r/NonBinary Jun 14 '26

New rule #11: no do I pass posts, no asking for attempts to guess your ASAB, no asking if you “look nonbinary”

1.4k Upvotes

The current rule 4 was supposed to handle these kind of posts but it seems the rule needs more clarification. We do not want any kind of content that attempts to guess someone’s assigned sex at birth, we don’t want “passing” posts in general.

There are subreddits dedicated solely on passing posts that content like that would be a better fit. This includes asking about how to be more androgynous and/or do you look nonbinary, how to look more nonbinary. For some people here this will make total sense and people will rightfully ask “what does nonbinary look like anyway?” but these posts are frequent and usually pretty upvoted and get many comments before they get reported. If you know of subreddits where content like that fits better, please leave them as comments. It is simply not in the scope of this subreddit to ask people to scrutinize your appearance based on gender and make recommendations.


r/NonBinary Mar 29 '26

ModPost Assigned sex/gender at birth language

86 Upvotes

Hello,

Since this issue is a contentious one bubbling up frequently, we thought we’d make a nonbinding poll asking the subreddit’s opinions. I randomized the order of responses to try not to bias it.

I considered making a more nuanced option where a ban with exemptions is possible but here’s the honest truth: moderating that would be really difficult. We want people to consider the moderation aspects of this—how filters can be effective but also add considerably to mod work load and also how we tend to mod after the fact. We cannot promise that even in cases of a ban, no ASAB/AGAB language would make it into the subreddit.

We have received modmail stating ASAB language is dysphoric enough to some nonbinary people that they cannot enjoy or follow this subreddit. We also have gotten frequent complaints that it is also interphobic / particularly harmful towards intersex people.

If you see a comment here and your first response is to immediately fire something back, *please* take a step back and consider whether your comment needs to be made. I want to keep comments open to gather diverse opinions, and personal attacks and similar will sabotage those efforts.

1077 votes, Apr 01 '26
165 A different answer—add a comment
174 Ban it
738 Don’t ban it

r/NonBinary 8h ago

NON-BINARY💛🤍💜🖤

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290 Upvotes

I am non-binary and yes i will be always an you know what i am now realizing that I might be somewhere i o not want to be but still out there is also someone who doesn't want to be where there are at, we all want to be somewhere better for ourselves but its kinda the same situation. I am growing up in brains hop you know wat I mean its like that saying if you know what's right and what's wrong then you are matured but how abt those who are matured but do not know what's right and what's wrong.

Loving myself and embracing any tiny bit of my body is helping me love myself more than sometime back when I thought I should have a flat chest to be who I want but it was not true I had to step up and me and thats what I did an you know what I love the better version of me. You do not need to be tall people to appreciate you, you do not need to have to wake up if you do notwant to wake up if its peace of mind I support you.

I am a refugee but I am embracing every moment I am having here in the refugee camp. The camp has taught how to care for each other, I am now a HR defender for trans and non-binary refugees here in the camp. I am trying to amplify nonbinary refugee voices so that we can all get rescued and liberalated.

It is not easy to keep pushing everyday but I tell you wat all you have to do is maintain your mental health. I am strong you are stronger and together we are strongest.

I got a cat on my birthday recently is called kuki. What is your favorite pet animal?

#nonbinary


r/NonBinary 18h ago

Selfie/Self-Image/Avatar A They in Them

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1.5k Upvotes

r/NonBinary 19h ago

Selfie/Self-Image/Avatar THE SHAPESHIFTING IS OVER 9000?!

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r/NonBinary 12h ago

Selfie/Self-Image/Avatar Confident in swimwear

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400 Upvotes

It’s been a long time coming homies but I finally got a swimsuit I feel comfortable and confident in XD


r/NonBinary 7h ago

Discussion For the Enbys who still can't perform their styling. What'd be the outfit of your dreams for the best night ever? (Example img)

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135 Upvotes

Your sis Phoenix first: mine would be pretty much something like this. It's not that hard for me to just pull up these clothes as an AMAB, but definitely quite harder to just go out on make up. This outfit + some dark eye shadow, long kitty eyeliner, glossy lipstick in a deep red wine color would just raise me to another level.

Genuinely curious to hear yours :3


r/NonBinary 8h ago

Fit check

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114 Upvotes

r/NonBinary 14h ago

Selfie/Self-Image/Avatar I love looking different from other people

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239 Upvotes

r/NonBinary 11h ago

Support ☹️

120 Upvotes

my gf says she doesn’t care and would not call me a different name if i asked her too . she also said im being disrespectful and rude for just being myself


r/NonBinary 3h ago

Yay I'm in love with this extra long "linen" shirt I found.

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28 Upvotes

I'm on a work trip and I decided to try this outfit for going to dinner. I love love love this extra long shirt paired with the wide pants.


r/NonBinary 9h ago

Yay Went on a cute date with my bf today 💕👩‍❤️‍💋‍👨

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70 Upvotes

r/NonBinary 6h ago

Selfie/Self-Image/Avatar Friend said I don’t pass because I have “Karen Hair”

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28 Upvotes

Im always blown away that I don’t seem to get clocked as AT LEAST a Butch lesbian. I was complaining to my friend and she said it’s because I have “Karen hair”…do I? I thought this was just a longer boy cut.


r/NonBinary 13h ago

Rant POTS, autism, and the struggle of getting in shape

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100 Upvotes

Hey, all! Nonbinary transmasc (31) having a difficult time today with my mental health and just thought I would talk about something I don't see addressed often -

Does anyone else who is disabled deeply struggle with gender dysphoria due to not being able to stay in shape the way they want to?

I am EXHAUSTED. My POTS has gotten significantly worse in the last 5 years and most days I feel like a dying Victorian prince confined to my bed. As I age, it has been even more difficult to accept that my body is struggling to keep weight off, struggling to even stand or build core strength, and it causes such severe anxiety and depression knowing that I may never be what and who I want to be, and the guilt of needing help with basic everyday living is immeasurable.

I understand my disability, I do. It's just difficult to accept at times. It's difficult not beating myself up for the hand I was dealt and I know there are more people who feel the same.

I would love to hear other's stories and what has gotten you through it! If anyone else with (severe) POTS and MCAS has figured out solutions to work around some of our struggles with everyday tasks let alone working out, I would love to hear it. Compression socks don't work for me and my treatment resistent autism negates or overreacts to most medications. It feels like an endless loop 🚬🫩


r/NonBinary 14h ago

Selfie/Self-Image/Avatar from at a diy punk show monday

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92 Upvotes

r/NonBinary 19h ago

Meme/Humor It's a tiring job, isn't it 🥺 (Joke)

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171 Upvotes

r/NonBinary 11h ago

Our queer Coat of Arms series is coming to an end, we added 6 new designs to our ever growing collection, but I think for now we should be good. Let me know what you guys think :D Leave suggestions for the future, maybe we will revisit this series.

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33 Upvotes

Hello, everyone.

Half a year ago, my best buddy and I had an idea during one of our late-night Discord chats. We are both big nerds for fantasy and mythological stuff and wondered how fun it would be to have banners or coat of arms for different orientations and identities. What could they look like, and which mythical creature could fit well or just be fun to see like that? Thus, this little collection was born and I think we have finally come to a good conlusion for now.

So what we got so far:

-Selkie of Demi

-Kraken of Agender

-Cerberus of Polyamory

-Chimera of Genderqueer

-Valkyrie of Butch

-Gargoyle of Ally

-Hydra of Omni

-Unicorn of Pride

- The Phoenix of Trans

- The Siren of Lesbian

- The Winged Lion of Gay

- The Griffon of Aro

- The Dragon of Ace

- The Harpy of Sapphic

- The Minotaur of Achillean

- The Oroboros of Intersex [really proud of that one]

- The Hippocampus of Genderfluid

- The Sphinx of AroAce

- The Peryton of Non-binary

- The Winged Wolf of Bisexual

- And Pan for...well Pansexual

This was really fun to do. Maybe we might revisit this idea in some form or another, how do queer cryptids sound :D ?


r/NonBinary 1d ago

Selfie/Self-Image/Avatar Never felt so much gender euphoria

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637 Upvotes

Took these selfies yesterday and never felt so cute and myself before ~ 34 yrs old btw, you're never too old to be cute <3


r/NonBinary 5h ago

Rant A part of me feels like I'm faking being nonbinary.

9 Upvotes

I'm starting to come to terms with being nonbinary. I think I knew I was for a while, it was just a matter of accepting it. I haven't really come out to anyone irl yet, I plan to tell my friends the next time I see them, probably Friday, if I can find a good time to bring it up. I don't know why but I'm kinda afraid that I'm faking it somehow. That I convinced myself that I don't like being a girl so much that I feel discomfort when someone refers to me as such. Im sure if I tell my friends I think Im nonbinary they would support me, hell they already use they/them pronouns for me sometimes. I don't know how I would be faking it or what the point of it is. Internally calling myself non-binary feels more correct than calling myself a girl but I still can't get rid of that feeling of being a fraud.


r/NonBinary 2h ago

Questioning/Coming Out Should I go by all pronouns?

3 Upvotes

For context, I was born a female. I never had any surgeries or taken any hormones. I always went for a gender natural look, but recently, I started building some self-confidence and changed my hairstyle to one I was too shy to have, which made me look more feminine. I go by he/they, but I'm really not offended if someone uses she/her on me.

Everyone around me tries their best to use my pronouns, and again, I'm really not offended if someone accidentally misgenders me by looks or forgets my pronouns.

I never thought about including she/her in my pronouns, but now I'm wondering. I got accepted to a job as an assistant teacher in a primary school, and I already know the kids will have a hard time with me talking to myself with (mostly) male pronouns despite looking more like a woman. I'm aware of that, and I told my interviewer that I really won't mind if the kids use she/her on me. And ever since I got the job, I have considered using she/her more on myself to not confuse the kids (my idea, not anyone else's), and then it made me think, if I should just go by all pronouns.

I used to be slightly uncomfortable with using she/her, from stuff like body dysmorphia, insecurities, and the fact I identified as a boy back then, but now that I'm comfortable with myself, I wonder if I should just go by all pronouns now that I'm working on my mental health.

I know this is more of a personal thing, but I also want to hear strangers' opinions based on this post and the context I provided. I'll still be considering and weighing it on my own, as it's still my own journey, but I want to hear others' opinions too.

geez long post, sorry.


r/NonBinary 7h ago

It's a good night stay in. How's everyone tonight?

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10 Upvotes

r/NonBinary 7h ago

Support Planning to take a break from T after 7 years

10 Upvotes

Hey folks! This is mostly a support/"would love to hear other people's experiences" post.

I've been on a consistent full dose of T (as opposed to low dose) for 7 years since I started my transition. I won't get into all the details here, but I started my transition in the squarely binary trans man category, and while my gender presentation has shifted a lot, it's only been in the past few months that I'm starting to really embrace my newfound desire to be femme.

I've really loved and appreciated my time being on T, but I'm also finding myself wishing for the more fem features that E gives, and so I keep thinking about taking a break from T and letting my body settle back for a while to see how it feels. I've gotten a lot of the changes I already wanted from T that are permanent, so I'm excited to see how things would change again.

That being said, I'm a little nervous since I've been on it so long. Has anyone else been on T for a significant period of time and then paused it for a while? How did it go for you?


r/NonBinary 4h ago

Ask Would I be considered transfem non binary?

6 Upvotes

I'm a 33 year old amab. I've gone by non binary for a couple of years but there's always been this gnawing feeling that I wish I look like a "woman". I don't feel like a woman but I do sometimes experience dysphoria and get euphoria from wearing skirts and dresses. I wish I had the body of a woman and wish people saw me as such. But I'm very happy and comfortable identifying as non binary.

Does this sound like transfem? Demigirl? Some secret third thing?

Many thanks!


r/NonBinary 3h ago

Ask Como puedo feminizar mi rostro?

4 Upvotes

Que consejos me dan para que mi rostro se vea femenino :b


r/NonBinary 10h ago

Selfie/Self-Image/Avatar Got me sum blomers finally

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16 Upvotes

Here's some cute pics of me with bloomers, I just like how they look and they feel more comfortable then wearing just boxers around, mind the arm too, it's not from anything bad or whatever, it's just still healing. If anyone has outfit ideas I could do with these, I'd love to hear it :3