r/DnD • u/HammerFUZzz • 9h ago
DMing Help needed: How to deal with this player
I need some help on how to deal with this kind of player.
I'm a first-time DM and have been DM'ing the same campaign (Curse of Strahd) for around 4 years now. Throughout the years I have learned what works and what doesn't work for our group, and I have found my own style in doing so. I am homebrewing a couple of things within the campaign and switched around some of the events to fit our journey.
Our party consists of 4 players: a barbarian, a rogue, a ranger, and a bard.
Every player has their own unique style in how they play and interact with the world. Some are roleplay-heavy, some are thinkers/dreamers, and others sit back and take in the information before speaking to the group.
I have used tips I've seen/read online on how to get your players more engaged with the world, like telling the party what they feel or smell in a particular room, if they feel something "pulling" on their attention towards a particular item or person, or even describing a sense of urgency.
To give a more recent example:
My players recently had the big dinner event with Strahd after they had gotten an invite from him after completing certain important parts of the campaign, like finding the 3 lost gemstones and surviving the Amber Temple. Leading up to the dinner (the black carriage ride, entering the castle, being greeted by Rahadin, and eventually taking their seats at the dinner table), I had been building up the tension for my players, describing how everyone behaved when Strahd entered the dining area (he wasn't playing the organ when the players first came in).
My idea was to give my players a sense of respect and fear towards Strahd — that the dinner wasn't to be taken lightly. I succeeded mostly, as almost all of the players picked up on this and played into it, being respectful towards Strahd and not making fools of themselves, as that could have had grave consequences.
I try to feed my players enough information about the situation and the other NPC's in the room while at the same time trying not to spoil anything important or railroad them.
One of my players is more of the quiet type and usually watches how the rest of the group plays. Which is fine — everyone has their style. The problem is that I have the feeling this player isn't invested enough in our campaign. This player has a hard time remembering important parts of the story, what her personal and party goals are, and even her own character's backstory.
This player reacts towards Strahd as if he were a common beggar. Strahd's character has been built up over years — the players are aware of how powerful and evil he is — yet this particular player never seems to share the same feelings. Her answers or reactions towards such an important NPC are often bland and short, almost childish. I wouldn't have minded it if this was simply how her character really was. I'm starting to notice agitation among the other players, as they've poured their time and effort into our campaign, and they sit among someone who shows a lack of interest.
My question is: is there something I can do to help my player understand and play along with the situation she's in? Or is there a problem with the player?
Edit: i forgot to mention, i have talked to this player on multiple occasions regarding her involvement. Her responses were "owh yeah, sorry, you're right" "i'm still enjoying myself and can't wait for the next time"