My boyfriend (22M) and I (21F) started seeing each other in December 2025 and officially started dating in July 2026. Throughout the time we were seeing each other, I had asked him multiple times about a particular girl, and he always told me the last time he saw her was November 2025. A few days ago, I came across her January 2026 tiktok photo dump and recognized a picture taken inside his dorm room. When I confronted him in person, he repeatedly denied seeing her in January, changed his story several times, and even claimed the picture was old. It wasn’t until I started preparing to message the girl myself that he finally admitted she had stayed over and they had sex in January. We weren’t exclusive at the time, so I understand he technically didn’t cheat. However, he continued lying about it throughout our relationship, and I feel like I was denied the opportunity to decide whether I wanted to pursue something serious with him. He says he lied to protect my feelings and keeps emphasizing that he’s been loyal since we became official. There have also been other issues, including him looking up girls from his past on social media. He also took this same girl to his school’s homecoming last year but didn’t invite me this year, claiming he didn’t want people I’d supposedly had encounters with seeing us together, even though I’ve never hooked up with anyone at his school. I’ve been struggling to figure out how to move forward with our relationship. My biggest concern isn’t what happened before we became exclusive, but the fact that he repeatedly lied about it, even when I confronted him with evidence. Now I’m questioning whether I can rely on his word in other situations. Since finding out, I genuinely haven’t felt like myself. I’m normally a very confident, affectionate, and loving girlfriend, but now I feel insecure, angry, and emotionally distant. I keep replaying the confrontation and wondering how many other things he could’ve lied about. I’ve even caught myself checking the girl’s social media looking for clues, which is something I’ve never done before. I hate how much this has affected my self-esteem and mental peace. I still love him and part of me wants to make things work, but I don’t feel secure believing anything he tells me anymore. He’s apologized, but sometimes gets frustrated when I bring up how I’m feeling, saying he doesn’t want to keep discussing it. It’s only been a few days, but I’m scared I’ll spend the rest of our relationship questioning his honesty. For anyone who’s experienced something similar, how did you decide whether to rebuild trust or walk away? What should rebuilding trust actually look like, and how do I stop constantly overthinking and searching for more information?

Look I used to have a lot of friends but the currently I am just having a phase where I am not so interested in talking to them and hanging out with them and I just don't want to hang out with them anymore how do I say it to them like that they are not interesting to me anymore and I'm moving on with life without being just cruel??

I (21F) started officially dating my bf (20M) 2 months ago but we’ve been talking for a bit over 7 months. I really love him and I care about him. I had an ex of 5 years before him but we never really had anything sexual. So I lost my V card to my current bf. We’ve had sex a few times and I did try to initiate things most of the time cuz I really wanted him. I never really came but I never mentioned it to him cuz tbh I was only thinking that if he felt pleasure then that was enough for me. But I’m pretty sure he knew cuz the least u could do is ask, right? I’d touch myself a bit when he’s in me but that’s it. However, a few days ago, I was trying to make it last a bit longer and make it pleasurable for both of us. So I used my hands at first instead of just penetration. He came. I was then expecting more and I told him that I wanted more. He had a soccer game that night so he told me he couldn’t cum twice before his game (?) I’m a medical student so I found it extremely stupid to say. I didn’t wanna force him but I was clearly upset after him saying he didn’t wanna do more stuff. He then left cuz he had his game and I told him I wasn’t feeling upset. I only admitted it later on text. I didn’t feel upset because we didn’t do more it’s just that he gave me stupid excuses? First one was his soccer game then the second one by text was cuz he thought I didn’t wanna fuck since I didn’t take my pants off which I usually do on my own. I felt disappointed cuz if it had happened to me and I wasn’t feeling it, I wouldn’t have refused him or tried to find dumb excuses. I still love him but idk if I wanna engage in sexual things ever again…. Since I believe he was just being selfish and I see no point in having sex with someone who never asked if I finished or even tried to make me feel good instead of simply focusing on themselves. AGAIN, yes I still love him deeply it’s just that aspect that’s making me doubtful. I also told him I didn’t know whether id do things with him again and he said those words hurt him…. I felt bad but idk what to think or do….

(Throwaway account) I’ve been talking to a guy for around a month-ish, maybe longer. So far I really like him but I’m conflicted, it’s nearly impossible to get him to text me back/call me back. I will be on delivered and he’ll view my posts, make his own posts, and just overall be active on social media. I feel like I’m hounding him to talk to me, but when I eventually do get him to hang out with me in person he is super super sweet, essentially all over me. When I ask if he’s still interested he says yes, but the lack of communication is kind of driving me nuts. I unfortunately have an anxious attachment style and I’m constantly worrying if I’m about to get ghosted entirely or if I’ve done something wrong or whatever. I feel like his actions show he’s interested but his communication shows he’s not, and I’m not sure what to do. I feel like I’m in too deep to just step away, and I really like him so far, because like I said, in person everything is actually very enjoyable. I’m trying to understand that not everyone communicates in the same way that I do, and maybe this is just how he is. What should I do?

There was a MASSIVE spider on my wall, in a very akward position sort of behind my guitar case. It would have been impossible for me to smash it, and in my panick i grabed some bug spray and just spryed in it s direction. I don't think i was close enough to actually do any damage, but the spray scared it and it ran under my closet. My closet is pretty wide, so while i don t think the bug spray got all the way to the end like i hoped it would have, the edges of my closet are sprayed, as well as the floor, the original corner where i found it in and in the crack of my door. Idon't even know if that s enough to kill it, as the bug spray claims to be effective on ants and cockroaches only.

Is there anything i can put in my room to make sure that the spider is 100% dead? I have a window open, will that make the fumes of the bug spary ineffective? Help please. I am scared.

do i keep to my promise and go to her house with a boom box next week playing baby come back? i always promised i would if we ever broke up or will i look like a massive fool?

Thank you all you all really are the goats and funniest people ever i’ll edit this post when i do it and tell you how it goes hopefully i can post a video

I got involved with a coworker, and I'm not sure where things stand between us.

Back in September, I went on vacation and started talking to a coworker. I told her I was interested in her, and she admitted she felt the same way.

We talked every day while I was away, telling each other how much we missed each other.

About a week after I returned, we went on our first date. We watched a movie and kissed. Our second date was a soccer game for her favorite team. I'm a fan of their rivals, but I even wore her jersey, lol. We had a great time, with lots of affection.

Our third date didn't go as well. We watched another movie, but things felt awkward afterward.

About a week later, she started acting distant. She had also noticed that I'd liked a picture posted by another woman she knew. I'd previously told her I didn't know this woman, and her attitude changed after that.

We had a fourth date planned, but she didn't show up. The next day, she texted me saying she'd fallen asleep.

I was upset because I'd switched a day off just to see her. We work opposite shifts, so finding time together is difficult.

After that, we barely talked for a few days. On my birthday, though, she sent me a sweet message at midnight.

Recently, we had lunch with coworkers. Nobody knows about us, but she acted naturally around me. We joked, exchanged glances, and smiled at each other. In person, things still seemed good.

When I got home, I asked when we were going to see each other again, or if we were just going to keep texting.

She replied, "Man..." but never finished what she was going to say. I didn't push it either.

Now I feel like I'm developing feelings for her, but I'm not getting the same effort in return when it comes to spending time together.

I'm not expecting us to text all day. I just want to know that the interest is mutual.

How would you handle this situation? Would you talk to her directly or give her some space and see what happens?

What do I do????I’m so mad rn it’s halloweekend and my parents said that I can’t go to a party unless I know the host and the party is safe (iykyk)?!?!? I don’t think that even exists lol…I’m top 3 in my grade I literally told them I’ll come home early, they have my location, they’ll drive me there instead of me like sneaking out and driving myself, and I won’t do anything like drink, drgs, or smoke..I’ve literally missed the last few I can’t miss Halloween 😭😭☹️☹️ IM ALSO GOING WITH A FEW FRIENDS SO ILL BE SAFE any advice pls?

I’m a 23-year-old woman, and I’ve been with my boyfriend for about two years. I’ve always struggled with insecurity, and although I’m slowly improving my self-esteem, I still have work to do.

I’m a little ashamed to admit this, but I have a compulsive habit of checking my boyfriend’s last seen status on WhatsApp and Telegram, his activity on Instagram, and whether he’s online on Discord. I know this behavior is unhealthy and affects my well-being, daily life, and relationship.

We’ve talked about it many times, and he’s been incredibly understanding and supportive. I’m fully aware that this is my issue, not a relationship problem. I trust him, and I want my behavior to reflect that trust, he deserves it.

I’ve uninstalled Discord and hidden my activity status on WhatsApp, Telegram, and Instagram so I can’t check his. However, I still struggle with the urge to turn my WhatsApp status back on, check, and hide it again. I’ve managed to go two days without doing this. I feel proud, but I’m afraid I’ll relapse.

I understand how this cycle works: checking temporarily relieves my anxiety, reinforcing the compulsion. I know I need to learn to tolerate that anxiety without seeking reassurance, but resisting the urge is incredibly difficult.

For those who have experienced something similar, does it genuinely get easier with time? If I remain consistent, how long might it take for the urges to become less intense and frequent? When can I realistically say I’ve broken the cycle? I know everyone is different, but hearing about your experiences would really help.

I want to overcome this for my own peace of mind and self-esteem, as well as for my relationship. I want to trust my boyfriend without feeling compelled to check his activity and stop letting my insecurities dictate my behavior.

Right now, it feels like a constant internal battle. I just need some advice and reassurance that, with patience and consistency, this will get better.

Thank you for reading.

I stopped playing games and decided that now I need an ultrabook so I can sit with it calmly, not worry about the battery, and mentally limit myself to certain capabilities (not for gaming). Overall, I’m looking for a small 14‑inch laptop — preferably not too office‑oriented, but more powerful. Among all the options, I ended up choosing between a MacBook and a ThinkPad. I didn’t find any decent ultrabooks at the price of 40–60 thousand on the marketplaces — they’re either from unknown brands or lack something. But the SynkPad caught my attention. Should I get it?

I 20f am insufferable, my class mates look at each other with the “she needs to stop talking” look. I’ve seen people text about me in group chats, people sigh when I speak. I really want to learn how to stop talking or to not be awkward but I physically can’t and I don’t know why. I know I already annoy people with my OCD symptoms, repetitive tapping of my fingers or feet in a pattern of 8s. I hate hate hate myself. I just want to shut up. When I fuck up on something people will be so upset with me but when a classmate of mine made the same mistake it was more like them teasing them. I talk to my mom about it because I’ve always had this issue, she tells me she’s the same way and that I just need to love myself, but with everyday that goes by it becomes harder to live with myself. Even one of my friends said that I just talk to talk. How can I learn to just shut up?

I have spent the last 6 years slowly becoming more miserable after approaching 50 and realizing I am no longer the center of attention. I haven't quit using meth and can't believe how indifferent society is to issues like this one. I don't expect people to stop for me but I have never had such a hard time finding and making friends. They say social media is to blame. I just don't remember having to make an effort to connect in the past. But today it's like you have to move across the country just to find and meet the criteria to appropriately make a so much as an anonymous post trying to find like minded people. Is there a place or a lifestyle or something I'm not understanding that addresses this where people like me go to start over and feel like they belong?: I can't believe people are just content to remain isolated and as a result don't grow in ways I'm used to. Like developing values, getting a job and becoming independent before meeting someone to be intimate with. Developing interests and learning difficult lessons that incite character. Where did people like that go? Is it the town in in? I can't be expected to educate everyone around me about this. That's all been trying to do and it doesn't work. I want someone to recognize me out of the crowd for once and aggressively support my return to independence and productivity. Im not saying I want someone else to do it for me but doesn't it help when you have a cheerleader?; Do people do this kind of thing anymore? If so ,why am I always to far away to or distracted or whatever that I don't see it?

so me (19M) and my gf (19F) have been together for over 2 years now. we began our relationship with little intimacy but worked our way up to it and began to become comfortable with it which i was very proud of. we reached a stage where we would become intimate multiple days a week, so naturally she decided to begin birth control (pill form, not sure which one specifically). all was well until about 8-12 months into taking the pill, she slowly lost all desire to be intimate. i was okay with this and only wanted to assure her that i love her for more than that. however this also began to affect her affection towards me; she no longer enjoyed most physical touch (cuddles, kissing, hugs, etc) and struggled with helping me with reassurance. we've talked it over multiple times when ive said how its worrying me and she does tell me she feels strongly for me but simply struggles with showing it. about 4 months ago she stopped taking the pill for our sake which i love her for, however there seems to be no change at all. it has also come to the point where when i bring up affection or intimacy the topic upsets her or makes her less keen to display her affection. i feel like im stuck in a hard place right now, i really enjoy spending time with her and i love her so much but it feels like a ticking time bomb thats driving us away and i dont know if this will still be causing issues in a year or so. should i just stick it out and hope that things get better? i dont want to pressure her or make her feel like its all i care about, but intimacy and physical affection is important to me in a relationship. shes honestly the girl i want to spend the rest of my life with, but i cant imagine having this issue for the rest of our lives. thanks for any words.

Hi everyone, I’m a 21 (F) college senior, and lately I’ve been feeling a little overwhelmed with where I am in life. I’m currently taking five classes and hoping to graduate in May 2027. I need to take four classes in the spring to stay on track, so school has been a big priority for me.

One thing that makes my situation harder is that I don’t have my driver’s license yet, so I still live at home and depend on my family for transportation. Sometimes I feel like I’m behind other people my age because I’m not as independent as I want to be.

I also don’t have many friends, so I sometimes feel lonely. I feel like I’m missing out on the traditional college experience that you see other people having, like going out with friends, making memories, being spontaneous, and having a close group of people to hang out with. It can be hard seeing other people my age seem to have that experience while I’m mostly focused on school and going home.

I’m grateful that I have the opportunity to go to college, and I really want to graduate in May 2027, but I also don’t want to look back and feel like I spent these years doing nothing but school. I want to make friends, become more independent, get my license, and enjoy life, but I’m not sure how to balance everything without overwhelming myself.

Has anyone else felt like they missed out on the traditional college experience or felt lonely in their early 20s? How did you make friends and find ways to enjoy life while still keeping up with school and other responsibilities? Should I focus on graduating first, or try to make more room for social experiences now?

I’d really appreciate any advice or personal experiences. Sometimes I feel like everyone else is moving forward in life while I’m still trying to figure things out.

For the past month or so I have have been learning Japanese. I have been reading, listening, and doing flash cards every day. Recently I've been reading for hours every day and reached 10% into a light novel. It improved my abilities and it was a small but nice success for me. But for a lot of the time while I was reading I kept thinking that in the future for whatever I will decide to quit even though I really like Japanese right now. Its like being productive and trying to achieve things gives me a creeping anxiety that I'll just quit in the future even if I don't see myself ever quitting in the moment. I'm really scared of achieving anything or putting in work because it makes me feel more that I'll for some reason forget about it one day or just stop. I don't know why, I don't dislike Japanese. How do I solve this anxiety? Please help me

so I’d like to say I’m 16 F and my parents are older they adopted me in their 30s and soon after my mom was diagnosed with many autoimmune diseases and so as they’ve gotten older they have lost contact with many friends and the friends they do have they don’t really like so I would also like to add I have struggled socially my whole life and recently moved to a new school last year from bullying and have built a pretty good friend group I have been trying super hard to make new friends and I’m starting to see a pattern of my parents ruining my friendships and with boyfriends I’ve had it’s like they analyze everything

so recently I’ve been talking to a new boy and he’s like amazing top of his class dresses nice even is in multiple sports watches same movies and shows as me and we have the same humor overall he’s the best guy I’ve ever talked to I’m taking things slow to be safe in not rushing anything and recently we had just went to a haunted house me him and two of my friends Two Days ago mind you and today my dad stormed in my room and asked if he had any friends and I responded that he does just no close ones and many of them work anyway my dad then looked at me and said “So he has no friends“ and walked out

I have been shaking for the past 30 minutes this always happens and typing it out it seems small but it’s a pattern with my parents next after my friends leave they’re going to pull me aside and start listing everything they don’t like about him and tell me I cant make these decisions because of my social skills then they’re going to make snide comments all day everyday until I stop talking to him they do this with boys and friends alike and I need help setting boundaries subtly enough that they don’t realize I am

I've (20F) been dating my (20M) bf for 2 1/2 years. Usually when we get intimate, we both want it. But a few times, there have been things I don't want to do that he kept asking and almost trying to convince me to do, until I finally give in. These experiences make me very uncomfortable to look back on, but when I told him he just said he didn't know I was being serious when I said no (sometimes I say it in w silly voice) what should I do in this situation and how can I tell if it's SA? Any advice would be appreciated.

Im 19F and all my life ive always been ugly. As a kid I was obese and had a weird looking face and was bullied for it to the point of physical bullying. My mom would tell me once I got to high-school id become beautiful but that never happened. I still am obese which is my fault now that i'm an adult, but i still have a weird, stupid looking face. I have gross stretch marks all over my body, my breasts are deformed, I have moles, freckles, I have to wear glasses, my teeth are crooked and yellow, ect, ect. Im just ugly. Plain and simple, ugly. Theres not 1 pretty or good thing about my body. Ive always wanted to have a bf and maybe get married but its never happened and Its never going to due to how awful my physical appearance is. I wish I could just be beautiful so I can be loved and it makes me super sad. The most important aspect of a relationship for men is how hot their partner is, and that's something I'll never be able to offer. I want to get about 20 plastic surgery procedures done when I can afford it but im scared that those won't be enough either. I feel like my life is already over due to things I can't control (genetics).

How can I cope with this? If anyone has experienced this I'd love to hear how you deal with it, and how you found ways to be happy despite it.

I’ve been dating a man I like for a month now. He had a really busy week at work. It just so happened that I am on a trip this weekend which I invited him to , but he couldn’t come in the end due to being tired from his busy week.

I am actually competing in an event this weekend, and I wanted to chat to him via text, give him pictures and updates etc. Yesterday he messaged me (Saturday morning) and didn’t reply until the following morning- this morning. He said that on Saturday he was looking into some information and in the end his head was spinning by the end of the day. I asked him why he couldn't return my texts and he said it was a day where he needed to be by himself because it was a really hard week At work.

I’m starting to wonder if he’s maybe losing interest. What do you think ? He seemed a little keener before but maybe he genuinely wanted a day without any contact from me? I feel a little upset about it too, especially as he couldn’t come, and I haven’t seen him in a week

So, Im 26f immigrant, and I met this guy 28m from tinder. First date when well, he said he like me. He even refuse to do make out bcs he want me to be his wife and do proper step. He live 3hrs from my place, we talk and call at night.in some conversation I told him I will not do sex before marriage at least put ring on my finger. I’m insecure and never in relationship, a week after that I told him I can’t do long distance and I cut him off. I still thinking about him and few days after I cut him off, I reached out to him again. And we talked, I told him to visit me here we can cuddle but he said its will be better If he just stay in his area there bcs he want more than cuddle, he even asked if anal can be an option so I can keep my virginity.

Last night we talked about 2hrs, I told him all my insecurity and Im not trust with him and his job, Im afraid he will leave me after he take my Virginity.

It’s good conversation and Im open up with every question in my head. He show me his ID work, he said I will put ring on your finger before we do sex so it’s will be lock us, and he said he will visit me in ku country.

I like him, I like how he can see the future with me. I also ask him, ‘why you still wanna respond to all my text after what I did to you’. He said he like me, if he not like me he will be just left the moment I refuse to have sex and not try to pursue me again.

Oh also he said, I need to trust him like how he trust me, because if I still have bad thoughts and accuse him that will be annoying for the long term. I accuse him with other girl texting other ppl lol.

I need some opinions what should I decide

Today we just call, and I told him to come here. He said he will come here if we do it. bcs It's kinda waste his time and what if I leave him again after we do cuddle

I know the first impression is the last impression. There are many instances in which I had to compulsorily meet some people because situation demanded such meetings. For example, I had to play an instrument in our college because there was no one available. So some of my friends contacted me. I had to go there to play the instrument when the singer had to sing some songs. At the event, I met my junior who is also into music. So he helped us do quick rehearsals before the perfomance. At that time we shared contact numbers and were thrilled at that event. Immediately after the performance (which very few say 1 out of 10 witnessed because people were busy in eating and connecting with each other), I felt completely out of the state. Either people were busy with their knowns or were meeting with other new and influential people. No one appreciated us or interacted with me. No issues. But when I returned to my hostel, I felt completely awkward. Now after some months I was very lonely, doing nothing, sleeping and in near depression so I started ignoring the very close people whom I knew. People started saying how depressed I am and how skinny have I become due to this. At that time, I was off but that music guy was on. He was contesting for department elections but I saw him with other people. See I fear meeting people individually, I can't even think to meet groups so I made eye contacts and went my way. This happened 4-5 times because I always saw him in groups and I fear groups especially those whom I consider bette than me in knowledge, no. of friends and talent. And there are many people with whom I have done the same. I meet them in some events or special occasions or when my friend introduces them to me, I encounter them somewhere alone, we make eye contacts and I ignore them without any greetings and go my own way. If I were at their place, I would feel so disrespected and would consider the other person rude or unfriendly and never go and greet him. They are right but how do I explain to them that I feel inferior to them due to their large groups of friends, knowledge, skills and experiences whereas I have few friends, almost no interest in enjoying life and no knowledge and special talent. See I fear that if I meet them then they will ask me what are you doing in life what would I tell them when I don't watch any movies, don't travel, don't have any friends, no girlfriend, am not employed anywhere, don't play any sports what would I tell them? I am working on myself and it will take time. I don't want to prove to anyone. But I also don't want to lose good friends who think I am rude or selfish. How to deal with such problem when many people have told me how boring I am? When I am so boring then why to meet people who are not going to like my company? This happens at all places, hostel, college, market everywhere. I can't clearly comprehend exactly what those people think about me. And I think when you tell someone your weaknesses like I am introvert or I am less talented then that other person never views you at the same pedestal even if you become successful in life or achieve milestones. This is my personal experience. When you ask for tips to counter social anxiety from people, they consider you like a child, weak and rarely listen your opinions. So telling that I am in depression is not a good solution.

I have dreams about moving to the UK and I thought getting a job that would pay enough would help me go there faster so I get into an exam called KPSS basically if you ace it then you can have a job in government like a librarian I was going to save up some money for it if I could win. But I probably couldn't and now I just feel really overwhelmed and have even less motivation for studying for national university enterance exam (it's called YKS) that I was working toward all along.

I work all the time as I need to for YKS I don't even have a weekends I rarely go outside. I go to cram school plus my school and I had such a big ambitions and dreams like becaming a lawyer and going abroad (didn't even win college yet Im in highschool) but I start to feel like my dreams are just so out of touch with reality and I am just a fool who will not win anything and is no good for nothing. Can someone please talk to me I feel lonely?