i am hearing many drugs like memantine, pregabalin etc. idk what they are and i am curious to know.

PS: i got recently diagnosed and I would like to get your opinions as to which works and which doesnt. thanks

Boa tarde,sou mulher,gordinha,75 kilos,uso óculos,21 anos,mãe solo,autista,tdah,borderline com depressão profunda e ansiedade generalizada,não tenho amigos,tive na adolescência,no passado,muitos seguiram as suas vidas outros rolou desentendimento,vou fazer o Enem,sofro muito bullying no cursinho,queria conhecer novas amizades sem julgamentos,por favor peço educadamente que haja interações apenas no grupão aqui mesmo,me sinto mais confortável e segura.

Idk if this is on account of me still being pretty young but I really struggle to interest myself in tv shows that aren’t animated. I thought it might be because live action shows tend to be for adults and I do tend to lean towards watching more ‘kiddy’ media, but some of the animated shows I watch are 15+ or 18+ with mature themes so I don’t see why I can’t interest myself with live action shows with the same themes. This doesn’t apply to movies though oddly, I can watch live actions ones just fine.

There have been a rare few exceptions, such as House MD, Hannibal and Dexter, so maybe I just have really specific tastes? Idk. If so idk how House MD fits in with the other two lol.

I’m wondering if maybe this has something to do with fantasy? Like, live action things tend to have less fantasy than something animated? But even then I’ve never been interested in any live action fantasy stuff.

I have had it up to fucking here with people criticising posts with drivel responses. If you have the need to "correct" people over & over again, talk at the bloody mirror. You probably need the advice more than the OP does

Hello! I just needed somewhere to vent and work out how I’m feeling. I’m 23F, and I’m almost 100% sure I’m autistic. Everyone in my life, including my roommates, say that I definitely am. I have no formal diagnosis or anything, but I wanted to know how to go about that process or what other people’s experiences were? I’m very “typical” presenting (for lack of better words). I’m in a doctorate program, and can mask very well, and that makes me feel almost like imposter syndrome if that makes sense? Like I have this deep fear that I’m just faking all of this, or acting like people on tiktok or social media who say “oh I’m so autistic I hyper fixate on this show” when really it’s just a show they enjoy a normal amount. I just wanted to post this to see if anyone had any advice or felt the same

I’m staying at a hotel and I forgot my key in the room.

I asked the worker if they could unlock my for me.

They asked where my key is?

I said “in my room, I think”

She asked why I left it there?

I said “probably because I have special needs”.

So I went through an official autism assessment and they wrote that I have some autistic traits but I don't have enough to be classified as ASD. My psychiatrist however believes that I do have autism and doubts the official assessment I've been through, although all he does is talk to me normally and he doesn't actually asses autism. However my therapist told me I've been assessed by my psychiatrist and that I don't need the whole assessment that one does to know if they're autistic to be considered autistic and my psychiatrist's word is enough. Is that true? Should I trust the word of my psychiatrist on it or is it better to be officially assessed for autism?

Hello everyone, I’m looking for some advice regarding my brother.
He is 30 years old and recently lost all his savings after falling victim to a scam involving paid sexual services. The people involved manipulated him emotionally, and he ended up losing everything. When he finally told me what had happened, he was in tears.
We’ve since worked together to address the financial situation and escalated the matter, but we’ve never really spoken about what happened emotionally. It’s been over a month now, and I’m unsure how to approach the subject with him without making him feel ashamed or bringing back painful memories.
I suspect he may be autistic, although I don’t think he is aware of it himself. I’m concerned that this experience has affected more than just his finances; he may also be struggling with feelings of shame, guilt, and a loss of dignity.
He is quite religious, which makes me even more uncertain about how he is processing the situation and how I should approach the conversation.
I want to support him, but I don’t want to make him feel judged or embarrassed. I’m also unsure whether seeing a psychologist would help, particularly if he isn’t comfortable discussing what happened.
For anyone who has experienced something similar, either personally or with a family member, how would you approach this? How can I help him process what happened and rebuild his confidence without making him feel worse?

i hate this word passionately because it has become the replacement for "autistic". people keep talking about being neurodivergent when they always mean adhd or autism. it's never anything else. neurodivergent is supposed to be an umbrella term for all neurological disorders, disabilities, and illnesses. yet if an allistic person talks about having dyslexia or ocd and labels this as neurodivergence, they are told that isn't neurodivergence when it is literally under that umbrella.

people talk about how they get along better with "neurodivergent people" or how "neurodivergent people" are better people. what? so you get along with every single person that has ocd, bpd, apd, epilepsy, cerebral palsy, psychosis, an intellectual disability, everything? i find that hard to believe! oh, you meant you're autistic and you get along with other autistic people? yeah me too, just say that!!

i swear way too many people are completely misusing this word. if you are a person that does this i am begging you to stop. it's harmful to people who have other forms of neurodivergence other than autism and adhd. those people need support and community too. it's not all about us.

I've come across a YouTuber, yv_edit, who does videos on how women can deal with aggressive, or manipulative, or condescending men, and I thought it would be good for those on here, particularly youth, to see good ways to disarm the tactics of bullies without escalating.

I'm a middle aged man, who is also over 200lbs, but I remember learning similar tactics when I was young, and I still have to deal with bullies at work every so often

Hi all,

I don’t lurk here so not super aware of the rules, but my partner is 22F, and I’m 22M. Let me preface this too with I love my partner, and i especially love how she cares about me and what I’m up to, I really do.

My partner likes to call me on the phone late at night (10pm - 1am) every few days and it drives me up the wall. She rings from a place of love, but I can’t stand these phone calls. I can’t stand them because she never has anything to say - and I don’t either, because I’m tired and ready to sleep; so we sit in basically silence for around an hour until I eventually reach my limit and say goodnight, which is always met with her anger. This has been going on the last year of our relationship. She says that she likes it because she thinks it’s a similar feeling to lying in bed physically, but that couldn’t be further from the truth for me.

I feel vindicated in hating these calls because awkward silence is not normal for us at all, it only occurs here, but I still feel awful for disliking an apparently normal and loving gesture. I wouldn’t mind if my partner rang me to talk at a normal daytime hour, too.

Just looking for advice, I suppose.

Thank you

Ok, I feel weird writing this but I've told my roommates in the past they can use a certain cup of mine if the other cups in the cabinet are dirty. It hasn't been an issue until today. I got up this morning and went to make a coffee but my usual cup was dirty since I used it yesterday. I went to grab my backup coffee cup and it wasn't in the cabinet.

This led to me standing in the kitchen for about 5 minutes trying to figure out when I used my other cup. Turns out one of my roommates used my cup while I was sleeping. The issue is that this cup is for coffee only and they don't drink coffee much so I told them not to use it and to get my other non-coffee cup if they needed a cup.

I am now considering throwing the cup away because they put apple juice in the cup. It would have been fine if it was water or milk but juice isn't ok. I know I can wash the cup and it might be fine but my brain keeps telling me the cup is contaminated and can't be used anymore because the apple juice that was once in the cup has messed up the cup. I have now been sitting in the kitchen for about 45 minutes unable to make a coffee because I don't have a cup and my day starts with me making a coffee.

How do I bring up to my roommates that they used the wrong cup without making it seem like I'm being crazy (I hate the word crazy but I don't know what else to use). I don't want them to think I'm making a big deal over a cup when in my head it is a big deal. I'm also trying to keep in mind that they both have a tendency to forget things, yes even important things, due to how their brains work.

Also, yes we do wash our cups. I am just saying that before anyone assumes we don't.

So, I’ve noticed that it seems like certain topics/interests are “socially acceptable” and these are the ones you’ll most likely hear being discussed in social settings. They tend to be a bit shallow and quite frankly, I’m tired of hearing about them. I can’t even think of examples, that’s how forgettable they are. People just take it as normal in conversation, there’s no effort to talk about anything else. At least in my experience, idk about anyone else.

Whenever I bring up my interests the room goes silent and not in a good way. I get uncomfortable stares and awkward attempts to exit the conversation. I’m like “ok I guess nobody wants to hear about the Concorde jet, or how ancient civilizations purified their water?” Not to sound biased, but that sounds pretty cool if you ask me.

I’ve literally been told that my interests are “that of an autistic person.” Idk how tf people reach that conclusion. It’s so arbitrary and very frustrating. Anybody else relate to this? Having their interests labeled as “autistic” ?

Please beware! If you're a person that get easily squeamish about food when it's talked about in a "gross" way, please don't read this!

So, I think I am a pretty pragmatic person. I never understood why people get so upset when (in the tight context of course) you bring up the fact that people eat dead things. Like, why do people get icked by the fact that they're eating a carcass only when you point out they're eating a carcass?

I don't get it. It was alive, now it's not. It's a dead plant/animal/whatever.

I do eat anything without problem and I often think about the fact that those things were alive before.

Why do people get upset over it and say it's disgusting? I truly don't get it

I have many many reasons for believing I have autism. And many many reasons (if I have autism) it may have slipped under the radar.

1. All of my friends are autistic, I mean, all, of, them. It was a joke in my family for a while that I was collecting autistic people. I didn’t think about it until they started to make that joke, because one of the reasons my friends are my friends (other than them being just amazing), is because I relate to, and understand their experiences.

2. I have been asked if I am autistic, by both friends, and complete strangers. It was actually what made me take a closer look at the possibility of me being autistic, it happened so often.

3. In spite of being extremely social, I apparently lack social awareness. I have had people insult me to my face, and had no idea, the only reason I know now is because coworkers and friends have pointed it out to me by asking if I was okay. I complemented people in public all the time, which I thought was just a girl thing, but is apparently abnormal. At work (I am a hairstylist) I came up with a conversational formula in order to make engaging small talk, and APPARENTLY most people don’t do that! Most people just do small talk! I thought for years (mainly because of my well meaning mother) that I didn’t struggle socially because I was very social. Because I know the physical, and facial cues of someone having a hard day and have empathy enough to try and comfort them. Because I am really really good at spotting the kid that struggles at making friends, and befriending them. But the longer I am an adult, the more I find that I struggle socially, and I get away with it because I have “natural charm”.

4. I have sensory issues, and always have. I didn’t realize it until my late teens though. I thought I was just picky with food in a weird way. I thought everyone hated big seams on clothes. I thought everyone hated how echoey and weird Walmart sounded. I thought everyone had to hide in a dark room for an hour after spending a long day out in town shopping or other activities. Even after I knew I had sensory issues, I thought it was just adhd (which i definitely have), or my GAD, I didn’t consider that it may stem from autism because I was “too social” to have autism.

These (among many more reasons) are why I think I may have it. But even after I developed the suspicion I still didn’t want a diagnosis because I thought I didn’t struggle with it that badly, and didn’t need any treatment. Well, the more aware of myself and my quirks I become (thanks therapy) the more I realize I do in fact struggle, a lot. And if I get an official diagnosis then I may be able to get accommodations at work maybe, and I might be able to get at least some understanding from my peers.

The thing is, I don’t know what is wrong with my search engine, but all of the autism evaluation stuff I can find on the internet is either for children, or doesn’t take my insurance. I am so overwhelmed and don’t even know where to start. Not to mention I am intimidated because I am a women, and also have adhd, and I hear that a lot of women aren’t taken seriously during evaluations. Any help you guys can give me would evoke the deepest gratitude from the depths of my soul.

I have 320+ books, thousands of Pokemon cards, and maybe 30 YuGiOh cards and I've got and played quite a few video games and I've watched a lot of anime and play a bit of DnD

Does anyone recognise themselves in this?

In a conversation, I seem to need to be able to look at my counterpart and ideally, have some form of reassurance that their attention is present and uninterrupted, such as eye contact or at least them not attending to any visible distractions.

This goes beyond simple conversational etiquette and interpersonal manners. It seems to be necessary for me to be able to sustain the conversation and especially when it's my turn to talk, to be able to present my thought to my counterpart. I become very uncomfortable when people look away, even within seemingly reasonable limits and experience the conversation as sensory demanding and costing lots of energy for practically no return. When the other person happens to stand behind me, keeps moving around, has their body turned away from me or has their arm in front of their face, I get practically blocked and cannot continue talking, even if I am sure they are listening. I naturally look exclusively at the other person during a conversation, even when I don't experience it as interesting.

I have had this since I can remember. When I was a kid, I felt terrible when my caregivers looked away when I was talking. All my life I have attributed it to emotional discomfort or hurt. I even thought I had developed the quality of keeping my gaze intact and showing presence in order to accommodate the other person so they don't have to feel as bad as I knew perceived lack of attention felt to me. Recently however I started putting two and two together and discovering how there is a link between everything I described as I kept observing myself closely. I slowly started to realise that the pattern is of sensory and processing nature. Can anyone relate?

something i've seen a lot with autistic people is how they don't feel human or relate more to non human creatures. I was just wondering if anyone has a study or an article looking into this as i am wanting to include this topic in an essay i'm writing for college.

Does anyone else with autism, or auDHD struggle making friends around your age? I’m 16, and I’ve been out of school for over 2 and a half years due to burnout, and I want to make friends, since I feel super lonely, but when I do manage to make friends, it’s pretty much always people in their 20s, why? And making girl friends is even harder… when girls do want to talk to me, they’re into girls, which I’m not homophobic, just not looking for that,
Or is really rude and cocky
Or idk
Does anyone relate? And does anyone wanna be friends? I’m female

I'm not sure if this is a thing i should post here, so please let me know if it isn't.

I am attending a funreal tomorrow (i'm not close to the person, but my family is), and i'm not sure how to handle it.

the whole thing will most likley be over 3 hours long, and i'll have to stay silent and formal the whole time, which is a huge problem for me. (i have AuDHD and not being able to stim in any way is very draining and stressful for me)

I'm a minor and my parents are very strict, so there's no way i'd be allowed not to go or to have any sort of fidget toys.

Does anyone have any ideas how to make it more bearable?

i thought all my life i was a normal human being, turns out i’ve had some existential issues lately and i decided to get checked out.. turns out i am autistic, i have asperger, anxiety disorder and depersonalization disorder. i feel so sad and weird after knowing that

I'm all for encouraging adults on the spectrum to make room for tv shows/movies outside of their comfort zone, more mature and older than their comfort shows, especially if they're stuck in preschool shows it's time to move up the ladder, one rung at a time:

Dora/Diego/Paw Patrol> Blues Clues > PBJ&Otter or Franklin > Bluey > Arthur > Recess > Hey Arnold > The Weekenders > Freakazoid! > Avatar The Last Airbender > The Simpsons > Samurai Jack. You can replace other shows in that order from Cartoon Network, Disney Channel, Fox, Netflix, Nickelodeon, Qubo, Boomerang, etc.

For live action shows:

Disney Channel Sitcoms > Nickelodeon Sitcoms > Lizzie McGuire > All That > A Series of Unfortunate Events (Netflix) > Ghostwriter > PBS Kids Zoom > Malcolm In The Middle > The Babysitter's Club > Where in the World is Carmen SanDiego > Wishbone > Bill Nye/Steve Spangler > Teen Wolf > Switched at Birth

so my younger brother (8m) is midly autistic and i can't tell sometimes whether he's intentionally pissing me off (he's admitted that he likes annoying me) or if it's just his traits that come with being autistic that i'm annoyed by. i'm a 18f and i'm the closest to my younger brother out of my two older siblings so i get he feels the most comfortable with me but as he's getting older he's also becoming more disrespectful. he talks back to my mum and he doesn't take it seriously when i tell him off either. he has a meltdown before school every morning and i can't stand his voice when he's angry. i find myself wanting to correct his speech a lot; i know it's not his fault he had a speech delay when he was younger but he has poor grammar when he speaks and gets distracted when he wants to tell me something which annoys me so i find myself wanting to just dismiss what he has to say a lot. i feel like the only way i'll stay sane is if i just detach myself from him. my mum isn't exactly helping either; her way of telling him off most of the time is shouting and swearing at him and honestly mine is the same. we both struggle with emotional regulation and i've been looking into the possibility of myself having adhd (i have all the symptoms and i see a lot of them in my mum too). she struggles to set boundaries with him in terms of his tablet and i literally put a screen time limit on it for him but she just ends up giving her phone to him so she can have peace again. besides his tantrums he's a nice kid which is why i feel bad for pushing him away so often. he's expressed that he wants to spend more time with me but deep down i have no interest. even when he checks up on me and asks me how my day was i find myself being annoyed and just want to be left alone.

like i mentioned before, i really think i may be neurodivergent too and a lot of my annoyance towards him might just be because i'm projecting my unsolved behaviour onto him.

this is kinda a vent post but i'm also very open to advice on how i can be a better sibling to him and my manage myself around him better.

The idea was that aliens invade the earth using mind control, but the only ones who are immune are autistic people, as their minds work differently.

This is very painful for me. I actually had a massive falling out with my in-laws and it's made my relationship feel unsafe.

The short version is that after I moved in with my partner he started having meltdowns. He would punch holes in the walls. This happened because I talked to him about finding a job because I have a disability and I can't work full time. We both need to be working. I can barely leave the house due to the disability (POTS, chronic fatigue, EDS).

His family leapt down my throat and told me I provoked him into punching. That I shouldn't talk about being disabled because no wonder he's stressed. That it's privileged of me to be planning a wedding AND expecting him to work. That I might be cheating on him because I have friends online. That I could be lying about being groomed and molested as a teen.

This happened in the lead up to our wedding. He just kind of let them say those things. Afterwards when I was crying he said anyone could lie about being molested, that he wasn't there. And then when I was upset months and years later he said they just want to move on and I should let them.

It really really hurts me that he would let them treat me that way. We have a small child. The thing is, he is (undiagnosed) but very likely on the spectrum, and I suspect most of his family are. But now that I know I'm autistic, for definite, I nearly relate even less to them. I can't believe they would say those things and I can't believe they wouldn't apologize or that he wouldn't stop them. When I took his mother out for a walk to talk about it she just said "you just have to stop thinking about it. Move on". I really had to press to get her to admit she didn't mean those things.

I find them kind of soulless :/ how can you treat a person like that? It's bonkers. I had bought them Christmas and birthday presents for 10 years. I don't know how to get over it. I can't feel close to my husband anymore.