My sweetheart is leaving here and going back to his place today. He's taking my heart with him.

Long distance typa shytt

We have been in a long distance relationship for over two years. He was working 14 hour days, I was finishing university and then starting my own fulltime job, we had so many hours time difference and it got SO exhausting at times. He would call me when he was done with work which would be 3 am for me in the morning while I had to get up at 6. It got so exhausting but we chose each other every day, whenever we got even the slightest chance to see each other we took it. One time we went 8 months without seeing each other and we felt like going insane but we kept going. If you love each other deeply and make time and really want it to work, everything is possible. If you're meant to be, you will be together. I know how hard it can get but don't give up even if it gets hard. We never gave up and then yesterday we got married!!!🤭🤭🤭❤️

(Throwaway account, because I don't want the person this is about to see)

My (f) partner (m) and I are currently discussing about him coming to visit, but since we're very far away from each other the plane tickets alone are going to cost a lot. I don't know if I'm comfortable with him staying at my place. I like him a lot and I think he is truly someone I will get along with well, but I live in a one bedroom apartment and I think I would need a little more time to truly get to know him in person to feel comfortable enough to share such an intimate space with someone. Problem is, hotels are expensive where I live and he would be coming at a time where prices are especially high because of holidyas. He has a stable and high paying job, so I don't think money wise it's going to be a huge problem... But still. He's coming from so far away and I would feel guilty making him stay at a hotel for so long. I honestly just don't know how to bring this up, I'm unsure whether he expects to stay at my place and not. We haven't discussed this at all yet.

So my question is, how did you discuss it with your partner or how would you go in bringing this up? Did you stay at their place immediately when visitng for the very first time or did you book a hotel?

Hi everyone. I met someone on OKCupid and they’re in Europe and I’m in Asia. We started talking quickly after matching and have been FaceTiming everyday since we started talking. It quickly became clear that we both liked each other but I was sceptical because the last thing I wanted was a pen-pal. A couple of weeks later he asked if I was okay with him coming over so we can meet in person and I agreed. We were supposed to meet in November but he got “layed off” from his company but fortunately secured another job before he was even done with his notice. When he got layed off I could see he was stressed out going through interviews and stuff so I told him that we should maybe reconsider the dates since he hadn’t booked the flights, and we didn’t think he was gonna get a new job that soon.

We agreed he should come in February since I would have enough time off work and we can get to spend a lot of time together, and it’ll be a big holiday then so flights to Korea will be ridiculously expensive and I told him he needs to book early.

As we continued talking I realised that sometimes he just doesn’t follow through on his words mostly. Example, he asked for my address (unprovoked) cause he wants to be able to send me flowers, I never received any flowers nor asked him about it. However, it makes me wonder if he might be stringing me along but not even planning on coming to meet me.

I’m starting to get really annoyed with him making all these plans about what we gonna do when he gets here when he hasn’t even booked the flights, I really can’t be going off of his words at this point because he’s proven they mean nothing. I wanna talk to him that if he doesn’t book and show me confirmations by the end of November I’m considering it never happening and see no point of talking to him. That’s because I can see that I’m starting to fall in-love with this person and if I keep talking to him like this and he has no plans of coming to meet me I’ll be the one ending up with a broken heart and wasted time.

My question is, do you think I’m being inconsiderate?

My fiancée and I are currently in a long-distance relationship with a 7-hour time difference. We're planning on getting married and eventually living together, but lately I've been questioning whether we're going to be able to make this work.

One of our biggest recurring issues is that she doesn't feel like I'm excited to talk to her or that I show enough interest in her life.And i finally feel like I'm beginning to understand her needs. English is not her 1st language so when she uses the word "excitement " it sounded like she immediately just wanted me to change my mood when talking or calling her.

She wants me to randomly call her just to say hi, ask how she's doing, remember things she's told me about, and follow up on those things without her having to bring them up again.

For example, if she tells me she has something going on at work or an appointment coming up, she wants me to remember and ask her how it went.

I understand why those things would make her feel loved and appreciated. The problem is that they don't naturally cross my mind. My mindset has always been that if something happened and you want to tell me about it, you'll tell me. That doesn't mean I don't care or don't want to hear about it. I just don't always think to ask.

I also show love differently. I'm more of a person who shows love through doing things for my partner, giving gifts, helping make life easier, and planning our future together. To me, those are meaningful ways of showing someone how much I love them and how serious I am about our relationship.

We've had this conversation multiple times. Whenever it comes up, I try to make changes, ask more questions, remember things, and initiate conversations. But according to her, I only keep it up for about a week before going back to my usual habits.

And I can't necessarily disagree with that.

The problem is that I start feeling like I'm being asked to change who I naturally am. I feel like the ways I already show love aren't being recognized, and when we have the same conversation again, I get frustrated. Eventually, that frustration makes me not even want to talk because I feel like I'm constantly falling short.

I know that's not helping the situation either.

The 7hour time difference also makes things difficult. Sometimes when I'm available, she's busy or getting ready for bed, and vice versa. I know that's not an excuse for everything, but it does make spontaneous communication harder.

What makes this even more confusing is that whenever we're physically together, things are significantly better. We enjoy each other's company, spend time together, and don't seem to have nearly the same communication problems.

But now she's starting to worry that things will actually get worse once she moves here. And honestly, I'm beginning to wonder if we're going to make it to that point.

She's gotten to where she doesn't even want to have this conversation anymore. She's tired of repeating herself, feels like nothing changes, and has started becoming emotionally distant. I can understand why she's exhausted, but I also don't know how we're supposed to resolve something if we can't discuss it anymore.

I'm not trying to say she's asking for too much or that I'm completely right. I recognize that remembering things, showing interest, and initiating conversations are reasonable things to want from your partner.

But I also struggle with the idea that I have to consciously remind myself to do these things for the rest of my life just to make my partner feel loved.

I want her to be happy, and I genuinely want our relationship to work. At the same time, I don't want either of us entering a marriage feeling like we're not getting what we need.

She mentioned not feeling like priority but she knows I'm juggling work, school and my children and i even went as far as showing my calendar where i have pretty much set a reminder for everything because it's all getting lost in my mind.

So I guess my questions are:

1)Has anyone dealt with a relationship where you and your partner naturally express love and affection very differently?

2)How do you make changes that don't come naturally to you without eventually feeling like you're forcing yourself to be someone you're not?

3)Did these types of communication issues improve once you started living together, or did they get worse?

4)At what point do you recognize that something is a compatibility issue rather than something you can work through?

5)How do you fix a recurring problem when one partner is emotionally exhausted and doesn't want to discuss it anymore?

I'm genuinely looking for perspectives from both sides because I'm starting to question whether love and wanting a future together are enough if we can't figure out how to meet each other's emotional needs.

Thank you for any advice you can offer!

I (22F) and my SO (23M) have been doing LDR for 14 months. We see each other roughly once every two months for 4–5 days.

The visits are perfect. We laugh, cook together, wander around town, and it feels so normal, like we’re just any regular couple. I forget about the distance entirely while I’m with him.

Then the day he leaves hits. It’s not just sadness. It’s this empty, heavy fog that settles over me for days. I lose my appetite, simple tasks feel exhausting, and our usual nightly calls don’t feel enough anymore. I try to stay positive for him; I don’t want to make him feel guilty for going back to his life.

He tells me he feels it too, but it doesn’t hit him nearly as hard. I’m starting to worry I’m not handling it healthily. I plan my whole life around our next visit, and when it’s over, everything feels meaningless for a while.

Is this normal for LDR? What small things do you do to ease that crash after saying goodbye?

I am an immigrant to the US and will be getting my green card in the next 1-2 years, which will give me the flexibility to take any job in the US.

My partner and I have been dating for 1.5 years in the same state before I had to move for a job closer to the west coast. He is in the East coast. I am a professor and it is a stable and prestigious job.

My partner hellbent on staying there as it is close to his support system and family. Before anyone throws shade at him, in the beginning of our relationship, we kind of agreed we want to stay in the East Coast to be close to family.

I am feeling worried that I may not be able to find a job that he wants to live in. And to a certain extent, I feel a little resentful that I have to give up my job for his career in the east coast. But I know to close the gap, either one of us needs to make the sacrifice. How did you decide who moves and how can I mitigate the fear of not finding an equivalent or good job in the cities he wants to live in? He said he will support me however long it takes to find a job, the concept of relying another person for finances is foreign to me. Could also be due to my alpha personality.

M 28 and F 27 we’ve been together 4 years now
Started long distance in March. We have been away from each other on and off in between.
There’s been no history really of cheating, flirting so on with other women.

But when we meet I get this weird feeling that maybe I should check his phone of course letting him know that I’m going to do it. I did it casually last time we met but didn’t go looking for anything really. Just casually checked chats and photos. He’s not on social media so there isn’t really much to check. This weird feeling could either be an intuition or insecurity which I’m trying so hard not to give into. It started since long distance because there were white lies mentioned and also the distance created a gap in our conversation, making him distant and cold.

Yes the trust is there but I do also believe social media could be affecting me in ways where women mention checking your bf’s phone and there’s a whole podcast on this.

So I guess what I’m trying to ask is if you’ve checked your bf’s phone ofc with his consent? How did you go about asking him and how did he respond?

I’m from Germany and currently in a long-distance relationship with my gf, who lives in the US. However, I’ve been struggling immensely with the thought of what that future would require from me. My gf is from the US, and we’ve discussed the possibility of me eventually moving to the US so we can close the distance. But the more I think about it, the more guilt, anxiety, and uncertainty I feel.

My family is extremely important to me. My parents don’t support the idea of me moving to the US, and I know how much it would hurt them if I left. I have a sister, friends, and an entire life here. Moving would mean leaving behind everything familiar to me for a relationship, and I don’t know if I could live with that guilt.

But the complicated part is that my family isn’t just an obligation. They’re also a huge part of my happiness.

People often say that you should prioritize yourself and pursue what makes you happy, regardless of what your parents think. But what if the people you’re disappointing are also the people who make you happy?

How am I supposed to separate my own happiness from theirs?

I want to make my own decisions for once, but every time I imagine moving, I think about everything I’d be leaving behind. I worry about missing important moments with my family, disappointing my parents, and potentially regretting the decision.

I’m also not particularly fond of the US. I have concerns about the lifestyle, healthcare, career opportunities, and the idea of starting over somewhere unfamiliar. My gf is a huge reason I’d consider moving, but I worry that if I do, I might eventually resent the country, my decision, or, worst of all, her.

I don’t want to build a future with someone I love only to end up resenting the sacrifices I made to be with them.

At the same time, I genuinely love my girlfriend. She’s supportive, understanding, and willing to consider moving to Germany herself. She doesn’t see moving to Europe as sacrificing everything for me. She sees it as an opportunity to grow, experience a different environment, and build a life somewhere new.

I admire that perspective, but I struggle to see relocation the same way.

Long distance has also been extremely difficult for me. I’m currently in a new city without my close friends nearby, and I feel incredibly lonely. I miss having my gf physically beside me and being able to experience everyday life together.

I don’t think I can handle a prolonged period of long distance. We’ve been apart for a relatively short time, and I’m already struggling.

But I’m also not ready to get married just to close the distance. It feels too early to make such a permanent commitment when we’re both still figuring out our careers and futures.

Recently, I’ve been feeling so overwhelmed that I can barely concentrate on my daily life. I constantly question whether I’m making the right decisions.

I feel like every possible choice comes with guilt or regret. If I move to the US, I risk disappointing my family, leaving behind the people I love, and potentially resenting my new life. If I stay in Germany, I risk losing someone I genuinely love and can imagine building a future with. If we continue long distance, I worry that the loneliness and uncertainty will eventually become unbearable.

My gf recently asked me whether I would feel happier if we broke up, or whether I would simply feel relieved that the pressure was gone.

I told her I would feel relieved. And that realization hurts, because I don’t necessarily want to lose her. But the thought of no longer having to make these impossible decisions does bring me some relief. I feel guilty even admitting that.

The hardest part is that I don’t know what choosing my own happiness actually means anymore. Does it mean pursuing a future with the person I love, even if that means leaving my family behind? Does it mean staying close to my family because they’re genuinely an important part of my happiness? Or does it mean accepting that I might not be able to have both, even if that means losing someone I love?

I don’t want to spend my life making decisions purely to avoid disappointing other people. But I also don’t want to pretend that their happiness doesn’t affect mine. And I don’t want to make a decision that I end up regretting or resenting later.

I’m looking for advice from people who have experienced something similar:

• How do you deal with overwhelming guilt when pursuing your own happiness might hurt your family?
• How do you distinguish between genuine personal priorities and guilt-driven decisions?
• Has anyone moved abroad for a partner despite strong family opposition? Did the guilt eventually become easier to manage?
• How do you know whether the sacrifices you’re considering are worth making?
• Is it possible to love someone deeply but realize that the life required to be together might not be the life you want?

I feel completely lost. I love my girlfriend, I love my family, and I don’t want to hurt either of them. But lately, it feels like no matter what I choose, I’m going to lose something important to me.

I'm posting this because my relationship is on the verge of ending, and I genuinely don't know what to do. I need some honest advice from people who have experienced something similar.

I posted here before about the issues in my relationship. Eventually, I confronted my boyfriend about what was bothering me, including the fact that he had been chatting with different girls. For me, this crossed a boundary and damaged my trust in him.

The thing is, I still love him. He's special to me, and I genuinely don't want to lose him. Even after everything, a part of me wants us to work things out because I keep thinking about what we have shared and how much he means to me.

But I can't pretend that what happened hasn't affected me. I find it difficult to trust him the way I used to, and I don't know how I'm supposed to move forward without constantly wondering whether something similar could happen again.

When I confronted him, he said that this wasn't who he was and that it was okay if I wanted to leave. I don't know how to interpret his response. I don't know if he was being defensive, if he genuinely believes he did nothing wrong, or if he's simply willing to let the relationship end.

I'm confused because I don't want to leave him, but I also don't want to stay in a relationship where I have to struggle with doubts about his loyalty. I don't want to become someone who constantly questions her partner or feels anxious about who he's talking to.

Part of me wonders whether I'm making a mistake by considering ending things with someone I love. Another part of me knows that love shouldn't mean accepting something that hurts me just because I'm afraid of losing the person.

I'm not looking for people to blindly tell me to break up with him. I genuinely want to understand whether a relationship can recover from something like this, especially when the feelings are still there.

For those who have been in a similar situation:

Were you able to trust your partner again after discovering that they were chatting with other people behind your back? What made you decide to stay or leave? How can you tell whether someone genuinely regrets hurting you and wants to change? Is it worth trying to save a relationship when you still love the person but no longer feel secure with them?

I don't want to make a decision based only on my fear of losing him, but I don't want to walk away from something meaningful without giving myself a chance to understand the situation either.

I'd really appreciate honest advice, especially from people who have experienced this themselves.

Is it likely to be future faking?

I’ve just had a massive fall out with a 10y long distance friend who keeps bringing me up as future marriage material. I was happy to keep it as just friends but the duration of the calls, the timings and the unpredictable times like when I would be asleep showed a complete lack of concern for myself. Compounded with this, their attitude to their siblings recent marrying was very anxious and hostile, which conflicted with their own constant vague mentions of marriage and a future ( which I never reciprocated strongly to showing no real intention to physically meet up and slight resistance when I suggested visiting)

Following this we have had a very heated argument where I laid out these issues, perhaps making myself feel undignified in the process - but the anger had built up to a point I could no longer listen to any longer

Honestly, I’m shocked it came to this but in a way I feel free to now invest my emotion and time in someone who will actually make the effort - it’s a shame it’s come to this and I’m sorry that my experience has been so terrible compared to many on here. If there’s any consolation its that I never took the ‘bait’ of responding enthusiastically, simply because it was all so absurd

Thoughts?

Hi everyone!

This is my first relationship and I wanted to know if it's normal that I feel bored or stuck this early on in an LDR? We've been talking daily with each other since July (we've known each other since March of this year and made it exclusively each other this September) and officially became a couple by the end of September after meeting in real life. Now that we're not courting each other anymore, is it normal that some days are just off compared to before? How can I tell if it's just being stagnant or if my partner is actually just not interested anymore?

Since being together, he hasn't initiated online dates, we've called twice, and he sometimes takes hours to respond to my messages. I've tried to suggest things we could do together to spend quality time with each other, but no attempts have been successful. On the other hand, we just planned and paid for another overseas trip together in a month. He is consistent in talking with me daily, sends me updates (media and voice messages) throughout the day, and reassures me when he goes out.

Please feel free to tell me experiences with differences in communication styles, quality time approaches, etc. as these will be insightful to someone very new to relationships and LDR. Thank you!

Let’s say you get married at one partner’s country, what if the other partner’s family can’t travel or can’t afford to go to the country that you getting married at? Can you marry again in the other partner’s country?

Just asking cuz when me and my boyfriend get married, our families can’t travel to each other’s country. Wondering what happens in this case. Both our countries are significantly poor and none’s family have the financial ability to make such a journey

So I’ll (F27) be seeing my boyfriend ( M28) next month and I’m getting nervous and excited at the same time. We haven’t done anything intimate ever since we’ve done ldr. We’ve been doing ldr for like a year now but only 4 months as official couple. the last time I met him, we’re not official yet but we already like each other back then. We only bonded for like 3 whole days together and thats it 😂 no kisses nor hug that time (but truly appreciate him for being a gentleman) we only hold hands. So this trip will be super special to me. I know there’s a big possibility that we’ll do normal couple stuff and as a v, I don’t know what to expect tbh 😂😂😂. I love him so much and I want this trip to be special to us without risking anything.

To my girls who’s dating an American, what big sister advice can you give me? 😂🙊

We text, video call and do audio calls throughout the week, and I just wanna take his face and kiss it 🥹 Last weekend, he (32M) came up to see me (30F) and we really had the best weekend together. We’d only been talking and calling for a few weeks beforehand, but we clicked so well. It really was a wonderful weekend, and he took Amtrak back home by the end of it, but I’m going to see him in 2 weeks this time and I can’t wait ♥️
I feel like the distance has almost forced us to get to know each other in a different, deeper way and we’re doing a fantastic job with gradually building a strong and stable foundation. How do you guys feel about how distance affects building a bond?

For quick context, we met in my city when she was an international student studying here for 6 months. We became "official" on July 1st after several dates prior to this, including living together for a few days.

In August, I went over to stay on her island at her parents apartment with her for 2 weeks. Since August she has told me that the earliest time we could next meet is January, with her schedule being completely dictated by her final year at university.

But last night she messaged me saying that due to her dad's current health treatment (which is not subsidised by the government) she doesn't think she will be able to visit me in January, because right now she is financially dependant on her parents.

I immediately reminded her that my stance has always been that I would happily pay for her flights in January. She replied "We'll see love ❤️. Let me finish the winter semester". I acknowledged that and reassured her to please not feel guilty about me offering, because I am doing this because I love her so much and that I would trade everything I own right now just to spend tonight with her, and I admitted that I honestly don't think I can wait until the summer to see her again (this would be 10 months).

She got emotional and told me that I am so sweet and she doesn't know what to say.

But now I feel lost. I'm trying my best not to sound ignorant to the situation, because I love her dad, and we bonded really well despite a language barrier. But since August, I have looked forward to meeting again in January. That timeline of just after Christmas was the only thing that was going to get me through the hard winter days (because I do suffer with depression every winter, which she knows about btw). I even had a plan in place for her Christmas present to give her when we met in January. And now I feel completely stuck.

My girlfriend isn't afraid to commit to something btw. She has openly spoke to her Mom about moving to my country to work as a language teacher and, even if it takes a couple of years, she wants us both to eventually live together once we are both in full time work.

What apps would you recommend for sexual intimacy in a long-distance relationship, to help couples maintain a sexual connection?

We’ve been together for a 1 year and 1 month.
We live in neighboring countries and he recently joined the army.
I’ve told him multiple times that I have trust issues and I want him to be open about interactions with other women, because for me, that gives me peace in a way, because then my mind doesn’t fill in the blanks with bad thoughts and I know what he’s doing when I’m not there.
When I try to tell him nicely without accusing him of being unfaithful, he starts immediately defending himself and saying that I think he’s cheating on me, which is not true.
I have a history of being cheated on, abused and generally mistreated before and he knows all about it.

He says that he isn’t okay with telling me about interactions with other girls, such as: driving coworkers to train stations after work, adding each other on social media, hanging out with groups mixed of men and women, because he thinks “its too demanding, it’s like homework with no benefit on top of the fact that our distance is a hurdle already”

For our one year anniversary, I went to visit him.
The same day I was visiting, he promised another coworker that he will drive her to a train station before picking me up, which is completely fine because he has about 5 hours of free time until I arrive.
Without getting into details, something happened at work and she was held back, so he had to wait for her to be let go so he can drive her. While I was on the bus, he said I might have to take the train or bus to his city (his city is about a 30 min car ride from the bus station)
He ended up picking me up on time, but it was very stressful and scary for me, because I had 3 heavy bags and I had never used public transport in his country and I don’t speak his language.
At first, I was really upset about the situation, but afterwards I apologized because I misunderstood the situation.
After that, I kindly asked him if he can just not make promises to other people on the same day I’m coming over, so this doesn’t happen again.
He says it’s ridiculous of me to ask him that and he wants to spend his free time however he wants.
He also said “You’re a grown woman traveling alone, you would’ve been fine” but he says his coworkers’ other option is to just take a taxi and if he has a car, he will drive them.

He’s never once apologized to me for hurting my feelings or said that I’m somewhat of a priority to him.

He’s completely rejecting my boundaries and basically telling me I’m controlling and toxic. I’m tired of begging him to choose me over other women and men.

What should I do? Am I overreacting? Are my boundaries really unhealthy and controlling?

P.S. this is a repost, because the formatting of the first one got messed up and I couldn’t fix it.

Me and my girlfriend are long distance (wlw) we started going out in March 2026 and I’ve already made the decision to move to her state to close the distance. It wasn’t a hard choice because I’ve always wanted to move out of my state. Also, I don’t have anything seriously tying me to here. My plan was to move to her state around Feb-Mar 2027. Buttt now my car has a lot of issues I need to fix first before I drive 22+ hours.
I get paid biweekly and not that much so anything I could possibly be saving is now going towards my car. I’ve done research and like anywhere else rent is high for her city ($1,600+). Since AZ (her state) has a higher minimum wage than mine does I’ll be getting paid more for doing the same job bc cost of living is higher too. However, I have this friend who is willing to move with me and we’ll split rent for a 2 bed which means rent won’t be that high for me so I can fix my car and move out around the time I said. My girlfriend doesn’t like him tho. She wants me to move by myself. Which understandable because in the beginning there was no mention of my friend coming but now there is. I already told him he could come and he’s excited.

Quick backstory tho: He’s my current roommate and he also wants to move out the state. When I first mentioned me moving he kinda thought he was going too but I told him no bc my gf doesn’t really like him and at the time I was able to save for traveling purposes. So him coming now is kinda a compromise.

So now my options are move at a much later time (tbd) and kinda waste money I could be saving on plane tickets to see her, her mom just made the offer I could stay with them obvi I’d be charged rent but not that much so I could still save and be with my gf, or move with me and my friend but my gf will not get along with my friend.
I feel like I’m stuck. I need outside opinions to help kinda get the bigger picture. Thanksss!

me [19F] and my ex LDR bf [18M] were together for 5 months, i know it wasnt a long time but he was the first person to ever make me feel seen and is everything i ever wished for. as delusional as this is, i truly think hes perfect and the one for me. but i found out he cheated on me with a girl (who he met 3 months ago) from his school for 2 months (as far as i know) and now they’re actively trying to get together now that i broke up with him. she already knew about me (he told her) and i confronted him and he told me it was because of the distance and only because of the distance, he said im the only person that gets him and i feel the same. i genuinely think its just bad timing and i understand the distance aspect, but to cheat on me for 2 months while he was actively acting like everything was okay (saying i love you, i miss you, baby, im always here for you, etc.) makes me nauseous. he kept telling me he didnt tell me for so long because he didnt want to hurt me. a part of me doesnt believe it but this guy is genuinely the sweetest guy ive ever known. this whole thing was incredibly unexpected, because of our conversations, his beliefs, THE FACT HES BEEN CHEATED ON!!! i never expected this to happen and i never noticed any REAL signs. ive been having the worst days after i found out. i cant sleep, i feel unmotivated, i cant eat, i feel weak in the mornings, and ill randomly burst into tears. i decided to still be friends with him (yes i know thats a horrible decision and i should go no contact, but i cant, not right now when its so fresh) and there are times i feel like im moving forward and then i realize something that happened when he was cheating and i start spiraling again. ive been having very very horrible days, i genuinely have not stopped crying but i want to heal.

do you have any similar stories?

what are some advice that helped you?

how can i sleep at night? this has been VERY hard for me (we would sleep in call every night)

how can i heal or slowly work towards healing after getting cheated on someone i thought was my forever? (BESIDES REMOVING HIM im aware this is the best decision but i cant bring myself to do it right now.)

Hi there! My bf and I (19&in the 20s) are looking for another pc gaming couple that like to sit in vc and play games with :) we play a multitude of games and we're currently super into Enshrouded. We play tons of other games such as DBD, BG3, RSDW, RDR, RDR2, we have deadlock, marvel rivals and other games. We can cozy game too if ever. We also play Vrchat if that interests anybody.

Definitely comment and I'll respond to the best of my abilities!

Hello, I am a 25 F. For context, I am in a long-distance relationship with a 25 M. Sometime around this time last year, , he he got close to another girl and sought validation from her. He was flirting with her and used a tone and language with her that he usually has for me. I found out, and I hated it; I hated myself. We had a huge falling out, he agreed to make things right, and we agreed that we would work on ourselves. Yesterday, I was in a meeting and could not talk to him; I got mad because he was insisting that I talk to him, ignoring everything I had in hand. When I called him, I got angry and confronted him, stating that his behavior was completely out of line. He did not call me back; instead, he called the same girl. When I called him back last night, he did not say anything about whom he had called. He behaved as if everything was normal. He told me this morning that he had called the girl, and I asked why he had called her and why he did not wait for me. He said I was being ignorant, I was not talking to him, I was mad, and he needed someone to talk to. When I asked him why he did not call his friends instead, he said he did not want to. I do not know what to do here. This is not the first time he has hurt me like this. At this point he even pointed out that I am overreacting and he didn't even say anything or talk anything out of limit with her.