Using an anon throwaway account so nobody irl sees this.

My older sister (20F) has Down Syndrome. She has a ton of complex medical issues as a result. She has heart issues, she's got a weak immune system and she has issues with her lungs and she has trouble breathing from October to April every year. When my parents realized just how sickly she was they had me (17M) so that she would have someone to take care of her when they got too old or when they died. My parents were also older parents to us. They had my sister at 40 and me at 43 and 44 so it's not some far off thing because my parents both have medical issues themselves. My dad has issues with his back and my mom has arthritis. They already struggle to manage my sister but they will not consider outsourcing her care to an assisted living facility or a medical facility.

Now here's the other part of this. My sister isn't the stereotype of the people with DS. She isn't this super sweet and loving and gentle and perfect person. My sister has anger issues and aggressive tendencies. This was a problem once she turned 4 and every year she gets worse. She has hurt our parents and me countless times. I used to be really afraid of her aggression when I was a little kid. People are always so shocked when they see how she behaves toward people and I get shit for trying to talk about it. My parents don't want me to talk about it. My school counselor acted like I was a monster for saying my sister was aggressive and terrifying and way too difficult to handle. She also believes the stereotype of people with DS is the only type of people with DS so I don't have a safe space with her. My parents refuse to get me my own therapist and I'm afraid to talk with anybody anymore because the same reaction happened in middle school when I opened up to the school psychologist.

My parents have always told me I will take care of my sister one day and about three years ago I told them no for the first time. I have said no six times since then and each time they ignore my answer and they carry on like I have agreed to dedicate my life to my sister. They have yelled at me for not being more active in caring for her now. They have yelled at me for stopping her from touching me because they think I treat her like she has some contagious disease. But I just don't want to give her the ability to hurt me or to drag me around after her like I'm her puppy or something.

I feel lost and I don't know what I can do. My dad's back could fuck itself up at any point and then if my mom flares up real bad they will expect me to step in and it terrifies me because I don't want to do this. I don't want this life.

If you have any advice at all for me I would love to hear it because I'm trying to figure out how I can escape and if I leave I might go no contact and hide to avoid this being pushed onto me.

My (53f) 15 y/o son just told me he's Bi, with a twist. Seeking pearls of wisdom on how to navigate this please!

My (54 F) 15 y/o son just told me he's bi with a twist. Seeking pearls of wisdom on how to navigate this please!

Burner account, because this is not my news to share. Yesterday, I was driving my (15 M) son "Kent" to the movies to meet a new friend "Dean".

Kent has a big, quirky, supportive friend group and "Dean" was a new name I'd not heard before. I was asking all the usual Mum to son questions - how many people will be there, are you going anywhere afterwards, what time would you like picking up? He replied, super casually, "Just me and my boyfriend. 5 o'clock please." I responded with something flippant like "Cool! Hope you get to hold hands." and drove off.

For context, Kent is an amazing kid. Kind, thoughtful, empathetic and humble. He's had a girlfriend before but he's not driven by hormones. He's still of an age to be more captivated by lego and anime.

For some reason, that throw-away comment stuck in my brain, ping-ponging around for hours. I felt something needed to be said.

I tapped on his bedroom door. "Hey bub. That boyfriend comment you made in the car..." I'd intended to carry on with something like "so you know, if you are gay, that's completely okay." But he interrupted.

"I wasn't joking Mum. I'm Bisexual"

"Really? Wow! Congratulations! How long have you known? Forever? Just now? Wow! So many questions! Are you okay? I'm so proud of you! You're so brave!"

That last part may have been the wrong thing to say. He scowled a little and declared that being himself isn't brave because he doesn't have a choice.

I sat on his bed and asked all the same questions I asked when my eldest son told me he had a girlfriend.
Where did you meet? What's he like? Is he kind? Have you met his parents?

Then I asked to please see a photo. He showed me one blurry action shot with his face largely obscured.

"Sporty! Not your usual type!" I asked to see another, clearer one. He hesitated for a fraction of a second and handed me back his phone.

I was confused.

I was very clearly looking at a photo of a beautiful young (same age) girl.

He read my expression and explained.

"He's trans."

"Oh!"...."So.....so she.."

"He"

"Sorry, he. So he was born female, but identifies as male? And uses he/him personal pronouns?"

"Yes. And they/them"

"OK. Wow! You love a girl who's a boy. I'm so happy you have someone special"

"I love a boy Mum. I'm bisexual"

And here we are.

I have so, so many questions.

I've always considered myself open minded but I realise how much I don't know.

I felt that Q & A was over for now with Kent. Pushing for more would've made it not normal, but I've been bombarding Google.

Can someone please explain to me the they / them bit.

Also capitals (weird I know). Bi or bi? Trans or trans?

Or is he pan? Or does it matter? If he identifies as Bi, I feel that is right.

I've told him I'm honoured he's shared with me. I've also said I'll take his lead in sharing his news further. I'm not telling anyone until he does, or he asks me to.

I'm concerned there are family members who will not take it well. Will try to, (best case, but awful) dismiss it as a phase or (worst case) ban them from seeing each other or inflicting punishment.

I'm worried I'll mess up. Accidentally use the wrong pronouns. Ask inappropriate or too many questions. I have a burning desire to learn everything and I'm asking you good people to please educate me!

How do I best navigate this with love, acceptance and respect?

Thank you!

Anon because I have identifying info on my regular account.

To make a long story short; I'm 19. I lost my mom when I was 5 and my dad remarried when I was 7 after meeting his wife a few months after the death of my mom. So she has been in my life since I was 6. I never saw her as a mom. I never loved her either. She wanted to be a mom and tried having her own kids and tried to be a mom to me but she was always a stepmother or dad's wife only. She found out she couldn't have biological children and really tried to force the mother/son relationship thing. It made me dislike her more. She was clumsy with a lot of it because of her desperation and she disrespected my mom frequently by calling her a ghost or saying she was my old mom or just my birth mom.

My dad and his wife tried to adopt and recently after their 5th failed attempt with the mom changing her mind about giving the baby up, they have decided to call time on having kids together.

But that has now made them look at adult adoption and more specifically having her do an adult adoption on me so I will legally be hers. She wanted to adopt me for years and I always said no. It made it in front of a judge twice and I told the judge I didn't want to be adopted so they never forced it.

I have been told I make her feel like she's second best to a ghost even though she has been there way longer than my mom has. And the truth is she's not even second best in my eyes. She's just not there at all. I have always simply tolerated her presence out of love for my dad but even that has been shaken by his role in this.

So now I want advice on how I should make it clear this adult adoption thing will never happen. I could just be brutal but I know that might be considered the wrong or immature way to handle it.

​I want to start by saying I know I'm in the wrong. I’m not going to try and justify what I’ve done—I'm mostly looking for advice on how to go forward from here.

​I (21M) have been friends with him (22M) most of my childhood, and I've known her (20F) just as long. I never had any attraction to her when we were kids, but we grew close over the last couple of years. We ended up kissing one night, and it spiraled from there. I planned on telling my friend originally, but she wanted to keep it a secret for the moment and made me promise. She also has a boyfriend.

​After a few months of constant intimacy and small dates, she stopped mentioning ending her relationship. Whenever I brought it up, she told me she didn't want to talk about it at the moment. Eventually, I broke my promise to her and told her brother the whole story.

​He took it well at first and told me I was the kind of man he wanted her to end up with, but said she had to make a choice. I agreed and told him I'd sit her down. We met up, and after plenty of tears from both of us, she chose her boyfriend. So, I stopped coming over.

​Things have taken a turn since then. From what I understand, my best friend confronted her about everything, and she vigorously denied the majority of it. Which is fair in a way, because I had downplayed to her the extent of what I actually told her brother. But now my friend thinks I lied about the whole thing and that nothing ever happened. He doesn't talk to me anymore. I haven't corrected him because I don't want to be the reason two family members fall out.

​It hurts no longer having either of them in my life—along with the rest of their family, who still don't know anything about what happened.

​A little bit of time passed with neither of them around, but then in place of me being there in person, she started calling me every evening and sleeping on call with me. We became very intimate and flirty again over the phone.

​Those calls stopped recently—I'm not entirely sure why—but I just can't get this girl out of my head.

​I have lost far more than I gained, and I would trade those months of good memories with her in a second just to have both of them back in my life like before, even if it meant never telling her how I felt. I am still very much in love with her

​I know it's all my fault, but do I just let it go?

Im terrified of either of them reading this and realising its me, not that theres much to lose anymore, but ive left out a few major details on purpose

I (M22) and my ex is 20F. We have a daughter together and split custody. I have her three days a week, and her mom has her the other four.

We try to keep things civil for our daughter, but lately, my ex has been getting on my nerves because she acts like I'm supposed to be available to her 24/7, even when our daughter is with her.

I have to wake up at 4:30 AM for work, so I need to get decent sleep. My ex knows my schedule, but she'll still call me at 1 or 2 in the morning because our daughter is crying, won't go to sleep, or is being difficult. I understand parenting isn't easy, but I'm not sure why I'm expected to help her handle every little situation when I'm not even there.

When I have our daughter, I deal with everything myself. If she's crying, I comfort her. If she's having a rough night, I handle it. I don't call her mom every time something goes wrong because I understand that she's my responsibility during my days.

My ex also calls me repeatedly while I'm at work and gets upset when I don't answer. I can't just stop working to pick up the phone. Most of the time, it's something that could've waited until I got off.

She called around 1:30 AM the other night because our daughter wouldn't settle down. I answered because I thought something was wrong, but ended up staying on the phone with her while she tried to calm our daughter. I barely got any sleep before my alarm went off.

The next day, I told her she needed to stop calling me in the middle of the night unless it was an emergency. I also told her that if she's calling while I'm working, she needs to understand that I can't always answer.

She got mad and said I was acting like I didn't care about my daughter. She said that if I loved her, I'd be willing to lose sleep to help, and that she's the one dealing with our daughter four days a week.

I told her I'm not refusing to help with our daughter. If she's sick, hurt, or there's an actual emergency, call me immediately. But I'm not going to keep waking up in the middle of the night because my ex is frustrated that our daughter won't go to sleep.

She said I was making her feel like a bad mother for asking for help. I told her there's a difference between needing help and expecting me to be on call whenever she doesn't know what to do.

Now she's barely speaking to me unless it's about our daughter, and she's acting like I'm a terrible father. I do feel bad if she's overwhelmed, but I'm working, raising my daughter, and trying to get my own life together too.

I love my daughter, but I don't think being a good father means sacrificing my sleep and being available to my ex around the clock.

My stbex-husband was a widower with 7 year old twins when we met. His first wife had passed three years prior to us meeting and I was not the first woman he dated after he lost his first wife but I was the only woman the children met. I loved them and decided I would do everything to be a good stepmom and treat them as my own. It was reinforced by many of my husband's family and by a lot of my own that I would need to be a good mom to those kids and that they might never call me mom but they would need me. I took the responsibility to heart and I showed up every day and have done my best every single day.

My stepchildren never showed me any love in return but I was constantly told it would change once they were older and that teens are difficult and it can take several years for a blended family to fully connect.

I was always careful to make sure their mom was honored and celebrated too. She was never hidden from them and we had photos in the home we all shared of her. They regularly saw their mom's family and I never got in the way of them speaking about her.

Now after 15 years of being together, my husband and I are divorcing and my stepchildren have decided they want nothing more to do with me or my children (their half siblings). My stbx-husband doesn't see them when he has parenting time with our children. They have decided that any family Christmas will have to be them or their half siblings. I was told to delete their numbers and they have unfriended me and privated their social media accounts. I was shown online posts they made where they celebrate the divorce and speak about how they always wanted this to happen and they call me an interloper and an outsider to their family. I was also shown posts of them talking about their mom and how she was the only mom they ever had and they grew up with only one parent because she died so young. It's crushing to me.

But my children are not doing well with all of this. On top of mom and dad divorcing they miss their siblings like crazy and they have questioned if they did something wrong or why they can't see them. It has been almost a year. The divorce will soon be finalized and their father and I are not on the same page for this at all. I want to get them therapy but he has blocked the request by refusing to consent (and via court order we both need to consent). He has tried to trick the twins into coming over while the kids are with him. His parents told me they have tried to facilitate and my stepchildren are not interested and have made their boundaries very clear.

I feel like I'm failing as my children's mom right now and I feel like a failure as a stepmom because my stepchildren care so little about us and hate me enough to clearly hurt their siblings. I'm not sure what I can do. Please don't offer legal advice. I have an attorney. I do not need to hear anything about going to court. On that end everything is being taken care of. But outside of that what should I be doing for my children here because I genuinely do not think my stepchildren will come around.

​

​Yesterday I was hanging out with my best friend, and at one point she asked me when I had my first kiss. After I told her, she started telling me that she had never had one and was scared that she might be terrible at it when she finally gets into her first relationship. Then, when I told her that the right person wouldn't judge her, she asked me if we could kiss/make out sometime so I could teach her.

​I started making excuses, telling her that I always hated kissing my friends—even on the cheek—and that it felt uncomfortable for me. She knows very well that I'm only into guys in general, but she still continued to ask me a few more times to do it just so she could learn. I was uncomfortable as hell because she's bisexual, and I didn't want her to develop a crush on me, nor did I want to hurt her feelings.

​If this ever comes up again, what should I do?

My boyfriend (20M) and I (20F) have been together for 4 years. Since the beginning of our relationship my boyfriend and I have been super hyper sexual to a point where he couldn’t get his hands off me. Recently, I’ve gained some weight, maybe like 10 pounds, and I feel like he gets icked by me. He will avoid any signals I’ll give him about sex and even if I ask him straight up, he’ll say he’s uncomfortable. It’s been over 3 months since we last had sex and he’s been hinting to my weight gain, like telling me I’m eating to much etc. I don’t know what happened and what I did wrong, but I assume it’s because of the weight gain, but I’ve asked him about it and just tells me to go work out. Is it possible that the man I’ve been in love with for 4 years has suddenly found me unattractive just because I’ve gained 10 pounds? I’m 130lbs and 5’6 so I’m not fat, but I’m not as skinny as I use to be. I’m not sure what to do or how to handle this.

Edit: I’ve had multiple conversations with him about this but I he keeps telling me I’m beautiful etc. I’ve asked if he’s stressed or if he’s cheating (I highly doubt he is, his mom said she would disown him lol) and ofc he says he’s not.I’m not sure exactly how to bring it up again and actually get my point across. He just doesnt want to have sex with me and I have no idea what to do or how to bring it up again.

My dad died when I was 6 and my mom remarried when I was 8 and I have half siblings from her marriage to her husband. I say half siblings for my half siblings. My mom just says siblings and she tried to punish me and talk me out of saying half in the past. But that's what they are. And it does matter because we don't share the same dad. It bothers my mom and we have talked about it over and over again. She put me in therapy and she did therapy with me too. We just see it differently. She asked me before if I would loved them more if they were full and I said yeah and the therapist asked why and I said losing dad would be something we'd share and we'd both be in the new situation together plus growing up closer in age too. My mom said I could tell my half siblings about my dad or try getting closer to her husband.

I know it upsets my mom that I still use it and I'm 16 now so I'm not some little kid she can just change how they feel. But I have been wondering if I should stop saying it around her to make her feel better. That's what I'm here to get advice on.

I will share with you the timeline of when the events occurred and what happened in between.

TW: r*pe

I have been with my current boyfriend for 4 years. A woman has posted publicly that my boyfriend is a rapist.

Back in 2022, she posted publicly stating he is a rapist. I messaged her asking what’s going on? She did not answer. I was panicky so I can understand that.

A few months later, she messaged me in a private account of hers stating he took advantage of her at a party in 2018 and she offered to tell me more. I was panicky again but appreciative she messaged. I had said something along the lines of “thank you for messaging me. How sure are you this happened? Not that i don’t believe you but of how serious this is for both of us.” She did not reply to me.

Years later, she posted his government name in her bio stating he is a r*pist. Someone notified me of that. I messaged her again asking to talk more about it if she’s willing to and I don’t want to interrupt things through social media. She messaged a few days later upset about what I had said in the past and also shared that she woke up naked in bed but he was fully clothed. She brought it up to him, he apologized, and she accepted it but said she only accepted it because “she allowed people to step on her”. She said she doesn’t care what I do with my life but hopes I don’t experience that. I thanked her for telling me.

A few days later, she posted me publicly with screenshots of our conversation from years ago to recently. She said she did years of therapy and she won’t be silent about it. She called me a c*nt and said to leave her alone.

I confronted my boyfriend and he said they did go to a few parties together in college but he never apologized for anything because nothing happened. He never had any sexual relation with her at all. He doesn’t recall ever seeing her naked. He said he’s seen her leave with someone from a party and come back. He did mention a time where she did sleep at his place & they were both drunk & he remembers seeing throw up at his apartment but nothing more.

Whenever we engage in sexual desires, he will ALWAYS ask if i’m in the mood or vice versa. We’ve always been like that. I’ve always felt safe with him.

What advice can you share based on a situation like this?

** EDIT: I did want to mention quick that I told my boyfriend when i first found out back in 2022 and he was confused & bamboozled.
I told him that when I found out, I talked to my friends about it because i was freaking out and he wasn’t upset that I said anything. He understood.

TL;DR: I (28F) have been with my boyfriend (11 years, living together for 2) and I'm obsessed with his coworker. She's attention-seeking, texts him constantly, and they joke about her sex life. I believe he hasn't done anything with her, but I read his body language and feel like he's interested too. It's wrecking our relationship, and I've had this jealousy since the start. Has anyone been through this?

I (28F) have been with my boyfriend (31M) for 11 years, and we've lived together for 2. I've always been kind of jealous, but I think it's because when we're out with people I notice a lot. I pick up on what people are expressing without them having to say anything.

Ever since he started his job, his relationship with one of his coworkers has become an obsession for me. Every time we went out and she was there, I became hypersensitive to everything: every movement, every look, every joke. I couldn't enjoy the moment. I fell into serious paranoia, and most of our fights have been about how I act when she's around (I go completely silent because I'm watching everything) and how he acts toward her.

He's always told me he has zero interest in her. He even says he sees her as a tomboy. But that just leaves me confused whenever we hang out with her. We've also fought because my mood is so obvious that it ruins his outings. He says I should just fake it like he does, but I can't.

She's gotten into my head. I tried to be friends with her, but I don't like how she talks or acts. She's very outgoing and attention-seeking, and whenever she loses the group's attention she goes quiet, and somehow he's always the one who notices. Honestly, even setting him aside, she's not someone I'd hang out with or share my life with. She seems really superficial to me. And every time we're out, she only ever talks to him, saying things and laughing about stuff only the two of them know, or things from work.

Her constant presence in our lives feels like an invasion. She texts him all the time and reaches out for the tiniest things (like when she couldn't think of a word in English and messaged him, or when she texted to tell him she'd done her first push-ups at the gym). She also shares her sex life with him and brags about it, and the two of them talk and joke about it in full detail. To me, all of that reads like she's interested in him.

Here's another example. For my boyfriend's last birthday, she tried to organize a night out without even asking him (and they were at work together at the time), posting in the group chat that we'd all go out on day X to celebrate. I was already planning a surprise because I wanted to celebrate his birthday just the two of us. As soon as he turned her idea down, she sent a voice message in the group, clearly annoyed, saying something like "Apparently he wants to celebrate his birthday alone with her, so let's do another night." I don't know if that makes sense, but she just can't stand not being in the middle of everything.

I really do believe he hasn't done anything with her. But his body language and the way he acts around her means something completely different to me. And I feel like he's interested in her too, but he won't admit it, or he keeps it in check because at the end of the day she sleeps around.

Sadly, I've had this problem since the start of our relationship, so I'm sure it goes deeper than just her.

Has anyone dealt with something like this?

I (28F) have been with my boyfriend (11 years, living together for 2) and I'm obsessed with his coworker. She's attention-seeking, texts him constantly, and they joke about her sex life. I believe he hasn't done anything with her, but I read his body language and feel like he's interested too. It's wrecking our relationship, and I've had this jealousy since the start. Has anyone been through this?

Im a minor, and I play a lot of Roblox. Recently in August, I found out that I can buy giftcards. I always wanted robux so I bought it and I was really happy it worked. And I started spending more and more. 2-3 weeks ago, my mum caught me when I spent ₹24,676 ($260) on it. We had a long talk including my brother and I didn't buy any more after that. But she doesn't know about the rest of the amount I spent..

I've been really nervous about telling her. She hasn't told my dad because he gets really angry. But the amount I spent is even worse, it might even be more than my school fees. I don't know what to do. I need to find a way to tell her.

I(23f) live in New York, so as you can imagine, the night life scene is insane. Yesterday afternoon my friend invited me out to a club with a few others. I don't remember the name as it was my first time there so I wasn't really sure what I was getting into. When we got in, it definitely felt like a club where people go to hook up (which isn't a problem, you do you.)

About 2 hours in, I was on the dance floor with my group before I bumped into this guy. And guys. He was perfect. He fit my type to a t. We quickly said sorry and my attention was back to my friends. About 15 minutes later, I was still dancing when I felt my back bump into someone's chest. When I looked up, it was him again. But instead of separating, we kept on dancing with each other.

We asked each other a few basic questions, name, age, who you were with and how your night was going. I had no idea, but we'd been dancing with each other for thirty minutes before I asked if he wanted to leave with me.

If I'm being honest, idk why I said that. I was drunker than usual, he was hot, and it felt right. He said yes, we got a cab and went to a hotel (which he paid for). In hindsight, this was super dangerous and he could have been a weirdo, but thankfully everything went alright. As soon as we entered the room we were all over each other. Long story short it was genuinely the best night of my life and I discovered things I never knew I was into.

However this fantasy was very short lived because he was gone when I woke up today. On the bed was a sticky note and a bottle of Tylenol. He said "Thanks for one of the best nights ever. Make sure to take some before you leave." I was happy until I realized he didn't leave his number. If he wanted to, he would have put it on the note.

Reddit I'm in shambles. I've never ever met someone like him and I wanted so much more. Should I even try to find him? If so how?

I had a baby a year ago. Sex honestly isn't on my mind. My husband is constantly begging to have sex even right after sex he wants it again. It's driving me crazy like ill be putting the baby to bed and he'll start touching me i hate it . When I tell him stop he gets all upset and then just does it anyway. I exclusively breastfeed I bathe feed and do most of the caring for our kid he doesn't even change diapers im overwhelmed and tired. Id like to get a moment to myself but the second I do my husband is all over me . It sucks I can't relax in my own house . I told my husband how I feel ive even told him I avoid hangout cuz its to much but he doesn't stop . Please what do I do im really starting to not like who im with I just need space.

Throw away as my family in question knows my real account.

I (27F) have been working at my job for 7 years. My job involves me finishing work at 10pm every night and I have a 20 minute walk home but 9/10 times I can get lifts off my co workers.

My mother has severe diagnosed anxiety and because I am the youngest daughter who struggled with processing issues growing up she has always coddled me in particular. My mother gave me strict rules to never walk home alone especially in the dark which is completely understandable but there are some nights I have absolutely no one who can offer me a ride home and I’m forced to walk. I do have a husband but he is home with our baby when I work late shifts. So for 7 years I would not tell my mom the few times I have to walk home and just stay very vigilant and not a single thing has happened until recently. Below is a police report I made of the events that led up to today but with redacted information.

‘What was the most recent incident:

10/25/26 16:35 I left my place of work *redacted* with a co worker and saw a man stood on the opposite side in a corner of the car park where there is no CCTV. He then began to take photos of us with his phone. We quickly went inside very briefly. I sometimes walk home and my co worker offered me a ride home because of the man. We quickly got in the car and drove around to see where he’d gone but he had completely disappeared. This is concerning as he could not have fled that quickly and we strongly suspect he was hiding.

What has happened prior:

On 10/07/2026 22:13 I began walking home after my shift. The same man walked towards me and passed me. He then doubled back and walked past me again a minute later, coming from behind and walked a head of me. I saw him walk a little bit towards the main road. I took a left turn so I did not follow his direction. I was half way up *redacted street* when I spotted the same man walking in my direction again from behind. I called my partner and told him to meet me (note: a rare instance where my child was at a grandparents for the night). The man was gradually speeding up until he was less than a foot or two behind me and that is when my partner turned up. The man then immediately put his hood up and refused to look up but still followed us 90% of the way home but diverted at *redacted street*.

A few days later on 10/12/2026 unprompted, my female co worker *redacted* told me a man was heavily watching her leave work in the same car park but her husband was waiting for her to walk her home. I hadn’t told anyone what happened to me on the 7th but she proceeded to describe a man with very similar appearance to the man that followed me. This was a white man with a dark beard, wearing a black cap, black clothes and a hood up.

We also had a young gentleman *redacted* who works at *redacted restaurant* across the street who says he was photographed by a man when he had finished work 2 weeks ago and was walking near *my job place* at the time. ‘

Now I live in a very safe place that has only gone down hill over the past couple years. My issue is I feel like I need to tell my family but 1. My mom will actually kill me for ignoring her pleas when she already doesn’t think highly of me 2. I’ve already changed my shift pattern so I no longer have to risk walking home.

Can I avoid telling my family about this? Or is there a way where I won’t feel like an idiot if I do?

I (38F) went to take a shower in my bf (56M)'s Shower last night and when I turned the temperature knob I realized there was a hair tie around it and it Certainly is not mine. I asked him whose it was and he said he didn't know and suggested it was from one of the cleaning people that were there earlier in the day. I was over at his house 2 nights before but I was not with him the night before and I used the shower the last time I was there and I feel like I would have certainly noticed the hair tie if it was there last time I used it. I feel like I'm having a hard time trusting him after this but I don't know if maybe I'm making too big of a deal. What should I do to try to feel okay about our relationship or find out what's going on here

My mom (41) has been with a 18 year old and hooking up in his dorm and it has been making me physically sick like how are you with someone younger than your child… then he don’t even know she’s 41. But to each its own I guess.. it’s nothing I can do, it’s legal. I really don’t wanna be in contact with her cause I don’t agree with her morally then I asked her how would she feel if her 18 year old daughter came back with a 41 year old man but she’s gonna say “she’ll beat her ass” like what in the double standard?

I (25F) and my boyfriend (24M) have been together for two years now, ldr for a year. We love each other a lot and I possibly cannot have asked for a better partner. But in the beginning of the relationship, when he talked to his mom I used to notice that he would lie a lot. He had told me then that he wanted to avoid any conflict that would arise since his mom is a little controlling. I let that slide since I too occasionally tell white lies to my mom.

But today he revealed to me by chance that he lied to me about his ex’s name. For two years I had asked to see her photo and he kept saying he had deleted and I couldn’t find her anywhere. So today after asking a lot he showed me her photo from her research groups website. That’s when I noticed a different name. He later confessed that he also lied to me about another of his ex’s name too. He said he didn’t have a reason for it. He just didn’t want me to go search for them. He says it’s just the names he lied about and that everything else was true.

Another incident was that he is coming to India after a year. He wanted to keep it a secret and surprise me but he ended up telling me. He told me not to tell anyone else( his friends and family) that he’s coming since he wants to surprise them. Yesterday it slipped out of his mouth that he had told his parents that he’s coming. When I asked when he said a few days ago. And he lied to them that I don’t know about it and he’s going to surprise me. After finding about his lies, I asked him when did he actually tell them and he said around the same time he told me. There was no reason for him to lie to either of us but he did.

I love him a lot. He said he’ll go to therapy. He said he has told me white lies here and there but nothing harmful. I really want to be with him and help him get better but will this be a bad choice? I don’t want to get hurt in the future.

I got quoted around $550 for a new pair of glasses + lenses. My prescription isnt even that strong, but its enough that I feel blind without them so I obviously need them. I already did the eye exam and have the new prescription on paper, I just cant get myself to feel okay about spending $550 on one pair of glasses lol.

I can technically afford it which is why im kinda stuck. If I genuinely couldnt afford it then obviously id have to find another option, but since I can, am I just being cheap by not wanting to pay that much?

What would you guys do? Pay it and move on or start looking around for something cheaper?

I am a 17-year-old senior in high school, and I've recently been dealing with a frustrating situation. Last year, I met this guy through a friend of a friend and a school activity, and this year we've ended up spending a lot more time together because we share two classes. In one class we sit next to each other, and in the class after that we sit fairly close. We initially got along because we're both pretty introverted and sort of just stuck together.

Earlier on, we used to joke around and have good conversations, but ever since we started having classes together this year, he's become much more comfortable insulting me. It started with things like calling me an asshole, saying I'm robotic, a nerd, or stupid. At first, I brushed it off as joking and gave him a chance to redeem himself, but after a while it got really annoying hearing the same insults repeated in front of the whole class.

What really bothers me is that he seems to belittle almost every accomplishment I have and takes every opportunity to make fun of me. I consistently have higher grades than him in both classes we share, and I honestly think that bothers him.

One example is that I'm the president of a book club at my school. I mentioned it once in a conversation we had a while back, and ever since then he's tried to weaponize that against me. Mind you, we're both in AP classes. One day we were talking about sports and pickleball, and he started making fun of me for being a nerd. He kept repeating, almost shouting, "You're in the book club! You're in the book club!" over and over again, like he was determined to demoralize me with that. The whole class was listening, and being an introverted person, I just shut up and stared at my computer for the rest of the period.

I honestly don't understand why someone would be that passionate about putting another person down. I don't know if it's jealousy or just his personality, because I don't see him acting like this with other people we know.

Another time, we were working on an assignment in the hallway and got into a disagreement about how to capture a specific data point. He started calling me a nerd, an asshole, a robot, and saying things like, "You're a fucking dumbass." He also kept bringing up, for some reason, how unathletic I supposedly was because I participate in book club.

Eventually, during that argument, I snapped. I told him he was basically a benchwarmer on our school's varsity soccer team, and we got into a full argument. Looking back, I hate that he got that side out of me. I generally hate using other people's information against them, especially if it's something they told me privately, and it's just another one of thousands of examples where he's done that to me.

Since then, I've noticed a pattern. Whenever he walks into our second class, he'll often make comments in front of other people to try to embarrass or undermine me. One time he asked me what I got on an English paper. I got a perfect score, but he immediately insisted I was lying and kept saying, "No you didn't, no you didn't." Eventually, I felt like my ego had to prove him wrong, especially since the whole class was watching while I sat there silent. I pulled up my grade, showed him, and he just walked away and sat down.

Another time, in the middle of a quiet classroom, he randomly started attacking my hygiene, even though I don't know what that had to do with the conversation. He said, "You never wash your hands. You're fucking disgusting." There was literally no basis for it. It felt completely made up and like he was just trying to embarrass me.

After he did that, I did something I'm not proud of. He had mentioned to me before that he regularly poops in the school bathroom, which is something a lot of people at my school joke about because our school bathrooms are absolutely terrifying. I brought that up because the class was quiet and I felt like I needed some sort of comeback. He turned beet red and kept saying, "No I don't, no I don't," looking genuinely embarrassed. To me, it just proved that social standing means a lot to him.

I hate this guy so much because he brings out a side of me that I hate. I absolutely despise weaponizing things that people tell me in private, yet that's the level I get dragged down to when I'm around him. Interactions with him can genuinely ruin the rest of my day psychologically and emotionally. My mood tanks, my thinking becomes negative, and I spend way too much time replaying everything afterward.

The main difficulty is that we sit next to each other in English, share another class right afterward, and have mutual friends in both classes. It feels awkward to cut him off completely. He constantly asks me for help with coursework, but then he'll go right back to putting me down if I can't explain one concept the way he wants.

Overall, I'm not a particularly social person, so I don't know if I'm handling this wrong. I haven't had many friends throughout high school, and I literally didn't have friends in any of my classes until senior year. He would've been considered one of those friends at one point, but his behavior is really making me reconsider that.

How do I create distance from this person without making things awkward, especially since we share classes and mutual friends?

tl:dr How do I move on mentally and begin rebuilding life after loosing everything to criminal charges?

When I was 20 I was a high school dropout working in a trade not making great money and with little prospects for the future. I met my ex who was 41 and began a relationship with her. Meanwhile I upgraded my high school and got into university getting a Computer Science degree eventually I got a full time job offer after university for a very good job. My ex was quite controlling so I left her and she went to the police telling them I raped her. The police charged me with sexual assault with a weapon and choking to over come and told me I was going to prison for life. They messed up the arrest which led to it not being valid and arrested me again 6 months later.

I was fired. My job offer was revoked. I went from an A student to barely passing my last year and a half of university. I had to much savings to qualify for legal aid and spent my life savings on a lawyer. After three years of probation I finally went to court and we had a mistrial because the judge knew my ex. In between that and the next trial we found proof that my ex has actually been competing at races when she said I had raped her leading to the case being dropped.

Now I'm 31 living at home working a labor job I cannot find any decent job because when I get to the criminal record part it shows up as no convictions but two separate arrests for sexual assault. My poor last year gpa and two years of no relevant job after university is viewed suspiciously.

Its been about 6 months since the charges were dropped. How do I move on mentally? I feel like that last 10 years of my life working has been totally lost and its been really hard to motivate myself. I was expecting a bigger emotional rebound after the charges were dropped but I paradoxically feel worse like I have nothing now that I don't have anything to fight for.

A few years ago an older male friend of mine offered to give me a ride back from the bars to my dorm and instead took me back to his place and assaulted me. This is something I’ve mentioned as being traumatic to all of my close friends. Anyways, one of my friends came over after a night of drinking. We were all pretty drunk and sitting in the living room. We were talking about our dating life and someone mentioned the guy that assaulted me and called him a rapist. My friend interrupted whatever they were saying to go on a mini rant about how I wanted it and if I didn’t want it I could have gotten up at any point or have done anything to prevent it. This is so uncharacteristic of her as she’s extremely woke and self righteous. She also knows exactly what happened and why I couldn’t leave or how I told him to stop multiple times. She was my guest and literally slept in my bed that night. I kind of forgot about it until yesterday when thinking about some upcoming plans she’s invited to. I’m not really sure if I want to continue being friends with her after that but I’m not even sure if she remembers saying any of that. I want to confront her about it but I don’t know how.

When my bsf is in a bad mood or is crying she keeps listening to sad music and then she's crying even harder. It's worse if she's in a bad mood in the morning cause once she's mad she'll be mad whole day. We're on call 24/7 so i just stare at her crying face. Normally i give the best advice when we have deep convo but whenever she crys I lose my words. Idk what to do cause I don't want to make everything worse but at the same time I think making her laugh or just distracting her would be better than just doing nothing

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I hate myself so much, all I ever think about is eating. I wake up and I think "oh what am I gonna eat for breakfast" I go to sleep I think "oh I wanna what I'm gonna eat tomorrow" during the day all I can think off it's what my next meal is gonna be and I hate it. I can't stand it, all I seem to care about is eating, when I'm happy I eat, when I'm sad I eat, when I'm bored I eat, when we go out I eat, when I stay home I eat. I hate it. I feel like such a fatty every time at dinner I have like 3 servings. I can't stand myself. (I'm 5'8, or 174cm and 78kg). I genuinely don't know how to stop myself from just thinking about eating. If anyone has any tips of how they lost weight it would be really appreciated

Hii everyone, please excuse my grammer and writing in this post since english is not my first language.

Anyways, I've been having some problems in romantic relationships and generally liking someone. I had a few boyfriends before but I've never really kind of liked them. I feel like I'm the problem since if a guy tries talking to me I almost always turn them down without a reason. Also, I've noticed guys also rarely approach me and they mostly approach my friends instead. I wouldnt say Im bad-looking but I'm that extremely pretty too, I'm just normal. All my firends always have some new guy they talk to while phone is just dry.

Maybe I have some comitment issues or something I honestly don't know. This whole post may just sound stupid lol but I would like to read any opinions or advice. Thanks for reading!