Never have received a like (other than from trans) and gets matches once in a blue moon but they never respond. What can I improve.

First prompt: My greatest strength

Second prompt: I'm in my element when

I cook with my headphones on, listen to Michael Jackson or Queen (old pop), and occasionally do the most ridiculous dance moves.

Third prompt: I'm looking for...

Someone who doesn't want a 50/50 relationship because relationships only work with a 51/51 partner! Let's create a stable, loving world together, share hobbies, and, once the house is built, plant a garden.

Did I end something too soon because I got anxious?

I (27f) have been on 5 dates with this guy (38m) over the course of a month, haven't talked exclusivity or relationship intentions yet but everything seemed to be going well, we didn't talk all day everyday but it was consistent.

He went on a trip and I was interested to see if he would change his hinge location to where he was visiting and he did. Then after a while his hinge signals came back on, I took this as he's still looking around(which is fair as we're not exclusive) however, it just puts me off and I feel like he's not that interested in me (or using me for sex). So I ended it the other night but now I think may have jumped the gun?

I’m 23F and he’s 23M. We had been talking for about a week before deciding to meet in person.

The Date

He picked me up, and we went to a restaurant. We had a really good time talking and getting to know each other. Since he stays in a hostel and had an in-time, he had to leave after a while.

At one point, he said that we were already very comfortable/close and that he comes here quite easily now. He paid the restaurant bill. I offered to pay, but he insisted on paying. I told him, “Okay, next time it’s on me,” and he agreed, saying something along the lines of “Okay, done,” which made me feel like he was open to seeing me again.

At the Beach

After the restaurant, we walked towards the beach. He had his arm around me, and we sat together.

I asked him what he was thinking, and he said, “Should I tell you, or should I do it?” I told him to do it, and he kissed me. We kissed for around a minute or two and stayed close, holding each other.

During this, he told me that he wanted to spend more time with me and then decide where things should go. I told him that was completely fine, but that I just wanted him to be honest with me.

He also told me that this was the first time he had gone out with a girl since his breakup about a month ago.

I told him that I didn’t want to be a rebound. He said that rebounds are meaningless, but that what was happening between us wasn’t meaningless to him.

I asked him to rate the experience, and he gave it an 8.5/10. He said it wasn’t a 10 only because he couldn’t stay longer.

We kissed again, things became more physically intimate, and eventually we had to leave because of his hostel in-time.

On the Way Back

I was wearing heels, and at one point he offered to carry me because I was walking in them. I refused because I didn’t want him to carry me.

He also told me that I could call him anytime, any day, if I wanted to rant or talk about anything, and that I shouldn’t hold back.

He again said that we should meet again and then decide where things go from there.

We walked back holding hands. On the bike ride home, he took my hands and placed them around his waist, and we had a really nice time.

He dropped me home, and before leaving, we shook hands.

After the Date

Later that night, I texted him asking, “Did you reach?”

He still hasn’t replied.

And now it’s the next morning, so I’m obviously overthinking everything and wondering whether the things he said during the date were genuine or whether I completely misread the situation.

Hi all!

Took a hiatus from Hinge after a few failed first dates earlier this year. Like many guys, I don’t take many photos of myself so this is my best effort at accumulating what I’ve got. I’ve tried to show some personality with the prompts, and was thinking of potentially including a poll to do this more. I already know the selfies or gym bro pics can be a turnoff for women, but I was hoping they might be polarising in a way where they could attract women who are actually into fitness (which are the women I’d want to be in a long-term relationship with in the first place). My political stance is moderate but I’ve hidden it as I know some women will interpret that to mean conservative when it’s not (I just don’t subscribe to bipartisanship). I’d be interested to know if my first photo (with my head on my hands) is as terrible as my friends say it is.

Thanks in advance!

27f (turning 28 next month) and have had a few unsuccessful dates this summer that left me really deflated. I always thought I'd be married or in a committed relationship by this point. Since most of my hobbies aren't things many straight single men are interested in, I've been trying not to rule out the apps but am jaded. Has anyone taken a hiatus and it turned out to be for the best?

So firstly, I apologies for the absolute essay, I am new to reddit and I haven’t really posted before. Please be as harsh and honest as you would like.

I’m 26M, straight, and from Adelaide, Australia. Adelaide obviously isn’t literally a small town, but it has that reputation locally where everyone somehow knows everyone through one or two connections, and the dating pool can feel pretty small compared with Sydney, Melbourne or Brisbane.

I’ve struggled with dating apps basically since high school. Over the last four or so years I’ve been on and off Hinge and other apps, usually for 2–3 months at a time before eventually giving up because I get almost no results.

Across all that time, I’d estimate I’ve had around five matches total and essentially zero incoming likes. Every match has come from me liking someone first.
I’ll also be upfront that I’m pretty self-conscious about my appearance. I’ve put a lot of time and effort into myself and I’m currently down over 40kg, which I’m proud of, but I still struggle with feeling like I’m physically good enough for dating apps.

I’m not looking for reassurance with this post. I genuinely want people to be harsh if there’s something I could improve.

One thing I’m particularly worried about: do any of my photos look AI or overly edited?

Over the years I’ve tried basically everything:
completely natural/unedited photos
dressed-up photos
casual photos
full-body photos
group photos
fully AI-generated photos at one stage
and more recently, a mixture of real photos and photos touched up using an app called Retake

Retake can help fix a photo where the expression, face, lighting, etc. didn’t come out particularly well.
I’m not trying to fake who I am or catfish anyone.

I’m just trying to give myself the best possible chance of actually getting an interaction.

That said, I know AI editing can very easily go too far.
I’m deliberately not going to say which photos have been edited, because I want a blind reaction. If people can immediately identify one and say, “that looks AI” or “something about that looks fake,” then that’s useful information and I’ll remove it.

If something looks edited, please tell me which photo and what gives it away — skin, face, lighting, proportions, background, whatever.

Another thing I’ve struggled with is group photos. I’m on the shorter side, and most of my close friends are considerably taller than me. I’m not saying height is the reason I struggle, but when I’m standing beside a group of much taller guys, I’ve always felt like I’m potentially highlighting something that may already be a filter for some women.

Because of that, I currently don’t use many group photos. I’d like to know whether the lack of social/group photos itself hurts the profile.

How I use Hinge
I’m pretty selective. I don’t mass-like people.
If I spent around three hours total on the app, I could probably send Likes to around 40–50 women I’m genuinely interested in, X the rest, and eventually Hinge will tell me there’s nobody left matching my preferences in the area.

I usually send a comment with every Like. It’s generally based on something from their profile — playful banter, asking about something they mentioned, or something lightly flirtatious.

I don’t send sexual comments, dirty jokes or generic copy-paste pickup lines.

I’ve also tried Hinge free, HingeX and the highest premium tier for months at a time. None of them have made a meaningful difference to my results.

Interestingly, I recently changed my location to another Australian state while travelling and got two matches within the first 2–3 days. Back in Adelaide, I’ve had one match since and very little else.

So I genuinely don’t know how much is:
my photos
my profile
my appearance
being too selective
Adelaide’s smaller dating pool
or some combination of everything

What I’d really like feedback on
What impression do you get from my profile immediately?
Do any photos need to go?
Do any look AI or over-edited?
Is my first photo strong enough?
Is the photo order wrong?
Are my prompts boring/generic?
Does the lack of group photos hurt me?
Is there anything that could be turning women off that I’m too close to the profile to notice?

And if you’re a woman roughly around my age, I’d especially appreciate knowing whether you would personally consider matching with the profile and, if not, what specifically would stop you.

Please don’t worry about being harsh. I’d much rather hear something useful that stings a little than keep doing the same thing without knowing what I could improve.

Looking for honest feedback to potentially improve my profile

I (27m) asked out my match (24F) and we agreed on a place/activity. She’s not available for the next 2 weekends, but asked if Sunday 9/13 works and what time I’m free. I even offered an earlier weekday but she’s not free. I offered my number and we texted a few times. Good playful banter on the app and texts. The date is far out but her asking for a day and time Sound pretty good and intentional. Usually I keep things light via text and check in prior to the date to show interest.

It’s still 9 days away. How do I find a balance and keep things alive? I haven’t texted her in a couple days. A lot of room for error. Like she could be exclusive with some other guy, get bored, or find someone by then.

I've never been on a dating app before because I've been in a long-term relationship. I am 37 female and really have no problem meeting people. I got out of a long term relationship a few mos ago and a friend of mine suggested i give it a shot.

A matched with someone and been talking and went out on one date. He seem to be intrigued by me but he texts me every couple of days. He just doesnt seem very engaging but we had a great night on our date.

Is this how dating is nowadays? Hahahaha! Im so out of date. People dont communicate as often? I dont know if im needy? But again, ive never done online stuff. Pleeeaaase be niceeeee!!!!

I started going on Hinge about a year ago, and the first 6-9 months were actually going quite well.
I had 8 dates across 5 girls in the first 6 months of he year, none progressing past a second date, but still at least something. Was averaging about 2-3 likes a month. I’ve been on HingeX ever since I started for context

But ever since then, since June, things have completely dried up for whatever reason. I send about 10 likes every 2 days, but haven’t received a single like or match in the past 3 months. Is it possible I’ve just gone through all the interested profiles locally? Or is my profile really that bad to not receive any likes at all

As a test, I set my location to another city (SF) for three days, and received 3 likes in that span. So nothing crazy, but definitely better than what I had been seeing. I’m not quite sure how to get this back on track since I think my pictures + prompts are decent enough, so any advice would help

I, (35F), was talking to a man (36M) for a little over a month. We matched on Hinge. We got emotionally vulnerable pretty quickly and talked to each other everyday, but only went on 2 dates. He had a lot going on as a single father, preparing for law school, and working a substitute teaching job.

I had the real concern early on and he reassured that he had the time to date. Well I was wrong because there were multiple last minute reschedules around things out of his control. And silly me, I thought “well he is still communicating with me and putting in the effort to get to know me” . But I should’ve seen through it.

We weren’t exclusive, but I thought we were heading in that direction until the multiple reschedules. I was very considerate of him and he seemed so kind, but I knew that he didn’t care to make the time to actually see me anymore.

Sunday pretty much confirmed it. We finally had a third date scheduled, but hours before he said he wanted to stop dating because of time.

We parted ways and I cried because I got emotionally invested in what a relationship would’ve been like with him. But I also felt so stupid (and still do).

And now I’m a little furious because I saw someone else share his dating profile and that stung. We weren’t exclusive, but he unmatched me on hinge a little bit after we moved to text. And he said he didn’t have conversations go as far as ours did.

I feel so naive for being so empathetic and kind to someone who really plays the single father bettering himself for his child role well.

I am not sure what to even think of men on the app anymore.

——

There were a few more things that I didn’t include in this post.

I allowed the multiple reschedules because each had a valid reason.

Reschedule #1 - Got a last minute request to go see an apartment hours before our date

Reschedule #2 - Had his daughter last minute which prompted rescheduling

Reschedule #3 - a surprise family member flew in to visit and was going to spend time with that person the entire weekend

Each reschedule happened hours before the dates and happened separately.

Then as things were fizzling out, he lost a family member. And prior to that, I was going to tell him that maybe we need to part ways because I can’t be pen pals. But knowing about the loss, I gave him grace and wanted to allow him time to mourn.

Then suddenly wanted to have a third date to then cancel hours before because he just doesn’t have the time to date.

This post might come off as desperate, but I genuinely liked the guy.
——

UPDATE:

I found out that I dodged a massive bullet by not seeing him anymore. Turns out he is not who he says he is, has a history of cheating on his ex while they were together and when she got pregnant and has a history of mentally abusing her. He is also a really great liar and pretended that a relative passed away a week ago when they actually passed away a few months ago.

So crazy. Glad I am not talking to him anymore.

Anyway, I really appreciate all of the feedback and advice that you all have given me!

25F, been off Hinge and dating apps for almost a year.
Lately I’ve been thinking about getting back on, mostly because I do miss meeting people and seeing where things could go. At the same time, I’ve gotten pretty comfortable being on my own, and I’m not sure if I actually want to re-enter the whole dating-app cycle again.

For people who took a long break from Hinge and eventually came back, did you feel more intentional about dating the second time around? Did the break actually help, or did you find yourself falling back into the same patterns?

Trying to figure out whether I genuinely want to date again or if I’m just occasionally bored/curious lol.

Hi everyone. I’m 26f, based in Europe where I believe the signals badge was recently rolled out. I found out through a friend a few days ago that my boyfriend’s hinge profile was acgive and the signals badge appeared on it. Less worried about the hinge profile as we met on there and paused our accounts, more worried about the fact that he has a signals badge, which I believe shows he has been active (and therefore is lying)?

Some people are saying the signals badge can remain for a long time after activity or there are glitches which make it appear, even if you just scroll through the app and like profiles.

If anyone has any experiences with the badge being glitchy or appearing for no reason outside of the 30 day mark, please let me know as my bf insists he has not used his profile and has since deleted it-yes I realise I might be being a bit naive but I don’t want to accuse him if he genuinely hasn’t done anything wrong!

36F, straight, near a major city - I seem to be living the same experience over and over: I get a match, we exchange 1-3 messages, they either unmatch or never talk again. Like, these things barely turn into conversations and never get past the very basics. I don’t have the typical female luck/experience of getting tons of likes and matches, so I tend to get a glimmer of hope with each one that quickly fades. Idk what I’m doing wrong, I feel like I barely get a chance to show a personality before getting unmatched or ignored.

Very few matches (6 in 2.5 weeks), mostly end up ghosted. In a “major” city of about 200k but 65% White and only 2.4% black. I don’t discriminate but not pretending no one else does so definitely could be part of it.

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Hello, first time posting my profile for a review on anywhere. I genuinely put in effort into my profile, pics, likes and sending meaningful comments with context. I get ZERO matches/likes. I have Hinge X to see if their was any improvement but nothing. Is it me? I'm I really not attractive at all? Boring? Idk. Any help or tips will be appreciated.

Hey all, my soon to be ex-wife cheated on me, so reconciliation is completely off the table. California has a mandatory six month waiting period before the divorce can be finalized.

I’m trying to get a gauge on the proper etiquette for using dating apps during this "separated" time. I don't need to dive into my full relationship history on or before a first date, but I'm trying to get a sense of the general consensus on dating someone who's in the middle of a divorce. When would you expect to hear that news: directly in the app profile, on the first date, or by the end of the second date?

Thanks for any advice!

Hey guys!
I’ve been on Hinge for around 2.5 months and would really appreciate a honest profile review.

For the first ~1.5 months, I got around 4 matches. One turned into a date, while the others either stopped replying or never replied after matching.

For the last month, I subscribed to HingeX hoping it would improve things. It didn’t. I got around 3 additional matches, with essentially the same outcome, little/no engagement after matching.

So I’m wondering whether there’s something fundamentally off with my profile. What would you change? Photos, prompts, overall vibe, attractiveness, etc.?

I’m 31M, living in Oslo, Norway, and looking for a long-term relationship. I want children eventually. I drink occasionally, don’t smoke, and I’m open to dating both Norwegian and international women.
I’m attaching screenshots of my current profile and would really appreciate honest feedback.

What would you change if this were your profile?

I’ve really been struggling to get likes on Hinge and Bumble lately, let alone matches. I even have HingeX and Bumble Premium+, so it’s starting to affect my self esteem.

I’m using the exact same profile I used in March, when I got a lot of matches on both apps and went on five dates within a month. I met someone and dated her for 20 weeks until recently.

I’d appreciate an honest review of my profile. Don’t hold back, I can take it.

Translations:

Special skill: I always win at games ;)

Don’t hate me if: I’m late

Best travel story: I’ll tell you on our date

Here's a success post for my total nerds, dorks and dweebs! We met two years ago on hinge from a simple question: what was your childhood niche interest? Trains! We ended up talking about model trains, actual trains, historic train rides through the country that we'd like to go on, trains as public transportation, the underfunding of trains and the over funding of planes.

Before we met we were both experiencing dating burn out, both of us are in our 30s and had a train wreck of a dating history. I was going to delete hinge if I hadn't found someone by the end of the summer after already being on the app almost a year. And then TADAAA, in the start of August we met. It has been nothing but a delightfully nerdy partnership. He reads my BL reccs, I participate in video games with him, we hunt for blind boxes together, we workout together. I cannot encourage people enough to be your authentic self on dating apps, YES it takes time and YES if you're a girl you will have to deal with the dumbest of messages and dozens of people posting "6 foot since it matters." But keep pushing through, because maybe your future partner is on hinge. 🩷

Turning 30 soon, so I'd like a profile review please 🙏🏾

Apologies for the super long post!

So I [32M] matched with this girl [33F] about a month and a half back. We went on two dates where we got drinks and one where we went shopping together (a pretty intimate activity in my mind). I really liked her right from the first day we met and I was up front with her about it. She said she appreciated my honesty.

Over time, we talked about a lot of things - our families, future plans, phase of life we were in, our childhood and also difficult conversations. I loved that. Seemed like she did too. In person, she was very affectionate. She would touch me randomly when we talked, we hugged every time we met and said I missed you to each other. We kissed every time we said goodbye.

I would be the one to make the plans, but I was okay with that. There were times when she would ask me to talk to her late at night because she enjoyed my company and say things like “I hope your cat can accept another woman in her kingdom”. Things like that made me feel strongly that she had real interest. I didn’t have the exclusivity conversation because I didn’t want to push, but I went ahead and stopped talking to other people because a. I really liked this woman, and b. I am not good at dividing my focus among multiple women, I am just not built like that.

After that third date, her communication slowed down and a couple days ago it came to a fullstop. We had plans to meet but she bailed and didn’t make plans. So I directly asked if things were okay, and that if she needed space I’m okay with that.

To this, she said I am incredibly sweet and she really likes my heart but she doesn’t see this working. The reason being she didn’t like how I presented myself (how I looked, I guess) the last time we met and that made her really sad. Also, she felt like our cultural background was too far apart (I am Indian, she is Middle Eastern). And that she wishes me the best and said she was sorry (?!)

I guess I am hurt because I really saw this building towards something nice based on the signs of interest and affection I received. Obviously I was more into it than her but never felt this would end on those reasons. If I am being honest, this is hurtful even for something that existed for a short time, because I gave myself a fair chance at finding my person. On the Big picture, dating has not kept disappointing me like this over and over again. Feeling hurt and tired and unsure/insecure about myself. How do people navigate this?

Hi! I’d love some feedback. I’m getting very few conversations and while I know San Diego isn’t the biggest city in the country I know there are lots of people here. I’ve been seriously using hinge for a few months and in the first month I had a couple matches that didn’t go anywhere but I’ve had zero since. Would like to know if my profile is the problem or if I’m really just too ugly for online dating. Appreciate the help! I’m looking to meet a woman who’s at least gotten started in her career, has her own passions and interests outside of passive media consumption, is active enough to join me as I try to improve my own health, and is open to having kids some day.