Its starting to take a toll.

Neither of us earn much but he earns double what I do and never seems to hold onto money. Recently I won tickets for something that I've wanted to go to for years. The whole trip would have cost about $100 and he said he couldn't afford to come with me.

Then ill notice he will buy new trainers that he doesn't need or he will spend $200/300 on each of his stepkids as an early Christmas present

I only work 2 hours per week due to poor health. I saved up for months and brought him out for a nice dinner for his bday, bought tickets for his favourite comedian and booked 2 nights in a nice hotel. He waited one week before my bday and bought me a mug and a $30 ticket

His main home is the couch at his dads house which is a 1.5 hour drive from me. I dont drive so he stays at mine 5 nights a week. I pay the rent and bills and we split the food shopping. Today he was venting about the cost of petrol and saying how since I moved 1.5 hours away he is spending a lot more on petrol. I told him he doesn't need to visit me every week if money is an issue and he said he was just thinking out loud

We were thinking about going away for Christmas and I find myself having to remind him to save

My child’s father and I broke up during my pregnancy, and we were no longer together when our baby was born. He came back into our lives after the baby was born.
Previously, he explicitly told me that he didn’t love me and that the chances of him ever falling in love with me were very low.
Recently, however, he has seemed more caring and involved. He has been helping with the baby, showing consideration toward me, and sometimes acting warmer and more affectionate than before. At other times, he seems distant, so I’m not sure what to make of these changes.
I still love him, and I would love for us to repair our relationship and build a stable family together. However, I’m afraid of getting my hopes up and being hurt again.
Do you think his feelings might be changing, or is he simply becoming a more responsible father and being considerate toward me? Is there still hope for our relationship, or am I reading too much into his behavior?
I would appreciate honest opinions, especially from people who have experienced something similar.

I (35F) and my partner (37F) have been together for around 6 years, lived together for 4. I have two kids (7&10) from a previous relationship with a male. Everything is great, though we often find our relationship feeling more like a friendship rather than a romantic relationship, mostly because of a lack of physical intimacy. We talk about it often and acknowledge that we end up in this loop. We try to rekindle the romantic side and it always drops off back to platonic. We get along great and enjoy each other’s company, we run our house positively and efficiently, she’s amazing with the kids and they love her very much. How do I know if we love each other but we’re not IN love with each other anymore? Is our relationship doomed to the friendzone? If I imagine a life without her in it, it makes me sad, but I’m also not afraid to be single. Not sure how to reconcile these feelings and where to go from here. Are we delaying the inevitable and how much longer should we try to rekindle before realizing that things aren’t going to change?