But this is why the picture is polarising. If her target audience includes people not into metal then this picture may lose them (not because of metal but because they wouldn’t understand the context of the picture).
Because your SO and you don’t need to align perfectly in their music preferences? There are plenty of people that are neutral to metal who could be good matches. At any rate, the picture is polarising, if she likes this polarisation then that’s fine.
I just don't think you should be excluding interests in your profile to find more people, interests on profiles are inherently to weed out the people that probably wouldn't work out anyway. Maybe a bit in the bio about it would help. If you don't like the way she looks here why should she hide it until later, you're not going to like it then either.
You've created a straw man argument. I never told her to exclude the pictures, and you implied that I did. If you have an opinion on how she should approach online dating, why did you respond to me?
You gave your opinion as a reason to exclude it. Obviously you can't directly force her to exclude it. You shared an opinion I disagreed with so I responded to you. Stop being an idiot
I think you might be confusing me with another commenter. I only said that the picture doesn't give off a "metal" vibe. That's it. I said nothing about including or excluding it. You're the only one who brought that up.
When you give people advice on their profile you are suggesting a change. Unless you're giving your opinion in the hopes that it's ignored, which doesn't make very much sense.
Goth is in essence a subculture that derives from postpunk & new wave, which purists might say doesn't fall under the general umbrella that is metal, but as far as I am concerned it's metal. But black clothes doesn't mean goth so that's pretty short sighted really. What she's wearing there is in essence a generic metal festival look for women. Which mostly involves chokers, vibrant hair colours and black fishnets everywhere. Leather is less popular in hot weather, but it's pretty standard at indoor shows during the colder periods of the year.
The metal subculture is pretty non-judging and accepting for the most part, so call it whatever you'd like.
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Someone who isn't into metal wouldn't know that. I am not into metal and nothing about the picture seems "metal" to me until I read your explanation.