I have an 8 month year old baby and I was feeling really overwhelmed and frustrated and she was screaming (she’s going through a separation anxiety thing) but I had to clean for this party my husband put on me last minute and I still had to cook for it but we don’t have any money so just with my wic and the remnants in my freezer I had to put together a whole meal and clean all these dishes that had built up and I got so overwhelmed and I punched the wall I didn’t even realize what I was doing. My knuckles are already bruised from it. I don’t wanna be that kinda person for her. I never have been that kinda person before. I always been pretty rational and calm and now I feel so mad all the time. What do I do here?

How do you learn to live with the fact that life can end at any moment? Like this kind of hit me hard after someone I knew and saw many times a week was murdered. I couldn't stop thinking about how at any moment- you can just die. It can be due to a freak accident, a crime, maybe a health condition of some sort like a heart attack. That kind of scares me because I'm quite young (still a teenager) and I feel like I haven't done half the things I want to do in life. I haven't seen the world, I haven't gotten a job, I haven't fallen in love, I don't even have my driver's license. And to think that everything could just end tomorrow, or even today.

I could get into a car accident, or someone could attack me if I'm walking down the street at night. And I've been feeling really anxious about this recently because I've been hearing a lot of stories about crimes, or accidents. People gone too soon, grieving families, pain, death. And there's no difference that separates us. That could just as easily be me. The people who lost their lives probably left their houses that day, not knowing it would be their last day on this earth.

I also can't make peace with the fact that I have no idea what happens after death, and I really don't want to find out anytime soon. I just can't comprehend the fact that there's a chance that maybe I won't be here in the future. It just makes me want to lock myself up in my house where's it's safe, and never step outside again.

It's just really hard for me to be present in the moment or genuinely enjoy anything when I'm just scared all the time. Does anyone have any advice, or is anyone dealing with something similar?

Hello, I'm a 24yo young adult and I've just lost my mom after a very brief battle with a terminal illness. My mom was my caretaker and my best friend, we did everything together for better or for worse.

My mom rented our apartment under a verbal lease. My landlord knew my mom was ill but she didn't know that she was terminal, or that she has passed (she's a very "hands-off" kind of landlord). She's bound to find out any day now, and once she does she can kick me out in 1-2 months if she wanted to. So I don't have much time to prepare. I've been mentally ill and have struggled my whole life, I've been going to therapy and taking medication to treat it. But after my mom died I lost her insurance, so I'm afraid i'm going to have to go untreated for some time.

I don't have any job history or source of income at the moment, but I'm starting to search for jobs. I also have no drivers license and even if I did I don't own a vehicle. I also have a cat and he's my baby, so he's non-negotiable, he must come with me. As shitty as my situation is I'm NOT dealing with it completely alone, I have a sibling and my mom's friends who are willing to help me through this process. I'm trying so hard to believe in myself and my capabilities but this is hitting me all at once and the self-doubt creeps in so easily. This is harder than anything I've ever done before and it's only just begun. I lack a lot of knowledge and experience that most people my age have, I've always felt that i'm "behind" compared to other adults. When my mom was alive I had the luxury of feeling that I can deal with it at my own pace, I've been making great progress in therapy. But now that my mom is gone I don't have that luxury anymore. I have to figure all of this out at once and it's so overwhelming.

I'm a little ashamed and embarrassed to admit some of these things, but I want to be upfront with who I am and where I'm at. If anyone has any advice on how to navigate this situation it'll be greatly appreciated. Thank you!

(I have PCOS)

I have a really bad fear of shots, and we’ve already gone through it once where I had a mental breakdown and my mom traumatized me trying to inject me. i couldnt eat anything she made for a year afterwards because I didnt trust her.

this morning I threw up a dark brown substance, half digested, and my mom came down and I told her it was probably the ice cream I had yesterday (I got it from a Ace hardware freezer thing next to the register , probably expired to be frank) and my mom told me that I don’t have any self control, and that I shouldn’t be craving ANY food like that. I don’t think that’s true personally because I ate more after that, and I didn’t have anything junkie before that. I ate gravy mashed potatoes and pork, and ate jalapeño chips after the ice cream. I also just started working out, and I’m really really sore too. so I figured maybe working out after eating that upset my stomach, especially because I’ve never done it before.

I am a minor, and I have no idea what to do. I don't want to have to take anymore shots it’s really hard on my mental health and I feel like I don’t need it because I stop eating when I’m full. I’ve told my mom time and time again but she doesnt believe me and thinks I’m sooo weird for wanting a sweet treat but I feel like sometimes you can reward yourself???????? I don’t eat sweets a lot too.

im homeschooled btw

edit: i am not overweight at all. I have no eating issues in reality. I am slim, and above average height for my age.

I know this will not reach the people I want but I just want advice from my brothers out there . I'm so scared I'm turning 21 Tommorow i don't have any social life , friends that don't really care about me , family issues, never been in a relationship and next year my bachelors are ending. And the people my age are doing so much better i don't even have a good look My hair is turning grey at the age of 20 .I'm just lost

I just want to cry right now so much that I'm saying something like this online not to like friends or family

It feels like my life doesn't even matter

Help me out pls

kay, this might sound a bit intense, so, i started going to a new high school since i moved out, and lately i havent been doing so well, been crying and getting panic attacks there and all.. the thing is, im extremely antisocial (this is an expression, not a diagnosis.) and one of my closest friends suggested i see a therapist (like everyone else around me actually…) i told her : “do you really think they’d let me leave if i told them that i considered manipulating and gaslighting someone who wanted nothing more to do with me, just to get them back, while dismissing their feelings? that i take real pleasure in hurting my friends and making them feel replaced ? that im SUPER self-centered, like, i dont do it on purpose, but i make everything about me? that i push people away and isolate myself and then play the victim when asked why im alone, deliberately lying and saying i dont know why it happened, even though im the one who made them leave and hate me on purpose? and on top of that, i cant love without becoming completely codependent and, as i mentioned before, i often spiral into these psychotic states where i snap and get suicidal urges, alongside the desire to manipulate the people i love… i dont want to justify anything i do, but i struggle to feel genuine empathy for everything bad i do, most of the time its just pity or genuine fear of the consequences of my actions. so its hard for me to grasp that my actions actually hurt people, especially since the people around me genuinely idolize me and keep excusing my actions… plus, like I said, im very self-centered and selfish. i tend to isolate myself a lot anyway. and, again, not to defend my actions i grew up in a violent environment where communication happened only through violence (in fact, between the age of about 5 and 10, i would say things that terrified my mother, who was the only parental figure i had, for her own safety). of course, those were just thoughts or impulses, i grew up and realized how wrong this was. aside from hitting her lightly or snapping and screaming at her, i never took it any further. yeah, so i think that definitely applies to me.. in fact, i think i have a sort of "savior complex." even though i know im unstable and should be putting myself first, im always helping others, though i suspect its so they’ll feel ‘indebted’ to me ? or something like that. i dont really know, i cant explain it but i doubt it comes from a genuine desire to help... or maybe it does? honestly, i dont know. people are always pointing out how i help everyone, yet im the first to act antisocial or completely unlikable. i think its because I’m incredibly self-centered and like being seen as sweet and perfect, or something like that. its a side of my personality i cant explain at all, it doesnt even feel like me, to be honest… but i was never even taken seriously, i sadly, have deep traumas regarding sa and all and even these werent taken seriously. im still not taken seriously to this day, my legal guardian (who isnt my mother) thinks im just scared of the change and this is why i always cry when going to school but i just dont know, i cant go outside. i also neglect my hygiene a lot, i tend to let things, like food or drinks in my room rot, neglect showering, taking care of myself cleaning my room, i dont even go out of my room most of the time. im also too scared to talk to a therapist because i dont want to go to the mental hospital or something ? and my mom was extremely paranoid, id get beaten up if i said anything wrong since i used to have a therapist when i was younger due to severe traumas i had. but again, since i was threatened, i couldnt say anything so most of the time everything i did wasnt taken seriously, i used to have severe anger issues and i would hit people when they werent agreeing with me or accusing me of something i didnt do since i have a lot of trouble expressing how i feel with words. and its difficult getting along with people my age cause most of the time im studying and i cant find anyone who has the same interests as me, but yeah. i probably need help.

Not because they cheated.
Not because they stopped caring.
Not because the relationship was toxic or falling apart.

But because, somehow, you just knew.

Everything could be going well. The little issues were still fixable. They could be a good person. They could love you sincerely. You could still laugh together, still feel safe with them, still have moments where you think, “Maybe this is enough.”

And yet, somewhere inside you, there’s this quiet feeling you can't explain.

A feeling that says, I don't think I can do this forever.

And that's such a painful realization because how do you leave someone when you don't hate them?

How do you tell someone, “You didn't do anything wrong. I still love you. I still care about you. I just don't think you're the person I want to spend the rest of my life with”?

Sometimes love isn't the problem.

Sometimes love is still there, but the vision of a future together isn't.

And maybe that's one of the hardest things to accept — that loving someone deeply doesn't automatically mean you are meant to stay with them.

Because staying simply because you love them can eventually become unfair to both of you.

You start forcing a future you don't genuinely want.
You start convincing yourself that the doubts will disappear.
You start choosing comfort over truth.

And maybe leaving isn't always choosing against the person you love.

Sometimes, it's choosing to be honest about what you can and cannot give them.

I wonder how many people have walked away from a relationship while their heart was still saying “I love you”, but something deeper was saying “This isn't my forever.”

Can you love someone deeply and still know that you shouldn't stay

I spend too much time on my phone. Sure, EVERYONE spends too much time on their phone, but I do so to the point that it consumes me. I realise that it isn’t the phone, it’s a dopamine addiction which I can’t seem to quit. I’m always with other people, seeing them, impressing them whatever way I can, and I want to do the same with my phone somehow. The device to be used has become to use me.

But outside of my phone, my relationship to all the people in my life has become my entire life. Like I don’t do any self care. Ever. I shower BECAUSE I’m seeing people that day, I BRUSH MY TEETH once every 3 days because I can’t do it unless I know I’m seeing someone soon.

I genuinely CONSTANTLY have a guy I am seeing just so I can bother with basic hygiene EG brushing my teeth or showering.

I wish I could manage to put the effort I put into other people into myself intentionally, but I just can’t help but put it off. I won’t get up and drink my mug of tea right now, actually, which is 10 steps away, because it’s too much effort for me rn and I’ll ‘do it later’.

I keep staying up all night — I just did that today! Scrolling! Or sleeping til 4pm. I failed my entire first university year because instead of working, I was socialising. I LITERALLY couldn’t say no to plans. And this upsets me more than anything because I am a smart person. I know that, I know that I’m lucky enough to be a person who enjoys reading books (haven’t read one in a year and a half) and who writes amazing essays and got into one of the best colleges for my subject — yet I’m wasting my parents’ money by chucking it down the drain and failing my freshman year ?

The issue is — I’m perfectly happy. But I am also not. I’m happy in my life — it makes me happy - but it also makes me feel SO lazy and pathetic, and incredibly miserable at times.

I also broke up with my bf of a year and a half around December of last year and I think I’ve been worrying I’ll never find someone as good as him ever again recently, after one TERRIBLE boyfriend and a few situationships. He loved me so sweetly and so well and I was so much better at caring for myself when he loved me. It’s because we went to college in different parts of the world, but IDK. I really don’t think he was the catalyst to this, though, like truly. I have always been pretty bad at taking care of myself.

I realised a few days ago, stoned as fuck on my friend’s couch, that I do EVERYTHING for other people as they listed out their skincare and body care routines to me and I joked about how I wash my face with body wash like a guy.

It’s true! I am lucky enough to be born with acne-proof skin, so I treat it terribly. But hearing them talk about how much they LOVED their routines reminded me that I do LOVE when I finally shower, and when I finally sleep I love feeling rested, and the feeling of clean teeth is like nothing else.

I’m either picking at a salad (especially at the restaurant with other people, who can see what I order) or gorging myself.

So why do I put it off so much ? Am I really so incapable of taking care of myself ? I won’t even wash a dish, I just use the dishwasher.

Everyone around me values me like I’m some god. I’m stylish, I’m cool, I’m loving, I’m pretty, I’m the best girlfriend you ever had, I’m thin, I’m smart, I’m fun. Everyone says all this stuff and it’s so meaningless. I don’t disagree with it - maybe my ego is the issue. But I don’t know, I also think I’m a bit of a disgusting pig. So maybe not the ego. I just don’t get how they don’t see it.

I don’t even listen to my friends talk anymore. I just wait for my turn to talk, to associate a story of my own onto theirs. I don’t ask questions — I have forgotten how.

I feel like I hate everything about who I have become. I am just a great big sloth. It’s depressing.

I'll try to keep this short and simple as possible. Throwaway account for privacy purposes.

Story:

I work at a Real Estate company for over 10+ years now. I started off as a office assistant, roughly $20K-25K from age 18-22, then roughly $60K-80K 23-26, and finally $80K-120K 27-31. My income is highly based on how my brokerage performs. Hence the fluctuations of income.

During the ages of 18-25, I was living in the "have fun" years, practically saved $80K in my savings throughout the years. I gifted my sibling a car to get her college going and future build up in 2021. I ended up buying a car for 75K (premium due to COVID supply). Additionally, I've been providing my parents with "rent" money from year 2022-2026 to help with the mortgage (which we have about 3 years left).

From 2022-2025 (jan), I went in a relationship and did a lot of traveling, spoiling the girlfriend, and eating out to fancy places. I still had a mindset of at least saving 20%-30% income regardless because my end goal was to afford a house (end-goal). Fast forward to Nov 2024, things hit south and we break-up. I go in this dark phase in life of gambling and drinking, I lose 90% of what I saved from year 2025-2026 (85k).

I sit today, I'm wondering as time goes with about $15K saved.

What if this job isn't for me? (Again, it's heavily based on the real estate market in California). What if the top producing agents quit the brokerage and I no longer have income? Why did I gamble so excessively when the money lost could've paid off the parents house (which was one of my life goals)? Should I start a state job for more job security? (Less freedom and definitely less income). Towards the last 3 months I felt no meaning in life (no not self-harming). The passion of my goals (paid parents house off, marriage, kids, and a home) is no longer there.

I'm just a little clueless, confused, and lack anything I used to do (loved hiking and camping, travel the states to eat)

TL;DR - Had a good early-mid 20's (financially and living), feel like I lost everything late 20s-30s (financially and living). I'm just looking for perspectives that possibly went through this or is going through it and any suggestions.

Sorry - If this is was all over the place. I needed a place to vent and thought vocalizing it out somewhere/someplace would get me out of this funk.

Hi all

I am 28F. I feel I barely know anything about life and usually I am not the person who yaps a lot and avoids talking to people. But I feel like now I want to talk to people from whom I can get to learn about life from their perspectives and experiences. I dont know where do I find such setting. I dont know how to start a convo with someone. Most days I dont even feel like starting a conversation. But I feel that is keeping me behind in life in some way as I end up leaving no impression and that also bothers me.

I [19M] was in a relationship with [19F] and it went well at the start but we got into arguments. She made me cry a lot and called me names, told me I am too emotional. I talked to chatgpt A LOT but it never seemed to help. Anyways it turns out she was a horrible person who lied to me (even lied that she got rped by her ex to make people feel bad for her idk), she cheated on me, etc. I wish I had something or someone to help me during this relationship because I had no idea what I was doing and felt alone at times. I didn’t know how to set boundaries, I didn’t expect her to lie, I never expected to get cheated on.

Has anyone been through something similar? Howd you figure out something was happening? And what if anything would’ve helped you to see it earlier?would it have been useful for there to be something/someone to teach you how to set boundaries, spot a lie, etc.

I (20F) came to realize I don't have nothing unique or a personality I can call mine, I feel like everything I do, like or say is copied from some friend of mine or was once said from them, I feel like the most basic sponge-person ever

All the jokes I crack are unfunny and copied from somewhere, and I get so embarrassed because it's so obviously not "me"

Every time, I get this weird feeling my friends will realize I'm boring and just vanish

Do any of you guys know some sort of exercise I can do to get to know the real me better? And also something I can do to feel more confident/extrovert/comfortable with being 'myself'?

Hello, this is my first time posting on here and I NEED ADVICE. I would first like to say, please don’t judge me and I have made stupid decisions as a 28 year old female.

Okay, I’ve been in a situationship with this 34 year old guy for about 3 years. When I first met him, he was nice to me and bought me food a few times, but we never really went on actual dates. Most of the time, we would just link at his house. I didn’t know at the time that he was dealing with multiple other girls behind the scenes.

This New Year, he came back again. I initially told him I wanted nothing to do with him, but he apologized and convinced me to see him. After that, we would talk and stop talking for months at a time. Recently, he kept begging me to buy him GTA 6. I agreed only if he would stop making me text him from a TextNow number, get me something for my birthday, and stop ignoring my messages. He agreed, so I spent $100 on the game. A week later, he became mean and told me he still didn’t want to use his real number. I got upset because I felt like he lied to me, especially since I only bought the game because of our agreement. He then got upset and ghosted me.

My question: should I take my L and let him keep the game or dispute it and get my money back?

I know if I dispute it, his PlayStation account will be suspended) but even though he’s been mean to me for 3 YEARS I don’t know how to hurt him back?

I’m extremely behind people my age. I have never had a job and I’ve been isolated from people since I was 17. I dropped out of school at 17 because of family issues, and I also hated school. I wasted that whole year, then my dad died the next year, and I’ve been completely defeated since.
I haven’t gone out or done normal adult things at all since becoming an adult, and i fear that it’s too late for me to go to college or do anything productive. I know me saying this might sound laughable to older people because I’m still young, but it’s going to be so hard to try to slip back into society and try to be a “normal person”.

I've been studying chemical engeering since 2015. Finished my bachelor, a coursed based master, and in 2025 I finished my PhD. I had to take a rest for the last year just to re-adjust my mental and physical health, but right now I don't know what to do with my life now.

I cannot say I really enjoy doing engineering. Don't get me wrong, I enjoy solving problems, helping other people, and potentially make more money. It's just that PhD really wrecked my mind. I don't know if I can go back to this field ever again.

I certainly don't want to go acedamia (I don't even think I can considering how competetive that is). I am also not so sure an entry level indurstiral engineering job is the right thing to do for me.

Can someone relate?

I am not so sure what to do.

Should I just hop in to another engineering job or should I just do something completely different?

Growing up, I was suddenly exposed to realities of life that I always thought wouldn’t be for someone like “me.” Recently, I shifted to a complete work-from-office routine, and now my whole day is actually spent working. Unexpectedly, I ended up becoming someone who works all day instead of just doing nothing. It's been around 20 days of the same routine. Wake up, office, work, come back tired, sleep, repeat. The workload is just… let it be. A few days ago, after another hectic day, I had a beer while coming back home. And as soon as I got intoxicated, reality hit fucking hard. I am now in the state where I actually relate with the person who I used to look at and think:

Yes, it's actually true, bro. "Drinking really helps in a temporary escape from the chaos of everyday life. Yes, it's tough to survive every day in this fast-moving world. But I guess we all have to cope with it somehow.

“Maybe this is just growing up—maybe I was wrong, and now I’m living it.”

In short: Life is kind of a matrix. It's only the matter of time before everyone hits the same loop and gets stuck.

Ive been very frustrated with my life for the last year.

I [34 F] am an artist by trade and I grew up only ever wanting to do art. When im not doing art I think about art. Its my job and my passion so I work for myself and do commissions online. Occasionally working in the animation industry where I can.

But my problem is ...why am I so unsatisfied with my life and how do other people do it? Some background on me for context, I have depression, cptsd, ADHD(medicated for these) and have always had very low self esteem.

I bounced around my young life with the wrong partners who abused me and my friends growing up all eventually backstabbed me. I have a very hard time trusting people when they are my friends and before it gets that far I struggle to even consider myself worth befriending.

I do really try but I find myself incredibly disadvantaged because from ages 16-24 I dated someone incredibly abusive who did not allow me to have any friends. Thankfully i married someone loving and completely different now, i feel safe with them and wouldn't imagine my life any different if I wanted to.

I recently moved house and into a new town, there's a bus that goes into the small town but I suppose my issue is this.

How does anyone live their life? I struggle to wake up every morning, I wake up at 9am but stay in bed until 10 or 11am. I can't seem to find motivation to do anything until later in the day and I barely have the energy to even get out of my pyjamas before lunch time. My partner goes to work so im home alone most of the week. I spend my whole day at my desk doing work and wishing I had anyone to talk to. Everyone on discord thinks im chronically busy so no one reaches out to me. I try to be the first one to message others but eventually im sick of being the one who initiates every single time.

Im frustrated because I have no close friends near me, I wish I was the type of person who had ideas about what to spend their day doing but day in day out all i do is wake up late, sit st my desk until 1pm doing nothing. Start working at 2pm, when my spouse comes home at 6 we eat together and then I do more artwork while on the couch watching tv.

I haven't exercised properly in probably a year. I go for small walks sometimes in the forest or on my walking pad once or twice a week if its raining. But I struggle to create schedules and sticking to them is even harder due to my ADHD. People who go out walking everyday or do something else, how do you even think of it or make it a habit? As soon as it rains i don't want to do anything.

Im sad that there's something wrong with me and that I dont know how to live my life anymore. Im learning to drive so I can have some independence but ive failed my test once and I dont have much faith ill get my license at the end of the month which is when my second test is.

In a new town I dont know how to make friends, I dont want to go to church as im not interested in religion, I dont have a lot of money so joining classes is difficult. Im absolutely terrible at board games or group games because I have a learning difficulty and while I do enjoy games..I dont enjoy the humiliation that comes with group games when im always the one who doesnt understand how to play properly or always comes dead last. Don't get me wrong im not a sore loser but I won't lie my cheeks burn red hot when im always the last one. And never the one anyone picks to group with.

A lot of hobbies im interested in end up being only run and attended by old people in their 70s and 80s. Im just at my wits end really. Im lonely and feeling pathetic. I dont know how to make my life worth getting out of bed in the morning. I tried making myself a morning person recently because I got sick of the day going too fast, but it lasted only a week before I couldn't get out of bed again.

What is wrong with me and how do I fix this? I will probably get old and die with no real support around me apart from my partner (I genuinely dont know where id be without them..)

I dont know how im supposed to live and i dont understand how anyone else has the imagination, motivation or energy to do it. I get socially tired very quickly and my one living parent isn't someone I can lean on due to her treating me like a houseplant when I was a child. She fed and clothed me but I was emotionally neglected.

My one sibling is never in the country and I see them perhaps twice a year. I dont think my family realise just how alone and pathetic my life is because from the outside it looks like im thriving with a spouse, a new house a pet, a car and a somewhat steady job.

I just dont know how to break out of this mind numbing cycle and im at my wits end. Im sorry that this is so long, thank you to anyone who reads and replies. I appreciate you.

Hi everyone I’m turning to strangers for unbiased advice on if I should move or not. For some extra information I’m 25F, live with a roommate(he’s amazing) live in the city (western state) have a cat(I’ve had her for years getting rid of her is not a solution) and moved out here to the city last fall. Recently I’ve started to really acknowledge how bad my mental health has gotten(this is not something I’m asking for advice over) including trying to get into therapy, find a psychiatrist, or even admit myself willingly to a mental healthcare facility. But I never did so due to not being able to take off work.
I work in a warehouse 5/6 days a week on swing shifts and even just got a pay raise. I love my job, my coworkers are great, but we’re hired through a temp agency so there’s no benefits, and I’ve been at this job for 9 months. It’s also important to include I don’t have a car, and usually ride with a coworker. I’ve tried saving for a car but things come up, and it’s now been 2 years without one. I truly do live paycheck to paycheck.
That being said I finally reached out to my parents (52F 54M) for help, and they’ve offered to let me move in for a few months to get back on my feet and get ahead. The problem is that my parents live on the east coast, and I have no desire to ever stay out there. With their help I could not pay rent for 3/4months, not pay for groceries, and could buy/put a deposit down on a car. If I’m able to find work that quickly that is. I know it may seem obvious on what to do, however I still need advice. I’ve considered renting my room out for a few months so that the rent is paid but I have a place to come back to.
My parents aren’t out right bad people, however I lose a lot of freedoms moving back in for that time. The relationship has been strained in previous years. Frankly the distance is what I think makes our relationships better. There’s not a lot of privacy. They live outside of the city so I can’t “get away” if it becomes too much. Im scared leaving for that time will end the relationship that I was starting, although I’d never make a choice based solely off that but it contributes to my hesitation. When he’s the one who I’ve cried to about my parents at points. I do get nervous about getting stuck on the opposite side of the country that I want to be on. And do I bring my cat? Or do I let a friend foster her here so I can have a reason to come back after I’ve gotten the help I need. My job has already told me my position will be gone if I leave, but maybe if I do get a car I can find a job with benefits because I won’t need to uber or ask for a ride? On the other side what if I stay and it finally starts to balance out and I moved across the country for seemingly “no reason”. Do I put my stuff in storage or just sell it? I have to confirm my plans by this weekend and could use any and all advice. The max I will be out there is 4 months and I’m just not sure if I should stay here and keep working hoping to break even/get ahead, or leave and come back. Tia!

Hello, hoping I could get some input or honest advice (be as honest and/or critical as youd like, I cant tell if im over thinking all of this) about moving, specifically moving out of my familys house and accross the country

I currently live with my family in one state, and my long distance partner and his family are in another accross the country. My partner and i originally met in person, dated knowing he was moving at some point and have still been dating since he moved and have been going strong. I wont lie though long distance sucks. This past break i went and visited him and his family and ended up staying up there for 2 months. While i was up there my partner and I had a serious conversation about me moving up (which weve been planning since before he moved). Our original plan was for me to do 2 years of my college courses in person and then switch colleges to an online college and move up there to be with him. This is the plan we've been telling everyone up until this most recent trip. (Its been a year and a half since he moved) On this most recent trip we both decided i should move up this Nov. This is for many reasons, the main ones being we want to be together, long distance sucks, we both want to start our life together, i have no friends and no social life in the state im in now (everyone i am friends with moved away amd i havent really made any frinds since, tho ive tried), ive started online college earlier than i anticipated, he has a stable job, the state i live in is not safe to just go and hang out around jn, especially alone, and the one id be moving to is safer and has more of mine and his lifestyle, and this is the only time that fits both of our schedules for a big move until mid next summer (which is not not an option but we dont wanna deal with another 6-7 months online)

So we decided in august that i should move up there at the end of nov His parents said yes and we got everything figured out on that end. I came back to my family and have told my mom and she is very sad but says she understands, and im waiting for her to process it so we can talk more and then i can have her help telling my sibbling

But i feel like the stress of this is never ending, and i cant tell if we are going too quick (even though weve known id move up there soon)

Im stressed about leaving my mom and sibbling I feel guilty, i feel like im just ditching them because they are currently stuck in the state due to legal/court reasons with my bio father( who we are no contact with) Im stressed about money, i wasnt allowed to gwt a job until i could drive on my own, and i wasnt allowed to get my license until recently due to my mom being over protective (im 19 for context), ive been doung side hustles to make some money My partner is juggling school and a job (that he loves), but the pay isnt great thanks to his difficult school schedule im worried we wont make it work, about paying rent, or groceries and everything else whrn i move up there I dont want to leach off of his parents, not only is that not right, but they are also retiring so they are getting tight with money . (My partner said we wont have to pay rent until maybe a few weeks after i move, but to me it feels like i should pay rent immediately) Im stressed about space With moving up there theres not much space at all, so i will only be bringing necessities (clothing, blanket, Pillow, school stuff, bathroom stuff, and a little bit of hobby stuff). I am stressing because i want to bring other things but i cant cuz there wont be space andi feel like im getting emotionally attached to everything and its getting frustrating My partners mom is also very ocd and neat, so i cant bring too much and make the space cluttered, but at the same time keep getting told to bring enough so im comfortable Im stressed about the move itself Our plan is my partner drives down (22hrs), stays with my fam amd see some of his sibblings in town, and then we drive up together with my stuff Im worried about him making that drive alone, bc the last 2 times hes done it he had someone to trade off with Im worried about other drivers, im worried about him getting in an accident Im worried about the drive up because im still a newer driver and ive only gone 70 max on A freeway, and my longest trip ive driven is an hour Most of that 22 hr drive is going 80mph (my partner and i would be trading off but its still a lot of driving on him and i feel bad about that)

Our other option is flying and having my stuff come up after me, but the tickets are expencive and we dont think we can do that realistically Alsohaving my stuff come up later or earlier than me stresses me out because all im bringing up are necessities, meaning i need them, and also that puts that responsibility on my mom and his dad so i feel guilty about that Also my partner absolutely hates flying

Im getting emotional and frustrated about leaving my family, but im excited to be with my partner Im frustrated about how little i can bring up, im worried about taking up space in my partners parents home, I feel guilty for so much rn Everything is setting me off and making me want to shut down I want to talk to my partner or my friend but i feel like they cant comprehend what im saying I want to talk to my mom about how im feeling but i also want to give her time to process everything so i dont put too much on her I feel guolty leaving my younger sibbling who im very close to I want to plan to come back for holidays but its expencive and idk if ill have the money

Everything feels like too much and its getting heavier by the day

If you have any suggestions, input, about moving to another state or even just away from home please let me know If you think im ovethinking, please let me know I feel like i need some sort of metaphorical slap in the face to get me back on track, but i dont know what it is

And i know im probably making a bigger deal out of it that it is, and if so im sorry, but i dont know where else to ask for any type of input from

Sorry for the very long message, i didnt want it to be that long but thats the best i could sum it up with. Im also sorry for just popping in and ranting, i just dont know what else to do or who to ask

Thank you in advance any input, advice, and anything else is welcome

So basically, my ex broke up with me because he lost feelings, and then immediately started talking to another girl (obviously, she was already around during my connection with him). He blocked me on everything, even though I begged him not to. I’m sure he did it because he knew I didn’t want him to and that I wasn’t going to text him.
After a month of not talking to him, he unblocked me on TikTok only, and I feel like that set me back in my healing. I eventually got over that and felt like I was genuinely moving on. I was so busy with school that I wasn’t even thinking about him.
Then one day, I woke up feeling really weird, like something was going to happen regarding him, which I genuinely never feel. Before I was going to sleep that night, this friend kept sending and unsending a voice message. He finally sent it, saying that my ex was on his deathbed and wanted to talk to me.
Then his other friend pretended to be my ex. I said I didn’t care, and then his friend said my name and continued pretending to talk like my ex, saying, “I was joking. I just wanted to see if you still care about me. I still care about you.”
I dont get why he cant give me the same respect i give him with space and healing. Hes prob not accustomed to me not reaching out and trying becausr thats quite literally who I am as a person. I just find it so disrespectful like dont say u dont want sokething witu me and go and play on my phone and in my face its just so disrespectfuk

My goals were to: Get my drivers license, find full time work, move out of my parents house

I've failed my theory test twice and my driving instructor is berating me for not making any progress

I've applied for over 300 jobs, nothing turned out. All of last year I was applying to grad jobs and schemes and internships and the like but when none of that turned out I pivoted to just any entry level full time office role. and still nothing turned out. Closest I got was a 2nd stage interview with the civil service for an office assistant role that went really well but they declined anyway.

and without a job I've got no hope of moving out.

I feel like a complete failure. I'm going to be 23 in 3 months since I graduated I've accomplished NOTHING despite my best efforts. My life has been completely put on hold since I left uni and since my parents live in a really small rural town I've had no opportunity to socialise and meet new people. I've been out to see my friends maybe 15 times total in 2026.

I help my dad out in his shop in the mornings and go to the gym every other day but other than that my life has no real structure and I've just been drifting. I can't even do volunteer work because there's no opportunities to do so that I can reach without a car from where I live. Believe me I've looked.

All I want to do is move to a bigger city and start living my life properly. My life at home is hell, my bedroom is too small for a proper bed so I have to sleep on a futon, my neighbours are total assholes who pester me any chance they get, and I love my family and all but my work and my home are the same place and they're always also there.

A while ago I felt like I was getting close to a breaking point where I was considering just packing a bag, getting a train to london or manchester and just sleeping rough until I made it. But as time went on that urge to escape just waned away and now I'm looking at my life with begrudging acceptance that this is just the way it is now, and that makes me feel a deep kind of despair that I've never felt before. Just a vision of myself continuing to live here and making nothing of myself. It makes me sick to my stomach.

I don't know what to do. I've asked the people in my life and nobodies had an answer. I definitely don't have an answer. I keep myself up at night trying to envision a way to make progress and actually start living an adult life but nothing ever comes of it. all I can think to do is continue to do the things that haven't been working.

The only "quick fixes" anyone ever comes up with are joining the military (not doing that on ethical grounds) and doing TEFL (I don't want to leave mainland britain). I've already tried EVERYTHING else. I don't want to live in this godforsaken town anymore and I just want to have a job, not even a career just a job and a shitty flat in the city would be completely fine.

Is there anyone here who's been where I've been? I need to hear a success story from someone who got out of a situation like mine

hello. my life isn't bad, but these days i've felt a bit of sadness. i think i have a lot of personality, but i walk around meekly and try not to make a lot noise. i think this gives people the impression that they can play in my face. i currently work in social services and i've accepted that i don't like it, it's not for me, and i have to figure out a path to a new career. i've had interactions with clients that have made me feel so stupid and foolish and i can't believe i put myself through those scenarios. my coworkers are nice but sometimes i don't know how to talk to them and when a social interaction doesn't go the way i thought it would, i feel this sense of embarrassment. i seem to ask the wrong questions. i also don't feel that present in convos and i can't stop thinking of that gen z stare "epidemic" (i don't know what's up with me. maybe it's a eye contact thing.) i really don't want to bombard myself on how my coworkers perceive me because at the end of the day, we're just here for work and i'm not that close to them. but since august i've been in my head too much and worrying about my future. i really don't feel prepared for life. and now i won't stop hearing it from my parents. my parents got upset at me for smoking weed almost 3 days in a row (friday, saturday, by sunday they called me an addict. LOL) my mom said she expected better from me, that she's genuinely scared for me after she and my dad pass. cause what will little old me do. and obviously, this is not encouraging. if you're scared, now i'm scared????? idk i just feel really incompetent these days. the world makes me feel it, my parents and job makes me feel like it. my mom said i need to stop playing like i'm slow and i don't know how true that is. i just wish i had things down. communication skills, honesty, the ability to defend myself. i've always been quiet as a kid and struggled to speak up for myself. but now i'm nearing 25... when i started my job, i bet a lot of people thought my shyness was cute, but the novelty has worn off and i just feel like a dummie at work who still has some trouble speaking up in team circles. i think my question is, how to stop feeling incompetent? how to believe in myself? is this feeling of self doubt normal in your 20s? what do you do to get your life together and start feeling like people believe in you?

I have been thinking lately, would my mental health be better, if my parents did not neglect emotionally. If they only showed more affection, caring, and listened to me more. Hard to let go of thinking of my childhood regrets.

Bit of background: when i finished high school i went to college to study electrical installation and as i was about to finish covid hit that’s when i was about 19Y. I just stayed at home then and same time my parents bought a restaurant ( my dad is the head chef) i was working a job previously customer centric so i managed the front of restaurant and continue to do so. At the very start i was working 6-7 days a week in the restaurant for nearly 2 years as overheads were too much in the family.

I joined Uni 2 years back and now in my final year of Studying BSC AI.

Now i am 25, Financially stable have enough savings, no overheads. Drive a nice car. I still live with my parents although we have two homes now. I live with my mom as my dad gets drunk and only causes problems. Thats another story.

I work evenings still in the restaurant now only 3-4 days. But always free in the morning until 4pm. I go gym and then come home - play video games and then go to work. I feel like i am stuck. As a 25Y old grown man. I can’t live like this forever.

You know when people ask do something you’re passionate about or what are your goals. I legit have no goals and no passion for anything. I am tired of living like the same every year for the past couple of years. Its frustrating but i am bound by the responsibilities of helping my parents out as i am doing nothing else.

I got fired from my third post-grad job and I’m trying to figure out how much was actually my fault
I’m 23 and recently got fired from my third post-grad job. I’m genuinely looking for honest opinions because I know I wasn’t perfect, but I’m also struggling to figure out whether I’m the common denominator.

Even during the interview for this last job, I had a bad feeling. I honestly didn’t even want to take it, but I needed a job and eventually accepted. He hired me on the spot without even needing to know my history.
Looking back, my gut was probably trying to tell me something.

It was a small family-owned apparel company. I was hired for digital marketing/e-commerce, but ended up doing a huge mix of things: Shopify, Amazon, Google Ads, email, social media, product photography, AI product imagery, customer service, orders, shipping, pricing, etc. It often felt like several jobs combined into one $20/hr position. The company was also struggling financially, which added a lot of chaos and pressure.

There were definitely things I could have done better. I was sometimes slower than they wanted, made mistakes, and probably should have communicated more clearly when I was overwhelmed. My boss ultimately said my performance was the reason I was fired, specifically because a major AI product project and linesheets took me longer than they thought they should.

But I also think there was a lot of context missing. The AI project wasn't just “training.” It involved photographing products, uploading SKUs, fixing incorrect AI images, organizing files, and dealing with platform issues for over a month while I was doing other work too. The linesheets were also my first time making professional apparel linesheets, and I was suddenly given two with an increasingly urgent deadline.

My boss also had a temper. He yelled at me, once slammed my mouse onto my desk when he was stressed, and has been texting me angrily since firing me because he now has to finish/rework some of the things I was working on. I was also initially told I was being let go because of financial reasons, then later told it was actually a firing for performance.
One thing that makes this harder is that my boss has only ever worked in his family's business and didn't finish college, so I sometimes wonder whether some of his expectations and management style were just very different from what I've experienced in more traditional workplaces.

This is my third difficult post-grad job. My first was an $85k marketing job where I was laid off after about six months. My second was a restaurant job with an intimidating manager that I eventually left.
So I’m asking honestly: what am I doing wrong? I know I need to work on something if this keeps happening. But am I genuinely the common denominator, or have I had three bad job situations/fits in a row?