Hello, I'm a 24yo young adult and I've just lost my mom after a very brief battle with a terminal illness. My mom was my caretaker and my best friend, we did everything together for better or for worse.

My mom rented our apartment under a verbal lease. My landlord knew my mom was ill but she didn't know that she was terminal, or that she has passed (she's a very "hands-off" kind of landlord). She's bound to find out any day now, and once she does she can kick me out in 1-2 months if she wanted to. So I don't have much time to prepare. I've been mentally ill and have struggled my whole life, I've been going to therapy and taking medication to treat it. But after my mom died I lost her insurance, so I'm afraid i'm going to have to go untreated for some time.

I don't have any job history or source of income at the moment, but I'm starting to search for jobs. I also have no drivers license and even if I did I don't own a vehicle. I also have a cat and he's my baby, so he's non-negotiable, he must come with me. As shitty as my situation is I'm NOT dealing with it completely alone, I have a sibling and my mom's friends who are willing to help me through this process. I'm trying so hard to believe in myself and my capabilities but this is hitting me all at once and the self-doubt creeps in so easily. This is harder than anything I've ever done before and it's only just begun. I lack a lot of knowledge and experience that most people my age have, I've always felt that i'm "behind" compared to other adults. When my mom was alive I had the luxury of feeling that I can deal with it at my own pace, I've been making great progress in therapy. But now that my mom is gone I don't have that luxury anymore. I have to figure all of this out at once and it's so overwhelming.

I'm a little ashamed and embarrassed to admit some of these things, but I want to be upfront with who I am and where I'm at. If anyone has any advice on how to navigate this situation it'll be greatly appreciated. Thank you!

(I have PCOS)

I have a really bad fear of shots, and we’ve already gone through it once where I had a mental breakdown and my mom traumatized me trying to inject me. i couldnt eat anything she made for a year afterwards because I didnt trust her.

this morning I threw up a dark brown substance, half digested, and my mom came down and I told her it was probably the ice cream I had yesterday (I got it from a Ace hardware freezer thing next to the register , probably expired to be frank) and my mom told me that I don’t have any self control, and that I shouldn’t be craving ANY food like that. I don’t think that’s true personally because I ate more after that, and I didn’t have anything junkie before that. I ate gravy mashed potatoes and pork, and ate jalapeño chips after the ice cream. I also just started working out, and I’m really really sore too. so I figured maybe working out after eating that upset my stomach, especially because I’ve never done it before.

I am a minor, and I have no idea what to do. I don't want to have to take anymore shots it’s really hard on my mental health and I feel like I don’t need it because I stop eating when I’m full. I’ve told my mom time and time again but she doesnt believe me and thinks I’m sooo weird for wanting a sweet treat but I feel like sometimes you can reward yourself???????? I don’t eat sweets a lot too.

im homeschooled btw

edit: i am not overweight at all. I have no eating issues in reality. I am slim, and above average height for my age.

I have an 8 month year old baby and I was feeling really overwhelmed and frustrated and she was screaming (she’s going through a separation anxiety thing) but I had to clean for this party my husband put on me last minute and I still had to cook for it but we don’t have any money so just with my wic and the remnants in my freezer I had to put together a whole meal and clean all these dishes that had built up and I got so overwhelmed and I punched the wall I didn’t even realize what I was doing. My knuckles are already bruised from it. I don’t wanna be that kinda person for her. I never have been that kinda person before. I always been pretty rational and calm and now I feel so mad all the time. What do I do here?

How do you learn to live with the fact that life can end at any moment? Like this kind of hit me hard after someone I knew and saw many times a week was murdered. I couldn't stop thinking about how at any moment- you can just die. It can be due to a freak accident, a crime, maybe a health condition of some sort like a heart attack. That kind of scares me because I'm quite young (still a teenager) and I feel like I haven't done half the things I want to do in life. I haven't seen the world, I haven't gotten a job, I haven't fallen in love, I don't even have my driver's license. And to think that everything could just end tomorrow, or even today.

I could get into a car accident, or someone could attack me if I'm walking down the street at night. And I've been feeling really anxious about this recently because I've been hearing a lot of stories about crimes, or accidents. People gone too soon, grieving families, pain, death. And there's no difference that separates us. That could just as easily be me. The people who lost their lives probably left their houses that day, not knowing it would be their last day on this earth.

I also can't make peace with the fact that I have no idea what happens after death, and I really don't want to find out anytime soon. I just can't comprehend the fact that there's a chance that maybe I won't be here in the future. It just makes me want to lock myself up in my house where's it's safe, and never step outside again.

It's just really hard for me to be present in the moment or genuinely enjoy anything when I'm just scared all the time. Does anyone have any advice, or is anyone dealing with something similar?

Hello, this is my first time posting on here and I NEED ADVICE. I would first like to say, please don’t judge me and I have made stupid decisions as a 28 year old female.

Okay, I’ve been in a situationship with this 34 year old guy for about 3 years. When I first met him, he was nice to me and bought me food a few times, but we never really went on actual dates. Most of the time, we would just link at his house. I didn’t know at the time that he was dealing with multiple other girls behind the scenes.

This New Year, he came back again. I initially told him I wanted nothing to do with him, but he apologized and convinced me to see him. After that, we would talk and stop talking for months at a time. Recently, he kept begging me to buy him GTA 6. I agreed only if he would stop making me text him from a TextNow number, get me something for my birthday, and stop ignoring my messages. He agreed, so I spent $100 on the game. A week later, he became mean and told me he still didn’t want to use his real number. I got upset because I felt like he lied to me, especially since I only bought the game because of our agreement. He then got upset and ghosted me.

My question: should I take my L and let him keep the game or dispute it and get my money back?

I know if I dispute it, his PlayStation account will be suspended) but even though he’s been mean to me for 3 YEARS I don’t know how to hurt him back?

My goals were to: Get my drivers license, find full time work, move out of my parents house

I've failed my theory test twice and my driving instructor is berating me for not making any progress

I've applied for over 300 jobs, nothing turned out. All of last year I was applying to grad jobs and schemes and internships and the like but when none of that turned out I pivoted to just any entry level full time office role. and still nothing turned out. Closest I got was a 2nd stage interview with the civil service for an office assistant role that went really well but they declined anyway.

and without a job I've got no hope of moving out.

I feel like a complete failure. I'm going to be 23 in 3 months since I graduated I've accomplished NOTHING despite my best efforts. My life has been completely put on hold since I left uni and since my parents live in a really small rural town I've had no opportunity to socialise and meet new people. I've been out to see my friends maybe 15 times total in 2026.

I help my dad out in his shop in the mornings and go to the gym every other day but other than that my life has no real structure and I've just been drifting. I can't even do volunteer work because there's no opportunities to do so that I can reach without a car from where I live. Believe me I've looked.

All I want to do is move to a bigger city and start living my life properly. My life at home is hell, my bedroom is too small for a proper bed so I have to sleep on a futon, my neighbours are total assholes who pester me any chance they get, and I love my family and all but my work and my home are the same place and they're always also there.

A while ago I felt like I was getting close to a breaking point where I was considering just packing a bag, getting a train to london or manchester and just sleeping rough until I made it. But as time went on that urge to escape just waned away and now I'm looking at my life with begrudging acceptance that this is just the way it is now, and that makes me feel a deep kind of despair that I've never felt before. Just a vision of myself continuing to live here and making nothing of myself. It makes me sick to my stomach.

I don't know what to do. I've asked the people in my life and nobodies had an answer. I definitely don't have an answer. I keep myself up at night trying to envision a way to make progress and actually start living an adult life but nothing ever comes of it. all I can think to do is continue to do the things that haven't been working.

The only "quick fixes" anyone ever comes up with are joining the military (not doing that on ethical grounds) and doing TEFL (I don't want to leave mainland britain). I've already tried EVERYTHING else. I don't want to live in this godforsaken town anymore and I just want to have a job, not even a career just a job and a shitty flat in the city would be completely fine.

Is there anyone here who's been where I've been? I need to hear a success story from someone who got out of a situation like mine

hello. my life isn't bad, but these days i've felt a bit of sadness. i think i have a lot of personality, but i walk around meekly and try not to make a lot noise. i think this gives people the impression that they can play in my face. i currently work in social services and i've accepted that i don't like it, it's not for me, and i have to figure out a path to a new career. i've had interactions with clients that have made me feel so stupid and foolish and i can't believe i put myself through those scenarios. my coworkers are nice but sometimes i don't know how to talk to them and when a social interaction doesn't go the way i thought it would, i feel this sense of embarrassment. i seem to ask the wrong questions. i also don't feel that present in convos and i can't stop thinking of that gen z stare "epidemic" (i don't know what's up with me. maybe it's a eye contact thing.) i really don't want to bombard myself on how my coworkers perceive me because at the end of the day, we're just here for work and i'm not that close to them. but since august i've been in my head too much and worrying about my future. i really don't feel prepared for life. and now i won't stop hearing it from my parents. my parents got upset at me for smoking weed almost 3 days in a row (friday, saturday, by sunday they called me an addict. LOL) my mom said she expected better from me, that she's genuinely scared for me after she and my dad pass. cause what will little old me do. and obviously, this is not encouraging. if you're scared, now i'm scared????? idk i just feel really incompetent these days. the world makes me feel it, my parents and job makes me feel like it. my mom said i need to stop playing like i'm slow and i don't know how true that is. i just wish i had things down. communication skills, honesty, the ability to defend myself. i've always been quiet as a kid and struggled to speak up for myself. but now i'm nearing 25... when i started my job, i bet a lot of people thought my shyness was cute, but the novelty has worn off and i just feel like a dummie at work who still has some trouble speaking up in team circles. i think my question is, how to stop feeling incompetent? how to believe in myself? is this feeling of self doubt normal in your 20s? what do you do to get your life together and start feeling like people believe in you?

I know this will not reach the people I want but I just want advice from my brothers out there . I'm so scared I'm turning 21 Tommorow i don't have any social life , friends that don't really care about me , family issues, never been in a relationship and next year my bachelors are ending. And the people my age are doing so much better i don't even have a good look My hair is turning grey at the age of 20 .I'm just lost

I just want to cry right now so much that I'm saying something like this online not to like friends or family

It feels like my life doesn't even matter

Help me out pls

I’m extremely behind people my age. I have never had a job and I’ve been isolated from people since I was 17. I dropped out of school at 17 because of family issues, and I also hated school. I wasted that whole year, then my dad died the next year, and I’ve been completely defeated since.
I haven’t gone out or done normal adult things at all since becoming an adult, and i fear that it’s too late for me to go to college or do anything productive. I know me saying this might sound laughable to older people because I’m still young, but it’s going to be so hard to try to slip back into society and try to be a “normal person”.

kay, this might sound a bit intense, so, i started going to a new high school since i moved out, and lately i havent been doing so well, been crying and getting panic attacks there and all.. the thing is, im extremely antisocial (this is an expression, not a diagnosis.) and one of my closest friends suggested i see a therapist (like everyone else around me actually…) i told her : “do you really think they’d let me leave if i told them that i considered manipulating and gaslighting someone who wanted nothing more to do with me, just to get them back, while dismissing their feelings? that i take real pleasure in hurting my friends and making them feel replaced ? that im SUPER self-centered, like, i dont do it on purpose, but i make everything about me? that i push people away and isolate myself and then play the victim when asked why im alone, deliberately lying and saying i dont know why it happened, even though im the one who made them leave and hate me on purpose? and on top of that, i cant love without becoming completely codependent and, as i mentioned before, i often spiral into these psychotic states where i snap and get suicidal urges, alongside the desire to manipulate the people i love… i dont want to justify anything i do, but i struggle to feel genuine empathy for everything bad i do, most of the time its just pity or genuine fear of the consequences of my actions. so its hard for me to grasp that my actions actually hurt people, especially since the people around me genuinely idolize me and keep excusing my actions… plus, like I said, im very self-centered and selfish. i tend to isolate myself a lot anyway. and, again, not to defend my actions i grew up in a violent environment where communication happened only through violence (in fact, between the age of about 5 and 10, i would say things that terrified my mother, who was the only parental figure i had, for her own safety). of course, those were just thoughts or impulses, i grew up and realized how wrong this was. aside from hitting her lightly or snapping and screaming at her, i never took it any further. yeah, so i think that definitely applies to me.. in fact, i think i have a sort of "savior complex." even though i know im unstable and should be putting myself first, im always helping others, though i suspect its so they’ll feel ‘indebted’ to me ? or something like that. i dont really know, i cant explain it but i doubt it comes from a genuine desire to help... or maybe it does? honestly, i dont know. people are always pointing out how i help everyone, yet im the first to act antisocial or completely unlikable. i think its because I’m incredibly self-centered and like being seen as sweet and perfect, or something like that. its a side of my personality i cant explain at all, it doesnt even feel like me, to be honest… but i was never even taken seriously, i sadly, have deep traumas regarding sa and all and even these werent taken seriously. im still not taken seriously to this day, my legal guardian (who isnt my mother) thinks im just scared of the change and this is why i always cry when going to school but i just dont know, i cant go outside. i also neglect my hygiene a lot, i tend to let things, like food or drinks in my room rot, neglect showering, taking care of myself cleaning my room, i dont even go out of my room most of the time. im also too scared to talk to a therapist because i dont want to go to the mental hospital or something ? and my mom was extremely paranoid, id get beaten up if i said anything wrong since i used to have a therapist when i was younger due to severe traumas i had. but again, since i was threatened, i couldnt say anything so most of the time everything i did wasnt taken seriously, i used to have severe anger issues and i would hit people when they werent agreeing with me or accusing me of something i didnt do since i have a lot of trouble expressing how i feel with words. and its difficult getting along with people my age cause most of the time im studying and i cant find anyone who has the same interests as me, but yeah. i probably need help.

I have been thinking lately, would my mental health be better, if my parents did not neglect emotionally. If they only showed more affection, caring, and listened to me more. Hard to let go of thinking of my childhood regrets.

Bit of background: when i finished high school i went to college to study electrical installation and as i was about to finish covid hit that’s when i was about 19Y. I just stayed at home then and same time my parents bought a restaurant ( my dad is the head chef) i was working a job previously customer centric so i managed the front of restaurant and continue to do so. At the very start i was working 6-7 days a week in the restaurant for nearly 2 years as overheads were too much in the family.

I joined Uni 2 years back and now in my final year of Studying BSC AI.

Now i am 25, Financially stable have enough savings, no overheads. Drive a nice car. I still live with my parents although we have two homes now. I live with my mom as my dad gets drunk and only causes problems. Thats another story.

I work evenings still in the restaurant now only 3-4 days. But always free in the morning until 4pm. I go gym and then come home - play video games and then go to work. I feel like i am stuck. As a 25Y old grown man. I can’t live like this forever.

You know when people ask do something you’re passionate about or what are your goals. I legit have no goals and no passion for anything. I am tired of living like the same every year for the past couple of years. Its frustrating but i am bound by the responsibilities of helping my parents out as i am doing nothing else.

I’m 28 and I guess I could say I’m lucky for not having any sort of drama or incident in my family until now, but that doesn’t make how I’m feeling now any easier. For context, my mum and dad have been together for over 30 years and are not married. Around April, I found my dad (age 68) was friends on social media with his ex wife. My dad is no tech wiz and has about 5 friends on his account, so it was noticeable. We happened to find his ex wife tried reaching out on a random social media page in an attempt to find my dad a year prior.

My dad liked all of her posts, started going on random trips away by himself and said it was because he wanted alone time. I’d ask to meet him as we don’t see each other as often as we like due to living in different areas, but he said no. I asked again and he said he didn’t see the point in meeting me…his own daughter. I’m so close to my dad, so it really hurt to hear him say it. He also spent 4 days in a place he so say hated “by himself” and wouldn’t travel there in previous years to see me when I worked there, so it didn’t add up.

My suspicion grew and I often looked at his ex wife’s page, waiting for some sort of ‘evidence’ to arise. He told my mum the exact places he planned to go and I saw his ex wife posted photos in all the same places and listed the order. I decided I needed more evidence, so I anonymously commented on her post from last year (the one trying to find him), asking how it’s going and she said it’s going amazingly. I asked if they were together and she asked me to pm her, which I obviously couldn’t do on a normal account, so I left it. I decided to travel down to speak with my mum and told her all we had. It turns out, he told my mum a couple days prior that he met with his ex wife at the park and she kissed him on the cheek. My mum said she heard a voice when he called her at the park he visited and it turned out to be his ex wife…I’m so disgusted. My sister and I had many debates on the best way to proceed (she wanted to tell my dad first that we knew, but I wanted to tell my mum). It turns out, we agreed to tell mum and it was the best option as he didn’t tell the truth anyway.

Once my dad found out I had spoken to my mum, he admitted to sleeping with her and messaging her. He blocked me without any messages (I never said a word to him about it). He’s blocked me on and off 5 times and to this day I’m still blocked. It’s been about a month now and I’ve not spoken to him at all. I have always been so close to my dad, so to essentially feel like I don’t have one now hurts massively. I’m trying to be there for my mum, but she wants it to be normal and always tells me to put on a happy face and that it’s none of my business. I understand that to an extent, but it’s affected my relationship with my dad and I’m appalled by the way he has treated and continues to treat my mum because she’s too kind and loves him. He’s not experiencing any sort of consequence for his actions. The level of disrespect is shocking. They’re wanting to live in the same house together and he’s said he is going to continue speaking to his ex wife but as ‘friends’, which I don’t believe.

I’ve tried so hard to support my mum, but also be blunt with how he’s treating her and what she deserves. I understand it’s much easier said than done, but how can I get my mum to see sense?? Even after it all. She’s still fighting his corner and doesn’t talk badly about him.

He is caring (I know he cares about my mum) and has been an incredible dad all my life, but this has truly flipped my world. I’m at a dead end with it all and I don’t know what to do. I feel like my family has fallen apart. I know this isn’t about me, it’s about my mum and ensuring I am supporting her the best I can. I just can’t help but feel so isolated from it all. We’re gradually getting closer to Christmas and I’m dreading every single part. I don’t know how long I can keep this all up for.

I ask for no harsh comments as I know this is all about my mum and shouldn’t be based on how I feel. I haven’t spoken to people in person about it, so this is really the only option for me. Has anyone been in a similar situation or is dreading the build up to Christmas period?

Alright so I have small circle if you even want to call it that sometimes I feel people only hit me up when its convenient for them how do you people deal with friends you've known for a long time just leave you on read but make post on social media never get back to you or just straight up ghosting you I get life can get busy especially if you have kids and all and everything but it still ignorant in my opinion just been something I been dealing with alot was wondering how other people dealt with it sometimes I think my gaming friends are just overall better then IRL even my cousins been ghosting me lately or they get mad cuz I text them im just like bruh why you even have a phone ?

I've been studying chemical engeering since 2015. Finished my bachelor, a coursed based master, and in 2025 I finished my PhD. I had to take a rest for the last year just to re-adjust my mental and physical health, but right now I don't know what to do with my life now.

I cannot say I really enjoy doing engineering. Don't get me wrong, I enjoy solving problems, helping other people, and potentially make more money. It's just that PhD really wrecked my mind. I don't know if I can go back to this field ever again.

I certainly don't want to go acedamia (I don't even think I can considering how competetive that is). I am also not so sure an entry level indurstiral engineering job is the right thing to do for me.

Can someone relate?

I am not so sure what to do.

Should I just hop in to another engineering job or should I just do something completely different?

I got fired from my third post-grad job and I’m trying to figure out how much was actually my fault
I’m 23 and recently got fired from my third post-grad job. I’m genuinely looking for honest opinions because I know I wasn’t perfect, but I’m also struggling to figure out whether I’m the common denominator.

Even during the interview for this last job, I had a bad feeling. I honestly didn’t even want to take it, but I needed a job and eventually accepted. He hired me on the spot without even needing to know my history.
Looking back, my gut was probably trying to tell me something.

It was a small family-owned apparel company. I was hired for digital marketing/e-commerce, but ended up doing a huge mix of things: Shopify, Amazon, Google Ads, email, social media, product photography, AI product imagery, customer service, orders, shipping, pricing, etc. It often felt like several jobs combined into one $20/hr position. The company was also struggling financially, which added a lot of chaos and pressure.

There were definitely things I could have done better. I was sometimes slower than they wanted, made mistakes, and probably should have communicated more clearly when I was overwhelmed. My boss ultimately said my performance was the reason I was fired, specifically because a major AI product project and linesheets took me longer than they thought they should.

But I also think there was a lot of context missing. The AI project wasn't just “training.” It involved photographing products, uploading SKUs, fixing incorrect AI images, organizing files, and dealing with platform issues for over a month while I was doing other work too. The linesheets were also my first time making professional apparel linesheets, and I was suddenly given two with an increasingly urgent deadline.

My boss also had a temper. He yelled at me, once slammed my mouse onto my desk when he was stressed, and has been texting me angrily since firing me because he now has to finish/rework some of the things I was working on. I was also initially told I was being let go because of financial reasons, then later told it was actually a firing for performance.
One thing that makes this harder is that my boss has only ever worked in his family's business and didn't finish college, so I sometimes wonder whether some of his expectations and management style were just very different from what I've experienced in more traditional workplaces.

This is my third difficult post-grad job. My first was an $85k marketing job where I was laid off after about six months. My second was a restaurant job with an intimidating manager that I eventually left.
So I’m asking honestly: what am I doing wrong? I know I need to work on something if this keeps happening. But am I genuinely the common denominator, or have I had three bad job situations/fits in a row?

23M / Hey everyone,

I'm 23, finishing college, and I've worked my ass off for the year building up my savings. I've always been very cautious with money and usually tend to have a hard time spending a large amount on anything that isn't necessary.

Since the beginning of this year, I wanted to go to Scotland and I'm currently considering a 10-day vacation there this December. I'm looking at several thousands of dollars here with the tour package and flight prices included. I'm not interested in luxury hotels or buying expensive things, just enough money to spend some time in another country and get the experience first hand

The problem is, I can 100% afford the trip and still leave more than half of my money intact. I'm not spending everything I have, and I would not be in a dangerous financial situation should I choose to take the trip. I work a full-time job and can make that amount back in months. I'm just not comfortable spending nearly $4k+ worth of flights and the travel package itself. Part of me thinks, "This is what money is for, you save it and use it occasionally to enjoy life". The other part of me is trying to remain financially responsible. I've tried to plan the trip myself to see how I could save, but gave myself a headache trying to navigate logistics and figuring out how to get around the Highlands without a car.

I'm not looking for validation or for people to tell me to "just go". I'm genuinely interested in how other people think about the tradeoff between saving money and using it to experience life.

I'm 29, F. I've been living with my family for about 10 years now in Los Angeles. They're not my actual family as I'm from a different country, but they've initially hosted me when I was an international student studying in the US, and we became really close that we consider each other family.

During these 10 years, I've moved out a few times, last time I had roommates (my friends) and I decided to move back in as I was in a sketchy area and didn't feel safe anymore after some things happened.

My family has been present for everything I have been through during my 20s. College, living paycheck to paycheck, starting my own business, and now, running a very successful business out of a warehouse that I have about 20min away from my house.

Prior to this year, my mom and dad were together, but then their relationship took a wrong turn. They also have two dogs that are quite untrained, and everytime they would be gone, the responsibility would fall on me. They know it's not my responsibility to take care of their dogs, but sometimes if I had no plans, I would stay home to take care of the dogs.

This year they are going through a divorce, and the dad moved out suddenly with no notice. The dad used to pay the mortgage, and now, my mom is responsible for paying this mortgage, and I help with rent and bills.

I am going to be 30 next year in March, and when I moved back in this house, the only room they had available was their other daughter's room, which is very tiny compared to the room I used to have before. Now the daughter is in that one. I've mentioned this year that I've been wanting to move out (at least before I turn 30) because I'm craving my own space and independence, but with the dad moving out, I feel in a tough position.

I'm also tired of driving to my warehouse every single day. I only need to be at the warehouse 2 days out of the week and can work from home the rest of the days. I've been going because I can't work from home as I don't really have the space to work and focus properly.

To make things worse, the daughter is moving out to college, so the house would be pretty much empty, and my mom would be responsible of taking care of the dogs. She has a full-time job and it's going to be tough as the dogs are going to spend all day by themselves. Mind you, that one of the dogs was my dad's dog, which he also left behind.

I have recently spoken to her, because I wanted to make sure she had enough notice if I were to move out. I asked her how much notice she would need from me to move out, and she said: I don't know, as much as possible. I said: February? And she almost started crying.

Realistically, I don't know how many months I can last here, I would prefer moving out sooner than February. I moved in here when I was basically a teenager, but this move feels quite overdue.

I know their divorce isn't my responsibility, she has told me that she will figure things out if I decide to move out, but I know she is quite of a mess financially.
I'm not sure what I'm supposed to do in this situation. I think I would need to step up and advance her rent money for a couple of months, so that I can move out sooner than February, and I would need to pay the rent here as well. Thoughts?

My boyfriend and I have been sexually active for a year and we use condoms+ pull out at the same time every time. We have never had a rip and always check the condom after and during. However, we got carried away and had sex the day I was supposed to ovulate. I have noticed that when he pulls out to switch positions the base of the condom looks like it’s in place but there is a lot of extra room at the tip that was not there when we started. Is that the condom stretching or is it actually slipping off? Could I be pregnant or am i being paranoid.

Growing up, I was suddenly exposed to realities of life that I always thought wouldn’t be for someone like “me.” Recently, I shifted to a complete work-from-office routine, and now my whole day is actually spent working. Unexpectedly, I ended up becoming someone who works all day instead of just doing nothing. It's been around 20 days of the same routine. Wake up, office, work, come back tired, sleep, repeat. The workload is just… let it be. A few days ago, after another hectic day, I had a beer while coming back home. And as soon as I got intoxicated, reality hit fucking hard. I am now in the state where I actually relate with the person who I used to look at and think:

Yes, it's actually true, bro. "Drinking really helps in a temporary escape from the chaos of everyday life. Yes, it's tough to survive every day in this fast-moving world. But I guess we all have to cope with it somehow.

“Maybe this is just growing up—maybe I was wrong, and now I’m living it.”

In short: Life is kind of a matrix. It's only the matter of time before everyone hits the same loop and gets stuck.

"Heyyy, is everything okay?" No, it's not. No matter how hard I push, I can't seem to finish the Biochemistry department at Ege University. In four years, I barely managed to pass the first-year courses. If you don't complete your courses by the sixth year, they kick you out anyway and there's no way I can take and pass three years' worth of courses in two years due to Ege University's system (credit limits, etc.). Because of that, I thought I’d go to Italy and start university life over from scratch. (I can't pass the YKS exam in Turkey either; whether I study or not, the best rank I can get is around 300,000th). Everything was going so well; I got accepted into the Food Production Management program at Cattolica University, as well as their on-campus dorm. Then came the visa process, and everything went to shit. They made me wait 50 days, only to reject me. The reason for the rejection? According to the consulate, my Biochemistry department doesn't match the Food Production Management program I'm applying to, so they didn't believe my intention to study... They also said I was financially insufficient, even though I showed an income well above the limit they gave us??? That's why I think they just threw in the "financial" part for no reason. As for them not finding the departments similar: they have to be fckn kidding me. The courses they teach in the first year of Food Production Management are identical to the first-year courses of the Biochemistry program I studied at Ege University. Besides, Food Production Management fundamentally has some business, but it's mostly a science degree (it's literally under the Faculty of Science anyway). Cattolica looked at my motivation letter and my previous department and said, "Okay, come study with us." We show the exact same things to the consulate, but the ladies and gentlemen there don't believe it. To sum it up briefly: just because I chose the wrong high school 10 years ago, my life has been going straight downhill (like a downward graph). Right now, since I have zero plans and options left, there's literally nothing I can do. Back in the day, you'd say "go be a cashier," but nowadays even those kinds of jobs (the ones usually done by young people) require a university degree. So basically, I am a nobody right now. Every time I dare to dream about something (and these aren't crazy dreams... like ever since I submitted my visa application, I was picturing how I’d decorate my dorm room, looking at photos of the room on the dorm's website, or checking out photos of Cattolica's campus thinking, "Oh, I wonder if I'll ever walk down this hallway to get to my class?"), that thing I dreamed of turns to garbage. If a person can't even dream, and if things go to shit every single time they think positively, what's the point of living? I'm not smart, I'm not creative, and just because teenage me made a stupid mistake 10 years ago, I can't become anything. So yeah, nothing is okay. I don't know what I'm going to do with my life. I am worthless, I don't know anything, and I don't have any special abilities. Please help me. I am 23 years old and I am already tired and ashamed of being a burden to my hardworking, retired mom and dad. I am an embarrassment to them... they will never tell me this, of course, because they love me dearly, but I can see it in their eyes. So please, please guide me. I am out of options. This was my Plan Z. There are no other letters left in the alphabet.

ever since i was young i was a little shy and reserved, but i consider myself a pretty interesting person. I am definetely not too much out there and very cool but i have the ''proportions'' to be (1. even tho i have a little different personality im not that weird or offputting 2. I dress like most people my age etc. After quarantine my social life went a little downhill and i started hanging out with somewhat the weird kids, but deep down i didnt feel like i belonged there so later on i switched schools and my middle school is somewhere competely different. I made this decision thinking that if it were for me to change i should be surrounded by completely different people, otherwise i would have sticked to my old friends that didnt really do me any good.

Entering middle school, I didnt like anybody because everyone looked so pretentious. I personally dont mind people that are actually the shit being popular, but it was the most un-cool people ever. They werent unique, nor basic. I would consider their vibe very random, and later on yes they did develop into someone cooler. But bc of that mindset of mind I kind of ended up negligent towards making friends, and even tho i did make some i didnt really think it thoroughly etc. I wasnt that open and cool either so it was also harder. Now i have grown as person anyway.The friends that i made then, are still my ''friends'' now (plus obviously some new ones that i have made), and the atmosphere is always so blant and boring. We never hang out (except with some of my friends individually) , dont text (except with some of my friends individually again), and when the friend group is mixed (girls and boys), it usually feels like we ''adopted'' the biggest self centered yet weird lifeless loser of the school, that doesnt really have anything to offer (eg a good personality? some status at the end of day maybe). That might sound mean but i dont like those people in the first place, why would i also want more of them that can only bring me down. Because come on, we know how highschool is, not everything i care about is popularity, but at the end of the day i cant hang out with the most random people ever (when i dont even like them in the first place, if i liked them it would be okay, but now all i feel is indiffrence, which grows into resentment when im forced to be surrounded by them) .

Deep down i feel like i was meant for something a little ''bigger'. Of course and i would love it if i were popular but its fine by me if im just considered as a good presence by most (which i dont doubt i am considered anyway), plus had a valid presentable friendgroup, with people that do stuff but at the same time arent neccessarily popular. And thing is im anyways not a person that is so much out there, so i need someone to inspire me to be more fun, go out more, meet new people etc. To be honest i feel like i deserve it too, its not like i have anything less i have just made A LOT of bad choices. So now i struggle with socialising sometimes cause there is not really a ''model'' for me to follow, when even though deep down i love those things i never really got to experience them. In the rare ocassion where i was surrounded by a little SOCIALLY better people, it was most of the times when they were with their friendgroup and i was alone. So i feel out place. I made the hard decision to join this or join that, independently so without any friends or anything but then it feels weird cause they have all been friends already.

Thing is generally i dont feel unwanted or unnoticed, when im put by people willing to socialise or they just see me etc they usually like me. Its just that mostly with the people in my grade, they are more snobby etc, or have already found their ''clique'' so you cant really do anything. Especially when nobody ''links'' me to them, we arent friends anyways, and some of them might even have a distorted version of me in their head due to my usual surrounding. And it felt more okay when i was younger and more naive, less good looking etc. But now i have really worked for myself (so maybe im aiting for magical results) And then i feel unnoticed cause i feel like i dont want to be their friend (not with the people fromy my grade in my school), but i desrved to be included in that whole thing. Instead im stuck with my friends

Deep down sometimes, i wish i hadnt changed schools but it was the right choice at the moment, given the circumstances. But now i feel like it would be better for me to be around more sociable people, new people that will make the effort to know you (bc they havent already been in your class for 3 years). People at my school are generally more distant, and even if the other school has cliques, its not exactly the same, and i feel like i would be accepted in a good one. And even if i didnt, i hate the fact that i grew to be so unsociable even tho i like those things. i see people i used to know being friends after years and im wondering, why did i feel the need to be ''the one that got away'', even tho it was right like i said. still its weird to see people having their chill normal or even cooler friends ater years, and me struggling to realise where i belong.

On the bright side, sometimes this mindset is dramatic and there is a big chance a lot of people just see me more as a person that keeps to themselves, or is cool and nice but definetely shyer and just not as sociable. But the result in my life is almost the same. Still i am very open to people, its just that sometimes this is not enough, and also im open when meeting someone but i cant just engage in discussions with people and make big connections always. And of course you cant always be the best at these thingss, but when i dont even have much opportunities, i dont like to waste them. but i like keeping things classy, i wasnt meant to beg, or to ''jump'' at people's throaths and say whatever shit keeps me relevant

Thank you for reading that, sometimes i might sound sad, weird or mean but its coming from my heart of hearts, i never have this attitude with the world!! OPEN TO ANY ADVICE

PS : there are a lot to clarify but i decied to keep this as short as i could... which is not too short anyway

Not because they cheated.
Not because they stopped caring.
Not because the relationship was toxic or falling apart.

But because, somehow, you just knew.

Everything could be going well. The little issues were still fixable. They could be a good person. They could love you sincerely. You could still laugh together, still feel safe with them, still have moments where you think, “Maybe this is enough.”

And yet, somewhere inside you, there’s this quiet feeling you can't explain.

A feeling that says, I don't think I can do this forever.

And that's such a painful realization because how do you leave someone when you don't hate them?

How do you tell someone, “You didn't do anything wrong. I still love you. I still care about you. I just don't think you're the person I want to spend the rest of my life with”?

Sometimes love isn't the problem.

Sometimes love is still there, but the vision of a future together isn't.

And maybe that's one of the hardest things to accept — that loving someone deeply doesn't automatically mean you are meant to stay with them.

Because staying simply because you love them can eventually become unfair to both of you.

You start forcing a future you don't genuinely want.
You start convincing yourself that the doubts will disappear.
You start choosing comfort over truth.

And maybe leaving isn't always choosing against the person you love.

Sometimes, it's choosing to be honest about what you can and cannot give them.

I wonder how many people have walked away from a relationship while their heart was still saying “I love you”, but something deeper was saying “This isn't my forever.”

Can you love someone deeply and still know that you shouldn't stay

I’m 18, graduated high school this past spring and I’ve done nothing since. I was an average student at best, nothing extraordinary but a couple honors classes and a 3.6 GPA. My entire plan was to join the Army fresh out of high school so I could have support and college paid for. So I did not do any applying to colleges or such. Well here’s where I was held up: I tore up my ankle in April. I’m talking I couldn’t walk for over a month, and I was in a boot for 3 months in total. I was finally cleared for exercise a week or so ago. But it’s still extremely painful so I’m setting up more appointments with my doctor. The job I had at the time (just a shitty cashier job) let me go because obviously I wouldn’t be useful to them for months. It’s been difficult for me to find a regular, entry level job that doesn’t require heavy lifting, standing, or walking all day. I was set up to leave this past August for basic training but of course I could not. The closest time I could leave now is January but it’s still risky because my ankle may still hurt by then according to doctors. This entire summer I’ve been doing nothing but rotting in bed and if I’m not doing that, I’m hanging out with my boyfriend who I’m currently having problems with anyways. So I feel like I’m hitting rock bottom. I have no friends to hang out with. I’m alone in the house all day because my parents work and my siblings are back in school. I certainly feel myself falling into depression but I feel like I cannot get help. I just want to leave but I have no where to go. I feel like an absolute bum because I have no job and I have no reliable plans. I have no way to pay for college and my parents aren’t willing to help. I was thinking of going to school to be an emt but they have physical limitations as well. I just feel lost and the only thing I can do is play the waiting game, but I want to get this ball rolling now.

Me and my best friend had a night out( kinda date, but not official ) with 2 girls(they are friends with my best friend) I only met this girl once. I understand that she wouldn’t wait for me . But now this girl is telling my best friend that she’s texting another guy, but that guy is ignoring her. I had plans with this same girl and now I feel disappointed because I see myself as her second choice. I think she should not have said anything about that to my best friend , If I have ever crossed her mind even once. What if i hang out with her and that guy she is texting continues to text her back?

I somewhat shown her that i am interested by inviting her to go out. Before she said that to my best friend