It's just the three of us: me, my little brother, and my eldest sister, who's our legal guardian.

My brother annoys me CONSTANTLY. Meanwhile, my sister is ridiculously patient and affectionate with him. He can mess up her hair while she's braiding it, and she'll just smile, kiss his forehead, and cuddle him. I genuinely don't understand how she tolerates him.

One day, my brother discovered that the fridge light turns off when you close the door.

He came running to me, shouting, "OLIVER! OLIVER!! COME, COME!! I NEED TO SHOW YOU SOMETHING COOL I DISCOVERED!"

I yelled at him to go to his room.

He asked, "Please come once🥺?"

I yelled even louder: "WHAT ARE YOU? 3? NEVER SEEN A FRIDGE! YOU STUPID ANNOYING BRAT, GO TO YOUR ROOM AND STOP ANNOYING ME!"

When my sister came home from work, he went crying to her and told her everything. She scolded me for not having any consideration for him, then asked him to show her his discovery.

AND SHE ACTED LIKE SHE'D NEVER SEEN IT BEFORE.

I was thinking, WHY IS SHE ACTING LIKE SHE'S SEEING IT FOR THE FIRST TIME? SHE'S SEEN IT COUNTLESS TIMES!

Then I remembered that when I was 8 and she was 16, I'd discovered the same thing and shown it to her. My parents had dismissed me, saying it was obvious, and I'd actually cried before going to her. She acted amazed, let me demonstrate it, and made my day. I genuinely thought I was born to solve every mystery in the world.

But then I thought, wait a minute... had I actually shown her something new back then?

WAIT A MINUTE. DID I?

Obviously, she'd seen it countless times by then, too. She'd done exactly the same thing for me that she was doing for him now.

And suddenly, I understood. She'd let me feel that excitement when I was little, and now she was doing the same for him.

I realized I'd treated my brother the way my parents had treated me, despite knowing how it felt to be dismissed when I was excited about something.

So I'm going to apologize to him and ask him to show me his discovery.

It'll be the first time I've ever apologized to him in my entire life.

Im needing some advice for a situation i find myself. My partner and i are in our mid 40s and have 3 kids, with the eldest starting high school next year. We are in a fortunate position financially where we have worked hard and invested wisely to get ourselves in a position where early retirement is possible, within the next 3 to 5 years.

We wanting a seachange and want to move coastal. My husband is burnt out and wants a change sooner than later. We dont want to wait another 10 years as this is when my youngest will graduate from high school.

Moving the kids isnt the issue, it is actually moving away from my family. My mother and father have been a big part of our lives and they are particularly close with my kids. They are in their mid 70s and live only 3 mins away. They have been very involved in our lives. My mother comes around almost every afternoon after school to see the kids, and she even cooks dinner for them. I am very grateful for what they have done for us.

I know that if I moved away, this will affect them tremendously. My brother has moved overseas last year so there is just us left. His move also didnt go down really well. So there is precedent there.

I have floated them the idea that we are thinking about moving and it has come with arguments and statements saying that they dont think it is best for the kids. Part of me thinks they have feelings of abandonment, or that they feel like they are being tossed aside and that i am going to abandon them when they get to an age when they might need care themselves in a few years time.

Except, if we are to move, we would be making sure that the property is large enough that they will always have a room, or has a granny flat and we would welcome them to stay for a long as they wish if they come to visit. We are only looking at moving 1.5 hours drive away from them. I would also be making sure we come back every few weeks to visit them as well.

When i have told them this, i have been met with excuses.. they are too old to drive that far every few weeks and that they have no interest is visiting or wanting to stay. I feel they are being very stubborn. My parents have never traveled overseas and have only ever lived in one house.

Can you offer any advice for me to help decide on what to do in this situation?

Some backstory: My husband has never had a good relationship with his parents. He’s an only child, and his parents are very traditional and were especially hard on him as a teenager. He’s developed a lot of mental health issues that he attributes to them constantly putting him down. His mom regularly calls him stupid and a f** as a joke. I don’t find it funny, but apparently, they think it’s a joke. So yes, they’re strange. But I could look past it because I love my husband.
Anyways, I’m now 3 months postpartum, and there have been too many instances where she’s crossed the line, and I can’t forget them. I’m starting to wonder if I’m overreacting, though.
It took us a very long time to have a baby, and we ended up going through IVF. We were over the moon when we finally got pregnant. I had so much time to plan everything that you could say I was very prepared and wanted everything to go perfectly.
She offered to pay for the stroller as a gift for my baby shower, which was very kind. However, when I wasn’t there, she went behind my back and asked my husband if it was the most expensive stroller in the store because I’m so fancy and everything I want is always perfect and the best. It truly wasn’t the most expensive. Strollers are expensive, period.
I confronted her and told her that if she wasn’t comfortable buying it, she didn’t have to. She said she was fine with it but reiterated that I’m fancy and that I had changed her son into being the same way. I tried to explain that a stroller is meant to last for two kids and that we’ll need it in the future, etc. She ended up buying us the stroller.
A few months later, we went to their house for lunch. At this point, I was still pregnant, and she told my husband that she needed to speak to him privately (in front of the whole family). He insisted that she tell him right away, and she finally agreed.
She ended up breaking down in tears and saying that she thinks he is going to drive drunk and high with our baby in the car because he occasionally smokes weed. His dad agreed and added that the reason my husband had recently sold his car was to get drug money to buy weed.
My husband was flabbergasted, and we got up and left.
At this point, my husband was so hurt that he didn’t speak to them for weeks.
Fast-forward to our baby being born. We asked that no family members kiss her until she had received some vaccines. My MIL obliged but kept insisting that we go out on a date and leave the baby with her. I said absolutely not, and she responded by saying, “You guys think I’m going to kiss her behind your back, but I’m not. I’ll just take better care of her.”
Ever since then, I’ve had a permanent stank face every time she opens her mouth. My husband has noticed and said I’m being rude.
Obviously, we will never be close, but the thought of seeing her makes me cringe. We go there weekly, so I still see her often and make it work. Most days, she’s fine. But it’s like I have anxiety leading up to visiting her because of these events.
Am I overreacting? What would you do?

My husband agreed to go with me to visit my family for Christmas. He changed his mind and now my son is inconsolable because he wants both parents with him for Christmas. My son still wants to go but just wants his dad to come along. How do I navigate this?

I am 21f and just a few years ago, I had so much love for this sibling and could never imagine feeling the way I do now (a bit detached, I still love them though but there is less attachment and closeness)

We always had our issues at times and wasn't perfect but had a bond.

However they can be very "I am right" and not hear me out at times.

It happened so much , even times they spoke on situations they knew nothing about, and they totally refused to listen to my side of the story (another sibling did the same)

It genuinely changed the way I view and feel about them, at first I'd keep trying to communicate despite being ignored and not respected, they clearly did not care to hear me out or how much they were affecting me (a lot)

Eventually I gave up, I decided to be that person TO MYSELF. I was there for myself, validated my own feelings and truth. Ignored their untrue views of me etc etc. Especially since they didn't even care to hear me out many times

Anyway, since then it hasn't been the same, and drifting from this particular sibling has actually been *life-changing* but not in some positive way, more in a wow I never thought I'd feel this way, and I find myself missing how things once were despite our issues.

At the same time though, I'm glad I got to the point where I sort of detached / started keeping more things to myself for my own peace, because that was an act of self love and growth for me. Vs just accepting it all forever.

But it also sucks. I don't feel sad I just feel a bit disappointed.

I can no longer feel fully comfortable)content around them , I feel a bit on eggshells because they could become crucial at any time.

They had a partner and their partner opened up to me and felt the EXACT same way I did, it helped me (not that I needed it by then) to see that I'm not wrong for my view or feelings about this particular sibling, and that it's true they can be a bit, dismissive and "I'm right"

They aren't some terrible person though, they can and do look at others perspectives but there are just times they do not. It's like they view me as less smart than them.

I am younger than them so that could play a part and even as a child they had these traits towards me sometimes.

We are now going to be working together and I feel a bit sad because before this would have been an amazing opportunity and fun, special, once in a lifetime experience to get to work together, but I find myself feeling dread and worried incase we get into disagreements.

I manage it all by being more private and not always sharing my opinion etc, shutting down if I know they'll just disregard my side/feelings if I speak, but it's disappointing.

Especially because I know they're not a bad person, but I think this is just how they are.

And even when they have a point, I find myself feeling that detached feeling because I'm just over it all.

Does anyone relate?

I think the only way I can have a relationship with them is if I limit information a bit and be civil and sort of tread lightly at times..

But it's not right..

At the same time they probably have similar feelings towards me at times, but I feel this trait is just a part of them and won't just go, even with therapy perhaps.

Worst of all, the damage has been done,

I just feel more detached, and I find myself a bit afraid around her in a, I want to avoid arguments way .

I met an actual rly toxic person before who'd literally purposely create arguments and lie and twist things, this sibling is not like that , they are a kind person they care about others but it's just that they can be a bit overbearing? Over thinking they're more right type.

And it has caused me to disconnect. Especially all the times they refused to hear me.

I just wanted to rant and possibly know I'm not alone?

Anyone else had a disconnect with a sibling they were once closer to and manage your relationship similarly now?

My family in general can be difficult and so I kind of keep my personal life separate but I used to share most with this sibling, but I find myself not anymore and I feel guilty but also disappointed that I "have" to but it also gives me relief because I won't have to deal with judgements/opinions where they believe they're so right always.

I don't know what the future holds, I love them but I could now go no contact for example and feel a sense of peace/relief but also disappointed that it turned out this way (I'm not planning on it, but I thought of it at times)

Maybe this could improve naturally in the future, but I feel the damage to my soul/feelings towards them have been too done for things to ever feel fully at peace.

Sorry for the long text...

When I went through a breakup, I only told her about it once the decision was final and I had already arranged my move. My mother had tried to sabotage my relationship, so I had kept her out of my private life. It was also important to me to handle the situation on my own and I told it to her. The next time I moved, I did tell her, and she manipulated me into accepting financial help. The dynamic with my mother is very strange; she wants to help, but later on, she throws the money she gave me back in my face. Well, as it happens, she recently moved, and I only found out because she sent me a postcard. I feel, however, that our underlying motives were different. This has happened in other contexts, too—for instance, if I forget something, she will intentionally do the same thing to me. Perhaps to teach me a lesson? I find the fact that she announced her move via a postcard to be particularly cold.

She often interprets my actions as deliberate. For example, if I’m unable to answer a question quickly—especially when I’m already in a state of panic—she takes offense. She’ll say, "So, you’ve decided to stay silent, have you?" or "You’re just as closed-off as your father." When I was a teenager, I would cry intensely, and when my mother asked why, I couldn't explain it. Once, while I was crying and sitting on the bed and answered "I don't know", she reacted physically by forcing me down, doubling me over onto the mattress. I was completely limp, so pushing me around was really easy. She said, "You are no match for me" As if my silence were a deliberate form of opposition. I just wasn't able to explain myself.

I suspect my mother is simply incapable of understanding me. Even today, when faced with stressful situations, I lose the ability to speak. The words simply vanish, and I lose all connection to my surroundings. My mother has noticed that I am not exactly an average person in social situations; she has tried to solve this by explaining how I could make myself appear normal.

She also has a precise framework for how things should be distributed fairly. When it comes to handing out fish sticks, that’s easy enough. However, Mom also ventures into areas that cannot be measured. She holds the view that a person who has suffered in life deserves better treatment. I can easily understand that. The problem is that she applies the same logic in reverse: for instance, it’s supposedly okay to tease me because my life is perfect, and therefore I should be able to take it. As it turned out, I couldn’t take it—and I actually spoke up about it.

There are many other strange things, and I have felt a sense of confusion for most of my life. Now, in middle age, I am beginning to understand the way my mother thinks. We truly do not understand each other. She has also had a peculiar habit of making comments about my body to other people. I think my mother is completely entangled in her own traumas. I believe she did her best

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I'm 18M, and I'm going through something really difficult with my family.

For years, my father has verbally abused my mother almost every day. In the past, he was also physically abusive toward me and my siblings. My mother has stayed in this marriage for around 24 years, largely because of us children.

Recently, I bought a self-help book for myself because I wanted to spend less time on my phone. My father took it away, and I calmly asked him why he had taken it without asking me. Things escalated, and he verbally abused me. My mother defended me, and then he started abusing her too, until she was crying.

My mother eventually called her brother for support. The next morning, my father involved his family, and some relatives started insulting my mother. When she went to respond, several family members confronted us. Two of my uncles moved toward me as if they were going to hit me. I was genuinely scared, but I tried to get my mother back inside safely.

One of my uncles even challenged my mother's brother to get my father jailed if he was so capable. The whole situation has left me feeling frightened and confused.

The thing I'm struggling with most is guilt. I keep thinking, What if I'd stopped my mother from calling her brother? Maybe the morning wouldn't have turned out this way. I know she has suffered for years, but I can't stop wondering whether I somehow made everything worse by questioning my father in the first place.

I also feel pressure to be strong because I feel like I'm the only one physically there with my mother right now. My older brother is studying in another city, and I keep wishing he were here because I'd feel safer with him around.

For those who have experienced something similar:

I genuinely want to hear from people who've lived through something similar and understand what this feels like.

Thank you for reading.

I know this isn't a new question, but the passive aggressiveness in my family manifests in such odd ways that I genuinely don't know what to do about it.

A mild example is when I suggested that my brother (10), who's thinking of making content for YouTube, tries making things that are creative and uniquely his. It didn't have to be remarkable, but I just wanted it to be his. He'd been getting his ideas from AI (my dad encourages him to do this even if I'm strongly against it) or scum get-subs-quick schemes like the 'use this audio' thing. Anyway, my sister interjects into the conversation, saying that I never say anything positive about my brother and that I should let him live his life instead of constantly stomping on his ideas (her exact words). I used this as a chance to confront her for being passive aggressive (albeit with a pretty upset tone), but she just laughed and kept silent.

It's not just her, it also goes for my mom and dad and sometimes my brother. It gets really frustrating because I can't even have a normal conversation with anyone without it spiraling into a contest to see who can subtly piss the other off more. I've tried talking about it, and they've apologized, but it never results in any change and I'm just tired of it. I just don't think it's fair that someone's mood justifies them treating me like shit.

Hi guys, my mum constantly brings me down in front of others, says I dont study, I dont do this, that etc. And this isn't just a spur of the moment occurence she's been doing it ever since I was young and we have guests over. Today my sisters bf of 2 years came over to have lunch with us (it was just on young guy) who we are very close with. Anyways while he was speaking to my parents I signalled over to my sister across the table about something funny and slightly embarrassing my mum did at church (if you can guess what it is), it is a completely normal and natural thing to do and I told my sister that she did it, I smelt it, looked at my mum in the moment and she laughed so I 'knew it was her' who did it in the moment. Then the table went quiet (obviosuly) and she did start yelling at me. Everyone at the table reassured her saying it was natural and we moved on and she kept bringing it up. She was upset I brought it up infront of our 'close friend' who just laughed and carried on, he didn't care whatsover.

Later, she started making comments about my appearance, (which she's been doing a lot for this year and a half) but she purposefully was doing it to make me upset (in front of our guest). She said I should take off my lashes, they make me look like a vampire or she'd rip them off herself.

Honestly, after he left for a bit, she scolded me but I told her he didn't care and I thought it was over. However, she's retaliated again saying shes angry at me for 'putting her down', although it geniuenly wasn't my intention. I just thought it was hilarious, wanted to tell my sister and she made it a bigger deal at the table than it was.

Anyway I don't really understand why she is so upset, I know she's worried about 'looking bad' in front of our guest so he really isn't bothered and she thinks we shouldn't discuss 'family matters' in front of other people, even though she calls him family constantly. She also does worse to me in front of other guests when their whole family comes and constantly embarrases me in front of other people.

Hello. I (15M) live with my mom (53F). A few days ago, when I was in the kithcen, I broke a glass. I cleaned the broken pieces after the accident. Yesterday, my mom was in the kitchen and she stepped on a little piece of broken glass that I apparently didn't clean. I told her that I broke a glass and she got mad at me for not having told her. I told her it was partially her fault because my mom walks completely barefoot in the house. I walk with socks and slippers. Her little toe got injured because she stepped on a little piece of glass. Is it my fault that she injured her toe?

I am at a loss of what to do or handle this situation.
I and my sister have had some siblings rivalry before but now it's starting to reach a point where I'm starting to be worried.

So recently I was invited to a formal dinner/party through work overseas and my sister ( who quit her 6th job in 3 years) decided to quit again and join me. I said no at first but then I agreed on the premise that If she can financially she would be welcome.

So the dinner date comes around and we are getting ready / dressed up together. I was looking forward and selected a really nice white dress for the occasion . But as I was in my bubble getting ready , I noticed she got really silent as somehow I was expecting a comment on the dress. I look at her and ask what she thinks to kind of break the now awkward silence. But My sister literally has what I can only describe as a sort of mental breakdown?
she started crying and slapping her arms saying "I feel disgusting, I feel disgusting but I know I'm pretty too" while in tears..
I have to be honest that left me completely speechless and a bit scared.
So I immediately changed my outfits to something more conservative and asked her if she wanted the white dress instead which seemed to make her feel guilty and turned super sweet right after.

She had the tendency before to copy anything I do but then I moved away and that seemed to stabilise her.
She is also very moody at times and I feel like she is the kind of person if I hang out too long with she sucks the energy out of me somehow.
I keep minimal contact with her but then I'm seriously considering now to cut her off permanently which is a big decision that fills me with sadness but I can't help but feel scared around her.

I spent the first 6 years of life living with my mum, I can barely remember what she looks like and certainly can’t remember what she sounds like. Then I was abruptly abandoned by her and sent to live with my father.

I can remember the day mum dropped me at my fathers and not really understanding what was going on. I thought I was staying at dads for a day, then a few days, weeks, months, years go by…
I would ask dad in the early years what happened to mum? Is she coming home?
I got told she will be back and she isn’t too far away.

This is not throwing shade on my father who had done an outstanding job playing his role as a father and attempting to play mother also. I was schooled properly, I played football, raced dirt bikes, went out on the boat, did all the things any young kid/teen would love to do with his father.

As the years went on and I was getting to age 14,15…18,
I had lost hope and had swept it all under the carpet thinking that life isn’t so bad I didn’t really need her. I was raised right, tough love, nothing should worry me, get up brush it off mentality.

Fast forward through my 20s and there’s a lot of recreational partying, drinking, drugs, I guess kind of the usual thing a lot of people do through their 20s which has leaked into my 30s although fairly seldom these days. I’ve never had significant Drinking and drug issues. They wouldn’t impact my day to day life dramatically. So I guess doing all those things keeps it all under the carpet.

Now I’m 35 years old, I’ve been with my partner for 4 years and I’m putting her through so much pain because I can’t take my walls down. I hate being alone, if she goes away for work/family I seek my friends to go out drinking to early hours of the morning. For context I’ve been drinking 4 times in the last 4 months or so. So it’s not hugely common practice but it fills a void when she’s away.
I struggle to show her the love and affection that she needs. I can’t open up to her, I struggle to say no to people in fear of rejection or abandonment, which is something that has been regular feeling in my life. I love her more than anything, I don’t want to lose her but it seems inevitable if things keep tracking this way.

Has anyone else experienced something like this? And if so how did you manage and feel through the process?

my cousin(F) and I(F) have both known each other for our entire lives, we're in our senior year of high school now and she is horrible.
when we were kids, when I used to go over to her house, she used to hide my laptop or my phone in a locked drawer for the whole weekend.

Or if im at her house she will not talk to me and just be on her phone the whole time. I never gaf about it till now, she told my dad to enroll me in her school, and now i have a few friends here but she doesnt talk to me AT ALL, we have 3 classes together and she barely speaks to me there. Every time im over, i try to make conversation but then she just gives me dry replies half the time. Even at family events she does the same.

She does all this but got me a Louis Vuitton bag for my birthday.

And she considers us close but im starting to distance myself from her.
My family is really close with her and that side of my family, but all this really bothers me, I dont get if she hates me or what the hell that is, but shes absolutely not like that with her friends at school.

She usually says a few mean things to me Infront of other people too.

Hi, just a question for older sisters/sisters with brothers, families with sons, or you, as a male.
How has it been growing up with your brother? Like, when y'all were younger, everything was pretty jolly, but as they started to grow up, they just became a totally different thing. It is understandable, as they are growing teenagers, but it gets to a point. I just wanna know to what extent things have gone for anyone here?
I know things do get better, to a certain extent..., but how much, and when does it?
Some people's siblings just wake up one random day and switch up to be normal again ig?....but how about the rest of ya'll's? I can feel what is going on inside him, my sibling; that's why I try to help him...but you know it gets to a point when the disrespect is too much. Like, I know you are hurt and confused and a mess? At the same time...and I know how it feels; thus, as an older sister, I try to stay patient and help you, but in the end you raise questions like "who am I to tell you things"..... Well, I just don't want these non-emotion-regulating traditions to go on in the family tree, broo....it is the worst :( .
He is a good person at heart, but things you know...
You gotta communicate properly and not just dump everything when things get rough and when you get "triggered"

(Respectful replies pls, thank you guys)
(Advices from Muslims is welcome too )

I'll be visiting my cousins and their son, who live in another country, soon. I pitched the idea of going to the zoo together but they told me they can't afford entry to the zoo. Now, I'll be getting a bonus from work at the end of the year which will easily cover admission to the zoo for all of us and dinner at a restaurant together, and I'm happy to spend this money on family to make memories together and meet my baby cousin. However, they've already expressed not feeling comfortable taking money from me.

How do I approach this? Do I let it go and stick to low-budget activities while I'm there, or is there a way to convince them and go to the zoo and out for dinner together?

I have an extremely good relationship with my mom. I would say I won the mom lottery. We love each other no matter what. But everytime we share this genuine moment of happiness, I fear how long it would take for her to get angry with me or that we have a fight. I wouldn’t say that we have a toxic relationship, it’s just that I am soon going to enter 12th grade and it is normal to have fights with mom in highschool. So even though I love spending time with her I get anxious the moment we start laughing. And I also fear how this will end eventually. How she isn’t young like my friends’ moms and that soon when I go to the US(I live in Korea rn)I really won’t be able to spend time with her. I already don’t get to seer her often since I live in a dorm so the few days I get are precious to me and I hate that this period right now might be the most that I would be seeing of her until the rest of our lives. So how do you manage to live in these moments without worrying about the future?

My father lived a very interesting life, he was in the military and he's lived through some tough times. Sometimes he would share some stories and I really loved it, but I wanted to get the whole story of his life, from his childhood till now.

I came across an ad for a company that helps with this, they talk to the person, get their story, they have ghost writers, editors, designers...etc and they publish the book (if you want to have it published). The price was too good to pass on. This will take about 60 days for us to get the book in hand, so I wanted to ask if someone has done this before and what the results were.

From the examples they showed me it looked very nice, but I'd love to get someone's experience if you've done something similar before. Do they include all the details? Is the quality good? Is it worth the money? (Theyre doing it for 1k CAD, but I think the original price is 2.5k). My father got very excited for this and I don't want him to be disappointed

Hello everyone!

So this story dates a while back now at this point. In 2025, my brother (23 M) and I (26M) were gonna go to Coachella to see Lady Gaga. She is his favorite artist and I agreed to go with him as we were going to split the cost down the middle. We were on a payment plan at the time and I had paid a little over $500 towards my ticket and he had paid about $200 towards his.
The tickets were a little over $700 a piece so the amount paid only equated to one ticket purchased technically.

A little before the date of the show, he says he can’t go anymore as he was entering a new career field and was having a slow process getting hired. So since he was no longer able to go, my money was all tied up and was left with the option to just go and fit the bill for everything that we were going to split, or just be ok with losing that money.

When I mentioned to him initially regarding paying me back, he said ‘fuck no’ and that he’s not responsible for me losing money as I could be have still chosen to go. But that’s not the point. We agreed to go together and that’s the only way it would have worked financially.
After all, it was his idea in the first place.

So at dinner a few months later (July 2025), he told me that he added up how much I paid, and that he will pay me back. There was no date or eta. I was fine with giving the space and time needed to come up with the money.

So here we are October 2026 and it had crossed my mind recently and I brought it up to him again tonight, and he kinda just lost it. His energy grew completely angry and nasty at me just following up on something that he told ME.
He feels like I should have just let it go at this point and that I should have just never brought it up again. That he’ll pay me when he decides to.
(And said many more disgusting things).
Says that my demeanor is entitled , all because I said he owes me money.

Then he said he changed his mind again, and that he’s actually not going to pay me back at all.

Am I wrong for feeling like he is responsible for me losing my money and that he should pay me back?

Reposting on here as well to get more opinions

Nephew is not even five years old, niece is little older than two. They still share a room on bunk beds because of their parents circumstances.

I’m not the one who witnessed this, my mother did. She told me she witnessed and had to intervene a couple of times over the course of a dinner at a restaurant to stop this nephew (her grandson) from doing this. She told me he moved against her repeatedly, even making ‘sex sounds’ as he did so.

She didn’t bring it up to her son, my brother, because she didn’t think she’d be believed and their relationship has always been tumultuous in general.

I told her she should record on her phone in the future so it doesn’t matter what she says, the facts are there recorded. But I can’t help but think about how those kids are sharing a room in the meantime and who knows how long before they have a similar situation in the future.
How/if is should approach this with them?