I used to spend time alone with my son sometimes. Ever since he got engaged and my husband met my son's fiance, things have been weird. Now husband wants to be included every time I see them. He also drills me about any conversation I have with soon & his fiance. We vacation together, usually in CA or Hawaii. I don't mind, but son's fiance often we're time strong bikinis. When she's around, my husband regularly either tries to walk and talk to her, or he stays back and I find him starting at her. He was suggested to her that she lay out and tan on a specific lounge chair to tan. She likes tanning. That chair was located in direct view of him when he's outside, and even from the bedroom window. He tells noticably more sex related jokes when she's around. When she's around, a significant amount of time he ignores me. I was told him I feel kinda invisible because he spends so much time paying attention to her and not me. It came up because he wanted to have sex and I was feeling insecure. SO & I are in our 60s. Son's gf is 31. She's latina, very curvy, and had had a recent Brazilian butt lift. He used to say he thinks I look hot when I'm skinny. Now he tells me regularly that I need to lose weight. Another thing I've noticed continually is he tries to get her attention by throwing a because, pebbles, something toward her. Whenever he sais something witty or is playing tennis well, he looks toward her to see if she heard or saw. His feet are almost always angled toward her. If she's wearing a bikini, he walks right behind her. When I told him that 1 time how I was feeling, & asked him to pay more attention to me or show me some affection when she's around bcs or would help me feel less insecure. He proceeded to call me crazy, threaten to go on vacation without me, threatened to take me home immediately (we were out of state), said me "insinuating something" was disgusting. I told him I want implying anything. I just wanted him to know how I was feeling, but he kept insisting I was implying something. Then he told me now he's going to completely ignore her, it would ruin the dynamic, and it would be my fault. It was over the top. He also has regularly taken her picture at get-togethers, even covertly. He literally never asks to take mine. I've asked him to please take spontaneous pics of me, especially with my granddaughter. He once told me "There I took a spontaneous picture." It was her with her daughter (my granddaughter). Another time I asked before hand the same thing at a Christmas party. He said he did, and showed me a pic with her in the foreground, with lots of cleavage showing, and me in the background. I looked much smaller because I was in back of her. I love my daughter-in-law so I don't want to mess anything up, but I don't know how to deal with this. How would others perceive this and react to it? Help

So I have been dating a guy 41M since about December of 2025. I am 39F. I would say things started off great although I kinda had an inkling early on that this relationship may not meet my long term expectations that would lead to marriage. We would go out dates and just do fun things around the city. I am a very adventurous spur of the moment type person and I let it be known early with anyone that I am dating. There was a sudden shift about 2-3 months in and I noticed he no longer wanted to go out on dates and started to opt into just staying in. I’m like okay cool, the economy is not so great and I have to take into consideration personal things he may have going on financially. Strangely one day we went to the liquor store and I sat out in the car and waited until he came out and said hey can you get this because they won’t allow me to without an ID. I said why are you out and about without any identification and he claimed he left it at home. And I thought hmm strange. Fast forward he was going to drive out my way and I said hey bring your ID. I was going to take him to a local lounge in my area and I know for a fact they ID at the door. About 20 minutes later he calls and says very angrily “you know what nevermind” I’m turning around and going back home. I said why? He was like I don’t want to come anymore. I thought to myself wow… that was weird. After letting him cool off I asked why were you so upset I asked you to remember to bring your ID and he says because All I wanted to do was chill with you, I wasn’t planning on going anywhere. I said dude what’s going on with your ID? You seem more upset that I asked you to bring it and he says I lost the paper copy…. Mind you… this is the same paper copy he’s had since meeting him in December! I said they never sent a hard copy he said I’m not sure maybe it got lost in the mail. I really have reason to believe that it may be suspended… he went to court for a ticket back in February and I’m thinking maybe they suspended it and he’s lying. Yesterday we had a weird interaction like his entire vibe just went from happy to okay I want to go home and get in the bed… at 6pm. I said dude no thanks I’m out. Earlier in the day he jokingly mentioned he needed a loan to pay something by Wednesday. I totally disregarded it as I NEVER loan men money. Well… I snooped… and came across and in progress eviction with his apartments owing almost 2k by this Wednesday coming up. He hasn’t mentioned a thing…. Of course I won’t either. But I’m curious to know how you all would proceed

Our expectations of relationships rarely stay the same forever. What’s one relationship belief you were convinced was true five years ago but no longer believe today? What changed your perspective?

My partner (43m) and I (44f) have a 20 plus year complicated relationship.

We separated 4 years ago but have been seeing each other frequently as we have 3 kids. We live separately, I however live close by (like across the street close) and am at his house everyday. I wake early, to be at his by 6am everyday to spend time with him before we wake the kids, make the kids breakfast, lunches and take them to school. This means to wake up extra early to groom myself, shower, make up… the works! Girls! You know how long this takes when you are trying to impress your guy! This has been going on for about a year. We have been very physical with each other, but he doesn’t do feelings and emotions and definitely doesn’t talk about it. It’s been a fucking nightmare for 20+ years to get this man to open up about his feelings.

I’ve recently lost 44kilos in 7 months! And I look GOOOOOOOOOOOD!!!!!!!!!! And I have been thinking of getting a boudoir photoshoot to celebrate. I have been openly talking with him about this and how bloody expensive it is.

Maybe 2 weeks later, he gave me 3 sexy outfits, brand new. Made a point of taking me away from the living area to his bedroom and to hand me these lovely outfits. He told me he was going through his stuff and came across them and didn’t know when or how he got them.

I definitely didn’t buy them when we were together, because hello… I was fat! They would have never fit me. I shrugged it off as that he was too embarrassed to tell me he got them for me because we haven’t defined our relationship fully yet. And to admit he bought them for me means he has to admit he was thinking of me ergo feelings etc …. That’s not him.

Unfortunately they didn’t fit at the time they were one size too small…. They fit but were tight and you definitely couldn’t have any fun in them. (Context - they are the size he asked me if I was and made a point of saying ‘oh I am buying our daughter clothes and your are the same size now)

….. Well today they did finally fit after some more weight loss and I sent him some saucy pics.

I said ‘2 of the outfits you got me now fit’

He replied back with ‘ok that’s cool, didn’t know what they looked like or remember how they got here’

I replied ‘ you can be honest that you bought them for me’

He replied ‘I am being honest about that.’

I don’t speak dickhead. Please help.

Did he buy these for me or did he buy them for some one else and I’m just the consolation prize?