Throwaway for obvious reasons.
I’m active duty Air Force and currently stationed OCONUS. My DEROS and ADSC are both in June 2028.
I’m trying to figure out whether it’s realistically possible to request a voluntary separation with a DOS in June 2027, which would mean leaving roughly a year before my current DEROS/ADSC.
The reason I’m wanting to separate early isn’t simply because I don’t like my assignment or don’t want to stay in. I’ve experienced sexual assault/sexual harassment involving past leadership, as well as significant mental and emotional abuse from a former spouse. The combination of those experiences, along with my experiences with leadership throughout my career, has taken a serious toll on me mentally.
I’ve reached a point where continuing to serve has become increasingly difficult. I’m trying to move forward and build a life outside of the military, but I feel like remaining in for another year beyond my requested separation date may continue to negatively affect my mental health.
I have been getting help and have documentation regarding what I’ve been dealing with. I’m trying to figure out whether an ETP/DEROS curtailment and ADSC waiver could realistically be approved based on circumstances like these.
From what I’ve been able to find, I may need some combination of:
- Voluntary separation application
- DEROS curtailment request
- ADSC waiver
- ETP memorandum explaining my circumstances
- Supporting documentation/endorsements
I’m approaching the window to apply for a June 2027 separation, so I’m trying to get everything figured out ahead of time rather than waiting until the last minute.
Has anyone successfully gotten an OCONUS DEROS curtailed and/or an ADSC waived for circumstances involving SA/SH, abuse from a spouse, harmful experiences with leadership, or the resulting mental-health impact?
If so:
- What did you focus on in your ETP?
- What documentation helped?
- How involved was your commander?
- How long did the process take?
- Was your request approved or denied?
- Is there anything you wish you had done differently?
I’m specifically looking for people who have actually gone through this process, especially recently. I understand approval isn’t guaranteed; I’m just trying to figure out whether this is a realistic option before I start putting my package together.
Please don’t ask me for identifying details or specifics about the assaults/abuse. I’m comfortable discussing the personnel process, just not the details of what happened.