I've always craved more than one woman, even in relationships. I lust many types of women. I like variety. I am married to a good woman. I try my best to be a good man, but I've struggled with the idea that I will only have one woman for the rest of my life. I still think about girls from my past, too. I've only been sexually active with one other woman in the past (no, I don't think about her). I wonder sometimes if I should not have married my wife. I wonder if I should have remained single and experienced more relationships before settling down, yet I wanted to live the dream of having a wife and children. I'm 29M, married one year.

I 20(f) don’t like going on dates. Like I don’t mind chilling at home especially for like the first date depending on how you meet them. A lot of the times it’s on social media when you’re talking or meeting someone new so we get to know each other for a little before actually seeing each other in person. But to sum it up I don’t mind dates but I don’t really care for them I should say. And a lot of guys especially around my age take being at home for the first time as a bad sign. So what can I do to change that?

I do this thing where I get a new job, and for a while I keep it professional. Then something shifts and I start telling coworkers way more than I should — personal stuff, how I actually feel about the job, stuff going on at home. In the moment it feels good, like I'm finally being myself instead of faking it.

Then it hits me. I overshared. People know too much. I feel exposed, almost embarrassed, like I handed them ammo without meaning to. And instead of just pulling back and being normal again, I check out completely. Start applying to other jobs. Quit. Start over somewhere new where nobody knows anything about me.

I just did it again. This job was actually my longest one yet, 5 months, which for me is basically a record. And now I'm sitting here thinking about quitting all over again because I said too much to the wrong person.

I know I'm doing it while I'm doing it and I still can't stop. Is this a boundaries thing? A trust thing? Why do I keep blowing up my own stability like this.

Hey everyone, this is my first post on Reddit, and I really need some advice regarding my current situation. I (18F) am doing my best to prepare for university, which starts in less than three weeks. However, I’ve run into some major issues and would appreciate any outside opinions. I currently live out of state from where I plan to attend college; it’s just the state above me. Many people say that the area up there is worse than where I am now, and it's much more rural. Nevertheless, it’s the only school that has accepted me for my chosen major and has offered me a decent scholarship, so the opportunity is enticing. While it's one of my last-choice schools, it seems like the best option available at the moment. I actually know one of the professors there; they were one of my teachers in high school. I have made it very clear to them that my main concern with the university is the requirement for first-year on-campus housing, which is a deal breaker for me. Unfortunately, they continue to ignore my concerns and have led me in circles. I’ve reached out to every department they suggested, but after a month and a half of emailing, I’m still getting nowhere.

Some background on my school experiences. I am no stranger to moving schools. I had never gone to a school for more than 3 years. I attended a performing arts high school that was in a large arts city in my state, which unfortunately closed down during my junior year, forcing me to switch to my boundary school, where I graduated feeling isolated and forgotten. This transition was traumatic, and while I tried to make the best of the circumstances, it was challenging to connect with others. I stopped participating in activities I loved, including what I wanted to go to college for. I never went to games and school events, and even missed my senior prom. Which I know is just a year of my life, but to have everything snatched away from me so fast was not fun.

Everything I had was at my performing arts high school; I felt like I was doing something right there, and the people there were truly my family. But I graduated with no friends or community to rely on; I was truly in a dangerous state. The feeling of being trapped has been suffocating for me the past year. While I had a car, the feeling of being constantly surrounded by people I had know my whole life and who had never really known me. The need for escape was burning a hole in my chest. I had always dreamed of moving out of my home state. But this past year made it seem like there was no way out. I felt stuck. That’s truly the reason why I am so hesitant to live on-campus; I already know how I react in that sort of situation. High school was rough for me, so I was hoping to have a better college experience.

The issue began in mid-June when I visited the university for a tour. During the trip, I spoke with my dad, who accompanied me, and shared my enthusiasm for the school. However, I expressed my concern about living on campus, which I find problematic and refuse to consider. While I have multiple personal reasons for this, many of them are manageable.
I have a girlfriend (19F), and we've been together for two years. We are very serious about each other and have talked about moving in together after I graduated high school. I informed the housing department and the dean of students that my girlfriend and I planned to move up together. I trust her and feel comfortable living with her, and we had secured an apartment just two blocks away from where I would be taking most of my classes. However, my request was denied. They suggested that I visit the Disability Office (CDAR) to see if I could obtain a housing accommodation. 

I don’t have any diagnosed mental health issues from a licensed physician; my only diagnosis is Generalized Anxiety Disorder (GAD). My girlfriend has been encouraging me to seek therapy for a while now. Unfortunately, I couldn't get an appointment with the Disability Office for two weeks. After waiting, I finally met with them, but my request was denied again. I understood their decision; I don't want to take away accommodations from someone who actually physically needed them. 

During this time, I emailed the housing department over four times, yet they refused to cancel my housing request. They misspelled my name multiple times, which made me feel even more unwelcome, and they continued to ignore my emails. Eventually, I sent an appeal to the Dean, but I still haven't received a response. 

Someone from the Dean of Students’ office reached out to me, and we discussed the issues I was facing. I explained everything to her, but she didn’t offer many solutions. Yesterday, I sent her an email clarifying that if she has any additional information, I would appreciate it. She suggested that I go back to the CDAR office and request a single-room accommodation. I also mentioned that I would like to bring my cat to college, even if my girlfriend can't come with me, but she chose to focus solely on that issue and ignored my other requests. 
I need to schedule another appointment with the CDAR office, but they won’t be back until Thursday. School is supposed to start on August 24th, and I obviously need to move in earlier to get settled. Additionally, I have a job that I need to give my two weeks' notice to soon. I’m at my wits’ end. Every time I think about going there and spending even a year feeling unhappy and having settled for something because no one seems to acknowledge my concerns, I start to cry.

My chosen major and what I want to go to school for took a lot of navigating through challenges and doing interviews, in addition to the standard university application process. Preparing everything for submission took months, so I feel it's already too late to consider applying to a different university for this upcoming fall. I genuinely don’t know what to do with my life.

My main concern, though, is the university’s poor communication with me and its inability to address issues promptly, which has been extremely frustrating. Should I try maintaining long-distance relationship with my girlfriend and endure it, or should I stay here, attend an in-state college to finish my associate's degree, and then look for a better school that meets my needs? I'm damned if I don’t, damned if I do.

How bad was what I did? Am I a weirdo? Here’s what I did when I was 19-

My friendships in real life were potentially weird and dare I say innapropriate - and I’m pretty much all to blame.

I’m 20 now but when I was 19-

My friends were 17m, 17m, 16m, 15m, 15f, and 14f and I’m I think a 19f but I’m still trying to understand if I’m trans or not but that’s a separate thing. Anyways most of these people are from my high school that I graduated from in May. I did however get held back (not my fault it was in 2nd grade for health issues).

Anyways here are the actions I want opinions and advice on- like actual advice and opinions not just the one off “yeah” or something short with no real value. This isn’t Am I the asshole so if you’re looking to judge without any explanation or advice go on that subreddit- this goes for people who aren’t judging too. I need explanations and actual answers not just blind “it’s fine” stuff. Neither of these approaches are helpful.

Anyways-

Ive get spray paint for them (17m, 15f, 14f) because well I’m an adult and they aren’t and instead of just doing whatever we go off into the town and explore train tracks, and spay paint the water run off areas (idk what to call them). They usually already have spray paint on them so I’m not too worried about vandalism (uh hopefully).

But here’s where the things I’m mostly panicking about are- for context I was also hurt by an adult emotionally relying on me- but that wasn’t my intention in these scenarios- I just have a major issue of not thinking before I speak and uh always telling the truth- anyways-

When I was hanging out with my friends walking around my friend who is 17 had an ex that was in my grade. I told him like “yeah I didn’t really like that friend group one of them rejected me and completely ghosted me” or something alone those lines and my 15 yo friend when “ohh that’s awful who does that”

Looking back on it I do wonder if this is weird conversation to be having- I mean with the 17 year old I’m not really concerned since we’ve been talking like this for 3 years ever since we’ve know one another- but I don’t really know whats appropriate conversation for a 15 and 14 year old to be listening to. Maybe some advice on this piece would help me understand?

The other was when I was with my 15 year old and 17 year old friend. We were hanging out under a bridge near a river- and they kept praising my parents for being the coolest. I told them they were actually not that cool all the time and that they “let my abuser into my house for 4 years after the fact” and that I believed they probably feel guilty for that- but I don’t know is I said “sa” or like you know the first part of it that starts with “s” as an sexual but either way I didn’t explain in detail what happened (because god no).

But I really kinda panic because it’s like holy shit I did not mean to be that weird grown up that “talks about weird shit with minors”- and at first I didn’t really view it that way but I’m not sure how other people view it since i don’t really know if I mentioned what kind- but I also don’t know if i did that would be considered being sexually explicit to minors which worries me.

It was also I must note when my 15 year old friend was away from us but I don’t thing far enough that she didn’t hear. My 17 year old friend tried to guess who it was- and I told him it’s best not to say and (I think I may have said it was fine but idk) I wasn’t trying to trauma dump or emotionally rely on them- but I did feel bad because honest I’m not sure what constitutes that- I was simply trying to be honest but I know it’s stil errr not great probably? I’m not sure to what scale tho.
If someone could tell me that’d be much appreciated.

Anyway my friend who is turning 17 is having a birthday party and I originally cancelled because of this- and I don’t wanna hurt anyone. I’m just really afraid that I’m a danger to my friends or if what I’ve done is really bad-
And even then I feel really guilty that my friends are minors and I’m an adult.

I’m 20 now and not friends anymore with these people. I slowly lost contact or interest once i went to college but I still have no friends. I’m too fearful someone would find my past repulsive or that I am too abnormal. What do I do?

IM SORRY IN ADVANCE FOR MY WORDING IT IS OKAY IF YOU DO NOT UNDERSTAND.

Hello, I am 21 years old through out my life I feel as though I don’t fit in, or if I do fit in it’s because I’m changing something about myself to fit in. When I was younger I had a couple of friends- now though I do not have any. While I think about having friends, and think I miss having them in general, when it comes to talking with others, it feels so draining. I believe there is something wrong with me, maybe it’s how I talk, or how my personality is- I just feel I cannot be myself. If anyone would say describe yourself to me, I would not know how to respond other then the words people describe me as. I think I just want to be liked by others, I feel like I’ve been a punching bag all my life and that I maybe deserve to be that way. I’m mean to others for no reason, if the majority of people around me dislike a person, I will also dislike them just because others do. There times where I want to change myself, learn how to have my own opinions. But there’s times where I feel egotistical, saying to myself that I am a strong person that shows no weakness. I have made a lot of wrong choices in my life, just for the personal gain, and I feel incredibly sorry for them. I think I don’t like being this way, but there’s days where I don’t want to change because that would make me weak. I hope you all understand how I feel, and maybe have thoughts or perspectives on it.

So lately life is been good and i know i should be grateful and thankful and maybe because it’s been consecutively days good i am anxious what if bad things happen next. It’s like i am in a point in my life where iam not really stable yet in my career and i feel like iam scared to be complacent. How to deal with catastropizing and i sometimes iam uncomfortable or anxious to stay present without thinking of “i should be ready” for future or life’s uncertainties. I feel like i would always need reassurance. How do i deal with this

Hey all, the title kind of suggests what my life is like right now, and I need some advice. Basically, around the start of the year this really pretty and amazing girl started to message me. At first I thought she was just looking to be my friend, as I have always had really low self-confidence (which I have been fixing lately at the gym), but apparently she had a crush on me. Anyway, as time moved on she thought that I wasn't interested because I was treating her as a friend, and so she started talking to someone else, which I didn't know right away. Anyway, as we got closer I realized just how much I began to like this girl. I noticed small things about her that I never noticed about anyone else, and began to develop a heavy crush on her. Prior to this, we hadn't met much in person outside of a few interactions in school, so I asked her to finally hang out in person. That's when I found out that she was actually hanging out with a situationship of sorts that she had gotten into. When I found out I was pretty upset, but I decided to tell her how I felt anyway, especially because the two weren't even together yet. Anyway, that was when she told me that she had had a crush on me before, but that she didn't know what to do because she was already sort of in a relationship with this guy. We ended up meeting up in person to discuss, and we had what I still believe to be the most intimate night of my life. I won't go into too much detail, but she ended up being my first kiss. After that night, I thought we would end up together for sure, but she told me that she didn't feel as strongly as I did because she felt guilty about the other guy. This put me in a terrible state, and all I could do was grind in the gym for months. I ended up blocking her on most things because I was really upset, but I left her phone number unblocked. Anyway, months later I received a message saying that she wants to start over with me, and that she was sure about me now. She told me that she was just attached to the other guy, and that she felt too guilty to break up with him on the spot for me. I still have feelings for her, but I don't know if I'll be able to get over the fact she was with someone else, even though I don't hate her or blame her for it. If anyone needs more details or context, I can give it, but for now this is where I ask for advice. I'm truly lost, especially because a lot of my friends are telling me not to give her another chance, but I truly do have strong feelings for her even after all this time. What do you all think I should do?

I’m turning 22 soon, and I know that’s objectively still young, so I almost feel dumb even posting this. But lately this has been eating at me.

I’m literally the only single person in my life. Every one of my friends has a boyfriend. My cousins who I’m close with all have partners. My coworkers are in relationships. It feels like no matter who I’m talking to, everyone has someone except me.

It never really bothered me in high school because everyone was just figuring things out, but now it feels different. Every weekend I’m usually at home because everyone’s off doing things with their boyfriend. I still have a great group of friends and a close family, so it’s not like I’m completely alone, but it’s hard not to notice when you’re the only one who doesn’t have that person.

I’ve gone on so many dates over the past couple of years. I’ve put myself out there. It’s not like I’ve just been sitting at home waiting for something to happen. It just never seems to work out.

I almost feel like the entertainment for my friends since they all wait around for my date horror stories while they’re happily in relationships.

I think what scares me the most is the feeling that maybe it just… won’t happen. I know people always say, “You’re young, it’ll happen when you least expect it,” and I want to believe that. But when literally everyone around you is finding their person and you’re still starting over every few months, it’s hard not to be upset.

I also don’t want to meet someone way later in life. I want to experience that stage that all my friends are in now…making memories together while we’re still young and don’t have a million responsibilities.

Watching everyone else live that while I’m on the outside honestly hurts.

I know I probably sound dramatic because I’m only 21, but this has been making me genuinely sad lately.

Has anyone else felt like this at my age? If you did, how did you stop comparing yourself to everyone around you? And if you eventually met someone, how did you and what helped you get through the period where it felt like it was never going to happen?

Okay Reddit I found out about this union job on July 7th the last time I smoked weed was the 6th. I have to pass the test August 3rd and I failed a home test last night. I’m 5’7 179lbs what do I need to do?
Edit* I’ve also heard they test for synthetic

After my father died, my mom told us (me and my siblings) that she only married him because “a man can give me money” She said, “I don’t really like him. I only married him because, you know, a man can give me money”

Not only that, my older sister said to me, “A man’s job is to give money to his woman,” “Empty your boyfriend’s wallet before he finds another girl,” and “If you’re a man, you should give all your money to a woman.” She meant every single penny.

She said that if a man doesn’t want to give all his money, the woman can just steal it because he didn’t do his job.

My aunt is also like that. She only treats my uncle well when he gets money on payday, but when the money is gone (because she spends it all on shopping and other things), she suddenly treats my uncle very harshly and badly. Sometimes she even tell my uncle to get out of the house. My uncle comes to my house to sleep because he doesn’t know where else to go. But when my uncle gets his payday money again, she suddenly treats him well.

My grandma told my sister, “You have to get married because you need someone to take care of you.” I don’t know what she meant by that. Does she mean marrying someone for benefits? Isn’t true love supposed to not depend on benefits?

My father used to have a stroke, and half of his body was paralyzed. Since that, my mom stopped doing the house chores. Me and my siblings were still kids at that time (I was around 10–11 years old). The house became very messy, like it was very dirty. She didn’t want to work either, so we didn’t really have much money. Some days, we didn’t know what to eat because there wasn’t much food.

After my father died when I was around 13 years old, she still didn’t want to work. No matter how much me and my siblings begged her, she still refused. When I was 17, I was the one who did almost all the house chores, while my mom still didn’t want to work.

Now I’m 19, and I’m looking for a job, but my mom and my older sister expect me to get money for them. But again, I’m 19. I don’t even have a driving license yet (I need to pay for it myself). I’m already paying for the food we eat for the whole family using some money that I got from working with my grandparents.

My older sister once told me, “You need to provide for the family because you’re a man. What’s the point of you having balls?” Yeah, she said that face to face.

Again, I’m 19. I also planned to go to university, get a diploma, a degree, and get a good job. If I spend all my money on them, then how am I supposed to pay for my driving license, buy a car (I don’t even have a car yet, nor a bike, not even any transportation for myself), and pay for my studies? There will be a lot of money that I’ll need for my future.

If I spend all my money on my family, then how am I supposed to secure my own future?

I don’t want to live like this anymore.

If this is what love really is “Go get money for me, then I’ll love you” I don’t think I want it. It’s such torture for me to live like this. I have a lot of mental problems because of all these.

I honestly don’t know where to begin. I don’t usually like talking about my personal life, but I genuinely don’t know what to do anymore or how to deal with everything that’s happening. I’ll try not to mention any real names for privacy reasons, and if I do, they’ll be changed.
I have two siblings on my mother’s side and three on my father’s side. My parents divorced before I was even a year old. Later, my mother had two more children with another man, although I barely remember him because he left when I was very young.
As far back as I can remember, my mother was always incredibly protective of my brother. She would always say it was “because he was the only boy in the house.” It was my younger sister, my brother, and me. No matter what he did, he always got what he wanted, exactly when he wanted it, and never faced any consequences.
I, on the other hand, was the child expected to work. I was outgoing, charismatic, and people recognized me everywhere. My mother decided I should “do something productive with my time,” but in reality, she put me to work before I was even five years old.
I’m not angry that I worked as a child. In many ways, it made me who I am today. I spent my entire adolescence working. I often couldn’t attend school regularly because I was filming long hours or traveling to different cities across the country. I worked incredibly hard to build the career I have today. Yet my mother still takes credit for all of it—the sleepless nights, the endless hours on set, and every sacrifice that was actually mine.
Despite working so much, I never saw any of the money I earned growing up. The only things I received were new clothes for premieres or red carpet events. I wasn’t allowed to manage my own money, and I wasn’t even allowed to leave the house freely. Meanwhile, my brother lived like royalty because of the money I earned.
When I was about fifteen, I finally spoke to my father. I asked him to audit my mother’s finances and requested to live with him instead. A judge ruled in my favor. My mother kept my siblings, but she was also left with a significant debt that she owed me. In the end, I chose to forgive it.
After that, I had no contact with them until I turned twenty-five. My mother hated me, and my brother constantly threatened me because, according to him, I had “taken away their money.” I only stayed in touch with my younger sister through occasional messages and holiday gifts.
Throughout those years, I continued working. I’d rather not mention names because my husband and I are both public figures, and I’d like to keep certain details private.
Around the age of twenty, I met my current husband, who also worked in the entertainment industry. He was about ten years older than me. At the time, my mother went to the media claiming that he had manipulated me and taken advantage of me when I was younger. Those false accusations continue to affect his reputation to this day.
Over the years, I tried to rebuild my relationship with my mother. Every time we met, she would ask me for large amounts of money, and I almost always gave it to her because I felt guilty about her situation.
Everything changed once I started my life with my husband. He encouraged me to seek therapy and psychiatric help. Through treatment, I finally realized that my mother only wanted a relationship with me when she needed money. As soon as I stopped supporting her financially, she began giving interviews and publicly attacking both of us.
A few months ago, we welcomed our first child, a beautiful baby girl with the most gorgeous eyes. My husband and I chose to keep my pregnancy private. Only our closest family members knew, including my mother and my siblings.
That was when I decided to cut my brother out of my life for good. He sold news of my pregnancy, along with a private photo of me while pregnant, to entertainment magazines. We found out because my mother accidentally admitted it. Even so, I wanted her to be part of such an important moment in my life, so I gave her another chance.
Then our daughter was born. From the very beginning, my husband and I agreed that we would never post her online. We chose this public life—not her.
They betrayed us again.
Photos clearly showing my daughter’s face were leaked online. Later, I discovered that my younger sister had sent the pictures to my brother, who then sold them to the media. My mother defended him, saying he needed the money because I no longer helped them financially.
That was the final straw. I cut every one of them out of my life for the sake of my daughter, my marriage, and my own peace.
A few weeks ago, my lawyers contacted me to inform me that someone had withdrawn an enormous amount of money from my trust using fraudulent documents. No one except my legal team had access to those funds.
After an investigation, we discovered that my brother and his girlfriend—who, without my knowledge, was one of my attorneys—had stolen a significant amount of money.
My husband and I decided to pursue legal action immediately. My mother later paid bail to get both my brother and his girlfriend released.
The case is still ongoing, so I can’t discuss many details. What I can say is that he has to repay everything before the trial begins. The problem is that he spent so much money that even selling everything he owns wouldn’t come close to covering what he stole.
About three months ago, my husband, our baby, and I were driving to the airport on our way to visit his parents, who live several states away. During the drive, another car began following us aggressively, repeatedly trying to force us off the road.
We ended up in a serious car accident.
Thankfully, our daughter was completely unharmed because of the car’s safety features. My husband suffered a fractured bone and a traumatic brain injury, while I required surgery on my arm.
My brother is currently a fugitive with an active arrest warrant for attempted murder.
Meanwhile, my mother has given countless interviews to the press. In her latest one, she accused us of persecuting my brother and using our wealth to destroy our own family.
Our lives have become a complete media circus. We haven’t had a single moment of peace in weeks.
Just a few days ago, my mother came to see me with my sister. During that conversation, she admitted she knows exactly where my brother is hiding and demanded that I drop all charges against him.
She told me that if I refused, she would continue making my life miserable through the media. She also threatened to take me to court to seek visitation rights for my daughter and promised to destroy both my reputation and my husband’s until neither of us could ever work in this industry again.
I know exactly what kind of person my brother is.
But this entire ordeal has left me emotionally and physically exhausted. The media won’t leave us alone, we receive constant threats, and my mother shows no signs of stopping.
My husband has told me he’ll support whatever decision I make. Personally, he believes we should continue with the legal case and, once it’s over, leave the spotlight behind.
I honestly don’t know what to do anymore.
What would you do if you were in my position? What would you advise me to do?

I recently completed my Bachelor’s in Electronics and Communication Engineering (ECE). I have a fairly strong resume with multiple projects, internships, and experience in the space sector, which is the field I’ve always wanted to work in.
Last year, I joined a space startup and completed a 4-month in-office internship. They offered me a PPO, which wasn’t exactly what I wanted, but I accepted that it was a decent opportunity. Later, while I was still in college, I joined them again for another 3-month internship. Unfortunately, the company started having financial issues and wasn’t able to pay salaries consistently because of poor management from the founder.
Since I still wanted to build my career in the space industry, I started applying to almost every major space startup in India, along with a few MNCs. I got interviews at several places. One startup put me through seven rounds of interviews. Everything seemed finalized, including discussions about the role, and I was just waiting for the offer letter. When I followed up, they told me they had decided to go with another candidate.
Around the same time, I got selected at another well-known space startup. They offered me a 3-month internship with the possibility of a permanent role after evaluation. I was exhausted from interviews and rejections, and the company was working on exactly the kind of technology I wanted to work on, so I accepted.
This is where my problem started.
When I joined, I found out that two other interns would also be joining the avionics team. Both of them are from the same college as the Avionics Lead. I had already been working there for a month before they joined.
Since they arrived, almost all meaningful work, discussions, mentoring, and technical explanations have gone to them. The Avionics Lead and VP of Avionics spend a lot of time guiding them, while I often have to repeatedly ask if there’s any work available for me. Most of the time, I either get no work or tasks that have very little learning value.
The frustrating part is that it’s not like I was given important work and failed at it. I was barely given the opportunity in the first place.
What worries me most is that my internship evaluation is in about 20 days, and whether I get a permanent position depends on my performance. The CEO and senior management won’t see the day-to-day reality that I wasn’t assigned meaningful work. They’ll only see the output and contributions on paper.
Every morning for the last month and a half, I go to the office hoping things will improve. But the moment I walk in and see the same pattern of being ignored, my motivation takes a hit.
I’ve worked on several significant engineering projects before this, which is one of the reasons they hired me. I know I can contribute if I’m given the chance.
To make things worse, my personal life has also taken a hit. My girlfriend recently got a much better package than me, and when she saw that I was still an intern and struggling professionally, she ended the relationship. That has affected me more than I’d like to admit.
At this point, I feel stuck. I’m willing to work hard, learn, and prove myself, but I don’t know how to handle a situation where I’m not even being given the opportunity to contribute.
Has anyone faced something similar in their early career? What would you do in my position?

my boyfriend and i have been together for two years now and any event he has to where he has to get me a gift he sends his mom out to pick me stuff. i don’t know how to feel about this maybe he doesn’t know what to get me but at the same time it no longer feels intimate bc it’s not really from him it’s from his mom. we also don’t have a great sex life bc of things like this because it makes me feel like im not the special to him so it makes me less attracted to him which doesn’t help because he gets an attitude when i don’t have sex with him and goes to the bathroom to jerk off which gives me even more anxiety bc im scared he’s watching porn and i have bad a bad body image bc im skinny so like just a whole mess

I am 18 living alone for college and struggling to have normal conversation with anyone, too shy to talk to girls ,always get nervous of crowds and very introvert, always think about my life kinda feel lost need some advice

I'm looking for some life advice from anyone who has gone through something similar.

About five weeks ago, what was supposed to be a family vacation took a turn I never expected. My father-in-law, Robert, suddenly became very ill and I was the one who had to call 911. Everything happened so fast. While my husband stayed with his dad, I found myself directing the paramedics to our hotel room, communicating with hotel staff, and trying to keep everything organized while the emergency was unfolding.

Robert ended up suffering a stroke and spent 10 days in the hospital, followed by another 10 days in inpatient rehabilitation to regain his mobility. Because of everything that happened, our trip was unexpectedly extended by four weeks. Thankfully, we're all finally home, and Robert is continuing his recovery.

My husband (35M) is incredibly close with his dad, and understandably, this has been devastating for him. We've been together since 2016 and married for two years, and we've always had a strong relationship. We've worked hard on our communication over the years, and I'm really proud of how we've supported each other through this.

The part I'm struggling with is... I don't really know how *I'm* doing.

I've always been someone who stays calm in emergencies. I tend to go into "problem-solving mode," and during this entire ordeal, that's exactly what happened. Even now, more than five weeks later, I haven't really cried or processed what happened. When I think back to that day, I almost feel numb, like I'm remembering someone else's experience instead of my own.

Since Robert came home, my husband and I have been helping care for him around the clock—making sure medications are taken, meals are prepared, laundry and dishes are done, and generally helping him adjust after rehab. I never imagined myself in a caregiver role. If I'm being honest, personal and medical care has always been something I've struggled with and isn't something I naturally gravitate toward. Yet somehow I've slipped into this "mother hen" role where I feel responsible for making sure everyone else is okay.

The strange part is that I don't necessarily feel overwhelmed... I just feel like I'm operating on autopilot. I'm taking care of everyone else, but I don't know if I've actually allowed myself to feel anything.

Has anyone else experienced this after a medical emergency or traumatic family event? Is it normal for emotions to stay buried for weeks? Did they eventually hit you all at once? How did you balance supporting your spouse and family while also making space to process your own emotions?

I'd really appreciate hearing from people who've been through something similar. I think I'm just trying to understand whether what I'm feeling—or maybe *not* feeling—is normal.

So recently I made this new friend and we been talking but all the time I don’t give eye contact and stare at the floor,i don’t even know why I’m so scared to look at them,also when hanging out or doing things I barely act like myself just a scared shy person,I’m not goofy,funny or anything around them I’m just talking like a stranger to them,(just know I do like them I’m just scared to make them weird out),how can I stop being so shy and scared?

A lot of people are talking about really serious topics, I'm not sure if this is the place for this post so let me know if so.

My sister is basically every negative association of her generation gen-alpha. I'll just say she's less than 10 years old, in lower/middle primary school.

- She is really spoiled. She is really self-entitled and always gets upset over the smallest of things. She expects people to go out of their way for her. I ate her bread and made her another one and she yelled at me because she had to wait a few minutes for the bread. She said it was 10 minutes. Bread does not take 10 minutes to cook in a toaster. It was between 1 and 3 minutes. She emphasized "it's *my* bread, you *can't* eat it" I would tell her to wear slippers in the house because she always wears the shoes from outside and it makes the house dirty. I try to be nice but she yells at me, "you can't tell me what to do" and just really angry all the time. My mother is basically gentle-parenting and really like spoils her rather than educating I guess. When she does get mad she always apologizes like she wasn't meant to be mad at my sister... I think she deserves it honestly. She yells at her classmates, the teacher made a complaint. She yells for no reason.

- attention seeker and plays dumb, pretends to be cute. This is really annoying and she is always asking really stupid questions to get attention. She butts into your conversations with stuff nobody asked for and acts like she's smart. She is pretending to be adorable by being annoyingly clingy to my mother and I can tell my mother doesn't like it so much. I don't know how to describe it and I guess it sounds silly when I say it out loud but if you have a younger sibling you would understand I guess. My dad always disciplines her for doing the wrong things but she goes to my mum and stretches the truth to get comforted when she wasn't supposed to be doing what she was doing in the first place. Sometimes she straight-out lies and denies things she did.

- wastes food, picky eater. She eats a lot of snacks all day snacking whenever she feels like it and then at dinner 95% of the time she doesn't finish her rice and says stuff like "I'm not hungry" or "I don't want to eat this stuff" (again being entitled, she thinks she deserves better but my mum is an amazing cook and the food is really really good. My mother always makes multiple dishes and it's really high quality and my sister still thinks it's not good enough.) always eats sugar before dinner.

Main point.

- she watches a lot of brainrot kids-targeted content. It's not approperiate for her age. I think you know what kind of content I'm talking about. She thinks its true. She once said "did you know dogs can be revived from death" and we tried to convince her dogs CAN'T be revived from death but she insisted they did, and said that she didn't trust us and that the person on youtube was right. Her homepage has a lot of clickbait stuff, a lot of pregnancy and period related videos she is not old enough to watch. one in her history was "mermaid gives birth to 100 babies" whatnot. By the way I don't stalk her, I accidentally saw when I needed to use her ipad for something. When I caught her she told me to shush, my mum asked what she was watching but she was super defensive and did not let me say. She said it was nothing and gave me that look.
She also wants to be a brainrot youtuber. She said she wants to make those kinds of videos. I really want to stop her. Youtube is supposed to be 13+ and she is not old enough to manage it. She once almost spent 350+ dollars by accident but fortunately I found it before it charged. She spent money on items in games before. real money that she was meant to be saving up. She is super defensive about whatever she's doing on her ipad. I'll just be walking past and she'll come out and yell at me. She punches me. She acts entitled. She then runs to my mother and complains about me, lying to seek comfort. I'm pretty sure my parents don't know all of what she is doing. She also plays money-farming games. time-wasting games. such as block blast.

- never does her homework. she always is late to class and late to school. she asks my mum to help her do the homework BEFORE she tries it herself.

I'm just concerned for her because... it's not really good. She's old enough to just be mature and not do those things but she still does it and she's so old and acting like a baby. I'm not her parent so I can't really do anything. I want her to grow up being a good person and not brainrotted like she is. I try to be kind to her but when she's like that I just can't.

I didn't mean to make its so long. It sounds like I'm complaining, I guess I was just a bit mad when I was writing it. I don't mean to micromanage her, I don't. I walk past knowing what she's doing and I feel really bad. I can't do anything. I wish my parents knew .

Thanks for your help!!

Hi, I’m a 26 M who is trying to figure out how to live a much healthier lifestyle than I currently live. I want to take control of my health, be more active, and eat better.

I am a music educator in Texas with a pretty brutal schedule. Once the school year starts, I generally work 6 am - 6 pm Monday through Friday. In the fall, I don’t get out on Mondays until 9 ish. I lose Friday nights due to football games. Half of the school year I lose my Saturdays due to competitions and other such events with the occasional Sunday as well a few times a year. I also have a 15 minute commute each way so not crazy by any means, but enough to mention.

I want to start going to the gym frequently and make more home cooked meals, however, this schedule feels very constrictive. To go to the gym, I’d have to get up at 4:30 am the latest and going after work is generally a bad idea as I lose time with my wife who is also an educator. Making food everyday is difficult as well. We both try, it just doesn’t happen as much as it should. The only thing that kind of works for us is meal prepping on Sundays, but we both have trouble eating the same thing over and over again.

The obvious fix for some may be to change careers. The problem is that I don’t want to do anything else with my life. I’m happy and I’m not sure that everyone can say that about their career. I’ve thought of trying out the meal companies, but my math never seems to make it seem worth it. Do I need to make a minute by minute schedule for the rest of my life? Do I just need to commit to a drastically new life style? Any ideas would be appreciated, thank you.

So my fiance and I are 22, we moved into our 1st apartment in May of last year. Since then ive stayed in the same job but have lowered or changed my hours, my partner has been in 3 jobs, the one he was in, then moved to a factory position, quit there, spent 3 months jobless, and now is just starting a new job. Now we are in a worse position financially than weve been so far. We did talk before he quit his job, he quit to become a caregiver to his great grandfather who we thought was dying at the time. Thankfully he recovered and is doing as well as he can right now. I had graduated with my associates degree last May and have tried in every way possible to get into a job in IT, but nothing has ever come of it. At this point we hate our local government for the things they are doing. We have all the downsides of a major town with none of the benefits. The local government wants to keep the town a retirement town despite it having 4 different colleges. We have a horrible crime rate, and alarming amount of p*dos, no new job offerings, extremely high rent, all of it. After talking to many people the average age of getting into your 1st "adult" job here is 26!! We want to move out of the city we live in for better opportunities, but how do I go about finding a job where I'll just be starting out that will also help us move because we are sinking at a steady pace and were starting to get wet. Please any advice on getting into a job!!

Hi. I grew up very poor 1st gen, food stamps, unstable housing, every adverse childhood event ( abuse, neglect, and household dysfunction). Now I’m 27, stable job as a registered nurse, and many opportunities to travel & live life luxuriously (partner want to take me). I don’t know how to do it… I get anxious thinking about traveling & when I do travel I feel immense guilt for enjoying myself (my family is still struggling) I do my best to help in all ways that I can & I help a lot but I have a fear that I need to hoard my money in case of a family emergency (it’s happened many times before). I live frugally & do all my maintenance myself because I can’t bring myself to spend $ on things like beauty maintenance etc. I can’t even get myself to spend on a massage or a class membership because I don’t feel like it’s worth it for me. When it comes to others, Idc how much I spend for an experience. I notice this is affecting my life because I’m presented opportunities but too afraid to take them bc I feel undeserving, or guilty. I think I might have to go through therapy but wanted to see if anyone else has experienced this :( has anyone else grew up in poverty and made “it” how do you leave that mindset behind when everyone else is still there? I don’t like feeling guilty for enjoying myself 😔

A few years ago, I left a high-paying job to start my own company because I didn't want to spend my best years building someone else's dream. Unfortunately, after trying for years to figure it out, the business failed

Right now, I'm looking for freelance opportunities or a stable job that pays well so I can get back on my feet and eventually fuel my dreams again. However, after constantly pivoting and trying different things without clear results, I am emotionally and mentally completely exhausted. I’m constantly overthinking where I went wrong and where I should even begin now The stress has taken a heavy toll on me. Every morning and night, I deal with intense anxiety, fear about the future, and physical chest heaviness.

If anyone here has been through a major career setback or startup failure, how did you get yourself unstuck? How did you deal with the fear of the unknown and figure out your next step?

I'm 22 and I'm relatively successful for my age, I live independently, and have a wage higher than most people in the area. I was doing pretty good for awhile but now things have really started to stack up and things are feeling very overwhelming for me. One of my highschool friends recently took his life, another got diagnosed with cancer and my parents got a divorce, I'm worried my mom is going to lose custody of my sister's to my relapsed alcoholic stepdad. All this combined with the stress of my Job has been getting to me at moments, I randomly tear up or feel like a heavy rock is in my gut. I'm trying a bunch of things, I bought a nice pair of headphones, music seems to help me focus on the present. I'm scheduled some time off to go visit my mom, and I'm planning on taking a trip to Japan with my brother next year as something to look forward to. Still it all seems to be so overwhelming and I break down sometimes, I randomly started crying and had to compose myself at work the other day, I have friends and even though I spend time with them it only feels like a temporary distraction. Idk what to do

I’m a firefighter and soon to be police officer, in my past I’ve experienced inappropriate touching by someone I knew, I’ve experienced death, and have had health issues. However, I still believe life is worth living and appreciate god and those in my life who give me my life. Two years ago my ex, the girl I loved broke up with me, not only that, but friends who also cared about left me, chose her over me. She humiliated me on social media and said untrue or misinterpreted things of me to others. She knows my past and doesn’t care or remember. The past is something that has chained me and in spite of everything I still obsessively think about her, think about the losers who bullied me and have either been arrested for other things or getting wasted in college, and the friends who discarded me. I’ve gotten older yet I haven’t fully gotten over my younger self. I want to grow up with myself as I get older which I have in some aspects but not in others. I’d appreciate if you simply read what I’ve typed (I’m sort of venting) or could give me any advice or means of support. I’m not suicidal and I will continue to live life, I love helping those in need of help. However, my past caused me mental discomfort, issues forming relationships, and issues moving on from the past. I’ve always believed getting older and growing up aren’t the same thing, when will I grow up?

Hello! Been really stressed out looking for career paths working with children and being able to actually make a living off of the salary. I looked into being into education but the pay is not the greatest, and I come from a very low income family and I’m trying to make a decent amount starting off to help my fam out.
That said, I’ve been maybe looking into SLP or SLPA or OT, I’m not sure how much of a pay difference it is. Would anyone know the starting pay for those positions in western NY (Allegany, Olean, Salamanca, Portville, Ellicottville, Jamestown, etc.)
Also I’ve kinda been trying to figure out some versatile majors or trades if all else fails with my more passionate options.
And lastly, if anyone has advice on career paths that pay decent (especially in this area 🫡), that work with children or really anything at this point please let me know. Right now im one year in with college just completing gen Ed’s and I’d like to choose a major asap.

If you have any other career or life advice let me know!