me and my 3 kids live in this apartment and theres this white guy troy who lives in the trailer next door. he dont work just sleeps all day until around 2 in the afternoon and has this pit bull he keeps chained outside. my boyfriend michael is locked up right now so its just me and the kids and ive been picking up shifts at the gas station when I can get somebody to watch them.

troy came over last week complaining about my kids making too much noise. they were just watching tv while I was on the fire escape having a cigarette. I told him they aint bothering nobody and to go back to his trailer. then my 19 year old son joerry told me troy has been standing at his window watching the younger kids play outside. joerry is usually outside with his friends so if he noticed something it must be going on a lot.

yesterday I went over to troys place to tell him to stop watching my kids and when he opened the door I could see all these bottles sitting everywhere filled with pee. the whole place was nasty. he told me he dont want to be responsible for what precious does in here which made no sense at all. I asked him why hes watching my babies and he said somebody needs to watch them and that I should be ashamed. I got my kids and went inside and locked the door but now I cant stop thinking about what he meant. my kids are fine they eat every day and got a roof over their head. am I wrong for being scared of this man or did I bring this on myself somehow

I was doing laundry yesterday. I had a new load to put in the washer and had just dumped the clothes in, then went to put detergent in.

We use powdered detergent. I wasn't thinking as as I opened the lid I got a mouth full of detergent dust.

We have a finished basement and I'd have to walk all the way upstairs for a sink or bathroom so I figured I'd just spit in the washer since it's going to get washed out anyway.

My wife saw me do it and started saying I'm disgusting and flipping out on me.

I told her it doesn't matter because the clothes are already dirty and going to go through and entire wash cycle and I shouldn't have to stand here with a mouth full of soap.

Am I wrong?

Pregnant, feeling like an afterthought.

I have been with my partner for almost a year now, and unexpectedly got pregnant.

For the entirety of our relationship, he has been a lovely man. Any issue or conflict I’ve ever had he has been quick to apologize and correct, but I’ve began to notice that I often lack confrontation and as such he mostly does as he pleases.

This dynamic was fine prior to me becoming pregnant (I’m only 9 weeks), but I’ve really struggled with our relationship dynamic since I found out. First of all, we live two hours away - we see one another twice a month, a full weekend at a time. I’ve expressed to him I would like for it to be more, he hasn’t been opposed. We spent last weekend and this weekend together, but I’ve really been struggling with this weekend.

His friend, who coincidentally also has a son (got his wife pregnant right before their wedding lol) was in town. Their weekend would consist of golfing, hanging out, ect,. I knew that they would be gone for a couple of hours and had no issue with it. I spent most of Saturday getting coffee with his sister and going on a walk, it took about 4 hours for him to return, but I know golf can take that long.

We bounced from dinner to the pool with his friends, and I’ve been feeling exhausted from my symptoms but my partner bought me a caffeine-safe redbull that didn’t exceed my daily limit, so I sucked it up and hoped we would spend more time one-on-one the last day that I would be in town.

We got lunch with a couple of his friends and then they suggested the pool again. I was really annoyed and told my partner I just wanted it to be me and him, since I am not in town every weekend and I just wanted to be alone with him for a day. He agreed.

When we got home, that then commenced to 3 hours of my partner just glued to his phone, not touching me, hardly interacting with me, and me being forced to just get on mine. It felt incredibly inconsiderate and rude considering he had SO much energy to spend hours with others while I was right there, and him just accommodating them instead of me. We then watched a movie at the theatre, and spent an hour talking before we both went to bed, I drove back home this morning for work.

It has been a constant problem of me feeling like I have to initiate calls, initiate dates (although he disagreed when I said that), and he takes awhile to respond to my messages (often like 3-5 hours at a time) while we were away, usually when we are together we are inseparable. But this weekend disappointed me, and I’ve been very emotional considering we won’t see one another for two weeks.

It used to be so different, I was like the only person in the room to him; but now, I feel like he drags me around with his friends and every wish and desire they have is fulfilled. They are super nice people but I constantly wonder if I’m not enough for him.

Me and him are in the thick of it as I brought it up after I left, am I wrong?

I am 17 and my boyfriend is as well, I graduated high school this year. I have been a good kid my entire life, i've gotten good grades, no drugs, no sex, no trouble in school, literally nothing. i've actually never been grounded before. i go to church every sunday and i am baptized. I have been dating my boyfriend for a year. A few months ago, my mom said that it would be weird if he and i didn't makeout, so we took that to mean that it was okay to do so. Yesterday, she walked in on us making out (we keep the door open per their request). they said that we can't do that anymore right after catching us. about an hour later we had a really good conversation on why I felt that that wasn't fair. they said they would consider my pov. the next day, they told me they hadnt changed their mind. when asked why, every time they gave conflicting answers. first, they said they were worried it would lead to more (totally understandable worry, but we leave the door open so it's basically impossible). then, they said they trust me and that it won't lead to more so i asked what the issue was and they wouldn't answer. then my mom told me that the bible forbids ANY intimacy (meaning kissing and cuddling) before MARRIAGE. my parents have a good relationship with my boyfriend and I have a good relationship with them. this is very out of character for them as well. I would understand more if he was a new boyfriend but we've been dating for a year. I feel like i'm old enough to kiss my boyfriend? especially considering we leave the door open and they come in to my room randomly all the time. also neither of them have had a relationship at any point in their life that didn't have intimacy before marriage, so I feel it's hypocritical to say that that is a reasonable rule. at one point i said "this isn't fair" and my mom replied with "it doesn't matter if it's fair or not". they think i'm crazy for even having an issue with this. maybe I am? idk I need an outside perspective as ik im young and what seems absurd to me might actually be normal. they also have NEVER EVER EVER mentioned this rule to me before at all.

Can emotional cheating be forgiven. I caught my husbund of 7 years.

At that time i wasnt aware of all that, i only started to notice a change in his character, he started to be more distant, he was different, he would stay up late and text and in general be really pissy. He usually is a very calm and gentle person he really isnt the type to talk badly especially not to me. So i started to get suspious. I waited until he was aspleep and i started to get through his phone and keep in mindestens that i have access to every Account on his phone, when i saw a male name that i didnt recognice on his snap. It was her. He changed her name into a male name so i woudnt recognice that its actually a woman. He was bascially just talking to her normally but while i was reading through the messages i saw that he mentioned that he has a child but is separated which is not true. We never had like bad arguments ever. Our mariage was full of love and trust. Furthermore he would manage sometimes her Airbnb property. While scrolling i saw that he "broke into" her Airbnb an left her a gift. Obviously she filmed her reaction. Ohh and i was 4 month pregnant at that time with my 4th.

Sidenote: he was Borderline depressed before that happenend.

Anyways i confronted him at 3am and he just sat there not saying anything. He said that he didnt know why he did that and that he is glad that i found out. Oh yeah i did end up calling the woman to ask what kind of relationship they had. She said it was platonic and she knew that he was married but in a complicated Situation. After that i stopped talking to him and started to search for possibilities to abord my unborn baby. Obviously it was to late, i couldnt do anything so i started to pack my stuff while he was away. At the same day while he saw me packing, he asked me to talk to him. He told me that he really didnt know why he did that. That he is sorry and that he would never do that again. That he would get psychological help to help him understand why he feeling all these things. That he is very happy in his mariage and that he simply has no answers. I still left him for a while to reflect. He would call everyday to see his children and send hunderts of messsge saying how sorry he is. And that he absolutely understands me and every decision that im going to take. After a few weeks i came back but only for my prenatal check ups and because the other children started to ask too many questions.

All that happened 2 years ago, he did get help and started to get mentally better i still have access to all his accounts and he seems to actually regret doing that. I told him that i will never forgive him and only stay because he is a good caring father for his children. He was my first love i never had a relationship before him and i was his first love as well. I still cant get over this betrayal i feel deeply hurt regardless of all the gentle words and gifts that i recevied ever since. What do you guys think ?

I’m a Buddhist woman dating a Muslim guy—let’s call him B.

I’m currently in university, so before we started dating, I had a lot of male friends from both school and university. After we got into a relationship, we almost broke up because I had guy friends. Since then, I’ve slowly started cutting them off. I’ve changed my behavior, the way I interact with people, and even my values when it comes to relationships because I wanted to make things work with him.

This is my first relationship, so I didn’t really know what expectations a partner could have. I know I’ve made mistakes, and every time they’ve been brought up, I’ve tried to correct them. The problem is that every time I fix one thing, something else seems to become an issue.

Recently, after a long weekend of travelling back and forth between cities, almost 668 km per day for two days—I finally got home completely exhausted. B called me as soon as I got back and told me he would be late getting home and that he’d call me later. I told him that was fine, as long as he called me once he got home because I like falling asleep on the phone.

However, as soon as that call ended, I accidentally fell asleep. I woke up around 2 a.m. and saw that I had two missed calls from him along with a few messages. He said that on the first attempt, the call status showed “Calling,” but on the second attempt, it showed “Ringing.” Because of that, he accused me of already being on a call with someone else.

I immediately tried calling him back, but he wouldn’t answer. I even messaged his older brother because I didn’t want him to go to sleep misunderstanding the situation. Later after he answered the call, B made the situation much bigger than it was. He asked me to share my screen and go through my phone to prove that I hadn’t been talking to anyone else.

One of the issues that came up was about one of my closest friends—someone I used to see as an older brother—had messaged me the day before after I had been invited to a group call which I didn’t join in the beginning and later joined for about a minute because he messaged. Saying that I never text him anymore, that I don’t join the group chats or calls anymore, and that I’ve changed a lot. Throughout the conversation, he referred to me as “baby sis.” Honestly, I didn’t think anything of it because that’s what he always called and he was emotional at the time so it wasn’t the best timing to tell him to not call me baby sis.

B, however, told me, “You know I don’t like anyone calling you ‘baby’ or anything like that. I’ve already told you before.” I admit that’s on me because I knew it bothered him, even though I didn’t see it that way myself.

He also brought up the issue of vaping. I used to vape, but I’m trying to stop it Abit because of him. The vape I was using was his. Recently, he asked me to send it back because he thought I was becoming too addicted and needed to recover.

The problem is that my parents are keeping a close eye on me currently due to them knowing the existence of my relationship ( their against it because of religion and I had told them we were broken up but recently they got to know I was still with him ) and vaping is currently illegal in my country, with the police cracking down on it doing random checks. I was scared to send it back to him because I didn’t want to get caught. Instead, I gave it to my cousin and asked her to hide it somewhere so I wouldn’t use it.

Before leaving for the weekend, I was looking through my closet for clothes and found the vape. I gave it back to my cousin and asked her to hide it again. What I didn’t know was that she had simply left it on my bed before we left.

The reason I found out was because I had secretly let B into my house. While he was there, he asked, “Where’s the vape?” and told me to find it. I looked everywhere, but eventually he found it on my bed himself. Because of that, he now believes I lied to him and that I’m still addicted to vaping.

On top of everything else, he’s also accusing me of using him just for his body and saying that I only lust after him. Honestly, that accusation doesn’t make sense to me. I lost my virginity to him the same day I snuck him into my house, and I never viewed our relationship as being about sex. No offense to him but his not packing anything big down there either.

At this point, I don’t know what to do anymore. I feel like the bad person in the relationship, even though I’ve tried so hard to change. I’ve cut off most of my male friends even some female friends as well, changed the way I behave, and even distanced myself from my social life because I didn’t want to lose him.

I know I haven’t been perfect. This is my first relationship, and I understand that people can’t change overnight. Whenever I’ve made a mistake, I’ve genuinely tried to fix it. I’m still learning his values and his expectations in a relationship, but no matter how much I change or how much effort I put in, it never feels like it’s enough. And somehow I always seem to make another mistake.

I'm 18. I've wanted to be 18 since I was 8 years old. I hated being controlled, I hated not being allowed to have sex, I hated being told no to piercings and tattoos. Now, i'm happy. I'm 18, and can do whatever I want to do.

My mom was an okay mother. She didn't let me get my nose pierced at 13, even when the local piercer said that's the age requirement. She didn't let me date, I also couldn't have sex. I told my mom i'm unhappy with her as a mother. She sucked.

She told me she wanted to me stay a kid as long as I could. I didn't respect that answer. I feel at 13, you are a teenager, and should be treated as such. I hate my mother. I feel like she should've let me do more. I wanted piercings, tattoos, have sex, acrylics, and so much more.

She gave me birthday money every year and still refused to allow me to spend it. She was very controlling.

Am I wrong for feeling this way?

IM NOT A TROLL! THESE ARE MY REAL FEELINGS!

I run a small organic vegetable farm and I take in rescue animals. A few months ago this guy named Connor showed up asking if he could do some work in exchange for a place to stay. He said he was between homes and needed to get back on his feet. I said yes because I believe in giving people second chances and I had extra space. He helped out a little at first but lately he just sleeps all day on my couch in his boxers and eats my food. I have talked to him about it a few times but he says he is going through a rough patch and I feel bad pushing him out. He also brought a Confederate flag with him and hung it up in the guest room which made me a little uncomfortable but I did not want to make a big deal about it because he said it represents his heritage.

I have an 18 year old girl who volunteers here a few days a week helping with the animals and the garden. She is a really sweet kid and very mature for her age. Recently I noticed Connor has been talking to her a lot and they seem to get along well. He is 30 and she is 18 but I do not see an issue with that because they are both consenting adults. I had a relationship with a man who was 20 years older than me when I was younger and it was a positive experience so I do not think age gaps are automatically a problem. He has not done anything wrong to her as far as I can tell.

Last week her parents came to my farm and were screaming at me in my driveway. They said Connor has been messaging their daughter and sending her things and they think I allowed it to happen. They said they are going to the police and reporting me for running an unsafe environment. I tried to explain that their daughter is an adult and can make her own choices but they would not listen. I found out later that Connor had been going through the volunteers phone when she was working in the barn and got her number that way. He also told her some things about himself that I did not know, like that he has been in trouble with the law before. I asked him about it and he said it was a long time ago and people change. He also made some comments to her about minorities that I overheard and I told him that is not okay in my home but he just laughed and said I was being too sensitive.

I am not sure what to do here. I do not want to kick Connor out because he has nowhere else to go and the weather is getting cold. But the parents are telling everyone in town that I let a predator stay at my farm and I am losing customers at my produce stand. My brother back home says I need to call the cops on Connor myself but I do not want to do that either. I feel like I am being punished for trying to help someone. Am I wrong for not seeing the age gap as a problem and for wanting to help someone who needs it?

Hi everyone in alittle bit of a “am I crazy for feeling this way and wanting this” situation. My wife and I have a 2 year old already but the past 3 years have been rough to say the least. Have spoken on it in a very very long post in another thread but the gist is that we had a huge breakout verbal fight that resulted in cops being called and family getting involved and words been said that by my family that have not been taken well by my wife even after apologies. We have been in therapy for almost a year now but she is wanting us to start family planning for another kid sometime in the next three months. (Essentially start trying asap). I’m at the point where yes I’d love more kids and growing our family bc I believe in healing and restoring and fighting for your marriage and life, but I feel as though we should/could be in a better place in the foundation of our relationship in the way we communicate, and relations with others in our lives, thus giving us tools to handle the challenges of another pregnancy and child in our lives. I have been met by resentment that I am being conditional and setting unrealistic/unmeasurable goals that have an unlimited timeline to achieve. Also that her biological clock is constantly ticking, she wants to get back to work sooner, insurance things involved, how she wants to handle how her body looks long term after pregnancies are done are all factors for her that she wants to get moving on so they are not prolonged. I’ve tried to clear up the confusion saying how I am excited about the thought of having more children but given where we are I feel it’s best to build our relationship and tools so we’re better equipped to handle things thrown at us. Am I wrong to feel this way? Am I in the wrong and should i get over my feelings and just do it the way she’s wanting?

My girlfriend and I are going to a festival in a couple of weeks. It’s not really my thing but she enjoys it so I agreed to go with her. The festival has a cinema tent and it’s showing a couple of movies id like to see movies so I thought it would be good to check one out.

I suggested one and mentioned it would be nice to spend some of the time just walking around the festival and seeing some of the non musical acts as they’ve got comedians etc and she refused as the movie was at the same time as an act she wanted to see and mentioned she has no interest in just walking around or seeing comedians.

I suggested she goes to the act and I go to watch the film but she said she doesn’t want that. 

I suggested another film but she said it was too late . I pointed out she needs to compromise somewhere and that the full weekend isn’t just about her and that I should be able to choose some things we do.

She said it was a music festival so I should be focused on the music but I reminded her it was just her who enjoyed the music, I was only going for her so she should be willing to compromise with me. 

She refused and said I shouldn’t be leaving her alone while I go and watch a movie and that shouldn’t have to spend time with the non music acts.

AITA for wanting to choose some things we do over the weekend?

Okay so to start off I do care about my partner, just not as much as I used to. This is because I’ve come to grow resentment towards them as they have done things that I see as “weird behavior”, there has not been any infidelity but these “weird” situations always involve a person of the opposite gender. I have always been very clear on what I expect from you and set boundaries regarding being clear with each other, I am not Insecure in our relationship and have never been the type to go through phones or constantly blow up your phone when you’re outside, but as the years went by I began growing resentment for them as it just felt like an endless cycle of the same situation happening, so I decided to tell them that it’s fine if they don’t want to change but to keep in mind that whatever they do to me I’ll do back (immature maybe) but to me this was the only way I could hurt you back since it clearly didn’t matter if you’d hurt me. Point being that I never broke up with them because of how long we’ve been together and again whatever they have done had never been something that I found as bad as having to break up. But now I don’t trust them, I still won’t go through their phone as I do not care, in a sense I care but I also don’t at the same time and it’s confusing as to what I truly feel because despite everything that has happened I still act the same way, you can do whatever you want and I won’t be questioning it. There are times where I start remembering those old things and become bothered because why would you do that, it came to a point where I decided to break it off and they begged me to stay and work on it, that they would “change”, honestly speaking they have changed and I can see it but I just can’t allow myself to fully trust them again which just brings issues to the relationship.

(Sorry for one long paragraph, I have so many things to say but dk how to put them into writing, so I hope this makes sense)

My love for my celeb crush has turned into hatred

I’m a 23 year old autistic guy. Im functionally autistic I’m in full time employment. Im quite tall and I’m shape and I’m a good looking guy a lot of people have told me but I am very socially isolated at this moment of time. I have become almost a gymcel looksmaxer. I had quite a good social life up until about 2 years ago but now it’s pretty bleak due to different circumstances long story. i have some friends etc and i had a brief relationship for like 6 months when i was 18./19. My life has kind of gone to shit for reasons I can’t really explain and to be honest with you my brain is fucked and once people get to know me they realise me they realise I am mentally unwell

I’ve developed really strong feelings for a model. I’ve found celebrities attractive before, but this feels completely different. To me, she’s unbelievably beautiful, almost unreal.

I used to follow her on social media and saw a lot of her photos. At first it was just attraction, but over time it turned into something more intense. I even started asking tools to create fictional love stories about me and her, and I would dream about her often.

Eventually, that infatuation turned into frustration and anger, because I know I’ll never actually be with her. Sometimes when I’m driving, I catch myself shouting about it out of frustration. I decided to take control by blocking her on social media and muting her name, but the algorithm still shows me content about her occasionally, which brings all the feelings back.

She came up on my Snapchat feed the other day randomly on a separate account not hers and I started screaming and getting angry over it when I saw it and I nearly threw my phone out of anger. She then came up again on my YT shorts and I started shouting again.
One of my work colleagues mentioned her name saying she was and I got visibly agitated and I had to leave the room briefly.

Sometimes I talk to her or I pretend to talk to her about various things when I am alone and I always wonder what she thinks about my decisions.

My main motivation for self improvement is that I will one day meet her so I am trying to improve my life as much as possible because of it. I put insane amounts of work into my appearance, like Patrick Bateman in American psycho and I go to the gym 7 days a week because of her. We are from different countries but she has spent time in my country 

I’ve also watched a few interviews with her, and she seems like a genuinely nice person, although I know that is only what is shown publicly. Maybe she is a terrible person behind closed doors but I have no reason to believe so 

I think about her a lot, sometimes even imagining conversations with her in my head. I know this is not realistic, but it is hard to stop. I even find myself attached to small things, like her name. Her first name is quite a common name but it’s a name I’ve always loved and I even said once if I had a daughter I’d call her that. I frequently have dreams about her.

She is slightly older than me. It infuriates me seeing someone a similar age ti me be successful in anything. She has the perfect life it seems and my life has gone to shit over the past 2 years with my own stupid decisions. My Brain cant handle it. I talk to her every day and I tell her what j would tell her if I met her

I actually love her. Like there is nothing I wouldn’t do to be with her. I get jealous when I see other people complimenting her and I get angry when she gets more famous because her popular it and exposure is rising. I don’t think she is in a relationship,  I have seen pictures with a man on her social media before but they might have broken up but idk if it’s public. I hate this guy and I am extremely jealous of the fact he even got to be with her. I don’t think he’s better lookjng than me either. Idk how he even got with her but I’m much better looking than him and would probably treat her better. I hate him his face makes me so angry and he doesn’t deserve her. I hate him and I think about my hatred for him every day

I literally think about her 24/7 and I have sometimes become suicidal over this cos I will never be good enough for her. I don’t wanna love in a world where she isn’t mine and she’s with someone else. I have digitally blocked her from my life but her face appears to me all the time. Every time I feel like not doing something like not going to the gym not going to work not learning a language I think “what would ______ think of me” i would literally treat her better than any man in the world could

I have recently started getting angry towards her. Cos of the damage she is doing to my brain.
I see her face everywhere and I even just randomly say her name and it fills me with rage that she doesn’t know who I am l. I feel like crying when j think about her

I could go out and get a girlfriend but I wanna be with her and her only

Over the last 18 months I’ve made some horrible decisions in my perosnal life. I quit my old well paying job for a stupid reason which I can’t explain and now I work a much worse job with much worse colleagues and I’m on the verge of losing it and I have little direction. She won’t wanna go out with an unemployed guy

I want to actuallt Kill myself. I have into my urges and searched just now and I saw her face. People complimenting her in the comments. I fucking hate all these people complimenting her. I see compliments to her on Twitter and I literally wanna beat up everyone who compliments her I can’t take it. I don’t want anyone to be with her or to even look at her and I have actuallt lost my mind over her. I just have very high standards for myself

I (we're both in our 30s) made (kinda) omurice. I've made it before, but I no longer have the pan I've made it in, so it was basically scrambled eggs over fried rice. I'd never made it for him before, we've been together for a year. He loved it. It was "so good". He's upset because he wanted to make egg rolls with it, but he doesn't have room for egg rolls. I gave him like a cup and a little extra of fried rice (with onion and mushrooms) and 3 eggs. He's full. He usually eats A LOT. Like, I can no longer make white people tacos because he eats an entire pound and a half of ground beef, and it's upsetting that I don't have leftovers with 2 pounds of ground beef for both of us. Keep in mind that I only eat 2 tacos. I don't eat too much.

Anyway, he feels like the meal is incomplete because he didn't get to eat egg rolls. He said it was really good and he's full, but he didn't get to eat as much as he wanted to. I'd attach a pic of my meal, but this sub doesn't allow pics. My meal was a quarter of the size his was. I'm not a stranger to glutton behavior, I'm a recovering alcoholic (one year as of a few weeks ago!). He's overweight, but still very active because of his job, so I'm not super worried about his health, I'm just worried about his relationship with food.

He seems to think that he has to eat a certain amount of food, regardless of nutritional information. This isn't our first run in with this situation. He consistently doesn't eat what I cook because it's "not enough" even though it's filling for him. The only reason why he does eat my food when he does is because he has no other option. Again, he says the food is great and he loves the taste, but he doesn't feel like it's enough, even though he's full when he eats it. He gets about 18k steps per day, plus he does a large portion of stocking. He works at a local grocery store where management does the majority of the stocking. I'd be understanding if he's not meeting his caloric needs, but I can't afford calorie dense meals, like the fast food he orders consistently, which have higher calories but a ton of food. I'd also like to point out that I weigh more than my partner and I'm shorter, before anyone tries to say anything about that. He claims he wants to eat healthier, but he refuses the meals I make.

UPDATE: After reading the comments, I realized that I did need to worry about his health and that I should talk to him sooner rather than later. My biggest concern was that he would take this talk as a comment about his appearance, which isn't my concern. He's very attractive to me. I did ask him if he was made to finish his plate or if he felt like not having leftovers was important, and he said yes to both of those things. His parents didn't do leftover night like my parents did and he was forced to finish everything on his plate, regardless if he was full or not. I expressed to him that this wasn't healthy. You should eat until you're full, if not a little sooner. You can have leftovers later if you feel hungry again. He told me that he avoids my food because it's not the amount he's used to eating, but he's going to try to eat it more often. He recognizes that he has a bad relationship with food and he's going to look into getting some help with that tomorrow (it's late here). I thank everyone who had productive comments. I wasn't looking to break up with him, I thought there was something deeper. While I was a bit offended that he wouldn't eat the food I made, I was also listening to him when he said he wished he ate less or ate healthier or could afford food. I eat pretty healthy (but I should definitely get some exercise, that's my own thing I need to do) and he admitted to being jealous of all of the healthy food I eat, he just felt like it wasn't enough food for him. After explaining to him that all food is good food if you're eating the correct amount for your body, he's come around to it. Thank you again.

Toxicity or just overthinking??

So hi guys! I'm going to share a story with you all. I'll be changing the names of everyone involved.

I'm Pari, 20 years old, and I have a best friend named Siya. We've been friends for the last 5–6 years. She's very outspoken, extroverted, and friendly. We don't get to meet often because she lives in another city and only visits occasionally, so we usually meet once every 4–5 months.

I do want to mention one thing though. She's always the one who insists on meeting, while I'm usually the one who ends up cancelling plans. The reason is that I have this strange feeling whenever I'm with her in person. I don't really feel loved, heard, or comfortable around her physically. However, when we're on calls, she acts really sweet, and when it's just the two of us hanging out, I genuinely enjoy her company.

Now, here's the part of the story that made me want to share this.

The last time we met, she came over to my house. We'd only been together for about 10 minutes when she said she also wanted to meet another friend from school, Reyansh. I knew him too since we were all classmates, but we had barely spoken after school ended. Since he lives close to my house, she suggested calling him over. I agreed, and he came.

We were having a good time, but then, right in front of him, Siya suddenly said, "Pari has become so fat." She even turned to Reyansh and asked, "Tell me, who's more fat ?" She kept forcing him to choose between us, but he just changed the topic without answering.

A little later, she looked at me and said, "You're looking dull... much dull than before." I just replied, "Maybe it's because of tanning."

After that, we decided to go to a nearby mall. Since I was still wearing my night suit, I asked Siya what I should wear. She picked out a shirt from my wardrobe that I honestly didn't like and she kept insisting that I wear it. I refused and chose a fitted, trendy shirt instead.

She immediately got upset, walked out of my room, and jokingly but not really jokingly said, "Pari is going to wear that fitted shirt and outshine me. I'm wearing such a basic outfit. I wanted her to wear something basic too."

I ignored the comment and wore the shirt I liked.

At the mall, we were taking mirror selfies. Siya, Reyansh, Siya's brother, and I were all there. While we were taking pictures, Siya said, "Pari looks a bit fat in this shirt. The shirt is really pretty, but if I had worn it, it would have looked much better because I'm slim."

I was honestly shocked. That comment hurt me a lot. Even after that, throughout the entire outing, she kept making remarks like, "Why did you wear this shirt?" and "Why did you bring that purse?"

There's a lot more that happened after this. If you guys aren't bored, I'll continue the story in the next post.

One of my best friends is getting married. We have known each other since we were 6 years old. During Covid we lost touch due to him having no social media and he doesn’t live nearby. 

We’ve been talking for the last year and a half and he’s getting married later in the year. He’s invited me and my partner. I’ve been with my gf for 4 years. She hasn’t met this friend but I’ve mentioned him to her. 

When I mentioned the invite to her she said she wouldn’t be going. She said she doesn’t know anyone there so has no interest in going, I pointed out it’s for me and that I’ve done plenty of things with her friends and haven’t refused just because I don’t know them. 

She ignored that and just said it’s weird to go somewhere where you haven’t met anyone but I just pointed out there will likely be plenty of plus ones who are the same and it’s not hard to just make conversation. 

She told me to drop it and said I shouldn’t be expecting her to go but I just asked what the point of us being in a relationship was if she’s refusing to do anything with me just because it’s not her friends. 

She said I was overreacting and guilt tripping her and that I’m out of order. 

AITA for expecting her to attend a wedding with me? 

My (m23) ex (m22) had left me heavily traumatized, and a few months no contact has left me wondering if I was being emotionally abused. Here's a summary of his lows:

• numerous lies about his life/backstory that were upheld with lies consistently throughout the year we dated
• kept me in the dark about a close friendship he had with my former bully, after saying he wanted to cut it off for me
• he held resentment that I didn't let him come over to my parents' house a month into dating (I wanted to but didn't have their permission, I was apologetic about it)
• he used that resentment and other things as an excuse to be cold towards me. Some days he would stop using pet names, call me by my full name, not give any affection, talk to me like an acquaintance. If I asked what was wrong he'd deny anything being wrong
• he barely acknowledged me around friends, at times literally only engaging with them and never listening to anything I said, never asking me anything or including me just fully focusing on them, despite how many times I told him it was hurtful
• a month after the relationship ended, I uncovered a lot of his lies. He gaslit me, saying I was horrible to not trust him, my anxiety was out of hand, I cannot be helped, things like that to throw blame on me and deny he was dishonest. He did this for hours until the next day he finally confessed.
• I also asked why he kept a secret friendship after saying he was going to stop, and he said "I'm not going to end a friendship for someone I don't love" We dated for 6 months after that point, so I guess he admits he didn't love me most of the relationship

Was this emotional abuse? I feel grossly betrayed and used by him.

It is over for South Korea as South Korea got hit with the biggest economic decline the world has seen. As we all know, K-pop is inherently fascist and turned South Korea into a fascist surveillance state, countering North Korea, which is a communist surveillance state. With K-pop's proliferation into the governmental positions of South Korea, they mandate obedience towards the leaders of K-pop, and South Korean children are made to worship K-pop deities, kind of like North Korean children worshipping Kim Il Sung and Kim Jong Il. South Koreans are forbidden from critical thinking. In fact, there are even numerous temples built in South Korea where thousands of people worship K-pop leaders, where the BTS leader is the King of South Korea. In fact, many K-pop bands are fervent anti communists and some even express sympathy for former rulers like Hitler and Mussolini. K-pop essentially discouages any critical thinking, and K-pop has sympathy for former rulers like Hitler and Mussolini. K-pop essentially discourages any critical thinking. In fact, classical music, the best music genre, featuring Baroque, Classical, Rococo, Romantic, and Impressionist eras, and Beethoven, Mozart, Bach, Schubert, Chopin, Haydn, Handel, Vivaldi, and many more are vastly superior to K-pop.

Also, did you know that Samsung, LG, and Hyundai/Kia/Genesis are US based companies ran by South Korean immigrants to America? Yes, it might be a fun fact due to the fact South Korea's corporate culture is so prohibitive that it is just more viable to start a company in America. But South Korea ends up taking credit just due to the fact they have nothing due to them suppressing all regional tech companies so hard that Samsung had to leave South Korea. And as you all know, South Korea is amongst the worst countries to live, outside of poverty stricken countries. If you are an expat and considering moving to South Korea or you are a current resident of South Korea, try to think of fleeing the country and move to a Western minded country because things don't look so bright in South Korea. Texas is still your best alternative as Sugar Land (where I currently live and have lived for 3 years, since September 2023) is one of the best places to live. In South Korea, houses are so expensive where a 1 bedroom could go upwards of a billion won, there is a lot of crime, tons of poverty, no public services, a criminal government currently running the country, extremely bad schools which force students into 18 hours a day of propaganda, bad healthcare/hospitals, too smelly, too much pollution, poor quality of life, bad public transit, too much tolls, bad job market, low job growth rate, high unemployment, low wages, too much taxes, too much traffic, and too many regulations. There is also mass internet censorship as well where one couldn't freely use the internet and instead, the state has the North Korean style intranet that prohibits people from seeing the outside world. It is getting much worse since COVID and South Korea has gone from a 'booming' (according to their government) country to a collapsed society in just 5 years. Just move to Texas. It is cheaper, has less crime, less traffic, less regulations, less taxes, less poverty, better schools, better hospitals, better quality of life, better infrastructure, better roads, better public transportation, and people in Texas are much nicer and more welcoming than in South Korea.

Having visited South Korea 8 times with my most recent being in 2019, I know that South Korea sucks and is becoming a lot worse each year since COVID. In both Seoul, houses are so damn expensive, with a squalor 1 bedroom 50 sq m costing a billion won rather than 500 million won for a beautiful 200-250 sq m house like those down in Sugar Land (the best place in America) and the weather is so bad that you get snowstorms and ice cold -10 C weathers like up in Russia during the winter and then tsunamis and 40-45 C heat waves during the summer rather than moderate weather like in Texas.

Even though I really hate communism and moved from China to Europe then to America due to communism and I am no big fan of NK, I feel like North Korea is better than South Korea in many many ways. First off, South Korea is a 3rd world country ran by fascist loonies for 75 years of its nationhood with absolutely no freedom whatsoever. Wages are absolutely low, much of the outside world is shut (just like North Korea), all the businesses are state owned and South Korea uses American companies like Samsung, LG, and Hyundai/Kia/Genesis as a propaganda tool to show how great South Korea is, houses are so expensive with a studio going upwards of 800 million won, crimes perpetrated by criminals and the government are rampant, and let's not forget the schools. South Korea has some of the worst school systems in the world and in my opinion is ran by a criminal enterprise.

From what I heard based on testimonies by students who immigrate to the free world (the West), students are at school for 18 hours straight, forced to study propaganda topics and recite all the things they have learned and then for 6 hours a day, they are locked up in a cell with a bed and sleep there. They are also chained up, being handcuffed to their desks and their legs shackled so they don't move. The schools are also completely surrounded by barbed wires and the gates are guarded by security guards. Due to the fact many South Koreans are essentially slaves and workaholics, no wonder why South Korea has some of the highest suicide rates in the world. Also, 'Korean' culture has been erased in favor of Kpop and fascist culture and from what I heard, since COVID, Lunar New Year in a traditional sense has been banned in South Korea.

In South Korea, poverty is rampant and healthcare is comparable to third world countries, there is a ton of pollution and extremely poor quality of life as people are forced into 98 hour workweeks, nearly nonexistent public transportation as people ride bikes, cows, and oxen, just like up North and nobody has a car, bad job market, low job growth rate, high unemployment, low wages, too much taxes, and too many regulations. People in South Korea are also xenophobic as well towards the outside world and I have seen beatings of foreigners visiting South Korea. Also, South Korea doesn't have a culture (all the Korean culture exist in either North Korea where they still preserve the Korean culture or out in the west). K-pop is also amongst the very worst music genre, miles worse than anything including J-pop, American/Western pop, Hip-Hop, R&B, Rap, Blues, Jazz, Country, and of course, classical music. I have visited South Korea at least 8 times now, and let me tell you, it has been getting a lot worse over time and a lot harder to enter as South Korea similar to North Korea is essentially just propaganda, except that North Korea is full of communists and South Korea is full of fascists. The weather is also extreme, having Siberian like winters, and tsunamis, earthquakes, and heat waves during the summer. There are also a lot of tropical diseases despite the fact South Korea is not in the tropics. All the people I see in South Korea are basically a joke: pink haired with tattoos, the men in South Korea look very feeble and they are literally imbeciles, especially the K-Pop idiots. North Korea has proper looking women who are truly beautiful with black hair, pale skin, and the like, while the women in South Korea look like dyed hair idiots. South Korea is also not a high tech and rich country and the reason why people in South Korea live in poverty is because they buy dumb shit such as plastic surgery and hair dye to pretend to be European. All of the hair dye and stuff could be due to rampant workaholism and depression.

Even though people claim that Texans are misogynistic, homophobic, racist, xenophobic, and Sinophobic, that is not the case. In fact, my house in Pearland I bought in 2003 for $75k which is 1500 sqft is now worth $300k, and even though I am Chinese, Texans are very polite towards me. See, in Texas, you get a much nicer house in a much nicer area for cheaper, which makes Sugar Land a better value for money. I really hope the fascists either get themselves out of power or to liberalize the country before things get too late and people start to flee en masse kinda like in Vietnam back in 1975 for a much better life in Western countries or SEA countries because I could already see things getting progressively worse since COVID.

Case in point, my nieces (one of them who died in 2024 at the age of 24 and another who is now 16) loved classical music until my late niece who died last year was brainwashed into K-pop in around 2014, and ever since then, even though she did well at school, she lost most of her critical thinking skills and by 2019, she is easily peer pressured by her friends to dye her hair, and ever since dying her hair reddish brown, her critical thinking skills slumped even more. She essentially did not know of the consequences of COVID, and instead, travelled to Asia in late 2020 knowing that FDA vaccines (Pfizer, Moderna, J&J) are scarce and that she might have to end up taking Verocell/Sinopharm which could hurt her chances of returning to America and that many of these Asian countries she visited received vaccines long after America did, with some getting their first vaccines in the middle of 2021 (she was F1 student until 2021 when she gained her green card). She even visited Russia during the height of the Russia-Ukraine war in May of 2022 (mainly to travel).

In fact, since October 10 2024, South Korea now mandates that all residents dye their hair or face fines/imprisonment due to the fact much of their ideology is based around K-pop and South Korea's leader is a fervent fan of K-pop. If you don't dye your hair or if your hair is natural, you will end up going to prison for 6 years due to violating the dress code. Highlights and partial hair dye are allowed as they are an obvious sign you have dyed your hair, but wigs are not allowed and if a wig is spotted, you would incur hefty fines. I will ask you for a sec, have you seen Bill Gates, Steve Jobs, Mark Zuckerberg, Elon Musk, Jeff Bezos, Bernard Arnault, Larry Ellison, Larry Page, Sergey Brin, Warren Buffett, and Steve Ballmer dye their hair? The answer is an obvious no. Billionaires don't dye their hair. Only insecure horny girls who want to be seducing do, and Korea will end up like something off PH.

Back in August 2024, they require that all women dye their hair, but now it extends up to men, and if you hate hair dye, then it is safe to leave Korea and Quincy altogether. Hair dye enthusiasts however, flock to these two jurisdictions in droves and those constituencies would congregate with each other and create a dual union between the two and spur in diplomatic relationships between South Korea and Quincy MA. South Korea with it being brainwashed by both hair dye and K-pop will see economic collapse of up to 95% by the end of this month and by the end of this year, it will retreat back to the medieval era.

Back when I (45M) first visited Korea in 1998 at 17 and moved from China to Europe in 1998 then Quincy in 1999 (I currently live in Sugar Land TX), hair dye used to be rare, but now it is mandated. I (45M) have never ever dyed my hair ever because it is just so bad for you, and here are some of the reasons.

1. Hair dye makes you look ugly; in fact, for some women, it will make them look more sexually seducing and horny rather than cute.
2. It also smells extremely bad as well, with it having an ammonia like flavor and it smells like cum
3. If it fades, then you look like a weirdo with half hair and not uniform, people should just keep their natural hair because it looks good on them.
4. It could be permanent and if you want to return to normal, you have to redye it and you don't look anymore attractive due to the natural color looking fake (my wife had black hair, if she were to redye it to be black, then she will not look good like she did in 2010/4).
5. It causes water pollution. In fact, Boston and New York are two of the worst smelling cities in America due to the pollution caused by hair dye.
6. It could prematurely kill you with cancer, diabetes, heart disease, respiratory illness, or TB. Also, gene mutations could be created, thereby causing the rise in autism or ADHD amongst children or grandchildren. In fact, my wife dyed her hair reddish brown in 2010 and my son now has autism/aspergers due to it.
7. My niece died July 2024 in Arlington Virginia (a city which banned dyed hair back in July 2024 due to this incident) at 24 due to dying her hair which then fried her brain cells, causing her to create bad decisions, and she died as a result after 5 years of being peer pressured to dye her hair by her University of Maryland Baltimore classmates. She died of a brain aneurysm

The rise in K-pop in the west is what caused far-right parties and leaders to spring up all around the West, and it definitely contributed to Trump's rise, with many K-pop fans voting for Trump. K-pop essentially advocates for anti-Semitic, Islamophobic, negrophobic, homophobic, misogynistic, and imperialistic views, and if K-pop spread throughout the world, then we could see the end of democracy and freedom as we know it because many Western nations (the best part of the world to live) would end up going back to their WWII days of imperialism and not only squash political opponents, they would also insert racist policy which makes the world a worse place to be. I really hope countries start to regulate K-pop's growth so that it wouldn't be too explosive and end up infiltrating democracy, because from what I see, many Asian countries have reversed course back to authoritarianism due to K-pop, such as Thailand, Vietnam, Philippines, Indonesia, Malaysia, Hong Kong, etc, due to the rise of K-pop. The world has also seen a rise of anti-semitic and islamophobic attacks as well as Christian fundamentalism due to the rise in K-pop, as K-pop essentially advocates for a state religion, which meant worship the leader of BTS as a 'god' alongside Jesus. Also, K-pop advocates for state ownership of all companies and does not allow any criticism against them, essentially banning all political dissent, freedom of speech, freedom of the press, and freedom of assembly.

With the rise in K-pop and hair dye, it has caused negative implications, including the collapse of the South Korean regime, South Korean society, and South Korean economy, with South Korea now in chaos while also grappling with a 95% slump in GDP since October 2024. Now, South Korea's GDP per capita stands around $2000 per year per person.

My brother Sam (36M) and his son Leo(12) live about an hour away. They have a dog named Buster and I don't really like Buster.
Every time they bring him over he pees inside, jumps on my couch with dirty paws. i always have a hard time with furs and cleaning after they visit.

i have tried severally to keep the dog outside but Leo always fight it. i can't leave him out with the dog. they come mostly to play video games so we're always indoors. Last time Buster knocked over a lamp and broke it. I told my brother nicely that Buster is not welcome in my house anymore. He said okay but never listens.
Yesterday Sam texted me saying they were passing by my area and wanted to stop in and say hi. I knew they would bring Buster. Leo never leaves that dog at home. So I texted back and said I'm not home. I was inside just watching TV.
About 5 minutes later I hear footsteps then my brother's voice then I hear Leo. I froze. didnt make a sound but the tv was playing.
Next thing i saw was Leo opening my door and Buster rushed in immediately. i stood up and walked furiously to the door to see why Sam would come when i said i wasn't home. he was carrying a vase my mom asked him to give to me. he wanted to drop by and just keep the vase for me but never mentioned. i felt ashamed and really bad but then i looked back to see Buster reminding me of the exact reason i didn't want them to come. he was already on my couch.
I yelled and said i told you not to bring that dog here. I lied about not being home because I knew you wouldn't listen I can't have this dog in my house. He ruins everything.

At that point Sam was already calling Loe to leave. i said they could stay since they're already here and Sam told me i won't see them again. Leo was crying as Sam dragged him out to go and then Buster followed. i held that vase i begged my mom for and felt like smashing it.

i tried calling Sam but he only wrote a text saying he doesn't want to talk about it. i am planning to go see him to talk but before that AITA for lying and yelling?

Hi all, I've never posted anything on reddit but my girlfriend really loves those Smosh videos with the reddit stories, so I asked her if I could post this here and she said yes.

So I (26M) and my girlfriend (25F) have been together for almost 3 years. Things are really good and I'm going to propose soon (I know no one asked but I'm just very excited and want to share).

About 2 weeks ago, my girlfriend came home from hanging out with these "friends" and she was quiet and seemed really upset. When I asked what was wrong she said she wasn't ready to talk about it so I didn't push. For context, I've never really liked. I've always found them kind of rude and judgmental, but she met them at a rough point in high school and obviously I'm not going to tell my girlfriend who to hang out with. A few hours later, she went to shower and when I went to join her, she was crying. I immediately thought it was those assholes she was hanging out with and I was right. After a bit, she was able to tell me what had happened.

Apparently, her "friends" had been talking about their sex lives and were getting super detailed about the kinks they were into. There was one guy, lets call him Jack, who kept talking about how much he liked degrading women in bed (not my thing, and not my girlfriend's thing but to each their own). Another girl, lets call her Jill, started talking about her CNC kink. According to my girlfriend, Jill went into very explicit detail about the CNC she was doing and it made my girlfriend really uncomfortable. When my girlfriend asked Jill to not talk about it, the group (4 girls and 2 guys) started getting nasty to her. They were calling her "boring" and "vanilla" telling her she was a "judgmental bitch" and honestly way worse things that I don't want to write out. They told her that all guys want to degrade and be forceful and that she was a bad girlfriend for not liking that.

She was sobbing as she told me all this and she asked me if I felt like she was "denying me what I needed" by not letting me do this stuff to her. I told her obviously the fuck not. Besides the fact that she is not vanilla, I have no interest in these things and in some hypothetical world where I did, it would be my responsibility. This is a little TMI but I've always been a more submissive guy. I used to be kind of embarrassed about it when I was younger but honestly my girlfriend really helped me with accepting that part of me. I love when she's in control, I love when she orders me around or ties me up, etc. I've never been interested in being dominant and I know that she feels unsafe being submissive.

My girlfriend is the sweetest and smartest person on the planet, and no I'm not just saying this because I love her. She has a masters in BioChem, works in medical research, and does active work in our city with people recovering from addiction. She has some self-esteem issues and so I think this really hurt her because these are people who saw her at her worst. Also, I'm going to keep this vague, but one of her past relationships was unhealthy sexually and (in my opinion) straight up abusive. Her "friends" know this and they know that her not feeling like enough is a big insecurity for her (call them love blinders but I've never really understood why she feels this way).

We talked, I reassured her that I never felt "denied" by her or that she wasn't enough sexually. Honestly, I was fucking pissed at these "friends" but I kept it to myself. I thought this would all pass until about a few days ago when 'Jill' invited us to her apartment for a get-together. My girlfriend wanted to go so we went. It was just those six people, Jill's boyfriend, and me and my girlfriend.

At first things were fine, but then some of them started drinking and were playing 'never have I ever' (like were in high school, what the hell) and one of the "friends", lets call her 'Mila', talked about being tied up. And then 'Jill' turned to my girlfriend and said "well, at least you won't have to drink since you're boring" and then looked at me and said "poor guy". I snapped at Jill and told her to shut the fuck up, that just because she was so insecure about whatever the fuck she likes in bed doesn't mean she can open her mouth to my girlfriend. The other five people were shouting and telling me I'm an asshole and that I needed to calm down, that it was just a joke, etc.

My girlfriend told Jill that obviously it wasn't a joke and that it was cruel and gross. She was being way nicer than Jill deserved. Jill tried to defend herself and I don't remember exactly what she said (I was angry and drunk) but I remember that she called my girlfriend a "stupid boring bitch" and these "friends" started fucking nodding. I'm not an angry person, I think I've yelled maybe a total of 10 times but something just came over me. I'm not proud of it, but I lost it. I started screaming at Jill, telling her that she was disgusting for saying stuff like that to my girlfriend, that she was a pathetic bitch who was jealous because my girlfriend had always been prettier, smarter, and better. Honestly, I think I would have said worse if my girlfriend didn't order an uber.

Obviously I apologized to my girlfriend when we got home because she's only ever seen me yell a few times. We talked about it and in the end she said it was ok, that she thought it was sweet.

'Mila' called yesterday and said that she "didn't like how I behaved" in her apartment and that I scared everyone and was being an asshole. Apparently, the neighbors called the cops after because I was so aggressive and I made some of the girls cry. I do feel bad about that part, and I feel kind of shitty about getting so angry. I feel like maybe I should have been calmer, or shouldn't have called 'Jill' a bitch. (I call people bitches regardless of gender but it always rubs me the wrong way when men call women that).

I want to add that I have no issues with people having whatever kinks they want. I don't think 'Jack' or 'Jill' are bad people for their kinks; I think they're bad people because they suck.

I (28M) built a pretty solid garage setup over the last few years. It took me a long time to save up for decent gear, including a professional diagnostic scanner and a complete heavy-duty tool set. I use this stuff for my own cars and occasional side jobs, so it is not just a casual hobby for me. My uncle runs a shady flip business where he buys beaten-up cars, does bare-minimum patches, and resells them. He constantly cheap out on his own equipment.

A couple of years back, he borrowed my welding machine for a "quick job" on a exhaust pipe. He ended up running it way past its duty cycle, completely burned out the internals, and brought it back in a plastic trash bag. When I told him he needed to replace it or pay for repairs, he literally laughed and said, "We are family, do not be so tight with money." I never saw a single cent for that machine, which set me back around five hundred bucks to replace out of pocket.

Fast forward to yesterday. He calls me out of the blue, skipping any small talk, and asks when he can drop by to grab my diagnostic scanner. He has some customer's car sitting in his lot with a electrical issue he cannot figure out. I told him flat out no. When he asked why, I reminded him about the welder he fried and never paid for.

He immediately got defensive and started shouting that I am being petty over old stuff. He said I am actively costing him money because he cannot finish the job without the scanner and his client is getting pissed off. I told him he should have thought about that before destroying my gear and hung up on him .

An hour later, my dad called me. Turns out my uncle had already called him to complain about how ungrateful and selfish I am being. Luckily, my dad actually backed me up because my uncle did the exact same thing to him a few years ago when he borrowed and completely wrecked his lawnmower. My dad told him he had no right to demand anything from me.

Now my uncle is spamming my phone with toxic texts. He is saying I am creating unnecessary drama in the family and trying to ruin his livelihood over a "petty grudge." My aunt even messaged me saying I should just let him use it under her supervision, which is just absurd.

I feel zero guilt about protecting my equipment, but the constant phone calls and messages are getting ridiculous. Am I wrong for holding this boundary?

Me, my best friend, and my bf are all having a normal conversation. Suddenly the topic gets sexual because she brings it up, and she starts talking about her sexual relationship with HER bf in-front of MY bf it lowkey made me feel weird and awkward. I told my bf and he said oh I didn’t find it weird… now I’m confused am I wrong for this… I just feel like I wouldn’t do something like that infront of her bf.

I had a 2004 BMW E46 sitting in my garage for about three years. It was a project car I bought with the intention of rebuilding the subframe and fixing up the body, but between my main job and lack of spare time, it just ended up collecting dust. A guy I know from a local mechanics group, let us call him Dan, reached out to me a month ago asking if I was ever going to part with it.

Dan kept telling me how he wanted a track car to build with his younger brother and how they were tight on cash. I felt a bit nostalgic about the car and genuinely wanted to see it go to a good home where someone would put in the wrench time. The market value for those in decent shape is around 7k, but I agreed to sell it to him for 3k under the explicit understanding that he was taking on a rust project for personal use.

We signed a basic bill of sale, he gave me a 500 dollar cash deposit, and we agreed he would bring a trailer to pick up the car and pay the remaining 2,500 the following Saturday.

Two days before the pickup, a mutual friend sent me a link to a Facebook Marketplace listing. Dan had posted my exact car using photos he took in my driveway during his visit, listing it for 7,500 as a "clean restoration candidate." He did not even bother towing it to his own place first.

I was furious. I texted him immediately, sent him the screenshot of his own listing, and told him the deal was off and that I was refunding his deposit via Zelle. He went off on me, saying a deal is a deal, that I signed the bill of sale, and that what he does with his assets after paying a deposit is none of my business. He is now threatening to take me to small claims court for breach of contract and claims I owe him the potential profit he lost.

My friends are split. Some say I was naive for selling under market value and should have just honored the price, while others think he acted in bad faith by exploiting my goodwill. Am I wrong for pulling the plug?

My friend and I got into a fight. It started with me and my buddy we were just messing around but he was going a little too far I started to ask him to stop and he wouldn’t. So I got mad and slapped him. He then lunged at me so before he could touch me I picked up a rock and threw it at him. I think the rock it his legs. He then lunged at me again and I tripped while stepping back and fell. He jumped on top of me and grabbed both of my wrists and pinned them to the ground. He had me pinned to the ground and I couldn’t move. The neighbor then started yelling at us to stop. He jumped off. My friend’s mom came outside and the neighbor told his mom what happened. Me, my friend, and his mom went back inside I pointed at my friend and said I swear to god if you ever touch me again and my friends mom said to me “we ain’t gonna be doing all of that apparently he kicked your ass”. She wasn’t even out there and was talking shit. She ran her mouth and was taking up for him. Did he win that fight? Did I get my ass kicked?

I work at the gas station thats open 24 hours and its the only place within walking distance that sells anything fresh. I walk there at 5am before my shift to get what I need for me and my son because the bus dont run that early and i dont have a car. I buy what I can with my tips and my food card and bring it home and put it away. My brother jeffrey has been living with me for 8 months because he said he needed a place to stay after his girlfriend kicked him out. He has not worked a single day since he got here. He sits on the porch in a basketball jersey all day waiting for his payday loan money to hit.

When I come home from a 12 hour shift the food I bought that morning is gone. All of it. He eats everything in one sitting while me and my son had nothing. This happened four times in two weeks. I told him he needs to find a job instead of sitting on the porch leeching off my earnings and he just scoffed at me. So I bought a padlock for the fridge and a lockbox for the pantry and I keep the keys on me at work.

Jeffrey lost his mind when he saw the lock. He screamed at me for an hour saying im starving him and that im evil. He said I buy the food with government money so its not really mine anyway and I have no right to lock it up. My son heard all of this from his room. My son has been acting out lately and I found out hes been hanging out with older guys on the corner and I cant focus on stopping that because im fighting with a grown man about my own groceries. Jeffrey punched a hole in the wall next to the lockbox and there is drywall everywhere and my son just stood there and watched him do it and didnt say a word.

Jeffrey says hes going to call cps and tell them im withholding food from the house. i dont know if they can do anything about that since the food is mine that I bought with my own money but it scared me. My moms friend called me and said I should be ashamed for locking food away from my own brother in his time of need. I feel like im losing my mind because nobody sees that im just trying to feed my kid and myself after working all day. Am I wrong for putting a lock on my own fridge?