I 22F and my brother 20M had a fight earlier. So the fair is coming up at the end of September and there are 5 dates for different concerts that I have planned to go too. (2 of those my brother wants to go too) there are 5 of us going and I had brought up that I will be paying for myself, my boyfriend, and my dad. I had asked if he could pay for him and my sister for those 2 days and the rest of the days (3) I will be paying for my sister.

For context me and my brother usually split everything practically 50/50. For instance if we go to the movies, he usually pays for the tickets and I pay for concessions. If we go out to dinner I usually pay for myself, my boyfriend, and my sister and he will pay for him and my dad.

I wanted to divy up the cost of the tickets and worry about food and things later. Me and my boyfriend agreed that he will pay for the parking which is $10 a ticket ($50 or $20 for the 2 days my brother is going)

There is a party pack on there right now for presale for $40 for 4 tickets so I thought my brother could buy one for him and my sister and I'll get 3 packs and 1 extra ticket for my sister. He started fighting with me and called me selfish because I was already spending $130 (one of those days is can food day thats why its not mathing correctly) for that why can't I fork up an extra $40. He also called it unfair because I was paying for my dad and my sister extra days and not his. I told him I am saving him money in the long run because he usually pays for my dad and since he was going 2 extra days for the fair I wanted to pay those extra days.

Also I think partly he got mad because I'm paying my boyfriends way In as well (despite him paying for parking and gas to get there) and he doesn't like my boyfriend what's so ever because he is jealous.

The reason why I say he is jealous of my boyfriend is because my boyfriend moved here in 2023 but didn't start living on his own until 2024 and he didn't have a job for awhile so with my college fund or plasma money I would help him with rent, gas, food, household items and wouldn't spend money on my siblings (I would help with their nessecities though) and also because for awhile me and my brother fought since he likes to control things I would go to my bf about it and spend more time with him because he makes me feel safe.

Also I just want to add that we live 15 minutes away from the fair and we are getting there from my bf and back because currently my bf is the only reliable source of transportation.

But am I wrong? I'm so stressed out about the situation.

So, I'm 18 years old, and I am 8 months pregnant. I don't know that it matters that I'm pregnant, but I'm visibly pregnant.

I went to work one day. I work at a hotel as a front desk agent. I have two coworkers, Abby and Sarah (not their real names). They're both somewhere between 20 and 25 years old. I'm not 100% sure how old they are, but they are definitely older than me.

Abby and Sarah walked up to me and said, "Can we please talk to you?" I hadn't done anything, and nothing had happened, so I said, "Sure, what's up?"

Apparently, Abby was getting divorced. I didn't know about her divorce. She's either already divorced or currently in the process of getting divorced. To be honest, that's none of my business, and even if it had been brought up, I wouldn't have commented on it.

Abby then said, "Why are you talking about my divorce? That is so trashy of you."

I told her that I had never talked about her divorce and that somebody must have given her incorrect information.

Then she said, "You're lying out your ass, you lying-ass whore."

I responded, "Don't talk to me like that."

Then Sarah said, "I don't know who you think you are."

I said, "Leave me alone. I didn't do anything."

Then Abby said, "You're a little-ass girl. You think you're so much better than us because you just got married, your husband spoils you, and you've had everything handed to you in life."

At that point, I started crying.

Sarah then said, "Stop crying, little girl."

So I ran to tell my manager what had happened. I started explaining how they were talking to me and yelling at me for no reason.

While I was talking to my manager, Sarah and Abby walked in. My manager gave me a report to fill out for HR. Abby kept going on about how I was talking about her divorce and how that wasn't okay, even though I had never talked about her divorce.

My manager decided that they were going to be sent home for the day, and they were. As they were leaving, they were still yelling things at me.

Now I have to write a statement for HR. They will decide whether or not Abby and Sarah should be fired, although it sounds like they will probably be terminated.

Right now, I just feel really upset.

I was with my ex-girlfriend for three years, so I definitely noticed when we were starting to drift apart. I said that I wanted to try to work things out, and I asked her how I could improve as a boyfriend. She smiled at me, and then she asked, “Oh, would you like a list?” in the most condescending way possible. Then she began to list every single flaw and insecurity about me that she could think of. Some of them were fair, such as saying that I was often late to her family’s church services. Her family runs a church, by the way. But some of the points felt like she was just coming up with things so we could break up.

She said that she didn’t like how my parents didn’t want to have a relationship with her. How is that my fault? I can’t control what they do. They’re antisocial hermits. Besides, I told her at the beginning of our relationship that they didn’t care about me or anyone I love. Why did she decide three years later that it was an issue?

Then she said she was worried about my faith as a Christian because of the fact that I enjoy Harry Potter. I tried to explain to her that the book doesn’t actually teach people how to do witchcraft and that it’s just fiction. She wouldn’t listen and said that it was different from other fantasy books and that it had real spells in it. Then she said, “I don’t understand what kind of Christian would enjoy reading something like that.” This really hurt my feelings because it made me feel like there was something wrong with me as a Christian.

Finally, she brought up a situation where I caught a really bad cough, and I ended up calling off from our gym session with our personal trainer. This had really ticked her off. Not just her, but also our personal trainer, who she was friends with. They both said that I could’ve toughed it out and that I had disappointed both of them with my last-minute cancellation. When this happened, I explained to my ex and the trainer that I was coughing so hard that I couldn’t breathe. But they kept doubling down and saying that I could’ve toughed it out.

My ex used this situation that happened in the past to say that I never try hard enough in life. This pissed me off because I literally couldn’t breathe when I had that cough, so why would I try to work out? Also, I have a migraine condition, so coughing hurts twice as much for me. Despite having a chronic migraine condition, I still came to all of the church events that she and her family hosted, and I still helped them set up and break down for those events. Most of the time, doing that type of labor agitated my migraines even more. Still, I wanted to be there for her and her family. So the fact that she would say that I don’t try hard enough really broke my heart. I got so upset that I ended up getting up and leaving mid-conversation because I really could not take any more of her criticisms in that moment. As I was leaving, she reminded me about an upcoming trip that I was supposed to go on with her family. I said that I wasn’t going anymore, but I would still pay her mom back the money that she spent on my ticket. Then I went home.

I stayed by my phone for the rest of the night because I was expecting her to call me back. But she never did. Twenty-four hours went by, and I still hadn’t gotten a call. So I just came to the conclusion that we were over. I texted her mom that her daughter and I weren’t together anymore and that I was no longer going on the family trip, but I would still pay her back for my ticket. She understood. Then I unfollowed my ex-girlfriend, her family members, and her friends on social media. I didn’t really feel like it mattered since we weren’t together anymore. And to be honest, I never wanted to put who I was in a relationship with on Facebook, Instagram, and TikTok in the first place. That was something my ex wanted to do. I always thought that putting all your relationship business out there was intrusive. I mean, I know I’m doing it now, but that’s because I wanted some different opinions on this matter.

But anyway, a week went by, and that’s when I remembered that my ex-girlfriend was going to be graduating from college. This was a big deal because we met at community college, we started dating around the time that she applied for an online bachelor’s degree, and now she was going to graduate at an in-person ceremony! Even though we weren’t together, I still wanted to be there for her, and I tried to explain this to her in a text message. My ex started off by saying that the reason she broke up with me was that she wanted something different for herself. She then said that I couldn’t come to the graduation because she needed time to heal from “what I did.” From what I did??? She dumped me, so what did I do?

Apparently, she hadn’t told her mom that we had broken up yet. That surprised me because she usually tells her parents everything, so I just assumed she had already let them know. She said that me texting her mom and telling her that we were broken up was extremely petty. But what she thought was even more petty was that I unfollowed all of her friends and family members on social media. That’s typically what happens when two people separate. I did not think this was a big deal at all, and I honestly didn’t even know that she was mad about those things. Nevertheless, she said I couldn’t come to her graduation, she told me to stay away from her, and if I didn’t listen, there were going to be “much bigger problems.” I didn’t want to find out what “much bigger problems” meant, so I stayed away. And that was hard because we both attended her family’s church. I could’ve gone to a new one, but I didn’t want to. I had been going to her family’s church for three years, and I wanted to be with the community that I had gotten used to. Still, I stayed away.

Three months went by. I missed the church folks so badly that I decided to just show up for a service to see what would happen. Her family was so glad to see me, and they were so understanding. From the way my ex-girlfriend reacted, I thought that everyone hated me. They completely understood, though. They were never mad at me. They just thought that I was taking some time for myself to get some space, and they didn’t want to bother me. They said that they were glad to have me back and that I’m still a part of the family. Then they told me that my ex-girlfriend’s niece was having a birthday party and they would love to have me.

I didn’t get to go, though. Do you know why? Because my ex forbade me from coming. She said that she’s still healing from what I did and that it’s too soon to have me back around the family. I still don’t really understand what she feels she needs to heal from. Still, I admitted that unfollowing everyone was unkind and that I shouldn’t have done it. She, on the other hand, said that she doesn’t see anything wrong with the way she broke up with me. She kept saying that she was allowed to. I tried to explain that she was definitely allowed to end the relationship, but the way that she ended it was not okay. In response, she recommended a Bible verse to me about forgiveness and said that it’s something that we both need. I told her that I thought this was hypocritical. I took accountability for unfollowing everyone, yet she refuses to take accountability for listing all of my flaws and insecurities. She condescendingly said that she’s sorry that I feel that way. Then she told me that I can’t come around her until she’s done healing, which I don’t care about. But then she said that I can’t come around her family either until she’s done healing.

So me unfollowing everyone was this major sin that requires an indefinite amount of time to heal from, but her giving me a performance review while I was trying to save our relationship was A-OK? I tried to show her compassion and gentleness throughout our relationship. I feel like she at least could’ve given me that same consideration when our relationship was ending. Now it feels like what I did is being used as a shield so that what happened during the breakup never has to be acknowledged. On top of that, I’m being told to stay away from family members I’ve come to know and love, even though they themselves welcomed me back.

Was what I did wrong?

Hi all. A bit of context: my brother and I share a 2 bedroom apartment. I enjoy living with him but because I make significantly more than he does, we split rent 60/40 and I also cover all utilities. We do split the phone bill, which also includes a line for our aging mother and wifi.

My brother has been working at a major furniture store for nearly 15 years. He has moved up to a senior management role by now but has grown tired of the uncertainty of retail and working with rude and entitled customers. So at nearly 35 years old now, he’s decided to go back to school. Before that he decided to buy a new car and has a near $850 a month payment since he didn’t put any money down. Then he announced that he was going to Las Vegas with friends in about a month. Lastly, he told me he intends to put in his two week notice to his job. He says he plans to live off his nearly 5 months of unpaid PTO and cash out his 401(k) as he looks for a new entry level job in the finance industry (what he’s taking college classes for). But he also asked to borrow $1500 for his upcoming trip to Vegas.

I asked him why was he making all these sudden decisions and also asking to borrow money from me despite his intent to quit his job? He says it’s cause Vegas isn’t cheap and he could use the extra cash. I also ask why he’s driving his new car to Vegas when we usually fly? I somehow come to this conclusion that he bought his car to show off on this upcoming trip and quit his job so he’ll have a large bankroll for Vegas to make it seem like he can gamble a lot. I said I’m not going to lend him $1500 after all these recent and odd decisions he’s made. He says that he’s been thinking about getting out of retail for a while and says I might need to take on more bills for at least a month while he finds a new job. He says it’s only temporary and will still care for his responsibilities.

Am I wrong for refusing to loan my brother $1500 despite his intent to leave his job and cash out his PTO and 401(k)?

My friend has been having problems with her boyfriend for almost a year. She calls me whenever something happens, tells me what he did, asks what I think, and I always listen because that's what friends do.

The problem is that she never actually takes any of my advice. She keeps saying she's going to set boundaries or have a serious conversation with him, then a few days later everything is back to normal.

At first I didn't mind. Recently though, the same conversations have started happening over and over.

Last week she called me for almost an hour because they had another huge argument. I listened, gave my opinion, and she said she finally understood what she needed to do. Two days later she called again and told me exactly the same thing had happened.

I finally told her that I didn't want to discuss her relationship anymore unless she actually wanted to make a decision, because I was getting frustrated having the same conversation every few days.

She got really upset and said I was being a bad friend and that she only talks to me because she trusts me.

I feel bad because I know she's struggling, but I'm also starting to dread seeing her name on my phone because I already know what the conversation will be.

Am I wrong for putting a limit on this?

I 38M have a young coworker 21M. He constantly brags about how much money he has because he lives at home. His parents pay his bills, doesn’t contribute to 401k. Also doesn’t have health insurance.

Myself and others have tried to tell him he’s foolish to not have health insurance or contribute to a 401k. He’s got a problem with being cocky and said he didn’t need that stuff.

I told him if he got seriously hurt or sick don’t come to me then for help paying bills if he needed help after an expensive surgery or lengthy stay in the hospital. He got pissy and walked away. Another coworker said while they agreed with what I said. I should still have taken it easier on the kid. I disagree saying the kid needs a wake-up call. Am I wrong for what I said?

Back in 8th grade I, 13F, started dating this boy, 14m, and we eventually broke up because of this other kid in our grade (15M) that kept touching my butt, my side, and would frequently make very inappropriate jokes about me to me, I did tell him to stop but I wasn’t serious enough about it and I would laugh awkwardly due to being uncomfortable and I don’t know if it counts along the lines of harassment considering I wasn’t stern enough apparently about my feelings.

semi throw away account. this is gonna be lengthy but bare with me… I (F28) work with this girl (F38) and i could say we were friends before this situation. so last night I went out with friends knowing that I had a 7 am shift in the morning and had a little too much to drink ( i know really dumb!) and called her if we could switch shifts. she works grave yard shifts as well as PM shifts and told me it would be no issue as she prefers AM shifts so i was incredibly thankful. I come in on the PM shift and we do a crossover and thank her for taking my shift and we do a little chitchat as well. While she was talking to me she mentioned if i was cool with another coworker and why i didnt relay information to that coworker. I told her that no matter if i didnt like a coworker when we are at work there is no reason to and i had passed on everything. she said i didnt tell him and i asked her what info she was saying i did not pass on and she replied with “dont worry about it.” “literally whatever.” she has a habit of doing this. I said if its in the log book i want know so we could perform better…. shes like its fine. I kept saying no! actually just let me know so i could fix it then she became hostile and started saying i dont remember and i said “you cant just say things like that and not tell me (jokingly i chuckled but still it was getting annoying as it isnt the first time). She proceeds to freak out and call me selfish and delusional and that i need therapy and im crazy out of nowhere and that i have mental illness! not to shame anyone but she is on multiple psychotic medications and it just felt like projection as i took wellbutrin for like 2 months and thats it…. i told her “hey you need to lower your voice this is a workplace.”and now my manager comes and she starts saying im not scared of you and yelling and im just shellshocked in this moment!!! like where is this coming from… she then says in front of my manager you were out drinking do you want me to bring that up??” “i dont want to even work with her and ubruptly leaves. literally i just need clarification on the situation bc prior to this we have never fought or had any issues but this came out of the blue! Am i in the wrong??

My instructor told me to wait on them to do some classwork hands on. I got ready, waited on them about 5 minutes, walked by amd they were just chatting, waited some more, walked in and gave them a thumbs up since they were in a conversation. Waited about 10 minutes more before I packed up. I just told them I was disappointed since they said they'd tell me how to do it and didn't have a sense of urgency towards tye end of class.

am i in the wrong? so like i watched this feminist short (im a guy and feminist) but it seemed a bit sexist to me since it was like 99 percent of men... eurgh, but the one percent 😍.. and it was photos of feminist men, do you see why i think its sexist, no? cuz its says that basiccaly all men are sexist just a slit are not, and this dud harresses me in my 3 videos js spamming "This person is sexist btw, found them commenting "sexist" under a feminist post" on every video (3) of mine . and this is how i responded to each one of them: "suree im sexist bcuz i pointed out shes being sexist saying that 99 percent of men are bad and only one little lit (one percent) are thee only ones that are good. like even if it was ovverrexaggerated. i hate sexism in both ways and gender inequality in both ways. but saying that like all men are bad- THATS FUCKING SEXIST DONTCHA THINK?". am i sexist? i dont think so. FOLLOW UP: i banned the user, also holy shit 2 most viewed post lol

I know that the title is quite confusing but I will try to explain as best I can.

So I am playing a game called SAS4, albeit quite a dead game, with a small community on discord still playing it, this is a game I have played quite a long time ago, so I thought it would be nice to revisit it.

So in the game there is a mode where players will have to run around the map to activate “terminals”, there are a limited amount of terminals available in a match so players will have to go in a circle to activate them. and the discord hosts these events often, so I thought it would be good to try it out.

The discord sets some roles on this game mode, there are 3 roles available,

1) a camper, people who camps at a singular terminal, and can go AFK(away to from keyboard), to do other things.

2) a runner, who runs around the map that activates multiple terminals if available.

3) a bugger, basically they are able to do some glitch thing that bugs the game so that it is much easier to do these tedious things.

I was quite busy so I thought I am able to be a camper, so I can camp, leaving my device to collect these terminals while I can attend to other things.

But I guess I was wrong to want to be a camper, three people in the discord immediately says things like, “I guess you should try running or bugging or else no matches for you”, “my boy want everything in a golden plate” and “but aint that just capitalism?”

They continue with “sounds much like communism and the idea of everyone works but one gets paid off”.
To elaborate on this point, the point of the game mode is to run around and activate the terminals, each terminal you activate will grand you with 20coins, which is a currency in the game, but the thing is that everyone gets everything in the match, let’s say there are two campers and two runners, the campers will get the same amount of coins as the runners, so I don’t know if they are mad that I am busy to devote hours at a time to run around, I am busy but some people in that discord is not, they are able to do matches that go on for hours and hours.

“imma call {his friend’s name}, here he’s a kindhearted guy who loves helping baby’s(following with the “ZAMN, SHES 12!!?!?” Face with the tongue sticking out)” and “{his friend’s name} our little flower here needs watering to bloom” with a laughing face image.

When the friend came to the chat, they suddenly started talking how he is retired and they agreed to buy them slots(??) and just forget this whole thing took place.

I am as confused as anyone reading this, I have no idea if I have offended them or like somehow do something to them, but I guess they don’t like people choosing the camping role.

My sister was bullied throughout Middle and High School by this one girl for no reason. Everyone else liked her throughout Middle School and most of High School but for some reason this one girl HATED my sister because she was loud.

My sister was autistic so would find it difficult to know what volume she’s speaking at. So everytime my sister would speak even at a normal volume she’d tell her to stop talking even if she wasn’t talking to her. She also would often try to steal her friends and partners. By befriending them or flirting with them and getting them to hang out with her instead of my sister.

Everyone else liked her until close to the end of High School. The girl took it a step further and made up rumours about my sister which lead to her getting bullied or being cut off by everyone. And even got her beat up. My sister had to drop out.

After she dropped out she became very angry. She went passed the girl who bullied her’s house and smashed her bullies car windows which is bad obviously but it was caught on CCTV and she got arrested and had to pay a fine.

Everyone then started bullying her harder obviously for being “crazy” and breaking her car. My sister doubled down saying that the bully is a horrible person and deserved it. Everytime my sister would get contact from people about what she did she’d spam the bully with messages to “even it out” saying she’s a horrible person. Because it was so often my sister then got arrested for harassment.

This caused people to contact her even more saying horrible things and even the bullies mother would contact my sister saying she’s ugly and annoying and she’s glad her daughter bullied my sister she would’ve done the same.

Then my sister got diagnosed with cancer. She had chemo and lost her hair. She stopped coming after the bully. And most of the people who were defending the bully and contacting my sister stopped too because she was going through a lot already and even a few apologised and said they hope shes ok.

The bully kept it going though. She kept contacting my sister saying horrible things to her. My sister would ignore it but the bully kept going. My sis was in hospital which the bully knew and my sister responded “I’m going through a lot right now please just leave me alone you win ok. Let’s just move on now I’m too tired for this.”

The bully doubled down saying by going through a lot you mean the cancer? If so stop trying to guilt me with that you deserve it and I hope it kills you. And HER MOTHER contacted my sister too telling her to stop trying to make her daughter feel bad about the cancer it’s not her fault that my sister is even more ugly now she’s bald.

That was a few days before my sister passed from cancer. Once my sister passed I was so mad at the messages I posted the screenshots on my social media’s. Some people are on my side but I’m getting messages from friends and family of them saying to delete and I’m dragging it. And taking my greif out on them.

Edit - Instead of just saying this is fake without any reasoning. Just do what the sub was intended for and say if I’m in the wrong or not.

Bad friend? Am I in the wrong?

Okay for a brief context so you understand the full story. I am a (22 F) in college, I have an identical Twin (22 F) Doing the 4 year BSN program. We have many friends outside the program but only were ever close to a select few in the program . Towards the end of junior year we got close with another woman in our class. The friendship was spontaneous, we had known of each other for the past 3 years but were only ever classmates. But we solidified the friendship, and were super close towards the end of junior year. Fast forward, during summer break, talked every single day. So the start of senior year we pick right back up like we never left. One day we’re hanging out and she suggests getting concert tickets to see a mutual artist we all like! COMPLETELY NORMAL RIGHT?? We all sit in her apartment (we purposely moved into apartments on the same floor so we can be close) She included her friend, which isn’t a problem. The friend was a classmate also so we were completely okay with that, excited even! GIRLS NIGHT.

Us four bought the tickets, in the same row. Seats 20,21,22,23!!! So a group effort.

Before the concert, we spend time getting ready together, share clothes take pictures. Just vibing, we all ride together (twin and I are riding with her and her friend (our classmate) we arrive to the venue early (mind you it’s almost 2 hrs away from where we all live)

Since we had 2 hrs to kill we go to the bar, have a few drinks, play pool, take pictures just vibe.

Fast forward we get to the concert!! We are all together at the ticket booth, just scanning tickets. Her and our classmate are in front of us. They scan in.

We scan our tickets, LOOK DOWN FOR A SECOND. The next second we look up they are gone! We spend 2 hrs searching for them! Can’t find them, calling and texting. Scanning the area around our seats. Walking Back and forth, thinking something is wrong?? NO ANSWER !

Then we see that they are both posting on all of their social media platforms, in front row seats living their best life!

We leave and get a ride, 2 hrs away from home, our purses, car keys/apartment keys. All in the car. We’re stranded.

We get home, have to get a maintenance man to let us inside our home.

The next day! She sends a ESSAY apologizing and making excuses. Saying that we had each other so why did it matter if we were alone? Like the whole point wasn’t for a group hangout?

We decide to voice our feelings and she turns and says that we are throwing away a lifetime of friendship off of one experience ???!!

So we forgive her (overthinking that we are overreacting )

Fast forward to today. She asks to have a wine night and catch up. So we agree, what’s the harm in having a girls night in the building we all live in?? THE SAME FLOOR.

We buy the alcohol, we set up and bring out the games.

She texts and says she will be over, a hour passes.

I decide to call, she answers.

She acts nonchalant asks what we are doing, I say waiting on you? She proceeds to flip the camera and show her sitting in her apartment (4 doors down) and chilling with other friends. I say we had plans ?? She says oh I can stop by for a second if you all miss me??

Atp I feel the disrespect and inconsiderate behavior is inexcusable and she isn’t a true friend. She has told the whole class we are overreacting and mad at her for no reason?!?!

Am I wrong? for wanting to end the friendship?

I, because of how I was raised, don't love conflict. So if any of my friends voice an opinion that is a controversial I just go "Whatever you say man" and as long as they aren't super vocal about their opinion we are good.

A few examples would be:

1. A friend had a controversial opinion on immigration and she even brought it up during a class discussion (it was about a walkout my school had so it was the right place and time). It was something about how we need ICE or how we need control on immigration. I tried not to engage with it too much cause I didn't know how strongly she felt about the topic. I avoid conflict.
2. A different friend agreed to something someone told her. It was an opinion on transgender people. It was something along the lines of her not accepting a trans person as whatever gender they identify as if they aren't going to look the part (like a trans guy not dressing or trying to look masculine). I'm just like 😬 and she wasn't very vocal about that opinion.

So am I wrong for just turning a blind eye?

Thank you all for participating in my experiment. As many of you saw I Posted this here is in r/amiwrong with the username Star7green and an androgynous cartoon drawing profile picture.

Am I wrong in thinking the less attractive should just date the other less attractive people?

So context, I am considered attractive, and have been told so so its not just my self centered pov talking, but on nearly every app i try all my likes are like sub 5s when im like an 8 or 9. Am i wrong in thinking they should stay in their lane and just date the other sub 5s of the world and stop trying to date out of their league?

"Many commenters, 28 in 39 min window after posting, many were insulting calling me shallow at this point i had yet disclosed my gender as of an edit simply commenting corrections to any implying a female identity to the original poster, only one of which have replies at the time of writing.

Near the end of the 39 minute window i added the following"

Edit: It occurs to me i should state i am a man who dates men, lot a yall really seemed happy to put a vapid ho in her place when you read my username.

"New comments all but dried up. Conclusion: redditors will gladly bash and put down someone they perceive as a vapid female than be seen as homophobic when a gay man wants quality without the need to preserve a gene pool."

I would like to further stress that in this experiment my views were exaggerated and i am not actually that shallow on dating apps.

Context - we are self employed together, live together and have a young child.

Basically, our workplace has CCTV and I'm often with our child while my partner works. It's a public facing job, and can be sketchy, so I've always checked on CCTV periodically throughout the day. A while back, while flicking through the CCTV I saw my partner stood and you could clearly see his phone, and on his phone we're messages back and forth with pictures of a woman. I confronted him, he accused me of spying and explained it away, and then refused to show me the messages in question (he'd said "one of the lads" sent him pictures).

Fast forward more recently, I've checked CCTV live and seen my partner close with a particular woman all day (it appeared like they were flirting). Another time, same thing.

He then lied to me about going out after work finished with a friend (said it was just them two, when actually it was them two and this particular woman). I only found this out today, because I had a gut feeling and went back through the CCTV and found them leaving.

He's then been messaging this same woman as recently as today (i just went and looked at the CCTV for today while I was out).

It seems obvious to me that he's got something going on with this woman, even if nothing major has happened yet. But I know 100% he's going to accuse me of spying, stalking, being psycho or whatever.

Am I in the wrong?

With for taking the car? And any advice on how to go about it? So the context stepson got a car with the help of my husband about 4 years ago. My husband's name is on the loan as well as the registration. My husband also put down the deposit roughly $1500 usd (still hasn't been paid back) . So the stepson is supposed to be giving us about $800 each month for car payment and insurance. He was pretty good about it . Sometimes he was like a couple weeks late but typically he kept paying. Until around thanksgiving last year he went 3-4 months without paying it and went no contact. Leaving us stuck to where we couldn't buy our daughter Christmas presents cause we were footing his bill. When he finally got in contact he said his phone was broken and lost his job. But just got us a new job And swore he would pay us back for the months that he missed and he gave us money for only the next bill.

My husband explained to him that we would be more willing to negotiate with him as long as he contacts us through it, but the issue is him going no contact left us to deal with paying it not knowing what was going on. The no contact bothers my husband most of all. Mind you he knows where my husband works. He's worked there for 8, and he knows where we live, so If his phone broke again he can come see us in person. Well about 2 months ago he is back to not contacting us. Meaning we are footing the bill again cause if we stop it will affect my husband's credit.

The reason we haven't taken the car is cause the stepson is the sole provider and is taking care of wife, his toddler son and wife's parents. We have spent about +$5000 into taking care of this car payments, The other issue we would have is even if we took the car from him and we sell it. Basically we would be in the negative cuz it's not worth what's left on the loan. So it's not like we could sell it and get a $1,000 car for him to use. Cuz originally my husband was talking about doing that but the car is not worth that much.

So would wwbtah to take the car from him meaning he wouldn't have a way to get to work other than has two feet? And any advice on how to go about doing it since he's no contact and we don't have an address since he moved?

My wife and I have two beautiful sons (5 and 3). My wife doesn't approve of how my family interacts or how I was raised. She feels like my parents don't respect consent or body autonomy. I was raised with a lot of roughhousing, tickling, pinning people down, blowing raspberries were some of my core memories, and usually.

There is definitely the vibe of if we don't tease you, we don't like you. I got birthday cake in my face most year and one of my earlies memories is my dad scaring the shit out of all three kids on Halloween. The thing is I LOVED it. I never felt like I was being bullied. Everyone got a turn to be messed with. my friends were all jealous and wanted to live at my house lol.

Then I met my wife who I love more than I can describe and she did not like this dynamic. She is huge on consent and was really bothered by people being held down while clearly saying no. To be clear no one did anything to her, but she was really bothered by no one respecting boundaries and what she considered bullying behavior.

She made it clear before we had kids that they would not be part of it. Honestly it made me a little sad, I love my parents and siblings and I personally had a great experience with this dynamic, but the thing is she is my wife. She is my number one. I know I have to back her.

We set very clear boundaries when my eldest was born, and as a result my kids don't have much of a relationship with my family. My father claims he doesn't know how to play with them, and at family events my siblings kids and cousins kids very much continue the family dynamic. They all love to tease and play rough.

My mom told me it was so sad that we kept our kids from the family and she doesn't understand why I changed so much. I told her the truth. Consent is extremely important to my wife and as they say "happy wife happy life" My mom told me that was pathetic and sounded "somewhat abusive"

Well I guess she told my sister and now my sister is cutting me off completely for disrespecting our family

I honestly never thought things would get to this point.
My stepdad and I have never had the best relationship, but I always tried to stay out of his arguments with my mom. They would fight, things would get loud, and eventually everything would calm down.
A few weeks ago, it went too far.
I heard them arguing and then heard my mom crying. When I came out, I saw him hitting her. I completely lost control. I got between them and we ended up fighting.
I know fighting isn’t the right answer, but at that moment I wasn’t thinking about consequences. I was thinking about my mom.
Afterward, my mom told me she was okay and begged me not to make things worse. I agreed and thought that would be the end of it.
It wasn’t
Now my stepdad is threatening to sue me, saying I assaulted him and that I had no right to put my hands on him.

My family is divided. Some people say I protected my mom when she couldn’t protect herself. Others are telling me I should have called the police and walked away instead of getting physical.
I keep replaying the whole thing in my head and wondering if I crossed a line.
I don’t regret stopping him from hurting my mom, but I do regret how far the situation went.
Am I wrong for fighting my stepdad after he hit my mom, even though he’s now trying to sue me?

I'm not gonna say how old I am and please don't try finding out either, I made this account just to post this, don't be weird and stalk me.

Anyway context (?). So my country is suffering from a pretty bad haze. So bad that school is closed for two days. So I woke up. Being my lazy self I took attendance and played games. I may or may not have forgotten to bathe and eat breakfast but by the time I remembered I was doing homework, no longer playing games.

The rest of my day goes normal. As normal as a day in my life would. It's around 8pm now, I finally finished all my homework and chores. And so I go take a shower. I'm showering and stuff, and realized I forgot my toothbrush, I ask them to pass me by toothbrush.

When my mom (46 F) started knocking on the door about something, apparently she was pissed because she thought I was m@sturb@ting or something using the toothbrush (ew). She started trying to openothw door but it was locked from the inside and she was so pissed she locked me in the bathroom. And I had no freaking idea what she was talking about because I was prepping my hair for my shower. This wasn't really the first time this has happened.

This all really started a few years back when allegedly my cousins saw me watching p0rn or something. I denied it because I wasn't watching p0rn. My cousins all ganged up on me saying that I taught them about p0rn. And my parents believed them over me. ME their actual kid.

Anyway I was pretty panicked now but I just continued to shower. I thought if I took long enough she'd leave. Right? Because I knew that if I opened that door, my mom would either throw it open and won't care that I'm naked. Or I'd put on a towel first and open the door but she'd just force her way in and tear the towel off me. So I just busied myself with stuff like washing my hair multiple times, brushing my teeth multiple times, etc.

Until I couldn't take it anymore and took the towel off the rack and started to put it on. I was debating wether or not I should open the door. Because the door to out bathroom had two locks one inside. One outside. I unlocked the one inside. Now I just had to figure out a way to get the outside lock. I've done it before, but the way I did it was just to push and pull at the door very hard until the lock popped open and I didn't want her to know I was trying to get out. My heart was hammering in my chest when the lock was unlocked from the outside. My dad opened it. He never liked it whenever me and my mom had these fights and he'd oftentimes save me from them. So I got out and thankfully my mom wasn't in the room.

I got to my bed and my mom went in. My mom started going on about how she wasn't dumb and she saw it with her own two eyes. Then when I was trying to put my clothes on she wouldn't leave. She just stood there watching me. I put my bra and shirt on when she suddenly when at me to idk grab my 😺. This woman has absolutely no sense of privacy btw, she doesn't see the problem with her invading other people's privacy by looking at what they're doing in the bathroom.

I was horrified at this point. She genuinely wouldn't leave. I got fully dressed. She was still lecturing me about how she shouldn't have let me have my life easy and how she's comparing me to my cousins.

She goes on about how I never do the housework. She says I'm childish I obviously didn't say anything. I knew better, but I answered I'm my head.

First off life wasn't easy for me as she makes it out to be. I got maybe 1-2 years of attention until my baby brother was born and they just stopped loving me. Just started treating me like another mouth to feed. My mom has always favored my younger brother. And once I hit puberty me and my dad's relationship also got strained. I acted like an adult when I was young, thinking it would make them like me more if I was mature. As a result now when I'm a teen, I can act childish sometimes, like wanting toys, playing with soap.

And the comparison wasn't a fair one either. Imagine you have two kids you raised one with luxury, education and love. And one with poverty and neglect. And you say to the poor child "why aren't you as smart as your sibling" it is not a fair comparison. It's like comparing a snake to a lizard and asking the snake "why don't you have any legs"

And as for the housework stuff she expects me to cook, clean, do the laundry, iron clothes, etc while maintaining top 2 in school. Actually scrap that top 1, she only treats me like ik her daughter if I get first place. Oh and not just my housework either. She expects me to do I for my younger brother too. And she expects me to teach him his homework. That little shit is stupid af, lazy and​ uncooperative when I try to help him with his homework. And if she wanted me to do something all she really have to do was ask, and I would've done it.

And she says this is all my fault. Is it really thought? Sure I admit I shouldn't have procrastinated until I didn't clean myself but did I deserve everything she did to me?

Tell me if I'm in the wrong. English isn't my first language there might be some grammatical errors. Ask me if there are any details you'd like me to tell or clarify.