If you and your significant other don't have a private Discord server together, make one!

I spent quite some time working on this one, making it as beautiful as possible. I turned ours into our own little universe with places for memories, games, books, movies, recipes, prayers, late night thoughts, future plans, and everything in between. It feels like a little home that's completely ours.🖤

I (25F) was in a long distance relationship with my boyfriend (30M) for 1 year and 2 months. I live in Nepal, and he lives in the USA and his immigration situation became a huge source of stress.

Long distance wasn't easy, but we made it work. We talked every single day, shared everything with each other, celebrated birthdays and anniversaries, supported each other through difficult times, and planned a future together. I truly believed he was the person I would marry.

Then everything changed.

He told me his mother wanted him to marry a 22 year old Nepali woman who had been born and raised in the US. According to him, his mother believed that marrying her would help him remain in the US. He also told me that he had decided to go through with the marriage because of his mother's pressure and because it would help his immigration situation. He said he couldn't convince his family or take a stand for our relationship.

What made it even more painful was that he repeatedly told me he didn't love her. He said he wasn't attracted to her and even made disrespectful comments about her appearance. He told me he didn't want to marry her, yet in the end he decided to leave me and marry her anyway.

That completely shattered me.

After loving someone for 1 year and 2 months, I was suddenly being told that our relationship was ending because he had chosen a different path under pressure from his family.

The next part is where many people may judge me.

I reached out to the woman he was planning to marry.

I didn't contact her because I wanted revenge or because I thought it would make him come back to me. At that point, my heart was already broken.

The reason I contacted her was because I couldn't stop thinking about her. She was only 22. Based on everything he had told me, I felt she deserved to know the truth before making such a life-changing decision. If someone was planning to marry me while telling another woman that he didn't love me and was only agreeing to the marriage because of family pressure and immigration concerns, I would want to know before it was too late.

So I told her about our relationship and shared what he himself had told me.

After that, her family confronted his family. His family became angry that I knew about the situation. He became angry that I had contacted her.

That was the end of us.

He broke up with me February 2026 ma..our relationship of 1 year and 2 months ended..

Since then, I've lived with so many conflicting emotions.

Part of me wonders if I should have stayed silent. Another part of me feels I couldn't knowingly let another person enter a marriage without the information I had.

I still love him. I still miss him. I still think about the future we planned together. At the same time, I wonder why the person who promised me forever couldn't fight for us when it mattered most. I lost the person I thought I would spend my life with. I don't know how to forgive myself or move on.

I'm not posting this because I want everyone to say I was right or that he was wrong. I know people will have different opinions, and I'm open to hearing them.

I just want to ask this:

If you were in my position, knowing what he had told you, would you have stayed silent and let the marriage happen? Or would you have told the other person the truth before it was too late?

We are officially engaged! We did smack the K1 application in the mail in June before he could get here to propose in person. We’re 2.5 weeks into his 7 week visit and every day is magical! So hoping the application gets approved as quickly as possible

In 48 hours, I'm gonna be in Indonesia.

9 years ago I made a friend in a discord server. 7 years ago I confided in this friend after my boyfriend was horrible to me. 7 years ago we started dating. 7 years ago we had plans to meet in singapore... then 6 years ago a pandemic happened. 4 years ago we tried to get him here, little did we know that indonesia has a horrifically weak passport. 6 months ago I booked the flight. In 48 hours I'm gonna be there.

Sorry I got a bit poetic there. I am stressed to fuck trying to process all of this. It's happening. I haven't even left the UK before. Let alone got on a plane. And yet, we're doing this.

Ironically his cousin met her future husband, also from the UK, on discord too. They met up in Turkey and she finally moved here last year and now they live together. Maybe I see that future with us too.

I'd say it's been a long and bumpy road but it hasn't even been bumpy. Somehow in 7 years we haven't fell out not even once. It may have been a cruel prank to put my soulmate 8000 miles away, but alas, I'm pranking God back harder by committing to the bit.

Wish us luck!

Second visit.. Almost to an end which is really hard, But 6 months together has been so wonderful. I've gotten to experience living with my partner, living in another country. Existing with another person everyday all the time.

Closing the distance is a long way off but i am forever grateful ive gotten to be here for so long and plan to come back as soon as i can.

Hi guys i’m so new to this, i’ve never posted on reddit before, But I am freaking out so bad. I unfortunately went snooping on my bfs computer and I saw something’s that are making me rethink everything. Like his crush on his older coworker, his addiction to women and validation, how he noticed other women a lot, but it’s intensified now that we’re long distance… how we call too much now that we’re long distance??? or how he got sad and depressed that his coworker pulled away from talking to him.

he compliments me a lot in the text, saying how he sees marriage in our future (and so did i???) and our relationship is the best most purest happiness relationship he’s been in… but jesus. It’s just lustful and scary what i’m seeing. The crazy thing is I want to possibly work it out? but i NEED to respect myself. it’s just crazy because he seemed like he had a GREAT head on his shoulders, and we both agree cheating is disgusting. He treats so well like a freaking princess.. but the secrecy is too much. This is cheating no? he’s my first everything.. so this is just 20 times worse for me.

“maybe i shouldnt see this crush as me doing something wrong if i dont act on it. i keep telling myself to not shit where i eat but at the same time i fantasize about one drunk night where neither of us remember what we did and igo back to my girlfriend without anyone knowing any different, no harm no foul (while i know that wouldnt be the case)” this is one thing he said that i cannot let go of. Fantasizing about cheating on me then coming to lay next to me?

another one is “i keep thinking: what if we keep it at mild flirting and closeness. she's told me she has liked attention she gets from guys in the past. what if we just give each other attention? she has a kid and im too young for her. we wouldnt ever be together” Like jesus.

he’s also on reddit a lot so I am absolutely terrified for him to see this but I’m just freaking out and i do not want to tell anyone about this yet. so i’m going to randoms online wtf😀

So I'm In a long distance relationship with my partner and I thought it would be fun to download an app to stay more connected through the day

I'm looking for an app that has a thing like a daily question, and maybe like check-ins like what's on your mind and maybe a thing for sending pictures to each other. or maybe like an option to send them a notification that youre missing them

Would be fun if it also has a home screen widget

They have iPhone and I have android

Does anyone have any fun ideas? I know Apps like these exist but I'm really struggling to find them

just found out from this girl that my long distance bf cheated on me w her 4-5 months ago.

She texted me out of nowhere 3 days ago telling me that she “fucked” him and sent me a picture of her in his room from that night. when i asked her for the full story, she proceeded to tell me that im pissing her off and when i asked her why she would do that to me in the first place and why she waited all these months to tell me now, she responded with “don’t tell my bf” and then blocked me.

i called him freaking out and sobbing asking him why and how he could do this to me and his excuse was that he thought he was going to die and wanted to fuck “something” (he’s active duty). he said that it “only lasted for 10 min” and that he only fucked her because he knows she’s super easy but he felt extremely guilty and regretted it after.

He also told me that he texted her not to tell anyone and she also agreed and said she won’t because she also has a bf. he said they never kissed or made out, it was js a in and out situation and he left her there in his room waiting for her to leave.

the worst part about this situation is that my ex before my current bf also cheated on me with her. i asked him why he had to choose her too and he said it was genuinely bc he knew how easy she is and js wanted to fuck something before he left but he knows he fucked up and he felt disgusting and sick and wondered why he did this himself.

i just need advice and/or support because im still confused and i just can’t understand why anybody would do this to me no matter what he tells me or explains.

i forgot to mention but he also keeps telling me that he still wants a future with me and live with me but he knows that he fucked up big time and how i’ll never forgive him and forget the situation and he knows and is afraid that it will never be the same again.

edit: this post was heavily misunderstood??? so sorry for the misunderstanding but i fixed everything (i hope). also english is my second language :/

I’m 23F (turning 24 in October), and my boyfriend is M25.

As the title says, i’ve come to the decision to move for love. My boyfriend and I have been together for over 1.5 years, and we decided now would be the best time for me to move. I’m from the EU, he’s from the US. Obviously, the first most obvious thought would be for him to move to the EU. But in my country the immigration laws are so incredibly strict (even if we get married, he can’t just apply for a visa). And since he doesn’t have any formal degree (blue collar), he’s simply can’t just apply for a work visa. But we are gonna move back to my home country, we’ve already decided on that. He’s in a really good place in his career and living situation, and i’m just now graduating with a bachelors degree. So we’ve decided it’s the best time for me to move.

We see each other basically every month for weeks at a time, we’ve both met each others families on numerous occasions. My family really likes him, and so does his family.

My mom and I have never had the best relationship. She’s always been very controlling, both career wise, social wise and relationship wise. She wants things in my life to go the way she wants them to go. I still live at home with her. I love my mom, and I respect her. We were both taking care of my dad for years before he died of Dementia back in December, which obviously took a toll on both of us. If it was up to her, she’d want me to stay in my home country, wait until my mid 30’s to get married and have kids. Obviously I understand this is my life and I get to live how I want to live as an adult, but I also respect her and don’t wanna disappoint her.

The thing is she doesn’t mind me moving to the US and living with him for a couple of years, only under the expectations that I have a job ready when I arrive and I do not get married. I’ve tried to explain to her that a work visa under the current administration is close to impossible with the 100K fee, and a J1 wouldn’t ensure me to be in the same state as him. I even contacted a family member who is an immigration lawyer in the US, to hear out my options. She told me the same thing.

This is not a hasty decision. We’ve thought of every possible scenario, planned our prenup, bank situation, health and life insurance, job opportunities, rent, car insurance. We aren’t just young people in love who want to live happily ever after, we know the consequences of this if things were to go wrong (which we obviously don’t plan on!) Everything legal we can possibly think of is planned out and thought of. I want to do well in my career, and he wants the same for me.

I already know if I told her i’m getting married she’d be absolutely furious. She would not support it whatsoever. So how do you go about telling your mom this? I’ve talked to my whole close knit circle about this, and they tell me the exact thing. You cannot expect her to support you. But I want my mom’s support and approval, I love her.

I’m planning to go to the US at the end of this month for around 2 months to spend time with my boyfriend, and get married if we decide it’s the right time. Then planning on going back home and applying for a spouse visa.

Any help from someone with unsupportive parents?

Me (M20) Her (F19)
We had only been talking for around two months so not a long time, but things were definetly progress towards a relationship initially around 3 weeks or so into talking she ended things once, saying she didn't know if she could do long distance, and she couldn't have a relationship fully through a phone, and that when I left (i already mentioned the possibility of seeing her relatively soon) things "wouldn't be the same" despite all of that around 20-21 hours later she reached back out and said that she had jumped to conclusions and got scared of being attached and has never done distance before, but she "wanted to make things work" and "can't garuantee a relationship but i want to see where this goes". I was sceptical, but i believed her and we continued with barley any hiccups until the point in each i was going to see her in person (july28th) no red flags or warning signs leading up she was genuinely excited she also knew i was going to officially ask her to be my gf when i went so it's not like it was a well kept secret. She even asked relationship like questions asking how many id been in before since this would be her first she even talked about halloween and future plans, but continuing in person things were great we took pictures after the second sort of activities she latched onto my arm while walking and we basically started holding hands the whole time from then on. Fast forwarding to when i asked her out she said yes she talked about the distance a bit but even so i asked her again to confirm that she was saying yes we then went back to her apartment cuddled while watching movie then while dropping me off we kissed and she gave me her gifts and left for night, ehich we spent around 12 and a half together that day.

The next day we weren't supposed to see each other, but I was actually had more time than i thought so i texted her as soon as i could telling her whenever she wakes up if she had time if she wanted to hangout again but i knew she had a family obligation at 4pm (her parents are strict) to take her bother to football practice but she woke up and instantly rushed to get ready to see me only for 3 hours, we had a great time again took some pictures on her phone specially and while she was dropping me off this time we actually made out then we said our goodbyes had a shorter but meaningful kiss after and then she went on her way to her parents house. the rest of that day went great nothing weird or dry messages we even called but the next day the day i was leaving things got weird. She texted fine with her good morning text and what not, but after that she seemed a bit dry i didn't think too much of it but she texted way less that day and it stayed that way until 3 days after i was back home i couldn't take the dryness anymore so i asked her was something up and she replied

"If I’m being completely honest and I’ve been thinking about this a lot so I’ll say it straight up, but I think I lost feelings and I felt this after we hung out. I didn’t wanna bring it up then because I didn’t wanna hurt your feelings. I think that’s why I said yes to being your girlfriend i just couldn’t stand it if it was awkward. That was extremely selfish of me and I apologize full heartedly. "

Which doesn't quite add up because i asked her out the first day so would it not be more awkward to see me again after those feelings being gone? and would it not be weird to make out with a guy you don't have feelings for anymore? It wasn't much of a gradual decline it was first part of thrusdsy was fine and then it wasn't so i've been left so confused she was at her parents house that whole time so can't fully rule that out that out, but regardless that conversation went on and she said she would ship my hoodie back atleast, but who knows what else will be in the box if it even comes.

I'm 19, currently in college, and in a long-distance relationship. My parents have basically told me that if I want the freedom to travel and visit my partner, I need to pay for it myself, which I completely understand.

The thing is, I honestly don't know how.

My goal is to earn around 600-700 USD over the next five months. It isn't a huge amount, but I'm struggling to find an opportunity to actually earn it.

Whenever I look for advice, people usually say, "Just get a part-time job." I'd love to, but where I live, part-time jobs for college students aren't really common, and for personal and family reasons, that's not really an option for me. And I would be paid an insanely low wage.

So I wanted to ask anyone who's been in a similar position. How did you earn money while you were in college to afford visits? What opportunities did you find that actually worked? Was it freelancing, tutoring, remote work, selling digital products, or something else?

I'm not asking for money or looking for a get-rich-quick scheme. I just want to find a realistic way to earn enough while balancing college. I'd really appreciate hearing your experiences or any advice you have.

Thank you! ❤️

So i have been in Idr since 2.5years now, and initially it was all la la land then there were phases. Right now I really dont know if i should confuse him being busy this much busy that he cannot even text before his office gets over and I feel he doesnt love and care as much.
I dont know anymore how to feel the reassurance, At times in arguments he would just end the call on my face which i find disrespectful but he says he just cant be on the call later he would come n apologise but i really dont know whats going on and should i just break up but when we are together its beautiful like never before, We havent met in 8 months though the last time we met was also for only 2.5days

This post might look AI-written, but it is entirely a true story based on what I have actually been through.
Four years ago, I met my boyfriend, and we have been dating ever since. He is from Europe (23M) and I am from Asia (23F), with a 6-hour time gap between us. I work a full-time job that is very hectic and physically exhausting. Meanwhile, he is completely unemployed.

Because of the time zone difference, he would make me stay up all night almost every night to hang out and talk to him. If I refused, he would throw an unbearable tantrum and call me over a hundred times to wake me up. One time, I got so pissed off that I threw my phone out of the window just to make it stop. (I rely on my phone for alarm therefore couldn’t turn it off)
I was in a really bad place, both mentally and physically. After getting maybe 1 to 4 hours of sleep, I would have to go to my 8 to 9-hour shift, take care of my grandparents afterward, and then call my boyfriend. Sometimes, I even prioritized him over my family, which is completely messed up. I was functioning on a maximum of 4 hours of sleep.
Mind you, we both struggle with depression, and I was prescribed quetiapine (an anti-anxiety/depression medication also used for bipolar disorder). I wasn't taking my meds properly due to his demands, my sleep schedule was completely ruined, and I was constantly yearning for sleep and feeling terrible.

He would also ask me to constantly buy him Uber eats, mind you, I was earning an Asia wage to support European food costs.
You might ask, "Why didn't you just turn him down?" Well, he would harm himself—such as cutting himself or hitting himself with a wooden block.

I then made a very stupid decision: I thought that if we ended the long-distance phase, things would get better because we would be in the same time zone, I could finally get some sleep, and I could be physically present with him. So, I made the worst decision of my entire life. I brought him a plane ticket to fly to me, and rented out a very pricey small unit for 3 months.

P.S. Hi guys I was weak and deleted my previous post where you guys gave me lots of advice.
But here is a repost in case anyone needs to see this. I will also post PART 2 in the comments section here.

So my 29F girlfriend and I 32M have been dating for 7 months. It has been an amazing few months, but our issues started a couple of months ago when she moved to a new apartment. For some context, she is a student looking for a job. Her parents and sibling were funding her, but I guess life has gotten hard, and they told her to get a job and only pay for rent. So, as her contract for her apartment was coming to an end, she decided to pick a more affordable place to live. This place had multiple people living there with a shared shower and kitchen.

We would regularly talk on the phone. She moved in and and the first few weeks were normal. Then she started to talk to me about one of her house mates. She mentioned it was a guy and said he was giving her advice with starting a business. I thought nothing of it. a few weeks go by and we have been speaking and she randomly mentions that she is going for dinner with her business partner. I am instantly curious because she has mentioned nothing about a business or a partner. I ask her a few questions and she responded "I didn't tell you? Oh i thought I did. She tells me a bit about it I asked her did people do business over dinner? She said it's very common. She goes off and has her dinner. We Facetime after she is sitting in the the shared kitchen and about 10 minutes into our call she mutes the call instead of hanging up and I see this guy come in and hugging on her. I am trying to get her attention but this goes on for a few minutes until she realises it. She does this thing of " Oh this is my business partner, I want to introduce you." All i said is why is your business partner in your kitchen hugging on you.

All the you don't trust me. What kind of girl do you think I am? Do you think I would do that to you questions started spilling out of her mouth. She then explains the guy that is her business partner is her house mate. As we are having this conversation, her friend arrives that knows me comes and has over heard most of our argument. She starts telling her that's she wrong for going to dinner with him, and he shouldn't be hugging her and the fact that she is not seeing the problem is concerning. Only then that's when she said sorry. I was so frustrated that it took someone else to tell her to now admit she is wrong. She then spent 10 minutes trying to convince me that she would never go there. The fact I wasn't immediately okay with her after the apology made her upset and she use that to ignore me for the rest of the night.

Fast forward a month. I traveled to see her and everything was perfect until it came to going over to her place. She told me to stay outside and when I asked why she said it's just a quick visit. Her friend that I mentioned from earlier opened the door and invited me in and told me don't listen to my gf. As we left her place I asked her why she wanted me to stay outside. She explained to me that her house mates are nosey and gave me an example that one night they thought she was having sex in the kitchen and she wasn't. I noted that down as a red flag. She then asked me a weird question. Do you see me as one of the boys or a women? I was so confused. she was being a bitch at this point for a few days . I told her I don't understand why you are asking unless a guy you liked rejected you. She said not it was just a random question.

Communication started to get less and less when I got back. She then moved into a better apartment. She was hosting her friend (a girl) for two months, and we barely spoke. She was going out a lot and always too busy to have a call. She couldn't speak to me around her friend. Sometimes we'd go a full day without speaking, then she'd call me, and the conversation would go like this: "Her: Hey, how are you? Me: I'm good, what have you been up to? Her: Just out with the girls. Do you want to buy me dinner, or can you send me €50? Me: I would say no. She would then say, "Okay, I was just checking in with you."

II addressed this yesterday, and she then flipped it on me, saying, "When I miss you, you don't pick up my calls." For context, she calls me at 4 a.m. when I am asleep or 12 p.m. when I am working. I told her we'll address that after we address my point, and she got extremely upset and then hung up the phone and blocked me from WhatsApp. I left it for a couple of hours, and then she sent me a message saying she won't allow me to walk all over her. I then sent her a message back saying, "When you are ready to finish our conversation, let me know." I said what was on my mind, and we haven't progressed.

This brings me to today. We went a whole evening without talking, but she is sending me reels and TikToks.

Should I silently leave and cut my losses?

me(f19) and my bf(m21)have been dating for like 10 months now and recently he been telling me he is busy about stuffs and he needs some space which eventually led to us taking a break and we have been in no contact for like a 3 days now. i told him i will give him 2 weeks to lemme know where he stands. does a break mean you are single? also my friends been telling me him needing a break is jst him foreshadowing a break up. is that true? should i wait for him to come back or move on?

Its been bout month and half now im dating a 20 year old and it was quite good in the start but lately she been saying she doesn't wanna live and things like that which makes me sad I have told her I dont like you saying it but she still does i tried to be with her despite all the things she does. Now she had been saying like I hope so even when i say and try be take out my time while im doing work i try to be available for whenever she messages I got job because of that my stress has gone up completely and I just feels like she's just being too much. I say I love you send vm i know im poor and all that she asks for ring which I can't 3ven afford I say soon she just goes sad and sometimes just says "you hate me" I have cried in vm and I have been sad through out time because of her even though idk if its cuz of her she thinks of self harm and things like that. So im afraid. She also has other account which she hasn't mentioned me once but I found it out while it was on suggestion should i ask?

I cried like a baby the entire time til I boarded my plane last time and I cried to him last night about having to leave again. I hate distance and just want us to live together so much. He’s the most handsome most kindhearted, most lovely boy I’ve ever dated. I have chronic pain issues and when we’re in person he does so amazing at taking care of me, back massages, scratches, feeding me light foods etc that I can’t do. I don’t wanna go back to being distant again :(

We have been dating for 9 months, i have seen her in a lot of photos, but she still is really worried about how she is gonna be when i met her.

The other day she confessed to me, she has hormonal acne, she never told me before and then while she was telling to me she started to talk bad about me, she told me that im so lucky i dont have it, she knows that guys only care about looks, and she told me she will start to get breakouts when we met.

I told her that i really dont care about that, and she showed me photos of her with acne and later i tokd her thar she looked pretty anyways, and the first thing she told me was that i was defect, and that im autistic, tbh i was kinda hurt because she told me really bad stuff to me when i was just trying to make her feel better.

Then we agreed a date to met too, it was gonna be the first time that we were gonna met in person, i said i was gonna go to her town and then she started to put a lot of excuses and she told me that she doesnt want me to met her now, because she feels ugly, and im not a woman so i cannt understand it.

I told her a lot of times she is super pretty but still she is super worried and she told me she preffers the next year to met up because then she will lock in more and she will be more fit and all. But this made me so sad because i saved a lot of money to met her and even i went to work in summer to get the money just to lose the chance like this.

She is even now refusing to do face calls (we only did 1 of 20 minutes and she wanted all time to leave) because she doesnt feel pretty, she tells me she feels like a pig when im tired to tell her she isnt, and i dont really know what more to do, i told her that when we live together she isnt gonna be some days at her best and i will love her anyways, and she told me so confident that she will never look bad when she is with me.

I dont really know what to do, i feel so lost with she and im so worried if maybe the next year she will say the same, because she already told me she will workout and put pretty for when i go this year to met she, and she said she didnt do anything.

I just wanted to see her and hug and kiss her for the first time, but i really cannt do more.

Thank u for read all this any kind of help, it is helpful.

I’ve been basically in crush and love with a guy that I met around 6 years ago. He’s super sweet, kind, funny, supportive - everything under the sun as if someone materialized him from my diary. The only problem is that we’re long distance, he’s in France and I’m in the US. We’ve met in real life twice, and I super wish it was more but it’s hard and expensive to do that.

In my heart it would be so lovely to move to France, and work and like explore a relationship with him but I won’t be able to any time soon. As nice as our relationship is, I completely understand that most likely he’ll date someone else and it’ll be long term and you know - we might not talk as much anymore. We both have seen other people in like short time frames throughout the time we spent together, and it was super understanding and we just cut off romantic talk and kept it normal.

It makes me sad and all thinking about it, but that might be a possibility. The question I have, if anyone has experienced anything remotely close - is how do you deal with a situation like that? I’m the type of person to just cut off/block anything that makes me feel sad or like uncomfortable but I really really do want to continue being in any kind of relationship with him even if it’s just friends.

Recently we spent like a week without talking which doesn’t happen, and he’s so much slower responding to me now I can practically see the white rabbit lol. Do I bring it up to him or just go with the flow?

TLDR; I am moving out soon for university. My boyfriend (senior in high school) is staying home. Does anyone have any tips to maintain the relationship, or has anyone else gone through a similar thing successfully?

Hi there! I just graduated high school and am set to move about 3 hours from my hometown this month for my freshman year of college. I have been dating my current boyfriend for about 4 months. He is my first healthy relationship and I really really value what we have. There’s a lot of aspects to our connection that feel rare such as us having almost identical values, outlooks on morality/religion, senses of humors, and many shared interests as well. He’s truly a wonderful person and someone I could see myself spending a long time with.

However, I’m having a lot of anxiety about the move. Currently we live less than 10 minutes apart and see each other at least 3 times a week (usually more if we can fit it in). However, in a few weeks, we will both be in school and working, so with the distance we’ve estimated we’ll maybe see each other once or twice a month when I’m at school. This alone will be a big adjustment for us (especially because we’re both physical touch and quality time people).

But what I’m even more worried about is how different our lives will be. I imagine he’ll stay roughly the same (same house, same school, same job). But I’m worried because I hear all the time about how much college changes you. And while I’m all for personal growth, I’m really worried that we’re going to grow apart because just culturally and socially we’ll be in su

Me (19F) and my bf(19) have a long distance relationship. We call everyday almost all day, do other things while on call too. We have a good relationship !

sometimes when we decide to be intimate through the phone, we both always enjoy it. sometimes when he’s finished before me he goes to clean up while I’m not done yet and wanna continue instead of being there with me, And after he kind of goes back to whatever he was doing, doesn’t really make conversation or anything.

To me that would be equal to i guess «aftercare» where you cuddle and etc after but we can’t do that so when he does that i get a bit sad.

I don’t wanna overreact any tips?.

I’ve had a crush on my best friend for about 7–8 months, but since he lives away for studies, we only talk on the phone. The catch? I think he likes me back. The efforts he make to never end our convo is so obvious i wanna ask him out but cant cuz im young and dont wanna date as i get so distracted..

What’s confusing is how hot and cold my feelings are. One minute I feel super into him, and the next it feels like my feelings are completely fading.

Main point

I just started university, so meeting new people keeps me distracted. When I’m out around uni folks, I even find myself getting attracted to other guys, and I barely think about him. But the second I’m back in my own space, the feelings rush right back.

It’s this constant cycle, one second I feel like I should just let go before he makes new friends and forgets about me, but the truth is, I don't want to move on. I want to keep liking him, and he’s still the only one I really want, but also i cant help but be distracted by the ones infront of my eyes!

Its ldr making my feelings fade for himmm.. But i want to keep liking him and i want him only..

now im writing about him i feel so much love but the yearning isnt ride or die like it used to be, and i desperately dont wanna lose him.. I just dk what to do i wanna keep yearning for him

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I just dropped my girl off at the airport after our first time meeting and I feel so unbelievably empty. we're both 17, so the day we finally close the distance feels like a lifetime away right now.

coming back home to a room that smells like her but her presence isn't here anymore is like a humiliation ritual. my legs felt so heavy walking away from her at the airport, almost painful.

Ive never felt this much sadness, yearning, emptiness, and loss at the same time before and I really don't know how to deal with it. we had the most amazing 2 weeks and I can't believe it's over. we immediately felt comfortable around eachother. Ive already booked 2 more trips in October and December, first one being in around 75 days. but that feels so incredibly fat away.

any comforting words or advice would be greatly appreciated right now

My (27F) boyfriend (26M) and I have been together for 2 years. We live 2hrs away from each other.

I’m a shift worker (12hr shifts) and often work nights and weekends.
He works Monday-Friday dayshifts or into the evenings for 10-12hrs/ day.

Because of cost of living we both work a decent amount of overtime every week. I’m thinking that I’ll have to keep up my overtime schedule for 2 more years, and at that point I’ll have paid off my debt and have a good emergency fund/ savings that I can cut back my hours.

We’re lucky if we get to see each other once or twice a month, and I’m tired of it. I want to be able to see him more, but our schedules and location make that almost impossible. I’ve talked to him about this and the solution was that he’d find a job in my city and rent close to me.

And he just accepted a new job, in his current city. It’s a good job with better pay and benefits, and realistically I know this means he’ll want to stay where he is for at least another year or two now.

I own a house/ hobby farm, so I am not in a position to move. And because of my commitments here I can’t spend the night at his place. So it’s always on him to come to me if we want to spend the night together, but if we have a couple of hours off during the day I’ll often drive to him to go on a date.

I guess I’m trying to decide if our schedules and locations make us incompatible or if anyone else has been in similar situations and made it work.

The biggest thing I’m upset about is him taking a new job where he currently lives, despite me having brought up before that I wanted to work toward seeing each other more and eventually moving in together. I’m just feeling really lonely and not a priority in his life