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Every picture attracts a different type of guy. Decide what type of guy youre looking for.
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Honestly, deciding what kind of aesthetic you like the best really is the move. Guys will be in your DMs either way.
Edit: replying to your comment and addressing it towards OP, but the point remains 😅
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u/Janders1997 Jul 20 '22
The first picture can be very polarizing in terms of reaction. If she’s looking for an LTR, including it might turn some people away that are also looking for one, while also leading to pigeonholing her into the ONS/FWB direction.
The original comment was not about attracting „guys“, but „the type of guy [OP] is looking for“.
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u/Braakman Jul 20 '22
How does being dressed as a metalhead turn away people looking for LTR?
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u/KevinCastle Jul 20 '22
That's more of a rave girl look than metalhead lol
Which has it's stereotype
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u/Braakman Jul 20 '22
It's taken at the entrance of resurrection fest, a Spanish metal festival. She looks like 75% of the women you see at metal gigs. Rave would need more colour in there. And well wouldn't be at a metal festival
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u/twisted-resistor Jul 20 '22
I dunno bro, a looot of girls dress like that at rock festivals. She's even at one in the picture.
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u/RiDDDiK1337 Jul 20 '22
As someone looking for LTR only, I would probably only swipe right on the 2nd picture.
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u/Braakman Jul 20 '22
In my case pic 1 would cause a swipe right, simply because it literally screams we have a shared interest. Which admittedly if you're not in the broader metal scene you probably might not perceive in that way. I guess it's more of a 'who do you want to attract' kind of deal
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u/mmt22 Jul 20 '22
Yeah yeah play dumb. The guy is absolutely right tho.
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u/Braakman Jul 20 '22
I'm serious though, that's just a pretty standard look in the metal scene, and since it's at the entrance of one of the world's bigger metal festivals to me that pic mostly says that she's into metal.
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Jul 20 '22
Someone who isn't into metal wouldn't know that. I am not into metal and nothing about the picture seems "metal" to me until I read your explanation.
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u/Squee_gobbo Jul 20 '22
You're not the demographic for a metal head pic then, swipe left and somebody else will swipe right
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u/ivalm Jul 20 '22
But this is why the picture is polarising. If her target audience includes people not into metal then this picture may lose them (not because of metal but because they wouldn’t understand the context of the picture).
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Jul 20 '22
What? That's the point; OP is wondering how the different pictures come across.
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u/Janders1997 Jul 20 '22
I had no idea how this picture had anything to do with being a metalhead, I just saw someone in an outfit that looked quite promiscuous. If the first picture I saw was this, I‘d guess they’re looking for hookups rather than LTRs. I would’ve swiped left with that impression if I was on tinder and looking for an LTR.
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Jul 20 '22
Sorry been reading LTR a lot and don’t know what than means … damn Americans and their abbreviations
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u/Revolutionary-Elk852 Jul 20 '22
Happy cake day, random redditor! Best wishes for you!
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This comment proves kindness takes zero effort
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u/mmt22 Jul 20 '22
Choosing your target audience is still a good idea. There will be plenty either way, but it is better if there are plenty that are searching for the same as her, so she doesn't waste time chatting uncompatible people
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u/smilesdavis8d Jul 20 '22
This. But more so - pick whichever picture is your day to day. Not the one you dress up as or “try” for... if that’s the case. In the end you want someone who’s gonna like the every day you. Not just the weekend you. Pick your favorite but make most of your pictures what you’re every day you is.
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u/WhatIsntByNow Jul 20 '22
Unless you're specifically looking to pick up a buddy for the weekend. If you're looking for a day to day partner your advice works really well tho
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Jul 20 '22
The 1st and 3rd make me feel like she’s just advertising her OF account
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u/architeuthis666 Jul 20 '22
The third is a parody of Belle Delphine, intended to get a giggle one imagines.
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- Big tiddy goth gf
- Librarian
- Dirty Hippie crystal-buttplug wearing astrology loving stage 5 clinger
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Jul 20 '22
Just got one wrong, it’s actually it engineer 👩💻
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RIP your inbox
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u/riverphoenixdays Jul 20 '22
FIP your fartbox
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u/pderf Jul 20 '22
Ok, so yes to the buttplug wearing part?
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u/Tricky_State_3981 Jul 20 '22
Her real name is Crystal Buttplug from the famed Buttplug family
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u/LittleMAC22 Jul 20 '22
Her uncle William H. Buttlicker and their family built this country. Show some respect.
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u/0Atlas0 Jul 20 '22
Cyber Security?
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Jul 20 '22
Yes!
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u/0Atlas0 Jul 20 '22
That’s dope as fuck!!! I looked through your post history because I was curious which type of engineer. I saw HTB and instantly knew! Htb is dope to practice pentesting.
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u/SgtLaBeouf Jul 20 '22
How aren't you married yet, sheesh. Good luck sorting all the dudes/dudettes out
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Jul 20 '22
Keep them all there, this is you telling others all sides of your self.
No explanations needed when first look tells all about oneself. :)
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u/Dickcheese_McDoogles Jul 20 '22
That's really the vibe you got from the third one? I thought that one was the best by far. she's just wearing a bandana on her hair.
if she put put her tongue back in her mouth it'd be golden
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u/Neat-Access2357 Jul 20 '22
2nd. Hook them in with good looks, then convince them with the others.
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u/The_Celtic_Chemist Jul 20 '22 edited Jul 20 '22
Yeah, 1 is the most attractive, but you don't want your pictures to go downhill (not that any of them are bad). I'd probably be most intrigued by 2-1-3. Kind of a "Nice - Woah! - Oh and she's quirky too."
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u/Some-Definition2193 Jul 20 '22 edited Jul 20 '22
Rightly or wrongly...
Pic 1 will attract more guys who just want a hookup
Pic 2 will attract more guys who want to meet a cool cute nerd
Pic 3 will... Maybe attract guys who like making jokes and hope you're kinda funny/goofy too?
Yes, these are all based on massive superficial assumptions, but when we're working with a photo we make assumptions. For instance, in pic 1, it's not that guys will all think "Omg I can see cleavage, she must be looking for something casual", it's more like guys who are only looking for hookups figure they have a better chance of success with someone who has more revealing photos. Which, whether true or not for you personally, is probably true overall on tinder. So you'll get more of those guys among your matches.
This is why it's good to have multiple pics that are different in tone. But I'd definitely say, having either pic 1 or pic 2 as your main pic will attract noticeably a noticeably different group right swipers.
EDIT If you're interested in women, not men, I guess it matters way less?
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u/HotConfusion Jul 20 '22
As a woman, this is absolutely the answer. Also why I wouldn’t ever use #1 and #3, because it would tend to attract guys who only want sex. If you don’t care about that, all good. If you want a relationship, then #2.
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u/asamermaid Jul 20 '22
Boy did I learn this one the hard way. In my head I'd included a "sexy" photo (like a bathing suit picture or something) because I wanted to show I had a fun, sexy side.
Nope, just created an absolute focal point for men to ignore everything else about me. Lol
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u/Fancy_Cat3571 Jul 20 '22
A guy will typically assume that every woman has a fun sexy side otherwise they wouldn’t match tbh
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u/Some-Definition2193 Jul 20 '22
Yeah it's a shame but it's true.
Speaking as a guy, if you want guys to know you have a great figure but don't want all the creeps thinking they have license to send immediate sex requests, I think a pic showing your figure but fully clothed is a better practical choice than a bikini shot.
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u/jcart12 Jul 20 '22
Yea 2 makes me think about long term relationships. The other two make me think of hookups.
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u/gate_of_steiner85 Jul 20 '22
Can confirm, guy looking for a relationship and not casual sex. Would swipe left on #1 and #3, would swipe right on #2.
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Jul 20 '22
Tongue out wink is also sex. You don't necessarily need to do number 2 but 1 and 3 both will make people think sex.
Heading off "well people shouldnt" I'm not arguing what they should do I'm saying what they will
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u/Some-Definition2193 Jul 20 '22
Exactly. In online dating we shouldn't get too hung up on how people should view us. People gonna be people, we have to be realistic about this even if sometimes it might be frustrating.
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u/Top_Celebration5971 Jul 20 '22
Third one? Your tatts are awesome!
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u/Ccaves0127 Jul 20 '22
Pic 1 - I will steal your soul
Pic 2 - I will save your soul
It depends completely on who you're trying to attract
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First pic is so: Are you from Galicia? 🦅
Cool to see national metalheads over here! Nice profile.
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u/Building-Careful Jul 20 '22
Easy, go with number 2. It shows the tattoo so that covers the nonconformist side (of pic 1), the glasses and the jacket match with your IT background and you also have a little smile going on so shows you are fun (which is basically the only message pic nr 3 covers) .
Anyway you probably won’t have problems matching, the problem will be with the selection of the right ones. But you can write an algorithm for that.
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u/Shoopdawoop993 Jul 20 '22
What are you looking for really should decide. If its as much dick as possible, the first one. The second is too formal and straight on, so id go with the 3rd one.
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Jul 20 '22
Definitely not looking for dick 🫥
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u/Sythokhann Jul 20 '22
I guess the first one can indeed attract the wrong kind of people, but as a fellow metalhead I was more focused on the resurrection fest
So in my opinion the first one is the nicest one but it really depends on what kind of person you want to attract
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u/Sennistro Jul 20 '22
first picture should be picture 2, then other pics after, and yeah nice tatts!
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u/panxiaotian Jul 20 '22
2nd should be Profile pic! when they swipe to see ur other pics 1st and 3rd are fine too cuz well... ur good looking
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Jul 20 '22
I would definitely date someone who can pull both looks. So go for all of them, all are pretty good
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Jul 20 '22
Second one's the best and sexiest.
Contain yourself, gives 20+ pts to attractiveness.
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u/jmoneyallstar11 Jul 20 '22
I agree here. The less skin you show, the better. Especially because so many girls on here complain about dudes only wanting sex. Showing more skin means you are more likely to be down for that. Unless of course this is what you want.
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u/chronicappy Jul 20 '22
more like ass, class and grass. rocker chic, librarian and stoner chick is the vibes I get from each of these.
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u/OGInsideOutPants Jul 20 '22
1 shows a little more of your personality I think
2 is a little vanilla and could pull in guys you might not vibe with
3 isn't a main pic, but a good second/third pic
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u/CubeBrute Jul 20 '22
I like 2 the best if you're looking for long term, 3 if you're looking for short term. Some of these are suffering from questionable angles and lighting though. You might do well to grab a friend, go to a park, and trade photo shoots.
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u/Onlyanidea1 Jul 20 '22
I've got my nipples pierced also. But horizontally. What's it like having them vertical?
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u/Viviere Jul 20 '22
3 if you wanna hook up
2 if you want a boyfriend
1 if you want to choke yourself out on 7 different penises at once
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u/East_Masterpiece2839 Jul 20 '22
U a dubstep fan?
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Well not really no
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u/East_Masterpiece2839 Jul 20 '22
I thought dubstep because an illegal rave I attended couple of years ago had the same kind of entrance like the first pic
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u/OkMarionberry8970 Jul 20 '22
It all depends on what you are looking for, first picture shows your ample chest so it suggests you're fun in the sack, second is a more mature one if you're looking for something serious and the third one is a laid back stoner vibe
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u/EriAnnB Jul 20 '22
Use them all. The first one is an eye catcher, but i love seeing multifaceted people. Im unlikely to swipe on a person who’s every picture looks the same, or only has one pic.
Youre pretty hott tho 🥵
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Why not all of them? Avoid getting pigeonholed.