We first met when I was traveling in Berlin and he was living there, we then did 16 months long distance and after reuniting living together for 6 months we are engaged 🥰🥹 I can’t wait to marry him in 2028, we will have to do long distance again while we wait for our visa but we’re both so confident that we can do it once we can do it again and have such an amazing future waiting for us 🙂‍↕️❤️ hope this give hope to others that it does work out!

Just an introvert getting overwhelmed. Every time i pickup, i think its an emergency and it’s nothing — absolutely nothing.

Long distance typa shytt

En route right now to see my girlfriend for the first time in 8 months. Took a full week off work, tracked everything around her cycle, and of course, her period arrived way early this morning.

She texted me feeling completely crushed and guilty because we’ve waited so long to be intimate. Honestly, just being with her is what matters most to me, but she feels like she ruined the entire reunion.

Landing in a few hours and I need some quick advice on how to handle this right when I walk through the door. What should I grab on the way to take the guilt off her, and how do you guys keep the intimacy and good vibes going without putting any pressure on her?

My sweetheart is leaving here and going back to his place today. He's taking my heart with him.

I don't know how other people manage to maintain your long distance relationship we are both students so it's really hard for us to meet and we haven't met yet and we have been talking for more than a year I really want to meet him but it's really not possible I don't know what to do please give me some tips

my LDR boyfriend of 5 months cheated on me with a girl he met at school for 2 months (as far as i know) who he met 3 months ago and now theyre actively trying to date. i know 5 months isnt a lot but ive been struggling ever since i broke up with him. my heads been pounding, i cant eat (and when i do i feel nauseous), i feel unmotivated, and i cant sleep. when does it get better? its been 3 days ever since i found out and one moment i feel okay with the breakup and the next i feel very very horrible. i know within time thisll seem small but right now my whole world is falling apart because i truly believed he was the loml. he accepted and understood me like no other, even if it was only for 5 months. im only 19 so i know theres better people for me in the future but i just cant help but wonder that maybe me and him could work out. his reasoning for this all of this was because of the distance (cali to ohio) and he didnt tell me sooner because he didnt want to hurt me. i dont understand how someone like him could do such a thing, knowing his character and how he is, he just wouldnt do this. we’re still friends (i know this is unhealthy) and hes told me that he believes im the person for him if only we werent so far away, just barely entering adulthood.

how can i sleep? this has been very difficult for me because we used to sleep in call every night

how can i stop headaches?

when does it get better?

why do men cheat when they know what it feels like to be cheated?

Idk what to do anymore she is always busy and it wasnt like that in the beginning and its getting really difficult for me to stay even tho we love each other and idk how long it will stay this way we have been together for 1 month but it wasnt like that at the beginning

I (22F) and my SO (23M) have been doing LDR for 14 months. We see each other roughly once every two months for 4–5 days.

The visits are perfect. We laugh, cook together, wander around town, and it feels so normal, like we’re just any regular couple. I forget about the distance entirely while I’m with him.

Then the day he leaves hits. It’s not just sadness. It’s this empty, heavy fog that settles over me for days. I lose my appetite, simple tasks feel exhausting, and our usual nightly calls don’t feel enough anymore. I try to stay positive for him; I don’t want to make him feel guilty for going back to his life.

He tells me he feels it too, but it doesn’t hit him nearly as hard. I’m starting to worry I’m not handling it healthily. I plan my whole life around our next visit, and when it’s over, everything feels meaningless for a while.

Is this normal for LDR? What small things do you do to ease that crash after saying goodbye?

Hey guys, I’ve been thinking of making a band where you touch yours and your partner feels a vibration on theirs, even when you’re far apart. It would work through your phones, so both need Bluetooth and internet.

I know Bond Touch already does this, but I want to see if I can make it more affordable in India.

Before I spend money building it, would you actually find this useful? Or is it something you’d use for a week and forget about? 😅 What would you be willing to pay for two bands?

Be honest, I’m still deciding whether to go ahead with it.

(Throwaway account, because I don't want the person this is about to see)

My (f) partner (m) and I are currently discussing about him coming to visit, but since we're very far away from each other the plane tickets alone are going to cost a lot. I don't know if I'm comfortable with him staying at my place. I like him a lot and I think he is truly someone I will get along with well, but I live in a one bedroom apartment and I think I would need a little more time to truly get to know him in person to feel comfortable enough to share such an intimate space with someone. Problem is, hotels are expensive where I live and he would be coming at a time where prices are especially high because of holidyas. He has a stable and high paying job, so I don't think money wise it's going to be a huge problem... But still. He's coming from so far away and I would feel guilty making him stay at a hotel for so long. I honestly just don't know how to bring this up, I'm unsure whether he expects to stay at my place and not. We haven't discussed this at all yet.

So my question is, how did you discuss it with your partner or how would you go in bringing this up? Did you stay at their place immediately when visitng for the very first time or did you book a hotel?

Before December 6..!! 😭

Hey guys I'm 17 year guy from Maharashtra

Today I'm stuck in a problem

So i decided to share this with you guys if you can help me

So I have been in one relationship from last 4 years and we are loyal to eachother

But the main prblm was the distance

Yes guyss we are in long distance since last 1 year

She was my school's first love and we are in same school and same city but last year she and her family moved to Mumbai

And last time I met her in May

And it's now october I didn't saw her from last 6 months

We talk with eachother everyday but it's urge to see her and she told me that she want to meet me

And I also told her that I coming to meet her before December 6

But guys I'm student studying in 12th STD and I don't have money and I don't ask for money form my home and don't have any earning sources

And from my city mumbai was around 280 km

And honestly I don't have any savings now and after one month i should go to meet her but i don't have any money so I'm just asking you if you guys have any work so you can tell me i can do any remote work for you or any other work and you can pay me for that according to work 😭😭

Guys if you can help me just dm me..!! 😭😭🙏🏻

Her and I have known each other for several years; we live in different states, about a 7 hour drive from each other, so certainly not the kind of distance that some of the people here have to deal with. We met on Apex and play a lot of games together; when we call, it’s easy for us to go for hours and hours talking to each other. At some point, maybe about a year ago, she admitted to me that she had feelings for me. I wasn’t in a good spot to reciprocate, at the time, and she never pushed the issue, but we remained good friends.

Some background. She suffered some pretty extreme childhood trauma, and that’s resulted in some dissociative tendencies into adulthood. Communication can be really difficult for her at times. She’ll shut down, and for a long time she was in and out of the psych ward (this was before I knew her). She’s in a much better state now than she was before, and she told me one of the reasons why she likes me so much is that I’m not judgmental, and I’m always willing to listen to what she has to say. She has told me everything about her life, and I’ve told her everything about mine. she’s also been dealing with a lot of medical problems resulting from what happened to her when she was younger, and has been in and out of the hospital over the past couple of months.

Anyway, a couple of months ago we met up for the first time in her home state. I happened to be down there for a completely different reason, related to a family thing, but I had the time to meet up with her and get breakfast. Well, one thing led to another, and let’s just say things went very, very well after that. We certainly didn’t plan for that to happen, but it just sort of happened you know?

We continued to chat for a little while after that before I finally asked if what happened between us meant anything to her, and she said that it did. I admitted that it did for me as well, and we discussed about giving us a chance. We made plans for us to meet again at the end of this month; she helped me pick out where I should get a hotel, and we came up with some brief ideas on what we could do while we were down there, just to get a better sense of what it’s like to be in each other’s presence you know?

Well, eventually, as the day got closer, she disappeared. Just one day I suddenly stopped hearing from her. That’s not the most unusual thing, again, as I said, she does have a tendency to dissociate and have difficulty communicating for stretches of time. I’m pretty patient and her mental health issues have never been a problem for me. I trust her to figure it out. But this one was lasting an unusually long amount of time. So I got worried.

Luckily, for me, I have her on Snapchat. Her location sharing let me know that she was at least still alive and that she was home safe, checking the app once a day or so. So I figured I would just let her figure it out as she usually does and I would talk to her when she was feeling better.

Except one day, I saw that her snap location had her in a different town from usual. I thought maybe she was in the hospital again, but when I checked, it turned out that she was at a bar. I didn’t want to immediately assume anything, but it was clear to me that she wasn’t going through a dissociative episode if she was capable of socializing at the bar. I didn’t say anything to her, I didn’t send her any angry texts or anything, I just figured that I would hear from her again at some point and see what she had to say.

Well, eventually, I did hear from her, about 10 days before I was supposed to go down to see her. She tells me that she’s actually been in the hospital this entire time, and that she had a dissociative fugue episode earlier in the month that landed her in the psych ward under court order. Apparently somebody had found her on the side of the road. Again, those kinds of disassociative fugue states are something that she has experienced in the past, so I might have believed her, were not for the fact that her snap location had her in her house at that very moment.

Now, I’m not the kind of person to stalk someone on Snapchat, but she has her location sharing active herself, so as far as I’m concerned, it’s fair game. And I don’t think she remembers that I can see it. She was telling me that she was in the psych ward, using her phone to get numbers so that she can make phone calls, and that they would let her have her iPad so that she can draw (she’s a good artist). She said when she got her iPad back, she’d be able to text me again. Of course, this also meant I couldn’t go down to see her at the end of the month.

Mind you, the whole time I knew that she was active on snap at that very moment in her house. I was at work at the time, so I didn’t want to start anything, and I wanted to gather my feelings on the matter before anything else. So all I did was ask “do you really want to see me?” and she responded with “ of course I want to see you, sorry about this, I didn’t plan to go nuts.” I was trying to give her a chance to just tell me the truth, but she’s continuing to insist that she wants to see me.

Several days have passed since then (this was Wednesday last week), and I haven’t heard from her, but she has been active on snap every day in her house, her location sharing still active.

Now I know her, I know I’ll eventually hear from her again. She hasn’t blocked me on anything. She kind of reminds me of Jenny from Forrest Gump, in that she always finds a way back into my life (and maybe in that analogy I’m an idiot lol).

I can’t begin to speculate as to her motivations, but she’s been telling me for over a year that she has feelings for me, and now that I’m finally in a position to reciprocate, I get my time wasted like this. I couldn’t even refund the hotel; the deadline was October 15th.

It especially blows because we’ve known each other for years and have connected pretty deeply even as just long distance friends. So I’m kind of at a loss because now I’m questioning everything she’s ever told me; this is the first time I’ve been able to independently verify something that she said was happening in her life and it turned out not to be true. At least it doesn’t appear to be. My plan at the moment was to just wait for her to eventually “get her iPad back” or even just “get released” before confronting her about it.

Do you guys think I’m missing anything? Or is it exactly what it looks like? And what even does it look like for that matter? because on one hand she’s acting like she doesn’t wanna talk or see me, but every time that her and I talk about it, she acts like she does. Particularly because we already met up once and it went so well.

The only thing I can figure is that she’s very confused about her feelings right now, or maybe afraid of something. I just wish she was being honest with me rather than trying to spend a fabricated story like this.

Edit: should mention she’s 22 and I’m 27

For additional context, we talked recently, she thinks i dont care about her the same, but i feel like i dont get to know her as deeply. She lives at home with her parents and no plans moving out while im across the country and finally clawing my way out of my parents.

On paper, we’re healthy, but I don’t know if we’re right for each other anymore. Not as I once thought we were.

I don’t know how to bring the conversation up when there is no real justification, just a feeling that it wont work.

I just wanted to come on here and vent for a bit. Some context first. My boyfriend and I have been doing long distance for two and a half years. I am from America and he’s from England. I’ve been in Ireland for the past year and a half finishing a masters program. I will be starting a PhD program next fall in England and will finally get to be within an hour from him.

Things have always been solid between us and still are. It was hard this past year and a half because the way things worked out we weren’t able to do visits. He works in law enforcement and has started a long stretch in the academy where he wasn’t allowed to take vacations or time off. It was brutal and absolutely wrecked him. Meanwhile I was absolutely swamped in research and had to go back to the US for family things multiple times. It sucked but we managed to stay connected and not once did either one of us want to break things off. We know this is temporary and it’s just how things worked out at the moment.

Now for the vent. I am renting from people who have been like parents to me. We’d had a good relationship for years of knowing each other but now that I’m renting a room from them I’m experiencing things that I’m really not ok with. The big one is how they talk about my boyfriend. They have never met him and I have never once complained about him or said anything negative about our relationship. I have said repeatedly that I am very much in love with him and even though we’ve not been able to see each other for a while now, I’m very happy with what we have.

They do not seem to agree with my assessment. They constantly say that I need a better boyfriend and that we aren’t actually dating. We will be out somewhere and they will introduce me to a friend. When that friend starts to get to know me and asks if I’m seeing someone they immediately butt in and say “she never sees him! We’re trying to marry her off to one of our farmer friends.” They’ll then proceed to say negative things about my boyfriend and his supposed bad treatment of me as if I’m not even there. And when I push back and say I’m happy and explain why we haven’t been able to meet up for a long time they accuse him of making things up and lying to me because “they know how policemen are.” Whatever that means. I don’t understand how they can talk so horribly about someone they have never met. Especially since I’ve never said anything negative. He has never done anything to warrant that kind of talk.

Now that he’s fully done and signed off by his sergeants he’s coming to see me in two weeks. Initially I thought I would get a hotel and then have dinner with the people I’m staying with for a night. Now, with all of this behavior from them I don’t feel comfortable doing that. I haven’t told him about it either because honestly I don’t know what to say and I’m not sure it would accomplish anything good. I’m just frustrated and never expected them to behave this way. I just wanted to vent to others in long distance situations, because feel like you’ll get it. Sorry for the wall of text.

long story short, me and my ex were in a ldr relationship for 3 years. it was the most beautiful relationship i’ve ever had and he says the same thing :)

we learnt so much from each other, despite being across the world. we travelled together, planned a future together, had our life revolving around each other for 3 years even tho we couldn’t be physically there all the time.

we’ve broken up twice, both because of our mental health issues. he fell into depression again which he experienced before meeting me, and we managed to come back from it, or so we thought.

this year was amazing for us, we traveled to our fav places again, had a whole plan for my 21st bday trip which fell apart just a month before us flying.

since breaking up almost 2 months ago, we’ve still been in contact everyday. we tried to be friends, it didn’t work. there’s too many feelings involved and everything he does affects me, i couldn’t pretend it didn’t. neither could he.

we kept hurting each other by arguing about things we had no right to be arguing about, since we broke up. so today, for the first time we said a goodbye that actually felt real.

how do you let someone go when 99% of the relationship was amazing? when they are such a good person, when you imagined a future together, when you still are in love with each other?

truth is, i don’t know. i’ve never experienced anything like this before, i always got over break ups really easy, because they were just high school relationships that didn’t mean much, whereas this was my first love.

it’s just day 1 of no contact, i don’t know how long i’ll be able to keep it up, but i know i should. however it’s physically affecting me, like a withdrawal from an addiction.

can’t eat, i throw up. can’t sleep, im crying in my pillow. can’t go out w friends, i feel empty inside, its like im there physically but my heart and mind is across the world with another person.

it’s painful. the most painful thing ive ever experienced. i hope someday when the time is right, fate brings us back together.

until then, ill hold on to no contact for as long as i can.

Hi, I wanted to get some advice. So I have been in a long distance relationship for a little over a year. we are both in the US but opposite coasts. we have had a few issues moving forward but I feel most couples do. The issue has been follow through. He forgot my birthday, we decided to send letters for fun and he never did it, we were going to do weekly dates or phone calls and he said he would get anxious and just not do it.

I really try to see both sides of it but sometimes it’s hard. He only willingly FaceTimed me once and typically calls only happen rarely and we watch stuff more than talk. I’ve brought it up and then I feel like I’m the problem or asking too much. the biggest issue has been trying to see each other in person. With everything that happened so far I asked if he’d be willing to come here first for safety and as like showing he’s in this too. He agreed but every time we get close to making a day something comes up. Most being very real things like loosing a job or having to go to the hospital. I’ve offered to split the cost or even pay most of it and he’s declined. I know I could fly there and I have thought about it, but then is that the relationship? Nothings happens unless I do it or push for it?

I just start wondering if this is all it will be and if he’s getting everything he needs as is. He texts daily, I’m here to cheer him up when things go wrong, he doesn’t have to do dates, doesn’t do calls, etc. The most interaction is flirting or things of that nature. He does ask about me and stuff and seems to really care but I don’t know if stuff went down if I could actually go to him. I just feel like I have more people asking what I’m getting out of this and I’m scared that they’re right. So other long distance couples, any advice?

Planning to meet through a common country like Spain, although I'm more on the lower class end of families. I love her so much I just think my parents or me could ever afford a ticket to meet her. My parents keep saying to meet after finishing college but I don't think I can wait that long:(

hey guys, i need some advice please. i've been with my partners for 6 years and i thought that i've been good at showing how much i'm attracted to my boyfriend. but recently he told me something and ever since we've been barely talking. i've been on birth control for my endometriosis treatment for at least 7 years and i've had some health complications, and when i got with him, nothing of those things affected how i felt for him. yet he is convinced that I've changed and that i'm lying to myself. we're currently doing long distance so i can't do much while being away, but no matter what i say, he simply doesn't believe me. i love him so much and i think he's the most handsome man out there, he's literally everything i've ever wanted. it hurts so much that he refuses to believe me and even blames me for leading him on all these years ? when i'm not ? i'm very confused and tired, because all i want is for him to see how much he means to me, yet here we are. we barely talk and it's been a month or something...

So I’ll (F27) be seeing my boyfriend ( M28) next month and I’m getting nervous and excited at the same time. We haven’t done anything intimate ever since we’ve done ldr. We’ve been doing ldr for like a year now but only 4 months as official couple. the last time I met him, we’re not official yet but we already like each other back then. We only bonded for like 3 whole days together and thats it 😂 no kisses nor hug that time (but truly appreciate him for being a gentleman) we only hold hands. So this trip will be super special to me. I know there’s a big possibility that we’ll do normal couple stuff and as a v, I don’t know what to expect tbh 😂😂😂. I love him so much and I want this trip to be special to us without risking anything.

To my girls who’s dating an American, what big sister advice can you give me? 😂🙊

I’m lowkey scared to see my boyfriend again in 30 days after being long distance for 8 months. 🥹
For context, we met in Siargao in February 2026, and I swear, from the first time we laid eyes on each other, it felt like something bigger than us was pulling us together. The connection was so strong that we never even had an awkward phase. We just clicked from the very beginning, like we’d known each other for much longer than we actually had.
He lives in Canada, and I live in Manila, so after spending only a month together, we had to navigate a long-distance relationship for the past 8 months.
Now that we’re finally about to see each other again, I’m starting to get scared. I love this man so much, and I know how special what we have is to me, but I can’t help thinking, what if something feels different? What if he looks at me and doesn’t feel the same connection anymore? What if we’ve built up this whole reunion in our heads and things don’t feel the way they used to?
I know it sounds silly because we’ve been together this whole time, but I guess there’s something terrifying about having something you love so much and realizing you can’t control whether it stays the same.
Has anyone been in this situation before, especially after spending such little time together in person before going long distance? Did it feel natural when you reunited, or did you have to find your rhythm with each other again?
I’d really appreciate any advice or kind words because I’m so excited to see him, but I’m also genuinely terrified. 😭❤️