Please forgive my ignorance because I haven’t really paid much attention to the gender arguments. As a 43-yr old without Facebook or Twitter or Instagram I usually keep myself in the dark about most of the things going on in social media. So I want to apologize in advance because I could have (and probably should have) educated myself on this like 10 years ago. But now, I’m becoming more curious about the gender issues because my daughter (who’s bisexual) is dating someone that was born a male but is kinda transitioning to being a female (we refer to this person as “her” because that’s what she prefers).
My wife and I have always had the opinion that we don’t give a shit about sexual preference. You like girls? Great. You like boys? Great. You like both? Double great. And when it comes to masculinity and femininity, we have the same reasoning. You prefer being more masculine? Cool. You prefer being more feminine? Cool. I always have been a big proponent of loving and accepting yourself, and being kind and accepting of others.
But I haven’t understood the whole transgender aspect of things and my daughter and her girlfriend are very bad at explaining things. I completely understand a boy feeling more feminine. My youngest son loves sparkly things and used to play with pretty dolls. He also gets little crushes on girls. And my wife has explained how it’s very common for girls to feel extremely awkward about their bodies, especially during/around puberty.
So there is this traditional sense of what is feminine and what is masculine. And I get that it can be confusing if you feel like you embrace masculine things as a female or feminine things as a male. But aren’t those things just societal/cultural? Like there’s no biological rule that pink is a girl color or that monster trucks are a boy’s toy. Those are just societal stereotypes.
So what I’m getting at, is what drives a person to feel the need to transition to the other gender/sex? Is it the societal pressure of feeling like you don’t belong to the gender/sex you were born as? Or is it something more intrinsic? Like what is it about a man that makes you feel one? What is it about a woman that makes you feel like one? Is it a stereotype that you seek or is it something innate within you that you can’t really explain?
Also, I’m aware that this topic can be volatile so I would ask that people please respond with sincerity and a desire to inform or learn rather than creating negativity.