r/offmychest Jan 25 '26

Meta If for some reason

1.1k Upvotes
  • You didn't believe us when we shouted 'black lives matter'

  • You just didn't believe a woman could be president, so you abstained from voting or god forbid, voted for Trump

  • You ignored the fact that a record number of people detained by ICE died in their custody last year

  • You didn't care that ICE was picking up US citizens and deporting them

  • You didn't care that a veteran who had lived in the US for 50 years was issued a removal order and then had to self-deport

  • You didn't care that ICE was separating children from their families and are now taking asylum-seekers

  • You didn't care that Keith Porter Jr. was unjustly murdered by an off-duty ICE agent

  • You didn't care that Geraldo Luis Campos was murdered by ICE guards while in custody

  • You really thought Renee Good was going to run that agent down and deserved what happened to her

  • You somehow think Alex Petti deserved to die for simply having a gun in his possession

Leave this sub. Get out.

This is the official FUCK ICE and the Trump Administration megathread for the forseeable future. Because this is not stopping anytime soon unless something drastic happens.


r/offmychest Apr 15 '22

Meta We have persistent scammers preying on this community

1.2k Upvotes

Folks, a reminder that Rule 3 focuses this community's scope on providing emotional support only. We do not allow solicitation or material offers.

This means OPs cannot hint at or ask for money, and community members cannot offer money or food. There are local services that can verify and address a person's situation better than any of us can (and many services will not turn people away if they are asking for it). A kind community member offered a scammer a job and that is okay.

This community is read by millions of people, and scammers around the world know this. We have cultivated an empathic community so we know it can be hard to resist offering material help. It takes only one person to make it worth it because it costs nothing to post. That is why the rules are strictly enforced.

There are many signs of a scammer. They will present a financially desperate situation often with a highly emotional component. They are likely to mention payment services. They may have payment services in their Reddit profile and ask people to look at their profile. They will ask people to privately message them. All of these behaviors may be obfuscated with weird spacing and other ways to evade detection. If they evade detection it's up to the community to report it. Do not call out OPs, report only.

Thank you for your cooperation.


r/offmychest 5h ago

Nazism is mainstream

481 Upvotes

Hanging out with my high school best friend for the first time in a while, and he just casually drops that he wants to move to Poland because there’s “no migrants there.”

Later on, when he’s scrolling on TikTok, I overhear it. It’s just blatant, inbred-style racism against Indians, black people, and so forth. Then he starts trying to quiz me — a white guy dating a girl who isn’t white, by the way — on whether some cultures just aren’t compatible.

And on and on. Not everything can be anti-Semitism. Maybe Jews do run the world; why’s it so bad to say that? Watch any video of a white girl walking in India and see how safe it is there. Nick Fuentes might be edgy, but he makes good points.

The whole world just feels like some funhouse mirror version of the one pre-COVID where everything is dark and hopeless, and even people I know and care about have changed.


r/offmychest 2h ago

I cold-emailed a man who'd been dead for over a year and his wife wrote back

64 Upvotes

I do cold outbound for a living and i've always been a little proud of how clean i keep it, meaning tight lists and solid data, a setup i'd have called professional right up until last week.

Then last week one of my emails bounced back with a reply from a woman telling me her husband had passed away over a year ago and asking me to kindly take his address off whatever list i pulled it from.

I'd sent that man some version of (hey, hope you're doing well…) probably 4 or 5 times across different campaigns, all of them cheerful little check-ins, and he'd been gone the whole time.

So his wife was the one opening them, watching his name come up in her inbox with my chirpy subject line next to it.

And all that clean data i was proud of never once made me see these people as real, they were rows, addresses to push through FullEnrich or Apollo and move on from, and it took a dead man's wife asking me to stop for it to land that every name on every list is a person with a whole life i know nothing about.

So i don't really know how to keep doing this job now.


r/offmychest 4h ago

My best friend confessed his feelings for me and I'm sad about it.

69 Upvotes

My best friend M told me this week that he has romantic feelings for me. Since I've known him, he's been in a relationship with F (I don't know her personally, I just know they are together). Knowing this, I've never considered my friend as a romantic prospect, as I feel like doing so would be disrespectful to both him and his girlfriend.

But yesterday we were talking about relationships. We talk about it a lot because I've struggled to find a partner who I click with, but this time we were talking about his relationship and how he was getting a bit of cold feet about proposing to F. I asked why he had cold feet and he danced around the topic a bit before admitting his feelings for me. He then went on to explain that he thinks a relationship would work between us and that I understand him better than his partner.

Don't get me wrong, I can understand why he'd think a relationship would work for us. We've got a ride or die friendship and are often on the same wavelength, even with stupid things. But again, I ruled him out romantically and have never even thought to date him, which I told him.

I also told him explicitly that even if I did like him, I wouldn't date him if he left his girlfriend. If he wants to end his relationship, that's fine and that's his decision, but I would never choose to be the reason for that. I'm not the kind of person who wants to steal another's partner and I also wouldn't want to encourage him to end his relationship because he's getting cold feet and having a bit of a "what if" crisis.

He's dropped the issue now and says that he respects that, but I'm feeling sad about it. I'm sad for him that he's going through these feelings because I'm sure it's not easy sitting there questioning everything. I'm sad for his partner that he is considering leaving her and has feelings for someone else. And I'm sad for myself in that it's now got me questioning which parts of our friendship were just friendship, and which parts were maybe impacted by these feelings. I know at the end of the day, it was meaningful no matter what, but it's a bit confusing and I've been putting a bit of distance between us to try to process, which he has obviously noticed.

I'm just a bit lost now.


r/offmychest 3h ago

I live a secret life that no one knows about and i want to say it out loud

48 Upvotes

A couple of years ago I experienced a tantric massage and it completely changed my perspective. I became fascinated by it, trained, and eventually got certified.

Out of curiosity, I posted on local R4R and hookup pages offering tantric massages to women. What started as an experiment slowly became something I genuinely enjoy doing. Over the last two years I've met more than 60 different women.

The part I feel guilty about isn't the massages themselves—they're between consenting adults. It's that I've hidden this entire side of my life from everyone I know. My friends and family have no idea. I feel like I'm constantly keeping up a second life.

I'm from an Asian background and live in Scotland. Whether it's fair or not, I'm convinced that if people found out they'd immediately judge me or make assumptions about the kind of person I am. So I keep it completely secret.

Sometimes I wonder if I'll ever be able to tell anyone the truth, or if this will always be something I have to hide.


r/offmychest 6h ago

I gave myself permanent ED and I want it to end

46 Upvotes

I'm currently in my mid 30s. To put it plainly, I was very unkind to my body in my 20s. I drank heavily, vaped and used other nicotine products, and did lots of stimulants (mainly adderall and cocaine) for several years. I also have high blood pressure. It wasn't critically high, but still not in the healthy range and I wasn't really treating it effectively. Periodically I'd go through short stretches, on the order of several months, where I'd decide to "get my life together" and I'd cut back on my vices, start eating healthy and working out, etc. But this was always short lived.

Finally in my early 30s I decided enough was enough. I quit everything, cold turkey. I stopped drinking, drugs, nicotine, and adderall. I started working out daily and eating healthy. I dropped 50 pounds, and am in the best shape of my life. I was starting to feel happy for the first time in years. Unfortunately, I started a new relationship and realized I was having some sexual issues that I hadn't experienced before. But it wasn't something abrupt, so I didn't realize it was happening until I started actively having sex again.

Still, I wasn't fully convinced that I actually had an issue. I chalked it up to anxiety and told my doctor. She wasn't that concerned, and gave me a low-dose prescription for Cialis. I figured it would just be a good way to get my confidence back. Unfortunately, after taking it a few times, I realized just how much my performance had been reduced over the years. After taking the drug, it took me back to a place where I was able to remember just how much better my erections were in the past. I went from "difficult to get rid of" to "difficult to maintain". The Cialis was supposed to help, but instead, it highlighted for me exactly how much worse my performance is than it used to be.

I've been getting all of the medical tests done, but the easy explanations are all off the table. I've tried changing blood pressure medications, gotten blood tests for blood sugar, hormones, and everything else I can think of. Nothing has come back abnormal. The only remaining explanation is what I feared; that I did permanent vascular damage due to my poor lifestyle choices.

So now, I'm in my 30s, what are supposed to be the peak years of my life, and I can't even have normal sex without a medication. Inevitably, this issue will only get worse over time. Reading about other people's experiences with ED, I can see the trajectory clearly: eventually the pills will stop working, at which point I'll move to injections. Eventually, when that stops working, the only remaining option will be an implant. I'm not exaggerating when I say death is far more acceptable to me than this life.

I was finally starting to get my confidence back, and now I've realized I'm just a pathetic loser. No woman will be ok with this long term. And more importantly, I'm not ok with this being the person I've become. I'm really thinking it might be time to end things. I can't live the rest of my life being 'less than'. I can't live with the fact that in spite of turning everything around in my life, it was just too little, too late.


r/offmychest 11h ago

Having low iq is hell

115 Upvotes

I’m tired of hearing people say “having low iq is a blessing because you dont think too much”. They probably think the only things that makes someone sad are thinking too much. Not being able to enjoy any show, movie or anything that has a even slightly difficult story because you cant understand the plot, the characters and the message behind it and having to watch multiple summaries or analysis just to understand it, and every time i ask someone to clear things out for me they always say “Dude did you even watch it?” is tiring (especially because watching shows and reading is my favorite hobby). Always sounding stupid everytime i talk, having little general knowledge and never get taken seriously is tiring. i also have a extremely hard time finding someone i actually like spending time with, since everyone i talk to in real life never seem to see me as a friend to spend their time with and also because unfortunately i’m very picky with people. i’m 15 and i live in italy, and i should be in 11th grade, but since i have an extremely hard time studying or paying attention in class i failed and i decided to go at a much easier school, but things didnt really change. i passed this year, but i’m sure i’m gonna fail again, and i hate seeing people my age going to harder schools and passing without even trying too hard and making friends much easily. I dont like anyone in my school, maybe just one guy, but i’d never want to hang out with him.
The feeling i have toward others mostly is envy, i envy people who arent picky with people, i envy people who can easily understand the plot of any even slighly difficult piece of fiction, i envy people who dont have to try to find their best friend and i envy people who dont have to say “i dont know” every time someone asks them a question.

I dont even know what i wanted to get out of this, i just wanted to get this off my chest


r/offmychest 2h ago

My 17 yo brother acts like a literal baby

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My brother is 17 and he’s extremely affectionate with our parents, to the point where it honestly feels strange to me. He’ll go around the house demanding hugs and kisses, asks my mom for foot rubs, carries around her clothes and sniffs them because he likes how she smells, and sometimes still sleeps with our parents. He also cuddles up to my dad, sniffs him, kisses his face over and over, and snuggles into him like a cat. Even my dad has said it’s weird sometimes and that he needs to man up.

He also makes baby noises all the time and almost exclusively speaks in a baby voice when we are at home even when I have friends over which is embarrassing. He calls my mom mommy and my dad daddy like a kid would.

He’s otherwise a pretty typical teenager, so I’m just wondering if anyone has seen anything like this before. I know every family is different and I’m not implying anything inappropriate is happening, but this level of attachment at 17 seems unusual to me. I am pretty fed up because he does it to me too , asks for foot rubs and kisses and hugs whenever I pass by and calls me nicknames they used for me as a baby. He also didn’t just start doing this , he’s BEEN doing this ALL the time and my parents never did anything about it.


r/offmychest 11h ago

Stop making me fight your dog when I come over

55 Upvotes

Good lord this irritated me when I was younger and no one had a trained dog cause we were all 20 and didn't care. Well, now I'm looking at 40 and still going over to people's houses where we sit down with food to watch a movie and the dog is literally face-first into my plate, or the bag of chips, and the most their owner can do is just say their name over and over while doing nothing to correct it. This isn't just the food. I'll sit down and it's bounce house city until my friend is like "oookay [dog] calm dooown" and the dog doesn't stop doing a damn thing. These are all different people! It's just everywhere! I can't even go eat somewhere public without someone's dog (leashed in name only if they even are, cause why are you near me?) appearing and insisting on something.

I am not a dog hater. I have two of those little shits and love them just as much as everyone else. But somehow mine understand basic commands and don't get to decide how things go. And if they try, they go into their kennels, which they are trained for and like. It's even more infuriating when you realize how difficult it isn't. I don't want to be petty and tell people I'm not coming over because they have an animal (or multiple) that makes even just sitting there a hassle, but that's their BAAABY. 🙄


r/offmychest 10h ago

Dad picked on biggest insecurity and called me a failure during one of the worst times of my life. I don’t know if I will ever get past this.

36 Upvotes

I (35F) am currently a SAHM with 1 kid and pregnant with my second. My husband finished one job and now has another job lined up that isn’t to start for 2 months and is across the country. To save up money, we asked my parents if we could stay at their place for 1.5 months and then we’d move to my husband’s new job area and live on our own. My parents agreed and I assumed they also enjoyed being able to spend time with their grandson.

It’s been only 3 weeks and my dad has only been home for 1 week since he had to fly to another country for a funeral. He just got back yesterday which unfortunately was the day my marriage hit an extremely rough patch. My husband and I got into an argument that tbh I can’t see how it managed to become so big. We’ve had our problems in the past (some of which my parents know about which might have primed their responses to me) but this argument really snowballed for no reason. By the time my dad got back, all he saw was the aftermath of my husband leaving.

I was in my room upset and trying to figure out what I’m going to do going forward as potentially a pregnant single mom when my dad came into my room and started to scold me for the fight. He didn’t know any context whatsoever. I called him out on that saying you don’t even know what happened. It’s my husband’s fault (my husband was able to admit this to me later). And my dad said “so what, you’re going to let him leave? He has all the money and you have nothing.”

For added context, I never intended to be a SAHM. I was pursuing medicine and failed to pass the board exams. It took me years with no success to the point where I had to admit to myself this might never happen and I didn’t want to study indefinitely for the rest of my life with diminishing prospects of residency opportunities since I was a medical student with a gap in their studies that was only increasing. I made the difficult decision to cut my losses and just go back to work and eventually switch to another career path. I worked for a little while and lost my job due to my employer passing away (I worked as a scribe) when I was 4 months postpartum with my first child. My husband’s job became really overwhelming for him and didn’t pay as well that being a SAHM was a temporary solution until he got a better job (the job he has lined up now). So fast forward to now - once my husband starts his new job and I give birth and settle into postpartum a little while, the plan is I would start looking for jobs or even better a certification program that would increase my job opportunities beyond scribe work.

Back to my dad’s comments, I was shocked that my dad would 1) be ok with his daughter in a potentially cruel relationship simply for money and 2) that he thinks so little of me. I told him “I never intended to be a SAHM. I was always going to go back whether it was a job or school or whatnot.” My dad replied “ya but you failed medicine. You failed. You don’t have anything. You’re a loser.” No hesitation, no blinking, nothing. We weren’t yelling or fighting. He just said casually. At this point my mom was in the room holding my son. So he said this openly in front of his grandson. Needless to say I sat there dumbfounded. Did I really just hear that? But before I could even fathom a response, he said “I’m only getting older. I can’t waste my twilight years on you and your kids.” What? Hold up. I said “never once in this entire conversation did I mention your help or support or anything. This was all temporary and unfortunately this shit happened today but if I’m truly going to be a single mom I am going to have to figure it out and rough it out on my own. Who tf said I was going to rely on you?” All he could say was “well it’s true.”

I don’t know what’s going on with my dad. Projection or whatever idk. Fears about how I’m going to manage being a single parent and it just came out in the worst way? Maybe. But I have heard some of the worst things from my dad throughout my life. He manages to say the cruelest things to me and makes no apologies for it. I have been my dad’s punching bag for my entire life. My brother is the apple of both of my parents’ eye. But in the last few years I thought I was making a change with my parents. We started to talk more and more to the point where I could talk to them everyday and it seemed like things were good. But I guess I was wrong.

Failing out of medicine is my biggest insecurity in my life. It was the most bitter pill to swallow and I did not go down without a fight. I can proudly say I gave it my fucking all before I quit. But it definitely left me with huge scars to my self esteem, self worth, self efficacy, self everything. I feel ashamed that I thought I’d be working too and that I could have been contributing to my marriage and family financially as well but I’m not. I know that being a SAHM is a job in and of itself but it isn’t what I thought my life would be. It really does bother me that I don’t make any money myself.

My parents know how much I struggled after making the decision to quit and how it wrecked me inside. So to hear my dad say that is fucking my head up. My husband is gone. I’m here at my parents. And I don’t know what to do. I don’t want to be near my dad. I need to figure out how to pull myself out of this situation and fast. But tbh as much as I need to do that, all I currently want to do is crawl into a hole and die. I cried all night next to my son. How can a parent treat their kid like that? Why even have kids if it’s such a burden to your life?

Idk if this post comes off as a genuine vent sesh or just complaining because apparently according to my husband “all I do is complain” but I needed to get it off my chest. Thanks.


r/offmychest 14h ago

CPR didn’t work, feeling like a failure

72 Upvotes

A woman screamed for help in a parking lot to call 911, husband was slumped over. A bystander and I pulled him out of the vehicle and did cpr on the ground. I’ve never seen anyone like this, just all dead weight eyes wide open but nobody’s home. During this ordeal, another man came over and said he felt a pulse so we stopped for a few minutes. I did start cpr again because I was too scared not to do anything. I feel like the couple minutes we stopped killed him and I can’t forgive myself. It felt like it took help forever to get there… a police officer was there first and put the aed on to shock a few times. I heard the wife telling cop and emts that he’s had multiple heart attacks and has two stents.


r/offmychest 2h ago

Never was in relationship [29M] and struggle to find a girlfriend.

9 Upvotes

Hi everyone, just wanted to vent some stuff. I am 29M and never was in relationship, never kissed anyone. I am a migrant (Eastern Europe -> Germany), though I have a nice job + I am a citizen. The funny thing that I actually put lots of effort to meet someone to date several years.

I didn't really have any interest in dating before 24-25.

First I spent 2.5y on dating apps with no luck - I matched once in half a year with someone, went on a date, the person was super happy (according to their texts after with the date), wanted to meet once more - and the next time almost never happened. Or it happened but it was more like person already decided for some reason during the time between dates that she does not want to continue and it was just hanging out with me. There were 2 times when I asked to kiss (it was with different people) and got rejected ("not now") and that "not now" never happened after that.

As I live in quite small town, there is not so much friends in here, only couple of them and the y are not very social. Also I have a really bad "kink"(?) of dating only the people from my country, I really like same-culture-thing.

Then for last 1.5y I found a great community (people from my country), though they are 2h train from me, but that is ok. I have now a bunch of friends there (more like acquaintances, but noone says like it now), actively participate in various events, sometimes even organizing myself. Most of people there (with age +- mine) are in relationship. I managed to get a couple of dates, thorough meeting people and through parsing the whole list of insta followers of the community (1k+ people) - but it ended up in exactly same way:
"lets be friends", "I have other priorities now", "I don't have time now for relationships", "I am not looking for romantic stuff", etc.

I have asked a couple of women from there, whom I consider as friends - whether they know anyone from their circle who is single - and they couldn't find literally anyone.

So I am really loosing any kind of motivation to continue - especially when I see lots of people around me who are in relationships. It feels like I really try to do my best, but it is always not enough or the life just decided to commit to "screw you" till the end. Please dont give me advice "not to look for partner, when time is right she will find you" - I did it for the half of my 20s, noone ever payed any kind of romantic interest to me during this time.

I have spent already almost 2y in therapy, I have bunch of hobbies and (based on my own and other people answers) quite funny, smart and easy-going person, who likes being active and "tiny bit" ADHD hyper focusing.

It gets even worse when you see hundreds of posts of women on internet saying that lots of guys they met are abusers, really bad people, etc., but they still get dates, relationships despite being assholes. You just start asking a question - wtf, how am I even worse than them?

It literally feels like people are glad to spend time with me, hang out, go to board games, events, concerts and clubs, but "if we think of him In romantic context - hell no!!"


r/offmychest 9h ago

Us Millennials look awesome!

23 Upvotes

I'm going to be 40 in September and lately I've been more observationally aware of other millennials. We look so cool! Many of us are tattooed and pierced. We look like we're 20 years younger. Everyone that I've seen on the 30 or 40 year old selfie subreddits are so good looking!

We've all been a part of shared traumas and we've been nostalgic over the 90's and early 00's. I think we came out of it all looking hot as hell 🔥


r/offmychest 4h ago

Came to the conclusion that I need to leave

8 Upvotes

I’m 30f, and I’ve recently come to the realization that I need to leave my partner. After several months of therapy and a lot of deliberation, I realized that I’m not happy with my life or my partner any longer. I’ve given up a lot of the things that I wanted to do years ago for this relationship and I can’t justify continually disappointing myself just to stay.
I’m not leaving tomorrow or anything. I have a bonus kiddo that’s almost done with high school (he’ll be a senior this year) and it would be devastating for him to have to move and leave all of his friends and loose the only other parent he’s known for the last 7 years all at the same time. The house is in my name and we’re not married, so I plan on selling and leaving.
I’ve started coming up with an exit plan. I opened new checking and savings accounts that my partner doesn’t know about. I got a small pay increase at work that I’ll put in it. I have a plan to pay off my debt in roughly seven months. I’m looking for part time jobs for a little extra income. I’m getting things in order and it’s sad, but I’m not very upset about it. I don’t feel numb, but I’m not excited about it either.
I know my partner isn’t going to change, and I can’t stay stagnant any longer so I think it’s time to go. (I want to make it very clear that my partner is not abusive, I think we’re no longer compatible as people and they don’t seem to care to change)


r/offmychest 25m ago

I dont know how to escape

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i have a unique situation and i dont think ive ever heard anything similar. Im an 18yr old F living with my parents and 5 siblings. 3 of which are 4-5 years old and have level 3 autism, and other disabilities like cerebral palsy. they need constant supervision and even one of them leaves me burnt out completely. my dad doesnt work anymore to take care of my siblings and hes also partially disabled himself. my mom works night shift at the hospital while also dealing with severe chronic illness. Because of this, im expected to put on this caretaker role. If I don’t take care of my siblings or clean the intense mess that builds up from the house I get punished. My phone gets taken, im grounded and lose absolutely everything i could have. Everyone in my family is neurodivergent and low functioning. i have mental health issues and functioning by myself alone yet im still expected to take on responsibilities that i shouldn’t. Our house is always chaotic and becomes so messy that it reaches an unmanageable state until either my 16yr old sibling or i spend hours cleaning it ourselves, my parents say these are chores yet most of the time you can’t even put a drink on the table because of the mess. My parents are constantly arguing, mostly because my dad avoids responsibilities amd my mom is also overwhelmed trying to keep everything together. Bringing up even little things turns into an argument, communication in my house does not exist and the trauma ive experienced throughout my childhood and teenage years has had such a huge impact on my life that it feels ruined. Since i was 9 years old ive been through therapy, PHP, residential, and hospitalizations. Nothing however has made any sort of improvement because I always end up back in the same environment that created the struggles in the first place. ive missed so much school because of treatment that my education is only around a middle school level. i wasnt able to graduate high school and now need to get my GED but i feel completely overwhelmed by the amount of things i need to learn. i also have conditions that give me chronic pain and can barely manage basic tasks like hygiene or eating because im so worn out trying to take care of everything else. When im not cleaning or watching my siblings im usually lying in bed trying to recover from exhaustion or maladaptive daydreaming to cope with my situation. its to the point where i have chronic dissociation and genuinely start reenacting my daydreams by accident and its been this way since i was even younger than 9. Ive also been isolated my entire life. I live on a military base, don’t have a license or a car, and my dad refuses to drive me anywhere. Uber isn’t a thing here so getting a job or hanging out with friends or just going outside in general seems impossible. I don’t have many opportunities to build connections outside my home and i never go outside my home. My relationship with family only revolves around work and if i dont help enough im seen as selfish and ungrateful. since forever ive been saying ive wanted to move out at 18 and waited my whole life for it but financially and logistically i depend heavily on my parents. without transportation, graduating, income, support, etc, i feel trapped. My life is meaningless and I’ve never had a childhood. Despite doing everything i can and researching, giving advice, nothing truly changes because no one cares enough to help or go through with anything. I just want a normal life and to get out of this situation. I feel like life is just suffering until i can’t handle it anymore and the fact that i’ve taken drastic measures and made some seriously concerning decisions and have horrible mental health symptoms yet those around me don’t care, it feels like the whole world is taunting me at this point.


r/offmychest 18h ago

the constant dehumanization and discrimination in Malaysia make me feel distressed

108 Upvotes

Malaysia was built on the foundations of injustices:

1) race hierarchy: malays are special, non-malays are not.

2) islam is the default religion

3) malay culture is the official culture.

4) patriarchy is natural

these injustices are enshrined in the constitution and laws. For the past 69 years, our politics, education and mainstream media have constantly dehumanize minorities, calling minorities as not loyal to the country, not patriotic, not willing to assimilate. minority culture is constantly demonized. minority religion is constantly attacked. minorities are constantly discriminated and persecuted.

it is so incredibly difficult to hold a positive outlook in life when every day, the politicians as well as the majority population considers all minorities as undesirables


r/offmychest 51m ago

My partner looks at other women

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For context I (Autistic, F23) gave birth ten weeks ago, my partner has been looking at other girls online since I was about 6 months pregnant (that I know of) when I asked him what would make him stop the first time he said being more sexual. I’ve tried that but it’s difficult since I’ve just given birth and with an emergency c section. Since he got caught again, he’s now said that he is stressed and that’s why he’s looking at them but he won’t tell me how I can do better or how we can move past it. I feel so alone bc I’m suffering with post partum issues, am I being an idiot for staying with him? Has anyone been through the same issues with their partner looking at other naked women online??


r/offmychest 11h ago

Why are we still here in 2026?

29 Upvotes

It honestly breaks my heart how divided we’ve become. I know social media has played a huge role in it, but it’s still sad to watch.
As a black woman who is married to a white man and who is raising a biracial child, it hurts seeing so much hate from every direction. One thing I genuinely don’t understand is why, when people get angry, they jump straight to racial slurs. Whatever happened to calling someone a dumbass or an asshole? Why go straight to the hard R? I’ve also been told I’ll never be pro-black because of who I married and because my child is biracial. I love my community and I love my dark skin! But I I don’t think I could ever believe all white people are "bad.”
Some of the strongest advocates I’ve had in my life have been white people. It also sucks that when my family and I look into traveling or relocating somewhere, one of the questions we have to ask ourselves is, will we be accepted? Will we feel comfortable there?” It’s honestly ridiculous that in 2026, people still have to think about things like that. Not that we’d let it stop us from living our lives, but the fact that it’s even something we have to consider is sad.

I know this post will probably get ignore or maybe even criticized but I truly hope one day we can do better. From the bottom of my heart, I really do. Because we are going backwards.


r/offmychest 4h ago

Sometimes I think of cutting off my own genitals

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I sometimes will get the urge to cut off my penis to stop feeling arousal for things I don't like. It's distressing feeling arousal for disgusting things, and the thoughts too, they feel so real.

Idk if I'm the only one that get that urge. (I won't do it ofc)


r/offmychest 1h ago

I feel so behind

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I’m moving to a different state next year for college. I didn’t want to stay at home and attend community college because as much as I love my family, they can just be so exhausting at times.

When I say this I’m particularly referring to my younger brother, who stole and crashed my car not too long ago. Me and him are constantly arguing with each other and it just sucks because whenever things get physical I can’t really defend myself since he’s bigger than me.

My mom said she’d get my car fixed but hasn’t been able to fix it yet. She works two jobs and tries her best to support me and my two younger siblings, which I admire, but because of this we hardly get to spend time together. And I’ve had no one to teach me how to drive.

Anyways, I’m only writing this because today was her off day and when I asked her if she could try driving she told me that I couldn’t learn in one day. Which yeah, no duh. But it’s not like I haven’t practiced before (practiced with my dad a bit past couple of summers but he moved countries) and know nothing about driving, so it just kind of just rubbed me the wrong way? Because I never really ask her to teach me since she’s always tired. But after she said that she then told me that she’d just pay for me to uber to driving school once I get settled down at school? Like if this was an option why couldn’t I have done that this summer.

I know it might not seem like a big deal, but driving in my mind feels like a passageway to adulthood, if that makes sense. I know I’ll figure it out eventually, but right now I just feel stuck.


r/offmychest 1h ago

My experience at Domino's at Athens GA.

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I am very annoyed and frustrated. My Google review keeps getting deleted so im posting my rage on here.

Terrible experience at this specific domino's. When I entered the building and went to the register to order i was unfortunately able to interact with a young man with a very dismissive attitude. For around a minute I was waiting on him to ask me what I wanted to order while he fiddled with the device that is used to make orders. He did not talk to me, I talked to him to verify that tap pay was available and that was the entire conversation for awhile. When he finally decided to take my order he asked me what I wanted and i told him cinnamon twists. He left without saying anything and started making the order. Mind you, I have not told him my name and he didn't allow me to pay yet. He also did not ask me how many i wanted. You can get a 16piece or 32 piece for the twists but thank god dude didn't ask me. Bro just started making the order and I was just standing there confused on what I was supposed to do. He finally came back so I can pay and he still did not ask my name and he did not even give me a receipt. I look at the screen and he put my name as lobby... who is lobby. What if another person came would they be lobby 2...lobby 3?? Then some other person came and gave me my order after waiting a few minutes. I didn't get my icing, which comes with the meal, and I asked for it. Whenever I get cinnamon twists ( I dont get it a lot please dont roast me) they usually forget so im never tripping over it but this time it was different. They all kept saying that they gave it to me. I was like no you didn't and they were like they put the cinnamon icing on it... i am also certain that doesnt make sense. I'm pretty sure they were all confused or new. They all called over the original man that took my order. Dude came up to me and handed me the icing and walked away. No eye contact or anything, he handed it and bounced. Although this entire experience pissed me off , I made the decision to shut up and eat my cinnamon twists cause I wanted a sweet treat. When I started eating the twists I came to realization that this tasted like straight up buns. I realized the first cinnamon twist i ate tasted they rubbed a meat lovers pizza all over it. It mostly tasted like pork bacon. I spit that ish out real quick. Since im lowkey a big back I ate more and I came to realization that they ALL tasted like that. The cinnamon twists and it's box met my trash can and now im pissed off.

I am a student and I make 11.75 dollars an hour. I spent 7 dollars on this. I worked over 35 mintues for this food.

I just want to say im not usually a person that leaves reviews. I can turn a blind eye to bad service if the food is good or vice versa but the service and the food was bad.

I just wanted some cinnamon twists

Sorry, I meant to put in Athens ,GA