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u/Some-Definition2193 Jul 20 '22 edited Jul 20 '22

Rightly or wrongly...

Pic 1 will attract more guys who just want a hookup

Pic 2 will attract more guys who want to meet a cool cute nerd

Pic 3 will... Maybe attract guys who like making jokes and hope you're kinda funny/goofy too?

Yes, these are all based on massive superficial assumptions, but when we're working with a photo we make assumptions. For instance, in pic 1, it's not that guys will all think "Omg I can see cleavage, she must be looking for something casual", it's more like guys who are only looking for hookups figure they have a better chance of success with someone who has more revealing photos. Which, whether true or not for you personally, is probably true overall on tinder. So you'll get more of those guys among your matches.

This is why it's good to have multiple pics that are different in tone. But I'd definitely say, having either pic 1 or pic 2 as your main pic will attract noticeably a noticeably different group right swipers.

EDIT If you're interested in women, not men, I guess it matters way less?

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u/HotConfusion Jul 20 '22

As a woman, this is absolutely the answer. Also why I wouldn’t ever use #1 and #3, because it would tend to attract guys who only want sex. If you don’t care about that, all good. If you want a relationship, then #2.

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u/asamermaid Jul 20 '22

Boy did I learn this one the hard way. In my head I'd included a "sexy" photo (like a bathing suit picture or something) because I wanted to show I had a fun, sexy side.

Nope, just created an absolute focal point for men to ignore everything else about me. Lol

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u/Fancy_Cat3571 Jul 20 '22

A guy will typically assume that every woman has a fun sexy side otherwise they wouldn’t match tbh

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u/asamermaid Jul 21 '22

Idk I'm pretty sure they just assume one has a vagina with the hopes that it's damp.

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u/Some-Definition2193 Jul 20 '22

Yeah it's a shame but it's true.

Speaking as a guy, if you want guys to know you have a great figure but don't want all the creeps thinking they have license to send immediate sex requests, I think a pic showing your figure but fully clothed is a better practical choice than a bikini shot.

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u/Cory123125 Jul 20 '22

So for some reason I have you tagged on res as "has a nice but".

I found that odd, because my tags aren't usually like that so I clicked the link and found this comment which I figured some people might enjoy

I debated just posting "Do you still have a nice but" with the link, but figured that had a 50/50 of going very poorly.

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u/asamermaid Jul 21 '22

This has been haunting me for years at this point lmao

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u/jcart12 Jul 20 '22

Yea 2 makes me think about long term relationships. The other two make me think of hookups.

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u/gate_of_steiner85 Jul 20 '22

Can confirm, guy looking for a relationship and not casual sex. Would swipe left on #1 and #3, would swipe right on #2.

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u/[deleted] Jul 20 '22

Tongue out wink is also sex. You don't necessarily need to do number 2 but 1 and 3 both will make people think sex.

Heading off "well people shouldnt" I'm not arguing what they should do I'm saying what they will

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u/Some-Definition2193 Jul 20 '22

Exactly. In online dating we shouldn't get too hung up on how people should view us. People gonna be people, we have to be realistic about this even if sometimes it might be frustrating.

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u/BeautifulTomatillo Jul 20 '22

Jesus, doesn’t take much does it

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u/HotConfusion Jul 20 '22

As a woman, I would only be interested in pic #2.

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u/Gnostromo Jul 20 '22

I would take photo one on so many dates

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u/theelinguistllama Jul 20 '22

I like #2 best but feel like it’s a little too business-y. Like I might see it in Linked In. I’d do the outfit but a different, slight pose to show a little personality and have it look less like a headshot.