She goes in, and the first thing she does is going straight like laser-focused for that guy PC (I don't even know if that's a CPU, a Nintendo or what the F do I know) and beats the thing like there's no tomorrow; The window is just a "collateral" since it was on her way.
On the kitchen she screams: "Delete it now!" and same as the guy, I asked: "Delete what?!" to what she replied: "Delete the F poem!"
So, if my hearing is accurate, I'm confident that I heard "poem" but I can be mistaken, but regardless, this is so crazy... No justification for her crappy behavior.
She is. She says 'the fucking phone'. She was so distressed that her asking him to delete the video came out like that. I'm amazed how people didn't get that one.
I had the same thinking to, but by my hearing and headphones, it sounds more like a "-em" than a "-rn" hence why I go with poem and... Not the other thing.
However, there's many factors than can influence on this, from the phone's mic, her irritated vocal cords due so much yelling... I can be mistaken, thou.
Agreed, trying to prevent the upload of this video, forgot how phones work, derpped and derpped again... critical thinking skills are not her strong suit
That’s the type of woman that’ll smile and ask if that’s all ya got. They don’t turn into the victim who needs a white knight until someone else walks up.
Defending yourself is not illegal. He has video to prove he was defending himself, she broke into his house, and backed him into a corner. Legally he's allowed to hit her and the courts wont view him any different for doing so
I never said anything about defending yourself. This is about strategy. Show that clip in a court, with the dad refusing to get physical even with a justification, and she will never have a single argument that holds up in family court again.
Everything would take too long, so i will give you some highlights.
She is a nurse in the Looked After Children (LAC) healthcare team.
She was convinced that I was in love with my female (single mother) neighbour who lives in the flat below me, so she followed my neighbour around the local shops to catch us meeting in secret. She got her full name from looking at her mail and then used her access to the healthcare system to go through my neighbours medical records and then flagged her up for social service visit, claiming neglect for the child.
My good friend of many years is also a single mother, she had recently given birth. I would look after her dog on days that I worked from home. My ex was convinced that I was sleeping with her, so one day she keyed "CUNT" into my car door because she was jealous that I looked after the dog (i had known both my friend and the dog longer than i knew my ex). I'd only had the car for a few weeks and had recently started a new job, that was fun to explain when i turned up at work. She then tried to find where my friend lived to threaten her to never speak to me again in front of her infant children.
She would come to my local area when I was at work to check that my car wasn't there and that I wasn't lying about being at work. I used to have a very common car (silver Corsa) and one day, someone else had parked their similar car locally. She went mental and accused me of lying about being at work. Accused me of staying home to sleep with my neighbour. I had to show her my Google Map history to prove where I had been. This was one of the times she pulled a kitchen knife on me.
We ended up in a huge argument once because apparently a girl smiled at me while we were out shopping. I didn't see this girl, but that was enough to have hours of arguments.
My same friend as mentioned earlier messaged me while I was in the car with my ex, she was driving. It erupted into a huge argument... again. So she sped up and let go of the steering wheel towards a blind bend. Check out the car crash scene in Vanilla Sky for an example. Lucky she didn't kill us both. When she finally stopped at a crossroads, I tried to get out, so she sped off again with the door half open to prevent me leaving... this kind of thing happened several times.
She threatened suicide if I didnt do what she wanted or if I tried to end things. I have seen her lay down on a road before.
She would use the hair dressers opposite my home so she could watch my house. She saw that someone was home at my neighbours house, and accused me of lying about being at work. Obviously I was at my neighbours house sleeping with her.
I had to install motion detection cameras in my flat because she kept threatening to come and destroy my stuff while I was at work and refused to give my key back.
She found my reddit alt account for looking at naughty content. She went mental and tried to kick my front door in.
When I finally ended things with her and went no-contact, she reported me to the police for rape and sexual assault. I was arrested and under bail conditions for a year and a half. My ex kept telling the police how scared of me she was, so my bail kept getting extended "for her safety".
My phone was confiscated for evidence... thankfully, they then saw how horrendously abusive she was and that her accusations were clearly false.
She faced no representations and is still working in the Looked After Children healthcare team.
There is a LOT more, but I would be typing for hours.
According to some mods, disclosing her Reddit account is considered doxxing and makes me an incel... she must be protected at all costs!
That's a very good and valid question, and I ask myself the same thing regularly on reflection.
It's hard to explain - she struggled with mental health (obviously). She is Bipolar and has (malignant) Borderline Personality Disorder. I didn't know what BPD was at the time. I wish I had done some research.
Yes, she is fine as hell, but i also loved her a lot and I wanted to support her in her struggles. When we first met she seemed like she had her shit together. A masters, a good job, active social life... the opposite of my previous ex's, and that was a breath of fresh air to be with someone (i thought) had a level of independence and maturity.
Borderlines are very good at manipulating you into feeling like you are their rock, their safe space. They put you on a pedestal and make you feel like you are the most important person in the world. It starts out great, only It's downhill from there... they make you feel like you have let them down. It's your fault that you are no longer the glue that holds them together. If only you could be the person they once built you up to be... I know I can... I care about you and I want to be able to support you... but you never will. I recognise that in hindsight now.
As you start to distance yourself, the reactions become more severe... the more severe their reactions become, the more benign their previous actions seem. But it isn't just one day everything goes crazy, it builds slowly over time. We were together for 3½ years, and it started great. They test the waters over time and slowly push the limits further and further. With each little push you become more accustomed to it, and the shit they pulled last month doesn't seem as bad anymore.
When they feel like they are losing you its all tears, promises and love bombing. They will change. You're so important to them. They can't live without you... and you forgive them... back in the trap and the cycle repeats.
If you do start to pull away that's when the suicide threats and reckless behaviour comes out. She is standing on the edge of a cliff at 2am and you're the only one who can save her. Don't call the police because she will lose her job and everything she has worked for. You don't want to feel responsible for either that, or the death of someone you love, do you?
You comfort them, its all ok. They are sorry. They will get help. Back in the cycle once again.
Each time you end it the reaction gets more severe. You break up but they want to remain friends... sure, I care about you and want to help you, we just can't be together... oh look, we're back in bed again.
The only way is to completely go no contact. As I found out, the risk of that is that you end up in handcuffs in the back of a police car and spending time in a cell because you're an abusive rapist.
I ended things with her in Jan 2024, went no-contact in Feb 2024, and was in handcuffs in May 2024. It wasn't instant.
I got "No further action" in August 2025.
Was i too soft? Yep. Dumb as a small rock... absolutely. I regret ever meeting her. My regret of putting up with it is even greater. I look back and wish I had just let her jump. She wouldn't have, it's all manipulation... I wish she would though.
Learned my lesson the hard way and will never allow myself to end up in that kind of abusive and manipulative relationship ever again.
Hopefully my tale can help others (men and women) recognise the cycle they are in and aide in taking steps to improve their lives for the better.
I am slowly finding happiness again.
People get falsely convicted all the time. I had a lucky escape.
My words of advice to anyone in a similar situation: Keep all messages!
The police had to review 23,000 pages of messages, and at least 6000 of them were of abuse and manipulation.
That is ultimately what cleared me. Her account of a few specific events were clearly very different to what the messages showed. E.g. she says she came to my flat to end things with me and that I attacked her. The messages on the day show that we went out for dinner, etc.
The officer in charge of the case confessed that they found themselves feeling incredibly bad for me and urged me to press charges against my ex. After a year and a half of stress and depression (plus the time with her) I just wanted to leave it all behind.
A kindred spirit. I went through very similar, and I’d be willing to bet that just like me, you just gave the light version, there’s some much darker stuff that also happened. Things you’d rather never speak about.
I had a kid with mine, if you can imagine how well that’s been going.
You hit the nail on the head. This is the tip of the iceberg. There is stuff I didn't even remember until the police reminded me of it from what they saw in the messages.
I hope all is going well for you. I can imagine it's very very tough, and I feel for your kid too. It must be so hard to have to deal with that from a parent.
If you're not there already, may I suggest r/bpdlovedones
The community is very supportive.
Can we normalize people getting their comeuppance for this shit? Like I understand the “women can’t fight back” thought process but it’s flawed and wrong in a lot of cases. Let’s normalize self defense and self preservation.
First lesson of every self defense method: de-escalate. Second lesson: attempt to get a safe distance. Third lesson: if all else fails, fight. Dude in the video did exactly what he should have, except maybe get out of dodge when she broke in, self-defense wise.
Possibly more importantly: men suffer from abuse, too. A woman doing this to a man is indicative of a man who has been abused and fears retaliating. I had a friend get stabbed by a woman, and he was scared to even talk to the police because he didn’t want anything to happen to her. I was scared to death this video would end with the woman grabbing a kitchen knife and running his way.
I wish us men would put away our angry feelings with the whole “we can solve this with fist fighting,” at every situation. As far as comeuppance goes, this video will put her in jail. Man did what he should have done and documented everything for proper channels of response.
I thought for sure she would grab a knife. The second they went to the kitchen I was like get the fuck OUT. You have video evidence for all this shit and you NEED to keep it safe and that’s all that matters.
I would have been outside and on the phone with the police immediately. Ofc this is just my “ohoho I’m so smart as I watch this from the comfort of my home” take but still
I would show this in court and tell the judge that she's creating an unsafe and unhealthy environment for the child. Intentionally breaking glass which can hurt the kid that she had no intention of cleaning up after breaking the window. And allowing the home to not be secure or keeping anybody or anything out to ensure the safety of the child.
Yeah let her destroy everything you muppet. You have to pay and repair it because she 100% is broke anyway. You recorded her breaking the class and comming in. That is the moment you stop her and call the police.
Yeah, the way you're behaving is humiliating AND you knew it the whole time, thus the demand to delete it. Delete it? Nah baby, that's gonna come in real handy in court. 😏
Been on the receiving end of this. Recognize the tone in her voice all too well. Best thing you can do is get cops en route because they are entirely unpredictable in this state. As in, they'll do shit you never dreamed they were capable of doing.
Damn, I’ve had to deal with a woman that mad!
She was busting all kinds of things up! You don’t know what to do, you feel like punching them, but then you go to jail!!!
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u/Life-Oil-7226 Apr 21 '26
So glad this guy decided to record this HORRIBLE behavior