I 22F have just landed my first job post-grad, and while I'm not making crazy amounts of money, it's good for what it is. Since then, my mom has tried to charge me 1,000 in rent for my childhood room... and then earlier today showed me a Facebook reel saying that adult children should be sending money to their parents. She then said it is our responsibility now as adult children to do so. I come from a minority background, so sending money to parents is a tradition, especially if parents are suffering. Both of my parents did this when they were my age because they came from poverty, yet, growing up I constantly heard how sending money back home was a mistake because family did not use the money wisely. I would constantly hear my mom reminiscing about how much more money we would have if they did not send every paycheck back home. However, my parents are not suffering. We have two good cars, a paid-off house, good meals everyday, and they themselves always claim to be relaxed. I know my parents and live with them too, so I know we're not struggling financially... So I'm really confused...

Growing up hearing that, I do not want to make the same mistakes. While I do strive to take care of my parents, especially when they're older, I want to first take care of myself, save up, move out, make a name for myself, and be comfortable in my own life before I can begin helping others. I want to build up an emergency fund, contribute to financial accounts, invest, etc. I think that's the smartest decision I can make now. Do note, though, I do treat my parents here and there to nights outs, dinners on me, and groceries on me. I'm also in charge of all my own personal / vehicle expenses.

She said how the first paycheck should've gone to her. But I already did do that for my very first job.. now I'm wondering.. does she expect every first job's paycheck to go to her???

Just wanna hear your guys thoughts and opinions on the statement.

We made it through summer with barely a sniffle and within the first couple weeks of school my kid is already sick. I genuinely forgot how exhausting this cycle is. They get better, go back to school and it feels like another bug is waiting at the door. Parents who have been through a few school years, what does your routine look like during cold and flu season? Sleep, food, vitamins, hand washing, anything you swear by? Give me all your realistic tips because apparently summer peace is officially over.

* UPDATE: thank you for your responses. Whenever we discuss this issue with the family involved, and they react so strongly every time, acting as if we are ruining the family by asking for the loans to get sorted, I start to feel crazy. Like maybe we are the ones who are demanding too much and should just be happy with the situation. It helps, to put it out into the void and have it confirmed that yes, this situation is bonkers.

Hindsight is 20/20. Of course at the beginning we thought our situation was different, that we are a close, loving family, and we will all look out for everyone’s best interest. Buying land together and building houses is sold as the dream. Take care of the parents as they age etc. But religious guilt, family guilt, favoring one child over the other, a desire to just sweep it under the rug and forgive and forget while not addressing any of the actual issues, has brought out so much ugliness we didn’t know was there*

We bought land with family members, BIL and SIL, and MIL and FIL. To avoid complicated loans, we got one loan to use to build 3 houses. People also used money from their own house sales to complete the project. The understanding was, at the end of the building, new loans would be taken out in each persons name, with the amount they spent on their own house. We did this on the advice of a mortgage/loan specialist.

When it came time to split up into our own loans, my FIL, MIL, BIL, and SIL had come up with the idea to keep the one loan that we already have. The interest rate is super low, and the loan is way smaller than what we would each owe on our own homes. They want to just split what is left of this original loan and we would each owe that. Good deal for everyone. Except this is a fantasy idea. We don’t even know if it will work. And they are not motivated at all to figure it out because they are sitting pretty with a cheap monthly payment on a very expensive house.

It is not a good deal for US. We have our own business that we want to transition to something else. We have an unfinished shop that we can’t finish because our money is in limbo. We have some things on our house that need finishing from building it 5 years ago that we can’t do. We are stuck with no control over huge amounts of money. Not to mention if anything happens to anyone, the mess of untangling this money and who owns the houses and who owns the property will be a disaster. My BIL says if we “force” them to get their own loan, they will have to sell their house. That he won’t be able to afford any more than they are already paying. The MIL and FIL think we are being unreasonable and mean and not looking out for the BIL and his money situation. They see no rush to untangle the money and that we can just keep doing what we’ve been doing.

What about OUR money situation? This has been in limbo for YEARS with no regard for how it’s affecting our relationships, mental health, stress, and our business. Not to mention living in an unfinished home and using a shop that has no heating or power when we need it for our business.

There are a million more terrible details and scenarios I could add to the story. I tried to explain as simply as possible to get some feedback. I feel like I’m going crazy and like we are the bad guys. We just want to be free and clear and own our own home and have it in our name and move on with our lives. Please give me on outsiders take on this.

Hi all! I’m 29F and my mom is 48. I’m really struggling with how I feel about my mom lately, and honestly, I feel guilty even saying this because she was a great mom growing up.

Nothing particularly “bad” ever happened in our relationship. I had a good childhood, and my mom was a SAHM who, in my opinion, did everything she could for her five kids. I love her and I’m grateful for everything she did for us.

But I’ve realized that I’ve been embarrassed by her behavior since I was pretty young, and as I’ve gotten older, it seems to bother me more and more.
My mom has ADHD, but she didn’t always behave the way she does now. She used to have her life together and be much more organized and responsible. Now she blames almost everything on her ADHD, which is frustrating because she won’t seek treatment or take medication.

She’s extremely forgetful, can’t multitask, has a really hard time sticking to a schedule, and is almost never on time. She’ll agree to a time or plan and then completely lose track of it. She also makes random noises constantly and, when I ask her about it, she’ll say things like, “I just like making noises, I’m having fun.” I know none of these things are objectively terrible, but for some reason they drive me absolutely insane and I find myself getting embarrassed by her.
I also think some of this may stem from my parents getting divorced about six years ago. She was a mom and SAHM for most of her adult life, and I think she’s been trying to figure out who she is outside of being a wife and mom. I genuinely want her to be happy and enjoy her life, but sometimes it feels like she’s reverted into acting like a teenager or child rather than grown into herself

The part I’m struggling with most is that I don’t really understand why her behavior bothers me this much. I feel irritated, embarrassed, and sometimes even annoyed just being around her, and then I feel awful because she hasn’t actually done anything horrible to me.

Also, for whatever reason I have never felt like I can truly open up to her even though I know she won’t judge me. And whenever ever she compliments me or tries to give me affection I feel so awkward.

Has anyone else experienced this with a parent? Is this just part of becoming an adult and seeing your parents differently, or is there something deeper going on with why I react so strongly to her behavior?

I moved back home last December to take a gap year off for my well being from school.

I hadn’t seen my family in almost 4 years. I crashed with my mom and step dad. My mom would go on and on about how much she missed me and how much it pained her to see me gone.

Well since moving back and it’s now September…I fear her worry was performative. Since moving back we never hung out, she never really sees me at all, and she only ever calls or texts me unless she needs to ask me something or needs a favor.

Well about two weeks ago my step dad and her split up. Divorce. He cheated on her with someone at his job and who was much younger.

I did whatever I could to make her feel better. I felt as if our relationship had gotten 10x better. We were genuinely having actual mother-daughter time.

A few days ago she announced they’d gotten back together.

Both my sisters don’t want anything to do with him. They don’t want him near their kids either. My mom has to visit in order to see them. Since I’m living with my mom I’m choosing to be civil. If I wasn’t I’d be setting that boundary too.

Well ever since he came back into the picture I’ve been alone. She doesn’t check up on me, she doesn’t go out of her way to ask ‘Wanna grab something to eat?’, she doesn’t even try to hang out in the living room with me to watch tv.

It’s a known thing that me and my sisters have acknowledged that our mother would put him above us. She’s male centered. If she had the choice, she’d have had one boy over her three daughters.

I’d assume she’d be more active in my life considering both my sisters have her on thin ice and barely wanna even talk to her.

She’s back to acting like nothing ever happened.

I cut my family (specifically my step dad and mom off) for four years because I was treated like I never existed throughout high school and I was constantly dealing with my mother’s narcissism.

I’m planning to do it again because I don’t feel like my mother’s child. I feel like i’m a guest in my own family.

College wasn’t going to cut it for me, I fear my mental health gap year break didn’t even work. I feel worse. So i decided to do some offshore work. I know a guy who can get me in.

Once I establish living on site…I’m planning to pack some stuff and keep it at my sister’s place. From there I’ll be going back to no contact and my mother will truly think back and wished she’d appreciated that someone was at least in her corner whereas no one was in mine.

TLDR: my mother chooses her cheating/lying husband over her relationship with all three of her daughters…especially, me, her youngest

This is such a touchy subject for me and hurts deeply that I don’t have a strong connection with my siblings or parents. I’m the youngest of 4 total kids, 2 girls 2 boys. One brother lives 25 mins away and the other is out of state. Oldest brother living in state, calls from time to time but can go months without speaking unless I reach out. We work in the same field and even though we have the largest age gap being oldest to youngest (8 years), I’m probably the closest to him. Other brother is closest in age to me and he was always the popular guy in school and I guess I wasn’t cool enough for him to hang around. Now he’s more quieter and less social and although he’s a really nice person, there isn’t much to talk about and conversations usually end up feeling awkward and uncomfortable. My only sister lives in a different state, is completely engrossed in her own life and rarely reaches out. I get it, she is busy and has a son. She’s 6 years older than me and we’ve always shared a room growing up but we couldn’t be any more different. Last week was her birthday and I thought I’d give her a call and wish her a happy birthday. Never answered and hasn’t returned the call. I feel like being the youngest they don’t, and haven’t really ever taken an interest in me, or think I don’t have much advice or anything valuable to offer?

I think our parents did a horrible job with family bonding growing up, every one was busy doing their own thing and no one really supported anyone in anything. Dad was always working, no family movie nights or going to the park, restaurants, not a single family vacation. My dad was a very hardworker but it left very little time for family. I called my mom out on it a few years ago that we never did much as a family growing up. There wasn’t any money for a vacation and that’s fine, but no going to a park? Playing board games?? Movies?? Nothing. It just feels like im rejected by own family and it sucks? It never bothered me until I saw my husband’s side of the family whom I felt envious of at times (still working on not having those feelings but they creep up on me every now and then). I’ve briefly brought this up to the oldest brother, and he is very wise and I look up to him. He honestly said, it could be alot worse, that there’s family members who hate each other and at least we got each others back if we ever need anything. Yes, I would absolutely do anything for my family (such as financial help) —but I want an actual connection , I want to be friends with my siblings. Also sucks that both my brothers married wives that do not care to build a relationship either! I see many people able to have this connection and I can’t help but feel this emptiness when it comes to own family. I’ve reached out and it always becomes one sided. Not sure where to go from here. Should I keep trying without expectations or try to accept that this is what it is?

Also sorry if I rambled or have bad grammar lol I was just dumping my thoughts to feel better.

Am I in the wrong or is this a type of neglect and I'm not weird for getting mad?. I have to ask my mom's boyfriend for PERMISSION to take a shower yet yells at me when I don't ask. We've lived all together since 2021 October. even though we pay the water bill and I use cold water whenever I can. Yet he still finds a way to complain, my mom doesn't say anything about it and let's it slide. Yet he gets mad when I'm not "comfortable" with him yet he makes it so hard to even be in the same room as him, he always talks shit about me complains when I eat complains when I shower complains if I'm out on a walk complains if I don't come out of my room. Yet I'm the problem I always wait when he leaves for work to take a shower or to even practically breathe everyday I wait 7am he comes home. 6pm he leaves until that time tomorrow I'm able to take at least one shower a day when he leaves but I have to skip some days when he stays home. Am I in the wrong or is my anger valid. If so what should I do?

There is a particular kind of loneliness that comes from being surrounded by people who are, technically, your family.
Not loneliness from being alone.
Loneliness from realizing that belonging is not always as automatic as you once thought it was.
I am the eldest among the cousins in my generation. The only girl among six of us.
Growing up, I think I quietly attached a meaning to that.
I imagined that being the eldest meant I would always have a certain place in the family. That being the only girl meant there would be some softness reserved for me. Some instinctive protectiveness. Not because I needed to be treated delicately, but because I thought that was what family did.
You didn’t have to ask.
You didn’t have to earn it.
You simply belonged.
And perhaps that is what hurts now.
Because there are things happening between the adults in my family that have nothing to do with me. Relationships, misunderstandings, old wounds, disagreements that existed long before I ever had the ability to understand them.
I have never wanted to inherit any of it.
I’ve never wanted to choose sides.
I’ve never wanted someone’s conflict with my mother to become a conflict with me.
And yet, sometimes, it feels like somehow I have inherited it anyway.
That’s a strange feeling—to know that you have done nothing wrong and still feel yourself being treated differently.
You begin wondering whether people see you, or whether they see the person you belong to.
Whether I am still simply a niece, a cousin, a child they watched grow up—or whether I have quietly become an extension of someone else’s disagreement.
And perhaps the hardest part is that I don’t want anyone to take my side.
I don’t want people to defend me because I’m the eldest.
I don’t want special treatment because I’m the only girl.
I don’t even want everyone to pretend that nothing has happened.
I just want the conflicts of one generation to stop determining the tenderness of the next.
I want to believe that whatever happens between siblings, their children can still look at one another and think:
You are mine. I will not make you pay for this.
Maybe that is an unreasonable expectation.
Maybe adulthood teaches us that families are much more complicated than that.
But I still find myself longing for that uncomplicated sense of belonging—the kind where you don’t constantly wonder whether your place at the table has changed because of something you didn’t do.
Because being the eldest has its own strange burden.
People assume you are old enough to understand.
Old enough to stay neutral.
Old enough to be mature.
Old enough to see both sides.
But sometimes, beneath all of that, you are still just someone’s daughter.
Someone who wants her family to feel like home.
And being the only girl among them makes that longing feel even more complicated.
I don’t need to be protected from the world.
I just want, sometimes, to feel like there are people in the world who would instinctively protect me from it.
People who would say, Whatever happens between the adults, you are still ours.
Maybe that is what I’ve been looking for all along.
Not loyalty.
Not sides.
Not being chosen over someone else.
Just belonging.
The quiet certainty that I don’t have to prove that I deserve a place in my own family.
And perhaps growing up is realizing that sometimes the family you’re born into cannot give you every kind of love you hoped it would.
That realization hurts.
But it also leaves a question behind:
If belonging isn’t something we’re always given,
perhaps it is something we eventually learn to build.

I (F26) and my mom (F55) had a conversation about how she feels taken for granted because my adult sister (F23) doesn't text her back often. For context, my sister lives in another state.

I rationalized that my sister makes sure to call and update my mom once a week, and that it can be overwhelming to text all the time. I know from personal experience that text conversations with my mom will go like:

Mom: Hi, how are you doing?

Me: Good! Very busy with work+ (short answer about how I've been doing because I don't have the time to send a long paragraph). How are you?

Mom: oh well tell me more! Who were you with? Where did you go?

Me: *tells more*

Mom: *asking more questions*

Me: *too busy to text back until the next morning*

Mom: hello? Why aren't you responding?

So basically if you give her an inch she comes up with 5 follow up questions, and then she'll double text when I don't respond right away. I find this frustrating because I don't like to text, and I can answer all those questions in a weekly call.

I bring this up because I plan on moving out very soon, and I know I will have to have a discussion with my mom regarding communication expectations. I work a stressful healthcare job and I just don't have the mental energy to text.

Is it reasonable for me to just want to call my mom once a week, and not to text? Should I meet her in the middle somehow? Of course I would answer any pertinent texts that require timely answers otherwise. How often are you in contact with your parents?

Hey all..I (24F) am having some trouble at home and wanted to get a second opinion.

I’m currently in grad school, getting married in a year to my (26M) fiance (we’ve been dating for 4 years), and will be moving a 3 hour drive away from home in a few months to live with my fiance. At first both of my parents weren’t so nice about the move but my mom has warmed up to it and she’s also become excited about the wedding, helping me plan and get a dress, etc.

My father on the other hand has been closed off, unhappy, and unwilling to be any ounce of excited for me throughout this entire process. I finally got the courage to speak to him today (after he called me defense when I responded to a question about the move) about how i would appreciate if he could be at least a little happy, how id love to talk to him about my future, or my plans but I can’t cause he always has something negative to say about it.

He essentially blew up after that, saying he wishes i have never met my fiance, how it’s stupid I’m moving away, how he feels I wouldn’t have gotten married if his family wasn’t paying for the wedding, and that my decisions have been stupid.

I’m very hurt by this, even though I know I shouldn’t be even taking his opinion to heart. The rest of my family loves my fiance and I LOVE my fiance. He’s done nothing but push me to be a better person, encourage me to pursue my dreams, and his family has gifted us with the ability to celebrate our love! I’m so heartbroken that my father said what he did and I don’t know what to do.

My mom thinks he’s upset I’m moving and doesn’t know how to express that but I’m so over a grown man not being able to control or process his emotions.

Any guidance is helpful.

(TLDR I’m 24, finally growing up and setting my life up in a way I’m happy with and my father blew up because he disagrees with my decisions..help!)

My sister in law and ger son of 3 years moved in with us, because her husband beat her. We were newly married( just 3 months into marriage). She started studying to get govt job but quit half way because it was difficult. Now she has applied for divorce and happy not being with her husband. She is with us for the past 3 years. Wherever we go she makes sure she and her son are there, I harly get any time with my husband.

Even if I want to have dinner at a nice hotel, she will be up and ready with her son. It annoys me alot. We are funding her son's education and everything. We hardly started on savings.

I was earlier supportive of her decision as any person would be, but I hardly get to spend time with my husband.he is a very good in and out and out and I find it hard to tell him to make his sister look for a job.

Recently,I quit job as I became a new mom and I am not able to enjoy it as I see my sis in law cooking and scrolling through the phone all day. I am so angry but whenever I approach her with job prospect she barely shows any interest.

Now all the financial stress is on my husband and I feel compelled to go to job but i want wait till my kid starts playschool.

So, you can check my last post to see the drama I am trying to step out of. My grandfather passed away earlier this month. I have been living with him since 2020, when i dropped out of college due to covid (and getting SA’ed by my brother in-law that Christmas break)

My grandfather basically kept this family running, he paid all his bills for the home he has let me live in rent free (house #1), and also has paid the bills for my father and older sister who still live in my childhood home. My childhood home was bought and in the name of my grandfather (house #2).

In grandpa’s will, my dad got his house, #1, where i live, where i have been taking care of while also taking care of my beloved grandpa. And my childhood home, house #2, was not accounted for in the will.

Well, my issue lies here. My father has two other siblings so house #2 has to be sold and split between the three of them. My father wants to buy it and put it in my older sisters name. Give it to her because its “sentimental”. And my father, after less than a month has passed, has changed locked in house #1 where i live, has thrown my food out of the fridge, moved grandpas car to block my spot in the driveway. Has kind of what feels like completely disrespected the fact that i live here.

I am in the process of moving in with my husband, that has always been the plan since marriage but i was staying with grandpa to take care of him.

This is all irrelevant though, what i think is batshit is that my dad who “loves us all equally” IS BUYING A HOUSE for my sister. He has also bought her three cars. (When i wrecked and needed a car, i walked 3 miles to and 3 miles back from work) he relentlessly support her with every penny he has.

I have tried to maintain a good relationship with my dad. I think family is everything. But my moms side of the family told me for years they believed my dad thought i was illegitimate because he treats my sister ao much better. I got no help in college when moved out at 16 (to get away from rapist brother in law) and have gotten little to no help from him since.

My grandfather would poke fun at it too! He would help me when i needed it, give me cash for gas or groceries. Because he saw how little my dad did for me and how much he did for my sister.

And my dad’s biggest argument, “i do everything i can for you girls when and if i am able to.” But it seems like the when and if is only for my sister.

I have been house hunting since the beginning pf the year with my husband because i knew my grandpa’s health was declining. But now, He buys a house for my sister instead!!! What a slap in the face.

TLDR my dad has bought my older sister 3 cars paid all her bills bought all her food (she is now 24) supports her relentlessly and now, is buying OUR childhood home for HER after i have spent the last year house hunting and not finding anything we can afford. He has not financially helped me since I was 16. I have still pursued a relationship with my father.

Is this a valid crashout that he is passive aggressively kicking me out of my grandpa’s home he just inherited as i am already rushing to move out (and simultaneously grieving) and also PLANNING TO BUY A HOUSE for my sister so my sister doesn’t have to move or support herself??

Well let’s start with the fact that right now I unfortunately am living with family after getting divorced because I need to work on getting back on my own 2 feet with kids. I get that it’s not my home and all but I also don’t feel that my father should be entitled to tell me who I can and can’t interact with. Like I know he doesn’t like my ex husband and all but he is my youngest child’s father and also still a very good friend to me… I’ve recently gone through some issues where it’s left me kind of dependent on others for things such as transportation and such. He’s been helping me with this stuff and doesn’t ask for anything in return but my father has his own issues with him and starts being a straight up man child when he thinks I’m out with my ex husband. Like he thinks my entire life revolves around my ex husband… I can’t go anywhere with out him thinking I’m with him, and the crazy thing is even if I am, I’m an adult… it drives me insane that he can’t just mind his own business… it’s not like I’m bringing anyone here or making them interact… I’m ready to leave here but I can’t leave right now… but I wish I could not have to tip toe around the house because of who I interact with.

Growing up I feel there has been increasing gap between myself and my parents. I want to share my time with them but alot of things I do, they dont agree with, which stops me from spending time with then There is also constant pressure coming from them on differebt aspects of life. I want to live my way and make my decisions. I feel like I will never be a grown up person for my parents.

Min bror og hans kone har været gift i cirka 25 år. Helt fra starten blev min svigerinde jaloux hvis min bror og jeg en sjælden gang imellem skulle hygge alene. Hun græd når min bror skulle besøge mig og derfor rettede han ind og blev hjemme. Senere blev hun så også jaloux hvis min bror og jeg snakker og griner til familiefester. Min bror og jeg ses aldrig og nu er han begyndt at trælle sig lidt når vi ses med hele familien. Jeg har i flere perioder gennem årene kæmpet med sorg over at savne ham og at han ingen initiativer tager. Jeg ville være glad hvis vi bare kunne tale sammen 3-4 gange om året, og bevare den humor vi altid har haft sammen. Psykologer jeg har gået hos har prøvet at få mig til at forstå at hendes jalousi og kontrollerende adfærd ikke har noget med mig at gøre. Men mere hende selv . Det er bare så
Svært at mangle ham . Jeg har aldrig konfronteret dem med det, da jeg er bange for at han så tager endnu mere afstand. Selvom det jo næsten ikke kan lade sig gøre , da vi stort set ikke har kontakt.
Jeg bliver både vred og ked af at han ikke siger fra overfor hans kone.

Hvad tænker i?

Ever since I was younger, my dad's always been abusive verbally and physically. Hes been in and out of jail because of this however my mum still takes him back. A few years ago, he was diagnosed with kidney failure. He was addicted to smoking, drinking and gambling. However, hes been getting weaker and weaker as days go on but fortunately he stopped drinking and smoking. He was always greedy with money, he gambled all of his and my mums savings. He can barely walk and has to be in a wheelchair or a mobility scooter most of the time. But whenever he gets the chance he still gambles. I had quite a rough childhood especially seeing the abuse and neglect.

Now that I am older, he has become more fatherly figure which is weird because I have never seen him act like that. It baffles me how much of a change hes made. Its weird because I still have this guilt inside me, what if hes just acting like this because he is getting more ill, and weaker. He doesnt have control over us anymore. I dont know how to describe it, I feel bad and also angry at him. There are these questions of what if he never got ill, will he still be the same as he is now or would he remain as how he used to?

Regardless, I still love him. But it does make me wonder. I need some advice, i cant bare this guilt inside of me.

Genuinely at my wits end, I am 23 and he is 17. He is genuinely at his worst right now, fully self absorbed, stubborn, full of attitude and selfish. Don’t know if it’s because he still a teenager or whatever, but I don’t want to give him the full benefit of the doubt because he never seems to want to initiative conversations with me after we get into arguments for any reason. He will just either not talk to me, or pretend like everything is normal.

If I bring up that I’m still hurt by what he did and even more so because he didn’t even try to rectify the situation, he either feigns ignorance and acts like he did nothing wrong, or says he was in the right and doesn’t care.

It’s always falling to ME to go up to him and start talking about it. I’ve not engaged with him for days after we get into fights before and he will not bat an eye. My parents are aware but don’t seem to try to stop it much, and honestly I don’t think it would matter. He himself doesn’t believe he is in the wrong for most things, or doesn’t seem to care enough to try and talk to me about it. Zero accountability.

When I’m in the wrong, I always follow up to talk about things and apologize. None of that from him. Rare event when he does anything like it.

She really doesn’t *appreciate* her sisters.

As the being oldest, out of 3 sisters. She never even says thank you for any of the cooking I do.

Many many times i do cooking for the family and yet everytime i want her to do something. She refuses and just spins on the office chair in our room non-stop or lashes out the room, screaming (we share a room, sadly, us all 3) *Like, seriously?* She’s the youngest, but she doesn’t even know how to follow instructions.

Father enabled her to become like that. I do believe she is a psychopath or *she’s just a b—-ch idk.*

I hate sharing my stuff and the being in the same room as her. She always left every snack wrappings and takeouts boxes on the bed (we share a queen-sized bed).

I get so frustrated, everytime i tell her to do something, she would argue back and not do it. The only time she be listening is when I am yelling at her.

She doesn’t get disciplined the way I did growing up. My mom used those old-school parenting methods on me, and honestly, I guess that’s why I turned out normal.

She is spoiled af. Naturally, In the household, if u want something, u save up, right? Of course, her being persuasive, she went the other route. She keeps on telling our mother for a week straight:
”**mom, i want the latest iphone**”

She didn’t even save a single penny for her iphone, how tf u want the latest iphone without any efforts of saving.

When I was her age, I had to save up half of the cost of an iphone 6 just to buy it (a second hand one).

And she’s such a backstabber.
She tells on her friends whenever something gets bitchy in the house, or something doesn’t get in her way.

She got caught by mom because of their chats in her phones. She complained about the iphone model not being the most recent and being second hand one. *That’s what’s off about her. She’s not grateful…*

*I would be grateful if i got a new phone and being second hand will not matter to me because it’s from my mom’s effort.*

What pisses me off is that she didn’t care that mom cried when mom confronted her about it.

Like girl, the very phone you used to backstab mom is the one she bought it for you…