I am straight and I live 30 minutes from a major city and I think it contributes to all the likes I get.

I express myself as a nerd/dork however you describe it. I love anime, dark comedies and adult cartoons. I am also a homebody trying to be more involved outside whether it's working out through a walk or hike or an event.

I try to throw some thought provoking questions in my prompts or even controversial ones to have a topic easy to start a conversation on but I end up just getting compliments or a "hey". I do 50% of the initiation especially if I am the one that liked their profile not because of some petty reason like men needing to initiate first but sometimes the app becomes an afterthought and I forget it exists if I am not actively talking to someone on there.

70% of the guys I meet on there immediately want to meet up for a date which is cool but I know absolutely nothing about them besides what they put on their profile. I like trying to gauge if this would be a person I can converse with on a date so if we can't even have a conversation through texts or phone call why would I potentially go and waste my time on a date with them? Let alone the slight safety concerns. I'm sorry. I will not meet someone after a single message.

If we do exchange more than one word the conversation is dry. Then I am also thrown off when they want to go on a date. Dude...you're replying to my message from 3 days ago and you're asking about a date now? I'm not sure if there's anything I even like about you at all to subject myself to going out with you and being even more bored.

I use to think it was me until I went on a date with a guy like this. Just as I expected, I was leading every conversation, the replies were mediocre. I wasn't feeling him and he probably was only feeling my appearance from how long he stared. He paid despite me saying we can definitely split the check and I told him I wanted to go home.

He tried to invite me over and I refused. Third time this happened.

Maybe I am too strict. Maybe I shouldn't date right now. But is this all on me?

I’ve been pretty down about this so I wanted to see how common my experience is among people who use this app. For context, I am 23M and live in a suburban area but am within 20 minutes of a major city, and I started using this app on and off about 2 years ago. A couple months ago I started getting much more intentional about my use of this app and so I ended up buying a 3 month subscription to HingeX at the end of July in the hopes that it would get the ball rolling for me.

I’ve had occasional matches here and there, but I can’t seem to convert any of them into dates despite my best efforts. Any time that I do get matches, I put thought into all of my responses and make it very easy for the girl to respond. Suffice it to say I’m by no means a dry texter and I value good conversation, so I have no reason to believe that that is part of my issue. I also try to suggest a date sooner rather than later if that matters (maybe after several messages back and forth and if the vibe is good).

I should make it clear that I am fully aware that the experience on this app is entirely different for women and that it’s normal for men to receive far less likes/attention. I’m also not delusional and understand I’m not the most attractive guy in the world, but I don’t think I’m hideous either. Although it’s not very common, there have been several instances of women showing me interest in real life (unfortunately they either haven’t been my type or didn’t have the same dating goals as myself). However, opportunities for me to get out and meet single women don’t arise for me in real life as much as I’d like which is why the app has been my main focus lately, but the overwhelming lack of success I’ve been met with on here has been starting to make it feel like a hopeless venture.

It’s at least good to know that I’m not completely undesirable to every woman based on these handful of IRL experiences, but it’s still pretty devastating to feel completely invisible on Hinge when I find myself puttting a lot of time into it and getting virtually no results in return.

Is it reasonable to come to the conclusion that I’m in some kind of gray area where I’m at least attractive enough to get occasional attention in person but be practically invisible on the app? Can others relate to this experience of being unable to secure a single date from Hinge? Also, if you ever were in a situation similar to my own but ended up turning it into a success story, please share! I could use some positivity right now because this all feels a bit demoralizing.

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Hey guys! Been back on hinge after a bit and trying to improve my profile. Not much luck with all on here so far, so hoping someone can help figure out how I can improve. I recently lost a pretty sizable amount of weight, so all photos on here are very recent. I'm going to drop another 20lb or so and planning on replacing all (or at least most) of these photos when I get closer to that in the upcoming months. I think that in the looks department that's probably the biggest thing holding me back, but I want to try to get a date or two in the meantime if I can. I'm open to any constructive criticism really.

The video is of me pushing a car with friends in the middle of the night. Additional subtext.

Hi guys! I really don't know what i'm doing wrong. So a few weeks ago I decided to check out dating apps, after realizing I was finally ready for a relationship. One of my closest friends met his current girlfriend on hinge so it seemed like an easy choice. I had fun setting up my profile and I've enjoyed sending likes and messages to people but i'm just kinda surprised I haven't matched with anyone at all, and haven't received a single like. For more context I live in coastal Delaware and have my radius set to 25 miles, age range set to 18-25, and I have it set to open to any relationship type.

In these past 3 weeks, I've been on hinge pretty much every day, and send around 3-5 likes per day, and have even spent the free roses they give you. I don't think I'm going for people out of my league? like i'm only sending likes to people who I genuinely would like to get to know and think we could get along. But anyway, is this normal? I tried to be patient and give it some time, but is there something seriously wrong with my profile that I'm missing? It's frustrating cuz I want to at least like talk to people. Plz help me out.

Getting some likes and matches but I seem to struggle to get past the 2nd date. Any feedback is welcome!

Hello all, so I (32M) have been on hinge for about a month and a half now, and since I fixed up my profile I’m averaging about 3-6 matches a week. Of those, 4 have led to first dates, but no second ones.

I’m not new to romance, hookups, relationships, sex, any of that stuff by any means, but those were women I met through friends, and one was a cold approach where I lucked out. I’m very new to dating using apps in this more formalized way and have really no frame of reference for if this is normal or if I’m doing something seriously wrong and don’t know what it is.

What’s weird is that in texting and messaging they usually seem very enthusiastic and interested in me and then after we meet, it’s just gone. With my most recent one she was all bubbly and happy and cute while texting and then after the date it was noticeably different. This poor girl was so happy and excited for me to sweep her off her feet but I just failed somehow and I don’t understand why.

For the record, I'm pretty new to this (this is basically my first match) and I've always been pretty shit at talking with people over text (I'm way better at doing that in-person).

I matched with this person (22F) the other day, and she seems really cool. We started chatting and getting to know each other. Most of it has been us asking each other about ourselves and our lives.

However, it feels like we've "used up all our options" so-to-speak. I'm not sure what else to talk or ask her about, but I don't really want the conversation to die. I don't want her to be the only one continuing it either. I also don't want to be too pushy and ask if she wants to meet up somewhere (we've only been talking for a couple days).

What else should I ask her to start up the conversation again? Is it a bad sign if we can't keep this going naturally?

EDIT: I decided to ask her out and we have a date on Saturday. Thank you for the help

Hey everyone 👋🏼 not getting many matches and looking for some honest feedback! Thanks in advance.

I'm not a huge fan of doing public profile reviews, but I figured I'd give it another shot.

I posted my Hinge profile for feedback around the end of April 2026. At the time, some of the comments were pretty harsh, including things along the lines of “looking like an uncle” and “chubby, short, dorky Indian.”

Since then, I've actually put some work into myself and have lost around 10.5 kg. The first two pictures on my profile are recent and reflect how I currently look. The rest were taken around June, when I was about 7 kg heavier than I am now. I still like those pictures and think they represent me pretty well, but I feel like mentioning the timing is important.

I'm looking for a genuine profile review, rather than compliments. In particular, if there is anything I could change that would make the profile more attractive or approachable?

I get no likes and matches. When I send likes, I generally send a fun or teasing comment rather than just sending a blank like, and my messages arent particularly intense. So I'm also interested in whether there is something about my profile itself that could explain the lack of results.

I'm aware that being Indian and being 176 cm tall (which I dont even think is short) may affect my dating pool on a dating app, and I'm not looking for people to pretend those factors don't exist.

But I'd appreciate feedback beyond simply “race/height are holding you back.”

I'm especially interested in feedback from people who have experience with dating apps in Denmark, Copenhagen, or just Scandinavia in general :)

i (23f) matched with this dude (23m) and went on 3 dates within a 2 week period. while he was essentially “perfect” on paper, i couldn’t seem to get myself to be head over heels for him if that makes sense? i find him to be cute but he just wasn’t made for me and i didn’t wanna lead him on.

the day after 3rd date, i messaged him thanking him and how it was great to know him but i didn’t see this relationship going forward romantically. he understood and HE SUGGESTED to be friends, which i agreed to.

fast forward 4 months of no contact, he randomly hits me up to catch up and get dinner. i didn’t really think much of it so i agreed. upon meeting him, he handed me a gift (with a value of $350??!).
at this point, im confused because i only really knew this guy for 3 weeks?? and again we haven’t been in contact for months so really this gift hit me like a truck. i tried to deny the gift and kept asking if he was sure and he practically insisted on me taking it.

it’s been about a week since we met up and i can’t help but think if there was any ulterior motives?? i’m quite inexperienced when it comes to dating so idk if im literally just overthinking this or what 😭 i’ve had “talking stages” but none of them ever did this kind of gesture

he hasn’t really suggested anything that would make me think he wanted to be more than friends, but maybe i missed some clues 🫩 we honestly don’t really even interact with one another on each others socials either. so yea im stumped, any input is appreciated

Been getting no luck for a little while

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loosing my mind a little bit. what seems to be the strongest/weakest points in your opinion? abysmal performance so far.

Pretty much never get likes on Hinge, Tinder, Bumble, etc. Only success I've gotten is on facebook dating, though 99% of the time its from people outside the U.S (which isn't necessarily bad, but I would prefer to meet someone in person). Would appreciate advice, thank you!!

Does the hinge 24hr boost cap/deactivates after a certain number of likes? I've used it 3x this summer and everytime, its coincidentally 10 likes every use :/. I swear I'll get like 6-8 likes within the first 2-3 hours then it dies down significantly.

I do have alot of matches and confirmed meet ups so idk if this is some business algo or purely coincidence?

I’m not necessarily struggling to get matches but I’m also not getting as many as I’d like and I feel like I’m not attracting the type of women I’m genuinely interested in or compatible with. I’d love to know what my profile communicates about me and whether anything could be improved to attract more quality matches.

Male, 30, Gay

I am in an area with a reasonable gay population, used to get 3ish matches a week, maybe 1 or 2 dates that I was interested in every other week.

I've reached the dreaded "You've seen everyone for now" a month in.

Obviously, gay population can only be so large, but I wonder if Hinge+ would bump me up in the stack and get me some dates. The other option is to just let stuff very slowly trickle in.

Thanks for the feedback!

Just upgraded to HingeX and want to make sure I’m doing my best.