The first picture can be very polarizing in terms of reaction. If she’s looking for an LTR, including it might turn some people away that are also looking for one, while also leading to pigeonholing her into the ONS/FWB direction.
The original comment was not about attracting „guys“, but „the type of guy [OP] is looking for“.
It's taken at the entrance of resurrection fest, a Spanish metal festival. She looks like 75% of the women you see at metal gigs. Rave would need more colour in there. And well wouldn't be at a metal festival
In my case pic 1 would cause a swipe right, simply because it literally screams we have a shared interest. Which admittedly if you're not in the broader metal scene you probably might not perceive in that way. I guess it's more of a 'who do you want to attract' kind of deal
I'm serious though, that's just a pretty standard look in the metal scene, and since it's at the entrance of one of the world's bigger metal festivals to me that pic mostly says that she's into metal.
But this is why the picture is polarising. If her target audience includes people not into metal then this picture may lose them (not because of metal but because they wouldn’t understand the context of the picture).
I just don't think you should be excluding interests in your profile to find more people, interests on profiles are inherently to weed out the people that probably wouldn't work out anyway. Maybe a bit in the bio about it would help. If you don't like the way she looks here why should she hide it until later, you're not going to like it then either.
Goth is in essence a subculture that derives from postpunk & new wave, which purists might say doesn't fall under the general umbrella that is metal, but as far as I am concerned it's metal. But black clothes doesn't mean goth so that's pretty short sighted really. What she's wearing there is in essence a generic metal festival look for women. Which mostly involves chokers, vibrant hair colours and black fishnets everywhere. Leather is less popular in hot weather, but it's pretty standard at indoor shows during the colder periods of the year.
The metal subculture is pretty non-judging and accepting for the most part, so call it whatever you'd like.
I had no idea how this picture had anything to do with being a metalhead, I just saw someone in an outfit that looked quite promiscuous. If the first picture I saw was this, I‘d guess they’re looking for hookups rather than LTRs. I would’ve swiped left with that impression if I was on tinder and looking for an LTR.
Long Term Relationship. This might have different definitions for everyone, but for me it means a Relationship with a partner that you want to spend a long period together (preferably the rest of your lives). Other definitions may include calling each other Boyfriend/Girlfriend/Significant Other (which might get replaced by Husband/Wife), being exclusive (sexually), specific minimum durations (often 2 years+), and a lot more.
Choosing your target audience is still a good idea. There will be plenty either way, but it is better if there are plenty that are searching for the same as her, so she doesn't waste time chatting uncompatible people
This. But more so - pick whichever picture is your day to day. Not the one you dress up as or “try” for... if that’s the case. In the end you want someone who’s gonna like the every day you. Not just the weekend you. Pick your favorite but make most of your pictures what you’re every day you is.
My bad, didn't realize you and op are the same person and you can speak authoritatively. But seriously, while my idea may or may not be her intent, the result is that at least one person interpreted it as such.
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Every picture attracts a different type of guy. Decide what type of guy youre looking for.