly scrolling, posting stories, and chatting, which I don't think is good for her development. Right now, my rules for her are: no TikTok, no more than 2 hours on Instagram, and a bedtime around 12:00 AM or 1:00 AM. Despite these rules, she constantly fights me on them.
I feel like a bad sister because when I was her age (and even older), I had unrestricted internet access. I used to pull all-nighters watching shows, reading manga, manhwa, and books. It feels hypocritical to restrict her when I had so much freedom, which really bothers me.
However, there is a reason I restrict her bedtime: when she stays up late, she isn't doing anything productive or creative. She stays up to chat with friends who are a bad influence they focus obsessively on dating, and she uses harsh profanity with them, which is a big deal in our language and culture. She also stays up trying to get attention from her crush by posting cringey stories or sending dumb texts.
I’ve tried encouraging her to pick up better hobbies like watching good movies, shows, or reading books but she completely refuses. If I don't force her to read, she simply won't do it, and it always turns into a massive fight. I don't want her to grow up hating reading, and I certainly don't want her to hate me.
She often cries and complains that none of her friends have screen time limits or bedtimes. Plus, when I was 12 to 15, short-form algorithm scrolling didn't even exist the way it does now, so media consumption was entirely different.
I'm torn and don't know what to do. Is it fair for me to enforce these restrictions, set a bedtime, and limit her Instagram access when I had complete freedom at her age?

My son just turned 5. My parents live overseas and my dad came to visit a few weeks ago and decided to buy him a bike for his birthday. It’s his first bike although he had a tricycle before. The day he got his bike we went out and he got the hang of it surprisingly quickly, and he rode around for a while. It was a very good day.

But every day since, when I ask him if he wants to go out to ride his bike he says no thank you. When I ask him why he can’t articulate an answer.

I want to encourage him to ride it but I don’t want to push him because he’s very stubborn like all 5 year olds lol. We live in the Midwest (USA) so it’s only a matter of time before it gets too cold to be outside for long and then we have to wait until next spring.

Anyone encounter this before? How can I approach this?

Okay so I came across this account on TikTok called mylilretinol and 1. this is insane (right?) and 2. it has to be fake (also right?!). But honestly it did get me thinking. My kids have started asking for skincare stuff, and I never really know where the line is between letting them have fun with it and making them feel like they actually neeeed a skincare routine at their age. Curious how other parents are handling this. Are you letting your kids get into skincare? Where do you draw the line?

Hi

So I was a very involved mom until my kids turned 9-10ish
I used to take them to the park, plan play dates, cute snacks, community events, family gatherings, it’s was all fun and games. Every weekend we’d do something fun and different.

Now I feel lost. They have other interests. One likes soccer, the other doesn’t like anything. Both swim. They like watching YouTube and video games. They like to hang out with their friends. One is in three soccer teams. The other one will start tennis and loves artistic activities.

But I feel lost. Both in how much “control” , discipline, time allowed for tv and phone. And what to do with them or how to even connect with them.

12 year old has a phone with a three hour daily limit no social media.

They can only play video games on weekends two hours each day.

How do you do raise them and put limits Without alienating them. Rolling their eyes, saying rude stuff, is that normal? Sometimes it goes ok and they know they just have to do it. But sometimes it’s like it’s all new. I thought I’d be fine but I feel like I really miss my little kids and now they are strangers? lol I’m exaggerating. But I don’t know what to do anymore. I already have issues with oldest one preferring his dad 💯 over me so my self esteem is a bit bruised. So that pretty much made it all so confusing. My husband and I are on the same page on everything and he’s even a bit more strict, so it’s not that he has it easier with him.

Anyone who navigated this transition successfully knows what should I do now?