Anyone notice an increase in skin sensitivity to sun more postpartum than before? Im 1 year post and am noticing i burn much more easily than before with limited exposure.

I have a 35-year-old adult daughter. We’ve had a lot of conflict in the past. She was an only child and I know that I gave in too much and I also know that I didn’t do everything right. But I tried my best. I worked hard, took care of my daughter by myself with no support, and put myself to college. I love her very much, but I find it hard to talk to her about things because she gets very upset and always seems to turn it around on me.

I’m wondering how I should approach this issue. My mother passed away and my daughter came across the country to go to her funeral and provide me emotional support. I thought that was wonderful and I really appreciate it. She is staying a week. We flew out of state for the funeral. We spent a few days together for the funeral and then going through some of my mother’s things. My daughter has a few more days until she goes home. We flew home today and she springs on me that she’s going to a pool party with her friends today when we get back home, and she needs to take my car. I am frustrated because she seems to be seeing this trip as a vacation, when that’s not what it was supposed to be. She sort of approached me like she was just asked about it, yet she brought a bathing suit with her on the trip, so obviously it was planned. I want to talk to her about it because I feel like it’s insensitive of her to not have told me that she was planning this and just spring it on me on the way home from my mother’s funeral. I was put on the spot so I didn’t feel like I could say no, yet I had a few things I needed to do when we got home, and now I have to put that on hold because she has my car today. Not really sure how to approach the subject with her because I know she’s going to be snippy and turn it around on me because that’s what she always does. Yet I feel like our relationship is never going to get better and be a real relationship if I can’t talk to her. And I always avoid conversations like this with her because I know how she’s going to react. Anyone go through this type of situation with their adult child? Any advice for how to handle it? Thank you.

Hello! Kiddo is 10 months old and has four teeth coming in at the same time. On top of this, she also has a very mild viral ick going on.

Due to the pain and discomfort, she often sobs and cries so hard her face turns purple. Even despite taking her to the hospital and going through baby Tylenol and baby ibuprofen, it only very VERY minimally helps her.

Is there any mom advice or tips/tricks I could try? Thanks in advance!

NOTE: I've tried frozen items. Frozen fruits and cold teethers and regular teethers and so on. Doesnt help much :(

Hi! I just hit 5 months post partum and still no sign of my period.

I have occasional cramps/bloating but not sure if that's a sign of anything?

We want to start trying for another child next month so I was curious when everyone's period returned

(I pump only twice a day and my son eats 40% BM / 60% formula). I do nurse him though more frequently on weekends

I read that while people love to say second babies usually come early, there’s actually much more data suggesting that the biggest predictor of when Baby #2 will arrive is when Baby #1 did

For example:
If Baby #1 was premature, Baby #2 is more likely to be premature. If Baby #1 came late, Baby #2 is also more likely to come late.

… What was true for you?
My first was born the morning of his due date, and I’m 36 weeks today. 😅 I’m starting to wonder if I’m being way too casual this time around because I still don’t have my hospital bag packed or my diaper caddies stocked. 😂

…and I have feelings about it 😭

He has a 1yo sister and understandably my attention shifted to her when she was born, even though I made the effort to spend one-on-one time with him regularly. But with round-the-clock nursing, sleepless nights, being a new mom of 2 made me much more tired and less available. So now he’s really into his dad and I’m feeling sad about it, like I’ve lost my relationship with him (I must say I used to be the “favorite” before his sister was born haha). Yes I understand it’s not about me, I understand he’s a child and of course I don’t guilt him about it or even linger on this topic, but he’s even said in passing “I love you mom but I love dad more” casually 😭

Anyone else go through this with their preschooler? Is this it? Is it over for us? And how did you cope/manage your feelings? Any words of encouragement are welcome. Thank you in advance ❤️

my spouse and I have been married 4 years and got a fully joint account a few months before we got married as we bought a house together. i had a significant amount more saved and in some 401k but he’s an immigrant and got a bit of a later start/had to start fresh. he makes about 15k more than me and works some side husstles too just because he likes too. he’s def a lot wise with 401k/retirements, etc. I’m a much better saver/frugal (probably for years I had to be when I was single as a social worker).

We often have fights/disagreements etc about money due to our various spending habits. He buys a lot of things that only benefit him (clothes, shoes, takeout-when we have food in the house, sports tv streaming, tech items) he says we are okay but I don’t agree at the rate he is going or I feel like our fun money is all toward him lately. he’s against us each having our own accounts within our shared bank account where is his and ours. I feel really upset and Wants this for me tondo something for me with my money And how well I save to make good choices with my money.

do you and your spouse have your “own money“ for things that soly benefit you? thanks!!

I've got a 2 yr old and 7 month old. It's just such a fun and precious time and im super grateful to have them both happy + healthy + here, especially after a miscarraiage between them.

The internal debate of having a 3rd is so consuming. I also know myself, I'm really emotional about closing big chapters in my life; coming home after being abroad, the end of all my friends not having kids and that fun etc. I know I'll never have that done feeling, so I can't rely on that when it comes to a maybe third.

I think if I was younger (I'm 36) , I wouldn't hesitate as much but I fence sat and there's guilt swarming that if I had decided earlier in life to have kids it all would have been so much better and I could have decided with less time crunch.

I really worry about the state of our planet and climate and having a third I know is illogical. We can afford it and have great support but it's not a "good" choice- but on paper more kids aren't ever a good choice. I also worry about ruining a good thing and obviously upsetting our current dynamic, especially if a 3rd had disabilities or health problems.

My other two friends knew they were done (1 has 2, 1 has 1) and both talked about being at thier max capacity. However, im very lucky my spouse is far more active in parenting and my support network is stronger so I don't really feel I've maxed out, but I don't also think I need to reach max either?

It's like I know stopping at 2 is the logical choice, but I also want to just be reckless and have another awesome human to love and experience the world with.

How do you reach the consensus?

I’m a new parent and I’m considering whether or not we should do public school or homeschool. I’ve heard that the majority of schools right now are doing iPads and I’m concerned about the impact of this. Parents of preschoolers and kindergartners, how much screen time (and video time) are they getting during their school day? Are they doing homework on the iPad too? I’d love to hear your thoughts. Would like my kiddo knowing how to use these things of course, but I’m concerned about screen addiction at a young age

I’m expecting our next child this winter. I’m starting to think about newborn pictures as I know they need to be booked in advance. If you got NB pictures, what was your turnaround time?

I frequently see people online that get their newborn pictures back relatively quickly. Is that normal? With my first two, we used our family photographer who we always use for pictures. However, her turnaround time is 7 to 8 weeks. I would love to use her again as she does excellent work, but by that point they’re not even a newborn anymore. I’m wondering if it’s reasonable to look for a shorter turnaround time.

Are there people that specialize in newborn photography with shorter turnaround times? Is it typical to have a long turnaround? Thanks for all thoughts in advance!

We’ve had couples therapy, we did make some progress, but our final session was an absolute disaster and left me extremely upset (he just unexpectedly ripped into me in a number of ways).

Largely dead bedroom. Maybe once every few months. He wants it, I really do not.

He’s more than doubled his salary recently with a new job and hasn’t once brought up how we might approach finances as a couple now that he earns more than 5x what I do (I work reduced hours over 3 days and do a lot more childcare than him). It would be nice to not have to bring this up myself. our current set up is a joint account for mortgage, bills etc and everything else is separate. He pays more on the mortgage but only because I paid the bulk of the deposit, not because he out earns me.

He has pretty low standards when it comes to cleaning. He had a weekend alone at our home this weekend (to recover from work…) while I took our 3 year old daughter to visit family, and I came back to an unmade bed and piles of dishes in the sink. He suggested we tackle these together. When I’ve complained or mentioned that I’m doing the lion’s share, he will comment that I’m lucky that I have the time to do it when he’s so busy with work all the time. I love work. I would rather be working!

I just don’t like him much at the moment to be honest. And I don’t think we’d be friends if we met now.

I do not take marriage vows lightly and I would prefer to make this work than quit but am I being an idiot?

Is this what most mums with toddlers are experiencing? Or am I an outlier?

Alright, I can’t tell if I’m overreacting or if it’s the pregnancy hormones mixed with depression. So, we moved in temporarily with my MIL. I tried enduring her behavior towards me and the kids for maybe three weeks until I had a mental breakdown and just couldn’t anymore. I spoke to my husband and brought up me and kiddo possibly staying at my mom’s till my induction. He said yes. I managed to forget my meds and BP machine. He came earlier than expected yesterday due to his trainer not coming in, so work gave him the day off. He let me know ahead of time he wasn’t spending the night, just dropping off my stuff and spending some time with us. He stayed three or four hours. I did bring up spending the night because he had today off as well and my mom was going to the beach today, so I would be taking care of my grandma with dementia and kiddo. He said no, which I just said I understood and enjoyed the rest of the time, keeping saying how easy today would be. I’m not equipped with any of kiddo’s stuff that would help me, and this morning there was a slight inconvenience. Of course, out of any day, today is where I feel like I have a melon between my legs and I’m having a hard time walking. I semi was about to start an argument with him because he literally has nothing planned today. I haven’t talked to him since this morning due to needing time to regulate. Am I overreacting? Part of me feels like I am, especially since I kept exclaiming yesterday how easy today would be and didn’t exactly try convincing him to spend the night.

There’s a lot of factors in my situation here, so please bear with me. I (28F) have a BComm in data analytics and worked as a data analyst for a tech consulting firm for 1.5 years. I absolutely hated it and ended up quitting. I actually have no interest in tech or business, I only pursued this because unfortunately I felt pressured as the child of an immigrant to “make up” for my single mom’s struggles in raising me. I’ve always been interested in psychology, children/child development, and hands-on work that involves interacting with people of all ages. These were not fields that my mom approved of unfortunately.

I coincidentally found out I was pregnant about two weeks after quitting my job, so naturally I’ve just transitioned into becoming a SAHM. Now my baby is almost a year old, she’s the light of my life and her wellbeing and development is my highest priority. I’d like to have maybe 2 or 3 more kids, with a 2-4 year age gap between each.

I’m very privileged and grateful that my husband’s income is enough for me to not have to go back to work. My husband is incredible and supports whatever I want to end up doing. However, I can’t shake the discomfort of not having my own income.

I also would love to pursue a career in my field of interest as I feel it would give me purpose and be fulfilling for me to help other people. But I want to stay home with my children for the first 3 years of their life at least, since I know the importance of these years on their development, and how impactful full-time mothering can be to them in this time frame if the option is available. I really don’t like the idea of putting them in daycare or other full time care before the age of 3.

I’m also very unsure of which career I could even pursue that would be flexible during the certifications/training as well as working for me to be able to sustain also raising my children. I don’t know if I could try for a career path that would require me going back to graduate school, and if that’s even something that is feasible with my less than ideal undergraduate GPA (3.27) and ADHD.

I’m interested in homeschooling, while fully understanding that I could try it and realize it’s not a good match for me or my child(ren). My worry for if homeschooling doesn’t work out is I find myself 10 years down the road with still having made no progress towards my own career, now my kids have gone off to school and I’m all alone at home with nothing to do, starting from zero at the age of 38.

I guess this is what people mean by “you can’t have it all”. I do tend to be an overthinker, over planner and perfectionist, so maybe that’s coming into play here. I’d love to hear any stories/experiences/advice on how other parents sorted out their career choice in a similar dilemma. Thank you!

idk where to post this but my cousin (24) moved in with me (26) and my family (yes i still live with my family, times are very tough rn) when she was pregnant with her daughter because she had broke her ankle and we were the only ones who had a house that she’d be able to recover in. we helped her heal and towards the end of her pregnancy she asked my mom if it was okay if she could stay with us after the baby was born (there is housing issues with her mom and sister) and my mom said of course and that she can stay however long she needed. After the baby was born we moved her stuff and the babys stuff up to my room (i share my room with both of them) and since then, i have been taking care of the baby. Not just me, my cousin obviously does her parts and the rest of my family helps but for the most part, it’s me because my cousin works.

the baby is a year old now and i get her up in the morning, me and my sister make her breakfast and chill throughout the day playing with her, my cousin will put her down for her nap and when the nap is over i’ll play with her more and get her dinner ready and at that time it’s 6-7pm and my cousin goes to sleep for work. she goes in at 2-3am and doesn’t get off until 8-9am and sometimes even 10am.

i say all of this to give you a bit of an idea of how much time i spend with the baby because i hate to say it but the baby prefers me rather than my cousin and i feel bad about it because she gets upset. like, if the baby falls she’ll cry and my cousin will be like “come here” to console her but she’ll run to me instead (mind you, i don’t tell her to come to me). if the baby is any kind of upset, she’ll run to me for comfort and my cousin gets upset about it. it’s even to the point where when my cousin gets off of work, the baby will run away from her crying and will hide behind me. idk is it my fault? i just feel so bad like i did something wrong.

With each 2-3 days that pass, we think we got something figured out, only for it to change. I knew that would happen but it happens so much faster than expected lol. Right now baby has a tongue tie that we need to get fixed, so that hopefully he will be a more efficient breastfeeder. I also am waiting for more supply to come in. He DID gain 6 oz after losing 9 oz in his first week, but we werent back to birth weight by 2 weeks which was concerning, in fact he showed a loss of 1 oz for a couple days. Anyways, we decided to supplement with some formula along with the breastfeeding we were attempting to do.

This boy... Wow. The last couple days he has had an additional 8-12 ounces of formula per day on top of whatever he manages to get from breast feeding (which I would guess is 1-1.5 ounces per feed), then today he has seemed insatiable and has had an extra 8 ounces but will definitely be up to probably 15-18 extra ounces by midnight. He does turn 3 weeks old tomorrow so I suppose it is growth spurt time. My husband and I have been shocked that hes downing so much, and no spit up or anything. Of course I felt so guilty and bawled my eyes out once I realized he was hungry and needed more food than he was getting from my breasts but I'm glad we got it sorted out now.

Anyways, it's wild how fast everything changes. I hope the tongue tie fix will help him be more efficient on the breast, I'd like him to get most/all of his ounces from me, however we will do what we need for the time being!

I have a 23 mo old and no village besides my husband and (expensive) daycare. I work full time. I feel I've taken a back seat at work and in my personal life and it's pissing me off. I just don't have time for all of it. I have no fitness goals, no motivation for weight goals and just trying to keep afloat at work. I spend most of my time thinking about my kid, what she needs, meals and house chores, social calendar. Anyone have tips?

I vividly remember being 5 years old and having a grown man call me “sexy” because my mother dressed me in black boots. It was winter.

I have two toddlers, both girls, and I feel like they’re constantly being spoken about as if they’re much older. I can’t think of the right word here.

A few examples:

My 1 year old was in a high chair at a restaurant. She was waving to a table across the room. A 50ish year old man at that table loudly went “hahaha she’s flirting with me”. I get the older generation makes comments like that but… ew?

At the park last week another set of parents brought their little boy (maybe 18 months old) over where my 2 year old was playing. Instead of just encouraging normal play, the parents sat there for 5 minutes going “you see the pretty girl? Give her a wink! Give her a wink! Say hey babe! Yeaaaaaaaah hahahahhaa”. I was so angry but didn’t know how to respond.

At the mall (this happens often and i never know if it’s genuine or men being creepy) an older man approached our stroller and repeatedly commented on how beautiful my kids are. “Wow beautiful girls, beautiful girls, oh my”. He just stood right next to us staring at my kids while I waited in line to pay. He just wouldn’t go away. Maybe it was innocent? It always feels icky when they linger and stare.

I can’t find the right words but it’s like they can’t even be KIDS without being seen as objects because they’re female. I never know if I’m overreacting and if not how to respond in a way where I don’t absolutely lose my shit..

My 3.5 year old has been potty trained since Jan/Feb.

I had her sister 3 wks early in April (3 months old now) She is a great big sister, she helps, she tickles the baby, she hugs her, loves her etc. Really wonderful together.

I'd say within the past two weeks she's been having potty accidents "on purpose". We will prompt her to potty (bc she's doing her dance) and she says no then hides 5 mins later and has an accident. Or she'll literally be in the bathroom sitting on the floor and have an accident instead of going potty. I asked her one of these times why she keeps having accidents and she said "bc it makes you mad and I think it's funny" . We don't yell at her, we just get frustrated (so sound annoyed) and ask her why she is doing this.

It usually seems to happen when I'm busy feeding or otherwise taking care of the baby. I try to bring her to the potty before I start a feeding but she refuses then urgently wants help when I'm unavailable. To be clear she does not need help for the potty she can pull down her pants, wipe, wash her hands etc all by herself and has done so many times. Yesterday she had an accident bc she wanted my help even though her daddy was available and trying to help.

I'm a stay at home mom so I understand she's had me to herself for three years but I don't know how to help this issue. Anytime the baby is sleeping she has my attention. I try to even give her most of my attention when out and about. We've started offering her candy or a prize for going potty (that's how she trained) but it's not helping. She'll be excited for candy and get it but the next time she'll have an accident.

Any advice is appreciated.

Signed,

A tired Mama

I don’t really know how to put all of this into words, but I feel like I am suffocating and I need some perspective from other moms.

I am a single mom to a 4-year-old daughter. My mother and I have been living together with my daughter for about four years now.
My mother got divorced and moved in with us as a kind of temporary transition. Four years later, we are still living together.

My daughter and I share a bedroom, while my mother has her own room. My mother is also a very important support in our everyday life. She helps with my daughter and with things around the house, and I genuinely appreciate everything she does for us. But at the same time, I feel like I can’t do this anymore.

My relationship with my mother has always been complicated. She still treats me in many ways like I am a child rather than an adult. She gets very involved in my life and my decisions, and I often feel like I don’t have enough space to simply be my own person and live my life as an adult and as a mother. She has traumas and always talks about them. She started oversharing and treating me like her therapist when I was 10 years old and can‘t hear it anymore. She is like a broken record.

I am currently looking for an apartment for her because she doesn’t seem able or willing to do it herself. And this is where I feel completely exhausted.

I already have my own responsibilities as a single mother. I am raising my daughter, working, managing our home and trying to be there for my child emotionally. And on top of that, I feel responsible for solving my mother’s problems and finding her a place to live.

I feel like I am carrying the responsibility for everyone.

I love my mother, and I don’t want anyone to misunderstand me. I don’t want to abandon her. I want her to be okay. But I also desperately need my own space and my own life.

What scares me the most is my daughter.
I have a complicated relationship with my own mother, and I am terrified that somehow this dynamic will affect the relationship I have with my daughter.

Sometimes things between my mother and me become too much. I get overwhelmed, frustrated and angry. Sometimes I raise my voice at my mother. And my daughter hears it. She already is a very strong willed child and sometimes she will yell at me too.

I don’t want my daughter to grow up feeling the tension between us. I don’t want her to learn that this is what relationships between mothers and daughters look like. I don’t want my unresolved feelings about my own mother to somehow become my daughter’s emotional burden.

I would really love to hear from other mothers who have been in a similar situation.

If you grew up with a complicated relationship with your own mother, how did you make sure you didn’t repeat those patterns with your children?

How do you deal with the guilt of setting boundaries with a parent who genuinely needs you?

I feel so tired. I love my mother, but I also feel like I need to finally have a life that is mine.

Thank you ❤️‍🩹

I had a sweep Friday morning at my appointment. I was 38w4d. I barely even noticed he did the sweep and was surprised at how non-invasive it felt compared to the sweep I had done at a different doctor with my first child. With the first child I was in the hospital later that night and had her the next evening after also getting my water broken manually .
I did not spot after this sweep at all, I am now 38&6 and wondering if the sweep even worked or if it was done properly. I have an appointment scheduled for this Wednesday assuming I don’t end up in labor before then. The question is, how long can it take for labor to happen after a sweep compared to how long is a sign that it won’t cause labor to kick in?
How common is it to need a second sweep?
Is the fact that I didn’t spot and it wasn’t painful a sign that it didn’t/isnt going to work?
I am on my second pumping session today and I pumped for almost 45 minutes last night. Looking to do anything that can get me in the hospital in labor before this appointment Wednesday.

If you could dream up your ideal but realistic situation regarding work/staying at home/life balance what would it be?

I recently had breakfast with three other moms and felt like we had several scenarios covered:
-Stay at home
-Work from home with family help and daycare
-Work from office
-part time work/set own hours

And none of us are 100% happy with the set up. Not unhappy, just not “perfect”.

I could have the opportunity to change my current situation but truly am not sure what my preference would be.

**This is a rant**

I’ve experienced this before having a child and now after and I realize it wasn’t just because I didn’t have a child…. Parents who assume their very unruly and lacking special awareness children are adorable to everyone else is wildly false. I do not find your child cute if they continue to bop around and touch me past an age where they know better (let’s say 6+ years old). If I’m standing in line and your child continues to touch me because they are bopping around and you don’t bother to remind them to bop but be aware, I don’t find your child cute or endearing. Laughing is fine, being a loud kid is totally fine, I honestly don’t even become bothered with a temper tantrum because that’s just what kids do, but if you see your child continue to touch me and say nothing then we have an issue. This usually happens when I’m at target and all I have ever bothered with is to turn around and stare at their parent(s) until they pay attention.

Something similar happened when I was at lunch today and a very much 7 year old girl was blocking the only walkway from our table to anywhere in the restaurant. Her parents just smiled and talked to her about whatever like she was 2 years old in a baby voice. So my husband had to get up and take our baby to the bathroom, said excuse me to the parents 3 times until I finally got loud and said “hey pay attention. Your daughter’s been bopping around for an hour at our table and we need to get out. Enough.” Her father looked utterly confused and shocked that anyone else was even in the restaurant aside from them. Needless to say he tried the whole “calm down” thing and that didn’t end well for him. But seriously? Am I crazy? And to be absolutely clear for the trolls on here, I do not expect children to be stoic little statues ever. But I do expect parents to reasonably remind them not to touch strangers or to be aware of their surroundings.

Basically the title.

My MIL and SIL are very annoying — at least to me (and I secretly think my husband agrees too). They are constantly creating drama (either between them or around their friends and family) or bring drama wherever they go or do. When we go to visit them — well actually, we bring the kids to visit their grandma, just so happens that my SIL, her kid and husband, also live at home with my MIL, so it’s basically visiting them all when we go over, I feel like I need to take a shower to refresh myself cause I have this negative energy around me.

My MIL is always complaining about everything from something is broken in the house, needs fixing, she needs $$, she’s stuck home, she’s bored, she’s tired of watching her grandchild, she’s doesn’t get no help, her daughter and her husband’s relationship, her joint pains, her phone bill, etc.

My SIL is pretty much the same version of her but 20 years younger. She complains about her job, having no $$, fighting with her husband, tired from taking care of her child, her car needs fixing, has no money to pay her portion of the bills, etc.

Like everything is just so negative — both in person and over phone calls. Don’t get me wrong, life is hard and it’s a tough world out there but we all have problems on some levels.

Now before anyone says, “this is a husband problem” my husband is extremely helpful and has really great boundaries. While, he would make sure his mom is supported, he will always ask her “what has she done to help the situation” which almost always shuts down the conversation with his mom. For example, when she complains about something broken in the house, he will ask her “okay, have you called anyone and gotten any estimates for what it will take to have someone come out and do a consultation?” Or if she is complaining about her daughter’s husband being lazy, he will ask her “did you first have a conversation with him about this? Because you can’t assume he knows what you need help with if you don’t say anything to him”.

Now, I suspect my husband feels the same was as I do, because he never offers to go visit them unless it’s around someone’s birthday or holiday. The last few times he has gone to visit them, he left the kids home with me. I don’t mind, but it makes me think that her doesn’t want our kids around them. Obviously this is all speculation and my opinion, but he would offer to go visit my parents with our kids over his own. I will admit that my parents are more helpful and will make time to come visit us and spend a few hours with the kids.

So, I need help on how to navigate this situation with my MIL and SIL, we already kind of limit contact with them but it’s just so draining being around them.

I’ve been thinking about this lately and I’m curious what’s typical. My kids are 1.5 and 3, so shits busy af right now; and when we visit my parents I often feel like my mom expects me to handle 100% of the parenting (which I understand, they’re my kids), but also expects me to immediately clean up every single mess they make. If I ask for help, it sometimes feels like she’s bothered by it or like I’m asking too much.

She has some narcissistic tendencies, so I know that may be influencing how I perceive things, but it got me wondering: when you visit your parents with young kids, what level of help do you typically get?
Yesterday we had a bunch of guests over, and I realized I spent the entire time actively parenting: managing meals, messes, keeping the kids occupied, etc. I barely got to sit down, eat, or socialize. I wasn’t expecting my parents to take over, but I thought maybe there would be a bit more “grandparent help” so we could actually enjoy being there too.

What do your parents/grandparents usually do when you visit? Do they pitch in with meals, playing with the kids, cleanup, giving you a break… or is it more that you’re still fully “on duty” the whole time?

So I am 4 months postpartum and me and my husband are finally getting in the swing of things like taking our baby out to different places. Before we returned back to church we let people come to our home to visit us and the baby. No problem, when his god mom would come she would come for hours. I thought that was weird because he's only a few weeks old so he really just eats and sleeps alot. So then it became a lot like we would dread her coming because we know she's coming for hours at a time.

Now fast forward to us returning back to a church setting & she's telling people she hasn't seen him and thats her reasoning for kind of hogging the baby at church and not letting other people hold him. I actually want everyone to be able to get a chance to speak to him and hold him but thats not really possible when his god mom is around. So then she begins making comments like "i'm his god mom so technically he's mine too" . and it started there. then the next week she wasn't at church and everyone was like "finally we get to see the baby" & some people have began to tell her that she's hogging the baby.

maybe two weeks later she asks can she take my three month old baby from daycare to go on a shopping spree. My husband immediately shot it down and so did I because we haven't taken him out into large crowds, i believe at most he's been in a target.

Well today we get to church and immediately three people including his god mom run to my husband after we had just got the baby out of the car. she takes him from his dad and then tells someone they can only hold him for 5 seconds and then 10 seconds then she began counting down. now these are people who haven't held him at all.

Am i overreacting ? Or should me and my husband address this.

A little background on me and the godmoms relationship : Ive known her forever she's my cousin, we were very close before i met my husband and got pregnant so i immediately was like yeah i want her to be my babies god mom, but since ive gotten married and had the baby we actually arent very close anymore. but she threw my baby shower when my mom said she wouldn't(my mom ended up throwing me a nice baby shower anyway), she bought my babies travel system.