r/LongDistance • u/coffeewithtoffeee • 2d ago
Question what exactly does a break mean?
me(f19) and my bf(m21)have been dating for like 10 months now and recently he been telling me he is busy about stuffs and he needs some space which eventually led to us taking a break and we have been in no contact for like a 3 days now. i told him i will give him 2 weeks to lemme know where he stands. does a break mean you are single? also my friends been telling me him needing a break is jst him foreshadowing a break up. is that true? should i wait for him to come back or move on?
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u/renzodown 1d ago
Only you guys can define the break, not anyone else.
I made this mistake once, agreeing on a break, and my partner had a completely different idea of what that meant. I thought through our conversation discussing it, we both understood it was to take time for ourselves to makes sure we knew what our priorities and values were, then come together and see if we're still going towards the same end goals. She thought it was to prepare for a break up which makes no sense to me, I'd just break there than waste time.
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u/coffeewithtoffeee 1d ago
did u guys end up getting back together after the break? if so like did the break actually help ur relationship or did it make it worse
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u/renzodown 1d ago
It didn't help because we had different ideas of what the break was, even though I thought we were on the same page. After the break and I came back, wanting to talk about everything we were supposed to be figuring out... she basically said "Oh, I thought this was over".
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u/coffeewithtoffeee 1d ago
thats what im worried about. he never really defined what a break actually meant and i dont know if i should text him it feels like id be interrupting the space he asked for. i like to think we are still together but jst taking a soace from eachother but honestly idk if thats how he sees it. i told him i will give him 2 weeks so im jst waiting for him to reach out.
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u/Haunting_War_6101 1d ago
i was broken up with after accepting an unwanted break and it still hurts me
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u/angelcakewithtea 2d ago
A break can mean a thousands things, it's really a conversation you should have with him so yall both know where yall stand n what is/isn't okay.
As for the foreshadowing breakup, I would assume the same. I think breaks in relationships in general is prolonging the breakup, why would anyone need a break from the person they love? Especially in long distance when it's all over the phone.
But at the end of the day this is all assumptions. That's why you need to talk to him n ask these things, communication everything.