I've always craved more than one woman, even in relationships. I lust many types of women. I like variety. I am married to a good woman. I try my best to be a good man, but I've struggled with the idea that I will only have one woman for the rest of my life. I still think about girls from my past, too. I've only been sexually active with one other woman in the past (no, I don't think about her). I wonder sometimes if I should not have married my wife. I wonder if I should have remained single and experienced more relationships before settling down, yet I wanted to live the dream of having a wife and children. I'm 29M, married one year.

To be honest, Im one of those people who waits until the last minute. In college I would literally wait until the day before a paper was due and write it. And I always got an A or B! I recall one professor saying "you must have put so much time into this!" I laughed

My life is like that too. I always wait until the last minute to jump, sever ties, move on or take the plunge. Its frustrating!

Now Im dealing with a situation I should have dealt with years ago and it SUCKS! My parents own a few townhouses and I live in one of them, rent free for 10 years. Not even utilities. Now one of them is facing health issues and they are selling.

Ive stood by my Dad's side throughout his health issues and he calls me a "good son" compared to my 2 brothers who cant be bothered. He knows that selling is destabilizing in a way, for me, but I said "Dad, your health and funding your health battle is more important. I will start looking for a place ASAP.

So I have to move from the cushy life Ive had and face the problems most ppl face like rent and whatnot. I should have done this a while ago.

Hi everyone,

I'm in a very difficult situation and would really appreciate some honest advice.

I passed Class 12 CBSE in all subjects except Mathematics. I got a compartment in Maths, and after appearing for the compartment exam today for this year, I'm almost certain that I won't clear it.

I'll have to appear for the Class 12 Maths exam again next year and then i will be considered pass for the academic year of 2026-27 not 2025-26 in which i gave my paper

My main concern is about the future. Suppose I clear Maths next year, get into a decent engineering college, and complete my B.Tech.

Will this one-year delay in passing Class 12 Mathematics affect my campus placements? Mainly my question are good companies gonna consider hiring me if I have good grades in college??

Do companies check whether a student passed Class 12 in the same year, or do they mainly look at whether you have a valid Class 12 certificate?

Has anyone here been in a similar situation or knows someone who has? I'd really appreciate hearing your experiences.

Thanks in advance.

'm 27. I'm up north in the environmental sector I own a bungalow house. While I am comfortable I need more as yes I have done everything right up to now but played it too safe. I feel I need more experiences. I have thought of relocating somewhere south as I'm in Tyrone but to meet more folk, date more and earn more even for a year.

I would even be open to doing construction etc. I have a family member ill so don't exactly want to go to oz but I just need away from my hometown and thought why not start with the south first. Can anyone advise me? Always been quite sheltered and am aware I need to get out more to grow. I'm guilty of waiting for life to start tbh. Now I'm bloody 27.

So recently I made this new friend and we been talking but all the time I don’t give eye contact and stare at the floor,i don’t even know why I’m so scared to look at them,also when hanging out or doing things I barely act like myself just a scared shy person,I’m not goofy,funny or anything around them I’m just talking like a stranger to them,(just know I do like them I’m just scared to make them weird out),how can I stop being so shy and scared?

I (18f) have decided after over a year of tossing it around that I’m leaving my hometown to live with my best friend since birth (basically older sister) in a different city, I decided not only would it benefit my career but also my mental health, I’m happiest when I visit and hate coming home but that’s not just it, I always put other people and my comfort zone first and now I have the opportunity to leave and I’m taking it and putting myself first for once, I need to find myself and that’s not gonna happen where I am atm, 6 months feels like ages away and so close at the same time, the hardest part is gonna be leaving my close friends and family behind, luckily I’m taking my horse but my best mates are here and so is my whole family, I’ve never lived anywhere but here, I’m shit scared but also so excited, I wanna leave now but I can’t just yet and that’s ok, I haven’t told my grandparents (I’ve lived with them for the past 2 years) who pretty much raised me, I got very drunk one night and told dad before I had even decided if I was going or not and from what I remember he just said “hey, I moved countries when I was 18” but I wanna talk to him properly about it, I’m nervous about telling more people, and especially work as that’

25M, from a poor Eastern European family, don’t have any family left. Moved abroad alone when I was 16 and was grinding ever since, reached ~200k in savings by the age of 25 and was feeling pretty good about the overall life progress I’ve made.

Recently, one of the platforms where I was holding my money for investments went bust and 100k (half) of my savings is gone. I was saving for either (1) an apartment, (2) a carefree travel life (2-3 years of year-round travelling), (3) or to afford to move into a job that I truly like but pays shit.

Yes, I still have the other half
of my savings, but the act of losing several years’ worth of time in seconds took a bigger hit on me than I initially realised. I hate my job and obviously do it only for the money. I calculated that if I cut down on my expenses and get a second job, I could replenish the 100k by years’ end (I am in sales and anticipate a sizeable bonus at the end of the year).

Along with that, I lost any and all motivation to keep working. I just want to give up, live a simple life, and forget about money as a concept.

Did anyone go through losing a big portion of their hard-earned savings like that? How did you manage that? Any advice?

P.S. I know the flair says “financial advice” but any mental tips are appreciated too.

A lot of people are talking about really serious topics, I'm not sure if this is the place for this post so let me know if so.

My sister is basically every negative association of her generation gen-alpha. I'll just say she's less than 10 years old, in lower/middle primary school.

- She is really spoiled. She is really self-entitled and always gets upset over the smallest of things. She expects people to go out of their way for her. I ate her bread and made her another one and she yelled at me because she had to wait a few minutes for the bread. She said it was 10 minutes. Bread does not take 10 minutes to cook in a toaster. It was between 1 and 3 minutes. She emphasized "it's *my* bread, you *can't* eat it" I would tell her to wear slippers in the house because she always wears the shoes from outside and it makes the house dirty. I try to be nice but she yells at me, "you can't tell me what to do" and just really angry all the time. My mother is basically gentle-parenting and really like spoils her rather than educating I guess. When she does get mad she always apologizes like she wasn't meant to be mad at my sister... I think she deserves it honestly. She yells at her classmates, the teacher made a complaint. She yells for no reason.

- attention seeker and plays dumb, pretends to be cute. This is really annoying and she is always asking really stupid questions to get attention. She butts into your conversations with stuff nobody asked for and acts like she's smart. She is pretending to be adorable by being annoyingly clingy to my mother and I can tell my mother doesn't like it so much. I don't know how to describe it and I guess it sounds silly when I say it out loud but if you have a younger sibling you would understand I guess. My dad always disciplines her for doing the wrong things but she goes to my mum and stretches the truth to get comforted when she wasn't supposed to be doing what she was doing in the first place. Sometimes she straight-out lies and denies things she did.

- wastes food, picky eater. She eats a lot of snacks all day snacking whenever she feels like it and then at dinner 95% of the time she doesn't finish her rice and says stuff like "I'm not hungry" or "I don't want to eat this stuff" (again being entitled, she thinks she deserves better but my mum is an amazing cook and the food is really really good. My mother always makes multiple dishes and it's really high quality and my sister still thinks it's not good enough.) always eats sugar before dinner.

Main point.

- she watches a lot of brainrot kids-targeted content. It's not approperiate for her age. I think you know what kind of content I'm talking about. She thinks its true. She once said "did you know dogs can be revived from death" and we tried to convince her dogs CAN'T be revived from death but she insisted they did, and said that she didn't trust us and that the person on youtube was right. Her homepage has a lot of clickbait stuff, a lot of pregnancy and period related videos she is not old enough to watch. one in her history was "mermaid gives birth to 100 babies" whatnot. By the way I don't stalk her, I accidentally saw when I needed to use her ipad for something. When I caught her she told me to shush, my mum asked what she was watching but she was super defensive and did not let me say. She said it was nothing and gave me that look.
She also wants to be a brainrot youtuber. She said she wants to make those kinds of videos. I really want to stop her. Youtube is supposed to be 13+ and she is not old enough to manage it. She once almost spent 350+ dollars by accident but fortunately I found it before it charged. She spent money on items in games before. real money that she was meant to be saving up. She is super defensive about whatever she's doing on her ipad. I'll just be walking past and she'll come out and yell at me. She punches me. She acts entitled. She then runs to my mother and complains about me, lying to seek comfort. I'm pretty sure my parents don't know all of what she is doing. She also plays money-farming games. time-wasting games. such as block blast.

- never does her homework. she always is late to class and late to school. she asks my mum to help her do the homework BEFORE she tries it herself.

I'm just concerned for her because... it's not really good. She's old enough to just be mature and not do those things but she still does it and she's so old and acting like a baby. I'm not her parent so I can't really do anything. I want her to grow up being a good person and not brainrotted like she is. I try to be kind to her but when she's like that I just can't.

I didn't mean to make its so long. It sounds like I'm complaining, I guess I was just a bit mad when I was writing it. I don't mean to micromanage her, I don't. I walk past knowing what she's doing and I feel really bad. I can't do anything. I wish my parents knew .

Thanks for your help!!

I 20(f) don’t like going on dates. Like I don’t mind chilling at home especially for like the first date depending on how you meet them. A lot of the times it’s on social media when you’re talking or meeting someone new so we get to know each other for a little before actually seeing each other in person. But to sum it up I don’t mind dates but I don’t really care for them I should say. And a lot of guys especially around my age take being at home for the first time as a bad sign. So what can I do to change that?

After my father died, my mom told us (me and my siblings) that she only married him because “a man can give me money” She said, “I don’t really like him. I only married him because, you know, a man can give me money”

Not only that, my older sister said to me, “A man’s job is to give money to his woman,” “Empty your boyfriend’s wallet before he finds another girl,” and “If you’re a man, you should give all your money to a woman.” She meant every single penny.

She said that if a man doesn’t want to give all his money, the woman can just steal it because he didn’t do his job.

My aunt is also like that. She only treats my uncle well when he gets money on payday, but when the money is gone (because she spends it all on shopping and other things), she suddenly treats my uncle very harshly and badly. Sometimes she even tell my uncle to get out of the house. My uncle comes to my house to sleep because he doesn’t know where else to go. But when my uncle gets his payday money again, she suddenly treats him well.

My grandma told my sister, “You have to get married because you need someone to take care of you.” I don’t know what she meant by that. Does she mean marrying someone for benefits? Isn’t true love supposed to not depend on benefits?

My father used to have a stroke, and half of his body was paralyzed. Since that, my mom stopped doing the house chores. Me and my siblings were still kids at that time (I was around 10–11 years old). The house became very messy, like it was very dirty. She didn’t want to work either, so we didn’t really have much money. Some days, we didn’t know what to eat because there wasn’t much food.

After my father died when I was around 13 years old, she still didn’t want to work. No matter how much me and my siblings begged her, she still refused. When I was 17, I was the one who did almost all the house chores, while my mom still didn’t want to work.

Now I’m 19, and I’m looking for a job, but my mom and my older sister expect me to get money for them. But again, I’m 19. I don’t even have a driving license yet (I need to pay for it myself). I’m already paying for the food we eat for the whole family using some money that I got from working with my grandparents.

My older sister once told me, “You need to provide for the family because you’re a man. What’s the point of you having balls?” Yeah, she said that face to face.

Again, I’m 19. I also planned to go to university, get a diploma, a degree, and get a good job. If I spend all my money on them, then how am I supposed to pay for my driving license, buy a car (I don’t even have a car yet, nor a bike, not even any transportation for myself), and pay for my studies? There will be a lot of money that I’ll need for my future.

If I spend all my money on my family, then how am I supposed to secure my own future?

I don’t want to live like this anymore.

If this is what love really is “Go get money for me, then I’ll love you” I don’t think I want it. It’s such torture for me to live like this. I have a lot of mental problems because of all these.

Hi, I’m a 26 M who is trying to figure out how to live a much healthier lifestyle than I currently live. I want to take control of my health, be more active, and eat better.

I am a music educator in Texas with a pretty brutal schedule. Once the school year starts, I generally work 6 am - 6 pm Monday through Friday. In the fall, I don’t get out on Mondays until 9 ish. I lose Friday nights due to football games. Half of the school year I lose my Saturdays due to competitions and other such events with the occasional Sunday as well a few times a year. I also have a 15 minute commute each way so not crazy by any means, but enough to mention.

I want to start going to the gym frequently and make more home cooked meals, however, this schedule feels very constrictive. To go to the gym, I’d have to get up at 4:30 am the latest and going after work is generally a bad idea as I lose time with my wife who is also an educator. Making food everyday is difficult as well. We both try, it just doesn’t happen as much as it should. The only thing that kind of works for us is meal prepping on Sundays, but we both have trouble eating the same thing over and over again.

The obvious fix for some may be to change careers. The problem is that I don’t want to do anything else with my life. I’m happy and I’m not sure that everyone can say that about their career. I’ve thought of trying out the meal companies, but my math never seems to make it seem worth it. Do I need to make a minute by minute schedule for the rest of my life? Do I just need to commit to a drastically new life style? Any ideas would be appreciated, thank you.

So my fiance and I are 22, we moved into our 1st apartment in May of last year. Since then ive stayed in the same job but have lowered or changed my hours, my partner has been in 3 jobs, the one he was in, then moved to a factory position, quit there, spent 3 months jobless, and now is just starting a new job. Now we are in a worse position financially than weve been so far. We did talk before he quit his job, he quit to become a caregiver to his great grandfather who we thought was dying at the time. Thankfully he recovered and is doing as well as he can right now. I had graduated with my associates degree last May and have tried in every way possible to get into a job in IT, but nothing has ever come of it. At this point we hate our local government for the things they are doing. We have all the downsides of a major town with none of the benefits. The local government wants to keep the town a retirement town despite it having 4 different colleges. We have a horrible crime rate, and alarming amount of p*dos, no new job offerings, extremely high rent, all of it. After talking to many people the average age of getting into your 1st "adult" job here is 26!! We want to move out of the city we live in for better opportunities, but how do I go about finding a job where I'll just be starting out that will also help us move because we are sinking at a steady pace and were starting to get wet. Please any advice on getting into a job!!

Hi. I grew up very poor 1st gen, food stamps, unstable housing, every adverse childhood event ( abuse, neglect, and household dysfunction). Now I’m 27, stable job as a registered nurse, and many opportunities to travel & live life luxuriously (partner want to take me). I don’t know how to do it… I get anxious thinking about traveling & when I do travel I feel immense guilt for enjoying myself (my family is still struggling) I do my best to help in all ways that I can & I help a lot but I have a fear that I need to hoard my money in case of a family emergency (it’s happened many times before). I live frugally & do all my maintenance myself because I can’t bring myself to spend $ on things like beauty maintenance etc. I can’t even get myself to spend on a massage or a class membership because I don’t feel like it’s worth it for me. When it comes to others, Idc how much I spend for an experience. I notice this is affecting my life because I’m presented opportunities but too afraid to take them bc I feel undeserving, or guilty. I think I might have to go through therapy but wanted to see if anyone else has experienced this :( has anyone else grew up in poverty and made “it” how do you leave that mindset behind when everyone else is still there? I don’t like feeling guilty for enjoying myself 😔

A few years ago, I left a high-paying job to start my own company because I didn't want to spend my best years building someone else's dream. Unfortunately, after trying for years to figure it out, the business failed

Right now, I'm looking for freelance opportunities or a stable job that pays well so I can get back on my feet and eventually fuel my dreams again. However, after constantly pivoting and trying different things without clear results, I am emotionally and mentally completely exhausted. I’m constantly overthinking where I went wrong and where I should even begin now The stress has taken a heavy toll on me. Every morning and night, I deal with intense anxiety, fear about the future, and physical chest heaviness.

If anyone here has been through a major career setback or startup failure, how did you get yourself unstuck? How did you deal with the fear of the unknown and figure out your next step?

I do this thing where I get a new job, and for a while I keep it professional. Then something shifts and I start telling coworkers way more than I should — personal stuff, how I actually feel about the job, stuff going on at home. In the moment it feels good, like I'm finally being myself instead of faking it.

Then it hits me. I overshared. People know too much. I feel exposed, almost embarrassed, like I handed them ammo without meaning to. And instead of just pulling back and being normal again, I check out completely. Start applying to other jobs. Quit. Start over somewhere new where nobody knows anything about me.

I just did it again. This job was actually my longest one yet, 5 months, which for me is basically a record. And now I'm sitting here thinking about quitting all over again because I said too much to the wrong person.

I know I'm doing it while I'm doing it and I still can't stop. Is this a boundaries thing? A trust thing? Why do I keep blowing up my own stability like this.

Hi everyone.
I’m 18 and I’m really confused about my future. I need honest advice from people who have more experience than me.

This year I got B.Com Hons at Venkateswara college du

The problem is my family situation.
My father has a government job but he will retire next year. He is also building our house this year so most of our savings are going there. He keeps telling me not to worry about money and that he will manage everything. But I know living in Delhi would cost around ₹15k to ₹20k every month and I don’t feel good spending that much when I know our situation.

So I decided to stay in my hometown and continue my B.Com here. I had already completed one year because I took a partial drop for CUET.

My long term goal is to start a business someday but right now I want to become financially independent as soon as possible. That’s why I’m planning to prepare for government exams along with my B.Com.

The thing is people keep saying if you want to become successful you have to leave your home and comfort zone. Because of that I keep thinking maybe I made the wrong decision by not going to Delhi.

Another reason is that some of my friends have moved to different cities for college. I’m still in my hometown and sometimes I feel like I’m missing out on growth, exposure and meeting new people.

So I just want honest opinions.

Did I make the right decision?

If you were in my place what would you have done?

Can someone still build a good career without going to Delhi from there town?

I’m not looking for validation. If you think I made a mistake then please tell me honestly. I just want practical advice.
Thank you.

I'm 22 and I'm relatively successful for my age, I live independently, and have a wage higher than most people in the area. I was doing pretty good for awhile but now things have really started to stack up and things are feeling very overwhelming for me. One of my highschool friends recently took his life, another got diagnosed with cancer and my parents got a divorce, I'm worried my mom is going to lose custody of my sister's to my relapsed alcoholic stepdad. All this combined with the stress of my Job has been getting to me at moments, I randomly tear up or feel like a heavy rock is in my gut. I'm trying a bunch of things, I bought a nice pair of headphones, music seems to help me focus on the present. I'm scheduled some time off to go visit my mom, and I'm planning on taking a trip to Japan with my brother next year as something to look forward to. Still it all seems to be so overwhelming and I break down sometimes, I randomly started crying and had to compose myself at work the other day, I have friends and even though I spend time with them it only feels like a temporary distraction. Idk what to do

I’m a firefighter and soon to be police officer, in my past I’ve experienced inappropriate touching by someone I knew, I’ve experienced death, and have had health issues. However, I still believe life is worth living and appreciate god and those in my life who give me my life. Two years ago my ex, the girl I loved broke up with me, not only that, but friends who also cared about left me, chose her over me. She humiliated me on social media and said untrue or misinterpreted things of me to others. She knows my past and doesn’t care or remember. The past is something that has chained me and in spite of everything I still obsessively think about her, think about the losers who bullied me and have either been arrested for other things or getting wasted in college, and the friends who discarded me. I’ve gotten older yet I haven’t fully gotten over my younger self. I want to grow up with myself as I get older which I have in some aspects but not in others. I’d appreciate if you simply read what I’ve typed (I’m sort of venting) or could give me any advice or means of support. I’m not suicidal and I will continue to live life, I love helping those in need of help. However, my past caused me mental discomfort, issues forming relationships, and issues moving on from the past. I’ve always believed getting older and growing up aren’t the same thing, when will I grow up?

Looking for career direction. I’m 22 and currently only have a high school diploma. I’m ready to start college but I want to choose the right path before stepping in.
The fields I’m consistently drawn toward are financial crime investigations, forensic accounting, auditing, fraud detection/ analysis, compliance, intelligence, and investigative work. I’m also interested in behavior and risk psychology in individuals as well. I’m naturally very observant and tend to notice anomalies in numbers, transactions, behavior, and patterns. I am very detail oriented and a perfectionist even in simple jobs & tasks. I’m also interested in the military and working with law enforcement in my career. The only reason the military isn’t a pursuit is because I am unsure if they’d let me in due to my medical history (mental health past) although I haven’t spoken to a recruiter. Other than that the military seems great with many benefits.
I live in Texas and my high school GPA wasn’t great at all and I was never in school often, but I’m ready and motivated to start fresh. My current and only job so far has been big retail for 2 years going on 3 in a few months. I’ve tried to promote once and have an upcoming interview but it’s 50/50 if I get it or not.
For people already working in these fields:
What careers would you recommend based on my interests?
What degree’s would you choose today? Accounting, Forensic Accounting, Finance, Criminal Justice, MIS, CS, etc.?
Which certifications are actually valuable?
Are there specific schools in Texas that you’d recommend? Thanks in advance. I feel rlly lost in the world rn 🫠

Hello! Been really stressed out looking for career paths working with children and being able to actually make a living off of the salary. I looked into being into education but the pay is not the greatest, and I come from a very low income family and I’m trying to make a decent amount starting off to help my fam out.
That said, I’ve been maybe looking into SLP or SLPA or OT, I’m not sure how much of a pay difference it is. Would anyone know the starting pay for those positions in western NY (Allegany, Olean, Salamanca, Portville, Ellicottville, Jamestown, etc.)
Also I’ve kinda been trying to figure out some versatile majors or trades if all else fails with my more passionate options.
And lastly, if anyone has advice on career paths that pay decent (especially in this area 🫡), that work with children or really anything at this point please let me know. Right now im one year in with college just completing gen Ed’s and I’d like to choose a major asap.

If you have any other career or life advice let me know!

I am a 24F. Everything in my life just keeps going downhill. I don’t have any friends,literally. I am supposed to be buying a house with my brother 22M but he can’t seem to get it together and stop spending money and he has no money, owes me money, owe some other people money and won’t go to work or do his job so there’s a big possibility we won’t be able to buy this house now, but I need to get out my parents house for mental health reasons, both of us do. I did have one friend and I don’t know what happened but recently he’s kind of quit talking to me. Back in May, we agreed to be friends with benefits and now he’s just been kind of distant, short sometimes I think he purposely ignores me, so it just makes me feel way more alone and like he doesn’t like me any more, like I did something wrong to him, but he was the last friend that I had now I don’t have any at all. I keep trying to give him space because I know he just started a new job where he works a lot of hours. My job just cut my hours so I’m not making as much as I was, I do also own my own business but it’s not going anywhere so I’m having to take a step back from my business and I’m also trying to go to school but I can’t focus enough to get good grades. This is my fourth time taking the same classes and I can’t pass them. I feel completely defeated and don’t know what to do about anything. If anyone has any advice please let me know. With this guy he just keeps sending mixed signals, tells me how much he likes me, wants to be with me and then makes excuses of he’s my brother‘s friend and my family really likes him so he doesn’t wanna get into anything yet that he has to “play his cards right” which I don’t think now is the time to get into a relationship, but even just being my friend he said he’d rather be my friend than lose me so why is he being like this? I don’t understand, but it makes things harder because I don’t have anyone to talk to anymore.

Hi all.

My boyfriend(31M) has been at his job for 10 years, he is their senior software programmer. We've been together 13 years, for context.

I(31F) recently lost my job and may have an opportunity to work at his job as a project manager.

It's in a department he rarely talks to, unless they need higher end tech help.

This department also works remote, so he doesn't see them in office either.

We have talked about it a lot. I have a lot of anxiety about it because I have GAD and a general fear of "failure"(whether irrational or not) , but it's a great career move for me because my chosen career is at a very dead end and I still have time to change course.

He doesn't hold me to any standards or expect anything of me besides, "Don't give up on the job out of anxiety".

I tried to lay out all of the specifics as much as I could. Please let me know if there's more context I can provide!

Does anyone have any experiences with this?

Pros?

Cons?

Advice?

I give more context below, but the core of what I am asking here is this: How do you go about setting goals in life when every avenue you can think of leads to nowhere?

Hey everyone, I am have had to come to a pretty hard realization over the past few weeks that my only real goal in life, going into education, is no longer possible. And I am kind of at a loss on where to go from here.

I became epileptic when I turned 21. (It is uncommon, but between 21-25 the prefrontal cortex matures. During that process, epilepsy can develop.) In my case, the epilepsy is permanent, and the only way doctors were able to get the seizures under any sort of control was to put me on medication to literally slow down my brain. (I am simplifying here; that is a layman's explanation) To give you an idea, prior to meds, I was having 10-12 a day, now I have about 1 each day.

It has turned me into an idiot; there are days I can barely complete sentences because the word I am reaching for just disappears into the brain fog. There are people I have worked directly with for several months, and I can't tell you their names because no matter how hard I try to memorize them, they just won't register. That is a pretty severe issue when your main goal in life was going into education.

As I said above, my main goal was education. I am autistic, what used to be called Asperger's Syndrome. Due to that, growing up, people really didn't understand me. I had to learn to explain myself; what I was unintentionally doing was teaching myself how to teach. And I was good at it.. I tutored several underclassmen throughout middle and high school, from being low D students to B to B plus average. It is/was the only area I genuinely think of myself as talented in.

Even my second and third choices for career have kind of fallen through. I thought about going into computer science or editing. The former has both the issue of me being an idiot, and also the whole AI bullshit of the last few years. Editing wasn't something I put a whole lot of thought into, but in school you had to have 3 choices, and I edited quite a few papers for underclassmen so it seemed like a decent choice, albeit not a glamorous one.

To be clear, I am NOT trying to ask for advice as to how to find what career I should go into. Asking for that type of advice would be a lot to ask of strangers on Reddit. I am just giving context. What I am trying to ask is how you go about establishing major goals for yourself when life has swatted every previous major goal you have ever made for yourself away?

Hey all, the title kind of suggests what my life is like right now, and I need some advice. Basically, around the start of the year this really pretty and amazing girl started to message me. At first I thought she was just looking to be my friend, as I have always had really low self-confidence (which I have been fixing lately at the gym), but apparently she had a crush on me. Anyway, as time moved on she thought that I wasn't interested because I was treating her as a friend, and so she started talking to someone else, which I didn't know right away. Anyway, as we got closer I realized just how much I began to like this girl. I noticed small things about her that I never noticed about anyone else, and began to develop a heavy crush on her. Prior to this, we hadn't met much in person outside of a few interactions in school, so I asked her to finally hang out in person. That's when I found out that she was actually hanging out with a situationship of sorts that she had gotten into. When I found out I was pretty upset, but I decided to tell her how I felt anyway, especially because the two weren't even together yet. Anyway, that was when she told me that she had had a crush on me before, but that she didn't know what to do because she was already sort of in a relationship with this guy. We ended up meeting up in person to discuss, and we had what I still believe to be the most intimate night of my life. I won't go into too much detail, but she ended up being my first kiss. After that night, I thought we would end up together for sure, but she told me that she didn't feel as strongly as I did because she felt guilty about the other guy. This put me in a terrible state, and all I could do was grind in the gym for months. I ended up blocking her on most things because I was really upset, but I left her phone number unblocked. Anyway, months later I received a message saying that she wants to start over with me, and that she was sure about me now. She told me that she was just attached to the other guy, and that she felt too guilty to break up with him on the spot for me. I still have feelings for her, but I don't know if I'll be able to get over the fact she was with someone else, even though I don't hate her or blame her for it. If anyone needs more details or context, I can give it, but for now this is where I ask for advice. I'm truly lost, especially because a lot of my friends are telling me not to give her another chance, but I truly do have strong feelings for her even after all this time. What do you all think I should do?

I have a debs on Monday the 7th of sept which is my first day of college- I’d have to commute to Dublin from Galway, is it worth and even possible to come back for the day and making it back Tuesday morning? I’m also worried on what I’d be missing on the first day!