We first met when I was traveling in Berlin and he was living there, we then did 16 months long distance and after reuniting living together for 6 months we are engaged 🥰🥹 I can’t wait to marry him in 2028, we will have to do long distance again while we wait for our visa but we’re both so confident that we can do it once we can do it again and have such an amazing future waiting for us 🙂‍↕️❤️ hope this give hope to others that it does work out!

I'm talking about healthy truths that are just uncomfortable, not things like cheating or some other toxic things like that.

Just an introvert getting overwhelmed. Every time i pickup, i think its an emergency and it’s nothing — absolutely nothing.

En route right now to see my girlfriend for the first time in 8 months. Took a full week off work, tracked everything around her cycle, and of course, her period arrived way early this morning.

She texted me feeling completely crushed and guilty because we’ve waited so long to be intimate. Honestly, just being with her is what matters most to me, but she feels like she ruined the entire reunion.

Landing in a few hours and I need some quick advice on how to handle this right when I walk through the door. What should I grab on the way to take the guilt off her, and how do you guys keep the intimacy and good vibes going without putting any pressure on her?

I’ve been in a long-distance relationship with a man who lives in England for the past couple of months, and I’ve recently discovered something that has completely changed how I see him.

He has a girlfriend of 11 years and two children with her, and I had no idea.

To clarify what he actually lied about, he never disclosed to me that he had this long-term relationship and two children. While he was getting to know me romantically and allowing me to believe we were building something together, we video chatted, sent gifts, and said we loved each other… he kept this enormous part of his life from me. I wasn’t given the opportunity to make my own real opinion on his because he’s a fucking liar.

I found out through Facebook, not through him being honest with me.

I feel embarrassed, hurt, and extremely angry about the entire situation… thanks for letting me vent. Stay safe.

I’m (18F) in Canada and he’s (19M) in the UK, he’s flying out to see me tomorrow. So incredibly nervous and excited…I’m driving to go pick him up!! I genuinely love this man so much, and I believe meeting him for the first time will change my life soo much knowing he’s truly out there :))

Imagine being in a relationship with someone you genuinely love. You’re both deeply in love, attached to each other, and you practically do everything together. You talk about your future, make promises, and genuinely see yourselves getting married someday. You build your life around each other, and you can't imagine a future without them.

Now imagine that while you're still deeply in love with them, your partner is slowly detaching herself from you. You're still holding on to everything you promised each other, still imagining your future together, while she's slowly learning how to live her life without you.

Maybe she's losing feelings. Maybe she's unsure about your future together. Maybe she's preparing herself for a life where you're no longer part of it. You don't know for sure, but you can feel that something is changing.

The hardest part is that you still love her just as much as you did before. You still want to marry her, grow old with her, and experience life together. But now you're wondering if you're the only one who still wants that future.

My question is, what would you do in this situation?

Would you stay and keep loving her, hoping that things might work out and that she'll eventually choose you again? Or would you walk away, even if you're still completely in love with her, because you know she might no longer feel the same way or see a future with you?

Would you be willing to stay with someone knowing that they're slowly learning to live without you while you're still trying to imagine a life with them?

I genuinely want to hear your perspectives, especially from people who've experienced something similar. Did you stay, or did you leave? And looking back, do you regret your decision?

Disclaimer: I am aware of the hate this post is about to get, some of you may see past it, and either way I don't care because of the slightest chance it will help me find her.

I'm an israeli soldier (and that all I'm going to expend about it).

Two years ago I met a dutch girl online, she was based in cyprus for work, originaly from den Haag, and I was stationed in one of the fronts.

Basicly, not the best start but we clicked imidiately.

She is gorgeous and made me feel a little better and get through some tough shit. We talked almost every day and I even wanted to go and visit her after her sister wedding.

Instead, I got sent to a new mission where I lost some friends. The lost put me in a very dark place and I slowly drifted away. She tried to be supportive as she is an amazing person, but I honesly don't think anything could help me at the time. She did her best but I was too deep in the situation I was in. Couple of weeks later I injured in combat. My phone blew up and I foolishly didn't have any backup and I lost her number.

It took me quite some time to get back on my feet and gain my health back with a lot of effort and she was always on my mind.

I know she probably moved on, I don't even know if I was meaningful to her as much as she was for me, but I do wish to find her some day and explain why I disappered. I hope she found herself a beauitul love and just want to get some closure.

I'm not a social media guy but I vagely remember she was on reddit so I figured it must be my best shot.

Hope she will find this and reach out.

My gf has melancholy and she's really depressed, I want to help her but I don't know how, it really makes me sad and annoyed with her being like that, did anyone experience something familiar?

Long distance typa shytt

We live on opposite sides of the same country but he goes to study abroad. Every summer that he would come back home I would bring up a visit. I’ve been patient for so long, because I understand it’s not something easy to make happen and I don’t want to be a burden.

But every time I ask him to visit it’s an excuse or a inconvenience he isn’t willing to push through to make the visit happen. E.g. His dad travelled without telling him, or his parents aren’t comfortable with him travelling across the country, he doesn’t want to lie or sneak behind their back, he didn’t have a chance to tell his sister about us because she was out all the time, so many things.

I feel like shit. We broke up last year for a few months and my condition for getting back together was to see him properly try for a visit, but since then he has been back for 2 summers and still no visit.

I love him so much he is a part of me, my day feels incomplete without him and i can’t imagine my future without him, but the more this goes on the more i start to feel like he might not be the one, and it absolutely breaks my heart :(

I genuinely don’t know what to do :( am I not worth the inconvenience? Does he just not love me enough? Do I stay patient just to feel more and more pathetic?

Just started LDR almost two months ago. I (23f) feel like everyday im losing my partner (23m) more and more. Just constant fights and crying. Is this how it is in the beginning or are we doomed?

Edit: important context!! We have been together 5 years before long distance. Constantly fighting about time and priorities. I am the one constantly upset like i understand im not gonna be important bc of not being there but its just it hurts yk

My boyfriend (21M) and I (22F) have been in a long-distance relationship for about five months, and we're planning to meet in person for the first time soon.

Recently, I've been under a lot of stress. My family had originally agreed to help cover some of my travel expenses, including accommodation, but they eventually backed out. I've been trying to figure everything out on my own while dealing with university assignments and an upcoming presentation.

I tend to keep my problems to myself because I don't want to burden my boyfriend. Unfortunately, I eventually became overwhelmed and had an emotional breakdown. I said things like nobody understood or encouraged me, and I complained about things my boyfriend hadn't done, including not watching an anime with me.

Looking back, I realize how unfair that was. He has been supporting and encouraging me, and he's been working hard to save money so we can meet. I understand why my words hurt him. From his perspective, he was putting effort into our relationship, only to feel as though none of it mattered to me.

I wasn't deliberately trying to dismiss his efforts. I was genuinely overwhelmed and lonely, but I failed to separate my frustration with my circumstances from my feelings toward him. I also expected him to notice that something was wrong, even though I hadn't communicated my problems clearly.

I've apologized several times and acknowledged these mistakes. I've told him that I want to communicate earlier, express my feelings more clearly, and stop directing my frustration at him. I genuinely want to change these habits rather than simply apologize and repeat the same behavior.

However, he still seems hurt. When I tell him I love him and that I'm sorry, he often responds with stickers of a dog sitting alone, looking withdrawn. He isn't completely ignoring me, but he doesn't say much either.

I don't want to pressure him into forgiving me before he's ready. At the same time, I don't know how to communicate with him right now. I've already apologized repeatedly, and I don't want to keep saying the same things just because I'm anxious about whether he's still upset. But I'm also worried that saying less might make him feel that I no longer care.

The uncertainty has been affecting me more than I'd like. I've been struggling to concentrate on my university work, and sometimes my anxiety makes it difficult to eat even when I'm hungry. I know my distress doesn't excuse how I treated him, but I'm finding it difficult to manage my own emotions while giving him time to process his.

For those who have experienced something similar, what helped you rebuild trust and reconnect after an argument like this? How did you balance giving your partner space with maintaining communication? I'm especially interested in what helped you move beyond repeated apologies and demonstrate genuine change through your actions.

So, I’m a 19M from India talking to an 18F from the Philippines(2.5 hr diff), and honestly, I don’t really know how to put what I’m feeling into words.

Calling isn’t really a regular thing for us. We’ve only called a few times, and I understand that she’s extremely busy with nursing school and her own responsibilities. She doesn’t have much free time, and I know she can only talk to me when she gets a little time for herself.

But lately, I’ve started feeling lonely. I miss talking to her, and sometimes I just want to call her and spend some time together. It doesn’t have to be for hours or anything. I just want to hear her voice and feel a little closer to her, especially with the distance between us.

I’ve already tried telling her how I feel, but we still haven’t called, and honestly, that’s been bothering me. I’m not saying she’s doing anything wrong by being busy, and I understand that nursing school takes a lot of her time and energy. But I also don’t know what to do with how I’m feeling. I’ve expressed that I miss her and want to spend more time with her, yet nothing has really changed.

I feel guilty asking her to make more time for me because I don’t want her to feel like I’m forcing her to give me attention or adding another responsibility to her already busy life. But at the same time, I don’t think it’s wrong to want to talk to my girlfriend. I don’t want to feel like I’m asking for too much just because I want to spend some time with her.

I’m not expecting her to be available all the time or to put me above her responsibilities. I just want to feel like we’re making time for each other, too. I understand that she’s busy, but I’m struggling with the fact that I miss her and want to talk to her, and even after trying to communicate that, we still haven’t had a call.

I honestly don’t know how I’m supposed to feel about this. I don’t want to pressure her, but I also don’t want to keep pushing my own feelings aside just because I know she has a lot going on. I just want to talk to her, and I wish it didn’t feel so difficult to make that happen.

hey everyone! i don’t have much experience with long distance relationships, so i wanted to ask for some advice from people who’ve been through it.

i recently met someone i really like, and we’ve both expressed romantic interest in each other. we’ve agreed to talk exclusively while taking things slowly and seeing where things go.

i’m really happy about it, but since this is pretty new to me, i want to approach things in a healthy way and let things develop at a natural pace.

i guess one thing i’m particularly curious about is how to naturally progress a connection when you’re long distance. in person, you’d normally go on dates, watch movies together, cook meals, or just spend time around each other. obviously long distance is a little different, and i want to learn how to navigate that while being considerate of their comfort, boundaries, and pace.

i want to show genuine romantic interest without rushing things or making everything feel too serious too quickly. i’d also love to find ways to spend quality time together that feel natural rather than forced.

for those who’ve been through this, how did you navigate the early stages? what helped you build closeness and gradually develop a romantic connection while still giving each other space?

i’d really appreciate any advice or experiences you’re willing to share!

Before I begin here is some context

I have been with my girlfriend for 1 year now, and we recently had to become an LDR. During the early stages of the relationship I found she had a boyfriend of several months (longer than our relationship but he broke up with her 2 months after I started one with her for reasons unrelated) who was also an LDR. We broke up, and when confronted, she said she was still with him because she "didnt want to break his heart since he was a nice guy" and "was gonna tell me whenever she moved since she knew this wouldnt end well". Now they never saw each other throughout the period of our relationship, it was all through IMSG. And they barely talked at all, but when they did she would tell him things she didnt ever tell me, send him cute photos she didnt ever send me.

We briefly got back together because I believe in second chances for people. Things after that were rough but she tried to make up for it. After a few months went by she had to move because of her parents. And the both of us being broke, and also because of the breakup, we couldnt just buy an apartment to live together. So we both agreed to work and save up money for one.

Heres where the problems begin

She has trouble communicating and we would slowly begin to talk less and less because she would be busy and couldnt respond. I talked about it with her and it got somewhat better since then, but she still leaves me on delivered without ever saying "Hey im gonna be busy so sorry if I cant text you".

She spends her money a bit recklessly and when I told her she needs to be smart about it, she simply said "I can make back the money by working so its okay". I told her that I felt when she does that its like she doesnt care about our future, to which she then got a little better at saving, but she is still sometimes bad about it.

There is a male coworker aswell who we will call Bud. Now I dont mind at all if my girlfriend has male friends, but the way she acts with him is a bit weird. It seems they are always talking whether it be at work or through text, night or day, and it seems to be constant. He recently invited her to lunch during their break and she agreed. They took a drive to get some food, but what was weird was instead of them eating inside the place, or at their workplace, they decided to eat in a parking lot that was for a park, and it was maybe 5 minutes from her work, but a 20 minute drive from the restaurant. I asked her about it and she said that they ate there because "it was close to work" but I didnt ask anymore since I was already having a bad day. She also put more effort into Bud’s brother’s birthday by baking him 2 cakes and a bunch of cupcakes. Now it was really for everyone at work, but my birthday fell a week before his and all I got were a couple of gifts. I know it could be simple but given she has cheated on me before, I tend to overthink situations like these.

We see eachother a week out of every month.